#mental illness support group

[signedjehanne]

people on tumblr will literally post things like “you have to eat vegetables and expand your palate i dont care if you are a picky eater because of autism (if i can overcome it you can too)” and everybody will reblog it being like “yes this is true for everybody no matter what” and think its okay. like sorry but that wont work for everyone and there is no one size fits all and some people will never be able to eat these things no matter how hard they try. im only allowed by my doctors to eat recreationally and not for nutrition, because my ARFID is so severe that i get my nutrition solely from a specially made formula drink. your suggestions of “try vegetables roasted!” or “try them in soup!” and assurances of “i did it, you can too!” don’t work for those of us with more severe mental illnesses and disabilities. stop tying a person’s worth to their diet and stop assuming everybody has the ability to do what you can.

[rachymarie]

Tryna get advice for anything to do with your own schizospec disorder on Google be like:

"tHe 4 SuBtYpEs:" "PaRaNoiD sChiZoPhReNiA" "Healthline" "WebMd" "My schizophrenic mother was an abusive a-hole so now i will NEVER trust another schizospec again"

We get that you are hurting but we are not your mum and we are hurting too!

[nuppu-nuppu]

You know when you wanna desperately make new friends but the mortifying fear of being perceived by other people is too much to handle and what if I am actually just too shy for the rest of my life and nobody will ever know that under this timid and awkward exterior is a fucked up sweetie pie who just wants to share life experiences with people they care about

[harpieisthecarpie]

Caregiving while neurodivergent?

I've been looking into support resources or any information I might be able to pass on to a caregiver loved one who themself is neurodiverse (ADHD, possibly AuDHD)

They're the sole caretaker of their elderly parents w/ intensive healthcare needs while also having been a single parent for 18+ years themself, and that's a lot to do without much support. Especially with a late diagnosis and either neurodivergent or firmly repressed family.

They don't let it show but I know my ADHD makes compassion fatigue hit way harder (plus typical ADHD burnout) so I can't imagine having to also be a full-time caregiver.

I'm rambling but basically I can't find shit online since popular society & healthcare professionals haven't truly accepted that neurodiverse adults with stereotypically "neurotypical" responsibilities exist. Or that neurodiverse adults even exist full stop.

So, this is a full plea asking if anyone has reliable information (websites, videos, podcasts); free/inexpensive resources; or their own tips, experiences, and advice!

ideas for helpful gifts & supplies are also welcome (tis the holiday season)

TL;DR I want to help a family caregiver who is neurodivergent, but I can't find any resources or info! Help???

(even if you don't have anything, reblogs are adored and appreciated and loved pls!!!)

(you're also welcome to bemoan this problem w me it's engagement & solidarity)

[jaguarys]

Je viens de finir la volume Stories d'Halan et. Je suis complètement Obsédé par tout cela. Je veux lui étrangler. Je veux lui analyzer pour la reste de ma vie. Je suis

[edge-oftheworld]

yeah I know Luke’s been running around saying he ‘can be a bit of a pessimist’ but I just wanna give him a little bit more credit than that. he’s been through so much and yet we’ll hear him talking about times that are ‘marred with trauma’ but still he can’t ever regret for getting him to where he is today. this whole year he’s been making an effort to do things that scare him and he even finds hard, he’s been pushing himself out of his comfort zone and doing 1000 solo interviews as well as his shows and last year he went to bogota to film 7 music videos in 2 days and believed he could do it and he did. he talks about mental health related things in such a way that’s filled with acceptance, not complaint or bitterness but dare I say even optimism, dropping horrifying little descriptions to already heartbreaking songs since 2021 and then turning around and saying writing songs is what gets him through it, he ‘wouldn’t have a good relationship with anything’ if he didn’t make them but he’s super proud of himself after and wasn’t put off by how much work it was gonna be even though it did make him apprehensive and he goes and mentions how it wasn’t easy. you look at everything we know of him for the last decade and a half and realise, maybe it was never easy. but someone once described optimism as curiosity + resilience rather than being naively happy all the time in denial of everything going on around. and with that active brain and all the things he figures out while writing all his beautiful songs there’s definitely curiosity there. and with everything he’s been through to keep choosing to be himself and do whatever he needs to do there’s so much resilience. and I’ve seen this spirit in the songs of sounds good feels good and 5sos5, as well as littered through wfttwtaf and boy; every project being a quiet, kinda emo, statement of survival. I’m just one fan with too many opinions but this is something I’ve always loved about the band, and a decent portion of it was always brought to the table by luke and idk I just think we should acknowledge it

[xiakeponz]

PART 2 - cont. of sokp modern / lawyer au with @renewedmotionforjudgment more gc/soc med shenanigans (worst gc in the history of worst-er-rer- gcs) (PART ONE HERE)

(FIC HERE) the girls gang ✨

the bros 💀

Not featured: Zhang Zhe going "can I leave this chat now".

[daz4i]

one of the best things you can do to combat shame over your symptoms or where your life is due to your mental illness is to befriend (or even just spend time here and there with) other mentally ill people

both in a sense that you'll see how the things you may feel shame over are more common than you think, but also in a sense that you won't judge them for these things, so maybe you'll be able to judge yourself less too

as well as being in a judgment-free zone. it's easy to spiral when we compare ourselves to neurotypicals or when we're surrounded by ppl who criticize us for not achieving things that others already have, but ppl who struggle as well would get you, even if their situation isn't exactly the same

[dreamlogic]

aye can i get a fuckin uuuhhhh

break. on my burger

[royaltea000]

reporting in to the "hyperfixated teenager with an ill-advised iron cross" squad ✌️

Hima did us so dirty with this one I will never forgive that man 😭7

[indigopoptart]

man i love the people im surrounded with. how did this happen. youre all so lovely😭

[kimyoonmiauthor]

Autism does not cause racism, Cait.

I got newly blocked by Cait for stating that,

"Made Goodreads accounts to downvote only PoC debut authors' books, got caught, was offered a way out, doubled down, made a really bad Photoshop post with horrible dialogue as an excuse, got caught hating on the fandom she came from. Blamed her mental illness. Blamed now autism."

which isn't really accountability.

BTW, which is true. I didn't at her, just explained to someone above asking what was going on.

Sitting here with Neurodivergence, and telling you straight I deal with some inferiority complex issues, but it doesn't make me go out and try to sabotage other people's works, especially people from my own groups I belong to. Punch up or talk about the complexity of the issues, don't punch down.

(I'm aware I'm like the quintessential red shirt and I tried so hard to deny that part of me. That's what my therapist is for.)

I get Sensory Processing issues. I have that. But what happens when I get overload? I lay down and try to calm my senses and check out with a fucking headache. That's what fucking happens. It's not the sexiest TV moment ever. Sometimes I also get dissociation.

What happens when I get Sensory overload and dissociation? I go WTF, and work it out and then check out of social media, or try to do *other* things. I take responsibility. I forget shit because of the dissociation and I still say sorry, I forgot.

BTW, also my English skills go down the drain and I make a lot of fucking mistakes while on dissociation and sensory overload. Paragraphs will skip or miss parts of sentences. Hers were way too coherent.

I get depression and anxiety episodes. I fuck up. I try to still take responsibility for my fuck ups.

I have C-PTSD, but I've worked so fucking hard to not continue the cycle of trauma to violence–emotional and neglect that it's set me back in my life goals in a lot of ways before I got it compounded. But I've never, ever tried to take it out on others.

What happens when you fuck up? You apologize, you self-reflect, you try to make real amends (say deleting those accounts you have up on Goodreads), try to reverse direction and then leave those people you hurt alone. You don't go back in the middle of Black History month to defend your shitty actions.

To come clean, I have a Goodreads account I forgot how to get access to. Which was under my old name, and my story is reviewed on it. The ONLY thing I ever did with that account was claim the story I pro published and then left it alone with the reviewers.

I have inferiority complexes directed at the outside world. I totally get that, but I didn't upvote the story. I didn't try to talk back to my reviewers. I didn't go to my fellow authors and downvote their stories. Because this is what you all have to understand: Writing at every stage is a battle against yourself, not others.

Shitty people might steal your ideas, shitty people might attack you for no good reason, but at the end of the day it's a battle between you and the blank page/editing what you've got to make it better. The better you are not a shitty person, the more you act like this is a cooperative and respect people' boundaries, the more likely you're going to do better.

The authors not published? They are not worse than me. The people that are published aren't necessarily better than me (This has to do with the market) The person who started yesterday isn't necessarily worse than me. The person who has been at it longer isn't better either—art is an equalizer in many ways as a nebulous form. And the biggest battle isn't with others (unlike what a lot of early reality TV shows on the subject made it out to be). It's a battle between you and yourself. Repeat that until you get it.

That said, remembering that, go support the authors Cait hurt via link. They really need the boost to their self-esteem.

[rachymarie]

I just levelled with the group leader and texted that I have been dealing with psychotic/disorganized symptoms the past few days + been at respite + i will be there asap

It's a grp for anxiety and depression so hopefully she doesn't recoil in horror at the mention of psychotic symptoms lol (+ doesn't think she needs to like call the hospital on me or something whack like that bc psychotic symptoms doesn't immediately mean u need to be hospitalized)

Mental health awareness + advocacy needs to include schizospec/psychotic too.

[starfishinthedistance]

Shoutout to bitches who have never had a milestone birthday party (16th, 18th, 21st) because no-one fucking liked them so there was no point hosting one because no-one would come

[adelle-ein]

what a horrible fucking several months it's been

[unbecoming-them]

Today was the first time I’ve been truly shook by group therapy and I am utterly exhausted. I can barely handle dealing with my own trauma, I don’t know why I thought it’d be no big deal to sit and listen to other people talk about theirs.