#personal perspective

[divinebunnii]

when the safe word is “gentle” because you don’t want them to stop, just be… more gentle.

safe words don’t always have to mean total, full red. safe words can mean go slower, i need a moment but don’t pull out, can you not do specifically whatever it is you’re doing, etc.

sex is supposed to always have open communication, and if you’re like me and struggle to say full sentences or give specific instructions, come up with a list of words that have different meanings to you and your partner(s).

talk, put everything out in the open, be vulnerable, trust this person / these people, make sure you’re all on the exact same page, and most importantly, be safe ~

[goldenboots1]

Controversial opinion

It’s sad that Max fans are now taking digs at Max for being loyal to that hold Man who nearly lost his integrity for getting a literal child into a racing car. He got so much criticism for his actions “he’s getting senile” I know Helmut isn’t liked by many RB fans but the job he did for RedBull was fantastic. Credit where credit is due. We as fans can’t deny what he did. Especially for Max, Max is where he is now because of Helmuts actions. And I know some of you think he’s stupid for standing by his side but Max hasn’t forgotten. And I bet it’s incredibly difficult for him rn because he also knows what Christian did for him. What this team did for him. But it was Dietrich’s and Helmuts decision to go with Max. It’s sad to see what happened to RedBull now that Dietrich isn’t with us anymore. He wouldn’t have let this happen and I bet it would make him super sad to see in what direction his dream is going now.

[yamishika]

There’s a conversation that needs to be had—one that’s uncomfortable but necessary, and one I've been struggling with how to open up about until now.

Over the years, I’ve noticed an alarming trend: mental illness and trauma being used as justifications for toxic behaviour.

I wonder if you have noticed the same?

Instead of mental health discussions centering around awareness, healing, and support, they are often hijacked by individuals who weaponize their struggles to excuse manipulation, cruelty, and attention-seeking.

Mental illness is real. Trauma is real. And the way people process them isn’t always healthy, which is completely understandable. But neither gives anyone a free pass to mistreat others, refuse accountability, or act superior.

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From Awareness to Entitlement: The Dark Side of Online Mental Health Culture

From what I’ve witnessed, certain patterns have become disturbingly common in online spaces.

Such as:

Stacking multiple severe disorders—even when their symptoms contradict each other.

Constantly shifting between victimhood and superiority—one minute they’re “the most broken,” the next they’re “more intuitive and enlightened than others.”

Using trauma (even serious trauma like SA) to justify toxic behavior—as if being hurt gives someone the right to hurt others.

Turning mental illness into an aesthetic—romanticizing harmful symptoms instead of working toward healing.

Hijacking every discussion to make it about themselves—no matter how irrelevant their experiences are to the topic at hand.

Glorifying toxic mindsets—claiming that “revenge is healing” or that their suffering makes them special.

None of this fosters real awareness about mental health. Instead, it turns it into a competition of who has suffered the most rather than a conversation about growth and recovery.

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How Does This Hurt Mental Health Advocacy & Online Spaces?

1. It Spreads Misinformation

When mental illness is widely misrepresented online, it creates a warped perception of real conditions, leading to harmful stereotypes.

For example:

Those with BPD = are automatically characterised as manipulative and abusive.

Those with DID = are characterised quirky and or entertaining.

Those who experience psychosis = are feared as dangerous or viewed as mystical.

And the list goes on.

These generalizations overshadow the reality of these conditions and make it harder for real sufferers to be taken seriously.

2. It Excuses Harmful Behavior

Trauma and mental illness can explain why someone struggles, but they do not and will never excuse cruelty, manipulation, or entitlement.

Saying, “I can’t help it, I have [insert disorder]” is an incredibly toxic and limiting mindset.

Of course, there are individuals who struggle with impulse control, dissociation, or cognitive difficulties that make self-awareness and regulation difficult.

This post is not about them.

This is about those who intentionally misuse mental health labels to justify manipulative or harmful behaviors without any desire to improve or acknowledge the impact on others.

Mental illness does not make someone incapable of change. Accountability is still necessary, and using a diagnosis as a shield from consequences is harmful to both the individual and those around them.

3. It Romanticizes Pain Instead of Encouraging Healing

When suffering becomes an identity rather than something to work through, people stop seeking ways to improve. Healing starts to feel like a loss rather than a goal.

And let’s be real—some people even intentionally worsen their condition. Whether that be:

Feeding into unhealthy behaviors,

Rejecting any form of treatment, or

Even exaggerating their symptoms—

At some point, their illness becomes who they are, rather than something they manage.

And that’s where things get really dangerous.

Instead of encouraging healing, mental health spaces become places where people are praised for how much they suffer rather than how much they grow.

4. It Turns Online Spaces Into Toxic, Draining Environments

Instead of being places for support, mental health spaces often devolve into:

Excessive and inappropriate trauma dumping—where personal struggles are unloaded onto others with no regard for boundaries, leaving them feeling obligated to listen out of fear of seeming insensitive or uncaring.

Gatekeeping suffering—where people compete over who has it “the worst.”

Never-ending drama—where people spiral over who is more valid instead of how to get better.

Instead of fostering real progress, these spaces become echo chambers of dysfunction—and no one actually gets better.

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The Biggest Issue: When Serious Trauma Is Used to Justify Anything

One of the most concerning things I’ve noticed is how people use their trauma to manipulate others. I’ve seen individuals use their past experiences to:

Guilt-trip others into supporting them, even when they’re toxic.

Shut down accountability by saying that questioning them = attacking a survivor (whether said outright or implied).

Weaponize their trauma against other victims—as if their pain gives them the right to dictate who gets to speak.

But the more trauma is used as a shield against criticism or a tool for attention, the less meaning it holds.

People start becoming desensitized—losing patience with those who turn trauma into a performance. Over time, it just becomes a buzzword or a red flag in conversations, something people avoid to steer clear of drama.

As a result, those who genuinely want to speak up barely get the chance. No one wants to listen anymore—not because their stories don’t matter, but because others have already exploited the platform.

And because of this, the seriousness of trauma gets lost in all the noise, making it harder for real conversations to happen.

Before I go further, I just want to clarify something important:

No one is denying that trauma is real and deeply impacts people. But being hurt does not give someone the right to hurt others.

This is a conversation we need to have, not to shame, but to encourage real healing.

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The Damage Being Caused to Real Mental Health Awareness

Now onto my final points on why excusing toxic behaviors under the guise of mental health is so damaging:

• It Makes People Skeptical of Actual Sufferers. When too many people fake or exaggerate conditions, real sufferers face more scrutiny and disbelief. Those with the likes of say BPD, PTSD, or psychosis etc already deal with stigma—this just makes it worse.

• It Makes Real Sufferers Doubt Their Own Struggles. So many people with mental illness already struggle with imposter syndrome. They wonder, “Is my pain valid? Am I even sick enough to count?”

When exaggerated, performative portrayals become the loudest voices, and those with quieter struggles start to feel invisible.

• It Discourages People from Seeking Help. If trauma is treated like an identity rather than something treatable, people start to think that healing = losing who they are.

• It Turns Suffering Into a Status Symbol. Instead of encouraging healing, online spaces become a race to the bottom over who has suffered the most.

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Final Thoughts

Mental illness and trauma deserve to be taken seriously—and that’s exactly why they should never be used to justify toxic behavior.

Conversations about mental health should be about genuine education, support, and healing—not a free pass to be cruel, manipulative, or entitled.

If we want mental health spaces to truly help people, we need to be willing to call out harmful behaviors that weaken the integrity of these conversations. Enabling toxicity in the name of mental health doesn’t protect sufferers—it hurts them.

This isn’t about blaming people who struggle. Everyone has difficulties, and healing isn’t easy. But true support means fostering growth, accountability, and honesty.

Growth—encouraging people to work toward healing, not remain stuck. Accountability—recognizing that struggles explain behavior, but don’t excuse harm. Honesty—having real conversations about mental health without distortion or performative suffering.

Mental health advocacy should always be about helping people move forward, not keeping them trapped in cycles of toxicity.

This post isn’t about invalidating trauma—it’s about holding people accountable for how they treat others, regardless of their struggles. Thank you for reading. I hope this post has given you something to think about and take away.

[lacewise]

I truly believe that every person who said corporate landlords were better than independent landlords and more housing regulations were plants and no amount of evidence will change my mind—that’s a bias

But I am a business major and I know way too much about private equity and financial deregulation and scams, so what I’m actually reacting to is probably less psyops and more Dunning-Kruger—that’s a nuanced thought

I know I’m not wrong about private equity because private equity has become so oversaturated everyone is noticing the correlation between them “investing” in businesses and those industries deteriorating in a cynical race to the bottom (sources: Wisecrack, Last Week Tonight, Wired, ProPublica, some actual textbooks I don’t want to dig out right now)—that’s literacy

The rich are puppeteering private equity to avoid the three generation cycle and are causing capitalism (as it’s meant to work) to stagnate and fail because they’re too lazy to teach their kids real skills and they are preventing information and knowledge sharing and literacy to prevent market competitors that would likely lead to their business’s end in the future (I am not the first to notice this)—that’s a perspective

And that’s why everything knowledge- and information- related has become so fractured, compartmentalized, paywalled, and saturated—to bury or hide anything that could derail this train of events—because they don’t believe in capitalism either, but not the same way the middle class doesn’t—that’s a perspective-based conclusion

🌈 The more you know 🌈

[mischief-night-ghost]

If anyone gets upset over Frank not engaging in conversations with his followers can blame themselves bc they are probably the culprit behind it.

I'm not upset, I'm putting perspective that this man was attacked by thousands of hostile children without remorse probably for about 24 hours at least, and none of them came with a cause for him to get better/learn; their claims of being mature/like adults are far from true from that evidence they've presented. And it's also on him too for being almost the same way.

I'm not being like "he's excused", but I think, again this whole 3 day period: perspective. He's probs embarrassed and the accusations that he's something that he clearly is actually so against isn't going to make it better or automatically cure him.

I'm disappointed myself, but there's a remedy to a situation like this, and it's just pure merciful education. Think about it like gentle parenting. "I'm disappointed in you bc you did this. This is why I'm disappointed, and here's what you can do to make the situation better for all of us, including yourself. I hope we all learn from this and grow together as a society". And that's all that rlly needs to be said.

It's all over my timelines which is why I keep posting about it excessively, but I can't help it bc I'm seeing way too much of 1 side and it's all extremely negative/cancel culture involved and it's tiresome.

[k00299892]

LSAD Radius Project

Week 1

Peer Group 36b

18/09/23

The theme of my first year project in Limerick School of Art and Design was RADIUS.

I was drawn to Arthur's Quay and the hunt museum as I wanted to give my perspective and my personal connection and views to this project

My peer group and I started of at St John's Cathedral in Limerick

[macksting]

image transcript: My mom's childhood village was the crown of the Philippines. Located at the very north, it is isolated and sinking. It was also the very village the Japanese first landed on when they occupied the Philippies during World War II. My grandpa's dad was a drunk. And gramps and his mom would usually go out looking for him. Grandpa swore he saw a mermaid that would sit at the docks near the Japanese ships. "Antonio. Antonio. Antonio." "Every year that fucking sea takes someone from the village," I was on a car ride home when Mom once said. She said it as though the sea was alive. An ever open and sentient maw. My uncle's once-girlfriend drowned at that sea. She asked my uncle to go swimming with her that day. (He declined.) Her parents asked my grandma if they could have a photograph of my uncle that they could bury with her. (She declined.) I guess she was the sacrifice that year. There was an old man who had an old grocery store at Mom's village. He was so wrinkled his face looked like an old nautilus shell. He was still alive last I visited. The beach my uncle's girlfriend died on is gone now. The sand mined away by Chinese corporations. It used to have black sand. Starfish. Coral. Now there was only black stone mourning. A lonely and angry sea. What I thought was a rainbow puddle on the shore one day I came to play on the beach was an oil spill. As Dad carried me away, the sea looked as thought it was bleeding. It was storming outside, and the wind was beating against the walls outside. It sounded like wailing. "Mom, what is that noise?" "Just whale spirits. Go to sleep." The town creaked and groaned during that storm. The mermaid does not forget this sinking town, swallowed by the sea and human wrath and greed. I wonder if anyone else remembers her. I wonder if she remembers my grandpa.

my mom’s childhood town

[underground-hip-hop-affiliated]

every detail on a woman’s body is perfection.

all that “imperfection” shit, idk what that’s about..

that’s a mind not seeing things clear.

[jitzbala]

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[divinebunnii]

i can understand jealousy but i just don’t feel it. we are together but yes it’s okay to think that person is beautiful, it’s okay to admire their body or their essence, it’s normal to lust after other people because they just don’t look or act like me. do i think they have a chance of getting you away from me? not at all, because we both admire and enjoy hedonistic tendencies together, we both understand that emotions are a spectrum and as humans it’s in our nature to want to look and wonder and awe. we are always seeking something to fulfill curiosity, that doesn’t mean they are greater or better than, it just means we appreciate divinity in all forms and all directions it comes from

[akulea]

Kalau dipikir-pikir, akar kemiskinan atau keterbelakangan desa belakangan ini muncul atau terdefinisikan dari modernisasi. Sebenarnya, menuruktku, desa itu tidak identik dengan keterbelakangan. Desa itu tidak identik dengan primitif, desa itu tidak identik dengan kemiskinan. Moderinasi oemerintahlah yang menyebabkan masyarakat desa merasa dirinya miskin. Modernisasi memberikan ruang bernama haraoan hamoa nan kosong dalam masyarakat desa. Mereka merasa miskin karena tidak mamou memiliki apa yang dimiliki orang kota.

Padahal menurutku, masyarakat desalah yang PALING KAYA RAYA di muka bumi ini. Modernisasi pemerintah dan oknum-oknum tertentulah yang membuatnya terlihat miskin

[tmarshconnors]

"The Media is ruled by Satan. But yet I wonder if many Christians fully understand that."

TMarsh-Connors host of Angry British Conservative podcast.

Passionate Blogger and Vlogger: TMarsh-Connors is a passionate individual who dedicates their free time to blogging on platforms like Tumblr and DeviantART. Their commitment to the written word and visual content showcases a multifaceted approach to sharing thoughts and experiences.

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Utilizes Written Word and Video: TMarsh-Connors skillfully employs both the power of the written word and video content to convey thoughts, experiences, and insights. This multimedia approach allows for a dynamic and engaging communication style, catering to different audience preferences.

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Shares Personal Perspective as an "Angry British Conservative": The choice of the podcast title, "Angry British Conservative," suggests that TMarsh-Connors takes a bold and unapologetic stance on political matters. This indicates a willingness to share personal perspectives and opinions, contributing to a dialogue on political and social issues.

[jirls]

[somerandomcockroach]

Originally there were another characters, but they didn't fit well to a runaway scene as this fully legal duo who manages to do some clown acrobatic tricks on their way out

[elisabethdeep-blog]

Reread Equal Rites recently. I used to think it was about feminism and little girls getting the same opportunities as little boys. Which, it isn't not about that. But ALSO.

It's about an intersex kid.

It's about a little girl born with a staff.

And that's Not Right.

The adults in the room- her father, the 'medical professional'- attempt to remove the staff, by blade and by fire. The fresh little baby SCREAMS. So they agree to pretend it doesn't exist. She'll probably grow up just a regular little girl.

right?

But just around the onset of puberty..... it becomes apparent, not to her, but to the adults, that she's not going to be Regular.

The medical professional tries again to rectify matters. She tries to destroy the staff while the girl is unconscious. The girl screams. The adults give in. They aren't monsters.... but life will be so much harder, so much less foreseen, for this strange little girl....

They try to raise her 'right'.

If she won't be a conventional woman... maybe an unconventional woman. A Powerful woman- in the way that women can be powerful. Are permitted to be powerful.

But she's not a woman- she's a child. What will she be, when she's grown? A Witch. A Wizard. She can't be either. She can't be neither.

(The term 'warlock' is repeatedly invoked and scoffed. The etymology of 'warlock' is 'breaker of oaths'. Counter to the covenant. Rulebreaker.)

Right.

[thecoachingdirectory]

What’s your perspective on your role in life? Sometimes our influence is supporting and regenerative although unfortunately, it can often be destructive even if that is not our initial intention. We can be drawn to the negative rather than what is possible for us. What is your personal perspective? Check this out to learn more.