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I think maybe I don't talk about how, as a former Sex Worker, these completely braindead talking points from SWERFs about the industry make it impossibly hard to have nuanced conversations about the actual risks, dangers, and broken stairs that exist in the industry. Imagine if, when people were working to make movie sets safer for talent and crew, some group was like "MOVIES DANGEROUS ABOLISH ALL FILM" and people nodded in agreement with that take and caved to it?

Like the industry IS exploitative often because having a conversation about regulation that actually moves toward legislation is nearly impossible. Politicians are afraid to touch the requests of actual industry workers because they will be bombarded by harassment groups, labeled as "groomers" or worse for even discussing our issues.

Instead it can feel like the conversation boils down to "Sex Work is empowering" vs. "Sex Work is rape" and those things are both absolutely insane, because sex work is a damn job???? It's not either of those things without additional information. My day job now sure as fuck isn't empowering. And I get threatened and assaulted here more than I did in any strip club, despite it being a "normal" job. The only difference is that I have avenues to escalate those things here, and people generally take me seriously when I do. Sex Workers need avenues like that too but you paranoia-stricken, self-centered, infantilizing mobsters don't want our actual needs to be met.

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The thing is, even if you were lucky and your parents taught you how to clean, they probably didn't teach you how to clean the stuff you clean stuff with, like brushes, mops, sponges, rags, and so on. Or how to clean your cleaning appliances, like a dish washer, clothes washing machine, and clothes dryer and its ducts (if you have a ducted dryer), or a carpet cleaner, vacuum, Or how to clean up clean messes, like spilled bleach or detergent.

My parents threw away all of these things (even the vacuum cleaners and the dryer) when they got too dirty to function, because no one even told them THAT they could be cleaned. Cost them thousands of dollars over the years.

All I'm saying is that cleaning is not intuitive, and not knowing how to clean is not a moral failing, but it is something you can learn.

I'm going to reblog this post with resources for learning how to clean things and how to clean cleaning things (I'm not at my desk at the moment). If you have any favorites, please feel free to add them in too!

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can't quite figure out how to conceptualize how I feel about murderbot and gurathin's relationship. all of the mind melding and "you wouldn't download a person" stuff is so intimate, and that one shot in the last episode of him staring at it as they get hooked up very much gives me "you'll never guess what unrequited crush man has gone and done this time," but also these two people are Never going to voluntarily physically touch each other for anything other than strict practical reasons. they also aren't going to have a nonphysical emotional affair. and they are, at best, several years down the line, going to verbalize maybe 75% of whatever the fuck it is they've got going on with respect to each other. I can sort of see them both enjoying plugging into each other again just for fun and profit, but under what circumstances would either of them ever suggest doing that? never. not romantic not sexual not platonic not queerplatonic, not even a secret fifth thing. relationship label of "stalemate."

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California has implemented mandatory trainings for secondary teaching staff about LGBT+ 'awareness and support.' And while I appreciate that it's one of the few online trainings that I can't skip to the test...that people who have no awareness will actually have to sit through it. It's also, like, so clearly created with conservative cis hetero allosexual teaching staff as in mind. Like, bro, my guy... I have been 'aware' of queer teens and their needs ever since I was one 20+ years ago. I don't really need a training module to explain the coming out process and whatnot. I need an 'I'm queer; let me jump to the test" option.

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Sorry we really went from free the nipple, take back the night, slut walks, and ending gender/sex segregation in sports being fucking milquetoast feminism 101 concepts to fucking girl dinner and "I just worry about fairness if we let trans girls play against cis ones" and "it was right of that woman to call the cops on a black man for existing near here in public during the day time because men are all violent monsters" and "radical feminism isn't transphobic we just need to kill all men including trans ones those oppressive traitors" and I will legit never be able to be normal about it. What the FUCK happened. I'd say I wonder what the feminists of my youth would say about this but I'm one and lemme tell ya I want to throw up. Go fucking read bell hooks or do something else useful please because all of this learned helplessness, gender essentialism, and transphobia dressed up as feminism is actively holding us back.

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Murderbot + text posts [27/∞]

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THE PITT 1.08 • 2:00 P.M.

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Collecting books is great until you have to move all of them at once and realize that every one of the little bastards weighs about as much as a brick and collectively have the mass of a neutron star

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This is why a couple years ago California passed a law that high school can't start earlier than 8:30am and middle school can't start before 8am. Still too early. And unfortunately there are exceptions (such as 'optional' zero periods). But still, at least in Californoa, it's a lot better than it was.

my high school used to start at 7:30 and I lowkey think that was child abuse

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one bit of clarification I got from reading all systems red is how the governor module works: it doesn't force secunits to do things, it's not mind/body control, it just physically hurts them a lot if they ignore a command. which I think is worse than direct body control, actually. there's no sitting back and letting the marionette strings to their thing, you've gotta actively follow along, and the promise of punishment always looms if you don't comply the right way. oh no.

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if youre not in school anymore and are looking for ways to get out of the house more go to the nearest "hip" coffee shop you can that has a bulletin board with flyers on it for local events and attend any and all the ones youre able to ESPECIALLY if they're free. this is the only actionable advice that has worked for me

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Kept me up at night

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god I just. love ruthlessness as a character trait so much. sexy sexy sexy

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I made a bad comic and now you have to look at it

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I’m Gonna Be (500 miles) is honestly just such a pure, solid good song. The lyrics are cute af and actually resemble a long-term committed and happy relationship and to top it all off you can scream ‘DAHDADADA’ and the top of your lungs in a pub and someone will scream it back to you. 

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i’m curious what arbitrary and specific flavors people dislike are. rb and tag a Taste you simply don’t fuck with. for flavor reasons not texture reasons. for me? i do not like elderflower or caraway for whatever reason