#passive narcissist

[ineffably-graham]

see, i think one of the core issues with loki is that to make sylvie as a character, the writes combined loki's ex-girfriend (the enchantress) with loki. that was a recipe for disaster.

also i know that if sylvie was a dude everyone would be screaming about how loki and sylvie were like brothers and how gross it is. but yknow. to each their own.

[phosphenemoth]

Passive aggression is literally my favorite form of communication for people who don't pay attention to me. I can say anything at all to them/about them and they don't even hear it.

My favorite test is saying a sentence that makes zero sense to see how well they are listening.

"Penguins only wear pants on sundays." they are like "uh huh" I'm like "yeah wow! Totally crazy right ?" That's how well they listen, lmao if they stop and question it they are at least half listening which is better than not at all.

[narcissisticpdcultureis]

NPD Culture is wow you're so strong blog runner. If I got a bajillion asks about wanting an anon to be posted more quickly I would bite someone even if it were on-topic.

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[lesboylycan]

shaking my laptop screen right now. why are so many supposed "safe spaces" for stigmatized disorders so frequently anti-endo. violently anti-endo (actively threatening, fakeclaiming, etc) or passively anti-endo ("endos DNI" without talking about endo systems on the blog/"endos DNI" on general system positivity posts, following or regularly interacting with anti-endos but no posts about endos specifically, etc) it doesn't matter it's just all. fucking.

[sharkieboi]

my dad: “you should come home earlier so you can spend time with your mother”

me, internally: why the fuck would I do that

[ninepentz]

Our misguided anger

One thing I learned from constantly being forced to experience problematic people through out my life, even being one myself sometimes, is that when people get caught up in the pettiness of things.

The passive aggression, revenge, projection, bait/trigger, evil eye whatever it is, that mostly tells me they haven't reached the point of evolving past that phase onto "I'm ready for peace phase" so to me it let's me know that person is still immature mentally/emotionally, not thinking of their future self, not self aware, not on the road to healing. It also shows that they aren't really organized internally.

Like for me I'm the worst person to be around when I'm doing bad, when problems are stacking up. I'm most problematic when there's something crappy going on in my life or I'm having some issue in one area that won't go away.

So when people are stagnant in the phase of pettiness, they are mostly dealing with something and coping with it by taking out that frustration on others. Idk why but I've noticed some people just love being in drama.

So knowing what I know now, I associate that with someone who hasn't outgrown a certain phase of misguided anger.

Sometimes that anger we throw onto others is our unhappiness with ourselves, unmet goals, health issues, failures, all types of personal things. That's the root of those problematic behaviors..

Immature phase=

Pettiness, passive aggression, bait/trigger, revenge, prob starting.

Mature phase=

Self reflection, observing your own triggers/anger before acting out, not easily trigged anymore, not taking things personal (important), accountability, self control.

It's similar to how a baby eventually matures into a full grown adult, even our emotions, intellect, has it's own phases of growth, and if you're lucky you go through each phase and master them. Me currently I haven't mastered my anger but I'm seeing growth and maturing little by little. Handling things way better than my past self :) if you're reading this and you relate, I hope you get to experience how peaceful it is to be unbothered and in your own lane. And when coming across people who haven't healed yet, seek to understand and observe, instead of react. I feel like that is a healing experience within itself, maybe even by you not adding to the fire you extinguish their bitter flames in the process too <3

✨️Nine of Pentacles✨️

[urban-daddy]

The Importance of Communication: Co-Parenting for Separated Parents

In today’s world, the dynamics of family structures have evolved, with separation and divorce becoming more prevalent. For parents navigating this challenging terrain, one of the most crucial aspects of ensuring their children’s well-being is effective communication. When parents are separated, maintaining open and respectful communication is not just beneficial but essential for the healthy…

[findinginga]

Epilogue: The Enigma Who is Ingeborga Alexandrova Reshetnikova

 “It is always important to know when something has reached its end.  Closing circles, shutting doors, finishing chapters, it doesn't matter what we call it; what matters is to leave in the past those moments in life that are over.” - Paulo Coelho 

How I approached this project...

In the 40 or so blog posts which recount my experiences with Inga over a three year period, it was often necessary for me to weave the dialogue from favorite movies or memorable quotes into my narrative.  Because these words were familiar to me, they served as a comfortable starting point and allowed me to overcome some profound reservations about such a detailed accounting of a very personal time in my life.  

It was not uncommon for me to have a tight knot in the center of my gut while writing.  I would linger over the "Publish" button after finishing each post.  I was not at all concerned that I may be thought of as gullible, a "simp", or a mark.  Truth be told, there were many times when I had those very opinions of myself.  I could hardly blame a given reader for formulating the same conclusion.  Rather, the conflict with which I wrestled over all these entries was the possibility that I may cause harm with my words.

Ingeborga is not the devil incarnate...

I need to be clear that I do not consider Inga to be an evil person.  It is my opinion, which I have expressed repeatedly in previous entries, is that Inga lacks self-awareness.  This is a defining characteristic of a narcissist.  Her inability to engage in self-reflection, her lack of empathy and all of the other traits consistent with NPD she exhibits, do not make Ingeborga an evil person.  Indeed, Inga has many wonderful parts of her - her creativity and intelligence are but two.  It should be obvious that I would remain supportive of Inga as an individual; but I would be quick to encourage talk therapy for her with a trusted provider.

If I were to venture a guess as to how Inga might react to reading any of these blog entries it is highly likely that she would be dismissive of my words.  She would likely attempt to paint me as the "bad guy", someone who betrayed her, was distrustful of her and now enjoys hurting her by sharing all these exaggerated details with the world.  She would attempt to justify her accusations by employing revisionist history and simply not consider how her own past actions led to a predictable outcome.  Inga would likely engage one or more of her friends to come to her defense and boost her self-esteem.

The birthday incident...

When I arrived at the decision to cease support and communication with Inga in March 2023, I failed to heed some valuable advice which was; when ending a relationship with a narcissist, one cannot simply withdraw to the sidelines and remain a spectator.  It is necessary to put the narcissist in the "rear view", as the expression goes.  Some advocate for a technique referred to as "gray rocking", which implies making oneself a less appealing target.  Active participation, in any form, only invites the wrath of the narcissist.  I saw this expressed by Ingeborga in a few ways.

I would periodically check Inga's Instagram to get an overall sense of how she was doing.  I learned through her stories that she completed her move.  This was likely to the apartment on Gogol Street that was purchased in December.  Following the move, their cat was lost somewhere in the new neighborhood (was never clear if "Cat" was actually found).  Apparently, Inga was aware I was "lurking" and she posted a couple of stories designed to elicit a response.  Did I remain quiet?  Of course not...I took the bait.  After a couple of dust ups, I withdrew recognizing my folly and internally beating myself up for reacting.

As September was drawing to a close, I received a reminder on my phone (which I have since deleted) of Eva's birthday.  I thought it would be a nice gesture to send along a gift.  As I noted in a previous post, there are few options to send parcels or gifts directly to Russia.  However, there remains a handful of vendors who continue relationships with Russian partners to deliver flowers, candy and the like.  I placed an order through a site I had previously used.  The selection was limited and the prices expensive - Economics 101 - the theory of "supply and demand".  I ordered some Kinder Surprise, egg shaped containers with chocolate and a toy.  In this case, the service allowed for the addition of cash to be added to an order.  So, I included 5000 rubles with a note to Eva that she could use the money to select another gift of her liking, with her mother's assistance.  

A day or so after Eva's birthday, I received an Instagram message from Inga.  I assumed it would be a simple "thank you" for recognizing Eva's birthday.  Instead it was a savagely angry accusation that I intentionally, and for sport, sent a gift that I knew Eva would hate.  I was accused of deliberately causing pain and disappointment to an innocent.  Inga claimed that she previously informed me that Eva does not like Kinder so; my selection was a calculated, sadistic act.

Weapons of a sadist

This was actually the tipping point, which resulted in freedom.

Speaking of self-reflection...

As someone who often deeply feels the pain of others, I generally avoid intense conflict so as to preclude the chance of causing trauma.  I have recognized for many years that my predisposition toward assuming the burdens of others comes with a cost.  While I consider myself to possess a deep emotional reserve, just like anyone, I can experience feelings that I am being neglected, manipulated or exploited resulting in emotional reactivity.  I certainly experienced this over my time with Inga as she required a lot of attention; a lot of energy; a lot of resources, but shared very little of herself with me.  In retrospect, armed with the knowledge I acquired over the course of this experience, it was inevitable that it should end as it did.

Is it possible I am just an asshole by putting all of Inga's business "on front street"?  Well, I suppose one could argue that I could have written a less explicit account.  I will not deny I considered doing just that.  The thing is, a more homogenous version of this period in my life could easily be discounted in a simple phrase: "older man rejected by a younger woman wants revenge".  It is not revenge that I seek nor is it my goal to hurt Ingeborga.  

This underscores a bit of the dilemma experienced by more empathic individuals.  We still see the value in others in spite of whatever pain or hardship we endured in the relationship.  A highly empathic person is more inclined to shoulder narcissistic abuse quietly and the narcissist knows this intuitively.

My goal in writing this blog was to be able to unpack all the memories, archives, photos and other details to put them in their proper order, after the passage of some time, to give a proper perspective.  It was my hope that through this effort, I would finally resolve some of the dissonance I continued to experience.  It is certainly a terrible thing for any sort of relationship if you are unable to trust the other party; however, it is downright debilitating when you get to a point where you are unable to trust yourself.  So, more than anything, this unburdening is intended to restore faith in myself.

 Finding Inga...

I did find a person known as Ingeborga, with whom I became acquainted.  She lives in a town located in the northwest corner of Russia.  She is an intelligent, attractive and talented woman.  She has an infectious laugh and a captivating smile.  She is a caring, but perhaps, overindulgent mother.  She is a daughter and a sister.  She longs to eventually escape the long Russian winters for warmer climes.  She has ambitions of success.  She is fragile.  She is cold.  She is distant.  She is a person hiding from herself.

[cynthiabaileyrug]

Subtleties Of Covert Narcissism

Most information that is readily available about Narcissistic Personality Disorder describes overt narcissists.  They are the ones who are loud, openly critical, cruel & easier to identify.  Unfortunately, there isn’t nearly as much information available about their quieter & more sinister counterpart, covert narcissists.  Today I hope to help you understand them a bit better. Covert narcissists…

[pearlsandpoppers]

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[greppelheks]

I personally love when people try to manipulate me now, because I'm literally aware of it and immune to it, and I love watching them squirm and get angry when nothing works on me.

[totalcarve]

The Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissist: Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse

[gallierhouse]

Daniel’s going to be happy and healthy as a vampire but it is also going to enable all the worst parts of him. You win some, you lose some. But it’s terrible that we see Daniel aging gracefully and making peace with his failures (and his accomplishments) as a human and then immediately regressing to being rude and smug and wearing 80s leather jackets and generally being childish and irresponsible the moment he’s turned. It’s not like human Daniel is the paragon of maturity (he’s still rude, and smug, and confrontational) but he’s grown up. He’s different from how he was when Louis first met him, sharper, more measured. He throws half of it out the moment he’s turned. Maybe vampirism is a curse. I guess there’s not much to care about when you’re basking in the dawn of eternity, but the one thing Daniel cared about when he was human was journalism. He fucked up two marriages, and fucked up two daughters, but he never fucked up his career. Meanwhile, vampire Daniel’s on live television throwing his career down the drain. It’s fun, but it’s also the opposite of everything he’d have done if he were still human. I know he has nothing to lose — nothing can hurt him anymore, at least nothing of the world of men — but it’s still really bittersweet to see him throw away something he spent the last 70 years working for. Vampirism stunts growth. Maybe it even turns back the tape. Lestat’s stuck being a selfish, narcissistic man-child, Louis is stuck being selfish and depressed, still attached to the man who ruined his life thrice over, Armand’s stuck being helpless and passive, even after 500 years. Maybe Daniel’s going to be stuck being arrogant and self-satisfied and selfish. He spent his entire human life listening to people and saving them. That’s what investigative journalists do. They put targets on their back so they can help people they may never even meet. Daniel spent his life helping people. He may not have been the nicest person, or the best father, or even a good husband, but he spent his entire life helping people. Now Daniel’s going to spend eternity eating unfortunates. Fuck these vampires.

[bouquetface]

Astro Observations 4

Accuracy influenced by entire natal chart.

Venus Chiron Aspect

- Expressing love is not easy.

- Overly concerned with your social standing. Deeply hurt when not considered popular or attractive.

- Experiences that lead you to believe you are not attractive.Feeling rejected. Feeling undesirable.

- Encountering painful experiences in romantic relationships. Unable to forget past partners. Feeling haunted.

- If in a positively placed, you may find healing in a romantic relationship. Or this can be a fantasy you have of being saved.

- May consider and possibly get cosmetic surgeries. More likely if in aspect to Mars, 1st or 6th H.

- Problems with spending/money/possessions. This can manifest in many ways. Ex: Hoarding, overspending, debt, turing use money to buy love, valuing yourself based on how much you have/make, etc.

- Sign and house placement may indicate exactly what you are insecure about. Ex: Venus scorpio/Venus 8th H aspect chiron may = insecure about appearance of genitals. Venus 2nd H aspect chiron may = insecure about a facial feature.

Accuracy influenced by entire natal chart.

Mars Aspect Chiron

- Difficulty expressing mars traits effectively. Based on entire chart this can manifest in many ways. Ex: Repressing anger until violent outburst. Being passive aggressive. Inability to be direct. Being aggressive when trying to be assertive.

- To heal their chiron wound, it’s encouraged to find a release for your anger.

- Often, develop physical hobbies later in life to release anger. May be able to help other’s learn how to deal with their anger - anger management counsellor, self defence/martial arts teacher, etc.

- Having bad experiences with masculinity. Ex: Encountering weak men. Encountering violent men.

Accuracy influenced by entire natal chart.

Moon Aspect Chiron

- Mother is emotionally or physically hurt. Mother may not be able to fully nurture & protect you due to this reason.

- Being so sensitive you become detached. Losing touch with your emotions due to emotional trauma.

- Desire to save the women in your life. Inability to help them. As a result, emotionally detaching from these people to avoid painful feelings such as hopelessness.

- Being or feeling like a loner. Not relating to those around you. Those around you do not understand you. Based on entire natal chart, this can manifest as people believe you are overly emotional. Or people believe you are void of any emotion.

- Difficulty expressing emotion. Dislike of sharing feelings. May have bad experiences with sharing your true feelings in the past.

- Emotional intelligence. You understand why you have troubles in your emotional life. Yet, you are more likely to be empathetic with others than yourself.

Accuracy influenced by entire natal chart.

Pluto Aspect Moon

- Power struggle between you and the mother. Suffocating mother. A mother who does not respect privacy. A mother who doesn’t care about your boundaries.

- Intense and obsessive emotions. Feeling like you are losing your mind. Moon swings. Heavy feelings of jealously.

- Obsessive thoughts about revenge.

- Emotional abuse - dealing with narcissists, gaslighting, manipulated, cheated, etc. May be the victim or the abuser or both.

- Experience emotional deaths. Later in life, they have experiences that force them to change for a better life. Transforming yourself.

Accuracy influenced by entire natal chart.

Venus Conjunct Mars

In the chart of women (including my own natal), I have noticed partners were all complete strangers who made the first move. Ex: Random customer asking for her # at work. & coming up to them outside our university. DM from a stranger on IG by surprise.

Another thing two of these meetings have in common is there was a brother, cousin or make friend that helped introduce the man to the woman.

For ex: the random customer wasn’t so random, he knew her because she previously worked with his brother. Although, he was still a stranger to her.

Ex.2: The DM from the stranger was the best friend of the guy I had a class with. That’s how he got my IG.

For people with this conjunction, their romantic lives works best when they don’t go out of their way to meet partners. Things like signing up for a dating app lead to dead relationships. They needed someone to match their bold and direct energy. Often, they may find that they do encounter many bold and confident men.

Mars in First House

They develop or are born with a prominent scar on their body. Often, this scar just makes them look more attractive.

Ex: Birthmark on the face, Heart Surgery scar, Acne scars, Cut, C-section scar, etc.

When Venus is involved the scar may be around the chin area or lower face. Ex: a mole or little line under the lips.

This is a very stereotypical observation but it is true every time I meet someone with this placement!

Jupiter in 10th House

For two of my family members with this in their Vedic natal chart, they ended up in careers where they work from home. Jupiter is not the ruler of their 4th H.

They found these jobs after the age of 30. Early life they worked various jobs where one had to be physically present.

Saturn in 3rd House

This can create a karmic connection with siblings. You may feel restricted when communicating with them. You may feel there is a coldness to your connection with them. You may become emotionally or physically distant.

You may even see this strained connection in their natal charts. For ex: My cousin doesn’t get along with my other cousins (her sister & brother). She has Saturn in 3rd, her brother has Saturn in 3rd too. Their sister has lilith in 3rd.

Lilith in 3rd House

This suggests one feels excluded from connections with siblings. And feeling like an outcast in early life/ early education. The way they communicate may be very unique. They aren’t fully accepted or understood by their peers.

She does feel excluded as her brother and older sister are closer. Her lilith in 3rd manifests as her being excluded from that bond.

Although, the relationship between the brother and older sister isn’t that great either. They both have Saturn in 3rd. They are similar in age and grew up together in the same household. Yet, there is emotional distance between the two.

Accuracy for your chart will be influenced by entire chart.

[crucialplayer]

Thoughts on Mars placements 

!! everything is based purely on my experiences with signs, written with no other purpose than to share my observations and be unserious.

Aries mars. Practical jokes lovers, gentle touch haters. Hit u while laughing. Love the banter, sometimes a lil too much. Go for it (whatever it is) fiercely and without a single backthought. Explosive in conflict, but in a sense of crying screaming throwing up banging against the wall. 

Taurus mars. Life could be on Mars but they still be going on and on about that one thing. Sudden outbursts of anger. It might seem out of the blue but they’ve probably been brooding some hurt for a long time. They just hoped it’d go away… naturally. Also surprisingly horny. 

Gemini mars. Mind fuckers. That one guy defending polygamy «as a concept» rather too enthusiastically. Can talk their way out of hell with one leg already in the hottest boiling cauldron. I suppose it’s a placement most people will find charming at some point (says a lot about society…). 

Cancer mars. Rumors are true, the sky is blue, and they are manipulative. Watching anybody else display vulnerability is the same as watching a children’s play to them. Ur rawest and most disturbing moment? To a cancer mars its a chill Tuesday morning. Humanization of a silent treatment. 

Leo mars. You’d gather that its serious by the sheer scale of their reaction but I promise its not. 9 times out of 10 will cause a huge scene and won't be able to remember it 2 days after. Very defensive. Won't put themselves out there if they’re not guaranteed a 10-minute standing ovation. 

Virgo mars. They believe that they make sense but usually they don't. They’re calculating but it’s like they do it backwards resulting in some of the most unhinged decisions made. Want to be praised for… um… existing as they are. Kind of a menace in conflict. 

Libra mars. If u think it's hard for you to wait for them to make up their mind imagine how they feel. It’s similar to watching a plant move without a time-lapse. Cry when they’re angry. Go with the flow not because they’re chill but more cause it's easier for them. 

Scorpio mars. They ARE vengeance and I'm scared. Slash 3 tires after one fight mars. Not the person you’d try to make jokingly jealous. For further information read the lyrics to… really any Taylor Swift song. 

Sagittarius mars. Don't think before they do and think after they’ve done smth only if u make them. The kind of people that will try everything once just to know how it feels (and then present that to everyone as if they’ve found god by bungee jumping one time). Very easy to dare. Also are always checking someone out. 

Capricorn mars. Blood is cold, the heart is beating twice per minute. ISN’T IT lonely on top of the world fellas??? If u get them to like u your love language better not be words of affirmation. Instead of arguing chances are high they disappear for a while or just go into a rock regime. 

Aquarius mars. Are only attracted to intellectuals so naturally in a room full of sweet gentle people will go for the most narcissistic motherfucker out there. They’re sorta very patient but I feel maybe it's just them dissociating… Ponder a lot before making a move. 

Pisces mars. I'm afraid no one knows whats going on there. It's like they’re never actually present. Therefore often times can have a delayed reaction to smth, which people might read as passive aggression. Very sentimental, will write u a song or a poem on a second date. Also low LOW energy. 

[findinginga]

"Не верить на слово, проверять строжайше…" (V.I. Lenin)

"Put no faith in words; subject everything to the closest scrutiny..." (V.I. Lenin)

Before anyone decides to write a hateful criticism, I completely acknowledge that I am applying this quote of Vladimir Ilyich Lenin out of context.  Without opening a political science Pandora's Box, Lenin was exhorting the Marxist worker with his words.  I, in a very apolitical way, apply Lenin's words to the lessons I have learned in my interactions with Ingeborga Alexandrova Reshetnikova (nee Lopatuk?, Lopatiuk?, Lopatyuk?) over the previous couple of years. 

Equally applicable is the Russian proverb, "доверяй, но проверяй" (approximate translation: "Trust but verify").  This phrase was popularized in the West when Ronald Reagan used it in a speech related to bilateral nuclear arms de-escalation.  But while I claim no diplomatic service experience, I certainly was aware that Inga's words could not be trusted.  She was capable of spinning even the most preposterous story at will.  No investment of my time, no demonstration of my emotional support, no gifts would result in a more emotionally open Inga.  Ernest Hemingway may have had a point when he wrote" The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them." but he never dealt with Inga.  Above the long abandoned desire for an intimate relationship with Inga, I was determined to create a mutual atmosphere of support and trust.  As "Ace" Rothstein said, "When you love someone, you've gotta trust them.  There's no other way.  You've got to give them the key to everything that's yours.  Otherwise, what's the point?" (Casino - 1995)  Well, if you have viewed the movie then you know how well that worked out for "Ace".

It was time to wind things down...

Upon receiving the report from PI Labs in late September 2022 as to the living arrangements and day-to-day activities of Inga, I was welcoming the temporary assignment in Chicago.  I was hopeful  the work and time in my hometown would serve to ground me once again.  I was not looking forward to a potentially cold Chicago Winter, but the ability to attend cultural events, dine at my favorite restaurants and drop in on some jazz sets at The Green Mill and  Andy's strongly overrode my dislike for the bitter cold.

In late October, Inga announced that she was planning a trip to St. Petersburg.  Eva had been asking to visit with her uncle (Nikita) and his wife and relatively new baby.  Inga wrote that this would also be an opportunity for her to visit the Consulate of Cypress, as well.  Her plan was to arrive on 3 November and remain until 6 or 7 November. Extending the stay to the 7th was dependent upon the need for Eva to attend school that day.  I contacted Mikhail at PI Lab with the information Inga shared about her travel plans.  I was primarily interested in Inga's follow through with her stated desire to secure a visa to travel to Cyprus.  Mikhail assigned the new scope of work to an operative and pledged to inform me of the results.

Inga IM'd me a few times on 3 November to tell me about the trip to St. Petersburg.  In particular, Inga wrote of the difficulties she experienced in traveling on the bus.  She explained that they decided to take Monika (their dog) along on the trip.  Monika was apparently restless on the bus and made for an unpleasant time.  I received only a few messages from Inga over the following days as, no doubt, she was busy with family.  With her return to Pskov on 7 November, a fairly normal stream of communications resumed.  Inga explained that she did not have the opportunity to visit the consulate and would need to return in the near future.

As the days passed in November, I was preparing for my trip and three month stay in Chicago.  I planned to leave on 4 December in order to be in town and ready for an onsite meeting Monday, 5 December.  It was necessary to leave my home clean and secured during my absence as well as gather together the essentials for my stay.

The week before my planned departure, I received a report from PI Lab regarding the trip Inga and Eva made to St. Petersburg a couple of weeks prior.  The following are excerpts:

We received information from the surveillance cameras of the St. Petersburg city monitoring centre. The monitoring centre checked the movement for the Skoda or Volvo vehicles registered to Denis. According to the centre, Skoda car number E 244 KU 60 was recorded by surveillance cameras.  On 3 November 2022, in the evening, the vehicle arrived in the city of St. Petersburg. On 06 November 2022, in the morning, the vehicle started driving from 11/9 Repischeva Street.  In between these days the vehicle did not move through the city.  The route departing the city started on 06 November from one of the addresses of Ingeborga's brother - 19 Repischeva street. 

Investigators also checked information you supplied that Ingeborga and Eva (and possibly Denis) went to the children's entertainment center, Smile Park. We found a photo of Eva at the centre. The photograph was taken on 04 November 2022. 

Reading the latest report submitted by Mikhail and his team caused me to laugh aloud.  I could not understand why Inga would bend herself into a pretzel with such an elaborate story.  Adding poor little Monika into the fable was the topper for me.  The report simply confirmed that there was an ongoing relationship between Inga and Denis even after their dubious divorce.  The issue of securing a visa was again given no priority confirming, once more, Inga did not appear to have serious intentions.

Time for me to hit the road and make the 14 hour road trip to Chicago...