#narc emotes

[murderscenemotes]

High and low narc supply emotes , based off of a discord request !

yawnn so sleepy chatters -Robyn

[fansblogs]

ok fuck it i’m maintagging this,,, everybody look at him. look at how sweet he is. if you hate him you will die and go to hell

[melblogsgfreethruptsd]

[a-sip-of-milo]

Guess what. You can recognise that your parents were trying their best and still acknowledge that they messed up. Stop telling people who open up about their childhood trauma that they're ungrateful because they haven't forgotten about the fact that the people who raised them hurt them.

DNI if you believe in cluster-B abuse.

[vhsrot]

Hi! I was wondering if you could do your narc supply emoji with a buttercup flower? 

buttercup supply emotes

sorry this came late, hope you like them :]

[cybergothvox]

Two-faced

[murderscenemotes]

NPD emotes! maybe low empathy and/or frustration towards criticism !!

Did both ! Hope these work for you ! :3

[silentsuffering]

Relationship Fact #1

If you lie to or about somebody to get into a relationship, your relationship is not only built on lies, but rather your entire relationship is a lie. Nothing about it is true or real. You don't have a real connection to this other person. You constructed an illusion based on a lie.

[melblogsgfreethruptsd]

[a-sip-of-milo]

Things I did as a child that I didn't realise were results of abuse

Refusing to flush the toilet or drink water after/before a certain time. This was due to my parents getting extremely angry whenever I came out of my room after eight o'clock or before four or five in the morning, even for emergencies or necessary reasons.

Stashing rubbish in my room. I remember multiple times throughout my childhood where we would have to move house, and as they were taking apart my bedroom, they'd come across piles upon piles of empty food packets or drink cans (coca cola, sprite, etc.) that I'd hidden from them. Turns out I was terrified of getting into trouble for "stealing" communal food due to my parents' controls around what I ate and would hide the evidence where I knew i'd get away with it for the longest.

Tip-toeing around the house, even throughout the day. I would get into trouble for the mere act of being in the same room as my parents sometimes, which taught me to walk on the tips of my feet or even crawl to avoid being noticed.

Physically/verbally/emotionally abusing my siblings. I had no control over what my parents did to me. So, as the eldest sibling, I eventually learnt to take it out on the ones who I deemed "lesser" than me. Which was, at the time, my three younger siblings. I mirrored my parents behaviour because I knew it was what I could get away with most easily. I lied to get my siblings into trouble. I made all three of them miserable because I was miserable, and while all three of them have since forgiven me, it is something that I will always be ashamed of.

Suffering through days/weeks of health issues and pain without telling anyone. I was never taken seriously or I was accused of faking it to get out of school. In cases of UTI's, I was terrified of being sexualised or accused of things along those lines (which is something that they'd absolutely done before) which led me to keeping my mouth shut about it. This has led to chronic physical illnesses now.

Constantly breaking things. Wasn't able to have attachments to things because they'd always get taken away from me/were given with conditions (even the stuff that were supposed to be mine), so everything got broken or lost.

Never. Ever. Crying. I cry a lot now, whether I'm happy or sad or overwhelmed. But as a child, I was bullied for crying by my parents and my siblings (that was not their fault, they learnt it from our parents) until I learnt to just suppress it.

Having full on panic attacks when going home after spending a weekend away. This became a thing that happened pretty much every weekend I'd spend with my grandmother. I'd hide, take longer to pack or get on my horse real quick to slow down the process of leaving. When i'd eventually have to be forced into the car, it was nothing but crying and screaming to be let out again. Eventually, my mother threatened to stop letting me see my grandmother all together if I didn't stop behaving that way (and even went through with it for several years, which is the time in which I became familiar with the dot point right above this one)

DNI if you believe in cluster-B abuse. You're not welcome here.

[iveeaten3humanorganz]

those people when I tell them “narc abuse” isn’t real and they were just emotionally abused, but the reason you don’t want to say that is because you feel ashamed of being emotionally abused because in your eyes emotional abuse is less than physical abuse because you view emotions as inherently weak:

[love-me-love-my-weirdness]

If you’re a stereotypically “good” person because of being abused then that’s great

If you’re a stereotypically “bad” person because of being abused then that’s great

Your response to trauma is valid, your response to abuse is valid and you don’t owe it to anyone to be inspirational.

[brain-n-body-in-disarray]

The whole thing with trauma, recovering from "narc abuse" and deconstructing your ableist views of NPD feels like a bed of eels tbh.

Not being ableist is necessary. It is, period. But when it's entangled with trauma, it is so much more complicated. Trauma warps your mind in ways that makes you resistant to change, because you're caught in a loop.

It is also hard because hearing about "narc abuse" helped, immensely. It gave an explanation to a world of confusing experiences. It gave sense to my life when everything was pain and I couldn't understand why.

But it's important to separate a condition and a behaviour.

Being mentally ill doesn't make you abusive. Abusers are not necessarily mentally ill. One just doesn't equal the other. Thinking otherwise is ableist.

You could take about percentage and inclination and whatever. But don't. It's not about that. It's not about you.

If you start saying narcissists are this way or that way, it's an open door to ableist generalisations about every other conditions. If you don't do it for other people, don't do it for people with NPD.

Also, don't diagnose people? Even abusers. That's just plain wrong.

Abusers are abusers because of their behaviour, because of their choices, not because of a diagnosis anyway.

Also, people with no/low empathy aren't monsters. They are not evil.

I can't stress this enough, what makes you an abuser is your actions, not your thoughts, not your lack of empathy.

Also, bullying people with NPD is a kind of abuse. Maybe check your own behaviour first. Your traumas aren't an excuse either.

Also, in the long run, demonising a group of people and making them responsible for your pain won't help. It's not about forgiving or some positivity bullcrap. It's about allowing yourself to understand what about happened to you to process your traumas.

It won't also help you from not being revictimised. You need to understand the patterns of actions, not of thoughts, to escape them.

I'm telling you all this as a survivor of childhood emotional and sexual abuse. I get the conflicting thoughts. I get the pain and the rage. I get the need of a scapegoat to get rid of that rage. But that's just not the way.

Be kind, to yourself, and to others.

[lovesick-nagi]

My abuser's posts about me and why I've been gone.

{ Part 1: What they claimed about me, what people exposed to be the truth }

!! VERY important, I ask that you read. Boosts are very appreciated, trigger warnings avaliable right before the cut !!

So, first off, I want to say sorry to everyone for being gone so long, and you're probably just as shocked as I am to be posting this. It's nice to talk to you all again, I really missed you all. The truth is, along with all the other reasons for my absence I've given, there was one that I have avoided talking about for the years of slow decline that happened, both to my content and myself. And I am sorry for leaving everyone in the dark.

I've thought about posting about this many times, but I always kept myself level-headed, saying it was irresponsible and unnecessary. Unfortunately, the abuser in question did not have the capacity to do the same, and because I still hesitated to speak out about what they were saying, they have since left their blog.

However, these problems and false claims still remain public, along with their lies attempting to villanize another set of victims, so I am forced to respond to this publicly if I want there to be any chance of them seeing it, as they no longer have access to their account.

It is also because of that, I will share that their blog is @stylusscomms , also known as The Labyrinth.

They made xenogender coining, custom emojis/emotes, stimboards, and more. In this first post I will go over what they have been exposed to do and have admitted to regarding their abuse to me. In following posts I will detail the fallout, along with their VERY recent behavior, proving this is not something of the past.

You guys better strap in, because the story of what happened is a wild one. All proof of this is clear on their blog.

I may not provide the proof I personally posess for these claims due to the fact that they have already admitted to most of this, { here } and { here } and I don't want to expose the transcripts of my trauma in cases where I don't have to.

TW: Biting/licking, Physical abuse, Emotional abuse, S/A, Trauma invalidation, Gore mention.

Because of the state of their profile and how they left it how it was, pretty much everything is laid out pretty clearly in these posts, as I will detail: here, here and here.

Stylusscomms started by detailing to their askers how the friendship was "hurtful on both ends", making the allegations that I fakeclaimed them, isolated them after I cut them off, and they never once bit me.

This was followed by a long interspersement on posts regarding matter, which the askers slowly revealed that, one, I never could have fakeclaimed them because they never even told me they were a system { here }. On top of this, prior to asking me about it, they said they had "trauma from not having trauma", so I was a bit hesitant to talk about the possibility, especially in a friendgroup where this was enabled. They also talked over me about a lot regarding my disorder, so I at least wanted to speak up about this. Despite it being one of the only things I could ever bring myself to contradict them on, they still villainized me for it, as they did with anything that I said that was even remotely different from what they wanted me to.

Two, it was both victimblaming to say I isolated them after I cut them off due to them screaming at me, and untrue. Only one person of our friendgroup stuck by me and two of the others went on to date them. And finally, three, they had bit me without my consent countless times.

This directly went against the very extensive asks of people talking about their responses to { a certain mcyt/singer's } allegations and their trauma with biting, Stylus being very outspoken that they would never do such a thing, all of which caused the askers in question feel betrayed. Slowly, the askers exposed even more.

Some people I previously knew offered up their accounts of what actually happened, along with the fact they had proof, detailing how he had physically and emotionally abused me during the course of our entire year long friendship, along with something even worse.

This included him biting me extremely hard, screaming at me, hitting me out of anger, hitting me for sadistic entertainment, holding me down while doing these things, getting others to hold me down, stabbing me with safety pins for fun, laughing at me when I flinched away from them, belittling me, victimblaming me for various things, guilttripping me, sending me beheading and gore videos, and finally, taking away my phone while this took place so that I could not document these instances directly and could not reach anyone.

These claims would further be cooberated by sources we will discuss in the next post.

But the worst of all was the relation of all this to my SA experiences and their more sexual behavior towards me. At this point I had shared my experience with it, but that did not stop them from holding me down or getting others to do so. After he was told to stop biting me, he continually licked me before returning to biting AND licking not long after. On top of that, they not only tried to convince me that my SA was a dream, very insistently, but he blurted out the story of my SA to our mutual friend.

Furthermore, they did not stop there, throughout the whole friendship they did not stop making sexual comments to and about me, and on one occasion, during one of these inappropriate expressions towards me, knowing full-well of my assault, they inappropriately grabbed and touched me directly under the belt.

These were all exposed to them by their askers and they ADMITTED to them.

They came up with a number of different ways to defend themselves, citing that they forgot, they thought the biting was consensual, that he did it as a joke and found it funny, victimblaming me and saying I could have stopped him, and blaming their partners, who had also accused them of abusing them, for their abuse against me.

We will get to the last one in the next post, as it is extensive, but first I will disprove every single one of these.

An asker cited a situation where they lied about forgetting something in order to avoid my confrontation to him regarding their abusive behavior, and this is true, not only that, but I caught them in this same lie multiple times, so I dont, and no one does, have any reason to give them the benefit of the doubt anymore. This was cooberated also.

The biting was never in ANY WAY consensual, I have a hypersensitivity condition with my skin which just made the horrific bite marks and bruises even worse. When my partner, absolutely furious for me, learned about what happened and tried to defend me from his abuse, was villainized by the rest of the friendgroup, and they framed him as possessive, overbearing and weird for simply trying to defend me from Stylus' biting, licking, attacking and sexual comments towards me, along with everything else. NO WONDER why he wouldn't like them!

The excuse that they found humor in their abuse of me. That much was obvious from them both laughing at me flinching away from them and giggling while stabbing me with safety pins. Though his claim that it was never intended to be in a harmful way is also wrong, because he would also physically abuse and scream at me out of anger.

And of course, their victim blaming. They knew full well of my extreme people pleaser tendencies, and took advantage of them. Before this I had NEVER cut anyone off despite countless friendships being very harmful to me, as I have referenced before on my posts, one even involved the police, and I can say that Stylus was by far the worst I have ever gone through. They literally abused me in any way they could and when my partner called them out and told them to quit it, they were dismissed by the friendgroup and Stylus tried to guilttrip him about feeling terrible about it, only to get right back on their behavior with no remorse.

Yet despite all of this, we were "both at fault", and despite everything they said against me being disproven, along with being exposed to have abused and sexually assaulted me, THEY are the one afraid of seeing ME again. THEY are the ones made to panic when I am brought up.

They are afraid to face their abuse victim, they are afraid to face their actions.

The worst part is, this isn't even where it ends.

[thoughtpalace-blog]

I understand that having npd does not automatically make you abusive. I understand that wholeheartedly and it’s not fair that narcissist entered the public zeitgeist as a catch all for assholes.

However, as a person that does have a diagnosed npd mother that is abusive it’s very tough to be told that narcissistic abuse doesn’t exist and to be belittled about it. It’s triggering as a victim. When a lot of symptoms of narcissism ‼️when untreated‼️ (just like any other mental illness) can become abusive.

If you are cognizant enough to be able to seek treatment, don’t, and then become a danger to yourself and other people you don’t automatically get to claim you can’t be abusive because of your diagnosis.

Stop harassing victims of abuse. Stop flooding tags. It’s hard enough as is living through the abuse that my narcissistic mother has inflicted upon myself, my sister, and my dad for years. I have trauma and a laundry list of mental illnesses of my own now because of said abuse: Child abuse, neglect, verbal abuse, physical abuse. Things I still experience to this day bc I don’t make enough to move away and go no contact yet.

Narcissists can be abusive. It is not a myth. I’ve read and researched enough, discussed it with every therapist I’ve had throughout my life. No, this does not mean ALL narcissists ARE abusive. There is nuance. Pretending that isn’t true causes harm and more often than not I see replies flooding posts detailing the abuse they’ve suffered at the hands of a narcissist.

But for those of you going out of your way to seek out posts from victims in their own tags about narcissistic abuse: Do you feel good, like you’ve proved a point parroting something to make yourself feel better? Make your own posts instead in your own tags, just please leave victims of narcissistic abuse alone. Please.

[starry-skies-116]

gentle reminder that narcissistic abuse doesn't exist

earlier this morning my mom tried to gaslight me saying that I was a horrible person for 'making fun of her anxiety' when in reality I was simply calling her out on her toxic language and behavior towards me designed to make me feel bad.

there's no such thing as 'depressive abuse' or 'autistic abuse' and most often other people try to make ME feel like the bad/abusive one because I'm neurodivergent, even though I'm doing everything I can to be respectful and kind and considerate towards other people and their needs and wants without basically killing myself via burnout. so why are we saying such things for cluster b disorders?

if people are a shitty person, it's not because of their disorder- even when the symptoms contribute often. it's because they're just that- a shitty person. if you gave them multiple chances at forgiveness and improvement and they keep being a terrible, abusive person? if they keep refusing to change and insist that they're right? that's not on their disorder, that's on them. people exhibiting narcissistic behaviors or symptoms of npd who abuse people?? the traits of the abusive relationship often align with emotional, physical and/or verbal abuse- they suffered due to the other person's behavior, not their disorder.