#personal wank

[writing-for-life]

Help, it’s that time of year again where the kid is home, I have a full-time job (but one I do mostly from home), only one set of grandparents who are too old to take her more than once a week for a couple of hours (and quite frankly also need our support), and I’m struggling to get anything done.

Plus, I don’t want her to sit glued to screens all day, so I’m either constantly encouraging her to do art or something creative, or I’m taking her out (during what should be my work hours ofc). Cue catching up on work until 1am and no sleep until 3am. Don’t even ask me what the house looks like or if my body needs exercise.

But I’m flexible because I’m self-employed. Of course I am. Blech…

Venting now, might delete later…

[blacknidstang]

Ok i need to find a therapist asap and show them the "i could never go on a quest like that" scene and begged them to tell me how is it even possible that i cry every damn time i see even mention of it, my tears start to fall and i cant exactly put my fingers on what it's doing to me but it does something and i am sitting here with pathetic wet face just baffled by my own inexplicable emotional reaction

[kedreeva]

There's some dude (derogatory) on FB who is PISSED people are pricing their farm fresh eggs at $2 and $3 a dozen instead of $4+, saying it's "disrespectful" and "undignified" and "I'm trying to feed my kids" like Sir, you are on a Facebook group page bitching about your neighbors egg prices because your pet chickens aren't earning you a living wage and you think it's your neighbors' fault, you do not have a leg to stand on here wrt dignity.

Also half the answers are like "I give them to friends and family free" or "I donate them to food banks" or "I'm making them affordable to folks who might not otherwise be able to get them now that they're so expensive in the store" and "if you think you're going to turn a profit keeping backyard chickens you have been wildly misled" and so on, and so forth, and I'm so living for it.

and I can tell you right now, he did NOT like my answer of "if you're trying to feed your kids, I hear eggs are edible."

[worldwiderush]

Sometimes I forget how racist my parents can be and then they just go off!

[bananonbinary]

jfc i just saw a "morally grey girlboss" poll and mabel pines was one of the contenders. she's not morally grey she's not a girlboss she's 12 and never makes a single moral decision that's worse than "you have stuff going on but i'm focused on my own problems" what are you fucking talking about

[louferrignojrofficial]

cry about it, meredith

[thevioletcaptain]

this is what both sides of every ship war sounds like btw

[ftmwillz]

sylvie’s character essentially functions as a narrative device to remind the audience of how loki *would* have reacted to challenges, frustrations, and difficulties in the past

she’s an externalization of everything he is outgrowing, and every conversation they have had this season has driven that point home

the “love triangle” at the center of this season isn’t really about loki’s feelings towards sylvie or mobius, it’s about loki’s internal struggle to grow and become better without betraying his core identity

[boykingscourt]

"dean is sam's parent" until dean punches sam in the face then it's "omg they're brothers 🙄 brothers fight 🙄" lmaoooo

[writing-for-life]

I swear one day I’ll understand why Tumblr unfollows accounts I know I haven’t unfollowed myself.

Until then, just ignore seemingly random re-following (is that a word?) after I’ve already followed you ages ago.

FFS…

[the-bar-sinister]

I'm sorry, but I don't like being told what to write, or when to write it.

If I was good at writing topics on command, or writing to a deadline, I would sell fic commissions and make bank, or take requests for popular ships and print kudos by the millions.

But I can't.

I can't control what I write or when I write it, and people trying to get me to write specific things or write something by a specific deadline triggers every executive function problem and oppositional, contrarian impulse in my brain.

[kedreeva]

Watching a post on FB about chickens not eating a food their owners got them, and people telling this person "just don't give them more until they eat it" and "they'll eat it if they're hungry enough" and thinking about how if someone asks about a toxic plant in their yard these same people will swear chickens "know what's good for them" and "they won't eat stuff that's bad for them." And somehow these two things live together in their heads with no conflict. Well which is it? Does your chicken know the feed is bad or can they not tell when things are good or bad for them?

I went through several feeds looking for one my birds actually liked that I also liked. The one they're on now is sound but they also seem to really enjoy it. They don't anymore, but they used to dig/sort through chows, spill a bunch, only eat it when they really had to. That's miserable, I think. What a miserable existence, to be expected to eat food you dislike every day with no control over it, no ability to change it. And it's deemed okay, because you're not willing to die over it so you're just being picky.

If your fowl are avoiding eating a feed, maybe it's not a good feed or maybe they don't like it. Maybe try a different one and see if you can find one that's decent but also tastes good. Try pellets vs crumble vs mash. This person was feeding mash (a powdery food meant to be served wet) dry and it had whole grains in it the birds were picking out. Of course they're going to pick out the whole grains and leave the dry powder behind. I would, too. It's not hard to give them some water with their chow. I do it near daily with crumble and the birds lose it, they love that stuff. It's so easy. It's such a little thing. Sometimes I just wish I could shake someone through a computer screen until their teeth rattle.

[onehellofajellyfish]

Another thing, in addition to Sebastian's personality (and I'd even argue his nature since he doesn't seem to experience human Lust), which makes Sebastian being aggressive or forcing himself on Ciel in a lot of popular fanon seem so wildly implausible/ooc is Ciel and the situation of their dynamic itself

Ciel formed Sebastian into someone who can't lie to him, abandon him, or let him be genuinely harmed. Sebastian can be directly commanded in addition to those three rules.

Why on earth would Ciel tolerate Sebastian breaking his trust and ignoring his consent? That's the entire draw of the relationship from Ciel's perspective! He holds the leash or what's the point!

It's arguably a direct breach of contract, and by the party who's a stickler for rules

It feels like people sometimes wanna be out here writing ed/ward cull/en instead of Sebastian, and they also forget how strong-willed Ciel is. As if he would take any nonsense from Sebastian, let alone assault, especially considering his trauma. Even without that, it would be beyond unacceptable and they both know it.

Frankly, I don't even think Sebastian would even be aggressive/violent to a reader insert stranger. He's picky. He prefers to catch flies with honey in any scenario we've seen (and really, that's a victory of wills which he has to work for, since physical overpowerment is nothing so at the very least would be boring to him), so it isn't even about Ciel.

(The only exception could be established sebaciel doing roleplay, but even then Ciel still retains the control and power here, and you'd have to work to sell me on it tbh)

[antspaul]

when people say that it’s obvious that a lot of f1blr have never followed a sport before, they’re not saying that it’s a BAD thing to have an entry point into sports fandom. like, it’s tumblr, a lot of people belong to communities that are marginalized in traditional sports spaces. everyone has to start somewhere. it’s also okay to mostly engage with the sport through the lens of traditional tumblr fandom. like, that’s mostly how i use this particular platform. who cares.

what is grating to ME is when people don’t see a difference between sports fandom and traditional tumblr fandom, and start treating different team/driver preferences as dangerous conflict. or start demanding moral justifications for those preferences. or treat preferences/interpretations different than their own as moral failings and not pretty basic natural outgrowths of sports fandom spaces.

that sort of behavior just demonstrates to me that the person hasn’t interacted at all with sports fandom spaces other than tumblr. sports are essentially about arbitrary conflict and tribalism yknow? nothing dangerous about that.

[not-poignant]

a reader once literally said in a comment 'i don't know if i feel morally correct reading this haha' and they didn't mean it in a bad way, it just made me so sad for the state of society.

fiction isn't about feeling morally correct or incorrect. it's not about reading for virtue points, nor is it about reading to become more 'evil.' this isn't what fiction does. what you read in fiction says nothing about your moral character (and before anyone in the tags says 'this doesn't include people who read underage, yes it does.) what you read in fiction says nothing about how good you are or how bad you are in reality.

someone feeling nervous enjoying a fic because it might not be 'morally correct' is one of the saddest things i've seen in a long time.

it wasn't their fault either, this is what they've been taught by their peers who obviously veer anti.

the best thing to do on AO3 is just take the morals out of it. morals and ethics are who you are to other people in reality, it's not really about the fiction you enjoy. that doesn't mean the fiction we enjoy shouldn't be explored, discussed or talked about, but it does mean your ethical standing and your moral character can't be determined by how much you enjoy reading dubcon / noncon / etc.

it just can't.