#maybe im blowing it out of proportion! i dont know

[lunarsapphism]

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[roseworth]

Can you expand more on the types of the things Dick fans say or do that make you dislike his character?

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the thing about dick grayson is that he is an extremely popular character but the way some people talk about him you would think that hes an unappreciated side character. i think that there are certain fans that need to remember that he has been consistently showing up in comics for 80 years so if hes out of character or left out in one book it shouldnt matter. like im sorry for your loss maybe you can wipe your tears with one of his other 10000 appearances

i feel like any time dick is slightly out of character in a book i see people writing paragraphs about what was wrong with his characterization no matter what the book is. if hes a side character in a book someone will be there to say "um☝️ this is out of character because dick didnt save everyone??? 🤨 why did the main character get the focus instead of dick 🫤" like!!! not everythings about him!!!! and a lot of his fans love that hes an extremely skilled fighter (and im not disagreeing with that!! he definitely is) but because of that they get upset whenever he loses a fight no matter what. even though sometimes to tell a story you need the character to lose sometimes. and i know that a lot of that is because people need to feel the need to defend him after t*m t*ylor wrote him like he was incompetent. but i stg its every time he gets hit someone says "actually this wouldnt happen and this is out of character"

also i feel like people shit on jason and tim fans all the time for stealing traits from female characters and projecting them onto their fav batboy (rightfully so!!) but then i constantlyyyy hear about dick's Eldest Daughter Syndrome and how he represents the female experience or whatever. like i dont have an issue with that on its own, and i think a lot of the people who i see say he has eldest daughter syndrome are people who also talk about women so i dont mind it as much, but there are Other people who basically talk about dick like hes a female character while ignoring the actual women in his stories

speaking of treating him like a female character. im so tired of people saying that the ass jokes are problematic. like dont get me wrong! theyre annoying and unfunny and i dont like them! but some people are convinced that theyre terrible because they objectify him and sexualize him for no reason and etc etc. and the argument i hear over and over is "can you imagine how terrible it would be if they did this to a woman!" like. yeah actually. i dont have to imagine. theyre doing it right now unironically. i think this fictional man will survive if hes drawn with a fat ass sometimes. its not a good thing but there are some people that blow it way out of proportion because "omg why would they do that to him 😨" like i really cannot bring myself to care even a little

plus a lot of his fans will act like hes special in some way in terms of fighting ability or intelligence. and again i do know that he is a great fighter and is very smart!! but hes definitely falling into the same issue that a lot of batman fans have in the sense that they think hes The Greatest To Ever Do It and other characters get put down so dick can be better. so people want to believe that dick can beat anyone in a fight and always wins with prep time. plus there are people that think of him as the perfect character for any situation so there are dick fans going "if dick was there during the utrh confrontation everything wouldve worked out fine 🤗" and "dick actually wouldve killed any character who hurt his friends" and anything like that. because a lot of his fans just want to insist that he is bruce but without all the parts they dont like. toxic nightwing fans are so similar to toxic batman fans but its worse because they dont even think he can have flaws. at least batman fans know he sucks and hates everyone, but nightwing fans say all the great things batman fans say but without any of the issues

anyways. but i think most of the reason that he bothers me has nothing to do with his fans and a lot more to do with dc. just because i really dont care about him. so many comic readers love him so dc will obv appeal to the people that love him. which means that those of us who dont really care about him have to hear about him in every book. like hes just some guy why is he being treated like the most important guy in the world during dark crisis and absolute power. and i have to hear about how hes the heart of the dcu or the glue of the batfamily or whatever else they've said about him. i dont care!!!! at least when its batman being treated like dc's specialest princess all the other characters hate him. since dc thinks that all the readers love him they make it so all the characters love him. and i just dont care about him. im tired of them shaking him in my face and going "its nightwing!!! we all love nightwing!!!! hes the best!!!!!!" i want that twink obliterated

[the-real-rain-world-confessions]

just going to leave some of my thoughts here:

first: i do not think the fandom is falling apart. there is still talented and good people here. people always blow up anything that happens out of proportion. this dosent even apply to anything in particular. even if it did get bad, i love this game too much to just stop supporting it.

partially related to that, i do not get the people who whine so much about nsfw and generally things they do not like. i do not like any rain world nsfw at all. iterator or scug or else. but i would not harass anyone over it, that is not good. i dislike but care very little about iterator or anthro scug (anthro being a slugcat who is able to consent, does not have to be full furry-looks-like-a-person) nsfw. i very much do not like animalistic slugcat nsfw (or think other things that would be illegal in real life) but i still would not attack people over it. (and i would stay out of those spaces! they arent for me)

and semi related to that too, i do not ship anything in rain world. i generally dont really ship. but i still show my appreciation for ship art like anything else. i see a really good slugcat art? yay! i let the creator know (by liking etc) that i like their art. i see a really good ship art, even if i dont ship? yay! i do the same thing, because the creator obviously put effort into it and cares about it. and it can be cute sometimes, or interesting. i actively follow accounts that post majority ship art because i like the art, or the ideas, or the account.

all this also goes for headcanons i dont like, aus i dont like, fics i dont like, interpretations i dont like, literally any content i dont like. not hurting people in real life, and you know how to keep it that way (seperate fiction from reality and things)? well then im just going to leave, maybe block the tags so i dont see it again (or something similar), and consider it settled. hence 'people always blow up anything that happens out of proportion.'

this was a long confession but what else ima do? i guess im a coward for posting this on anon but thats what confession blogs are for babyyy!!

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[dteamain]

im not gonna lie to u this video conceptually is both stressing me out and pissing me off....

Like tommy maybe behind the scenes stuff doesnt need to be public? maybe this messy junk is interpersonal and not to share with the whole world? and if hes really so upset that the dteam dont like that he made fun of dream, what the hell did he expect? his bit was shitty and purposefully negative!

Im holding out because SURELY he isnt so immature that the reason hes upset really does just boil down to "im mad that my actions have consequences", because like!!! thats crazy!! youre mad about that, and youre willing to make a whole VIDEO about how mad it makes you? this interpersonal bts drama???

It just feels SOOO purposeless, and like. i dont know! tommy if you cannot resist talking about it, talk to ur fucking therapist? Its crazy to see tommy bashing dream for "blowing personal drama out of proportion" with the q thing, only for him to immediately turn around and do THE EXACT THING HE WAS CRITICIZING DREAM FOR by talking about their messy personal gripes with eachother... is that not EXACTLY why people found dreams whole thing annoying? at least dream was trying to fucking mediate 😭

the whole thing just doesn’t make sense does he hear himself? Does he understand that HE took a situation that was already blown over and brought it back tenfold HE was a dick HIS mom was replying to children instead of letting it blow over like what is HE mad about when HE caused all this????

WE JUST WANT TO BE LEFT ALONE

[rainbowdaisy13]

I appreciate your blog and insights so much and i agree with a ton of stuff you have said about taylor / kaylor so this comes from a kind place, not a hateful one. I dont want to defend taylor at all. However i want to offer a different perspective on some of her lyrics solely for arts sake.

I see a lot of people saying we should not have been surprised that taylor isnt the good person we have thought she was and that she has shown us her narcissistic / abusive / victim - playing personality (etc) through her lyrics. Songs like afterglow, renegade, youre losing me (etc) come go mind.

After all i still believe writing music is a way for her to cope and if that is so, i see it as a good sign that she writes about the dark sides of her personality because it shows she can still reflect on the situations and her role in them. I would find it worse if all her songs were basically white horse or shouldve said no where she doesnt take any blame for anything.

We need to remember we werent there in any of the situations she describes and so we dont know if she actually „went off like sirens“ at her lover or actually said and meant things like „you sacrificed us to the gods of your bluest days“.

The way i see it, those lyrics can absolutely tell what has really happened. But they can also be fragments of what was in her mind when the situation happened and was left unspoken. Or offer an alternative reaction to a situation that truly happened. Maybe she wanted to blow things out of proportion and make her lover miserable, maybe she even did. However we dont know any context and we dont know how or if she made up for it and therefore we cant judge her because im sure all of us have destructive tendencies and as i said before, people who dont recognize them are far more dangerous than those who do.

I guess my point is that people seem to forget that just because a song is based on real experiences and feelings does not make the song 100% accurate and also the other way around. Just because a song has been inspired by fiction doesnt mean the feelings cant have occured in real life situations.

Its scary how illiterate the world is becoming. We are less and less capable of interpreting art and its dangerous for so many reasons.

As an artist I think art is up to individual interpretation by whomever is viewing it—like the Observer Effect for particles

I disagree that people are unable to interpret art correctly because any true artist knows that what we create isn’t fully coming from just ourselves. You tap into something else to create anything, but especially something that has a profound impact on you while you are making it. Whoever is experiencing your art is bringing their own entire mental worlds to the table which colors their interpretation as well

So while I agree with you that nothing Taylor reveals in her lyrics should be taken as gospel truth, or complete fantasy, I don’t think there is one true correct interpretation of any of it. Go to any Taylor sub and see how the Matty or Diana stans can read a lyric that Kaylors have claimed and make it line up with their cannon just as easily

[milf-n-dilf-dippin-dots]

IM GOING TO KILL IM GOING TO KILL IM GOING TO KILL

Last night my roommate and I got some drinks- i shared some soju w him and hit the hay after packing away some stuff n tidying/rinsing etc

I leave at 9am this morning, 3 bottles of soju on the table, 2 cans of sprite and some snacks on the table "oh its fine, he knows im out im sure he'll tidy and throw out some of the counter rubbish for me :>"

Come home at 4pm

The only thing thats been done is the 8 dishes that were in the sink (lil cups, 2 bowls from dinner and cooking utensil) not including the pan on the stove

Nothing thrown away!! Im going crazy!!!!!!!!!

Be so fr gang, am i like. Blowing it out of proportion? Or is the fact that im the primary cleaner of the house insane.

Important note is that i have no choice but to be the person who does mostah the cleaning- because he sleeps 12 hours a day, waking up around 2 or 3 pm and not going to bed until 5 or 6 am.

I went away for 2 nights n i come home and hes like "oh i could finally get stuff done because im only productive at 4am"

Which hey man sure dude you do you i dont care what you do in yer free time-

But my ass isnt gonna go 'yes! Sure! You can vacuum and wash dishes late at night/early am! Even though it keeps me awake because i cant close my door!'

But i also dont want to end up being this dudes damn mother the fucking manchild doesnt even know how to mop properly- or vacuum properly! And he doesnt vac the carpet! Or wipe down the oven/benches after using em! Like cmon man!!

"Oh but maybe he didnt get taught!"

Dawg i am his roommate, at what point is it my responsibility to teach a whole entire dude how to take care of his surroundings. I saw his room when he moved out- it was bad. This dude borders of raw negligence of his surroundings, and if it wouldnt cause me the harm i would stop cleaning up after him just so hed suffer. And he leaves the tap running to wash dishes.

I dont know what i expected tbh- his parents built 2 houses for their kids next to their 2 storey spiral staircase chandelier having house.

Im fighting for my fuckin life over here- 300 rent a week, 125 a fortnight for a couch, 50 a month for wifi, etc while this dudes like "yeah i paid all my rent a month in advance, and i get my money from dividense" it makes me want to break his trachea.

Like lets be fr i am blatantly not a pleasant person, moreso in high doses, and moreso when i have to deal w someone who fucks their own life even when theyve gotten dealt the perfect hand of cards to do well.

Like, yeah man im sorry you cheated on your girlfriend of multiple years for 5 whole months then got sad about it and became an insomniac but im not gonna suffer your shit schedule and not sleep well because you wont see a therapist or take meds. Like is that my problem? To be clear im not a cunt to his face, but i am a cunt. And i am annoyed at him. Maybe i should commune like a normal person, but that involves me sitting this dude down to tell him he needs to pay attention to things like 'responsibility' and 'reasonable expectations'.

He had guests over a while ago and i ended up cooking for them all!! And cleaning up after them!! And making breakfast the next morning!! He apparently makes 1800 a fortnight and he spends almost all of that. He owes me money!! Sometimes i pay for groceries n he just has to pay me back! Like dude???

[eurydicesmuse]

Ice raids left and right

Im so scared i cant lie and idc if maybe im blowing this out of proportion and i dont wanna hear that it’s gonna be okay because we dont fucking know that. I don’t want my family broken up and I don’t want other families broken up I hate it

[xxintuitionxx]

I’m really sad that somebody blocked me😭😢🥺

I feel terrible, it’s someone who i think the world of too and i don’t really interact much, i should also mention that she is an absolute genius and somebody who channels information but she is also insanely wise, so learning from what she was posting was like the greatest privilege, and if she felt i deserved to be blocked then obviously i did but i just feel so terrible about it, i feel like i was just blocked by female Jesus! 😥 like bro i think that means im not gonna make it, AND! just the other day a tiny cute little dog cornered me in a driveway and bit the sh#t out of my leg! And then i get blocked by that bad ass wise lady! Coincidence? I think not!

I forgot to mention she blocked me on instagram too! She’s for real! And she is basically right about everything, so without me really interacting with her i still fu#%d up enough to be block worthy😥 i feel like i should block myself, i can be really annoying, 🤔 idk, i kinda feel like maybe this means I’m going to hell. I do make some terrible music recommendations and i really can be quite persuasive so if she clicked on any of the songs i posted that would definitely be a good reason for blocking me😓

Wait and there’s more! It keeps getting worse! I found out i was blocked at exactly 2:22pm!!!

I’m F#%*d! 😳 this is how i imagine it must feel like to find out ur getting audited, i really think i pissed her off and i dont know what i did😨 also a possibility i am blowing this out of proportion, idk🤫

[talktalktalktome]

in the end i mean like. if higher mgmt wants weekends off + working only mids + no closing or opening shifts. then this is whats gonna happen .... junior managers by themselves on closing shifts is not gonna go well. esp cuz I DONT MFING GET PAID ENOUGH FR THIS !!! i mostly just feel bad for whoever got their card info stolen yknow... and ofc now i know better im never gonna do it again. but ofc my brain is blowing it out of proportion like what if i gotta talk to the cops abt this someday... but idk idk im gonna try to put it out of my mind. melanie's gone by sunday if this girl can just hold off til sunday without doing any stupid shit it might just blow by. maybe we'll get a note from the bank abt some fraudulent charges but if melanie's not here i can HANDLE that.

mostly i just need to learn to trust my mfing gut. this job is just so back and forth over what you should and shouldn't do like im just as worried abt pissing a pet parent off enough to get a cro as i am w letting someone scam someone else out of their money. (mostly because of melanie...) but sigh sigh sigh. hopefully it will all work out. really worried cuz one of these days my luck is gonna run out

[acethatlovesdinos]

Tw: vent, female body dysmorphia? (Idk I don't have an official diagnosis). description of feminine anatomy (boobs). I'm not asking for pity, I'm just spitting words out because I feel the need to make them known. A confession, of sorts. And maybe it'll help some of you feel less alone in your own journey.

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I'm not pretty.

I'm aware of the fact. Never really have been. Not exactly the textbook definition of "attractive" when I look in the mirror.

I dont feel unloved, I think that's a different thing. I know i have caring friends and family who have my back, but it's still not quite what Im getting at.

I hate mirrors. Specifically the big ones in the bathroom before I shower. I look at myself, my eyes taking in every flaw.

I used to be bigger, you see, and I do feel much better having lost a significant amount of weight but that in itself brought upon an entirely new type of insecurity.

At least when I was a larger size my shape was "normal," per se, in that i expected and understood that physique well.

I had gotten a gastric sleeve surgery (make stomach smaller so you can absorb less food, thus losing weight in a more "natural" manner). Considering my morbidly obese state at the time, it was a necessary adjustment for the sake of my own health.

Dont get me wrong, I'm happy with what I've done. It's been a massive change and I feel so much better from both a physical and mental perspective.

but oh boy, I never could have expected the kind of insecurity that accompanied rapid weightloss.

it was incredible for a while, watching my clothes fit looser and feeling like I had more energy. my mental health improved drastically. truly, this was one of the best decisions I ever made, and I dont think Id change it if given the chance. I do want to make that clear, my current feelings are just a bit of a side effect.

quickly shedding pounds means that your body doesnt really get a chance to re-absorb that loose skin. what once was round, fatty pudge has now become loose, dangling flab. it hangs over my waist, accentuating my gut and making it still look larger than it is. Unfortunately, the weight I've lost isnt enough to properly constitute those surgeries to remove the loose skin that exists, so I'm sort of just...stuck with it. Im still certainly not skinny by any means, but I feel as though I'd be a size or two smaller if that extra flab wasn't there.

My hips and thighs didnt change a whole lot, so I remain with a bottom-heavy, pear shaped form with a waist several inches behind my hips. pants are a struggle to find a comfortable fit as a result.

It doesnt really strike much thought at first, but I was pretty quick to remember that breasts are composed mostly of fat and soft tissue. One of the first places to start showing a decrease in size? yeah. My chest wasn't particularly huge in proportion to my body anyway, and they only got smaller. that's a blow to the self-esteem if ive ever seen one. ever try shopping for a 40A bra? they aren't very common.

Oh, and what I said before about loose skin? that applies there too. there's no shape, it just sort of...sags pathetically. it could almost be compared to the "boobs" of an obese man with the way they sit, and the thought disgusts me.

all in all im sagging, loose, and not what someone would call a pretty sight...ever. It makes me fear the longevity and even possibility of future relationships, because who would want something like this?

my only saving grace is when I take a closer look at myself. Look closer in the mirror, look at my face. that seems to be the only part of myself im mostly okay with.

I've got a soft, round face, dusted with a natural blush and a gentle chin. my ears arent too big, and ive got a little dimple when my mouth moves the right way.

pale blue eyes provide the only pop of color on my otherwise pale, boring body, a cloudy shade of slate with a ring of green around the pupil. I dont want to sound basic, bit they really do seem to change under the sun. hooded eyelids occasionally cause makeup to be frustrating, but i only wear the stuff on special occasions anyway so it's not exactly a huge deal for me.

My glasses help to frame my face, a cute but necessary prop(bc i am blind lol), with the added bonus of helping to hide the tired circles under my eyes.

A lot of people seem insecure about their noses, but mine has been mostly unproblematic throughout my experience with it.

I've had a surprising number of people comment on my "perfect lips" (a few ladies who helped me with makeup), bringing up the defined Cupid's Bow and naturally plump shape, a soft pink hue that exists all on its own. I never really thought much of it until someone told me.

My hair has always been a fickle thing, and I've had a bit if a love-hate relationship with it until fairly recently. I've found that I like it bobbed at my chin, where its light enough that the natural curls can have a strong effect. the most product I tend to use is this nice-smelling leave-in conditioner, which just helps to tone down the frizziness. I love the way the curls frame my chin and jawline, and it coils into these thick, beautiful springs after it dries from a shower. it's so soft and I love to run my fingers through it when it's been freshly cleaned. The current color is a dark purple, that looks almost black indoors, but it nearly lights up when the sun hits it. its natural color is a deep brown, and i still do like it, I just thought a bit of color would be nice for once.

Ive got moles and marks everywhere, but that's never bothered me. the little brown spots are fun, and a few of them on my arm can even be traced into a perfect arch.

the most unique aspect of my appearance is this...little patch of tiny moles in the center of my throat. The patch is only about a centimeter in full area, and it's covered in little raised brown bumps. Oddly enough, this part of my body has never been something I felt ashamed of, as the little patch of marks were one of the many things that made me, me.

So maybe my body isnt perfect. it's not the ideal shape, nor size, nor whatever else, but I guess there's some things about it that I dont mind so much.

[lokh]

@hawkebop

[blufox234isadumbname]

My own little vent regarding recent events (05/01/2020)

There’s a lot of things for me to say here that I guess has been said enough, but this is just things I’d rather have off my chest.

For clarity, this is about stuff happening in Danplan, or rather Stephen leaving Danplan. If you haven't known yet, link to the video where Stephen explains his side of the situation is here

Anyways prepare for a long post. Feel free to scroll past if needed.

I wasn’t a part of the fandom for a long time, only last year did I join. My first video from Danplan that I watched was “Can You Survive Birdbox”. Back then, I was attracted to the format of the video already, a casual playful discussion/quiz between three guys presented in an animated format. But that was not the only thing that brought me into liking the channel.

It was Stephen himself.

He was an instant favourite of mine once I watched that video. Chaotic, boisterous and entertaining. Whenever he talked, he was funny and always made the video a joy to watch. Don’t get me wrong, Hosuh and Dan were also contributing to my attraction to Danplan. But it was because I was interested in seeing more of Stephen’s personality in more videos, that I continued to watch the videos. Once I was a fan of the channel, Stephen became my favourite. Of course, Jay3 replaced him as my all-time favourite as time went on but he was still my 2nd favourite.

Even more so, once I started to see his streams on Actually Stephen, he became even more of my 2nd favourite. That was because of his real personality. He was mature, for the most part, sensible and knowledgable. It was nice to see that he was just a normal and sensible guy behind the mask of his “Stephen” character

And this was refreshing because, around that time, I was at a very low point in my life. It’s something I’d rather not talk about but to put it simply, Danplan was my therapy. My escape. The one thing I could depend on to make my days much better. And through Danplan, I found solace in friends that also enjoyed the channel, its members and its content.

Now, as you know, the fight between Daniel and Stephen was around March of 2019.

I discovered Danplan around the same time. March 2019.

So you can imagine the huge swing to my heart when I realised the whole time, the whole time I enjoyed Danplan’s content, the whole time while watching Stephen in those videos, he was trying to prove to Daniel he wasn't just an employee. He was pushing so hard to prove his point that he was an integral part of Danplan. As I laughed at his jokes and humour, enjoying what he brought to the videos, Stephen was trying to prove to Daniel of his place in Danplan as a founding member. And when I heard him say his efforts were in vain, my heart shattered. It hurt to know that Dan never acknowledged it yet I did. We all did. But Dan didn’t, as far as I know.

It hurt even more when I heard his tone throughout the whole video explaining the situation. It hurt so much the person I adored, the person I had to thank for bringing me here, sound so saddened, at the verge of crying. I will admit, I wanted to cry too. I only held back because my sister was around

Before, I looked up to Daniel, seeing as how he managed to create such a community with his friends. But now, I am holding back so much anger and frustration once I learned that he dared to tell his own childhood friend, that he was only an “employee”. I’m holding back for only two reasons. One, because I am respecting Stephen’s wishes and waiting for Dan’s side of the story. Two, because I really want to give him a chance to redeem himself. To see the errors of his ways and actually try to make it better. Because I don’t want the thing that made me happy, That found me friends, that helped bring worth to my life to fall apart.

Stephen is such an amazing person, through and through. It hurts to see him leave but it’s for the best he does. It wouldn’t be healthy for him to stay, to be subjected to being only a product to his friend. He was the main reason I wanted to see more Danplan content. so I wish him well after his departure from the channel. At least now, Dan might see how much he was important to Danplan, seeing the kickback of Stephen’s leave has created so far. Maybe now, he’ll learn

I don’t want Danplan to end in ruins because of this discourse. I’m holding onto that tiny bit of hope that it ends well and that Daniel learns from his mistakes. That hope that this will have a happy conclusion. Not just for the sake of Stephen but for Hosuh, Ann, Jay, the animators and everyone else involved.

I will continue to support the channel for their sakes and wait patiently for Daniel to bring his own statement to the table. I won’t give up on this channel, on this team. But for now, I will refrain from drawing Daniel and Stephen for the time being. 

I stand with Stephen, he deserved better than this

Stephen, goodbye. Fanplan wishes you well in your future ventures. Thank you, for everything

Thank you

-Ai / Blufox234

[synthaphone]

wish things didnt bother me so much. i dont like feeling like i’m getting overly worked up or take everything too seriously

but also man. wish the lyrics to that one weakerthans song ‘reunion tour’ werent like that. probably gonna keep listening to the rest of the songs and hope that the singer wouldnt write that kind of thing now, but man

[casadastraphobos-moved]

💔

[meanderfall]

it’s just. they’re mean okay. like i know i have a rep for being a sarcastic, unfeeling bitch, but they’re so much nastier than i could ever be. and they just genuinely don’t care about others feelings or how their words might affect others and they only ever care about their own feelings

[mare-the-silly-scroingle]

every day i see a bpd symptom and im like oh work i dont have that though and then immediately realize Oh nevermind i do that literally all the time for years actually