#one thing about my granny is that
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Did I just have two fish’s heads for dinner? Yes, I did and it was soooo damn good with the tomato sauce and the boiled veggies with vinegar.
The eyes weren’t to my taste, but that’s what you get with mackerels. However, the general area of the cranium was so fatty and juicy, I almost cried.
#one thing about my granny is that#she knows how to season a fish#and make a mean tomato sauce#portuguese food#portuguese#dinner#fish#ramblings
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🤡 ⭐️ funny little cardigan 🌙 ❤️
maybe I'll actually dress up and style an outfit or something
#bo posting#my art#crochet#granny square#FINALLY TOOK BETTER PICTURES!!!!!!!!! AUGH#im still unbelievably proud of this#enjoy me never shutting up about it#its the first thing ive finished.... in months#and i feel like crying#ive been so envious of everyone around me being able to even hold a pen#and i had to chanel my creativity elsewhere and that was in this and this only#i was tired and felt guilty for how sick it made me feel to be in artistic spaces#or seeing my friends draw#like??? unproductive. helps no one?? 🗞💥🧠#so this was my solution#its the only creative thing thats made me happy in a long time#its the only creative thing that ive done for myself lately too#doing something creatively for other people has been hard#wahhhhhhh#i want to put my creative energy ive put into crochet into more things. i dont like how hard thats been#idky i havent been able to talk about it#like articulating it properly is one thing but like? never... even tried#i think it hit when it was the only thing i could tell my therapist that i could do that made me happy rn#the only expectations were my own#wow i did NOT intend to vent but hey thanks for reading 💏💖💋💞
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sometimes I forget that my experience has been. um. not 'your experiences are not universal' vibes but more like 'your experiences are EXTREMELY atypical'
#red said#recent events have reminded me that my life has involved like. a LOT of other people's psychosis#like not in a way where i have been Beset By Terrifying Crazies bc that's not like. a thing.#but a lot of people in my life have had a lot of really severe psychotic episodes#and i FORGET sometimes. that actually that is an Unusual Amount Of Experience With Psychosis for someone who's not#for somebody who has not really personally ever had psychotic episodes (unless severe PTSD flashbacks count)#actually i tell a lie i have maybe had One psychotic episode but because it was very situational and i knew what was happening#i was able to ride it out. because i am literally only psychotic Inside Hospitals and so that's all fine#as long as i LITERALLY NEVER HAVE TO HAVE INPATIENT CARE. Very important to me to never ever ever require surgery i think.#i can handle the amount of psychosis i get from a 1-4 hour stopoff in hospital#as long as i know I'm leaving soon then i can just Cope with the fact that the walls are moving and reality is thin#ANYWAY that's not the point the point is i forget! that most ppl i know have experience of at most a handful of severe psychotic episodes#some people i know have experienced more for sure. especially if the episodes were mostly theirs.#but people really seem to expect me to be more freaked out by their symptoms of psychosis than i am#bc i don't think i really register it as frightening unless they're in actual danger or Currently Aggressing Actually At Me#like i WORRY about them bc it can super suck but it's not SHOCKING or WEIRD#there have definitely been times ive been frightened. one time i woke up in the night and my friend was standing over me with a knife#but also like he was still HIM he was just having a moment. and as soon as i got the knife off him he just came back and broke down.#and we were fine and he was safe and i learnt the valuable lesson that even when people seem like they wanna kill you they probably don't#tbf now I'm thinking about it it's honestly a tossup whether he was there to threaten or because he felt a need to guard us#like to be clear probably don't try and take a knife off someone having a psychotic break. i was 17 and it was 3am and i knew him very well#i probably did not make the smartest call but nobody got hurt is the point#anyway you know there's that kind of psychotic episode and my granny got very violently angry a few times. buuuut you know there's also#been plenty of other times I've been with somebody having an episode and it's been chill as hell.#my ex saw and heard monsters so much that eventually she just got sick of being scared. we used to watch TV with them#i would sometimes have to sit on a bit of sofa that wasn't haunted and we might not be able to watch certain things bc they didn't like it#most of the time she was hallucinating there was absolutely nothing to worry about we just had a few extra variables#honestly of everyone i know who's had psychotic episodes or schizophrenia the amount of times it's been a material risk#is like. low single figures? maybe low double if you include self harm but idk what the cause and effect is there.#idk why you would need to be frightened like 99.99% of the time it truly is usually just Oh No That Seems Distressing For You I'm Sorry
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So, I have been in a very long, very hot shower because I hurt like a bitch, and I think I have narrowed down the basis of my major whump pet peeve, and I'm going to be using my pet fav series Word of Honor to do it.
You cannot survive sustained/chronic/severe pain if you don't develop a relationship with it. The first couple episodes of Word of Honor aren't about Zhou Zishu x Wen Kexing, they're about Zhou Zishu x Zhou Zishu's pain/condition. And that latter relationship continues to evolve and stay at the forefront on a parallel path to the development of the former.
He saddles himself with this thing as penance, because when he makes that decision, he believes that being crippled is "a fate worse than death." And then he goes on living, and discovers that life goes on, so he makes an increasingly-less-guarded peace with it. So when he meets Wen Kexing and Gu Xiang, he's doing his own thing, enjoying the good parts of what remains of his life even though his condition remains at the forefront, and will for the rest of the series. He's integrated it into his life to such an extent that Gu Xiang readily dubs him "Sick Man."*
That's what gets my goat every time: whumpees that aren't allowed to develop a relationship with their pain and are instead thrust into relationships with "caretakers" who don't do much more than provide warm blankets and snuggles and therapy-approved conversation on demand, and be "heartbroken" over how broken and pathetic the whumpee is in their eyes. Because the reality is that the relationship with pain has to be established before any other relationships can go anywhere.
Pain/illness kills relationships. People leave. They just do. It becomes too much of a bother to make changes to their own lives, and they jet.** And it's just you and your pain/condition until you can find the few truly good people who will give you love and reasonable help. You have to develop a relationship with it. It's your new roommate for the rest of your life.
You and your pain are going to be in the wars. You're going to get mad and scream and throw things at it. You're going to resent it for being the only one who's there with you every day. You're going to think about all the shit you can't do anymore, and you'll be frustrated to tears.
But eventually - if you're allowed - you make peace. You stop hating your roommate for holding you back from parties, you just find someone who can drive you home, or stay in with you. You'll find other people who have the same kind of roommate, and then you'll all get along.
And if you are very, very, galactically, fictionally lucky, you find a partner who will help you stand your ground against life and what your roommate pain has made of it. This is what happens in Word of Honor.
Wen Kexing is by no stretch Zhou Zishu's perma-caretaker, or "Caretaker" in the sense that plagues new wave whump. But he cares, and offers what help he can, when he can, without hovering and without kid gloves. He looks for a cure earnestly but without coddling or pitying Zhou Zishu for being a Sick Man. It's a more honest and realistic portrayal of someone ill/disabled and someone not who loves them than I've seen anywhere else.
My relationship with my pain is ongoing and continues to evolve. It takes things from me, but it gives me things, too. My love of whump, the Pain Genre, is one of those things. Whenever my pain spikes like this, my tolerance for fluff in the whump zone plummets, so just know that whenever you get ornery meta from me, my pain and I are sitting around having wine (gingerbeer, can't have wine with the new meds, thanks a lot pain) and bitching.
The reason there's no good chronic pain rep outside of WOH is that characters are not being allowed to develop relationships with their pain, and are only allowed to have relationships with other things and people, and those relationships are inevitably trainwrecks, or insultingly unrealistic and saccharine, because an entire segment of the character's life and personality and identity is being masked or exploited instead of embraced. So let your whumpee have a relationship with their pain/conditions/traumas. Chronic pain/illness havers the world over will thank you.
#granny fish on the warpath again#hopefully in an articulate way this round#*I've talked about this before but it's one of my fav things abt the series#it's not pejorative at all#she recognizes his advanced kung fu#and the fact that he has been and for the most part still can take care of himself#he's just a Sick Man#and it's fine#**i know a lot of people whose illnesses/disabilities hit critical mass out of nowhere#i only know one whose partner didn't decide it was too much effort and leave#whump#whump community#whump scenario#whump prompts#whump tropes#whumpee#whumpblr#writing#whump writing#whump reference#writing reference#chronic pain#writing chronic pain#caretaker#whumpee x caretaker#hurt/comfort#which is what most of new wave “whump” is#it's just mislabeled#whump is about the whumpee and their struggle#not the caretaker and how heartbroken and squishy and perfect they are
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new Mainstream Big Hit shounen anime so bad it makes me wish gege didnt end jjk so it could continue its popularity reign forever
#this post is about d/andadan specifically#im. So Mad at it and its popularity that it makes me appriciate things im not even a fan of but didnt do All That#shows like this that become no.1 most popular of the season and top 3 of the year (most likely) is why anime will never#not be considered cringe#it wants to be edgy “”“adult”“” mob psycho so bad. and while the animation is good it is vulgar and tasteless and just. god#for the blissfully unaware: aliens want to impregnate the main girl and steal her uterus (and vagina?)#while the turbo granny ghost constantly offers to suck off the main boy and then straight up steals his dick#in episode one.#they are both high schoolers of course.#i was watching a yter react to it and he couldnt even show certain parts from the anime. how is that shounen demography appropriate?#anyway. im sorry i thought ranting to my dear mutual would be enough to satiate my anger but its popularity rekindled it#i'd continue watching jjk if that would guarantee that it wipes d/andadan from the face of the earth.
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#Another reason why bunny is one of my absolute favorite characters of BLverse#i like the found family and good friend group. and good for them for seeking advice from each other#but usually it's just dumb leading the dumber#so when characters are asking for help from their families its warming my heart#Mork with gay uncles Chub with his granny Daonuea with his brother#i just think it's so precious#also when normally there some metaphors or things being implied but Kao just straight up calling his mom about his boyfriend-to-be moving a#love him#Oxygen The Series#ดั่งลมหายใจ#Gabriel makes stuff#Kao Ashira#P'Phu`s Bunny#Boss Thanabat#Phu x Kao#PhuKao#Thai BL#Thai series#Thai Drama#BL Drama#BL series
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childhood was just a long series of adults being like "don't judge a book by its cover!" and "treat others the way you want to be treated!" and then turning around and making the wildest snap judgments about people based on TINY amounts of information and expecting you to agree
#just remembered when i was like 12 and i was with a friend and her grandma#and i mentioned another friend and how she was already counting the days until she could go to college#and my friend's grandma was like 'well she sounds like a spoiled brat' and i was like UM?? HELLO??#like slow your roll granny you have not even MET this girl#you know a grand total of one thing about her#and like?? for all she knew my friend's parents could've been abusive or something??#they weren't to be clear. my friend just really wanted to skip to adulthood.#which is like. a normal ass thing for a 12 year old to want?? to be independent and grown up??#also being 12 - 17 sucks of course everyone looks forward to what comes after#this was nearly 15 years ago and i am still lowkey mad about how quickly my friend's grandma (who was otherwise a nice woman)#just immediately decided my friend was ungrateful and spoiled#AGAIN. HAD NOT EVEN MET HER.
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well thats fucking awful 😭
#kate middleton#sweet kate 😭❤️#without speculating about kate's specific diagnosis BUT as a relative to someone who was struck by this out of the blue last summer:#PLEASE don't let embarrassment get in the way of getting checked for bowel cancer#as someone who works in healthcare talking about bowel movements and feces is SUCH an everyday thing for us#no one will bat an eye if you go see your doctor or the hospital about changes in your stool or pain or bleeding or whatever#no one will think it's funny or embarrassing#instead it can save your life#take it from my granny: the worst thing about a colonoscopy is the laxatives you take for prep ❤️#please see a doctor for: 1. blood in your stool or from the rectum 2. long-lasting changes to your regular pattern of bowel movements#3. unexplained weight-loss 4. unexplained pain in your stomach that doesn't go away 5. any time of lump in your stomach (anywhere really)#6. unexplained tiredness and 7. a feeling that you don't empty your bowels completely#text
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I thought today was a good one..
#just some vent art idk#vent#vent art#...........................................................................................................................................#............................................................................................................................................#the initial start was unclear#i got ready for my class like usual and my dad's mood was entirely unreadable#usually in these situations i have an internal debate thats goes something like#“is he in a good mood? is he in a bad one? is his eye irritated again? maybe he's still waking up?”#its a 50/50 kinda deal#sometimes he's emotionless until right when im dropped off and he says “have a good day! love you!” in his nice way#today there was nothing#i just got out of the truck and just as i was closing the door i barely heard a “love you” in a monotone voice#i thought nothing of it bc i did some work before class and my mood lightened#afterwards i went to the lounge and they were doing another event thing that offered free food if you did it#the food was greek food so i figured it wouldnt hurt. i got the food#it was awesome ngl and it really made my day better#then dad picked me up....#he was still unreadable but i could tell his patience was low just by the way he was driving#its crazy and kinda sad that i can immediately tell what mood he's in even through the most mundane change#but about 5 minutes into the ride my mind was a racing mess. i kept asking questions#trying to gauge what mood he's in. he wasn't projecting or groaning like he usually does so o figured maybe he's just wanting to get home#to my surprise we didn't immediately gi home: we went to his old work (family owned business)#when we got there I can't describe the relief i felt to be with other people. especially my grandmother#i did some refund stuff while we were there. dad also seemed to lighten up and things seemed fine#but when we got back in the truck it was back to being tense. we still didn't go home- we went to the bank so he could cash a check#but otw there he mentioned his birthday is this Saturday. i said i knew and that I'd be happy to spend the day with him if he had something#planned. bc id loke to spend time with him on his bday instead of my Granny's Halloween party (which i still enjoy but yknow.. dad)#there's an awkward silence and then he just goes “i guess based off your silence you're not interested in what i have planned for my birth-#day?“ perplexed i said ”i am- im just waiting for you to tell me“
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Been thinking lately about the term Anglo-Irish. Specifically in the context of notable historical figures such as Oscar Wilde, J. M. Synge, W. B. Yeats, Bram Stoker, Jonathan Swift, Maria Edgeworth, and so many others. We’re so quick to claim that they’re not British that they’re Irish, but it’s not as straight forward as that is it? The same issue arises with notable Northern Irish people. Sometimes it’s clear if they identify as British or Irish, but not always.
Obviously we want to claim the brillance of Anglo-Irish people in history because they came from our home and that is important. But on the other hand, the Anglo-Irish were the ones making waves because of that privilege. That is important too. The Anglo-Irish - as a whole - were generally better off and a higher class than the general Irish population. That can’t be ignored. They become well known and influential outside of Ireland because they have the money and the connections to do that. Many other Irish people were probably as talented but just didn’t get the chance.
A lot of the notable Anglo-Irish people did go over to England and prosper there, which is probably part of the reason that people call them British. But even if their families were well off english landlord types, a lot of them were raised in ireland and that matters.
Wikipedia says
The Anglo-Irish novelist and short story writer Elizabeth Bowen memorably described her experience as feeling "English in Ireland, Irish in England" and not accepted fully as belonging to either.
Many Irish people today have family in the UK. Many of my peers have one British parent or grandparent, myself included. While the countries are separate places and should be treated as such, the people are still messy. I was born in England to an English mother and an English-born Irish father then raised in Ireland. Up until I was 15 or 16 I was a British citizen, then I was imported and now all my documentation says I’m Irish. I don’t consider myself English or British at all. And today, that distinction doesn’t really make much difference. I’m not any better or worse than my neighbours whose family have lived and died in the same area for generations. But historically, for these notable Anglo-Irish people, that distinction did make a difference.
#this has been in my drafts since….9th of may 20222#I know I had a really interesting conversation about the term Anglo Irish and specifically bram stoker and dracula with fiona at the bus#station and I promised them I would write more about what we’d said#but I forgot and this draft has sat here ever since. untouched.#so you get this half thought#please do feel free to add on to it! I would love to hear other people’s thoughts on the term anglo-irish and their domination of the arts#other things too but those were what I was focusing on in a historical context#my own post#ireland#Anglo-Irish#irish#it’s probably more poignant now that I am living in the uk#and interestingly how many people i have met over here who have one irish grandparent and how many irish people my granny knows#who have never lived long term in ireland. people like my father whose parents left home in search of work and settled in the uk
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Oh c'mon devs, don't torture everyone by accidentally releasing unfinished assets into the live game.
#this is literally the first thing that popped up when i went to move a painting in my stronghold lol#i nearly did a spit take seeing the granny date night placquard#i wonder if they're going to be this small when we actually get them#either way i'll cherish all of mine forever#all one of them because (with the exception of ben) i cannot remember to play anyone but a grey or grey clone to save my life#hashtag oops#although technically now that there's an asset in game#even one they didn't intend to release#that means the date nights are technically no longer in datamining#so now we can't get in trouble for talking about datamined stuff#the game breaks the game#swtor spoilers#I GUESS#grey's silly swtor tag
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#in a strange place today and i need to put this somewhere. i do not have a journal yet. this is it#my grandad was diagnosed with dementia years ago and the grandad i have now is often unrecognisable from the one i grew up with#and while this like isn’t fun and it is strange for him to look at me and not know me more times than he does. it has also been kind of l#lovely?#bc he thinks my granny is still alive so whenever i get to go see him i get to pretend she is too. and she is for a minute. and tho i am#glad she went before him. it is nice to say oh i’m popping in to see her after this grandad and talk about her like she’s hasn’t been gone#since i’ve been ten. my dad has spoken more to him in the last five years than he has his whole life#he was not an easy man. he was loud and friendly and hard working and funny and scary but not easy. in ways he is even#harder now. in others he is easier.#he is more of a child. this is what dementia can do to a brain. we are learning things about his childhood that no one alive has ever spoken#about. that no one knew. my dad doesn’t love him more now but he understands him better#my grandad taught me how to drive a tractor and how to fish through my dad and he has not recognised me in over a year and he#hasn’t walked since he broke his pelvis seven years ago and his muscles are nearly all gone. he is a fraction of the size he used to be. his#personality and body took up my childhood like adults on the screen in cartoons. he hasn’t dressed himself in a decade. he told one of the#nurses that after dinner he wanted ice cream plain like herself and nearly peed when she laughed and told him to fuck off#he is in there. he is himself. i know him. but he isn’t. he doesn’t know me but he allows me to tell him how to ppl he knows are doing. he#still somehow trusts me. we talk a lot about my granny and how she stayed up watching tv again last night so she’s tired today. don’t stay#long when you call in to see her?#whenever we would journey to see him and my granny and get in v late he’d ask us if we wanted apple tart and my granny would say michael.#not ur kids. u can’t parent them. he didn’t know my name yesterday but he asked me if i wanted apple tart#i hope he dies soon. for all that i will miss this. miss my dad having this. he would not want to live like this. it wouldntbe living to him
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OOF it's been a while since I've had a nightmare visceral enough to wake me up from a dead sleep into straight terror... But I guess I shouldn't have underestimated how much my brain would pick up from a podcast Teirlisting Horror Games. .....
(I go on to describe the dream in the tags so watch out if you don't want to hear descriptions of the horrors my brain can cook up.. cw Body Horror mostly)
#monster noises#I thought it would be Fine because they weren't Playing the Games or Experiencing the Narrative#but i guess they were talking about Enough details and things my brain already knew that the Terror Machine that runs my sleep was like#OHOHOHO..... Ingredience#the Idea was i was playing a video game level but i was In the POV#and at first it was just a creepy apartment#but then weird ghost kids started showing up and i had to get them all#which was more annoying than scary until one of them dislocated several joints and started Yelling#and the quickly the lights were out and i had a flashlight and I had to hide from this monster called 'The Granny'#and it mechanically it was one of those things that can't see but Can hear but it also had like Seeking Tendrils#and I was attempting to hide under a table but i couldn t get under fast enough without making a bunch of noise#and the tendrils coming in way too close#and then it Screamed and started after me but i was stuck under the table and had to try and blindly back up to the door#while crouch-carrying the table#and the tension and fear of that experience was so high i shot awake in complete fear with my heart Pounding#and it's still not back to like.. level#but like truly this thing was Awful#very well could have been an official silent hill creature#the opposite of when you wake up in terror from a dream and the thing you were afraid of was actually pretty ridiculous#you wake up from seeing this thing and go 'alright yeah okay that's fair i'm Fully also afraid of that'#it's like#.. a desecated large human head#on the end of neck like a snake's body#but it's just bones and bits of driedout flesh#and it's body a jumbled mass of bones and sinews with long distinct skinless dried out limbs coming out of it#that it pawed along low to the ground with#the whole thing was drapped in a filthy shroud and coloured this dark dark tan#like Mummy Colour#i'm sure you know what I mean#but it was Awful
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My toxic trait is that I really love fiber arts: I love to crochet, I think handspun yarn is the coolest shit, I'm seriously considering trying wet felting someday,
But none of it fits my clothing style outside of maybe the occasional scarf or bag (tho I much prefer backpacks, so even that is shaky), sofrom the outside I still just look like I have no appreciation for handmade clothes and am all about fast fashion
#chatter tag#this is both an issue of feeling self conscious about it#and of never getting the joy of wearing stuff i made myself bc i dont like how that stuff looks on me!#i dont make clothes partially bc of that and partially bc they take really long for me to make#shawls are the farthest i go bc i like the look of them as art pieces#anyway my specific brand of insanity is just incompatible with my wardrobe of button ups/waistcoats/hoodies/beach shorts#and i dont need any more scarves! or a tote bag! i already have a tote bag its rainbow and my mum got it for me#also backpack supremacy#if one hand is holding a cane and the other hand is holding sunshines hand where am i supposed to put a bag :(#anyway. maybe someday ill make a big granny square cardigan/coat bc thats the like one crochet garment that appeals to me#howl movingcastle ass gender#but like. that is the full extent of it unfortunately#sigh okay ive just been binging a lot of jillianeve and mijn wolden videos and their joy is making me yearn#about many things
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My Instagram rn is 97% silly little animal videos 3% the 1975, chappell and charli
#theres this one really funny rabbit account me and my friend love its so funny 😭😭#they add like opera sounds to it or like num num num omg its one of the best things ever#i sound like my granny if she was on about Facebook omfg#and the 75 chappell and charli is self explanatory#katie talks alot#chappell roan#the 1975#charli xcx
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I am watching MLP
Can they stop making those ponies cry
#AJ got a little too ambitious and busted down the entire barn#yes I'm only in season 3#don't judge me#mlp#my stuff#''Oh. Granny Smith. here you let me be in charge of creating great memories.#and the only thing anypony's gonna remember about this reunion is that it was the worst one we ever had''#STOP THAT#DO YOU WANT ME TO SUFFER
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