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You know what? You know what I think?
I think that if we lived as we were meant to, in larger intimate ("extended family") groups and with more shared labor and time to do it (UBI NOW) people like me would not feel so useless and burdensome because there would be people around to help and to do what neurodivergent people can't while making valuable space for the neurodivergent to do what they ARE good at.
The way we live right now, all right, the way we live right now forces units of two adults to be able to do EVERYTHING or PAY to have someone come do it for them. I have to do the housework. I have to do it! But I am having to do a million different things and most of them I am not good at. I suck at them.
I wouldn't feel like shit, okay, if I had more than one other person around who was not a child and who could do the things I can't, like do the yard and cook and do repairs and basic maintenance; and someone else to split everything else that I like but is too much for me. It would free me to do what I am good at and enjoy. Cleaning, as in the sink and toilet, the windows, the blinds. Taking out trash. Folding, hanging, and sorting laundry.
But because all the shit I can do often relies on other shit being done first, and I can't do or have trouble doing those things, the shit I can do often can't be done. And even the shit I can do, I can't do ALL of it. So I can't keep up, and things get very bad.
We aren't meant to live like this. We are not meant to live like this.
That thought hurts so much because being able to flee the birth family is integral to survival for so many people. I'm so afraid that living in larger family groups would create more opportunities for, say, queer kids to be isolated, rejected, bullied, and abused. But if we gave people enough money to survive, and stopped considering children the property of their parents with no system in place to help them escape bad situations except a system that is often just as bad, just different.
I'm aware that communes and collectives aren't all that successful and are kind of a joke. I don't mean that. I mean a fundamental shift to multigenerational families where taking in "strays" (which my family did) is also normalized so people escaping abuse into existing households was accepted, with these families centered in maybe a couple of different larger residences so not everyone has to buy and maintain their own fucking washing machine and vacuum cleaner, and so people can benefit from large group meals that yield leftovers, and so child and elder care can also be centralized.
Then disabled people and the neurodivergent and sick and injured people, and pregnant people, and grieving people, would not have to either labor through all those stressors or consign themselves to living off an unlivable pittance or being put under legal guardianship.
I'm not saying anything new. People live like this in other parts of the world and maybe it sucks and I am wrong. But I'm just really mad right now because I can either do laundry or clean the sink but not both, and I really think we could improve society somewhat by making it so I did not have to choose one without sacrificing the other.
#im feverish feeling (not a real fever just malaise that i have no other way to describe) from the IBS (which can affect you like that#)#and i don't actually want to do ANYTHING#i would have to even living with others but it would be easier#at the very least i wouldn't have had to clean the microwave earlier which is hard because my arms are like the size of a meerkat's#and i can only reach the back with my fingertips#where is my BF in all this?#WORKING FULL TIME WITH BACK PAIN#yes i AM going to want him to have to do as little as possible when he comes home#he's neurodivergent too and struggles with the same shit#it's all a mess#we are doing way better i didn't realize how deep a drain three very sick cats were#but there's still only two of us#if you are disabled physically OR MENTALLY you should at least get in-home household help once a week or so#there's places that do that but the limitations are usually severe and always rule me out#because im not single im not an elder im not a veteran and im not physically disabled#if we have to ration that sort of thing i can see how on the whole it is more caring to allocate those resources to for example elders#but the fact that i celebrate what help there is doesn't mean i don't get mad that more people can't access it#is2g if i was functional enough snd physically sound enough i would start a charity that did intervention cleaning for people like us#who have fallen behind and can't catch up but can MAINTAIN#and who helped people clean for a few months during and after an illness pregnancy trauma major loss etc. so they could stay on their feet
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i think you guys are onto smth..
i unironically got invested in this HELP
#WHERES THE FIC AT IF SOMEONE WRITES THIS I WILL PAY THEM A HUNDRED DOLLARS😭😭#kunikida serving the country while dazai's serving cunt😔#dazai was born to malewife but forced to manipulate and i think that's the greatest tragedy of bsd#anyway some facts i would like to share abt this au thay i came up w while drawing!!#takes place in 1939 (start of wwii) and there was a mandatory draft that required one male over eighteen from each house to serve#both of them are still twenty two and had been engaged for abt two years before getting married that year#newlyweds! unfortunately kuni had to go fight and they were seperated :(#before the war kunikida was a math teacher at the local high school and dazai obviously managed the household and didn't work#he's hopeless at cooking and meal prep even w recipie books so they either get those prepackaged meals or kuni makes dinner when he gets ba#so like when he's making lunch for kunikida he normally just packs a basic sandwich w raw fruit#kunikida always appreciates the effort even tho hes probably sick of having the same thing everyday but he won't complain abt it#when kunikida joined the army he was relieved that the mess hall had better food than dazai#he was the only one in his platoon that never complained abt the food so his fellow soldiers assumed it was bc he came from a tough bg#when in reality he was just used to being poisoned on a daily basis from his dumbass husbands cooking and was hardly fazed from army ration#they write to each other although its more dazai sending and kuni receiving bc hes off fighting and doesnt have time to write back#dazai talks abt life on the homefront and how he has to grow a victory garden (everything is DYING HE CANT EVEN RAISE TOMATOES)#and kuni writes abt his fellow soldiers and how the war is going and when he thinks he'll be home and how he misses sleeping in a bed#ANYWAY yea thought i'd share sry for infodumping in the tags again#this post is for like the four ppl that care abt this specific flavor of knkdz so hopefully this gets four notes at least#bungou stray dogs#bungo stray dogs#dazai osamu#osamu dazai#kunikida doppo#doppo kunikida#kunikidazai#knkdz#lotus draws#bro sry for posting at two in the morning i couldnt sleep until i got this out of my head they have infested my brain
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Don't get too attached
#Brakul did a lot of the parenting for Erubi (the first of the Janeys-Brakul-Hibrides throuple bastard children) in infancy especially due#to Hibrides going through absolutely horrific post-partum depression (and not wanting to be a parent to begin with. Like she#had accepted it as an inevitability and a duty but when it actually happened it was just like Oh God. I am in hell)#Brakul is the only one of the three that actually Wants to be a parent and the fact that he can't behave as such in order to avoid#suspicion that he's the father is kind of a living nightmare for him a little.#Not like he isn't involved in his ''''nieces''' lives given he lives in the same household but he has to keep a bit of distance.#Janeys and especially Hibrides are pretty unsympathetic about this. For Hibrides it's like she has had to go through so much shit#to maintain this situation she never asked to be a part of and when he has to go through a fraction of that he breaks the fuck down.#He only wants the benefits of the whole situation and isn't willing to deal with the consequences.#This is also one of the very few things she's sympathetic with Janeys about like she respects that he's at least willing to play#his part and be miserable without bitching to her about it. Like she fucking hates him but respects the commitment to the bit.#Janeys is more just like 'Just go make more kids if you want your own so damn bad. Get a wife or something. That's what I#had to do and look at me I'm doing great I'm so normal'#The two kids aren't present on the pilgrimage (back home under the care of a hired tutor) but the Janeys-Brakul-Hibrides#Feeling Triangle are in a fucking tailspin over her being pregnant again like goddddd not this shit again#brakul red dog
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The ██████████████ household wishes you all a very Stop Using Ai You Cowards !
Anti AI shirt from @squea ! Child and younger edits by me (private)
#fun fact this is censored only because I haven't chosen a name for this household LMAO#out of story#simblr#sims 4#no ai#Second fun fact: this is my first polyamorous household!#4 partners - but mustache man and the woman aren't dating each other; just sharing boyfriends#Good for them! Good for them.
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When my parent starts telling me something that she remembers that clearly doesn't sound like me and I know damn well it's her own words because I've heard it a million times coming out of her mouth:
#`i want to improve relations with you` cool; now accept that you've hurt me and that you're manipulating me. accept that not everyone feels#safe around you and that they don't want to be in the same place as you; and accept that you conveniently make up memories of me to prove a#point. now i only got access to tumblr and discord via chromebook. christ give me strength in this household.#the caucasity of this bitch#vent post#if anyone knows a homeless shelter that is in spain that allows animals please share because i am trying to look them up but they either#have bad reviews; or don't have reviews at all. the fact that there are more shelters of protecting abandoned plants than shelters for#kids who (might in my case) run away from home from what i've seen that is near my area is hilarious though-#homeless shelter
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and I think child modelling should be illegal I'm not even joking
#I dodged it but like it truly felt like we were pigs raised to slaughter. slaughter being prostitution#every little detail I remember now as adult with basic child psychology education from my teacher background is just. how#I'm not brave enough to say 'jail to mother' (yet) but honestly...#what wrong could come from making a bunch of girls used to lying about their age ignoring being made uncomfortable and disrespected#especially by adults who can make all sorts of rules and claims on their bodies and schedules that are treated as secrets#I had the best experience possible and I am certain I did get pimps approaching me my mother and contractors#and even then I felt very weird that I was often sent to nightclubs that only allowed adults as clients but since I was there to get on#stage as work then I could get in and actually I got instructed to keep on 'vip areas' that typically had a lot more drugs circulating#the heels the clothing and makeup I got put on were also so wrong#I didn't hate it at the time some things made me uncomfortable but I liked dancing I liked fashion and I liked how the fact I was 'making#money' made me more respected in my house and I started getting more independence (that I probably shouldn't have been given either)#but ugh the existing photographs already make me want to throw up and I am glad there aren't photographs of the worse 'dance' jobs I did#very strange little universe#I also feel like I was the only girl that didn't have an eating disorder but mostly cuz I already had problems with alcohol that did the jo#but also I got in much older than the other girls and out pretty fast#crazy that 13 is old but like you genuinely hear of 6 year old who are responsible for a considerable portion of the household income#YIKES#the compliments I got on managing to look older and 'being so mature'. yikes#anything that allows a child to be the one making most of the family's income is a receipt for disaster#.txt
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idk if this is an unpopular opinion but John and Mariana are a cute ship. Mariana could definitely do better than cringefail podcaster boyfriend but I do also entirely get the appeal and charm of cringefail podcaster boyfriend.
#in this world johnlock are also a qpr#221 baker street is a polyamorous household#they did in fact only need one bed#breaking: cringest most incapable podcast bro you know has 2 hands and 2 people 2 hold hands with#sherlock and co#sherlock & co
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I need to talk about Minecraft AU for a sec and how the difference between our world and their world makes for some of the most humorous but also interesting differences in how people act about certain subjects.
Like the trans thing right. Steve and Rana are both trans I've talked about that before. And neither of them are on hormone replacement or anything (there is an in universe explanation as to why Steve has a beard though I promise I can talk about that if anyone wants) but like that's fine bc it literally Doesn't Matter to them or anyone else. Like as spawned players they already don't have any pre-existing gender roles or ideas of what something "should" be so gender and presentation is what they make of it and there's no real solid idea in anyone's mind about how a "boy" or "girl" behaves or looks like. These are labels that exist but they barely mean anything. It also helps that any preexisting culture that WOULD have ideas of this was almost entirely destroyed like 5000 years ago (thanks Groda) so it matters even less than it already did.
And its funny bc the only two people alive from that era, White Eyes and Groda also just don't care. Groda maybe asks why Rana's voice sounds deeper once and nearly gets torn apart by Alex bc of it (Rana isn't offended or anything she just has a defensive girlfriend), bc she doesn't really understand because she never experienced anything like this first hand but very quickly comes to understand it and accept it. And on the other hand White Eyes is just like "I've seen weirder things than this" which yeah. Yeah honestly I think the person who was previously one with the undead would not care about gender in the grand scheme of things.
And then u have Kai which I've joked before that they may as well have been spawned in nonbinary. They rlly just said "I'm not really anything" and everyone was like yeah makes sense I vibe with it. Good for u.
Steve and Rana are both fairly open about having been the opposite genders previously (because that's how they view their experiences and that's valid!) and don't really shy away from the subject but also never really have much reason to talk about it since there's rarely a need to. In the modern day pretty much everyone who met them had met them post-transition. Even Alex had met them just before Steve started growing in his beard. The only people who ever knew them as Adam and Eve were Efe and Sunny but they never really thought it was weird or anything. Like the weirdest part to them was Steve saying he got his epiphany from seeing some guy in the distance on a foggy day who looked vaguely like him but that's its own subject manner that they aren't going to pry on.
Also Steve did DIY top "surgery" previously with a sword but we aren't going to talk about how messy that was for everyone involved.
#minecraft#minecraft au mastertag#apologies for my trans ramblings. how i get to approach these subject matters in the AU is just fun#and i needed to get some thoughts out#unrelated fun fact that i think most people here dont know: Steve and Alex were actually the first two to be in a committed relationship#not Steve and Rana like most would (rightfully) expect#this is because despite the fact that the two have literally know eachother for their entire lives#they're both really bad at being honest with themselves.#for years it was 'i like this person but i dont know how to tell them'#to 'well maybe i only FEEL like i like them because i dont know anyone else that well'#to 'well maybe they dont feel the same and it'd be weird to bring it up now'#you've heard of slow burn now get ready for what those two had going on#Alex when integrated into the household and months had passed actually had enough confidence to ask#here's the funny part though. she had assumed that Steve and Rana WERE dating already (and was cool with it obviously)#they were not.#so u can imagine how funny it is for Steve to hear 'Your girlfriend is pretty' out of Alex's mouth bc of that#She's more shocked that they're NOT dating already they live in the same house they've known eachother for literally their entire existence#they are like so stupidly affectionate with eachother to boot#'And you've known her for how long??' 'I mean... about 10 years?' 'DUDE.'#its actually agonizing but on the bright side it is what got the polycule started eventually#I would not be surprised if Sunny and Efe placed bets on if/when it would eventually happen
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Just got this advert on youtube and I’ve never wanted to buy a product less. Fuck OFF.
#l can’t look up these symbols 😰😭😭😭 I never learned basic household tasks 😔#I HATE this narrative#fuck OFF#also the fact that they included some deliberately bonkers symbols here to make it seem justified?#F in a little circle for#‘petroleum solvent only’#anyway#not sure if I said this yet but this needs to fuck off#ai
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We ought to write more Pokemon fic some time. We want to recreate the Pokemon Manners/Human Manners cheat sheet that we made a few years ago we think that this site would like the Sliding Scale Of Politeness When Greeting A New Pokemon You've Never Met Before.
#we speak#writing#we grew up with pmd games and we feel like the way that pmd pokemon's dialogue tends to be excessively... direct?#should be a feature and not a bug when any pokemon that you meet might be totally unfamiliar with your species and biology#it's probably very polite to start up front with some basic facts about yourself so they know how to act going forward#the very upfront feel to dialogue also very much helps with keeping the dialogue feel more... pokemon#people mock the series for weird npc dialogue a lot but we think that taking these things literally makes for more fun society building#it doesn't all have to fit with socially acceptable for our world we think. polite in our world isn't even consistent by household.#sometimes a polite interaction sounds like “hello! i'm poochyena! i like to chase people and bite!”#name and immediately socially useful information. now you know about the chasing people and biting so you don't assume it's rude#of course poochyena bites and chases people. it likes to do that. you can say you don't like that and it might stop doing that to You#but it will not stop biting and chasing people because that's what it likes to do and it will probably only befriend people okay with that#it makes a very specific dialogue feel that's very fun to do. we like how the pokemon world tends to treat any sort of like#disability or “weird” things as something that you just say out the gate and everyones like “oh okay”#and then treat that as Part Of Interactions going forwards. there are a surprising amount of parts of the pokemon manga#that are dedicated to working around a character's disability after one or all of their means of dealing with it get taken out#admittedly we aren't that caught up on newer content but we find the way that it tends to be just Accepted as very refreshing#making the dialogue this direct does also tend to make it read as more “childish” in english and particular because a lot of Maturity's jus#learning how to dance around what you're saying or phrase it in different ways to get your idea across differently#whereas here everything is just as direct as possible. “i don't like charmander”. “i like roasting berries”. “i want to dig things up”.#all pokemon dialogue tends to go towards being exceedingly simple and it makes for some very distinct writing#especially when you have to tackle complex situations with characters who probably dont employ that sort of vocabulary#though we personally enjoy doing this sort of stuff your mileage may vary ofc#we are biased towards this sort of thins because we find it MUCH more fun to build up what we're talking about from blocks#than to like. try and use more indirect wording that may lose things in translation#unfortunately this is not fun in irl conversation. everyone has to be on the same page and you need to use the same playbook to communicate#we REALLY wish people said what they meant though. we're really tired of being asked shit like “is this accessible”#when what they mean is “can you climb these stairs” a question which depends on the day our energy level and how things have been going#there are a lot of things we could say that would make us feel like some sort of anti sjw type guy and a lot of em boil down to just#"for the love of god dont dance around a Sensitive Topic just get to the point and ask us about it this just makes things harder for everyo
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"The older you get the more conservative you get" take is funny to me because I've been the complete opposite
#fun fact i was raised in a conservative household and was republican until i was like. 22#after that i was still registered republican but only to be able to vote in primaries otherwise my leaning was more liberal#now I'm just like. amazed by how terrible republicans can get#to be fair i think there was an incredibly sharp shift that happened in 2016#where more moderate republicans that didn't vote trump were forced out of their own party and it left all the very hateful ones#and my parents who once were the former have progressively become more of the latter and i hate seeing that#delete later
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This is such an unhinged thumbnail. Gurl the existence of the brand on the right doesn't erase the continued existence of the brands on the left.
The pink haired BJD is a Fairyland model (I can't tell you the name because I've never liked Fairyland much. Their aesthetic is just not for me.) and the brown haired one might be an Angel of Dream or perhaps Doll Leaves or another brand with that catch-all basic aesthetic.
The dolls on the right are one of those fast and loose new brands that pop up, do some "mystery boxes" cheaply produced BJDs, and disappear.
#like gurl dont test me#literally nothing happened all the household names still sell BJDs as always#you can literally go to idk Dollzone's site and see for yourself#in fact I do have a Dollzone BJD. Just the body though.#if you arent in the BJD community you might not know this but hybrids (body from a different company than the head)#are actually not very common. For several reasons; for example resin colour differences between companies;#the risk of not being able to sell the doll if you dont bond with it since the only people who'll want it will be other people who make#hybrids. plus a lot of companies dont even sell their bodies separately so youd have to either group with someone else and buy#a BJD together but one would keep the body and the other the head (this is a very difficult process) or youd have to#find a seller whos selling their doll and is willing to sell the body and the head separately. which you usually wont.#because theyre aware that the only ones interested in just the head or the body would be hybrid makers.#its a cycle#but anyway yeah household names still operate like gurl what the fuck are you talking about#what kind of clickbait ass title and thumbnail is that
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I get that bedard is a big deal but if I could never have to see the Blackhawks logo again I would die happy
#what happened to 'they arent dead theyre just on the hawks'#we dont support the hawks in this household!#we used to trigger warning for the hawks.......#chatter#fandom wank#like i feel bad for the kid but sorry while hes on that team i dont care!#only one player has ever broken that distaste for me and i still never watched a single game he played while on that team lol#only followed his stats#like bedard should not have been able to even be drafted by them!!! the fact they were allowed back in the first round and also were able#to get first overall!! so soon after!!#honestly smells fishy
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jayunki biased !! part of your lineup !! fuck your mental health just bias jake !!
for legal reasons this is a joke, i care very very much about your mental health however it's very funny to see you go through all 5 stages of grief whenever you see jake
hey open the door real quick i gotta show you something
#only jayki#NO OTHERS ALLOWED#N O T part of my lineup#in fact! that's hanna's man soooo....#the way this is a monthly debate in our household now smh#never reblogging anything jake related EVER AGAIN /j#I DO NOT GO THROUGH THE 5 STAGES OF GRIEF#I JUST FEEL A VERY SPECIFIC WAY TOWARDS HIM THAT I CANNOT EXPLAIN#PROBABLY BC HE'S THE REASON I'M EVEN IN THIS FANDOM#IT'S NOT MY FAULT!!!#I DO NOT TRIPLE BIAS#I DONT EVEN LIKE DOUBLE BIASING#SMH#my soulmate#snail mail
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i hate how the cheapest and most filling lunch item i can get at work is the fried deli food. less than $3 to keep me fed for the entire day vs $7-8 sandwich or $6-8 salad
#i only do it once a week but what do i do for the rest of it? $10 total lunch because i get an energy drink too. fucking hell#im so like. not having money. i dont have money to do shit but hey my brother#is opening a bank account today and isnt expected to pay household expenses#and while i knew this would happen it doesnt change the fact that im so fucking resentful about it#and he only has a part time job or whatever but he can use all the money he makes. and doesnt have to use it all on the family#and ofc he's using it more for school expenses whatever but if he doesnt have it? i have to pay anyways??#i have! no savings! and i cant save! because we need all of it!!#im tearing my hair out e_e#mara's shit#sorry for ranting#also i cant 'make my lunch and take it in' bc adhd makes it Literally Impossible
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Sorry I'm saying it Hazbin Hotel is lackluster
#hazbin hotel#I would really like to know why they only got four episode#the amination character design and voice acting was good#but the fact that it had four episodes hurt the story a lot#Speaking of voice acting interesting that the whole pilot cast was changed for actors that more household and more famous#but i'm keeping my opinions about that to myself#Honestly have a lot of thoughts on Hazbin hotel that no one would like#hazbin#don't get me started on the musical element#that's the a personal thing tho#elfboyeros
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