#mental health and parenting are very very linked! and politics!

[pwippy]

i originally captioned this as "what do you mean no one really figures life out" but thats not really relevant anymore. i. uh. long rant ahead!

[jannwrites]

Alternative readings for The Body Keeps the Score

hi, i'm a practicing mental health therapist and a writer here on tumblr dot com. the body keeps the score by dr. bessel van der kolk has a couple issues with it, primarily in the author's very much cishet male eurocentric approach to trauma and the graphic nature of the book. here's a list of some books about trauma that i've found preferable to the body keeps the score in addressing trauma and how the body holds onto trauma. i've included pdf links for ones i could find:

HEALING TRAUMA by peter a. levine. this one is a far less denser read than the body keeps the score while still providing solid education on trauma symptomatology. it even comes with mp3 access to exercises to address somatic symptoms.

MY GRANDMOTHER'S HANDS by resmaa menakem. this one discusses how racism in america is ingrained in our society and how intergenerational racial trauma is ingrained in our bodies.

INFLAMED by rupa marya & raj patel. this was written in response to the COVID-19 pandemic and the structural injustices in medicine that caused so many racial disparities in response to the COVID-19 pandemic, and how trauma caused by our political systems affect the different systems of the body.

THE POLITICS OF TRAUMA: SOMATICS, HEALING, & SOCIAL JUSTICE by staci haines. a great read on how trauma is not just an individual problem but a societal problem, and how to integrate trauma work into society at large.

TRAUMA & RECOVERY by judith l. herman. this is a classic in the therapy field and really set the tone for our modern approaches to trauma treatment. the pdf linked is the first edition of the book but it has since been updated as we learn more about complex trauma.

THE BODY NEVER LIES: THE LINGERING EFFECTS OF CRUEL PARENTING by alice miller. what it says on the tin: this book covers the effects of trauma inflicted by parents on the body and the brain.

cheers, and happy reading!

[religion-is-a-mental-illness]

By: Mary Harrington

Published: Feb 19, 2024

A new study challenges the common assertion that gender-dysphoric youth are at elevated risk of suicide if not treated with “gender affirming” medical interventions. If it’s true, it ought to have a seismic impact on the accepted medical approach to gender-confused youth.

Reported in the BMJ, the study examines data on a Finnish cohort of gender-referred adolescents between 1996 and 2019, and compares their rates of all-cause and suicide mortality against a control group. While suicide rates in the gender-referred group studied were higher than in the control group, the difference was not large: 0.3% versus 0.1%. And — importantly — this difference disappeared when the two groups were controlled for mental health issues severe enough to require specialist psychiatric help.

In other words: while transgender identity does seem to be associated with elevated suicide risk, the link is not very strong. What’s more, the causality may not work the way activists claim.

The association between gender dysphoria and mental illness is well-documented by both providers of “gender-affirming care” and trans advocacy groups and clinical psychology research. But one less well-evidenced claim, based on this association, is that these difficulties are caused not by being transgender, but by the political and social stigma associated with it. Gender dysphoria, we are to understand, is not in itself a mental health issue. What causes mental health issues in transgender youth — up to and including suicide — is the wider world’s rejection of their identity, and of the metaphysical frame of “gender identity” as such.

This is the root of the oft-repeated social media assertion that anyone who demurs about trans identity, however mildly, is complicit in “trans genocide”. The same assertion that invalidating trans youth makes them kill themselves is also behind the rhetorical question routinely used to browbeat parents into consenting to social and medical transition for their gender-confused offspring: “Would you rather have a live daughter or a dead son?”

It’s behind the prohibition on “trans conversion therapy” already in force in several countries, and promised by the Labour Party in England too. Such measures forbid therapists from exploring with their clients whether there is any link between their gender dysphoria and — for example — life trauma or other mental health issues. For logically, if the cause of distress and suicidality in trans people is not being accepted for who they are, any therapist who seeks to explore links between gender dysphoria and other biographic or psychiatric issues is complicit in just this kind of non-acceptance, and is thus not helping but harming their client.

But as the study puts it: “Clinical gender dysphoria does not appear to be predictive of all-cause nor suicide mortality when psychiatric treatment history is accounted for.” Rather, what predicts risk in this population is “psychiatric morbidity”. And contra the activists, transitioning does nothing to reduce it: “medical gender reassignment does not have an impact on suicide risk.”

Every suicide is a tragedy, and leaves grieving loved ones behind. No one wants to be complicit in pushing a young person down that path. So the suggestion that questioning someone’s gender beliefs may have this effect serves as a powerful emotional cudgel. But if the Finnish study is correct, this whole rhetorical, legislative, and medical edifice may be built on sand. If the elevated risk of suicidality in trans youth disappears when you control for other psychiatric difficulties, this suggests strongly that trans youth are not more at risk due to transphobia or invalidation, but due to the well-documented fact that gender dysphoria tends to occur in people who are disturbed and unhappy more generally.

It ought to follow from this that the way to manage suicide risk in trans-identified young people is not to affirm their gender identity and whisk them off for medical interventions, but to watch for and treat psychiatric comorbidities. Ultimately, though, the claims of gender ideology are less scientific than metaphysical. So don’t expect scientific evidence that contradicts its prescriptions to have much impact on trans advocates. Even if “following the science” would make a real difference to suicide risk in gender-dysphoric youth.

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History will view "gender affirming care" advocates the same way we view lobotomy advocates.

[covid-safer-hotties]

Any advice for how to convince my family to get vaccinated? My partner and I are about to move in to the same house as my parents and two adult siblings for at least a few months. I’m moderately immunocompromised and have already had covid once and I don’t want to get it again. My partner is getting vaccinated soon, I’ve already been vaccinated. But both of my parents are of the impression that 1. The covid vaccines are not well researched and therefore dangerous to get 2. Their own bodies and herd immunity will protect them by creating antibodies. 3. It’s not a very serious illness and the government is intentionally trying to inflate numbers to make people scared/obedient. They are both conservatives and mostly anti vax with the exception of a few things (MMR, TDap namely). My younger siblings are very dependent on my parents and while they are not opposed politically to getting vaccinated, my brother is terrified of needles and is very agoraphobic. My sister is a high needs mentally disabled person and essentially only does what my parents say/allow.

I tried to send a message in our group chat about getting vaccinated with the new vaccine because they haven’t been vaccinated since it was legally required by their jobs during the start of the pandemic. I included a link to the cdc explaining things about it and explained how I was immunocompromised in multiple ways and not doing well health wise in general, so I would really love if they got vaccinated for me. And it received no acknowledgment :/

I am kind of at my wits end. We move in the beginning of November. We don’t have the money to afford living on our own at the moment so we cant just not live there. Would appreciate any ideas or advice if you have time 🧡

There's no magic words or formula that can make an antivaxxer/antimasker change their ways, sadly. If you think information will change their minds, I collect every news and science article I find on covidsafehotties.boards.net . If you're looking for some plain-english info, check out this section of the archive:

It might also be worth the effort to research cult deprogramming techniques, because antivax/anti-public health ideas work similar to how conservative rhetoric is spread and revalidated in the indoctrinated. That might help you get through a little.

[col-e7]

Ninjago headcanons again but my high school with no powers AU (post 1/5)

/!\ TW : traumas, E.D, depression, SH, cigarettes and dr8gs, bullying, mental health, violence, VERY long post with the worse grammar possible /!\

This will be a serie of 5 posts with 3 characters each time. Any ideas, suggestions, headcanons or anything to complete mine is appreciated !

Kai Smith

• is 17 y/o

• is in 11th grade

• uses he/they pronouns but prefers being seen as a guy

• androgyne and pansexual

• are Mexican by their mother and Japanese by their father

• fluent speakers in Spanish and Japanese

• he’s between 5’7 and 5’8 tall (somewhere between 1m70 and 1m72)

• they’re the 3rd older after Zane and Cole

• they’re born on 18 august

• has I.E.D (intermittent explosive disorder)

• has insomnia since the burglary happened (in my AU, Kai and Nya’s parents died stopping burglars who entered in the house, Kai were 10 and Nya 9)

• everyone knows him and his relation with his siblings and how you shouldn’t hurt or annoy them if you don’t want to go to the hospital (that’s what happened to Lloyd’s bullies in middle school)

• due to what they did to Lloyd’s bullies, they had to pay for the damage and the treatment. It took them almost a year and half to find the money

• has a LOT of followers on his socials, especially instagram

• is good at English, P.E., politics and social classes and surprisingly good at art (only at whatever touching fashion like anatomy, outfit sketches and drawing different textures/fabrics)

• wants to be a model or work in fashion industry

• has dated a lot of people in their life but it never lasted more then two months because of his I.E.D that their partner didn’t understand or search to understand, his habit to never seek help or say anything about his feelings

• is currently dating Skylor since the beginning of summer but they realise that they have maybe catch feelings for Cole

• is the only one with Jay to have a driver license

• always getting in trouble with school or students because they fight a lot (is easily provoked)

• work hard after school everyday (he’s overexploited by his boss and knows it but can’t quit his job because he couldn’t afford the apartment or pay any food)

• hate seeking help, see it as weakness

• his insomnia get worse due to his night job and homeworks

• hide his dark rings with a bit of makeup

• was extremely afraid to wear dresses and skirts, anything for « girls » at school but since 10th grade they found the confidence to wear whatever they want and enjoys it

• loves help Lloyd with his art project when they need a model

• goes to art galleries with Lloyd and anything linked to fashion with Skylor and Cole

• have his right eye that moves more slowly than the other and his right pupil bigger and the left one because of one of the burglar : one of them was about to hit Nya by throwing some glass at her and he got between them to protect his sister and his upper eyes take some glass and that stupid little idiot tried to remove it but only make it worse and now, plus making his vision worse they also have a scar now

• loves going out at night with Cole when they end up high and talk about life and philosophical things in the moonlight

• organise hangouts with the entire friend group to the mall when he has enough money and they always ending up to do a sleepover at someone’s house (usually Jay’s because his parents are the kindest people ever)

• ALWAYS wear one black converse and the other red that he wrote on some lyrics of Lana del Ray « Say yes to me… » and « If you dance,… » that he match with Cole’s converse

• always on energy drinks to stay awake

• have an amazing sense of style and can make a beautiful outfit with the bare minimum, and can spend HOURS in a thrift store

• is a party animal since he can rarely go to parties with his job but those parties usually finished with him fighting or being so high or drunk he can’t even go home (he already spend a night outside bcz of that)

• they hate themselves for being a such problem and « bad brother », for being not mentally stable or economically stable as well

• they stop taking their medicine for their I.E.D because he couldn’t pay for both of his treatments and Lloyd’s ADHD medication

• used to skip meals to feed Nya and Lloyd, sometimes does it when it’s the end of the month and he can barely buy enough food for two persons

• has a HUGE crush on Cole since the beginning of the year

• was afraid for Nya when she gets in her first relationship but relax and learn to trust her and saw there were nothing to be worry about

• their fav artists are Hozier and Lady Gaga

• always ask to their therapist what Lloyd said to her but she always give answers like : "Kai, would you, please, considerate to turn off your big brother mode for an hour ? "

• doesn’t know to swim since they’re hella scared of water

• can plays drums

• definitely a mama’s boy

• has a naturally hotter body temperature

Cole Hence Brookstone

• is 18 y/o

• is in 11th grade because he repeat his 9th grade

• uses he/him and sees himself as a cis man

• gay

• is Algerian on his mother side and Indian on his father side

• fluent speaker in Arabic, Hindi and French and is learning Korean and Spanish

• he’s the second tallest after Zane : he’s between 6’2 and 6’3 (between 1m90 and 1m93)

• always sleeping in classes he found boring because his sleep schedule is a totally mess (goes with Kai in the back of the class and do their nap together)

• he’s the oldest of the group, being born one month before Zane

• doesn’t know what to do after school and he feels anxious about it because all his friends have already some ideas

• writes songs/poems in class in a notebook where he writes about his life/traumas, his thoughts and draws some doodles, he considers it like his diary and never shows it to anyone

• he has been diagnosed with an E.D (boulimia) at 6 and even tho he tried to handle it, he always has like severe periods in a year where he loses a lot of weight and feels extremely tired and bad, at the point he did a depression in 9th grade. It was already hard to get ready for school and go to classes so doing homework and listening to the teachers was almost impossible that’s why he repeated the year

• he get, followed after by Nya and Lloyd when they get 16, a motorcycle licence one week after he got 16. He needed it to drive himself to school since his dad isn’t always at home because of his work and since he’s often drunk he prefers to go by himself

• he smokes and very rarely dr8gs with Kai. Lloyd often ask if he could pay them some cigarettes but Cole never does because 1 : "you’re literally a walking angel alive, you’re too pure for that shit" and 2 : " You want me dead and your siblings in jail ??"

• genuinely DESPISE P.E. class because of the changing room mostly. When he was in 8th grade he has been bullied for being gay and “watching boys changing in P.E.” and has been beaten up by his classmates for that. The year after the boulimia didn’t help and he would constantly comparing himself to other and thought he eat too much and doesn’t do enough sport, adding to that the comments of the P.E. teacher

• never goes outside without his headphones and a pair of earbuds too in case his headphones die

• people usually think he’s tough but actually he’s the kindest and sweetest guy ever and gives the best hugs when you need it

• does sleepovers with Skylor and Vania or just Vania but Nya, Pix and Skylor often invite themselves to the party

• speaks to Skylor in Arabic just to watch others’s faces

• learns Korean to understand Jay and Spanish to understand Kai, Nya and Skylor

• plays guitar and has a band with Morro, Akita and Vania

• he does not sing because he just can’t but he can perfectly do rap and beatbox

• he has daddy issues not due to his family legacy but mostly due to his father who can’t make his grieve of his wife and drink

• can do breakdance but will never do it in high school

• protects Lloyd every times he sees they’re being annoyed

• has a ton of pairs of converse but one black with the lyrics « say yes to heaven » and « I’ll dance » that Kai and him matched

• BIG HUGE fan of Cigarettes after sex (his fav songs of them are Sunsetz and Cry)

• his fav artists are Cigarettes after sex, TV girl, Arctic Monkeys, Conan Gray and Pyo (he’s a little singer go listen to his songs they’re worth it *^*)

• his coming out to his father was an absolute disaster and is one of his biggest traumas : his dad saw him and Kai kissing each other one day, so when he explained that Kai was more than a friend and that he was attracted to men, they had a huge fight while Kai was trying to defend his boyfriend but he had to go outside to calm himself down while he heard the screams and shoutings of the two men. After like a half of an hour, his father decided to kick him out of the house. He had to sleep at the Smith’s. The next day he tried to talk to his dad but he was drunk and told him he had no son, that he was dead and that’s why he threw all his stuff out of the window. Cole just took the stuff that was still intact -which means not a lot- by holding tears and leave the house

• spend two months in a hospital because of his ED which became so severe he lost 15 or 20kg (~33 and 44 ibs), he had a constant headache, was very tired close to the dehydration

• loves skateboarding with Morro and Lloyd

• after getting out of the hospital and tried his best to recover of both his traumas and his ED he get a tattoo for this : a dragon with lilies’s petals and flames

• has a big crush on Kai since middle school and Jay was the first to noticed it

• him and Jay have the most philosophical and deepest conversations ever about love and relationships, at 3am, calling each other on discord and playing horror video games

• studies with Zane (at least tries to) and our poor Zane had to survive to a freaking out lost Cole in math : " WHAT’S x ? WHAT’S y ? WHERE ARE NUMBERS WHEN YOU NEED IT ??!! "

• goes to gym with Zane, Kai and Nya

• mama’s boy club with Kai

Lloyd Montgomery Garmadon

• just turned 16 a few weeks ago

• are in 11th grade too (skipped 1st grade)

• use they/them pronouns and identify as a trans man

• thought they were biromantic and asexual but after a sexuality identity crisis that everyone has been, they discovered they were aroace

• they have autism and ADHD

• is Japanese on his mother side and Chinese on his father side

• can speak Japanese and Spanish thanks to the Smith siblings

• they’re 5’2 (1m57) will have growth spurt and be taller than Kai, being like 5’9-5’10 (1m77)

• they’re the youngest in the group

• has been abandoned by their parents in an orphanage at a very young age because their parents are criminals (i will develop this point later because i have literally no idea for now ;-;) but they ran away because of the way kids were treated. They found Kai after a month to live in the streets and quickly bonded after a talk. Kai decided to help Lloyd after heard their story and brought them home

• when they entered in the first time in a school they’re like 5 and it was in a kindergarten and they feel really different of the others kids, feel lost and overwhelmed by all the social interactions like at the orphanage but worse and cried almost all the morning before a teacher came and help them to calm down. And it was like that for a whole week, Lloyd didn’t wanted to disappoint Kai or Nya or took the risk of being rejected again so the teacher helped them to talk to Kai when he picked them up. Kai contacted a doctor who told them to see a psychiatrist for that case. So Kai contacted his therapist who diagnosed his I.E.Dto make an appointment. She was very kind with Lloyd and after a few months she diagnosed them both autism and ADHD

• are very intelligent but started getting bag grades after 6th grade because of the school system that is absolutely terrible for them with their ADHD and autism

• they’ve been bullied since 5th grade and started developing a school phobia and since they say everything to their siblings, Kai and Nya let them stay at home when they don’t feel like to go to school

• Jay helps them handle their ADHD since he has it too and also gives them tips about their transition since Jay’s also trans. Zane give them advices on their autism since they are autistic

• are extremely good at art and their whole bedroom is literally an art studio with graffiti on their walls, a lot of finished or unfinished paintings and a LOT of sheets filled with sketches and drawings on the floor or on his desk

• own like 6-7 sketchbooks, have started them all but never finished them (yet they still hope to finish them)

• have a few hyperfixations and the biggest ones are definitely sharks and video games (Jay bought them some books about sharks and gives them some of his own video games and Cole some plushies of sharks)

• have two hoodies (one green that looks like a frog and an another black that looks like a cat) that they put on when they feel overwhelmed by the noise around them

• have tried to learn how to play guitar but failed miserably so instead they just play violin and they’re amazingly amazing at it ✨

• have wayyyyyy too much plushies that they found on thrift store, theirs siblings/friends gave them or just found them in public places being lost for days. Lloyd gaves names and pronouns to each of them

• used to wear glasses but always ended up broken either by their bullies or by themselves so Pixal and Zane designed, with the help of their parents contact lenses for their 13th birthday

• vans shoes lover

• have for best friend Akita, a girl in their class and with who they have their best laughs in class. She’s their confidante after Kai and Nya

• often skating with Cole and Morro

• teach Akita how to do skateboarding

• their fav artists are Cavetown, The Neighbourhood, Feldup (mostly known in France even tho his songs are in English) and Hozier (thanks to Kai)

• always draw in class except History and English classes, their fav (they’re kind of history nerd)

• have depression episodes more or less serious but they are cutting themselves during those and try to attempt to k!ll themselves (mostly due to bullying and their poor self esteem)

• when they have nightmares they go to sleep with their favourite plushies in Kai’s bed, with Nya when she does nightmares and they both hug Kai for comfort and warmth because Kai has a naturally hotter body temperature

• often think about how they got adopted by Kai, where and who were their parents and ask themselves why they decided to abandon them, and always end up crying, feeling useless, unworthy and unwanted

That’s it for now !! Hope your day was great if not, i hope your tomorrow will !

The next characters in the next post will be Jay, Nya and Zane ! Hope you enjoyed those headcanons I may considering to make a fanfiction based on it idk anyways bye byeee !!

[dies-in-bi]

OKAY PEOPLE!!!!! This is VERY important! I have reblogged a post explaining this in more detail and please have a look!

Here is a link to the petition.

https://chng.it/L8FQ6pMtNQ

More info under read more.

Youth Internet users, millennials, and Gen Z advocates, we must band together to prevent the passage of the Kids Online Safety Act (KOSA), preserving our free and open Internet! Stand with the ACLU and Fight for the Future against a bill that jeopardizes our online privacy and legitimizes targeted censorship.

In 2022, senators Richard Blumenthal and Marsha Blackburn introduced an alarmingly repressive new internet censorship bill – the Kids Online Safety Act (KOSA), which presents a direct threat to the plethora of helpful online resources for minors. KOSA, or S.3663, would grant the federal government an immense breadth of control to censor websites containing content that officials deem “inappropriate.” As evidenced by the continuous attacks on LGBTQ+ rights, queer visibility, and discrimination education, crucial havens on the Internet could be subject to complete censorship. Senator Blackburn herself has continuously condemned education about racism as “dangerous for kids.” KOSA’s restrictions would be entirely at the jurisdiction of state attorney generals, many of whom could impose personal political beliefs upon the Internet at large. In order to prevent unfettered homophobic, transphobic, or racist censorship, we must urge our senators to oppose this bill in Congress!

The Internet provides essential tools for minors’ entertainment and education. KOSA would force platforms to filter content heavily, which would likely fall upon crucial LGBTQ+ support sites, suicide prevention pages, and abuse awareness. While such sites contain adult themes, they often aid in the necessary education and safety of minors utilizing the Internet. KOSA increases the use of age verification and parental monitor tools. Most platforms rely on self-selected age confirmation, and there is no accurate system without entirely jeopardizing individual privacy. Pushing the Internet to somehow accurately censor information for minors alone is an impossible task. Instead, we would see widespread censorship for both minor and adult users.

For many millennials and Gen Z, media and fandom spaces provide us with a special community, cultivating a safe environment with fanfiction, edits, or conversations. A National Library of Medicine study found that many LGBTQ+ youth primarily find mental health resources online. However, right-wing politicians are determined to condemn any LGBTQ+ messaging as predatory and harmful to children, even as queer minors largely benefit from digital solidarity and creativity. Even beloved sites such as ArchiveOfOurOwn (AO3), Wattpad, Tumblr, and Twitter could be heavily restricted or taken down. But we as Gen Z are not a monolith, and neither are the incoming generations. Censorship that is safe for one child may be life-threateningly restrictive for another. Pushing for constant age verification and filtration of messaging will invade children’s Internet privacy, resulting in far more harm than good.

KOSA claims to solve the uptick in the youth crisis regarding mental health issues, but instead gives the government unparalleled control over the Internet. According to the Pew Research Center, 81% of American teenagers use social media. Social media is one of many reasons that we – as younger generations – suffer from stress, depression, and other disorders. However, overwhelming Internet surveillance and censorship of essential resources will not aid children’s mental health. Rather, we need to provide funding for public mental health care, focus on creating better federal privacy laws for all Internet users, and allow for the free dissemination of online resources. Social media is here to stay, but there are far more ethical ways to protect children than blatant censorship.

We must take action together! Join us in:

Urging senators Blumenthal and Blackburn to wholly rescind their support for the Kids Online Safety Act and redirect their attention to a comprehensive federal Internet privacy bill instead.

Raising awareness to gain the attention of our state senators (calling, emailing, signing this petition), thus compelling them to oppose KOSA on the Senate floor.

Aiding the ACLU, Fight for Future, and the Electronic Frontier Foundation in lobbying against KOSA through digital, offline, and financial support.

Protecting our free and fair Internet, so that all users can find essential information without government censorship!

KOSA will not achieve widespread safety for kids. Instead, it will threaten our right to privacy and prevent the dissemination of essential safety resources for various youth groups. Unite with us to sign this petition and put an end to unclear, repressive Internet censorship laws like KOSA

[innermost-memoirs]

A lot of transgender people who want to go to college find it very difficult to do so.

There are a myriad of interconnected reasons why trans students may find it exceptionally difficult to attend college. Most of which tie into discrimination and lack of resources for trans people.

A transgender student may not have family to help them with college. Unfortunately, many trans people have to choose between being their authentic self and having relationships with family members.

Some parents disown, cut off, or otherwise abandon their trans children, leaving them without anyone to rely on. This lack of financial and emotional support can be isolating and overwhelming, and often costs them educational opportunities.

It's difficult navigating a new school environment while also learning how to self advocate. Not everyone is inclusive, and this can lead to discrimination; either blatant or inadvertent. Trans people also have to worry about facing random acts of violence due to heated political and social climates.

Trans people can be denied opportunities like jobs or scholarships. Though many organizations say they don't discriminate, biases often favor cis candidates. This makes it even harder to afford tuition fees. There are little resources for LGBTQ+ students, and even less for trans individuals.

Discrimination is intersectional. Transphobia often goes hand in hand with homophobia, racism, misogyny, classism, and ableism. These layers of prejudice create an environment that makes it all the more challenging for people within multiple minority groups to survive and thrive.

For all the reasons above, trans people can also be vulnerable to mental health struggles while attending school, such as depression, anxiety, executive dysfunction, loneliness, and more. This can make it hard to be present, get good grades, and stay motivated.

Last, but not least, college is just straight up expensive. Many people, trans or otherwise, can't attend college as it's simply unaffordable.

All of these barriers and more can discourage trans people from attending school. However, it isn't impossible for us to succeed.

Below I've included a link to a college scholarship specifically for trans people. Here's to hoping that more organizations will step up and help trans people on their educational journeys!

https://www.onlinedegree.com/transgender-first-scholarship/

[saintmeghanmarkle]

📃 Megalist of 𝑭𝒊𝒓𝒔𝒕 𝑳𝒂𝒅𝒊𝒆𝒔 and Other 𝑵𝒐𝒕𝒂𝒃𝒍𝒆 𝑵𝒂𝒎𝒆𝒔 in H&M’s Political Orbit 📃 by u/SeptiemeSens (Part 2 of 3)

📌 Link to Tumblr post Part 1 of 3

📌 Link to Tumblr post Part 3 of 3

📌 Other notable names:

Ari Emanuel - CEO of William Morris Endeavor (WME) and famed Hollywood super agent who signed H&M in May 2023 to become power players in film and TV production, brand partnerships, and endorsements.  Ari is a prominent Democratic Party donor and his brother Rahm Emanuel is the former mayor of Chicago, former Chief of Staff for President Obama, and currently U.S. Ambassador to Japan [source 1 // source 2 // source 3]

Donald Trump - When H&M relocated to Los Angeles in March 2020, former President Trump tweeted that they'd have to pay their own way. Trump has great respect and admiration for the late Queen Elizabeth II and he's also a fan of King Charles. However, he is *not* a fan of Meghan. As for Harry, Trump said: “I wish a lot of luck to Harry, because he’s gonna need it.” [source 1 // source 2 // source 3 // source 4]

Doug Emhoff - husband of Vice President Kama Harris, aka the 2nd Gentleman. H&M met with Doug at the Project Healthy Minds summit in New York City on World Mental Health Day 2023 [source]

Gavin Newsom - Governor of California. Allegedly two (2) weeks before the 2020 election, Meghan had an hour-long virtual meeting with Newsom. Newsom had been under pressure to appoint a woman of color, possibly Meghan, to replace California senator Kamala Harris if she became Vice-President. In May 2024, Gavin publicly defended Archewell Foundation's "delinquency" status [source 1 // source 2]

Ivanka Trump - During President Trump's term, Ivanka made national paid leave for families a significant part of her portfolio as Senior Advisor. Her goal was to expand upon the 1993 Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA) to provide for paid coverage. In a significant policy win for Ivanka in 2019, Congress voted to provide all federal workers with 12 weeks of paid parental leave [source 1 // source 2 //source 3]. This was two (2) years *before* Meghan's open letter to Pelosi and Schumer. Important to note that Meghan was very much an Ivanka fangirl for many years and even interviewed Ivanka for The Tig [source 1 // source 2]. 👉 slideshow of Meghan cosplaying Ivanka through the years

Jacinda Arden - Former Prime Minister of New Zealand was among seven “extraordinary leaders” interviewed on Live to Lead, a Netflix documentary series inspired by Nelson Mandela. It was presented by H&M and co-produced by Archewell Productions. However, upon the release of this documentary in 2022, Jacinda's office immediately distanced herself from the Sussexes stating that her interview actually took place three (3) years prior in 2019 and that her involvement had nothing to do with H&M, who were only brought in at a late stage. In 2023, Jacinda was appointed to the Board of Trustees of Prince William's Earthshot Prize [source]

Jessica Mulroney - M's former bestie, stylist, and maid of honor is married to Ben Mulroney, son of former Canadian Prime Minister Brian Mulroney. Jessica was also fashion adviser to Sophie Grégoire Trudeau, former wife of Justin Trudeau, Prime Minister of Canada. Jessica and Ben Mulroney are close friends with Justin and Sophie Grégoire Trudeau [source 1 // source 2]

Johnny Mercer, Member of Parliament (MP) - In April 2024, Harry was found by a High Court to have "breached a confidentiality ring" when he emailed information to his friend, the Veterans Minister and MP Johnny Mercer concerning his legal battle over his UK security arrangements. Harry was ordered to pay 90% of the Home Office’s legal costs of defending his challenge [source]

Justin Trudeau - Prime Minister of Canada first met Meghan in 2016 through the One Young World summit. Harry and Justin also connected in 2016, over the Invictus Games to be held in Toronto the following year. When Megxit was announced, Justin said that he was supportive of Harry and Meghan’s move but refused to say whether or not Canadians were paying to protect the royal couple. More than 80,000 Canadians signed the Canadian Taxpayers Federation petition telling Trudeau they were opposed to paying for H&M's security costs with taxpayers’ money. After public backlash and immense pressure from Canadian taxpayers, the RCMP [Royal Canadian Mounted Police] ceased providing its protective policing services for H&M as they had formally stepped down as working royals [source 1 // source 2 // source 3]

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[qwuilleran]

I need help. I need assistance, but don't know where to turn. I don't have a social network online of people I talk to. I don't have an irl support network. I don't know where to turn and I don't know how to ask for help. There isn't anything I think I can offer in return, and I've seen enough of these posts to know no one can trust what I'm saying. So I'm just saying this into the void with no links or real direction because I'm lost and I'm scared. My living situation is compromised. My partner threw me away because I haven't learned to let go of violence and crimes made against me years ago. My parents disapprove of my politics and my relationships. I don't know what to do. I'm scared. I've lived out of my car before, but the temperatures are plummeting. Plus I've been out of a job, spending my savings on reskilling after my employer eliminated my position, citing cost increase and economic downturn, all while Corporate made record profits and still got their bonuses. I don't know what to do. I'm scared. I've already paid for my final semester, so my options are very limited. I'm disheartened and scared. I don't know what to do.

Edit: Taking a chance on the kindness of strangers. I'm scared to leave my current living situation, so suggestions that don't involve public/gov resources would be welcome. If I move far away I might consider public resources, but I am naturally distrusting of those services.

Update 6/24: no update. zero help. some people just stay stuck. I've been focusing on my mental health, distracting myself with tumblr. This isn't how I thought my life would be.

Update 8/30: my mom pushed me down the stairs again. I had to drop out of the last semester. I spent my birthday staring out my window wondering what landing on the grass would feel like, if the ground would kiss me, but knowing that's something you can only do once or twice before people catch on. Alcoholism is for rich people or I might take that up as a hobby again lol

PayPal email: ojoden@hotmail.com

CashApp: $HoneyAndClover

[bookwyrminspiration]

https://www.nbcdfw.com/news/politics/lone-star-politics/frisco-republican-files-bill-to-ban-social-media-for-minors-require-adults-provide-photo-id/3144903/

Sounds kinda like genocide

(clickable link to the article)

Summary: Jared Patterson, a Texas representative, has filed a bill to ban anyone under the age of 18 from using social media in Texas. It would required photo ID to be on social media sites and allow parents to request their child's account be removed, which is done citing mental health concerns among youth. This is confirmed by multiple other sources.

(warning: non-specific discussion of genocide below. I've quoted the UN definition, but there is nothing graphic)

That is a very heavy word to attribute to this, and one that does not match the situation. Unless there's something you know about the situation that I don't, this is not like genocide.

Here's the United Nation's definition of genocide from Article II of the 1948 Convention on the Prevention and Punishment of the Crime of Genocide, two years after it was recognized as a crime:

In the present Convention, genocide means any of the following acts committed with intent to destroy, in whole or in part, a national, ethnical, racial or religious group, as such: - Killing members of the group; - Causing serious bodily or mental harm to members of the group; - Deliberately inflicting on the group conditions of life calculated to bring about its physical destruction in whole or in part; - Imposing measures intended to prevent births within the group; - Forcibly transferring children of the group to another group.

Social media may seen comparable to a group, and its limitation like it's being destroyed, but these events are not one in the same. That is a weighty comparison to make. Should this bill be enacted, there is not a specific national, ethnical, etc. group being killed or seriously harmed or destroyed. We are not that kind of group, and it's limitation is not that kind of destruction. The limitation of social media is not comparable to genocide. It is not the same kind of harm.

This is, instead, social control. It is the formal monitoring and regulation of people's behaviors. And it's being done with an appeal to the children--the "think of the children" argument you see employed when talking about other methods of control that should be enforced. I'm sure that there are other more specific and complex concepts/theories that could be applied to this situation, social control is just the baseline. But genocide is not one of them. You are someone who seems to send asks lightly and doesn't worry over it or think too hard about it, which is perfectly fine, but if you're going to discuss topics like these please be mindful.

To touch on the bill itself, I can't imagine it will go over well within the population. It feels akin to the prohibition, that all this would do is create a thriving illegal network as a work around. I highly doubt minors will go along. That is, if it's enacted.

I'm not the most well versed in politics or political science, so I'm not claiming to be an authority at interpreting and labeling situations like these. But based on what I do know and your comment, I found it important to clarify a few things.

[mawu-writes-stuff]

hi, so.. i'm not really quite sure where to begin, so i'll just paste what i've got from the gofundme.

hi!! so, a little backstory.

my name's londyn lee billington. i'm a 21 year old transgender man from lower alabama. i grew up in a tiny town called samson, famous for what's called the worst mass shooting in alabama history, dubbed "the wiregrass massacre". there's a wikipedia page if you're curious.

i am a maladaptive daydreamer, among many other things!

when me and my cousin were very little, we used to play outside and make believe. LARPing, like all kiddos do.

well, for those almost 15 years, never once did it leave me. i constantly and continuously developed it over those many years, and i've found it's turned into something beautiful.

i've shown it to quite a few people, reception has been absolutely nothing but fantastic, it's more than i could've ever asked for. i'm gonna drop a link.

i'd like to try and hit 1k, but any help we can get would be greatly appreciated!

https://gofund.me/522fe12e

me and some friends are turning it into a webtoon. my mom's facing prison time.

it'll be the 5th time in my life. i don't know how long she's gonna be here, or if i'll see her again.

she's been begging me to write this.

help me make my mom proud of me c:

as a note! there's some really heavy topics in this.

sexual assault, abuse of all kinds, mental health, trauma, war. genocide, et cetera.

this is to raise money for my comic, it's not about world affairs, i've got a novel covering that.

this is just my passion. no real world politics here. we're going to use the money to pay our staff, create a larger team, set up and monetize a discord server, and eventually i'd like to try and pitch it to adult swim!!

i'm super excited to introduce our current team! there's four of us! we have!! (i will update with discord tags soon, i've gotta run it by them first.) imo, a good roleplay buddy of mine, handling editing. my qpr partner bubble, is doing the main art and promotional content, i'm writing the script and setting up the story. then we have my old friend toony, who's going to be drawing the official webcomic!

i'm adopted, my folks are getting older, we live on social security, and have my entire life.

they always told me i could do great things, let's make it happen!

i'm legally blind and disabled, so are my parents. my body nearly shut down from 3 months of not eating on wednesday, we're scrambling to file my taxes, schedule appointments, meet up with my new therapist, etc. bills are due, and i don't even have the money to get my hair cut right now but it's so long it's causing me dysphoria, which is adding to my stress.

please, if you like what you see and are interested in helping out, feel free to dm! my discord is owochi_mawu#2094, dms and pings are totally fine, so is spam.

[soxgetxthisx]

I'll make a graphic for this later. But this is your first stop here on our blog! Here's your cheat sheet to the blog, the muse and the mun. Please read it in it's entirety before deciding if you'd like to interact. I'll leave important links where applicable.

welcome! my name is kodiak, but you can call me kodi, if you want. i'm a 32 year old male who lives on the east coast of the united states (GMT -5) and am currently a stay at home parent. i won't always be the most active, as this is a way to relieve stress and somedays, my mental health and home life will require me to be absent here. i will always do my best to at lease check in, and i will happily share socials with mutuals i regularly interact with. i've been writing for 20 years now and as sam for a good solid nine. he's really special to me and i am excited to share him with you. you're always welcome to message me in ask or dm, so long as you understand that a slower response isn't me ignoring you. i love to make friends and cry over the chaos we create.

i take a very firm semi-canon approach to my portrayal of sam, and while i do absolutely use canon aspects in my development, i also take my fair share of creative liberties with my writing. if you find this uncomfortable, i encourage you to unfollow. at the end of the day, your dash needs to be safe for you. i write a wide array of ships with sam, but i don't tend to lean into shipping. i will tell you about my ships if asked, otherwise, i will just keep them to myself unless they develop. i will be writing themes deemed NSFW, including and not limited to horror, gore, violence, drug use / abuse, sexual activity and mentions of past assault, as i am in agreement with the fanon that sam has at the very least been victimized by lucifer. all darker / triggering themes will tagged accordingly and should you find me posting one you need tagged, i encourage you to come to me and ask. you're free to do it on anon, so long as you're polite about it.

my blog will contain mun chatter, ooc chatter, and muse posts. i will also post headcanons and small works i do on my own. i will be creating a tag for all these things, and i will update with that tag so you can avoid it if it bothers you. if at any time you are curious about anything to do with sam, me, or the blog, feel free to ask. i want to warn that due to needing my dash safe and contained, i will not follow every person who follows me back. it is not personal, and not following doesn't mean you're not welcome to follow me and interact. just please mind posts labeled 'mutuals'.

when writing, i will use a mix of gifs i have hoarded over the years (i made NONE of them) and icons i've made myself. my writing style is scattered and while i can never be sure if you're getting a novella or a one liner, know you will always get the best of my abilities in replies. i will be remaking my icons, but for now, you get my old season 15 ones. if i use anything made by anyone else, i will be sure to include credit to them on my disclaimer page. if you notice i somehow used something of yours and you're not credited, please politely reach out so i can fix that for you.

please refer to these links to get up to speed!

sam's dossier

the rules for engaging

verses (constant wip)

disclaimer page

extra links (constant wip)

thank you so much for taking the time to read and i do hope we will get to interact and become friends! feel free to refer back to this at any time, as i will update it as needed.

[sophiasharp]

Well I wasn’t expecting to see my own school on my dash today but fuckin uhh yeah I can confirm we are all extremely scared and extremely angry at what they’re doing to us right now.

Like dude. Our student body is TINY. 700 of us give or take in total. We all thought we were too small for some jackass like him to care about apparently it made us a target instead. We’re small, we don’t have a lot of funds, no one’s heard of us until now, we’re called a “liberal” arts college which for some people who don’t know what that means is already enough. For a bully with an agenda like DeSantis, we were the prime candidate for this stupid political experiment of his.

The shit he’s saying about us makes my fucking blood boil. You know what they’re accusing us of? Indoctrination of children to the woke agenda. Paraphrasing here, but only barely. I keep hearing about how is board is looking to wipe out our entire faculty and staff and replace the whole system here with their own picks. All of our teachers here are already criminally underfunded as is and a lot of them are working multiple jobs outside of teaching, do you have any idea what this will do to them?

Actually, since I have the picture on hand, here’s some of what the board has says their aim is with what they want to do to our school:

It’s cartoonishly evil. We’re already one of the Top 5 Liberal Arts Colleges in the NATION. Our academics are some of the best out there. And you want to take that away from us?

I don’t even know man. I’m scared. NCF’s grading and evaluation system is unlike any other in the state and it’s done wonders for my mental health, I don’t know if I can stand having to go back to the letter grade system because the stress it put me under nearly burnt me to the ground. On top of that, it’s one of like two schools in the state that have both of my majors and if this new board of trustees have their way, they’re likely to both get wiped off of the face of the Earth. My parents are already telling me to start looking for ways to transfer out and I’m fucking heartbroken about it.

Some other students here have a website set up for trying to get support and a gofundme for getting a legal team to fight the new board. Here’s the link which you can use to find the fundraiser if anyone’s interested.

I’m not involved with any of the organizing but if it’s to be trusted, then any help would be greatly appreciated. Even if you don’t have the time to donate, just spread this post around, with or without my addition. People need to know what’s happening here.

Please. If they get away with this- and they very well might -it sets a dangerous precedent for what can be done to other public institutions that dare to exist outside of what the dominant political power deems to be “correct.”

If it can happen to us, it can happen to you.

this is happening at my college right now. i’m in my third year here and everyone i know is like. haha, im in danger.

what they’re doing seems almost illegal, like.. considering desantis brought in the majority of the trustees in one sweep, we didnt even have a chance to dissent their new supermajority firing president okker with no cause. or if it isn’t, it should be illegal, there’s literally no checks and balances happening here. no democracy involved. genuine fascism at work, it’s actually absurd. extremely fucking filthy and despicable political ploy.

they don’t care about education or the students at all. they don’t care. we’re chess pieces to them. this is who they replaced our president with

[bouncybrain]

CharacterHub Review!

I signed up for CharacterHub because I kept seeing it on TikTok. They have two subscription tiers ("plus" and "plus ultra") they tell you about before you finish the tutorial intro, limited image hosting, and they have two menus on each side of the window.

Screenshots to follow because uhhhh lots of screenshots, lots of things to talk about, very long post. Consider this a thorough review, because I just couldn't find a comprehensive review about this thing on a quick search. Also please remember I have the tech literacy of a boomer, so we can at least see how intuitive it is. This is only a review of the desktop experience at the moment. Edit: I just signed in on mobile why is it so hellishly laggy some times and then perfectly responsive in others??? Character creation on mobile review: link

^ This is what you see immediately after uploading the pfp/banner. Account creation was simple and easy: Username, email, password, and they send you an email with a button to verify you made the account. Pick some tags you like, maybe like a couple things if you want, upload pfp/banner if you want.

^ This is what you see after that.

^ Here's how it looks smaller (I like having multiple windows visible simultaneously, and I assume this is what the mobile site looks like, so what I'll be seeing most of the time I use it).

There are no other directions/windows that pop up at this point. I don't really have a lot of my OC art uploaded on my laptop so I'm going to see what I can do without that. Experience follows (I'm writing this in tandem).

Full list of "About" sections are as follows (written exactly as they appear, each bullet is a different section, * marks options already used by default):

{Sections will be like this: Basic And Identity Information}

Full Name

Nickname

Alias

Real Name

Pronouns*

Age*

Birth Place

Nationality

Race

Ethnicity

Species*

Breed

Class

Title

Zodiac

Astrological Sign

Blood Type

Gender

Sexuality

Likes

Dislikes

Birthday

{Physical Characteristics}

Height

Weight

Hair ( Color, Style)

Eyes ( Color)

Skin ( Color, Texture)

Build

Face Shape

Specific Features

Marks ( Scars, Tattoos)

Makeup

Jewelry

Piercings

{Personality And Psychological Traits}

Personality Type

M B T I

Moral Compass

Temperament

Virtues

Flaws

Emotional Intelligence

Charisma Level

Communication Style

Humor Style

Level Of Empathy

Intellectual Interests

Artistic Talents

Learning Style

Linguistic Abilities

Leadership Style

Risk Tolerance

Political Views

{Background And Life Experiences}

Education

Occupation

Financial Status

Residence

Family

Friends

Enemies

Significant Other

Soul Mate

Life Goals

Biggest Dream

Darkest Secret

Guilt

Shame Elements

Internal Conflicts

History/ Background

{Interests, Hobbies, And Preferences}

Hobbies

Favorite Animal

Favorite Food

Favorite Drink

Favorite Color

Food Preferences

Leisure Activities

Fandom

Orientation

{Health, Abilities, And Skills}

Physical Health

Mental Health

Allergies

Illnesses

Disorders

Strengths

Weaknesses

Special Powers

Skills

Magic

Fighting Style

{Social And Cultural Aspects}

Relationship

Affiliation

Language

Accent

Speech Patterns

Social Standing

Cultural Background

Religion

Philosophy

{Lifestyle And Daily Life}

Alive/ Dead

Most Used Phrases / Words

Comfort Item

Weapons

Pets

Wealth

Outfits

Accessories

Voice Claim

Threat Level

Parenting Style

Environmental Awareness

Fears

Phobias Jesus fucking Christ there's so many

{Behavioral And Cognitive Traits}

Motivation

Coping Mechanisms

Sense Of Time

Self Perception

Ambitions

Attachment Style

Locus Of Control

Tolerance For Ambiguity

Trustworthiness

Relationship With Technology

Conformity Vs. Nonconformity

Attention Span

Level Of Superstitious Beliefs

Adaptability / Flexibility

Additional sections are as follows (written exactly as they appear, each bullet is a different section):

Blank Text Section

More About

Background Story 🔥

Creator's Note

Music 🔥

Stats 🔥

Color Palette 🔥

Timeline (+plus)

Moodboard

Featured in

Alignment Charts (+plus)

Relations 🔥

Outfits

Attribute Sliders (+plus)

Favorites

Inventory

Life Stages

Trivia (+plus)

Fire emoji appears to indicate the most popular sections. I just put one on for this quick little review. Back to many screenshots.

The following are Advanced Settings

(What the fuck is "compliment bombed" in the first place???)

... I went to fill this in with some barebones Mort information and then resized the window. It immediately erased everything I'd just written. That's not very promising at all, actually!!!! (Will be doing similar things on mobile/app later.) When I resized the window with the "Preset" section open, I could no longer close it using the... y'know, close button. I had to put it back to a size where I was able to click off (the darkened original screen, not the preset window) instead.

So I finished, hit "publish," and then resized the window.

Even though I had to click off the window here, too, it looks like it did post anyway! Just don't resize your window in the middle of actually making the character, then, and you should be fine. No images needed, even!

You can see the final results without signing up, so here you go: link

Oh shit there's a dark mode! Also here's my profile, if you didn't click on it way up there (while using dark mode with the creations tab collapsed):

Here's the smaller one (it appears choosing "prefer not to say" or not picking an age range doesn't stick, I've tried that like three times):

I'm going to keep it on dark mode because I'm old. Anyway, here's the "edit profile" options from the teeny tiny pencil on the top of the banner:

Pronouns are not available to input during sign up, but they are, here. You can just write whatever you want.

The age stuff you get when you sign up, but you can change it here, so here's what those options look like:

So here's what it looks like after putting all those in (and adding my Tumblr):

The "about" section is empty. Write whatever you want, there. I haven't written anything, but instead of clicking "cancel" I clicked "edit" again, and it did the same thing.

That's just about all the profile really has to offer. The account settings, in the gear icon on the left and above the dark mode toggle, has these options (I'm out of pictures but I don't think I need any more anyway):

Your Account: password, username, and email. There do not appear to be any limits to username changes off the rip.

Email Settings: choose whether you'd like to accept emails at all, receive "daily notification roundups," or receive "event roundups."

Enter a Code: they have? Codes? Idk, basic code-here page.

Content Preferences: there's a "General" header but... there's only the general settings available. "Show Mature content: By checking this box, I acknowledge that I am 18 years old or older. (link to content guidelines)" and "Mark my entire profile as Mature: This restricts your profile visibility to adults only. By selecting this you confirm that you are 18 years old or older.(see content guidelines for definition of Mature)

Blocked Users: I assume it's just a standard list of blocked users because I haven't blocked anyone yet lol

My Storage Space: this opens a window titled "My Image Storage Space" with a cloud save icon before the text. There's a rounded box beneath. You get 5GB of image storage for free, and this is indicated through a bar in the box, with the text "0 GB of 5 GB (0%) used" above the bar. Beneath the box is smaller text that reads "Uploads for Posts, Events, FanArt & Decorations don't affect storage." There's a shill box beneath for the subscription services. There's an extra gap here.

Report a Problem: "Please complete and submit the form below to report any issue or violation that you encounter. Our team will swiftly address your concerns to make your experience with CharacterHub better." Profile URL is optional, and report reasons are free-write. "If you're reporting something on the site, please report the message, post, character, or content directly. We can review much faster if you do." and "Please share all useful details and links when possible. We cannot accept screenshots as proof, only stuff on the site or original source links." There's another gap here

Log Out

I'm gonna end the post here because it's fuckass long and I need to take a break. Anyway, this is the BRAND NEW USER EXPERIENCE ON DESKTOP FOR CHARACTERHUB!

Come back in MANY HOURS for an update on whatever the fuck unlocks then, I guess? I haven't the foggiest what "events" entails on this site.

[tracyfance]

Inheriting More Than Just Eye Colour

What have you inherited from your parents & their family gene pool? We know that we look like our parents, or a family throwback – I have a sister who is a dead ringer for a great-grandmother! We can even get our mannerisms from our family DNA, all the way down to our likes & dislikes but did you know you can also inherit the trauma that’s in the family DNA?

Inherited Trauma

Trauma in a family can come from many different sources, not just the obvious ones. It’s probably fairly obvious that major events can cause trauma:

Disasters – Tsunami, earthquake, wildfires, floods, famine etc

War – holocaust or the battlefield

Genocide

Oppression; apartheid, political rulers

However, trauma can also come from behaviour we see or experience on a daily basis, yet these are equally traumatising; 

Familial learned behaviour  – men shouldn’t show emotion or women are not important

Abuse – cyclical where the abused becomes the abuser or just the expression in the genes of the previous abuse which can manifest in later generations

Racism/Sexism/Ageism

Witnessing violence

Domestic abuse

Alcoholism

Suicide

Loss of a loved one – prison, divorced parents, death,

Mental health issues in the family

So How Does It Work?

There are studies which show that children born to holocaust survivors but who were not born during the captivity itself, can be traumatised by the parents behaviour. It may be that the great grandparent has learned to cut off their emotions with those they love, this may mean that the grandparent is very distant with their loved ones who in turn don’t show emotions or demonstrate love openly so by the time you are born as the great grandchild, there may be trauma from the lack of love & affection. This can go both ways at this point, I often see the person who goes out of their way to express love & show love which breaks the cycle, it can however perpetuate for more than 7 generations.

Can I Clear It?

Yes, it can be cleared, you can only clear yours & that of anyone who is willing to take control & change themselves.

I recently worked with a client who had pelvic issues, they asked me if I could help them understand it better. In our session we spoke about the various beliefs that could be at the root of it (interestingly the root & naval chakras are the ones affected here), one of which was linked to sexual abuse with an ancestor. They thought about it & remembered a family story of a rape three generations back.

Another client had a legacy of the holocaust, in their family they were ‘not seen’ they were not encouraged to stand out or to shine, they felt anxious constantly & felt they were not being their authentic self, this was leading to health issues because their true self & the conditioned self are at odds with each other, the conflict will eventually manifest as a health issue.

The good news is that unlike your eye colour which you’re pretty much stuck with for life unless you have coloured contact lenses, the ancestral trauma can be cleared.

How Do I Clear It

You’ll need to uncover the issue & the beliefs that go with it & then either on your own or with a professional work to create the beliefs that align to your true self. In the instance of the children of the holocaust survivor, simply being able to stand out, to shine, to be seen & heard will transform them.

I use a combination of metaphysical health, Reiki & NLP (neuro-linguistic programming). 

Ancestral Karma

There may be some Ancestral Karma involved & your role this lifetime is to clear the karma. Did you know we can reincarnate as our own descendants?

Imagine that in a previous lifetime you were responsible for the Glencoe Massacre (this is an event in the Scottish mountains where the British government under the Earl of Argyll Archibald Campbell massacred 30 or more of the Clan MacDonald because they wouldn’t swear allegiance). So you may have been Archibald Campbell in 1692 & your soul is now having a life as one of his descendants.

This event was over 330 years ago but there is still animosity between the clans, feeding the trauma.

We can use the Akashic Records, Quantum Healing & Reiki to heal the past so there are various tools that can be used. 

Outcome

Can you see how the past can create our reality & how it can affect us many years after the trauma actually happened? Think about the stories you know about in your family, what impact have they had on your relatives and what impact are they having on you and your children now? Don’t feel guilty about, but do take control of matters sooner, rather than later.

[fastlikealambo]

link to chapter one.

link to chapter two.

link to chapter three.

link to chapter four.

link to chapter five.

Fall of 94′: Eddie Munson x Black Reader Chapter 6 

who’s ready for a tragic backstory? see if you can spot the  not obvious at all cameo and as always, thank you for reading! 

summary:

it’s been nearly 8 years since the events of hawkins and out of the entire party, the only one to stay behind is the one and only eddie munson. with a five year old daughter in tow, his life is a simple one, still trying to escape the dark cloud over him that never went away.

but when all too familiar hellish events start happening again eddie must team up with his daughter’s favorite and mysterious new teacher to protect his little girl and the town he owes nothing to.

warnings: violence,  gore, religious trauma, soft dom! eddie, discussions of mental health and ptsd, praise kink,  childhood trauma,  smut to end all smut,  hawkins indiana is a warning to me.  

minors dni, I check.

Somehow in the middle of his explanation of another dimension, you fell asleep, a good thankfully dreamless sleep, the kind that leaves marks on your face and drool on your pillow.  Any idea you had of sneaking out and leaving a thank you note for Eddie evaporated with the smell of breakfast and the sounds of Headbanger’s Ball on low in the background. 

You’re definitely feeling the effects of yesterday’s escapades, everything aches before you even open your eyes but politeness has you sitting up with a groan, folding up the blankets and collecting pillows.

“And where do you think you’re going?” Eddie’s head pokes from out of the kitchen.

“Eddie thank you for everything you’ve done for me but-

“How about you finish that sentence after you’ve eaten and not pant less in the back of a Hawkins cab?” 

You had forgotten about that part of the equation.

“Your clothes had blood and bat guts on them and are in the dryer. It’ll be another fifteen minutes which gives you plenty of time to think of another excuse to leave that I'm going to pretend not to hear so why don’t we do that over eggs?” He asks, sleeves rolled up to his forearms, spatula in one hand, cigarette in the other.

You give in, yet again.

Why the hell is it so hard to say no to this man?

“Can I help at all?”

“Yes, by sitting back down.”

And you’re back down again as he brings in two plates of eggs and bacon, sitting one down in front of you.  You devour it, listening to him finish his explanation of the upside down, and a strange feeling washes over you, it’s a solid and warm feeling throughout your whole body, and you don’t know whether to laugh or cry.

Comfort.

A feeling you should definitely not be having while not wearing pants in the presence of one of your students’ parents.

“So what happened to the openings, these gates to the upside down?”

“They were closed by Eleven and any trace of them disappeared after Vecna died. If someone’s in there now it’s because they reopened the gates themselves which is bad or Vecna has come back and taken them which is also very bad.”

“And the people who cleared your name? Can they help?”

“I wouldn’t know where to find them or if they’re still around.”

“ Well that settles it, you and Rosie pack up and leave town. I’ll need a map of where those murders took place and if these gates are open, I will get whoever’s in there out and close them.” You said quite simply. Eddie drops his fork and stares at you in that way you’re not supposed to like again.

“What?”

“You just learned of another dimension, the monster that runs it and the monsters that guard it two minutes ago and you want to head into battle, alone, right now?  Rosie was right, you are brave.”

“I’m a teacher, there’s nothing I can’t handle. So I’m going to need my pants and a map Mr. Munson, preferably in that order. I’ll help you pack, it’s the least I can do.” You say, standing to your feet, only to groan and crumble back on the couch.

“While I don’t doubt you could make Vecna your bitch, maybe you should rest up first. And if you think I’m going to let you go up against this by yourself, then you don’t know me very well.”

“I um, don’t you know very well.”

“I’m not running away this time. If Vecna is back, nowhere is safe for my daughter.  This needs to end once and for all so whatever it takes, how ever long it takes, I’m will destroy him, I will make him-

A ding interrupts his epic speech.

“Laundry’s done!”

He runs out of the room,returning with your clothes, clean, folded, and lightly stained pink.

“Sorry, I was washing some of Rosie’s things with yours. I’ll just turn around here.” He mumbles, turning around, hands over his eyes as you achingly slip into your pants.  Your shirt is half way on before you stop.

“I can feel you staring at me, Eddie.”

“I’m sorry, I just-

He’s behind you now, breath hitching, hands hover your scars on your back.

“Who did this to you?”

You slowly back into him and he hugs you from behind, chin resting on your shoulder.

“If I tell you the truth about me, will you keep it a secret? If I tell you everything, will you keep it safe? Is my truth safe with you?” You whisper.  

He gently turns you around to face him.

“ You’re safe with me.”

“Ok, but don’t say I didn’t warn you.”

You’re wrapped back up in a blanket on the couch, nervously picking at the threads but an encouraging look from Eddie makes you take a deep breath and begin.

“ I guess I should start by saying that the name you know me by isn’t my real name. I don’t know my real name, where I was born, anything like that. All of that was taken from me by a woman, a scientist I’ve only known as Mama.  She was a part of a research group that sought to develop mind control techniques but when that experiment went south, she stole several children from her research partner to begin her own trials into creating the perfect weapon.”

“Do you know who her research partner was?”

“No, she never said it.  Within a year of leaving her research partner, most of the children died as a result of her experimentation methods or were killed when her research partner finally caught up with her.  She needed new subjects that she could mold in her image, that were untainted by her research partner, that would be completely dependent on her.”

“ You.”

“I don’t know how she got me, all of my earliest memories are with her. There were ten of us in total, raised in isolation in the mountains. She told us that our powers were a gift from God and that only with her guidance, her love, could we fulfill our purpose. And I believed her every word.”

“You were just a kid.”

“But I didn’t question it.  She did horrible things to us, broke our bodies to find the limits of our powers and push past them, and I thought she did this out of love.  By the time I was sixteen, she no longer had the money to keep the place she held us in as secure as it once was and those of us who couldn’t stand the physical effects of her work got sick and died. She was growing desperate, her hold over all of us started to break, and then one night, the outside world finally caught up with us.’

“How?”

“ A hiker had gotten lost and somehow ended up near us, all he needed was directions and he would have left us alone. When she asked me to kill him, I refused, so she killed him and made me watch.  She was so angry, distracted by the hiker, she had forgotten to put the security system in place. While Mama buried the body, we escaped. Or rather they escaped, Mama caught me and- “ You don’t finish the sentence, hands shaking and it’s Eddie’s turn to hold them.

“Is that how you got those scars?”

You nod.

“She must have pushed my body too far because all I remember is waking up to our home on fire, her on fire. I couldn’t stop it, I just ran.  Started over, went to school, never stayed in one place for too long. Somewhere I  found out a certain off brand pain med could suppress my powers and I could live something close to a normal life. Hawkins Elementary School was down a kindergarten teacher and that’s how I got here.  This is the part where you sneak into the other room and call the FBI.” You finally finished.

 This is it, you’ve been waiting for the other shoe to drop since you ran.  You don’t blame him, he has Rosie to think of and a town that already hates him for no reason, he doesn’t need your mess.  Maybe you can find a way to close the gates before the government or Mama gets here.

“Is it okay if I hold you?” Eddie asked, arms open, nervous.

You’re not sure how to do this, you knew how to comfort your students when they were sad or mad or confused, you knew how to resolve conflict in classrooms, but this kind of wanting, this outpouring of kindness, solace in the aftermath of suffering is foreign to you.   You used to wonder when it would be your turn for a sliver of true peace and here it is right in front of you, ready and waiting.

All you have to do is surrender.

And you do, turning yourself over to Eddie, letting him settle you in his embrace, his voice low and soothing in your ears. Nearly three decades worth of tears are shed right then and there on this poor man but he doesn’t falter, just cradles you that much closer, rubbing circles in your back. 

“ You’re okay, you’re okay, whatever you need, I’m right here. Nothing’s going to hurt you while I’m-

A banging on Eddie’s apartment door makes you both jump apart.

“Open the door you fucking freak! I know you have something to do with this!”  The voice screams, rattling the door handle for good measure. 

Wait a minute, you know that voice.

Principal Carver.

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