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Realizing i don't actually know how to "take care of my hygiene" is absolutely jarring.
Having to fucking read through subreddits and watch videos to get any idea of what I'm supposed to be doing is fucking embarrassing.
The 2nd day after surgery and I've already had half a mental breakdown because of that shower thing.
And I thought for years that my mother couldn't possibly have done worse than she did (I knew she didn't bother teaching me hygiene things, but I didn't realize it wasn't just "how to use deodorant") and I realise i don't know how to fucking shower.
I also got groceries and I figured "Meh, as long as the driver gets this stuff inside, I'll be fine."
Truly, I was not "fine". I had to ask for help because I couldn't drag the boxes to my kitchen and bending over (and picking up stuff, moving stuff around, etc) would have taken too much of me, risked popping my stitches and I had surgery 2 FUCKING DAYS AGO.
I am so fucking embarrassed, but I don't want to injure myself either. Just because I'm not in massive amounts of pain, does it mean I should be doing everything I would have done before surgery? Nah.
Pain, BTW, is atm at 6/10? This morning it was more like my average 7/10.
I've been thinking about this pain scale too. Like, there's one very specific scale that fits me... well enough. The problem is that it doesn't take fatigue into account.
Anyway, that's it. That's the morning summed up: it's the 2nd day after surgery, I apparently don't know how to shower (I'll figure it out) because mom never taught me how and now I need to learn it as an adult, and because it is the 2nd day after surgery, I needed help putting away groceries which I usually do not need help with. All and all, I'm still happy (albeit embarrassed)
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Genie Gave Me a Brother AU
-Slams DPxDC door open and tosses AU idea on table-
Tim's parents send home an artifact that is said to able to grant wishes! While being curious about it Tim messes with the artifact and when he 'solves' it, according to legend one must solve it to get a wish, he wishes he wasn't alone anymore.
The object glows bright and as he shields his eyes he can hear.
'So you have wished it, so it shall be!'
He gets his wish in the form of a recently reincarnated ghost!King (who entered the DC world for a reincarnated vaycay... he should had known something was going to happen because CW was encouraging the break) Danny whose just a baby/toddler right now.
Basically, big brother Tim and baby Danny adventures in Gotham after that.
#danny phantom#danny fenton#crossover#dp x dc#blue rambles#danny phantom dc#writing ideas#random idea#dpxdc#big brother Tim!#Baby!Danny#Toddler!Danny#Tim is excited!#he has a baby brother now!#He totally thinks Danny's actions are normal for a toddler btw#he doesn't realize its not#also he doesn't have to fake an identity for his brother he already came with them! and fake photos of his mom being pregnant with Danny!#Danny is questioning why only a kid not even ten is taking care of him#Oh... oh no its a Jazz 2.0#aka older sibling trying to take of younger sib due to parents being neglectful/busy with themselves#Yeah nope he's going to 'Mother hen Jazz' right back to his new brother#and that means following his brother on his photography trips too#Robin finds them btw one night. Points and says 'Who let these babies out on the streets at this time of the night?!'
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you motherfuckers have no concept of what "land back" or "decolonize" even mean. you're too busy demonizing entire groups of people, terrified, shitting yourselves, that they'll do even half of the horrors to you that you've done to them for decades or centuries. this shit comes off as hella racist for real. you hate arabs so much. you hate first nations people so much. you hate black people so much. even if you sympathize with them, you can't fucking bear the idea of them gaining freedom, independence, autonomy, safety, because you're so, so scared they'll hurt you back and cause chaos in the streets. these same people who just want to rebuild. who just want to go home. who just want to see their families again. who just want food. who just want medical care. who just want dry, warm shelter. you're so focused on the ideas of colonization, of "us vs. them", of one people displacing the other for a state to exist, that you cannot comprehend coexistence, and your only idea of peace is if an entire group of people were just gone and dead.
grow the fuck up. for the love of GOD, grow the fuck up.
#eli talks#rant#i just watched a video shared by someone i'd been following a while denying the genocide occuring in gaza entirely#are you kidding. are you fucking kidding me.#the video was trying to run with the idea that “from the river to the sea” means jewish people will be expelled from the region#no the fuck it does not you stupid motherfucker that's NOT what decolonization is#anyway. land back. decolonize. from the river to the sea. peace and love on planet earth.#stop razing olive trees. stop scorching the earth. stop bombing hospitals and schools. stop destroying the sea.#if i have to see another palestinian child undergo anesthesia-free amputation im going to start being physically fucking violent#if i have to see another mother with blood on her hands wailing and begging for her child to come back im going to start burning shit#one day all the people of palestine will be free. muslims and jews and christians and all and none.#one day all the people of sudan will be free. all the people in the congo will be free. all the peoples in the americas will be free.#and all the other occupied places suffering genocides and ethnic cleansings that the news neglects to mention. theyll be free too.
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luke fumbling in recruiting percy has to be one of his greatest failures. a beautiful thing the show does regarding luke and percy's relationship is building rapport between them through shared moments like settling into camp, eating meals together, but especially through swordfighting lessons. the swordfighting scene at the beginning of episode 8 not only reveals that percy and luke already share similar beliefs about the fear-based system the gods have cultivated, but it's clear the conversation stays with percy when he fights ares and later calls out zeus on his waning skills as a father and a king. however, luke's plan fell through the moment percy learned that the winged-shoes were meant to drag him to tartarus. not only that, but the shoes nearly killed grover, a friend percy cared for deeply. if nourishing loyalty and trust was the key to ensuring a partnership with percy, then it was luke's faulty planning, arrogance, and impatience that cost him the greatest ally he could ask for.
#i think it's incredibly interesting to see how easy it would have been to recruit percy#if luke omnitted the shoes from his initial plan#then percy would've returned to camp angry at zeus for being a neglectful parent and king#angry at hades for encasing his mother in gold and trapping her near-dying soul in the underworld#angry at hepheastus for designing a trap to encase other demigods in gold as a test of faith#and angry at athena for leaving annabeth to die over something that was percy's fault alone#i think hermes and poseidon are the only gods percy would tolerate because they've expressed remorse and longing for their mortal family#and i think THAT is where percy and luke would have clashed had luke been successful in recruiting#luke insisting the gods will never change and percy over the years learning that maybe they can#and then annabeth telling percy abt the great prophecy and he has to decide if he wants to follow destiny or create his own#i would eat that shit up y'all#anways rant over#percy jackon and the olympians#pjo text post#pjo#pjo headcanon#percy jackson#luke castellan#the lighting theif#the lightning theif: the series#pjo tv series#pjo tv concept#luke fatal flaw should've been impatience#(too quick to act on a decision without thinking it through)#(the one trait from his father he can't seem to escape)#luke recruiting percy#traitor percy
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I recently remembering a conversation I had with my mother when i was about 12-ish where earlier in the week I mentioned some things kids at school did with their parents.
She sat me down and explained the research she's done into parenting styles and outcomes (she said the books she had in the bookshelf in the room contained the information) and how a parenting style called "purposeful neglect" was what she believed raised the best kids.
Where basically she interacts with my life as little as possible, including with transportation and stuff, so I figure things out myself. That's why I never had homework help, made my own meals (other than supper, which I eventually began doing at some point but I'm sure she does it mostly for my dad), and why when I was younger I was allowed to spend nearly 24/7 in a forest near our street (plus other stuff, lol). She really emphasized the benefits of the parenting style of "purposeful neglect" (the exact name she called it) so it seemed good.
It made perfect sense when I was younger because she did that thing where she talked to me like an adult, so I felt really important learning this "big secret" most parents keep from their kids. Plus I wasn't really able to make friends at school so I didn't really know what their family lives were like. (turns out she sabotaged my friendships if I was able to make them and given the chance).
Turns out I was raised very isolated and the general amount of ignoring I got (medical, emotional, psychological, etc) was on purpose? and idk how to feel about that. Like yeah I taught myself a lot of skills (sewing, homework, special interests, cooking, basic gardening, navigation, extremely basic levels of foraging, etc) but ittttttttttttt seems odd I guess looking back?
idk is purposeful neglect a real parenting style that's had research and published books advocating it? is that "normal" to any degree?
thanks!
I want to start this by saying that although I do have some knowledge about certain parenting/teaching/child-rearing styles, I'm in no way an expert on them, so please take that into account.
That being said, I do not believe neglect is ever the right way to raise a child, even (especially) if the neglect is intentional. Sure, children need to be allowed autonomy, especially as they get older, so they have a chance to figure things out on their own. That's how we grow up feeling ready to handle adulthood, when we don't always have someone showing us what to do (this is also why helicopter parenting isn't good—because it teaches you learned helplessness and that you need others' instructions and approval to function). But we need to know someone is there if it gets too much. We need to know we are not alone against the world, and we are deserving of asking for help.
There is such a thing as letting your child have autonomy and face an age-appropriate level of challenge without immediate help, but still being there if it gets too much for your child to handle alone. Knowing that your parents/caregivers will be there if you get scared or overwhelmed is how you grow up with the confidence to try and explore things on your own, because you'll have an emotional safety net if you fall. And this is also vital for growing up knowing how to ask for help, as opposed to feeling like a burden or a failure if you need to rely on others.
No matter how much she rationalised/justified it to herself and to you, or how good her intentions were, I do think what your mother did to you is extremely neglectful and potentially very damaging and abusive. Also, her sabotaging your friendships was also really messed up, and so was neglecting your medical and emotional needs.
And, nonnie, no Google search result I've found lists this sort of parenting or any sort of research on it. But even if this was a parenting style that someone has defined and defended, that wouldn't automatically make it good. People design and defend terrible, abusive, and damaging methods for raising and educating children all the time.
I'm really sorry you went through all this. It might have helped you develop some skills you wouldn't have learnt otherwise, but it sounds incredibly emotionally damaging, and you deserved better. And, as I said before, it is possible to learn autonomy and to take care of yourself/trust your own decisions while also trusting that your parents will be there when you need help and support.
Sending a big virtual hug your way ❤️
#Ask#Neglect#Neglect tw#Abuse tw#Neglectful mother#Toxic mother#Abusive mother#Purposeful neglect#Child neglect tw#Child abuse tw
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Last part for old GF sketches
(Actually, most of these aren't old at all, but their average is brought down by the last picture, which I drew back in August and kept forgetting to post)
#fanart#drawing#gravity falls#stanford pines#stanley pines#i wish more people talked about Ford's piano skills#and his shadow puppet skills#i forgot what i was thinking when i rushed these out#something about Ford only taking pride in his skills because of how other people (ie Stanley) appreciate them#and how he attributes everything exceptional about himself to his hands bc that's where his deepest insecurities/motivations come from#but that isn't something Stan or most people think about at all#but he also IS really talented#and so he gets this big fragile ego#stemming from his mother and brother's praise#but also filbrick's neglect#so it's like outside validation is a substitute/reminder of the people that really loved him#bht also he thinks he's different from them and better than them#but he does love them#and he likes making them proud because he likes seeing them happy#maybe he doesn't know how else to make people happy#something something#Stan being his biggest supporter is a double edged sword#because his opinion matters the most and then he's gone#and Ford doesnt have anyone to show off to anymore#OR anyone who can call him a showoff when he gets too into his own head#OR the person he was pitted against in the first place that made him feel special#because- knowingly or not- they always compared themselves#idk man#Ford is an interesting guy and his head fascinates me
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Saw a beta kids guardians chart couple days ago and I had to take a moment when Mom Lalonde was placed in “good guardian”
#famously amazing mother tries giving her daughter her drink#and keeps her kid surrounded by bottles#neglected kid is just a brat I’m afraid#also grandpa was also placed in good guardian as well and I hollered#dave the only one allowed to have a bad childhood
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POISON
Conteúdo —Yandere platônico Batfamily x Leitor adolescente
Sinopse — Days pass and there's no news about you, but nothing stays hidden for long and now they know your location, but the worst part is you don't remember them, and they'd rather it stay that way forever
Warning: mentions of violence, murder, mentions of torture, violence, mentions of drugs, Reader is a girl, manipulation, violence against minors, torture, Cigarette use, negligence, joker being the joker, Yandere behavior, defined gender, blood.
chapters: 01
A/N: welcome little lamb, be very careful with your choices, they can bring you bad luck depending on which one you choose, good luck, take care of yourself little lamb, your health comes first!!
The dark path is not always the bad path...
Words cause more pain than physical injuries...
HE didn't sleep well, the dark circles under his eyes gave him away
His fingers touching the keys while his eyes never left the screen in front of him.
A little bird will never be free if its destiny is to be trapped in a cage...
Jason was frustrated, the whole way he couldn't find even a clue about his little sister
A sigh escaped his lips as he looked at the dead body on the floor.
Somentimes, a stone in the road is better than one in the kidney...
He finally found it, Tim finally found the right location, but there was just one problem...
It's the same location where Joker is...
Death cannot be avoided, you can run away, but you cannot hide forever...
Jason didn't wait when Tim said he discovered his little sister's location, he didn't even want to hear the rest, he just ran straight to the location
He doesn't want history to repeat itself, he doesn't want his sister to suffer what he suffered
He should have listened when they said to wait...
Batman stood on the balcony of a building while observing the location of the place he was given, honestly, was it a decent place?
He doesn't know, he just knows that this is exactly where his daughter is
And he won't leave until his daughter is with him, even if he has to get his hands dirty...
a heart has to be sacrificed...
It was dark, but his eyes moved around, looking around
His eyes stopped on a common person
— "sister?, is it really you?..."
Jason says as he looks at the girl in front of him, the girl's eyes moved and looked straight into his as they made eye contact, that was enough for him to truly know it was her
He sighed and quickly approached her, but his feet stopped when the tip of a katana was pointed at his neck, he was surprised and looked at the tip of the katana, before looking into her eyes.
— "bunny you-... What are you doing?..."
He says confused as he tries to smile, but his smile disappears when he hears clapping noises.
— "oh~ extraordinary, it was a wonderful show I must admit"
Jason's expression became serious when he heard that voice, and he looked at the person
— "Joker..."
— "well, I see you've already met my little masterpiece, but let me introduce you, this is my daughter, my little pride"
Joker says as he laughs, standing next to him looking at Jason
Jason looks at Joker in shock before looking at you noticing his eyes without the sparkle they used to have.
— "what did you do with her?!"
Jason says making Joker laugh even harder, Joker smiles amusedly and strokes his hair
— "well, me?, I didn't do anything, I feel offended now"
Joker says and laughs when you move his hand away from your hair, Jason wouldn't admit it but envy blinds him and he doesn't ask for a second to attack Joker while trying not to hurt you
Revenge is a dish best served cold...
Joker laughs before a pop is heard as he falls to the ground unconscious.
Damien drops the bat on the ground and looks at Joker's body on the ground, he sighs as Jason looks at him in surprise, Damien looks at him and sighs
— "what?, I did what everyone wanted to do, be thankful I just left him unconscious, it's better than letting you kill him"
Damien says as he walks past Jason, leaving him standing still and Jason sighs.
'Little Demon'
Jason thinks as he crosses his arms and rolls his eyes before looking at Joker's body on the floor.
You looked at Jason and Joker fighting and you notice someone approaching Joker, just as you were about to protect Joker, your vision went black and you fell unconscious, before you could fall to the ground someone was already holding you.
Batman held her unconscious body as he removed the needle from her neck and handed it to Dick
— "ready little bat, daddy is here now, there's no need to be scared, daddy will give you whatever you want, except your freedom, Gotham is a dangerous place, you will be safe with your family..."
His voice rings out as he rocks his unconscious body like he's rocking a baby
Sometimes, the kindest people have a double face, there is always a dark side behind all the kindness...
A sigh was heard when he heard everything, he finally let out the breath he didn't even know he was holding,
Tim was silent as he looked at the screens
He did it, he will finally be able to see his little sister again
With no one in the way, perfect
'Don't worry little sister, now no one can take you away from us again, no one can take you away from me again...'
A bat won't be able to come out of the darkness if the sun bothers it so much...
Alfred looked at the finished room, the room was next to Bruce's room, he didn't want that to happen, but he also didn't want you to be in danger in Gotham, after all, it's Gotham, every time you left, he felt worried, now he doesn't need to worry anymore, when he went to your room and saw it empty he felt devastated with worry, little did you know what awaited you in Gotham, the dark sides, without protection, you could be in danger,
But when he found out that Bruce made it he was relieved, his room was already prepared, now all that's left is for Bruce to bring you
A butler knows more than you think...
A big smile was on Duke's face as he shopped for accessories, books, and various other things.
He was on a mission when he found out about her disappearance and was more than frustrated as he took out all his frustration on the poor bandits.
But when he knew they found you he was relieved and happy
He didn't wait a second to buy you a bunch of stuff, you love that new movie that's coming out right?, Jurassic World, the new one, he knows it's horror and rated R, but he would do anything for you
So he will let you watch with him hidden from Bruce, he is eager to return to Gotham and shower you with affection and hugs
No treasure will overshadow you...
Cassandra sighed and picked up another bracelet, she already picked up several matching accessories, you and she will have everything matching like united sisters
She won't accept a no or a maybe
It will give you a life far from the life of a vigilante and a hero, a normal life is healthy
death is something that not everyone is afraid of, on the contrary, they are afraid of pain...
Barbara was simply decorating her room, she was more than eager to see you again, after days of slowly going crazy just for not hearing any news about you,
She was terrified when she found out you were with Joker,
He's not a nice guy
And you don't need it, you have it... Just it...
The quietest people don't always want to be noticed...
Damien approached Batman with you unconscious in Batman's arm, he stopped in front of Batman and stroked his hair softly while muttering inaudible words
Dick watched everything with a smile before he heard a noise and he fell to the ground when something hit him in the head,
Everyone was alarmed as they quickly positioned themselves ready to fight while Batman placed you near a wall and prepared to fight the person.
Dick touched his head slowly and looked at his hand seeing blood, he stood up and looked back while looking at the person with serious looks
— "Well, well, how stupid of you to do all this nonsense and not invite me, I thought my little puddin was stupid, but then I realized that you are lower than that"
The person says while holding the bat in their hand and smiling while looking at them
— "and you were trying to take my daughter from me, what an evil thing Batman, trying to take a daughter from a mother..."
The person says while pronouncing Batman with venom and disgust, her eyes look at each of them before she laughs
She sighs and smiles
— "Harley"
Batman says as the woman smiles amusedly and swings the bat playfully
— "Bat, kidnapping my daughter is a low blow"
Harley says smiling, but she wasn't exactly amused
— "She is not your daughter"
Batman says seriously while looking at her
— "Much less yours"
Harley says while smiling and laughing in fun
Batman looks at her seriously and Harley smiles amusedly
— "I've had it much longer than you"
— "well, I don't think I need to talk about how terrible you are as a father, if you left her walking around alone it's definitely because it was stupid,
At least I did a better job of being a mother than you were of being her father."
Harley says as she smiles and looks at Batman amusedly as Batman looks into her eyes seriously, everything goes silent for a moment
— "I just want my daughter"
Harley says with a smile on her lips before Batman sighs
— "so we have something in common, but mend your words, you want my daughter"
Batman says while Harley smiles and laughs in amusement
Damien sighs in frustration as Jason looks between Batman and Harley, Dick remains silent, confused by the situation, but understanding the mood.
— "Well, let's see who will take her then..."
Harley says while smiling amusedly and Batman looks into her eyes seriously
Damien remains silent, frustrated with the situation while making a small face of disgust.
'She is not an object to be won, she is a human like everyone else, they should treat her as a person, not as a trophy to be won, disgusting'
Jason crosses his arms and rolls his eyes.
'I don't fight with women'
Jason thinks while staying silent
Dick stands next to Jason as he sighs and thinks the same thing as Jason
Harley swings the baton and prepares to fight as Batman does the same
The two make eye contact, watching each other's movements.
Watching who will move first
Who will make the first mistake
Life is made of mistakes and they all kill you if you're not smart enough...
A/N: hi! Little lambs, I hope you liked it, that's it for now, I'm going to do part three, but I ask you to be patient, my imagination is big, but I also have to take care of my health too, sorry for the delay, I get distracted when I take it medicine, and I had things to take care of, but I was anxious and couldn't wait to post, now I'm going to get some rest, I really hope you enjoyed it, Take care of yourself little lamb, your health comes first!!.
Signed: 𝙇𝙖𝙮...
Marcador : @bellethesleepypotato @peptox @lilithskywalker @welpthisisboring @vanessa-boo @toasted-cat18 @cooki3dough @caged-birdies-blog @marsmabe @dhanyasri @trashpanda0000 @gabbiegabbie24
Betrayal comes from those we least expect...
#platonic yandere#yandere batman#Platonic#Yandere platonic batfamily#jason todd#yandere dick grayson#cassandra cain#yandere damian wayne#alfred pennyworth#batman#bruce wayne#yandere stephanie brown#Batfamily#Child Teaser#neglected child reader#dc joker#harley quinn#Mother Harley
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@ 911 fans—
Athena is not Buck’s mom. Hen is not Buck’s mom.
Athena has two children— Harry and May. She is their mom. Hen has two children— Denny and Mara. She is their mom. Karen is also their mom.
These black women are not the mothers of a grown-ass white man. Just as you should not pigeonhole black women into sassy, emasculating, and domineering stereotypes— which I see you all do, you should also not pigeonhole them into the stereotype role of the domestic laborer: cooking for, cleaning up after, and being a mother to a white “child.”
Shut the fuck up about “Mother Hen” and “Mother Athena.” If you aren’t talking about their relationship with their own legal children, shut the fuck up. Stop calling these women sassy and stop referring to them as Buck’s mothers.
Buck has a mother, Margaret Buckley. Margaret is his only mother. I don’t care if you dislike her, but replacing a neglectful white mother with a black woman as a caretaker is not the endearing move you think it is.
#racism in fandom#I know y’all aren’t listening to black fans#because I doubt this has gone unsaid#911 ABC#Evan Buckley#Also— stop trying to squeeze everyone into a nuclear family-like box#Also also— Maddie is also not Buck’s mom. She is his sister. Very different dynamic.#she may have been the one to predominantly raise Buck. but that doesn’t make her his mother.#caregivers can be non-mothers believe it or not#and overwriting that Brother-Sister dynamic ignores the way the Buckley parent’s neglect also affected her#she was a child too#it’s called parentification (look it up)#and lastly— you don’t have to refer to a friend as a ‘sibling’ or a ‘sibling-figure’ to convey the depth of affection and closeness#fucking discourse
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Every time I see a Daemyra stan posting about how the portrayal of Daemon is unfair because he’s supposed to be the best husband in the world:
#can we be serious guys#how did you think their relationship was going to pan out after he choked her directly following her miscarriage of their child?#also this is not a show about healthy relationships#LIKE HE GROOMED HIS NIECE WE ALL SAW THAT RIGHT?!? WE ALL SAW HIM MURDER HIS FIRST WIFE?!? NEGLECT HIS CHILREN AFTER THEIR MOTHER DIED?!#things daemon canonically is at this point: a groomer. a pedo. a wife beater. spouse killer. child murderer. general misogynist etc.#y’all make me feel smart#hotd#house of the dragon#anti hotd men#anti hotd fandom#anti daemyra#anti daemon targaryen#cj speaks.
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One of the worst realizations that I have ever made is realizing that all I ever wanted was to be loved by my parents. I never would've turned out like this if they just loved me unconditionally.
#i will never care if you reblog#vent#tw vent#cw vent#eldest daughter syndrome#eldest daughter#parentified child#parentification#toxic mom#cw toxic relationship#toxic parents#toxic mothers#toxic mother#toxic family#toxic father#toxic relationship#childhood neglect#childhood trauma#childhood emotional neglect#emotional trauma#trauma coping#trauma#wanting to be loved#i wanna be loved#sad thoughts#eldest sibling syndrome#eldest sibling#eldest sister#toxic thoughts#thoughts to throw into the void
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#family line#mother dearest#ventcore#traumacore#vent art#trauma art#actuallytraumatized#actually neglected#actually abused#childhood neglect#abandoment issues#mine#cptsd vent#actually cptsd
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“But think of the resale value!”
Listen, I am not paying a ridiculous mortgage amount every month just to treat my home like a fucking rental.
If I wake up one day and decide I want a giant hand-painted LOTR map on my bedroom wall, not even god himself could stop me from doing it.
#homeowner perks: getting to do things to your walls that would make your mother faint#owning with a 30yr mortgage was (for my particular region and situation) waaaay cheaper /mo than continuing to rent shitty 500ft apartments#and god knows after I’ve spent so much time doing necessary maintenance on this very neglected home#i am also taking full advantage of the ability to do whatever the hell fun things I want#and that means LOTR wall#shut up e
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Regarding gender roles in AMCs unholy family, I think it's interesting how Lestat is Claudia's mother, narratively/subtextually, but he's also plays the role of The Husband™. While Louis is Claudia's father but he's also plays the role of the housewife.
It's not "Lestat is the man and Louis is the woman", that's reductive and doesn't do their roles justice (not to mention the thinly veiled homophobia of that thought process). The gender roles expressed during The Unholy Family era are more complicated then I see some of the fandom paint it, and I wish people could really appreciate the way that they toy with gender in the show.
It's not the same way that Anne Rice toys with gender in the books by making every vampire a (thin white) androgynous creature of the night, but it's still has it's own subtle air of gender fuckery that is arguably perhaps more nuanced then "vampires become genderless because they're no longer human".
#Iwtv#lestat de lioncourt#louis de pointe du lac#Claudia#amc iwtv#Gender#I could talk about Lestat being Claudia's mother and how he continues the cycle of neglect and obligation built by his own mother for days#I could make a whole post about it. Maybe I should.#Also I should be clear I'm not dissing the way Anne wrote her vampires as gendered genderless beings that was also Facinating#And I mean the stuff with Gabrielle's gender was heart crushing to read as a young trans man long before he knew what he was#Anne wrote some Facinating gender shit#But AMC is also writing some Facinating gender dynamics that I think get over simplified by the Fandom.
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it's so hilarious how a large chunk of the homestuck fandom actually and genuinely believes everything rose lalonde says about herself and her life. she would be so happy. You think I'm cool, calm, and put together? You think I'm a reliable therapist for my friends? Tell me more.
#it's so funny. they fall for her front and whatever she says about her mother postretcon#(yes mom lalonde WAS abusive and severely neglected her child emotionally and physically to the point rose could not take a genuine gesture#of gift giving as anything other than deeply ironic and spiteful and also actively snuck around the house to avoid interacting with her#mother. not to mention mom lalonde was Drunk All The Time and offered rose alcohol. but yeah sure just believe the 16 year old)#talk tag#rose#sorry i just saw such a take i needed to say something about it or i would Die
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