#object permanence......... or smth

[steeltwigz]

It makes me really happy when character blogs interact w my stuff lmaoo. Hello Steven Cobs from Inanimate Insanity

[animemusicbrackets]

guys im sorry but for the prelims at least its just gonna be the videos. if you get youtube regional restricted sorry theres nothing i can do bc uploading all these songs onto the audio function is a pain in my ass. i'll try the audio again for the actual bracket when i dont have to upload that much, maybe it will stop its hissy fit by then. but for now its gonna be video only.

FIGHTINHG FOR MY FUCKING LIFE. LITERALLY NONE OF THE CHILDREN RECORD MP3S ARE LOADING ONTO TUMBLR

[crowshoots]

actual footage of me figuring out how to translate parts of the crows' arcs into pjo universe

[vampirebutterflies]

listen ‘ere boy there is a voice in ur head telling u ur fine and you don’t need to go to therapy tomorrow and that voice is a f u c k i n g liar don’t listen to it boy don’t fuckin’ listen to that rat ass bastard it does NOT have ur best interests at heart

[orcelito]

that one bookmark is gone and on one hand im glad i dont have to see it anymore but on the other hand im a little embarrassed at the thought of them having seen me have a whole mini spiral about it at like 5 am. like sorry random person ig

[shoel4ced]

i don’t think about you unless you’re in front of me. frost hugs the witching hour and breaks across your tongue. it takes to my eyes like my eyes take to you. tasting of cherry syrup and chest pains, my medicine goes down like my favorite song over the pa system. you are a side effect. unintended. a statistical outlier i’ll have to live with. what i can control, i rule with an iron fist. and what i can’t corrodes me to dirt. i don’t think about anything unless it’s in front of me. you aren’t special.

[lesbianlenas]

your post about not having any lesbian friends was right under a post someone else made complaining about someone posting on tumblr lying about how they have no lesbian friends. I doubt it’s about you being you’re not a ****** but the timing was funny

lol well i was also not lying 😭 i mean i have made online friends who were lesbians but the original ask was asking why i don’t date “one of my many lesbian friends” & i have said before a million times that i wouldn’t do a long distance relationship so i was only talking abt ppl that i know personally in real life as in like that i could text to get ice cream w me rn if i wanted to ykwim……also i did have a lesbian friend before covid but she graduated & moved away & i didn’t even bother including her in that response either bc i was talking abt currently so 😩 also how do u know i’m not that i could be……i contain multitudes

[oddogoblino]

DJSJDJDJ HELL YEAH!!! GOBLINO SUPPORT!!

If no one got me I know @oddogoblino got me /silly /aff

[enden-k]

I got a bit of a confession to make. Objectively funny thing, I have found myself measuring a character by the "Would compete against a plushie version of themselves for attention" metric ever since the Saran thing happened

I know the plushie ain't supposed to be a permanent feature (and i apologize if you are tired of seeing asks about it by now!) but could we please get a doodle/sketch of the plushie by itself? It's so cute. I get why Saran sometimes loses against it in the canon pocket it exists within

tbh since ppl like the octoplushie and sarans rivalry sm im considering adding it to canon like. to any scenes taking place im vikas bedroom, u might see the lil octoplushie in the bg or smth hsdahjh

[cripplecharacters]

Hi! I'm making a character who uses a cane for stability as they're often dizzy / unstable and in pain when walking too long or simply standing without something to lean on, especially in certain warmer conditions ( haven't yet figured out the specifics, mainly just basing how their symptoms are shown using myself lol ), and I was wondering what sort of cane related side effects(?) I should be aware of for this character ?? I've never used a cane myself, but I still want the character to seem realistic in a " this character utilizes their mobility aid realistically and for necessity other than physical injury, and using it has after effects because it's not a 100% fix-all, they're not just a character who happens to have a cane for diversity points " I suppose ??

Maybe just things like they get sweaty palms after a while and it effects grip ( is that a thing ?? ) or their shoulder might ache if they lean on only one arm for too long ( again, listing these for examples that could make sense / make sense in theory, not sure if these are smth that can actually happen ? ), etc !! Just things I should maybe consider to make them feel more real and also to more accurately represent cane usage, etc ( I also want to mention they're quite clumsy, but more of difficulty memorizing where things are placed / ADHD related bad object permanence than general clumsiness, yk. So maybe they bump into things with it or even misplace their cane a lot ?? Is there any issues with this ?? )

Thanks so much in advance for your response !

Hi!

As a cane user, here are some suggestions on showing issues that come with using a cane;

Sweaty palms in the summer, freezing in the winter. To help with the latter, some will wear gloves, others might switch hands to warm the cold one up (in their pockets, or in their partner's hand :) ).

Shoulder can ache, same for the actual hand if they're like me and grip the handle way harder than they need to. Your character might have to stretch their arm if they're using their cane for a long time.

If they use it for dizziness then they could switch it from side to side to prevent a lot of the above. Most people without coordination problems prefer to hold it in their non-dominant hand but if their shoulder hurts then they would probably switch if that's an option.

The character now only has one hand to do stuff with. This slows stuff down and somewhat affects clothing choices (e.g., a bag that goes on the side of the free hand is easier to use than a backpack). Eating most things is harder when walking, if they wear glasses, good luck cleaning them with one hand etc.

In a warmer climate specifically (since you mentioned it) good luck getting all the mosquitos away from you with only one hand.

Sometimes you can kick your cane out of your hand, and it sucks. I actually don't know if this happens to anyone else other than me since I haven't seen it mentioned much by other users but if your character's cane-side leg is strong then this is a possibility.

Sometimes (but feels like always) the cane is affected by evil forces (gravity) when you lean it against something, and it's annoying to deal with. It can be easier to just hold it between their legs if they're sitting down.

Because of this I might ask someone I'm with to hold my cane when I go to the bathroom. You don't want the handle hitting the floor. (If your character can't go without their cane then disregard this, obviously.)

Everyone bumps into things at the start. Usually you learn how big your new hitbox is with time, but it can still happen once in a while, especially if they deal with dizziness or vertigo. You can also misjudge distances and accidentally put the end of the cane off the sidewalk and that can make you trip.

You can also put it in a Mysterious Crevice (always invisible), and it can range from being mildly annoying to really scary. It can also make you trip.

The tip of the cane needs to be replaced once in a while. If your character uses their cane daily, walks a lot, and puts a lot of weight on it, they will need to do it more often.

If they get dizzy often then a wrist strap (exactly what it sounds like) would probably be good so that they don't drop it when getting up, etc.

Cane doesn't get rid of all the symptoms, it just makes walking easier/safer. If your character has issues with stability then they probably aren't gonna be running around just because they have a cane.

And, obviously, annoying people. Arguably the biggest issue when it comes to using a cane. It obviously depends on what setting the character is in, but random ableism encounters are unfortunately a part of the experience. It absolutely doesn't have to be some sort of hate crime (!!!!), including a microaggression here and there ("What happened to you?", "I'll pray for you", "Why are you using this?" etc. unprompted) is enough if your story aims for realism but doesn't focus on ableism.

I don't have ADHD and can't really speak on how that would affect anything, so I will leave it to other mods who actually have relevant experience. Hope this helps!

mod Sasza

Hello!

Oh, the perils of ADHD and a cane. I leave my cane laying around all the time at home and end up tripping over it at least twice a day. Admittedly, this could also be impacted by my low vision.

Other ways my ADHD interacts with my cane usage:

Forgetting to change the tip until it's basically flat and I'm faceplanting all the time.

Terrible sense of spatial awareness. I do kick my cane out from under me occasionally but I also miss a step very often, smack into pillars or counters or chairs fairly frequently (Either with my cane or my body), and just generally make a nuisance of myself in tightly packed spaces.

I live in a very small flat and tend to use my counters and walls more for support than my cane when I'm home so I am ALWAYS leaving it propped up somewhere and forgetting where.

Fidgeting by picking at the stickers I have on it and also picking at the wood of the handle. Also by pressing in the 'buttons' for adjusting the height.

Another spatial awareness issue: I have an ice attachment on mine because I live in the frigid lands of Canada and I am constantly kicking it when I walk. I imagine this would be a similar problem with any other attachments.

Terrible impulse control often leads to me getting stuck places because I'm able to easily get there but getting out/down/up from wherever it is is more difficult and didn't cross my mind. For example, the other day I went up a steep hill in the forest and was able to do it just fine but couldn't get down easily on my own (Eventually I ended up just butt-scooching down rather than risking a fall).

Mod Sasza covered a lot of the general cane-usage issues but just to add a few more that I encounter:

The crevice thing is a real pain and if your character lives somewhere with street cars, it can be really scary to cross the road. I always have to alternate between looking down so I don't get my cane tip caught in the tracks and looking around so I don't get hit by an impatient driver.

I can't go without my cane in the washroom so something I do is have hand sanitizer on me constantly (As well as disinfectant wipes if I can). It helps to kind of clean my hands a bit before I grab my cane again and it also helps if I do end up dropping it on the floor.

Adding onto the ableism issue: I frequently encounter able bodied people using things such as the accessible seating on public transport, accessible washrooms/stalls, ramps, etc. when there are other options for them available. This is the biggest problem for me when I go out.

This may be specific to my cane but I find that whenever I fold it up (It's collapsible) or adjust the height, I end up with grease on my hands which is a bit annoying.

The height! That's another thing. If your character uses their cane indoors and outdoors, they may need to adjust the height frequently. The other reason I don't use my cane at home is because I wear heavy boots outside and would have to adjust it every time I take them off otherwise. That said, if their shoes are thin or don't give them much height, they may be fine without adjusting it.

Hopefully some of this is helpful!

Cheers,

~ Mod Icarus

[astxrwar]

me in the drafts rn at the multiple different asks that i saved and then 100% forgot about

I’m sorry if I made you mad with the ask 😣😖 about drops of blood Bucky not being villain .

AUGH NO YOU DIDN’T DW!!! i started typing up an answer when i was Sick and the words were simply not wording and then i completely forgot abt it in my drafts 😭😭

[not-me-underc0ver]

Peter being scared to touch any of his family for fear of hurting them with his spidey strength brain rot has taken over

Idk like maybe smth happens and peter accidentally hurts someone (not serious enough for the damage to be permanent or even a big deal for the person, but def serious enough for it to haunt peter) and no longer feels comfortable with "taking that risk" also known as trusting himself and his ability to hold back.

Or maybe it's not even someone..maybe it's just some object that he just unthinkingly crushes??? And then the 'omg what if-' thoughts creep in and suddenly he's spiraling and any time he even so much as thinks about it he just... freezes or smth idk

Bonus for irondad: tony just wants to know why peter is now only comfortable with touching him while he's in the armor.

Or: tony's iron man suit being the only thing keeping peter from going completely insane.

[night-market-if]

the infinite variances in the human experience are so fascinating to me, bc i've been obsessed w/ milo since i first started reading and to me it doesn't feel like it has anything to do with strength. i could no more resist this man than a sight hound can resist a fast moving object

like, as much as i love mal (and i do, sososo much, he makes my heart so full), smth abt milo makes me absolutely feral. idk what kinda catnip u put in him but i wanna chew on him 24/7. simultaneously activates my prey drive and my desire to wrap him in blankets and give him warm food

anyway thank u for sharing him with us, i think a version of him may have taken up permanent residence in my head (don't worry i would never dream of charging him rent) and i do spiral abt him on the regular (especially when i remember some of the patreon shorts 🥴). my heart explodes when i think abt milo with almost the same intensity as it does when i look at my cats. that is all

The idea of filling Milo up with catnip cracks me up. The fact that everyone compares him to a cat never ceases to amuse me either since the man does not like cats (mainly because of Billows). But yes, he is someone worth going feral over. I think Milo is the kind of person that if he could just get past his own self sabotaging ways, he could love someone so very fiercely.

[skaald-of-the-hearth-fires]

Knowing WHEN to info-dump is a very important skill for a writer. For example, everyone knows (I hope) not to do so in the first page, or even the first chapter. All you need to worry about there is communicating, "what are your characters names and genders, what is going on, and why your character cares" (e.g. "Logan is the Seraph Captain -> he's concerned with an invasion," or "X is Y's loved one -> Y being hurt is naturally distressing to X".)

But by a couple chapters in, your readers really do want to know a broader scope of going on and why, and more details about who is who, and will greatly appreciate a tactful, concise, and relevant sharing of information.

NOT giving the readers this info will 1) make them impatient to learn what you're hiding (which is good in moderation), 2) make it difficult for them to connect / relate to / care about the characters, which will lead to frustration and eventually abandoning the book, and 3) permanently limit YOUR ability to talk about the character, setting, plot, and why those things are important.

There's only so much you can convey in sentence fragments here and there: sometimes you really do need to take a paragraph and explain something, or have a quick flashback, or have a foil character ask a few questions, or have something trigger the MC's memory, or have the MC bask in a minor accomplishment while ruminating on why they wanted it in the first place and how it leads into bigger goals.

The TRICK with providing information is still to make it concise, though; more than a couple paragraphs without the MC or someone else doing or saying something (or without smth that doesn't immediately tie back to the moment at hand), but HOW concise depends on many factors.

Factors include: 1) where in the story you are (first couple chapters and last couple chapters are big "keep it quick and simple, or not at all"), 2) what your pacing looks like (PLEASE don't interrupt a battle with a flashback unless you're deliberately doing it as cliffhanger or smth: the character dodging, stabbing, and seeing like, an emblem or insignia with Personal HistoryTM is NOT the right time to infodump about the MC's history with a rival who isn't on the battlefield), and 3) how much you've teased /foreshadowed about this specific info already.

If the readers know there's something here and that it's important (bc it's impacted the plot already, such as a character having a PTSD response for no clear reason) they'll be a lot more willing to read a paragraph about it than if it's info that isn't immediately clearly relevant to the plot. (And no, "sees a random object and launch into flashback" isn't "clearly relevant." If X object reminds your MC of Y character, it better be a character I've heard about before, even if only in passing, or at least their role in the story. (And in that case, you clarify/remind the reader that this character has been referred to before.))

And the BEST thing you can do is tie emotions to what the character is seeing. Have your MC react emotionally and viscerally to a reminder of his past, a relationship, or the baffling way another character is handling a social situation. This works for foreshadowing / teasing infodumps as well as lead-ins or tie-ins to the actual information. If a character has an emotional reaction to a name and has to take a minute by himself, but never explains why? Instant interest from readers that you can then infodump about the next time that character comes up.

Another thing to do, that I mentioned earlier, is break up the infodump with actions, dialogue, or other plot things. This can't be filler stuff: like I said, emotional reactions are good for this, even - or especially - reactions they try to hide. (The MC trying to hide an emotion is a GREAT way to show an emotion if you're not otherwise sure how to do it / don't want it to impact what's going on at the moment.)

DON'T infodump the first time a character has an emotional reaction: let the reaction be mysterious. Let the character squeeze their eyes shut and mentally go "noooo I can't think about HER/[name]/event/group/location right now" - because that's an amazing excuse to not talk about it right then, PLUS building interest/tension for when you DO explain it.

If you can't find a way to bring the thing into the story multiple times before info-dumping about it, that means EITHER 1) its not actually that important to the plot and doesn't deserve a ton of info-dumping, OR 2) you need a whole scene centered on it. Knowing when to make your info a quick paragraph versus making a whole scene is important.

E.g. if your character has a trauma response? Have other characters who know the situation talk around/about it. Have a bully send stinging comments. Have a panic attack. Have your MC snap and start yelling their grievances to the world. Make it a prologue.

A great thing to do when you can't think of anything else? Make the info-dump a conversation between at least two people, if not more (depending on who they are + how close the MC is with them, etc). Then you have TWO people - ideally significant characters you've fleshed out prior to this scene - who can have emotional reactions. A friend getting mad on the MC's behalf. A therapist getting agitated. Someone going "Oh so THAT'S why XYZ said that weird thing earlier, WOW" or "whoa I never knew that" or "thanks for trusting me" or "I'm sorry I did XYZ thing to trigger you, I'll keep that in mind in the future" or, alternatively, "how could you hide this from me" or "that wasn't MY fault" or "I'm gonna tell everyone" or "do you want me to keep this secret" or a big one, "Oh wow that person did that to me too," or "I HATE when people do that, I have my own experience" and then you can have TWO infodumps.

And then have it affect their plans for the future, or clearly and explicitly change their relationship (e.g. apologizing for blowing up at them, or growing closer due to sharing secrets, or smth. A good tool here is to have the other character reciprocate the sharing by sharing their own secret.) Don't have it be, like, "okay I just wanted you to know" unless you then switch to the other person's PoV and have them being really shaken or having smth they need to do because of that info that maybe they hid from the other character.

If sharing this info doesn't automatically impact the plot, then either its not actually that relevant, or you need to find a better place to put the scene where it WILL affect the plot.

Most of all, though, you need that set-up->payoff timeline to make it work. The readers need to WANT this info. And remember, Chekhov's Gun applies here too: don't set-up something that never gets payoff, I promise your readers hate that. They want to KNOW, they want to be in the in-group, they'll get frustrated.

Now if your MC also does not know, you can alleviate this by having your MC be similarly frustrated, or anxious, or mad, or disappointed their friend won't trust them, or something else, because then your characters have a REASON for not knowing, AND they can relate to the MC on that basis and will cheer them on when the MC finally decides to track down that info, or when it's finally revealed.

I use "the MC is also confused" a LOT when something doesn't make sense or has to be explained later. This is reassuring to the reader, because then they know "Oh okay, the author KNOWS this is confusing and won't just leave it hanging, I'll get an explanation later." Whereas if you don't, there is a chance the reader will feel like they SHOULD have understood and they're dumb for not getting it. You never want your readers to feel dumb, because that's insulting and then they won't like your story.

Doing stuff like this to reassure your readers that You Know What You're Doing is especially true if you write fanfic and the readers can't be sure how good you actually are at writing until you show them.

Anyway, that's my random writer's advice post spawned by me being a writer and various frustrations I've had while reading. Let me know if you like this kind of post from me and I may do more!

[spocks-kaathyra]

well now I'm in the fish tank again. starting to think that the fact that I vascillate btwn these two states every ~5 days is an indication that my feelings do not accurately reflect my outside circumstances and that perhaps I am not as well adjusted as I thought. anyway why do I still feel alone and unloved despite doing everything right this time. what am I still doing wrong. I am generally well liked for the first time in my life but I still don't know how to build deeper relationships. when is it my turn to have a best friend

feeling very fish tank by june henry recently. u know it's bad when u start relating to a song that's also on ur garak playlist

[howling-nightmare]

Hi, am Nightmare ig.

These are my kintypes!

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Death (puss in boots)

Godzilla (more as of 2019 and up but I still identify with other years)

Jack Sparrow (potc)

Bill cipher (gf)

Jack skellington (tnbc)

Lolbit (FNAFSL)

withered Bonnie (FNAF2)

Ink demon (batim)

Boris (batim)

Figure (doors)

Tv object head

Smile dog

cartoon cat

Pinkie pie (mlp)

private (pom)

Sandworm (beetlejuice)

Wuss puss

Mackenzie vally wolf

Maned wolf

Cougar

Siberian tiger

Owl clado

Silverback

Borzoi

Ferret

Fenrir

Thunder kitsune (white)

Church grim

skeletal wolf

physical appearance plague doctor

Permanent werewolf

Black oriental cat

Wolf topia

Eastern coyote

Barbary lion

Mono

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Uhhh, I dunno what else to add

MOOTIES, I AM SORRY FOR TAGGING YOU ON A POST JUST TO SAY YOU ARE MY MOOTIES LMAO

@boltzthespooky @emovulture @cutebendy @meow-and-ink-demon @stinger-shot @jupejumble @murder-clown-around-town @mutedsybille and others that I can't remember the names of

THIS IS MY REQUEST DATA ECT!! I will close inbox if it gets overfilled with request or smth