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[murderscenemotes]

High and low narc supply emotes , based off of a discord request !

yawnn so sleepy chatters -Robyn

[autopsyfreak]

‘i support all abuse victims’ do you?

do you support abuse victims even if they:

develop a stigmatised disorder as a result of their abuse (e.g: NPD, DID, etc.).

seek out other unhealthy/abusive relationships and/or cannot allow themselves to remain in healthy one.

respond to triggers with defensiveness and aggression instead of fawning.

do not want to pursue mental health support.

develop ‘toxic’ or unhealthy mannerisms as a defensive mechanism.

struggle to engage with others romantically and/or sexually after what happened.

are still in contact with their abuser(s) and/or still love/care for them.

keep returning to their abusive relationship.

resort to substance misuse to cope.

assume the worst in you, distrust you and are afraid that you’re going to do something terrible to them.

never recover.

if the answer to any of this is ‘no’ then you do not support /all/ abuse victims.

[a-sip-of-milo]

Guess what. You can recognise that your parents were trying their best and still acknowledge that they messed up. Stop telling people who open up about their childhood trauma that they're ungrateful because they haven't forgotten about the fact that the people who raised them hurt them.

DNI if you believe in cluster-B abuse.

[melblogsgfreethruptsd]

[greenevergreens]

Narcissistic abuse is real, and don't let ANYONE try to convince you that the hell you went through didn't happen and no matter what DO NOT let ANYONE convince you that YOU are in the wrong for talking about the abuse you endured and giving that abuse the appropriate name of narcissistic abuse.

[vaelylis]

while everyone is here if you believe in "narcissistic abuse", general "cluster b abuse" or refer to people as narcissists you can unfollow me because literally those people can go fuck themselves 😭

[pretty-little-martyr]

i feel like shit owuld be so much better if people swapped "narcissist"/"narcissistic" as insults to "self-absorbed." cause usually when theyre referring to things like 'narcissistic abuse' or 'a narcissist' they're just referring to a self-absorbed asshole, not someone with NPD. just a teeny tiny shift of language would really do wonders for people Not misunderstanding an already-stigmatized disorder.

[cybergothvox]

Two-faced

[love-me-love-my-weirdness]

If you’re a stereotypically “good” person because of being abused then that’s great

If you’re a stereotypically “bad” person because of being abused then that’s great

Your response to trauma is valid, your response to abuse is valid and you don’t owe it to anyone to be inspirational.

[murderscenemotes]

KISSES FOR THE NARCISSIST

Dedicated to our psys because we luv them sm !!

[autopsyfreak]

it’s fairly common for abuse victims to return to abusive relationships or to seek out new abusive relationships, this is a fairly common trauma response and one that i personally have a lot of experience with.

this doesn’t mean any abuse they experience after returning to an abusive scenario is their fault, the fault still lies with the abuser.

[a-sip-of-milo]

Things I did as a child that I didn't realise were results of abuse

Refusing to flush the toilet or drink water after/before a certain time. This was due to my parents getting extremely angry whenever I came out of my room after eight o'clock or before four or five in the morning, even for emergencies or necessary reasons.

Stashing rubbish in my room. I remember multiple times throughout my childhood where we would have to move house, and as they were taking apart my bedroom, they'd come across piles upon piles of empty food packets or drink cans (coca cola, sprite, etc.) that I'd hidden from them. Turns out I was terrified of getting into trouble for "stealing" communal food due to my parents' controls around what I ate and would hide the evidence where I knew i'd get away with it for the longest.

Tip-toeing around the house, even throughout the day. I would get into trouble for the mere act of being in the same room as my parents sometimes, which taught me to walk on the tips of my feet or even crawl to avoid being noticed.

Physically/verbally/emotionally abusing my siblings. I had no control over what my parents did to me. So, as the eldest sibling, I eventually learnt to take it out on the ones who I deemed "lesser" than me. Which was, at the time, my three younger siblings. I mirrored my parents behaviour because I knew it was what I could get away with most easily. I lied to get my siblings into trouble. I made all three of them miserable because I was miserable, and while all three of them have since forgiven me, it is something that I will always be ashamed of.

Suffering through days/weeks of health issues and pain without telling anyone. I was never taken seriously or I was accused of faking it to get out of school. In cases of UTI's, I was terrified of being sexualised or accused of things along those lines (which is something that they'd absolutely done before) which led me to keeping my mouth shut about it. This has led to chronic physical illnesses now.

Constantly breaking things. Wasn't able to have attachments to things because they'd always get taken away from me/were given with conditions (even the stuff that were supposed to be mine), so everything got broken or lost.

Never. Ever. Crying. I cry a lot now, whether I'm happy or sad or overwhelmed. But as a child, I was bullied for crying by my parents and my siblings (that was not their fault, they learnt it from our parents) until I learnt to just suppress it.

Having full on panic attacks when going home after spending a weekend away. This became a thing that happened pretty much every weekend I'd spend with my grandmother. I'd hide, take longer to pack or get on my horse real quick to slow down the process of leaving. When i'd eventually have to be forced into the car, it was nothing but crying and screaming to be let out again. Eventually, my mother threatened to stop letting me see my grandmother all together if I didn't stop behaving that way (and even went through with it for several years, which is the time in which I became familiar with the dot point right above this one)

DNI if you believe in cluster-B abuse. You're not welcome here.

[melblogsgfreethruptsd]

[brain-n-body-in-disarray]

The whole thing with trauma, recovering from "narc abuse" and deconstructing your ableist views of NPD feels like a bed of eels tbh.

Not being ableist is necessary. It is, period. But when it's entangled with trauma, it is so much more complicated. Trauma warps your mind in ways that makes you resistant to change, because you're caught in a loop.

It is also hard because hearing about "narc abuse" helped, immensely. It gave an explanation to a world of confusing experiences. It gave sense to my life when everything was pain and I couldn't understand why.

But it's important to separate a condition and a behaviour.

Being mentally ill doesn't make you abusive. Abusers are not necessarily mentally ill. One just doesn't equal the other. Thinking otherwise is ableist.

You could take about percentage and inclination and whatever. But don't. It's not about that. It's not about you.

If you start saying narcissists are this way or that way, it's an open door to ableist generalisations about every other conditions. If you don't do it for other people, don't do it for people with NPD.

Also, don't diagnose people? Even abusers. That's just plain wrong.

Abusers are abusers because of their behaviour, because of their choices, not because of a diagnosis anyway.

Also, people with no/low empathy aren't monsters. They are not evil.

I can't stress this enough, what makes you an abuser is your actions, not your thoughts, not your lack of empathy.

Also, bullying people with NPD is a kind of abuse. Maybe check your own behaviour first. Your traumas aren't an excuse either.

Also, in the long run, demonising a group of people and making them responsible for your pain won't help. It's not about forgiving or some positivity bullcrap. It's about allowing yourself to understand what about happened to you to process your traumas.

It won't also help you from not being revictimised. You need to understand the patterns of actions, not of thoughts, to escape them.

I'm telling you all this as a survivor of childhood emotional and sexual abuse. I get the conflicting thoughts. I get the pain and the rage. I get the need of a scapegoat to get rid of that rage. But that's just not the way.

Be kind, to yourself, and to others.

[sadistic-softie]

I hate being confrontational or preachy and I've never done it before, and frankly, it scares the shit out of me because I don't want people to think I'm mad at them, but I just need to get this off my chest.

I don't have NPD, but I'm so fucking tired of seeing bullshit CPTSD healing 'resources' that use 'narcissist' as a way to say 'abuser' or assume that all abusers are narcissistic and/or vice versa. Like...I wanna heal my trauma without seeing NPD people being thrown under the bus and stigmatized for something they have no part in. Like...wtf? Is that too much to ask for?? My CPTSD is not because of someones or anyones NPD. It never was and never will be. Apparently this is a hot take, but PTSD in general is not from anyones NPD. PTSD is from TRAUMA and or ABUSE. Apparently this is such a common misconception that even my father believes it. He said, "it's because she's a narcassist" after I talked to him about my mothers abusive behaviors to me. So, yeah...that's an awkward fucking conversation I might have to have eventually?? Narcissist is not another word for abuser. I'm saying this as a victim of abuse. Narcissist is not another word for abuser. Yes, it is possible that an abuser can just so happen to have NPD, but they could also have literally any other disorder and that would't be the cause of abusive behavior. NPD doesn't 'make' someone into an abuser. People with NPD are not all abusers. Not all abusers have NPD. These things are not synonymous. You can not blame abusive behavior on NPD. In my particular situation, my family has fallen into a cycle of abuse type situation, in which each mother was abusive to her daughters, causing the cycle to become seen as 'normal' in the family, thus perpetuating the cycle. An abusers actions are purposefully negative. Even if the intent is not explicitly to abuse or the abuser is not fully aware that they are being abusive. Each individual behavior is done with a certain intent. Manipulation tactics are meant to gain power over a person, constant invasion of privacy is done to control a person, constant belittlement and agression towards a particular person enforces an unhealthy dynamic, unwarrented and or cruel punishments, threats, pushings of boundaries are meant to train a victims actions and mindset, and I don't think I need to explain why physical violence is harmful. The list goes on. None of these abusive behaviors are symptoms of NPD nor fit the description of someone with NPD. These behaviors are abusive, end of sentence. It has nothing to do with NPD. The following are screenshots from a simple Google search (literally bare minimum research) defining Narcassistic Personality Disorder:

I'm sorry is this post overwhelms anyone. I don't want this to feel like a scolding and I really hope I don't sound like I'm trying to take a moral highground because I don't wanna make anyone feel like they're a bad person or anything like that. I know my wording and tone in this post is quite agressive compared to how I usually am, and I apoligize for that. I also wanna make it clear that this is not directed at anyone or any group of people in particular. Also, take this with a grain of salt too, as I'm not a professional in any field whatsoever and these are just my personal thoughts and frustrations. I hope you have a wonderful day if you're reading this and if you aren't. Thank you.

[iveeaten3humanorganz]

those people when I tell them “narc abuse” isn’t real and they were just emotionally abused, but the reason you don’t want to say that is because you feel ashamed of being emotionally abused because in your eyes emotional abuse is less than physical abuse because you view emotions as inherently weak: