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hey so why the fuck did no one tell me that you hit a certain age and then cyclically want children? Like monthly?
#fairy is rambling#i was crying over a dad crying over how much he loved his baby today and I'm like what the fuck why am I crying#and i think about it really hard#and then im look oh shit im about to have my period#being broody wouldn't be so bad if I wasn't single#living at home with my parents#and 22 years old#as much as i would love to be a mother#NOW IS NOT THE TIME#who the fuck came up with this shit#anyway im skipping my period cause im not doing that mess this week#also does the brooding hit everyone or is it like heightened in certain people#cause i feel like im always like this but again that could be cause I want kids and am friends with many people who don't#like is it just exacerbated because i feel like an outlier#eh who knows#tbh i don't care my kids are gonna have so many aunties and uncles#maybe its worse for me because i am constantly mothering everyone I know#eldest daughter curse
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if youâre young and transmasc and the people in your life havenât been great about the whole thing and youâre starting to feel like it might be easier to just give up and pretend to be the person they want you to be, i need you to hold on. because the thing is, one second youâre 16 and a future where you get to make decisions about your own body and life feels so impossibly far away and you canât imagine living like this for that long, but then you blink and itâs been six years and youâre in your car with the music blasting and your voice is lower than the guy in the songâs and your hair is long for the first time in a decade because youâre finally confident enough to grow it out again on your own terms and your chest hasnât been weighed down in months and itâs the freest youâve ever felt in your life and i promise it will be worth the wait. donât give up on yourself.
#was literally just driving home from the store and it was such a euphoric experience i had to make a post#16 year old me never couldâve imagined being where i am right now#he certainly wouldnât have believed i would be able to get to this point while still living in my parentsâ house#positivity#transmasc positivity#trans man positivity#trans men#transmascs
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The idea that uni protesters are "elitist ivy-league rich kids larping as revolutionaries" on Twitter and Reddit and even here is so fucking funny to me if you actually know anything about the student bodies at these unis. Take it from someone who's going to one of the biggest private unis in the US, 80% of the peers I know are either from the suburbs or an apartment somewhere in America, children of immigrants, or here on a student visa. I've heard about one-percenter students, but I've never met one in person. Like, don't get me wrong, the institution as a whole is still very privileged and white. I've talked with friends and classmates about feeling weird or dissonant being here and coming from such a different background. But in my art program, I see BIPOC, disabled, queer, lower-income students and faculty trying to deconstruct and tear that down and make space every day. So to take a cursory glance at a crowd of student protesters in coalitions that are led by BIPOC & 1st/2nd-gen immigrant students and HQ'd in ethnic housings and student organizations and say, "ah. children of the elite." Get real.
#also idk how to tell you this but even if it were true. wealthy children potentially sacrificing their educational careers to protest is#a good thing actually. idk how to tell you that caring about people from other nations is good#personal#âthis war has nothing to do with most students cuz nobody's getting draftedâ idk how to explain to you that we should be angry#that our tuitions of 10s of thousands of dollars that we pay every year for an education is being used to fund a genocidal campaign#also the implication that if you go to a uni institution you are automatically privileged by participation no matter your bg#i didn't /want/ to go to this school. i was supposed to go to a school with an art/animation program. but i realized my immigrant#parents have been working their whole lives to get me here. and turning the opportunity down would be a disservice to their sacrifice#this is getting into convos of âwhat 2nd gen kids owe their parentsâ which is different for everyone but. yeah#i just get pissed off at seeing people misrepresenting student bodies as âwealthyâ and âprivilegedâ and âeliteâ when it's such a blatant li#i remember a year ago a friend told me they can't fly home to hong kong for winter break because the plane tickets are too expensive#so they have to find temporary housing around the area#last quarter for a film doc class my film partner made a doc on a small group of marxist grad students from india discussing praxis#during a rally a few months ago in response to police presence the coalition invited palestinian students to speak about their experiences#and lead songs and read poems they wrote. these are STUDENTS. are they elitist too?#this is not to disregard my own personal privilege either.#this whole narrative's just to rationalize a lack of empathy to me. seeing a 19yo student get shot by a rubber bullet and your first#reaction is âHAW! HAW! bet richy rich didn't see THAT coming when she put on her terrorist hood!â#newsflash. these big uni campuses are HAUNTED by the violence of past protests and revolutions and police brutality. we know.#why do you think these coalitions have been making reinforced barricades at record speed
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something people just donât think about is how often chronically ill and disabled people just donât have access to good food. not healthy food, good food; well made, tasty meals that donât come from a jar or a freezer. how many of us are housebound or canât drive? delivery services only offer within certain distances, if you live outside a city they arenât an option. many people donât have the energy or ability to cook for themselves if they have the skill to begin with. many certainly donât have the ability to learn how. itâs something that goes completely unnoticed, just the opportunity to have a good meal and how much that wears you down
#all i want is chinese food#the closest one to me is 40 minutes away and its a /bad/ chinese place#its my worst option and its not even an option#âfried rice is easy to make heres a recipe!â#i cant use a stove bc the heat will give me a seizure#even if i keep myself cool something that should take 15 minutes will take upwards of an hour bc i need to take breaks#even then ill probably be too nauseous to eat it after being active for so long#all of that for a bad cooks version of fried rice#more expensive and worse than a takeaway place#but i cant get it from a takeaway place#repeat ad nauseum for the rest of my life and is it any wonder im so sick of the same food ive eaten for 10 years#the only time i get takeaway is when my parents decide to go out and bring something home#can you imagine living like that for the rest of your life?#i dont have to#and its so dumb to want to cry over rice#but its not really about the rice is it#coming out of my cage and ive been doing just fine.txt#spoonie#chronic illness#disability#pots#postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome#ehlers danlos syndrome#fibromyalgia#chronic fatigue#chronically ill#mental illness#mental health
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surely whorlstar would let the kits see their mom??? why are they having to sneak around?
Kinda spoilers bc I'm gonna explain my reasoning behind this storyline
Main reasoning right now is that Bess has refused to join/stay near the clan and Whorlstar obv wouldn't want the kits leaving camp (esp with the Eagle attacks and other dangers). Not that she's been asked - Cedarheart hasn't spoken to her about the kits' mother since he brought them to the clan.
For her original reasons as well - Bess is living outside of clan life/the Warrior Code. She could turn her kits against Splinterclan's rules - like if she had rogue friends who wanted to hunt on Splinter territory, would she turn her kits against the clan and allow that to happen? Would she just get them to steal prey for her? Or herbs? What about just letting any rogue onto the territory who says they know her? Would a clanmate die because of a resource that was put to use outside the clan? Would the weakening of clan loyalty in some members cause the clan to fall to an attack? What if Bess got sick and that outside illness spread through the clan bc she wasn't quarantined?
It'd be wholly different if Bess was a known cat - if she had come to introduce herself to the clan and joined. But she didn't! And now Cedar is compounding that issue/worry by having his kids and himself sneak around and lie. When/if this comes out, I'm sure it won't end well.
#txt#asks#i've had several asks about this so i wanna kinda explain my thoughts behind this storyline xD#it's like if a family member had a parent who refused to say where they worked or lived#only wanted the kid to come visit them and had a shadey personality#would you want that kid visiting that person?#or would you want the kid to stay home and be in school and be safe and loved with the family that choose to stay around them?
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y'know what. sometimes there is something wrong with you. and i don't mean in a "you are broken and that makes you unworthy" way, just in the "your brain/body does not work the way it's expected to and that's why things are so hard" way
like as someone who grew up constantly being told there was nothing wrong with me and i just had to try harder to clean/socialise/work, knowing i had ADHD earlier would've saved me a LOT of guilt. knowing i have IBS would've prevented a lot of pain/embarrassment from not being able to manage it yet. i wish someone had told me there was a reason i couldn't do things instead of just telling me i was fine. people reassuring me i didn't have any issues to spare me the shame of being "different" only made me feel worse about not being able to function like everyone else!!!
idk sometimes i just wish i knew there was something different about me sooner bc then i would've had an explanation and a way to get better instead of just a lot of self loathing
#ramble#ok to reblog#can you tell living back home has brought up a lot of unresolved stuff#the amount of times i said 'there is something wrong with me' and i was told i was fine just made me feel like i was the problem#and that i should just try harder instead of there being a physical barrier that i couldn't control#idk there's just a lot of anger from realising that it wasn't my fault and NOBODY tried to help me#@ parents: different doesn't mean bad. help your fucking kids
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andreil if they were birds ..!
#fun fact my grandpa was a hobby parakeet breeder#and in the early 90s he rescued a cockatiel that had escaped from a (presumably) abusive home#and my parents took it in cuz it couldnt stay with the keets :)#his name was elvis and he was a piece of shit bird but he lived to the ripe old age of 24 and i cried like a baby when he died in 2017#aftg#all for the game#andreil#neil josten#aftg art#aftg fanart#andrew minyard#my art
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Started thinking about how Dick lost the two most important people in his life at the age of 8 and since then death has never left him. It's just so heartbreaking because it will never stop affecting him. He can't stop caring, he can't possibly stop loving the people who enter his life no matter how high the chances he'll lose them too are. He could lose his whole family, all his friends ('s been close both, even if some eventually came back) and yet he would never stop welcoming people in his life because his heart is just so big and he has so much love to give.
#yeah yeah I know this could apply to a lot of dc characters#but dick grayson lives rent free in my head so you'll have to deal with it#dick grayson everytime he starts caring for someone#death: it's been a minute!#his parents#his closest friends (plural)#his brothers#his childhood home and family#his second dad#who's next dc? the love of his life?#man even people he just happened to know casually end up dying and he blames himself for it#dick grayson#nightwing#dc comics#dc
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Your place is already the Best Place for elderly cats, but I think it's especially so for Valentine with his dementia. There's plenty of comfy, warm spots, so he doesn't have to remember where one is; there's always food, so he doesn't have to worry about that either. Sometimes company passes through, suitable for a good cuddle or even a bath.
And then sometimes, when he's on one of the wide soft places, there's someone with a warm lap and clever hands, and he can wake up and go "Oh! There it is! I remember that!" and go snuggle.
We should all be so fortunate when we are old and tired and forgetful.
Thank you. I am so, so thankful and lucky that he has the kind of dementia where everything is good all the time. We've had to euthanize animals at the clinic before because they get senile and anxious and they just seem miserable all the time no matter what you do for them.
Valentine doesn't read any social cues from the other cats but for the most part everyone is nice to him. The only "bad" thing is he always thinks he needs to be fed. And then sometimes you feed him and he just looks at you all confused.
#the worst dementia in any of my own pets was probably Dot#i was living at home with my parents and whenever everyone would go to bed she'd wander the house and cry for 10-20 minutes#nothing you could do to appease her. but she eventually would settle down and sleep#Dot also always wanted to go outside in the screen porch and then just sit and stare in the glass door#valentine#ask
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My father is staying in my flat today, eating my pears. Miraculous. Transcendental even.
#this is in fact NOT a shitpost I am really grateful to experience this#cw parent illness I guess but this time last year we all thought he wouldnât make it thru another year#or be able to travel to Europe ever again#or even live at home#and heâs in my flat heâs eating my pears#while I am at work#I had too many pears#my father who even 2 yrs ago I (unreligious) was on my KNEES literally on my knees in a shitty basement air BnB in this city#asking for one more year#heâs still sick ofc you donât get over this one but#heâs here eating my fucking pears#what else is mercy
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#you#...#you...#Congrats with surviving... I hope it wasn't too bad...#We had something similar last year#We live in a kind of a distant village#And our streets are connected to one heating system#And it was so cold last year that this station just broke#Me and my sister have been without water electricity and heat first day *giggle* It was funny to wear 2 complects of cloths and jacket#It was... like... -14 inside of home? *giggle*#On the second day we at least got electricity back and got a little heater (We were separated from parents so the have been calling 3#times per day XDD) We closed all doors to not let the heat outside#Since we got sick and couldn't take a shower#We were able to go to school but we looked like shit XDD#Then we were lying next 2 days like potatoes in one room with a heater... it felt awful XDD#They couldn't fix the main heating system for almost 3 days#It was... funny.... never want to experience the same again and hope you will not too
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and if i said suguruâs relationship with weakness (âthe preciousness of the weak, the ugliness of the weakâ) was born out of his feelings towards his mother âŠ
#.#feeling abnormal feeling extremely abnormal#i think suguru fucking haaaaaates his father but his connection to his mother is just . so much more loaded#in that sense his mommy issues are far worse but his daddy issues are definitely more . apparent#he hates his dad heâd do anything anything anythingggg never to end up like him#but he resembles his mother in many ways (the hair. the eyes. the frail heart)#and because of that his hatred/love for Her in particular is just ⊠one big can of worms#âyou shouldnât have given birth to me. you should have saved yourself. itâs your own fault that youâre stuck with himâ#etcetc#he feels pity and guilt and hatred and biological love heâd be better off without#i think his mother was very very awful to him too#but even baby sugu knew the root cause was his father#hhhhh âŠ.#iâm a little on the fence between . âhis home life was violently abusiveâ#and âhis parents were obsessed with appearing normal and perfect no matter the costâ#maybe both ?#like ⊠idk if ever got physical. but i think just the psychological torture of living in that kind of household#left scars in his soul that heâll never get rid of#in my mind suguâs backstory is akin to nobaraâs but make it straight up horror#anyway thatâs all đ sugu your parental issues have bewitched me#ari noises â©#meta â©
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dr bashir and his brood of postwar hatchlingsâŠ
#ds9#garashir#GARASHIR BAPPY ADOPTION IS SOMETHING THAT IS SO IMPORTANT TO ME.#GROWING AND CHANGING. HEALING. LOVE EVEN.#some of them have medical issues or injuries that julian saw in clinic and was like No parents? Our Child Now#garak smiling mildly: my dear. i am going to kill you for real#garak coming home after a long day of malewife manipulate mansplain in the postbellum government#to his trophy husband and 3 kids. he is truly living the dream
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wait i'm curious
#bc i know some people whose parents made them pay rent as soon as they were 18#and i have some friends who have moved back in with their parents after uni and now pay rent#meanwhile my parents laughed when i said i was grateful they were letting me live at home because ''what else would they do?''#pinkie's polls#đ§
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so a Yellowjackets AU where mari says something to get herself kicked out of the cabin, and she dies of exposure and gets eaten at the bachanalian banquet instead of Jackie, who LIVES, who's there at Shauna's side when she goes into labor, stroking her hair and letting Shauna squeeze her hand hard enough to sprain her fingers, who keeps Shauna calm enough she has a (comparatively!!!!!!) easier delivery, who is the reason the(ir) baby lives.
who finally, after months of feeling adrift and useless because sheâs not a hunter or a butcher or a prophet or a captain (anymore) finds her purpose in the wilderness. who painstaking sews patchwork baby onesies and cloth diapers from the girls' spare clothes (Offerings, not donations). who makes a baby sling from animal pelts and backpack straps. who makes a rattle from sticks and pinecones and some light blue pebbles Jackie found by the lake one day and saved. who makes sure the cabin stays warm and clean for Luke Dylan (from 90210--they couldn't decide whether to go with the actor or the character).
who builds them another shelter from blankets and animal hides after the cabin burns down. who keeps shauna and their baby warm through that first terrible winter and the one that followed.
and one day in 1998, Canadian forest rangers happen upon that American high school soccer team that went missing 2 years back. they find a group of starving teens and a baby, a little over a year old, two of the girls wrapped around him--and each other
and when the rescue team tries to separate them the one with tangled, golden brown hair bears her teeth and Growls
#yellowjackets#shaunajackie#yellowjackets au#premise up for adoption bc Im too busy to do anything more with this#shauna shipman#jackie taylor#in my head: they go back and live at jackie's house#it's bigger + Jackie's family has the $$ to keep reporters off their property so the girls are safer there#when itâs discovered that jeff is the father. jeff--who was raised right--starts going to school part time#while working full time at the furniture store#soon becoming assistant manager#jackie's parents BEG her to go to rutgers. not to give up her future for a baby that's not even hers#that belongs to the bf and bff who BETRAYED her no less#(jackie stops talking to them for a month. not for bringing up the cheating thing)#(for daring to say that LD isnt hers' too)#jackie does eventually go to Rutgers though#but not bc her mom promises to stop giving shauna a hard time#she decides to go when Shauna finally tells her about applying to Brown and getting her acceptance letter days before they left#they never would've been roommates at Rutgers. she isn't leaving Shauna behind. she never has#shauna makes a joke about having a hot meal ready every day when jackie comes home#jeff saves up enough money for a dowm payment for a nice house with a lawn and a yard#for him shauna&jackie and the baby--BECAUSE HE WAS RAISED RIGHT#he and jackie build a backuard playset for Luke (Dylan's his middle name. It's also Jeffs mothers maiden name it all worked out)#yes sometimes they have threesomes#no Randy. Jeff's NOT going to talk about it w you#(he was raised right!!!!!)#a few years down the line Shauna gets pregnant again#all 3 of their parents' heads tilt to the side#but they keep it amongs themselves so they can keep seeing Luke and baby Callie#little house in the wilderness au
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the thing that irks me about the og âthrowing in the towelâ lyrics (âsoda iâm really depressed, spending every night drinking myself to sleepâ) is that the curtis house always seemed like a refuge for steve/johnny/dally from their alcoholic/abusive/absentee parents
#darry wouldnât want to become the angry drunk â heâs seen what thatâs done to johnny#idk#maybe thatâs me projecting my alcoholic daddy issues#(and i canât remember if anything is ever said about two-bitâs parents but my point still stands)#again idk#drinking culture was different and whatnot#and i canât remember if darry drinks in canon#butâŠit just kind of seems out of character for me?#like heâs stressed and heâs angry#we know that#and there very much is that culture within construction#(from lived experience)#but for someone whoâs putting his entire body into making sure his brothers donât go to a boys home#it just doesnât make sense to me#idk maybe it was intended to come across as a thing that happened in the days pony was gone#but yeah idk thatâs my two cents#orâŠtwo-bits if you will#the outsiders musical#the outsiders#darry curtis#darrel curtis#the curtis brothers#sodapop curtis#ponyboy curtis#steve randle#johnny cade#dallas winston
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