#neurodivergiant

[ominaterthegreat]

My sister, who spent four years at Mailchimp, just got laid off yesterday. She called me sobbing to let me know she got the email. No amount of a fat severance package can fix the damage to her psyche this job did imo. Her birthday is coming up soon. So i made her this cake.

(i only decorate a cake like once every few years lol don't come for me)

She started in customer support, and sure enough was skilled and talented enough in apprenticeships with a higher up team in a different department that she was happily brought onto the team.

She ran events, improved entire workflows that saved the company thousands of dollars, delivered tasks on time and of high quality, and was highly praised by leaders of other teams and from those above her boss. She kicked ass and took names.

On that team, she spent two years experiencing bullying and discrimination for having ADHD. Yes, arguably the most common ND condition out there just about. She had to take 2 months off for mental health leave to get her ADHD diagnosis to defend herself from all the corporate bullying. She documented her boss literally making things up and her coworker refusing to communicate with her and then blaming her for things not being done how she wanted. They actively ignored all the times she went above and beyond expectations and all the times she did receive praise from other teams. I watched two corporate goons crush the confidence my sister had finally closed together for herself.

The CEO of Intuit called her and 1800 other employees that were laid off "low performers" in a public statement. A convenient 10% of Mailchimp was completely laid off. We knew this was coming because over the past year or so, Intuit has been forcing managers to label a specific percentage of people as "Does Not Meet Expectations" on year end reviews to justify letting people go, no matter how much they actually did meet expectations.

I look in the Intuit Mailchimp tags and only see one post about them Union busting. The only posts are just geared towards companies comparing and contrasting products and marketing strategies. Reddit isn't much better because the only sub on there is the official one modded by MC themselves. This isn't the biggest fire rn by any means but it's once again proof that the people behind these corporations are as soulless and evil as the corporations themselves. No matter how much good you do they will never appreciate you.

I hope the company eats shit and dies. Intuit is ruining everything people liked about MC, from the product to the culture. Fuck you.

[aroaceconfessions]

Being aroace has really made even being friends with allo people difficult, maybe amplified by the fact that I'm autistic and don't know how to navigate conversations that aren't about things I like/relate to. Like, so many conversations with my allo friend go back to him saying "Man, my luck with women sucks" and it almost always kills the conversation unless I find a way to change the topic bc I genuinely don't know how to respond to that lmao

Submitted June 12, 2023

[lifea16]

Vent : Rose Gold

In a world where Orange is the norm, I feel like I'm a Rose Gold

If you look at me as an Orange, you can easily tell the differences, even if you can't tell what is different about me, you can tell something is

I don't act 'Orange', I act like another color would, like a Yellow or Pink or some other color! But, I'm similar enough to Orange that most people in my daily life just assume I'm a weird shade.

At least the color mixer could identify it easily when I said I wanted help with my failings due to not being Orange. Shame my guilt of not being orange was the only thing motivating me to go to the color mixer, despite knowing for a while

But, when I'm surrounded by all the colors outside Orange, all the Pinks, Greens, Yellows, Reds, Purples, all so pretty, then I look back at me, I look so orange in comparison. Yet I'm the one who acts proud of their color, and who almost never writes Oranges. Shouldn't the other colors deserve to write their own stories?

Besides, Rose Gold is a complicated color, and isn't it basically Orange? At most it's probably like.. a Pinkish Yellow? It's very little difference. I should be able to handle living in an Orange world, I don't need to tell others I'm Rose Gold, right?

But.. I can't. I FUCKING CAN'T...

I only went to the color mixer because I kept failing to meet orange expectations, but I might just not be trying! When other colors deal with this they usually can, what's my excuse? I wish were able to be normal, to act orange. My closest is Gray, to shutdown.

But... I don't really act colorful either. I mean, I do, but I feel like I'm faking it, even though I'm not. Or maybe stuff I think is yellow is just a orange thing? Am I just using not being Orange as a crutch..? It sure feels like it sometimes....

[deathsdormantdaughter]

Good news everybody—submissions for Death’s Dormant Daughter will be open between September 15th 2023 and October 15th 2023! We are hopeful that we can fully support ourselves as a creative project this time around and will devote ourselves to releasing meaningful publications and share our mission of supporting those grieving and lonely with art representing their struggles.

We are looking for works of poetry, creative non-fiction, short stories and art. Please know there will be a reading fee of five dollars—until further notice we cannot afford to pay contributors—but we still need the reading fees to keep us afloat. Thank you for your patience at this time. It takes a great deal of labor, time, and money to run something efficiently and well.

We will always have free PDFs of the work we publish—but we are expanding into print editions too.

More information coming about the guidelines and vibe of this call for submissions in the next couple of weeks.

Best, the Editor, a.k.a Brie or B.A. or hellishrebukesystem,

Hope to see your work soon!

[impossible-rat-babies]

eating my own foot now ughgheughehghg

[katboykirby]

@nerdy-talks @diahsthings

I'll go ahead and make a new post just so that the already-long OP doesn't just keep getting longer and longer, haha

But thank you so, so much! 🥲 I appreciate all your kind words! 🙏and yes!! I also really love talking about and sharing this kind of stuff with other fans! sometimes I'm hesitant to share my collection because I'm worried it comes off as distasteful or humblebragging sob 😭

If you like seeing collections like this though, oh boy do I have a post for you ~

So it's almost impossible to include photos of the entire collection in a single Tumblr post because of the image limit 🙃 but I did squish a bunch of pictures together into collages a little while ago, which helps to give an idea of just the sheer scale of how my collection has consumed practically my entire house 🥲

If I'm forced to narrow it down to just a few of the biggest highlights, I'd say that the items Sumi-san and the other VAs signed for me are the collection pieces that I'm the most proud of ~

It was amazing to get to meet them, and talk to them. It's such an incredible VA team and we're lucky that OM has so many talented, hardworking people behind it ♡

The best I can do to show just how overwhelming my collection really is though (especially if you're standing inside my house and it's just. Absolutely surrounding you from all sides and every angle) is to film a video walkthrough of my home 🥲

(Let me know if the link to the video doesn't work - I couldn't embed the video in the post itself for some reason)

Anyway, thank you again! I absolutely love getting to talk about this kind of stuff ♡ That shared love of a mutual interest ~

I hope that this was enjoyable for you, and not just a boring chore to slog through 💧 I'm too neurodivergy to be able to tell when I'm being "too much" rip 💀

[gruesomehound]

Pinned # Gruesomehound . . . Under work still, but enjoy?

— # 404

Coining specifically related to Multiself & other stuff such as self-indulged intusui/desirdae/dissomei stuff since nobody in the void cluster uses transID to identify with.

The cluster owning this blog is anti rq and harmful transID wholeheartedly, however Rue in specific is apathetic to this discourse and too tired for it. Which means, you (rq/transID) can use the multiself terms they make by any means if they resonate. Also, bc the term multiself is in origin and usage on both pro and anti side more of a grey ground between, since it was never RQ exclusive and the TransID stuff can be switched to dissomei/desirdae/etc terms.

— # 404

What is done here?

# Intusui, Desirdae, Exo, Dissomei, and Multiself (self specific) stuff (any requestable)

# userboxes, pixels. (Not requestable)

Rule book . . .

- no questions about the cluster, other selves, or origin. You won't get anything out of us for that. [Note; origin (or original) refers to the face behind the screen which the selves spammed from.]

- I can deny any request I see fit (most themes relate to philias, abuse and such are often than not completely wiped from the requests.)

- the blog doesn't have a DNI. I (Rue) am not part of any discourse cases; RQ, TransID, ship, or system. I will not care who interacts, saves, reblogs, comments etc as long as it's nothing vile or harassment from any side. Also we strictly anti harassment here.

- anon will be on unless harassment, threats, and such start coming in.

- you're free to ask anything, any questions will be answered unless I don't know how to answer it, I don't want to answer it, OR it's asked in pure bad faith.

— # 404

Admin

Rue; they/she.

- alterhuman; mixed dog/mongrelkin, coyotekin, celestialkin & Vampiric.

- an aspectself, involuntaryself & copingself.

- neutral/unisex terminology usage appreciated. Ageless to our knowledge?

- Rue's purpose is dysphoria related / focused, which is why this blog was more or less made.

The body is eighteen, perisex, white, and non-native english speaker with neurodivergies. Please be patient and respectful.

We/us language will be used, because it feels more comfortable. When speaking in first person, it's done with the mind that it is Rue's mindset speaking when handling this blog. We are not a system, we are (to our knowledge) not even plural (questionable? Questionable.).

~ Rue

Dividers by murahaul, edited into the header which done by us alongside the PFP.

[maizy-moo]

TUMBLR!! Can you guys do me a quick favour? Just comment something like "that's so cool" or somewhat along those lines? My boyfriend isn't being too hype rn but I am and I need some little neurodivergiant people to hype me up!!!!! Xx

[dovefish]

HELLO

My name is Cinno/Dovefish/KitMix

I am neurodivergiant and I am also a cat otherkin!

I am Agender, go by any pronouns anddd bisexual!

I am a cat otherkin I have Identified with cats since I was 7 <3

I LOVE THE 2000'S/2010'S INTERNET TOO!

My interests are warrior cats, wings of fire, 2000's internet, Lion king, mspfas, homestuck, créu cat, Bojack horseman, Tuca and Bertie and mlp!

Anddd that's it I think <3

[likedovesinthewnd]

my fellow neurodivergies

have any of you ever used 40hz binaural beats to help with focus and executive dysfunction??

i just heard about this and read a couple studies and it sounds super promising. there’s tons of playlists on yt and spotify but i wanted to hear from the homies firsthand. lmk

[soul-dwelling]

Do you think tumblr's nonchalant way of talking and attributing neurodivergiant diagnosises to charachters or traits/behaviours is in an ironic way ableist too by turning it into a trendy chic catchphrase or zodiac-like joke? Like I imagine the people who are margenalized because of these labels feel weird seeing Crona wearing a "autism-meme" tshirt, but maybe I'm wrong

I don’t think I can speak well to this. I don’t identify as neurodivergent, I haven’t gone in for formal diagnosis--and just about any time I have been referred to as neurodivergent, it has been to insult me (for example, “I should have expected this response that I don’t appreciate from someone like you--Asperger boy!”). 

This is a wordy way of saying, I’m going to get a lot wrong below, so I welcome feedback. 

As far as I can say as someone who identifies as neurotypical, I usually assume such remarks as being said by people who are neurodivergent who are self-identifying by the content they encounter and how they want to present themselves, so I hesitate to interject with what I see or read: if it’s a for-us by-us situation, I don’t think I’m in a position to criticize, unless it becomes particularly egregious. 

In response to more specific examples that you are giving: 

Again, when it’s nonchalant, I usually anticipate the person speaking is neurodivergent themselves. 

I think attributing neurodivergent diagnosis is mostly harmless, although it still runs the risk of getting wrong traits to conditions, romanticizing those traits in the characters and by extension the risk of attempting an amateur diagnosis on real-life people and therefore romanticizing what real-life people are going through. 

The reason I think it’s mostly harmless is that it is trying to figure out those aspects of these conditions by interpreting literature and writing your own stories--to see how the aspects of characterization fit together leading to an understanding about this character and maybe about the condition itself. But even if the intentions are mostly good, if the results are perpetuating stereotypes, or misdiagnosing, or impeding on a real person’s privacy and diagnosing them, then the intentions don’t matter, the results were bad.

I don’t think anyone who is neurodivergent is using neurodivergent attributions of fictional characters to be trendy. I do see some irony in it--again, a for-us by-us approach that those within a community appreciating themselves and being self-effacing as a way to respond to what it is like being neurodivergent. And it’s a way to identify, whether to see yourself in something you’re familiar with, to have it make sense for yourself, or to show someone else, “Hey, this is what it’s like for me.”

All of this said, again, as someone who identifies as neurotypical but has had people derisively refer to me as neurodivergent as a way to insult me, I can see some remarks that I think, “Um, I’m not sure that’s cool to make that kind of a remark, regardless who the person making the remark identifies.” You can’t control who is in your audience--but you better know who is in your audience to minimize the risk that some jackass misunderstands your point and weaponizes it to further their disablist agenda. A creator can’t anticipate every last thing a bad-faith audience member will do to with their content, but they should take every precaution they can to minimize that chance of weaponization to harm. Again, you run the risk of romanticizing, or making people thinking they can make those kinds of jokes when they aren’t in the community. It’s a case by case basis. 

Generally, I try to be optimistic that most people finding neurodivergency in characters are helping normalize neurodivergency, to treat this as who this character, this person, is, jus as they would accept such qualities in the people around them in their lives. 

[pacmastermeow]

neurodivergiant

telepathy, but make it more abstract

[triple-moon-rp]

In case I fail to get it across, Lua's personality is inspired by characters like Futaba and Makoto from Persona 5, Dr. Alphys from Undertale, and Double D from Ed, Edd, n Eddy. Also the unique trauma of growing up undiagnosed, trying and failing to act like a neurotypical when you're actually neurodivergient. iykyk

Originally, she was just going to be a sentient cloud of smoke and completely intangible before being changed to a thunderstorm then to what she is now.

Everything about her has direct ties to illusions and the unconscious. The name Lua can mean a couple things: moon and to set free. It is also the name of a programming script, which has ties to how she thinks and her previous job, so it makes sense that she would choose it for herself as an alias. Essentially, she's one big metaphor.

I was trying to write a fanfic featuring her before I decided to join the rpc since I was struggling to continue it but still wanted to write her. I may not be able to draw anymore, but I'm glad I can still write

[ruusattukoira]

it feels like a burden to be in class, like i know i don't want to be there bc of the rampant ableism towards young people as someone who has both undiagnosed disabilities and neurodivergies feels really draining sometimes.

i also understand that fire safety is extremely important, but you don't need to press on the matter of CO poisoning, fires and such so badly that they become intrusive thoughts. you don't need to scare us into believing it, we're 16-17 and most understand these things already. anyways i already have intrusive thoughts about finding my own mom dead bc she sleeps through all her alarms sometimes and it's making me sometimes on bad days even irrationally anxious, i don't need more of them. also where exactly do you remind people of those who physically cannot go down the stairs due to disabilities, wheelchairs etc to be done with?

[antidisneyinc]

Interesting. I really liked those slower scenes in Better Call Saul. It might just be me being autistic and all that, but I love when a movie or show goes in-depth into a small thing, a process, a thing that takes time. I'm fairly certain I would've liked those scenes even if they were characters I wasn't as familiar with. It makes me feel more invested in these character's actions and plans, I think, to know exactly what they're doing.

oh 100% I think the process scenes are a massive part of why people love BCS and why it's popular on tumblr but like just admit you love making-of videos at that point right. why did we need the slowest moving most unnecessary backstory ever for that

[czhybrid]

Like that one neurodivergiant kid and that one elf

I have to say it. 'enemies to lovers' started going down the shitter when people began treating it like 'people who kind of annoy each other to lovers' ENEMIES to LOVERS is about if two girls FOR REAL want to KILL each other