#masculine rural

[boof-chamber]

The Reification of Desire at the Intersection of the Rural Masculine and the Masculine Rural in Late Neoliberal Digital Post-Truth Era Escanaba

[cockworms]

so I work two jobs, at an auto parts store and a cafe and I've noticed that people at the parts place think im a dude and the cafe customers assume im a girl its so interesting to see

[werewolfmack]

Major difference in the flavors of queerness between me and my gf. I asked her what song shed perform in a lesbian bar (in a hypothetical world where we both could sing and want to perform at bars) and I said a Toby Keith song such as "Shoulda Been a Cowboy" or perhaps Joe Diffie's "Pickup Man" and she just said Queen.

[patronsaint-prometheus]

My masculinity would not exist without the inspiration of queer women. Not only that but I need more trans men to recognize that building their expression of masculinity off Racist Cishet White Men is not healthy for you or the people around you. It’s one of the causes of the kalvin garrah transmed ideologies that hurt so many queer people. Trans men. ESPECIALLY white trans men. Need to be a lot more aware of their actions.

When you are seeking gender euphoria please consider the root of the expression. Cowboy aesthetics can be done without perpetuating confederate propaganda. “Traditional” masculine family dynamics (wanting to work a career and be a provider, wanting to be seen as a protector, and so forth) are not inherently bad as long as you are still conscious of the misogynistic roots of them and actively fighting to dismantle that in your own life. You can want to be a sport loving beer chugging frat guy without also leaning into abusing women and being a racist cunt.

Queer women. Especially the Butch subculture and EVEN MORE IMPORTANTLY the Stud subculture. Are the model of masculinity more transmen should be wanting to achieve. Because they have been forced to fight against the sexism/queerphobia/and racism that white transmascs often transition into benefiting from.

[apilgrimpassingby]

"Woman have complained, justifiably, about the behaviour of 'macho' men. But despite their he-man pretensions and captivation by masculine heroes of sport, war and the Old West, most men are now entirely accustomed to obeying and currying the favour of their bosses. Because of this, of course, they hate their jobs - they mutter 'Thank God it's Friday" and 'Pretty good for Monday' - but they do as they are told. They are more compliant than most housewives have been. Their characters combine feudal submissiveness with modern helplessness. They have accepted almost without protest, and often with consumptive relief, their dispossession of any usable property, and with that, their loss of economic independence and their consequent subordination to their bosses .. These men, moreover, are helpless to do anything for themselves or anyone else without money, and so for money they do whatever they are told. They know that their usefulness is defined by their willingness to be somebody else's tool. Is it any wonder that they talk tough and worship athletes and cowboys? Is it any wonder that some of them are violent?"

Wendell Berry, "Feminism, the Body and the Machine".

[dxffxdxl]

woman: *wears loose-fitting unflattering working clothes while working in her garden, is physically strong, has a body which is the result of doing physical labour in the early 1900s*

teachers: she's sO MASCULINE, SO VIRILE, she YEARNS for the aFFECTION OF HER HUSBAND, she waNTS TO BE ONE OF THE MEN

like ?????????????? tell me you've never met a female farmer without telling me you've never met a female farmer

[badolmen]

ID: A tweet by innes @/innesmck that reads, “they should invent a hobby that is good for your posture.” End ID.

[the-game-spirit]

whoever the fuck is revving their engine going down the highway at 9:30 at night just know that if I could I would key your car

[drew-seri]

Why am I getting so much gender envy from a country boy...

[choppedpeanutbear]

FUCK YEAH NOW FOR THAT I WOULD GO HUNTING WITH HIM TOO…….

[doberbutts]

That nb kid that got beaten to death in OK looks so much like a long time friend of mine that when I first saw the picture I was like "whoa that's [redacted] as a teenager" and then when I sent it to my friend her reaction was also "whoa that's me as a teenager???"

And that's the problem, isn't it. That kid looked identical to a cis friend of mine who is barely, barely, BARELY any amount of GNC. She's not hyper fem but she's also not particularly masculine any more than a typical rural Alabaman woman with too much shit to do to spend all day dolling herself up would be.

And that kid got beaten to death.

And buried under dead name and pronouns.

And I'm just kinda. Wondering where the safety and privilege is in that.

As I've said many times, I'm perfectly willing to talk about the areas in my life that have become safer as I pass with lore and more regularity. Now when are we going to talk about those who can't, or those whose gender expression isn't in passing, or those who have just begun their journey and haven't yet been able to do anything about it.

This kid looked just like my cis friend. They're dead now. If "looking cis" doesn't save you, what does?

[if-you-fan-a-fire]

"Scene, Principals in Sandwich South Tragedy," Windsor Star. November 24, 1942. Page 6. ---- ABOVE, principals and scene in Windsor district murder-suicide. In the little farmhouse, above, 85-year-old George Heavens, Sandwich South farmer (lower right) fatally wounded his 47-year old wife (lower left), then himself, with a 22 calibre rifle some time Sunday night. Upper left is their Newfoundland pup, "Sailor" and upper right. Mr. Arthur MacArthur. neighbor of the couple, first to discover the tragedy.

[twunkzilla]

I really don't know what my problem is I can't stand going to those pride events. Especially if theyre sober but mostly because they are cis. Like I can feel so happy at a sketchy strip club or dive bar but cis sexless sober pride events I feel like a fucking coyote in a chicken coop like lord get me out of here

[uncleasriel]

King of the Hill is fascinating to me, because while each of its characters are meant to be Average Blue-Collar Texans, their embracing of cliche (the paranoid libertarian in Dale, the bumbling has-been in Bill) they are given nuance, complexity and humanity.

Dale is without a doubt a paranoid man whose anti-authoritarianism echoes could easily breed ugly reactionary sentiments. He's obsessed with Secret Going On with the powers-that-be, utterly certain of his ability to sniff out Secret Knowledge and convinced of utterly delusional beliefs. But (through the writer's deft nibs) he's committed to helping those around him - in opposed to any unjust authoritarian system, using his extensive knowledge of esoteric topic like physical chemistry or Civil Rights legislation to aid those around him. He is short-sighted, chaotic and occasionally stupid, but these are in the ways of a sitcom character - he is allowed to be full human, warts and all.

King of the Hill is without a doubt a fantasy of a Hollywood writer's room - white, small-town conservative Texans who gracefully come to accept the strangeness of modernity with humility an an artful tolerance. Almost every episode deals with someone in Arlin dealing with the tensions of modernity and finding their conservative worldview is strained to the limit to accommodate this strange newness. But the writers use this for comedic affect, using this tension and fracturing of these traditionalist fault-lines to create spaces that allow the best parts of these characters' nature to flourish: Hank's decency, Bill's kindheartedness, Dale's cleverness.

The characters faults are human ones - they are not at fault because they are rednecks, they are at fault because they are shortsighted, guilliable, nervous or stubborn. The writers use this as the source of their jokes, but in a way which reifies their characters' humanity. Dale Gribble is a paranoid conspiracy theorist who holds unreasonable views about the state of modern politics. But he is also extremely funny in how he believes in these things - his beliefs lead him to aid John Redcorn in fighting for indigenous sovereignty because dammit, big government can't win. He embraces his gay cowboy father because Dale only cares that he isn't a government agent.

The comedy is all character driven and reflects well on each of them. These characters (constrained by Standards & Practices) behave in ways realistic to them, but whose comedic beats come from the situational incongruity. Dale Gribble might believe in conspiracy theories, he might never be able to tell his wife has an ongoing infidelity with John Redcorn, but he will wholly accept anyone who isn't a Fed.

It's utterly unrealistic. But it's undeniably hilarious.

[genderqueerdykes]

Just another trans man chiming in. I didn’t realize how bad things are going until I tried to go to a queer meet up in the next city over.

I live in a very rural area where I 1. Can’t get a job because it’s my hometown and everyone Knows and 2. Can’t make friends because everyone Knows. But I haven’t had a car in ages so I was stuck.

Well, finally got a car (and a job! Where the men treat me like an Other and the women treat me like I’m afraid of periods despite having had many and they’re aware of this because Everyone Knows) and went to said meet up.

With in the first hour:

1. I was infantilized by and condescended to by a cis woman who was almost 10 years younger than me and thought she could enlighten me on the trans experience.

2. Told by a transwoman (who she herself said she identified as Very Woman) that all trans men “get over that and figure out they’re at least a little non binary or effeminate” when sharing that I felt like a “binary” masculine trans man.

3. Was told I couldn’t identify with MY womanhood because I don’t feel feminine at all (even though I’ve been a man for 6 years and a woman for 30)

4. And basically ended up alienated in a corner because I couldn’t engage with anyone without being treated like a toddler or having jokes made about how I look like a cis dude bro (I kind of am a dude bro. I go surfing and snowboarding and I really love wearing tee turtle graphic tees with joggers and these really cool boots) and they werent friendly jokes.

So yeah. You have it just so easy as a trans guy and it’s really cool and awesome being pushed out of your own community for being yourself.

jesus christ, i'm so sorry you've been through that, but thank you so much for sharing your experience. i'm noticing a disturbing pattern of trans women and transfems violently, proudly misgendering trans men for no reason. can we please stop this?

[illnessfaker]

tw: black+trans death

from the_yvesdropper on instagram:

our beautiful black trans brother, 35 year old Righteous Torrence "Chevy" Hill, was murdered in Atlanta, GA this weekend.

he went by his nickname 'Chevy' he was originally from Macon, GA. he owned Evollusion, which is a black/ queer owned LGBTQ+ salon in Atlanta that provided and dedicated full service to specializing in hair, nails, barbering and makeup. growing up as young black queer boys/kids, the barbershop experience can sometimes be a tricky space to occupy, this was something that Chevy understood and wanted to cultivate a space of safety where you can also get the affirming look and style you want, and he did exactly that.

Chevy was a beloved son, brother, partner, and father.

one of his last posts that had a photo of himself said :

"if you truly know me, you know i am a humble, modest, private man, that i love my community, i have the love of God in me and will give the shirt off my back to any soul in need, also i never post pictures of myself, legaey give myself credit, that stops today, i am my legacy!"

(a close friend of Chevy asked if i could share more then one photo of Chevy, since he never posted photos of himself and in recent years he got the confidence to want to share more photos and now he won't get the chance to)

Chevy, hey king, hey brother, hey angel, thank you for everything, i lové you, we lové you, i'm so sorry. there are a lot of photographers in heaven who will be able to photograph you as the glorious black trans angel that you are.

there will be a homegoing service/memorial for our brother

there aren't many details about what happened but apparently he was shot by a family member last wednesday, the 28th (at least this article was the one linked in relation to his murder.)

judging by both the IG post and the comments section he was well-loved by many people and those people have many good memories with him and nothing but good things to say. this is a comment that was left by tirajmeansgolden which was hidden by IG for some reason:

I started testosterone in February 2020. I hit this man up at the end of 2019 after numerous Google searches for an LGBT-friendly barber near me (and by near me... he was a good 35-40 minutes from the rural area I was in outside of Atlanta: but when I found out he was a trans man and that his business was the first and only LGBT hair bar, I knew it would be worth the trip). I was a dysphoric mess in his DMs one Sunday. I hated how my hair was growing out. I never had a "masculine" hairstyle before but decided one day I would buzz it all off myself, then allowed it to grow out a bit... I sent him a video and despite him being closed on Sunday, he told me to come through. I got my hair braided and he gave me my first really masculine fade. Explained the different terms. Lined me up. Was asking me about my decision to transition and provided some helpful advice + guidance. I told him how I was a therapist and he was hype and said he talked with a group of trans men and he would love for me to stop by and also give some mental health tips. So whoever said he was humble - wow, what an understatement. Such a community man! Made me feel SO comfortable because barbershops were a source of major trauma and triggers for me. They were such an integral part of my early transition (I just celebrated 4 years later week). And he was such an integral part of the Atlanta Queer community with hosting events like Queer Con. How I found so many other great resources + queer businesses/artists. May you rest in peace, Chevy. You'll be missed. You've made such a different in the lives of countless people. You definitely were living your Purpose + left a legacy behind ...