#love positive aro

[andthetapeworms]

IT'S AROMANTIC VISIBILITY DAY !!!!! aromantics demiromantics aroaces aroallos non sam aros aromantics who are seen as "not aro enough" by the community love positive aros loveless aros aros who like qprs I SEE YOU you're so visible to me rn. 👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀

[confused-canid]

Allo peeps need to understand being aromantic isn't just "Ewww, romance". It's "I will follow you to the ends of the Earth and beyond, regardless of where that would lead me." Platonically, of course."

(But please keep in mind that for some it IS "Ewww, romance" And they don't need to be treated like they're not a part of this community, btw. This is an objective fact, btw. Aros are awesome, btw)

(This post is about QPRs and my experiences being aro, I just wanted to make a silly little post about that, aplatonics are valid and real this post was about me and maybe for people who relate)

[knifearo]

peace and aromanticism on planet earth

peace and aromanticism on planet earth!!!!!! :D

[aroace-and-has-a-mace]

shoutout to aromantics who feel sexual attraction

shoutout to asexuals who feel romantic attraction

shoutout to aromantic asexuals who don’t feel either but are in sexual/romantic relationships

shoutout to aromantic asexuals in queerplatonic relationships

shoutout to aromantic asexuals who don’t care for romantic/sexual relationships

shoutout to aromantic asexuals who are disgusted by romantic/sexual relationships

basically, shoutout to asexuals, aromantics, or any a-spec people

[mossy-aro]

ultimately i think my insistence on aro positivity honestly is as much a political stance as a personal one.

when i say aro positivity is crucial and that i dislike doomer-ist posts that express sentiments like 'I hate being aro so much I wish I was dead instead’ it's not because I don’t think there can and should be a space for negativity and acknowledging self-hate, or the many ways being aromantic can really suck sometimes. i find that to be very important!

that being said. there is smth here about how self-hate posts are sometimes just arophobia that we inflict on ourselves. and when we put that out into the ether it (intentionally or not) can become arophobia that we inflict on other members of the community. i think there absolutely needs to be a place for negativity and the expression of anger and frustration and self loathing even - these are all good things to talk about because these are things that we experience. that being said, it can also be genuinely upsetting and triggering to people to have what is essentially arophobia shown to them and then have that be validated by other aspec people. your personal thoughts can affect your wider community on a level you may not anticipate. and i understand it i truly do! it took me so long to be able to recover from accepting being aroace - it threw my entire world off kilter and made me question everything about my place in the world.

but my insistence on aro joy and positivity is because ultimately i do believe that building is at the core essence of it all. that ultimately discussions and the purpose of community should be about construction, not destruction. and this is both a personal and a political stance. talking about how much you hate yourself and cultivating online discussions/spaces where negativity about aspec identity is the main and only theme is destructive - if that’s where we let the conversation end. these thoughts can and should be used as a vehicle to look for a path forward!

joy and positivity create a space where the focus can become on forging a path forward, on construction, on community building instead of tearing ourselves and others down with negative thoughts. it’s not productive or healthy when it stops at a place of negativity - it becomes actively destructive to the essence of community.

and i do think that this is especially poignant considering the fact that being any kind of queer, but especially aromantic (and/or asexual) means forging a path for yourself and making your own happiness where there is no obvious way forward. our communities exist mostly online (right now, anyway), there is little recognition of our existence in the real world, the effects of amatonormativity are both pervasive and actively dehumanising, and there are legal, economic and social structures in place actively making our lives more difficult. yes that all sucks! it’s good to acknowledge that. we need to in order to change it. but more importantly, that’s not the end. we are still here and our happiness, our future is for us to determine. even if we can’t change the laws or society, loving yourself and understanding aromanticism as a political identity (as well as personal), as a radical worldview, and as a protest against amatonormativity is essential for both community and personal well being. the personal is political.

tldr. i guess my point is that as a community, we should focus on building, improving, and nurturing ourselves and each other (construction) as opposed to destruction. we should recognise aromanticism and asexuality as political identities as well as personal ones and rely on community and self-love in the absence of anything else as a form of protest and political power. destruction (the recognition of everything that is wrong) is essential as a starting point - but where do we go from there? we rebuild.

[batri-jopa]

I love my life highly satisfied just being myself

(Check the OTHER VERSION too✌️)

[purplereadingenthusiast]

I don’t think people realize how wonderful and freeing a loveless life can be. You can just vibe with yourself in your own little world without needing anyone else’s validation to make you feel happy

[lemonycranberries]

i love being aro so fucking much

[shmaroace]

happy pride to trans aros and nonbinary aros specifically. i love you guys so much

[ayspec]

i love being aplatonic!! i love being aromantic!! i love being asexual!! i love being asensual!! i love being simultaneously lovequeer and loveless and arolovic!! i love defying what’s expected of me!! i love looking at amanormativity and spitting in its eye and kicking it in the balls and watching it fall to the ground as i beat it with a stick!! i love being alive and happy and queer and weird and free!! and i hope aspecs everywhere learn to embrace their identities and be happy with who they are too <2

[qprconcepts]

qpp who “you must tell me about it” x qpp who “i will i will!!!!!”

[arsenicflame]

RULES: put 5 songs you actually listen to, then tag 10 people.

Tagged by @izzy-b-hands ty <3 i pulled these from my on repeat playlist for a little variation from the things i always say!

Two's a Crowd - Cartwright

Atrophy - The Antlers

To: Myself In Colorado - Everybody's Worried About Owen

Someone Somewhere Somehow - Super Whatevr

I Won't Follow Him to the Grave - Emma Pollock, Distant Voices

Tags for if you want to do it!

@humblexwanderer @crustose @wolfpoets @faith-orise @kaarijafag @fryingmintbunny @origami-butterfly @trashkingtater @mushroom-intimacy @gydima

[angryaromantics]

In every lifetime, every iteration of this life or a new one, I hope I'm aromantic. I want to be reincarnated as an aro person. I want to be aro in the afterlife. I want to be aro in the grave.

Being aromantic feels like taking my first deep breath in the morning. It's comfort. It's ease. It's so intrinsically a part of who I am, that any me that wasn't would cease to hold any resemblance to who I am.

I want to be aro. I like being aro. In every single lifetime. 🌱☀️

[knifearo]

you can literally just be aromantic. it’s free and nobody’s stopping you :)

[dreamsy990]

some of the less nice thoughts about being aroace

extras below the cut

sketch

closeups on my favorite panels

bonus: adios

[aroacearchangel]

feeling real strong queerplatonic feelings in the studio tonight