#more sunscreen needed

[inkskinned]

she's singing in another room and my dog is asleep at my feet. my grandma asked me why i haven't found a man yet and i laughed. oh, you know. i like my house clean.

my girlfriend is also my man is also "my partner" if i'm in a professional setting. yesterday we went to a ren faire and a man mimed at me - you're together? and at my delighted nod, his baffled, you're gay? made me laugh. a woman with rainbow hair said i love the two of you together. you're both so beautiful it's absurd.

my dad introduced my partner as my "..... friend. or whatever" the other day. he knows we're dating. in the same way, i was never able to get my sister's husband to stop saying that's gay like it's 2008. he still uses the word fa***t, and my sister's defense of him has always been well, he's just kidding.

my lover and i dance to old music in a tiny kitchen. we judge new music together and take food critique very seriously. we watch love is blind before we fall asleep and agree that if they had a queer season, it would be bloody but also make for excellent tv. of fucking course queer people would know someone for only 2 weeks and agree to get married. what are you saying.

at a bar with friends, a man puts his hand on my wrist. got a boyfriend? and yes, i do have a boyfriend, she's amazing. i am texting her while i wander around a gas station named after geese. i am visiting a swing state for a wedding. in the candy aisle i overhear: she's actually like a lesbian it's disgusting. two teenage girls with packaged sandwiches in their hands, giggling. no literally, like. i'm not, like. okay with her being there while we're all, like, naked and changing.

my girlfriend and i tailgate, drink gin and cider out of cups. from the frat group beside us, a man corrects himself with one of his friends: bro, i mean, nonbinary entity, and it makes everyone around him laugh, myself included. he razzes his friend the same way i would have killed for at 19 years old - like nothing happened, he continues: you apply sunscreen like an alien. he does a little sassy (and fairly accurate) dance interpretation of the motion. his friend is laughing so hard they're crying.

i am lucky, i live in a safe neighborhood in a safe state. my masc passenger princess comes up from DC. i drive her for an hour to where all the leaves are a violent arrangement of color. we walk along the trails, letting autumn into our blood. in this part of the state, there's a lot of pickup trucks and trump signs. when we chastely kiss before getting into the car, i accidentally make eye contact with a woman holding her child's wrist. she looks disgusted. she looks fucking pissed.

two hours later my girl and i are eating dinner on a patio, soaking in the last warmth of new england sun before the chill of winter sets in. we are giggling and trying to talk through plastic vampire teeth. at another table, i see a young woman sit up straighter. i watch her watch us. she blushes and takes her partner's hand from across the table. shy, like the taste of evening has just become something deeper.

it's worth it for this moment, i think. my lover is still humming the same song she's been singing for four days straight and i don't want to kill her for it. her guitar is beside my bed. her toothbrush is in my bathroom. in a few moments i will make us lunch. we are lucky enough to have found each other. it is lucky enough to be in love.

[coffeeandpjsposts]

Ouch! The sun got me today - and left me with an awkward tan line 😬😳☀️

[thiinka]

[surreal-duck]

whispering marina

[stirringwinds]

imo yong-soo is a 2000+ year old man but he looks good and fresh because he does his skin care routine and is diligent with sunscreen 👍🏼 if you open his bathroom cabinet there's a whole row of men's skincare products. unlike some other people: im sorry but the way i see arthur, he loves getting sunburned in majorca and ibiza way too much. antonio makes thousands of euros off selling him aloe vera and post sunburn care annually. he gets better with the NHS and cutting back on smoking but he's not on yong-soo's level 😔

[afro-elf]

so y'all just walking around with unmoisturized skin and no sunscreen? on purpose?

[idontmindifuforgetme]

Kinda crazy that one day I’ll be a 30 year old doctor w no baby fat in my face I feel like that’s literally when I’ll peak and then it’s just going downhill from there

[tackyink]

Reminders during the peak of summer but especially if you are somewhere hotter than where you usually live:

Avoid being outside the hours when the sun is the strongest, whenever those are. Here it's around 11:30 AM to 5 PM.

Always carry around a water bottle with you or be ready to dip into a grocery store/coffee shop/bar anytime to buy a cool drink. This is not the time to pinch pennies. Drink, eat and rest as many times as you need.

Walk in the shade.

Get a fan.

Get sunglasses and make sure they're good quality. Cheap sunglasses can act as a magnifying glass for sunrays.

No one will judge you for going inside of shops just for the AC.

Wide brimmed hats look nice but beware of windy days.

Caps are okay too but be careful with the back of your neck.

Optionally, a parasol can save you a lot of grief because it won't be an added source of heat on your head.

Dousing yourself with water while you're outside is acceptable, just be careful about sunburns and don't track water inside buildings.

Find somewhere shaded and sit down if you get dizzy or start seeing blinking lights. You're about to pass out. This is how heatstroke begins. Drink. Throw water on your head. Ask for help. It doesn't have to get worse, but worst case scenario you may need medical assistance.

Try to wear cotton, linen or viscose-like clothes. Avoid anything that's made of plastic.

The wider the clothes, the better. Let air circulate.

Counterintuitively, clothes that cover more skin can be cooler than wearing less clothes if you're standing in the sun.

You are overestimating how much radiation your skin can take before you go full lobster. Wear sunscreen.

No, you really are overestimating it. Wear more sunscreen.

I know it may look cloudy. I know the water at the beach feels cool and nice. Wear more sunscreen; you're still getting burnt.

You'll notice that locals don't follow many of these recommendations. They're 1) used to living like this and know their limits and 2) being stupid. They need sunscreen too, even if they're not getting red and toasty like you.

[grinchwrapsupreme]

being super normal about White calling Billy "a dreamer"after the events of Maybe No Go

[ratatatastic]

there is something so special about self fulfilling prophecies

[harris-only]

Love the smiles!

[silvermoon424]

I was wondering why I've been feeling so much better than normal these past couple of days and then I remembered I was actually out in the sun for a while on Saturday.

Vitamin D goes crazy hard, especially when you've been deficient lol

[hogmilked]

bought like actual skincare products for the first time in years and have some notes.

the whole anti-aging cosmetic industry is really hard to avoid. i was getting stuff at a marshall’s (discount store, carries a lot of overstock from brands) to save money and it took me almost an hour to find a handful of products that weren’t advertising “anti-aging” and “youthfulness” when i just wanted a cleanser, toner, and sunscreen to help with both peeling skin and greasiness

no seriously. i found ONE facial sunscreen that didn’t have retinol or hyaluronic acid or collagen or any of that stuff in it. it was tucked away in the men’s section with beard oil and cologne because apparently facial sunscreen with no added bullshit is only for men, and women (this is borderline a fast fashion store it’s highly gendered) can only protect themselves from skin cancer if it also makes sure they never develop a smile line

so many of those serums and creams and shit are bullshit anyway. hell a lot of people can just do a wash and sunscreen and be all set. at most a basic cleanser, basic moisturizer, and sunscreen are the absolute most you need. i threw in an exfoliating toner to help even out a couple gnarly acne scars and help with how flaky my skin gets sometimes. if your skin needs more than that, you really should probably just go to a dermatologist or look for actual dermatologist’s advice instead of dumping a bunch of random oils and serums and creams n shit you saw on tiktok or instagram on your skin and hoping the benefits listed on the box will be true for you

IN MOST CASES no amount of skincare products can make up for lifestyle change. i decided to put a little more work in because the lifestyle changes i need to make to help be less oily (i literally get so greasy it makes my eyes burn) and flaky aren’t currently feasible, so i’m trying to give my skin a bit of a boost, but literally the best my skin has ever felt was when i was just drinking a shit ton of water and eating super well

other people’s skincare will rarely work the same on anyone else. everyone’s skin needs are different. when i was in high school i had a gnarly abrasion/chemical burn under my eye because i had tried a routine i saw online that was way too rough and overbearing for me. again, you 100% don’t need a 30 step routine

that being said, i used a $4 korean cleanser, a $6 glycolic acid toner (exfoliant), 100% pure african shea butter, and some sunscreen formulated for use on the face. my skin feels great. my acne doesn’t itch as much. the toner was the most expensive part. the beauty industry is a scam

[skylarkblue]

i have too many stitches in my abdomen and my arm stitches are itchy as fuck and i maintain that living in a country where skin cancer is so prevalent is fucking stupid

[gladiatorcunt]

can’t stop thinking about a kind of pervy!john b teaching you how to swim