#mutual interests

[tenth-sentence]

People who know a lot of the same things can hardly help talking about them, and if you're there you can hardly help feeling that you're out of it.

"The Chronicles of Narnia: The Horse and His Boy" - C. S. Lewis

[musewrangler]

Hi there Musewrangler,

I couldn’t help but notice that you’ve been liking my Top Gun posts, and I just wanted to let you know that if you ever DO write a Top Gun story, I will be THERE for it SO FAST.

Your particular writing style would hit me just right especially in this fandom, like—oh my gosh.

It’d be PERFECTION.

You are just the best for this and thank you for such a compliment. If I ever do, I will totally gift it to you. ;D And yes, I LOVE Top Gun Maverick so it's fun to see your posts. And particularly I loved the dad son thing so, you never know. The muse could awaken.

Thank you!

[jpantalleresco]

My Last Political Post

On my way to Winnipeg, I was on a poparide journey with a gentleman named Chinyama. We had quite a conversation. We started by observing some drivers and him asking why, to which I taught him why ask why? Sometimes, you don’t want to know the answer. We saw a few examples of why ask why throughout and had fun. About halfway to Brandon Manitoba we starred talking about politics. Chinyama kept me…

[forgettable-au]

FORGETTABLE-AU (Page 36-39)

* To note. Her hands are scaly. * And...unexpectedly wet?

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[rice-enjoyer]

[sanjipussyindulgence]

I don’t even need to babygirl-ify kafka, he does it to himself

[arsenicflame]

Bonus round! Do you use a queue tag?

[sisaloofafump]

My hot take of the night is that when Bruce says he talks to Clark "all the time" he means they exchange a 3 word text every 4 weeks, see each other on the battlefield every 5 or so weeks, stop by each others houses without warning every 6 months, and yet because he stalks keeps up to date with Superman and reads the Daily Planet every so often, he feels like he is 110% on top of things. I mean he only talks to Diana like 7 times a year tops and that's his second closest friend outside of Gotham. So in comparison it is all the time.

[trans-axolotl]

my gendered experience growing up as an intersex person was overwhelmingly defined by my responses and resistance to everything that got me labeled as a failure: failure to quickly get a gender assigned at birth, failure to go through a normal puberty and grow up into a woman, failure at meeting the standards for "complete womanhood" because of my intersex sex traits, and yet simultaneously failing to ever be acknowledged as a "real man" and being treated as a threat when I expressed I wanted to transition.

before i realized i was a man and came out as trans, the ways that girlhood was denied to me was very often humiliating and painful. locker rooms filled with other girls were a frequent source of shame. there were many big and small ways that i was told that my intersex body made me insufficient, incomplete, broken. i was forced onto estrogen, forced into shaving my body hair, and was constantly being told to change myself to better fit this mystical idea of a "normal woman." and even though I ultimately ended up becoming a man, the denial of girlhood was painful.

but i think that these things would have been even more difficult to navigate as an intersex girl if on top of everything I already said, i was having to cope with the denial of my girlhood while i was forced into boys locker rooms. if my doctors were forcing me onto testosterone hrt and refusing to even discuss estrogen, if all my legal paperwork had "M" on it and was a logistical nightmare to change, if every support group for my intersex variation labeled it as a "men's support group," if the LGBTQ community spaces i tried to join were misogynistic towards me often to the point of exile, if my self determination as an intersex girl was denied in most spaces of my life, and on and on and on. while listing all these things out i also don't want to make it seem like it's all about suffering and pain--so much of transition for me has been about joy in my self determination and how much it feels like a reclamation of autonomy to decide what I want my body and self to be like--i know this is an experience i share with so many of my trans intersex friends.

as an person who was AFAB, although there were many ways that trying to grow up as an intersex girl were a painful, logistical nightmare, many times and places that i was excluded from woman's spaces, etc. however, there was a simultaneous affirmation that i was right to strive for that in the first place. which is logic rooted in some fucked up compulsory dyadism, but also which would have made some things slightly easier or even possible at all if i had wanted to embrace being an intersex girl within this fucked up system.

pretty much every time i've seen people on tumblr talking about "afab transfems" in an intersex context, people seem happy to collapse these experiences and act like there's no meaningful distinction or point in distinguishing between different types of intersex embodiment. it seems incredibly extractive, to be perfectly honest with you--taking terms already used by a community to make meaning of their experiences and to expand and dilute that term enough that it means something pretty different than the original.

it's making me think about the concept of epistemic injustice, which is a term coined by Miranda Fricker to describe oppression related to knowledge, communication, and making meaning of the world. There's two subtypes of epistemic injustice: testimonial injustice and hermeneutical injustice. Testimonial injustice refers to the dynamic where marginalized people are labeled as not credible, excluded from conversations, and their testimony and knowledge is labeled as unreliable, even when they're the ones who are experts and have first hand experience of what people are talking about. (this is why i probably won't make this post rebloggable--i've noticed this pattern on tumblr many times where trans men speaking about transmisogyny get lots of notes and are given a lot of grace, where trans women are silenced, attacked for not having perfect wording, and otherwise delegitimized.)

the second type is called hermeneutical injustice. it describes how marginalized people are denied the right to make sense of the experiences in their own lives. this can look like preventing people from building community, terminology, a political understanding of themselves, and the interpretive resources needed to process how you live in the world.

this is a form of injustice that I think almost all intersex people are very familiar with--we are denied community and interpretive resources to the point that we're told we don't even exist, that intersex isn't a real word, and so many more examples that leave us isolated and with very few options for understanding what we're collectively experiencing. as an intersex person i really intimately understand how frustrating, confusing, and painful it is to not have words for your experiences, your identity, your life.

so it makes me really sad and pissed off when it seems like intersex people seem to be replicating this exact same type of epistemic injustice towards transfems and specifically towards intersex transfems. pretty much every time recently i see people talking about "afab transfems" they're doing so in a way that seems to deny that trans women even have the right to make sense of their own experiences in the world. there seems to be this mindset that these political frameworks, these interpretive resources that transfems have built up are just up for grabs for anyone. and then on top of that has come with it a lot of cruel, hateful language and direct attacks towards many intersex transfems who are facing so much harassment right now.

an important value to me is this idea of reciprocity as a foundation for solidarity. to me reciprocity means that we're prioritizing the ways we care for each other, we're thinking about how we can uplift each other, and we're watching out for extractive or exploitative patterns where one group is constantly expected to be in "solidarity" with another group without getting the same respect and care back toward them. i think that there could be so many ways that intersex people of all genders could share our overlapping experiences and actually be in true, meaningful solidarity with each other, but i barely ever actually see that happen on tumblr. and that pisses me off, because i do think that there's so much we have in common that we could celebrate and support each other with. i feel so much kinship with so, so many of my trans intersex friends, and ways where i see our lives converge. but i don't think that can happen in an environment where there's no acknowledgment of the ways that our experiences will sometimes (often) differ from each other, and the ways that we have unique needs.

another frustration i've had based on this most recent couple months of transmisogynistic intersex posting on tumblr is how intersex people have been mostly ignoring intersex community resources and devaluing the existing intersex terminology that people created to try to meet our needs. so much of what i've seen people describing on tumblr seems to really line up with the term ipsogender. Ipsogender is a term coined by an intersex sociologist Cary Gabriel Costello, and is used to describe intersex people whose gender matches the gender they were medically assigned at birth, but who might not feel like cis or trans fits them, might experience dysphoria, and who might feel like they've ended up transitioning medically or socially in some ways. this is a word that exists that an intersex person put time into coining because they wanted other intersex people to feel seen, embraced, and have ways of understanding themselves and communicating to others, and that's something that's super meaningful to me! and yet, i've rarely seen anyone reference it, and also seen multiple people making fun of it in other spaces online.

there's also intergender, which is another intersex specific gender term used to describe when your gender is inseparable from your intersex traits, and that your intersex identity is intertwined with your gender identity in some way. some people just identify as intergender, others use it as an adjective and exist as an intergender man or woman. intersex terminology like this is really important to me, especially because we're so often denied the right to make sense of our own experiences.

i think ultimately what i wanted to say with this post is just that when i think about intersex community, some of the most important values of intersex community for me are solidarity, care for each other, and affirming our right to define our own existence. and i don't think that can happen in a community where people are acting in extractive ways, harassing and attacking their fellow community members, and being dismissive of the realities of other intersex people's lives.

[elodieunderglass]

I haven’t watched Dungeon Meshi, but I always enjoy the dashboard osmosis experience and have a peculiar visual memory. Here is what I believe Dungeon Meshi to be mostly about. No complicating experiences with the text, or indeed character references, fed into this extremely clear vision, which I believe I torrented directly from the astral plane at the same time as the creator was logged on

[lunargazing-png]

[sweatermuppet]

reading thru a lesbian magazine from the 70s & there's one interview section where a woman states that she views lust as a "very male emotion" because "it means you're just focused on orgasm, not the enjoyment or intimacy of sex itself" & i feel like that thought is still in use today which is so sad! the idea that sex/sexual lust is dirty or manly or unbecoming or downright evil is driven so deeply into the minds of women of any sexuality or gender at any age & it looks like it hasn't changed in 50 years

there's also a transcription of a speech where someone is saying "we don't want dykes in our organization! we're lesbians, not dykes!" & then goes on to stereotype dykes as dirty, trashy, etc????

[mumms-the-word]

nothing to see here just gale being described as having "Han Solo swagger"

gale dekarios = harrison ford characters confirmed

[angiemaniac]

A disclaimer warning! Since I've seen this too often in my server or in other spaces:

More information below this:

It's become apparent that people have been objectifying and imposing NSFT Headcanons on Tavella in servers or in other spaces I've been in BG3 discussions. On top of this? I saw her bot on Character AI which essentially mischaracterizes her heavily.

Albeit, I have seen this happen to another OC of mine, and I thought it was confusing and amusing at first. I even let the creator go on with the idea since it was not harmful and it was stated to just be for fun. However, with the rise of the disturbing or uncomfortable comments, I needed to put my boundaries up and make it clear, I don't like my characters being objectified or being forced fetishes onto them by people I barely know. Since then, I changed my stance on this and want the bots gone.

I am perfectly fine with mutuals or people I am comfortable with discussing topics of this nature about my OCs, or even drawing my OCs in NSFT settings WITH PERMISSION.

I know it's the internet and things like this can happen. We draw fictional characters in NSFT manner and I am in a fandom where we have adult-centered fans. I even draw about Tavella in a NSFT manner sometimes. However, I do not like the idea of my OCs for said spaces to be broken down to just an object.

Besides. She's half ace. Take her to dinner, first.

Thank you for coming to my ted talk.