#long distance relationship tips

[xofromabroad]

How to Tell Friends and Family About Your Relationship

One of the more difficult challenges you will encounter in your long distance relationship is conversing with others about being in a long distance relationship. Entering a long distance relationship can be wonderful and exciting, but sharing the news of your new relationship can be particularly daunting. Unfortunately, there is a lot of stigma and misinformation surrounding being in a long…

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It’s easy to love someone when times are good. Real love is about holding on to one another when times aren’t.

[lizbethsletters]

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𝓭𝓮𝓪𝓻, 𝓵𝓸𝓿𝓮 𝓸𝓯 𝓶𝔂 𝓵𝓲𝓯𝓮

Should I even call you that, I mean you aren't even in my life right now and you might never be again. When I see someone that does something you would've done like balance a pencil on their mouth I feel my eyes start to water but I blink them away because I shouldn't be feeling like this when I broke up with you. Your eyes that were always filled with love and happiness would look at me with anger and hurt but I would do anything to even see your face. I still love you and I get flashbacks when anything reminds me of you, it feels like we are back to that exact moment and talking about anything. When in reality, we don't even speak and you aren't even in my life. I want more than anything to just see you even from a distance a glimpse anything to even know that you are okay that this didn't break you. I'm telling myself that if it's meant to be we will see each other again and we will have a second chance that it means we truly are meant to be but realistically, it won't happen. We live in different states and live completely different lives there's no way for us to bump into each other. I want to pick up the phone call you and just hear your voice, if you sound mad, nervous, or even sad I just want to hear your voice. You mean everything to me but, I might mean nothing. This sounds harsh but I want you to hate me because that means there is no going back that you truly hate me that we truly are done. In some messed up way, I have no way to heal because you aren't here but it's like you never even existed. I miss you more than I need oxygen. I love you more than my body needs water. But I don't have you and I feel like I might be dirt on the floor for you. I love you but we aren't anything. I'm sorry for breaking this off but it was the only option for you to move on and be happy and have someone to be there for you. There's one song that reminds me of you called "De ti me enamore?", I love you. I wish I could send everything that reminds me of you instead of making it into a folder on my phone that just says love these instead of just sending them to you. I love you so much. I'm sorry.

𝔂𝓸𝓾𝓻𝓼 𝓽𝓻𝓾𝓵𝔂,

𝓷𝓸𝓽 𝔂𝓸𝓾𝓻 𝓰𝓲𝓻𝓵 𝓪𝓷𝔂𝓶𝓸𝓻𝓮 :(

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Long distance relationship tip(?)

Ask what they smell like (perfume, bodywash whatever) buy candles. Profit i guess

[emylis-lovemastery]

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Hey! I love your page and your work.

I needed your advice on this. I am in a relationship with a gem of a guy. He's a walking green flag. And he goes above and beyond the bare minimum at every step. He's emotionally mature and wise, considerate, patient, deeply loving, etc. He makes me feel safe. In all- he meets all my standards and then some. We do long distance.

I have been feeling increasingly overwhelmed about this lately. He loves me crazy, to him it's passionate, groundbreaking, lightning-struck love. And i remember feeling all the butterflies and excitement in the beginning, but now I don't see myself loving him with the same intensity as he loves me. And that makes me fear if I love him at all. I come from a past of parental trauma and abuse and i know that my attachment patterns have been affected by the immense trauma I have endured. I remember how intense my first love was, just like in the books and poems and films. It breaks my heart to keep thinking that he loves me the way i first loved someone else. But i don't love him with the same intensity. Lately, I've been feeling a lot more detached due to these thoughts and I wonder if I'm losing interest. But he treats me so well and i don't know if this is just a trauma response or something that's actually happening. I don't "feel" A LOT. My attraction to him varies majorly. It comes and goes. I'm feeling very conflicted. Please help?

Hi love! Thank you so much <3

Let me just say that questioning your interest over time with a long-distance partner is incredibly normal, and feeling safe in a relationship easily sets off alarm bells for many people who have experienced trauma/have insecure attachment styles. So, dealing with both at once sounds like a lot. I commend you for remaining highly self-aware regarding your triggers and emotions.

Firstly, I would do a gut check to see if this man seems like he's a compatible match for you at this stage of your life – not just a super kind and attentive guy (while both are important qualities, but just because someone is a good partner, it doesn't mean necessarily that they're the right partner for you and vice versa).

Second, I would evaluate if you're losing interest in your relationship or if the spark fading due to the physical distance (no to little IRL intimacy or shared experiences). Do you find yourself excited to talk, text, and see him, or do you hesitate/avoid communication with him? Are you in similar life stages? Are your goals, values, lifestyles, and future paths compatible? How long are you planning to remain long-distance if you believe you're still right for one another?

Third, considering your history of ongoing relational trauma, I would consider what your definition of love and a healthy relationship look like. Do you believe passion involves intense or fleeting emotions? Do you thrive in emotionally stable or chaotic relationships? Do you see passion, attraction, and companionship as interconnected or separate aspects of a relationship?

It is perfectly normal to settle from the "honeymoon" phase of a relationship and take those hormonally-charged blinders off to see the "normalcy" that plagues all stable relationships. This stability can be super uncomfortable if you've never experienced it and can make you want to run back to the chaos you're accustomed to. However, in a long-distance relationship, losing this spark is too easy when you see each other much less often in person and especially if you don't communicate frequently or in engaging ways.

My recommendations would be:

Figure out why you're pulling back in the relationship and prepare to have an honest conversation about these feelings with your partner. Maybe also see a therapist or mental health professional about this issue if you have the resources to do so

Once you determine your unmet needs or wounds being triggered in the relationship, start ideating some low-stakes solutions and implement them into your daily/weekly interactions with your partner. If you're missing the frequent physical intimacy or shared experiences that typically exist in romantic relationships, consider ways to foster this closeness again (for intimacy: phone sex, sexting, FaceTime date nights, etc.; for shared experiences: FaceTime date nights, have a couple of long phone call recaps/story-sharing sessions per week, agree to watch some of the same movies/TV shows or read the same books/listen to the same podcast episode and chat about them; create a special photo-bonding activity – whether it's sharing your homemade dinners with each other most nights, a lunch-break selfie, a specific object/location that reminds you of them every time you pass it, certain memes you exchange every day, etc.)

Consider how much effort you're willing to put into making this relationship work. Being honest with yourself about this determination can make all of the difference in your perception on how to move forward (or not) with this relationship

Hope this helps xx

[adayinthelife0fmwah]

Long Distance Relationship Advice #6

As you know, I am in a long distance relationship. It's been a little more than a year on this journey and I have found that seeing each other as often as possible has helped a lot. However, I have come to realise that after long periods of time apart, it can be difficult at times to get back into the flow of things.

For example, I hadn't seen my partner for a little under 4 months and when I went on holiday back home to where he lives, (where I used to live), I found that after a few days in each other's space we had these little and very irrelevant arguments. And as the weeks went on we kept having these tiffs here and there and I couldn't quite figure out why.

Then I realised some things. First, we haven't been in each other's space for so long that we'd gotten used to it, then suddenly to always being in each other's space became quite frustrating. THIS IS NORMAL. It does not mean that your relationship has gone horribly wrong and that you "now can't be with each other anymore because all you do is fight". That is not the case. You just need to realise that you've gotten used to being apart and that readjustment to being back in each other's space 24/7 is going to take some time. Try be aware of this. Because if you only see your partner every couple of months and only for a few weeks at a time, your tiffs can seem like "you don't belong together anymore" or "we just don't get along anymore" or "we've just grown apart and are too different people now"

While sometimes that can be the case, sometimes its not. Be aware that you've adapted to the distance and that readjusting this adaption may be harder than it looks and may not even cross your mind that it's happened. TALK ABOUT IT. When in person again, sit down with your partner and have a meaningful conversation about this topic. I did with my partner and it helped so much. It made us realise that its not that we've changed so much, or that we can't stand each other anymore, it was about readjusting to being in each other's space and giving each other a chance to understand the other person. It was solved just like that. All it took was the realisation that we'd just gotten used to being apart and that we needed to get used to being together again in person. Don't get me wrong we still bicker here and there but now that we had that understanding, everything got a little bit easier.

You got this chums! Communication is key, and long distance relationships require a lot of it, especially when you see each other again after a long time.

[nateslehky]

listen.... i love matthew and sasha as much as the next person, but sometimes i really do miss them

[allaboutdating]

How can I make a long distance relationship work?

Maintaining a long distance relationship can be challenging, but it's not impossible. With the right mindset and strategies, you can make your long distance relationship work.

Here are some tips to help you succeed in a long distance relationship:

Set clear expectations: Before you start a long distance relationship, it's important to have a conversation with your partner about what you both expect from the relationship. Discuss things like how often you'll communicate, how often you'll visit each other, and what your long-term goals are.

Communicate regularly: Communication is key in any relationship, but it's especially important in a long distance relationship. Make an effort to talk to your partner every day, even if it's just a quick text or phone call.

Use technology to your advantage: There are many ways to stay connected in a long distance relationship, including video calls, texting, and social media. Use these tools to your advantage and find the ones that work best for you and your partner.

Plan regular visits: Visiting each other regularly is important in a long distance relationship. Plan ahead and make sure you have something to look forward to. Even if you can't see each other as often as you'd like, having a visit planned can help you stay connected.

Trust each other: Trust is essential in any relationship, but it's especially important in a long distance relationship. Trust that your partner is committed to you and that they're not seeing anyone else. If you have concerns, talk about them openly and honestly.

Find shared activities: Even though you're not physically together, you can still find ways to do things together. Watch a movie at the same time, play an online game together, or read the same book and discuss it.

Be supportive: Long distance relationships can be stressful, so it's important to be supportive of each other. Listen to your partner's concerns and be there for them when they need you.

Maintain your independence: It's important to maintain your independence in a long distance relationship. Keep up with your hobbies, spend time with your friends, and pursue your goals. This will help you feel fulfilled and happy, which will ultimately make you a better partner.

Stay positive: Long distance relationships can be tough, but it's important to stay positive. Focus on the good things in your relationship and the things you have to look forward to. Remember that distance is temporary and that you and your partner are in this together.

Have a plan for the future: Long distance relationships can't last forever, so it's important to have a plan for the future. Talk about your long-term goals and how you can make them happen. Knowing that you have a plan to be together in the future can help you stay motivated and positive.

In summary, making a long distance relationship work requires clear communication, trust, regular visits, shared activities, support, independence, positivity, and a plan for the future. With these strategies in mind, you can navigate the challenges of a long distance relationship and build a strong and lasting bond with your partner.

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Things to Consider Before Getting into a Long Distance Relationship

Sometimes when I think about how Lucas and I finally got together, I find myself backtracking and thinking about the conversations we had before we ever even got together. We were fast friends with seemingly no topic off limit. I remember an early conversation that was had, not just with myself, but with the same friend group that I talked about in our story, and how Lucas was insistent that he…

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Are You Currently In A Long Distance Relationship And Feel Like It’s Coming To An End Soon?

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Love alone is not enough to develop a relationship, you also need an important ingredient called friendship to make the relationship blossom.

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If I hold your name in my mouth

The way you fit me inyour arms

I can almost feel

You

Beside me

As if you'd never left

[lizbethsletters]

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𝓭𝓮𝓪𝓻, 𝓵𝓸𝓿𝓮 𝓸𝓯 𝓶𝔂 𝓵𝓲𝓯𝓮

For the past week, after I told you that I was gonna go to on vacation for a week you've said only "blank" days till you leave. You get mad when you miss me and knowing when I leave makes it worse. I love you with everything in me. When I recently realized that you couldn't take compliments for anything, when your eyes look pretty, I say "your eyes are so beautiful" and your eyes dart everywhere with nervousness and smile before putting the phone down because you got nervous. When you get nervous the immediate sign is that your eyes dart everywhere and say "CHILLLLLL" it's adorable. You tend to get nervous from just looking at me. I'm so in love with you, you can't even believe it. You notice when I get tired and you tell people to shut up so I can sleep. One day, I'm going to write all these letters down and give them to you or make you a whole book, learn how to book bind just for you. I would do everything in the world for you to hold you, kiss you, see you, just do everything with you. I'm not going to lie to you when you asked what when we were gonna have paint dates, coloring dates, pottery dates; my heart broke completely because truly we never know when we are going to do anything like that. I told you about a folder I have of all the things I want to do with you and you wanted to hear some so I told you. I love you and I miss you so much.

𝔂𝓸𝓾𝓻𝓼 𝓽𝓻𝓾𝓵𝔂,

𝔂𝓸𝓾𝓻 𝓰𝓲𝓻𝓵ᡣ𐭩

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a sumi haircut variation ive been testing out. i wanna say its a bit post-canon, not too far off, maybe a year or so. hasnt quite figured out what to do with herself yet, but shes getting there. only a little ways away from graduation.

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Building Strong Foundations: The True Essence of Relationship Goals

In a world where social media often paints an idealistic picture of relationships, it's crucial to understand that true relationship goals extend far beyond glamorous snapshots and romantic gestures. The essence of relationship goals lies in building strong foundations that foster trust, respect, and genuine connection between partners. Let's explore the key elements that contribute to creating meaningful and lasting relationship goals.

Communication: Effective communication is the cornerstone of any successful relationship. Being open, honest, and empathetic with your partner leads to better understanding and emotional intimacy. Taking the time to actively listen to your partner's feelings and concerns, and expressing your own thoughts clearly, fosters an environment where both individuals can grow and support each other.

Mutual Respect: Respect forms the bedrock of any healthy relationship. Respecting your partner's boundaries, opinions, and individuality creates an environment of trust and acceptance. Recognizing and appreciating each other's strengths and flaws further strengthens the bond between partners.

Shared Values and Goals: While opposites may attract, shared values and long-term goals are crucial for a relationship's sustainability. Whether it's about family, career, or personal growth, aligning your visions for the future can help you both navigate life's challenges together.

Emotional Support: A strong relationship is a safe haven where partners can turn to one another for emotional support during challenging times. Being each other's confidante and providing comfort and encouragement establishes a deep emotional connection that fortifies your bond.

Quality Time: In our fast-paced world, quality time spent together is more important than ever. Disconnect from distractions, such as technology and work, to engage in meaningful activities that strengthen your connection. Whether it's going on adventures, sharing hobbies, or simply enjoying a quiet evening together, these shared experiences build memories and deepen your love.

Forgiveness and Compromise: No relationship is immune to disagreements or conflicts. What sets successful couples apart is their ability to forgive, learn from mistakes, and make compromises. Being able to understand each other's perspectives and find common ground promotes harmony and growth.

Independence and Individual Growth: While being a couple, it's essential to maintain a sense of individuality and encourage personal growth. Supporting each other's passions and goals outside of the relationship fosters a healthy balance and brings unique perspectives into the partnership.

Conclusion: True relationship goals transcend the superficial and focus on building strong, meaningful connections. Through open communication, mutual respect, shared values, emotional support, quality time, forgiveness, and individual growth, couples can create lasting, fulfilling relationships that stand the test of time.