#played by a cis woman

[spirk-trek]

really love that for the metron design they went with "androgynous angel dressed head to toe in glitter"

[contagious-watermelon]

Why do I keep seeing transmascs and trans men insisting or implying that all trans men are "female socialized," or "understand the female experience," or "navigated the world as a woman." Because yeah, sure, that can be true for some people. especially if you weren't gnc at all as a kid and didn't crack your egg until well into adulthood, it makes sense.

But they don't stop at saying they had that experience. It always comes with an addendum that trans men, as a group, all can relate to this experience. I don't know about the entirety of my demographic, but I never got even a little bit of what some of them talk about. I didn't even believe that women were scared of going out at night until I kept consistently seeing them say it, online or wherever, for years. I never realized catcalling was a thing until I saw some women complaining about it on reddit.

But they posit it as some sort of, you're safer than cis men, right? You know what it's like? Which, on top of being patently, demonstrably false in the case of myself and many other trans men, holds some unpleasant and often outright hostile implications about trans women. And they always deny it, but if you can't even conceptualize someone like me who grew up gnc, and never got the bulk (or any?) of whatever we consider to be 'female socialization,' what does that say about what you think trans girls went through, growing up? I don't want to speak for them, as I've never experienced that firsthand, but I can guarantee that (if you're even a little bit obviously trans) people don't treat you like a cis kid of the opposite gender. By and large, they don't get treated like cis boys.

It just makes me mad that we're taking this inaccurate framework that (ever so conveniently) puts trans people into the box of our assumed birth gender, and trying to fancy it up and use it with a faux-progressive veneer; never mind the way that transphobes use it to bar trans women from being athletes, or using the bathroom, or having access to any gendered resources they need. It would be bad enough to try and dust it off and use it even if it were largely accurate, due to the aforementioned connections to outright transphobia, but it literally is patently false. Not in all cases, obviously, but why are we trying to revamp this untrue, inaccurate generalization and pretend that we can make it 'trans-inclusive?'

[mio-nika]

disgusting

Part 1

[vroomvroomwee]

On today's question of "Am I aroace or is my genderqueer identity inhibiting me from being able to see myself in a relationship since I will be viewed as "the girl"" OR "Am I actually non-binary or is my aroace identity distancing me from womanhood since society defines a woman's worth based on her relationship with men and if she doesn't have that is she really a woman?" And the answer is I have no fucking clue

[veeagainsttheday]

I recently became aware of discourse surrounding the Ed/Stede/Zheng fic I wrote with P. Funnily enough I didn't even get credited as one of the authors, which is the worst part of the whole thing to me!

However, I want to remind everyone on OFMD tumblr that NO ONE in OFMD has a canon sexuality, with the possible exception of Lucius, whose mum thought he liked girls for years.

You can head canon anyone however you like, but neither Ed nor Stede has a canon sexuality, and insisting that they do rings my biphobia alarm.

[iseetheisland]

Trying to gatekeep actors who are trans from playing evil characters just because you think it could villianize trans people is anti-trans btw.

Mingling their personal life into the storytelling to change the narrative is disgusting. Anyone doing that is just as gross as the few and far between people who actually do think the way that your conspiracy theory implies. Don't cater to transphobes by shaming trans people from taking whatever roles they want.

Let actors act. Let trans women play cis women. They are women. And forcing them being trans into the narrative when it's not actually part of the story, then demonizing it, is transphobic.

Cut that shit out.

[nightmarist]

Interesting little thing, Sorn and Nym Orlith's names can both be found in the "male" section of drow names from Dragon Magazine (Sorn meaning enchanted or spell, Nym meaning skeleton or skull, and possibly Orly-th meaning Guild of Challenges).

Sorn says they fled because male drow are treated like dogs. At first I figured it meant his sister went with him for a genuine care of her brother and twin (and perhaps still is the case) but I wonder if Nym is trans and transitioned after leaving the Underdark but kept her name.

[ivywing]

I think everyone should participate in a little gender fuckery. As a treat

[riddlerosehearts]

while my mind is still on the subject of transfem genderfluid taichi. i very recently got around to reading SSR family and my main takeaway after getting through all the backstage stories for it, and then especially after also reading citron's backstage story for devil maid's holiday, was this:

[demonir]

Anyone wanna know the weirdest thing my mom said when watching s2 of good omens?

ok here goes

When aziraphale hit crowley with the "I forgive you" my mom gasped lightly and went "It's because religion forbids him" and I honestly just sat there like ???????????????????????????????????

[girlthingdecay]

wow, thank you for teaching me this lesson !! as a nonbinary otherkin trans woman, i had no idea about this !!

also, if your line of thinking is that some people transition twice and identify with the second gender they transitioned to rather than as someone who detransitioned, congratulations ! youve found the one (1) type of amab trans man or afab trans woman that would likely actively recognize trans manhood and trans womanhood as real and that i would respect the identity of. just a little problem with that though: do you genuinely think all, a majority, or, hell, even half of the recent surge of amab trans men and afab trans women belong to this group of people who have transitioned twice ? because if you do then you are either willfully ignorant or just lying for the sake of argument

[merrysithmas]

lol i literally couldnt care less about fandom drama but i will i say i saw an entitled cishet say "NO ONE BETTER START SAYING MIZU IS they/them!!" and if you cannot consider Mizu, an outwardly gendernonconforming character who shows a distaste towards 'feminine' dress/makeup/roles and penis-in-vagina sex as potentially nonbinary, trans, or otherwise ... then like who is ok for the trans fans out here to imagine as trans??? like who will you give us permission for, Your CisMajesty?

lmao kiss our collective trans azz tbh

[snipstheskeleton]

minor veilguard spoilers for the end lucanis’ quest line in the last two paragraphs

been thinking about this for a bit because i swore i heard him say this on my first playthrough and then got confirmation recently on a new one plus i just watched the princess bride

when asking lucanis/spite to make a path somewhere, one of the voice lines he’ll say is “as you wish” and i’m not saying this intentional, i have no idea, i’m just pointing it out and you can decide wether or not you think there is a connection i do think lucanis would love the princess bride considering he tells harding at one point that he likes romance novels

i mean, what’s not to love? it’s got fencing, fighting, torture, revenge, giants, monsters, chases, escapes, true love, miracles /ref

i’ve also read a couple fics where when lucanis talks about at what point he fell in love with rook it’s after the ossuary, though i don’t remember exactly when, and some where he says after the ossuary but maybe even during, for me, the first time he said as you wish was in his recruitment quest, the ossuary, so if you’re a ‘lucanis fell in love with rook during the ossuary’ truther, there you go

anyway, my reasoning for why lucanis said as you wish, yes as i said before, it could just be a coincidence, maybe as you wish is just a thing he says, or maybe, when he first says as you wish it could’ve just been a habit, maybe it is just something he says, maybe he says as you wish to caterina or illaro like the grandfather does at the end of the movie, it doesn’t have to be romantic, though it could be that too, he mentions liking another crow/viago, maybe he said it to him or someone else, just his way of saying i love you without actually saying it, maybe when he first meets rook there’s already that attraction there, he might not plan to do anything with it but there’s no denying it exists, so when he says as you wish, regardless of the why, he realizes the hidden meaning there and it just becomes a thing to himself, because he’s not going to tell rook this, the likelihood that they feel the same is very rare, obviously, but even if that is the case it’s not like anything’s going to come out of it, and it’s not like he’s going to tell them he’s been saying i love you this entire time

as time passes as he falls deeper in love with them he’ll continue to say it, the hidden meaning becoming the real meaning the more he says it and now that’s just his way of saying i love you to rook like it is westley’s to buttercup but what if he says it around the crows, surely one of them knows the reason why he says it, i imagine teia and illaro know, though they would probably have different reactions (teia gets all excited and goes to point it out to viago but he’s still oblivious, maybe afterward teia explains and he’s just like “wait, he said that to me once, didn’t he? didn’t he?!” and teia just laughs and shakes her head)

also when watching the movie i thought it was cute imagining rook and lucanis in the scene where buttercup finds westley after the wedding but he’s still recovering from being mostly dead so he tells her to be gentle but of course she does not, with the dynamic between my rook and lucanis either one of them could easily be buttercup or westley, though i don’t know who humperdinck if you continue the scene, i first thought of illaro because of lucanis’ questline but then realized that complicated things, first if rook is buttercup then that means illaro was trying to marry her and i just can’t see that happening, and then if lucanis is buttercup, i don’t feel i need to explain that, though i do like rook/lucanis threatening someone “to the pain” over the other, it’s cute

and again with the movie when inigo is getting his revenge, asks rugen to give him money, power, anything/everything he desires just to say “i want my father back, you son of a bitch” i saw that as lucanis and illaro but of course it’s “i want my brother back” or maybe even “i want my grandmother back” though caterina would have to be dead for that, a more dramatized version of what happens in the game i believe, i spared illaro on my first playthrough and haven’t gotten that far on the others yet though i think illaro just goes to jail, as my boyfriend can tell you though i do like family angst, i have at least two ocs with both parental angst and sibling angst :)

[burning-academia-if]

Unfortunate that Rook is genderlocked male because that jealousy ask has big i wanna be your girlfriend by girl in red energy to me LMAO

Which like also, ik it's not the situation but to me, a known homosexual, the parallels in his behaviour and someone who's unwilling and afraid to risk their friendship because of internalised homophobia and fear that the other person won't, can't feel the same way...I want to be with you but I've convinced myself I can never, it would be wrong, so I try to convince myself I'm content with being friends but then when I see that potential between you and someone who would be easier, who would make sense, it *hurts*...👀👀

Anyways sorry this was a silly gay ramble mostly unrelated to the actual game sdfgjkl just got me thinking

This is really funny to me because if you play a male, non binary, and/or trans MC then yeah. That's literally the vibe ajsjsjd Rook knows he isn't straight and has even dated a guy once in high school, but for various reasons, definitely isn't out about it.

Also alas a female or nonbinary Rook would literally be a completely different character due to how much of himself is kinda anchored around being a guy. A lot of his personality is built up around "this is how teen/college guys act so I'm going to mirror it." F!Rook would have been the same, and nb!Rook is....complicated ajsjs. Also hate to say it but his mom would not have cared as much about f!rook and Rook's dad would have gotten custody a lot sooner, making f!Rook significantly more willing to be open and slightly less traumatized lmaO

But yeah, changing Rook's gender wouldn't be just like changing flavor text and having slight differences, it would be totally changing parts of his backstory, his personality, and even parts of his BA subplot (especially for nb Rook, seeing as nb!Rook would probably be them having to realize they're non binary in the first place ajsjs). Gender just has a significant impact on his character, for better or for worse.

[lobotomy-maybe-bestie]

i think trans people SHOULD get famous for bad art. i think trans people SHOULD get a major following for things they don't really put their whole heart into. i think trans people SHOULD be huge stars on the internet for decidedly mid quality content with problematic themes.