#listen you don't want to die right?
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I. AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH. I’m okay I’m fine I’m okay I’m fine I’m oka
The fic I'm illustrating and losing my mind about 👉 Mistakes on mistakes until
#maccadam#transformers#prowl#jazz#jazzprowl#momu fanart#fic fanart#LISTEN.#I DON'T THINK JAZZ IS GONNA DIE.#BUT I THINK HE M I G HT#Like.#I don't even know anymore#something in me tells me that everything will be fine#but! throughout this whole fic my inner voice was absolutely. completely#DRAMATICALLY fucking wrong 90% of the time#so it's not like I can't trust the tropes#I can't even trust myself anymore ahahahah#his 'see you on the other side' YOU SENSE IT TOO RIGHT?? ri g h t?#or Is it me just finally losing the last pieces of my sanity?#both ways - I fucking love this fic#I want to make it into a physical copy for myself once it's finished (despite printer ink costing like an airplane wing in my country lol)
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VARGASTOBER - day 2 : comfort
#vargas#edgar vargas#vargas zarla#scriabin#scriabin vargas#zarla s#vargastober#vargastober 2024#vargastober2024#sunny's art#chapter 20/21#i'm late . i know i'm late#god . this just took SO UNBELIEVABLY LONG . SERIOUSLY#the bg color doesn't convince me . but i don't want to leave my purple-ish gray void#i do have an entry for this one ! idk if i should work on today's ( yesterday's ( prompt now#NO BACKGROUND BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO DIE !!#or write the entry#might write a bit of it while i eat some crackers#did you notice the new layout ? yyeees ???? do y'all like it ?#might change the pfp for scriabin's face here . he tiny#i'll try to work on a small thing for void . if i don't get it right i might just skip that one#should be all :]] currently listening to the subdigitals for the 8465675th time today#( they're a fake band from code lyoko but they do have songs and they're fire#i don't like posting things this late but I'M TOO LATE ALREADY
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tagged by the fabulous @cordiallyfuturedwight and @jimin-gaon <33 here's the december list
apologies for being late again new year same me: @aprylynn @jiminsproof @pauls-mccharmly @thvinyl @visionsofgideontheninth @btsbs @kimchokejin @jihopesjoint @eoieopda @monismochi 💜 and anyone else who feels so inclined MWAH p.s. please do tag me anyway if you've already done it
#superfluous commentary in the tags as per usual:#i feel you - ADORE THIS TRACK i can't even explain what it does to my psyche except that it initiates a beach episode.#noso is a phenomenal queer artist and you should check them out#smoke and mirrors - ms faith back in action on the rotation i loved this album in 2009 and it still hits. for the love of GOD take me back#loving you - i am a paolo nutini stan if nothing else. exceptional#love is all around - i am in my frazzled english woman era hence the romcom soundtrack#and tell me who could possibly embody that frazzled english spirit better than four weddings hugh grant#boys don't cry - it's the cure by name and the cure by nature for one listen and i am FIXED!!!#she's always a woman - now billy joel is a great name for a cat or hamster but i digress. the stranger album of the year 2023 (again i fear)#little bird - was annie lennox in the last one?? i still have this on repeat.#googling the lyrics and it thinks i want the jonas brothers and it makes me want to sit right down and cry cry cry i'll tell you that much#jenny - paolo again can you blame me? i cannot express how much i adore his entire discography.#these scottish italians... deadly combination for my mental health. peter capaldi sit down#white flag - dido save me.. save me dido... my jihope anthem because i WILL go down with this ship#eternal flame - banger after banger it's almost as if i made this playlist myself!! can you feel my heart beating??? i apologise#as for the artist list#norah jones and jamie cullum christmas albums on repeat lord forgive me for i have listened to jazz#hozier and abba seem to make it without fail every month. for those who aren't familiar hozier is like if abba were irish. and bitchless.#NOW I'VE SAID TOO MUCH#the rest of the artists are fab of course but does olivia dean know i would die for her?#anyway. insert closing statements#tag#receiptify#MWAH
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kind of frustrating that people took "fat does not equal unhealthy" to mean "fat is not unhealthy." sometimes being obese IS unhealthy & excess fat can cause a lot of problems. ignoring health issues isn't progressive. real "oranges kill people with depression" moment
#i have a lot to say but i think it all boils down to this:#the only reason people think this way is because they experienced body shaming & bullying for their fatness#& instead of gaining a healthy relationship with their body & its needs they went full denial mode#people that aren't fat that think this way are just going with things uncritically which is also bad btw#because when you have decades of proof that being severely overweight can be detrimental to your health#(& no i don't mean fucking. supersize me. i mean medical proof that too much fat causes diseases & early death)#but you're ignoring that because a tiktok influencer that has no medical experience said so#that is a huge lack of critical thinking skills on display & people are gonna listen to that misinformation & some might die#this isn't some light shit that can be waved off as non-harmful because it IS harmful! it is actively hurting people!!#again being unhealthy isn't a moral failing & no one deserves shit for that!! but that's the whole damn point isn't it!!!#militant fat activists are so afraid of their fatness being associated with anything negative they turn right around into ableism#they don't WANT to be considered disabled! because being disabled IS a moral failing to them. disability is abnormal#& of course being morbidly obese is totally normal. because if it wasn't then they'd need to do work & handle an ED#& that's too much to grapple with mentally so. no. they're normal. super normal. don't look at the lifespan of someone over 300lb#btw i am 100% aware that a lot of this is combined with other issues like racism sexism homo/transphobia genuine fatphobia#but also sometimes they really can't operate on someone that can't recover afterwards#like i wouldn't call the vet bigoted & cat-hating for being unable to operate on my 20yo cat#Minnie would simply not survive that. because she is so damn old#unfortunately for Minnie she can't get younger but people CAN lose weight in multiple different ways#& it may seem like the world is attacking you but you really have to train yourself out of automatic bad faith reactions#''you couldn't possibly understand!!'' yeah okay i'm sooo abled & privileged you got me there (<-sarcasm. if you couldn't tell)#just because someone hasn't experienced your EXACT thing doesn't mean they can't relate & haven't gone through similar#it's so difficult to train your brain out of that shit i get that but you really really really have to. or you will die#or at least be miserable#DISCLAIMER: i'm not talking about every person who has even a little fat on their body. fat is NEEDED#but like all things too much of a good thing can cause problems & fat is not exempt#this is about morbid obesity. not someone who's like 160lb that shit is normal#& people need to stop thinking anything over 110lb is fat#because it isn't & i think most people are getting into unhealthy territory at that low of a weight#basically i view being too fat the same as being too thin. they both cause health problems & should be taken seriously
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Honestly a lot of the time, it's not even about people having to agree with me, it's about needing to know that they actually heard and listened to what I had to say even if it didn't persuade them
Just... some basic indication that there's enough respect to give a shit about what I said, and also to make sure that they disagree because they actually disagree and not cause they just didn't bother listening
It's all I really ask
#I forgot what this was about part way through writing about it; but then I remembered it's about Ukraine#like I just need to know that you actually understand what's happening there and what people are going through#you want me to care about your thing? show me you have any any any grasp of what's going on in Ukraine#it's uh... it's too many friends where if I'm just honest... this is about them#people I adore but people where... I don't know if they ever even once listen to what I have to say#...though maybe it's better this way... at least if they just ignore me I can say they just don't understand what's going on#that they're just being fed lines by other people or don't care#...if... they... knew the shit Ukrainians go through and still didn't care... would be a lot harder to respect them#would take a certain level of callous to do that and... these are people I care about very much so#...but I don't know; eats at me... you know#...and even on less serious topics... boy I wish you'd ever listen to me#if it weren't for the fact you say you like me... I'd be pretty damn sure you can't fucking stand me and I do nothing but annoy you#...I don't know if you've... ever... listened to anything I've said on any subject#when you do; you usually correct me... even though; brilliant as you are... you're erm... not always right#I don't get it... I don't get you... every word I say seems to be wrong... I'm so stupid and you're so smart#and yet you get real upset when I want to die... so you must actually like me and our communication styles don't match up#thank god you never seem to read my tags... or... much of anything else I say#truthfully I'd follow you anywhere; and you can treat me any way you want#but man I don't think my thoughts or opinions matter to you even a little... I think I just exist to be your rubber duck#...that's how it feels anyway#but all that aside... just wish you'd listen to me on Ukraine cause it actually matters#this post started out about some other people too... and sure... I like them well enough; and they're maddeningly wrong#like sputnik levels or wrong#drives me nuts; like you're not stupid and you're not cruel so why do you act so stupid and cruel?... turn you brain on#but uh... I actually just don't care about them that much#where as you... I could put it into words... but I won't#it's just a shame... like forget any of the stuff about me; it's just you're so kind... wish you'd care about what's going on in Ukraine#...I gotta stop or I'll go on all night; and I'm already too tired#mm tag so i can find things later
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and that's on top of pinning my distress and suffering and the awful time i'm going thru on the fact i'm on hrt
#why are cis people so obsessed with our transition when it has nothing to do with the situation#why does every therapist psychiatrist and other professional keep asking me if i've “fully” transitioned#if i see any huge side effects#if i find it hard to adjust to changes in my body (it's been 4 years btw)#and then when i try and tell them hrt is going well and i don't have any problem in that regard#they ignore me and keep saying it's hard to deal with your body changing even if you wanted it to and it's understandable to be struggling#literally so so tired of this. you guys aren't even listening to me. you guys don't care about me#you only care about your weird beliefs that hrt is harmful and you're so uncomfortable with my transness (always have been) that you don't#even want to help me for real you just want to have the satisfaction of saying see i was right see you're suffering bc of your “choice” to#be like this#well honestly i don't know who would ever choose to ask for help when you either pay lots of money or maybe get lucky or pay more money and#try again until you hit jackpot or just get no help just transphobia from public healthcare#i'm tired. i'm so tired. and i don't know how to stand up for myself. i'm sorry i wish i was one of those trans or fat people who fight lik#hell to get the respect they deserve but i'm just a scared traumatized mentally ill person who struggles to talk to people#so i just get stuck in these feelings of helplessness and no wonder i let myself reach my limit and would rather die instead
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Cool.. Our rent price got raised. :') I did not know it was even possible to get even MORE poor than me and mom already were, but here we are. Guess I'll start surviving on literal bread and water at this rate.
#/vent#personal#no but when will things stop getting worse?#in moments like this I feel especially bitter thinking about that asshole that went to me like:#'wahh wahh katy i won enough money in the court to buy everything I want but it doesn't matter because I can't buy YOU uwu'#*ten days later* 'actually I don't want a friend/sister anymore can you please stay in your bum spot and simply be my-#-online friend and listen to me ramble about my interests without any regards to yours and show off how cool my life is to you like always?#like no I am not materialistic but when people make dramatic promises of this kind they better stick to them#'nooo but you MUST get out of russia!!!' bitch how? I can hardly afford enough food let alone travelling and living abroad#anyways yeah I am done using the guy that pretended to want a better life for us both and then turned tail as a core for venting#sorry it just makes me angry#not so much living in powerty and not being able to crawl out of debt and my life state no matter what#but more about a very consistent trend of having friends that one day get RICH and dump me as 'lower class' right after that happens#he is not the only one like that in my life he is just the most recent one#really speaks about how unlikeable I am if people lose interest in me as soon as they can buy happy things instead#shows that my worth as a human being is super low and I only work as entertainment when people can't buy something to do that instead#like videogames food travels objects books etc etc...#I am just below those things and less interesting than those things and I'll die early hahaha lol#hopes are that supernatural luck power that doesn't want me to escape easily will send me something to help. because yeah my situation-#-is B A D.
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Citrine, I'm sorry
My throat works, swallowing the pill. A little capsule to take it away from me. It was never mine to hold. And I didn't think I'd cry this quickly. My face becomes wet and cold and reddened from my hands rubbing against it. It's a quiet kind of crying. Cathartic. Waiting on the train, on the seat at night, going no where and every where at once. Going home. To a house. A beautiful, old house. It's a shame it's so cold, you'd think the walls would hold the heat in better.
You asked me how I wanted it and I say hard and cold and metallic because that's how I like it, to cut though. To cut through and leave my own marks on my body. My body. Mine.
There's a point where you become almost catatonic. So full of this gnawing loneliness. And all you can really do is exist in it.
I think I must be bleeding because my head is reeling far too fast for me to be sober. I wish I were sober. I wish you were here. I wanted to kiss you so badly. I wanted to tear you apart. If I could tear out my heart and hold it in front of me, right in front of both of us, would you take a bite?
My citrine, my muse, my angel above me. I loved you. And I'm sorry I loved you. You didn't deserve that.
#poetry#poetry blog#queer#love letters#i can't get my thoughts out right in this and it's making me want to die#i don't know how to describe the way i love her#i can't put it into words#or anything#and it's driving me mad#i love you#btw all my poems are for her#so citrine i do love you more than you could ever comprehend#more than i can seem to communicate in any comprehensible way#i love you more than art or words or anything#and i hope you don't love me back#wow i'm dramatic#but she is who i think of when i listen to most songs#and I hope she doesn't think of me
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rot.ary di.al the aqua bpder song ever
#➳ the fool speaks#like me listening 2 that on repeat years ago while splitting on my fp back then .#putting aside all the story and stuff . those lyrics are basically just what it feels like splitting on someone . to me .#as well as some of my less normal/healthy ways of showing my devotion to those i care about#''call me call me baby - check me on the cheek and all night i'll wait for your reply''#and then ofc the ''i can't wait for you to die'' for the splitting obv .#''all the ones that i love have hung up the telephone time after time after time after time after-'' abandonment issues ++ bpd tend to go#hand in hand#''time and time again again i'll only speak to uu'' prioritizing uur fp above all others because they're OBVIOUSLY the most important perso#in uur life (and if uu don't talk to them right this instant they'll leave uu forever and hate uu and uu can't have that now can uu)#''and maybe uu should give me back the love i gave to uu'' feeling unloved and as though uur fp doesn't care about uu the way uu care abt#them (and if they don't have bpd or uu just . aren't their fp too . then yeah they most likely don't . ahahahah . ow .)#''i've given up on any kind of hope that's left for me'' the self awareness uu get at some point abt the fact uu are . well . Like This tm#and then the ''time is just a-ticking away now hey now for uu for uu'' more ''i hope uu fucking die'' splitting type stuff#''and after i've called uu for the 43rd time'' flashbacks to me desperately trying to talk to my fps over the years to no success .#and then more ''call me call me baby'' w affectionate words and the want/need for attention#''where are uu going my darling?'' fear of abandonment#''why do uu never talk to me'' as mentioned above being more prone to feeling neglected by uur fp if they aren't around as much as uu'd lik#''nevermore forevermore - love is nothing but a waste'' feeling like trying to connect w and maintain a relationship is . well .#a waste because of whatever reasons uu find applicable since there's like 100 uu could think of . purrobably .#and then the rest of the song is kinda just repeats of all these lyrics#ok nawt all of them but uu get the idea#like#damn#idk maybe it's just me but bpd song of all time . sort of . idk .#hap.py days too but that one iirc was Actually Written as a bpd song . this one is kinda just fitting even if on accident ??
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I think that might've been me and I'm sorry. I don't remember ever saying anything about that, but I can be unconsciously rude when it comes to adaptations. I never meant to be that way.
I understand entirely if you still feel that way towards me, and I will be unfollowing I promise.
I'm sorry for whatever I may had said.
if this completely unprompted response to "what did you think of my quiz" is you (which i believe it must be, as i haven't really gotten any other rude uquiz comments in a while):
then i don't understand how this can be "unconsciously rude" or some sort of accident. do you just always throw this kind of thing around without thinking?
i also don't understand how, if this is, in fact, you, you can apologize for something you apparently don't remember. "sorry if i was mean, i forgot, and it was probably because i'm always mean about adaptations"??
i happen to love adaptations, and this one in particular. and both my blog and the uquiz were labelled as being primarily TV/show verse. if you don't enjoy that, that's fine! but that's no reason to come into my house and piss on the furniture??
so, basically. listen, dude, i'm open to apologies, and i'm quick to forgive. but this? this is kinda a non-apology, my guy. "i'm sorry for whatever i may have said" is literally textbook non-apology.
#anyway listen im not saying FUCK OFF FOREVER AND DIE#im saying this was rude and hurtful#and a noncommittal 'sorry i might have been mean idk not sure tho' isnt really much of an apology? just.#listen you dont have to unfollow or whatever okay. just. dont do this kind of thing?#work on not being 'unconsciously rude'. if you see someone enjoying something you dont like you just. dont have to tell them it sucks???#hell if it bothers you you can block THEM or even me#god knows i tend to block people who post negativity for the show--not because they dont have the right to an opinion#but because i dont really want to see that (negativity that is not any criticism at all)#but i dont come up to them like actually the books can suck my dick and the show is sent down from heaven by god herself personally#ya know?#listen. have a good day alright? i don't want you to be agonizing over this forever.#you did a mean thing it doesn't necessarily make you a Bad Person#just?? dont do this again please??? PLEASE???#i spend a lot of time on these and this kind of thing is so discouraging i just want to delete all of them#like i WON'T but i want to
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There's one blorbo that doesn't communicate their needs/emotions because they don't want to be seen as a burden to other people. There is another blorbo that doesn't communicate their needs/emotions because they literally can not and find it difficult to communicate them effectively. These two blorbos are dating.
#I'll have you know this is about jmart#Like this is jmart to me#They're both emotionally constipated but in different ways#However I think it's also how they work?#Martin is scared of being seen as a burden because he's been treated as such...for a fair bit of his life#He always wants to be kind and approachable Martin because he thinks that's the only form people will accept him in#Like Martin can be bitchy but he doesn't do that because it contradicts that image#So all those little thoughts are left to steam and die in his head#With Jon I don't think he has to do that. He can be bitchy!#I feel like w/ Jon one can be as much of a bitch as one wants because you KNOW he'll be able to throw it back just as hard#But wait! There's more!#Jon wouldn't shy away from giving Martin what he needs or wants because that man would move hell to do stuff for people he loves#I am eternally pointing to MAG 22 when Jon immediately believed Martin's story and had him stay in the archives#Also when he fucking fought Elias to upgrade the security and co2 system in the archives#That was when he still RESPECTED the man!#Onto Jon#Jon is also mega emotionally constipated as in he doesn't know how to communicate his emotions effectively and carefully#In a way that won't have a fair amount of people wanting to sock him in the face#We've all listened to the show right? We get how he is. It's so hard to explain.#If only he could Compel himself into giving a coherent statement on his thoughts#And therefore his thoughts are also left to shrivel and die in his head#But then there's Martin who due to his upbringing is an *incredibly patient man*#He WILL get Jon's thoughts damn it. Jon WILL communicate with him.#Martin's already seen Jon's worst he can handle this#Now of course this only works when it. y'know works. But as long as they COMMUNICATE or get there somehow I think it's fine.#They take care of each other is what I'm saying#In an ideal world of course#Also damn it Jon really is a cat#Abellrambles#I don't think I worded the Jon to Martin portion well enough but Martin is so hopelessly devoted to this man-
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(season 2 episode 23 spoilers in the tags kinda)
you know you have problems when the people you relate to the most in dungeons and daddies are Grant, the doodler, and Lark.
#i spent last night crying and listening to dungeons and daddies#i would call that a good night#but like the doodler is so relatable#i feel like i hurt everyone i love too#and the part where linc asks grant if he loves himself#and he just like yeets off the bus like me too grant me too#and then when he's like “do i deserve to die? eughgeh yes?”#and lark honestly i feel like im going insane so yeah i relate to lark#but grants character breaks my heart and his like of killing is a very interesting thing#it makes you think because a lot of psychopaths and stuff feel that its like self harm addiction but different#grant just feels so relatable but i don't want to kill people he's just relatable in his offhanded mentions of how he feels he's terrible#im not having a good week at all and I have to wait for the next episode#my dungeons and daddies hyperfixation is very very intense right now#but im happy so who cares??#well im not happy but im happy with my hyperfixation#i was screaming when the og daddies came on and the teens could be come them and stuff like AHHHHHH XD#IT WAS SUCH A GOOD EPISODE LIKE I WAS CRYING I MISSED THE OG DADDIES SO MUCH#THE NOSTALGIA FOR ME FROM SEASON 1 IS SO SO SO INTENSE#I LISTENED TO IT ON CAR RIDES AND WHEN I WAS SAD AND OMG THE NEW EPISODE JUST BROUGHT UP SO MANY EMOTIONS#this podcast is my only source of seratonin and dopamine istg#mentally fucked#sad#dndads#dungeons and daddies#dndaddies#dndaddies s2#dndads s2#the doodler#grant wilson#lark oak
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I have had a million important things happen this week w/ more to come (got 5 college offers, get to be interviewed on local radio, have to meet the mayor for the third(?) time this year, get to attend a film pitch, etc) and I can't appreciate any of it because I am just so scared of an email I have to send
#ramblings of a lunatic#i just. dont know how to tactfully say ''i don't trust you and need to know whether or not I'm gonna be entrapped if i go further w/ this''#it's a whole thing. i wanna ask my mom for help but unfortunately i can't do that bc she's a nightmare and so am I#but i also shouldn't leave it too long. so sometime this weekend feels right (even though I'm busy)#IT'S JUST HARD AND I HAVE NO ONE TO TALK TO ABOUT IT (on purpose. I'd rather die than expose my secrets)#I'M JUST. I'm just scared. i volunteered to do what i thought was a one time thing and now they're talking about doing more things#and if i wanna know What The Thing Is I have to sign stuff and I'm just. idk if any of this is normal#it probably is but I'm so freaked out by it all#okay. that's enough journalling in the Tumblr tags I'm gonna go try and listen to an audiobook#(this is also stressful bc it's for coursework and i sit there the whole time hoping Themes and Motifs i want appear so i can make an-#-essay out of it. and when they don't show up i cry about it. but i need to listen to at least a little for the next few days. its on loan)
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I'm such a coward. tried to at least get deep enough as a preparation to slit my wrists but I couldn't even get to the second layer. and it's not even like i don't like to hit styro, i'm just being a little bitch about it
#i'm queasy cutting at sensitive areas which has got to be the most inconvenient trait to have as someone who wants to#I can do it I know I can i'm just#being selfish#it's literally only my family holding me back and not even in a good way#the thought of me doing this and them finally knowing. and I either die and ruin my family or survive and get hurt#I'm so serious I would've already done this by now if it weren't for them. i'm afraid of what they would say what they would do#I only cause another problem for them and they can tell me how immature I am and I need to take more responsibility#suck it up you're gonna ruin your future#nothing's wrong with you it's all in your head#then blame it on my father somehow#punish me and now I really can't escape#it's an absolute nightmare scenario and it scares my subconscious enough to not be willing to attempt#if there weren't going to be people whom I know would further isolate and trap me afterwards if I make it...#they would never understand#I feel like if I do this I have to guarantee I don't make it. which is scarier. but shit I have to do something at some point#I can't. this can't be all what my high school life is going to be#I have no where to go. no dreams no goals#when has me ever doing something drastic ever made anyone listen#I try to run away no one listens. I try to kms no one listens. try to kms again no one listens. run away again no one listens#if i'm dying right in front of them will they finally listen#I'd had pills on me for months. I can end it at any moment#just one bad episode. pushed right off the edge. in the right scenario. I could impulsively do it#still remember when that happened. staring at the pills in my hand. I only didn't do it because I had things to hide and I only had 15 minu#there's so many times where I would've died had something not intervened
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So my homegirl @cardiac-ossification and I were talking a couple weeks back and we had a misunderstanding that temporarily flared tempers; we are both going thru some shit atm.
Even though we were both kind of annoyed at each other, we walked it back, found the exact source of the misunderstanding, and cleared it up. It was over in maybe 5 minutes.
Because she is an angel who considered the possibility that this might still be bothering me, she STILL apologized to me about it again last night, even though I had completely forgotten about it the moment we cleared it up.
Having healthy relationships in my life is something I'm really grateful for and do not take for granted. We triggered each other but care more about each other than our egos, so we were able to sew it up neatly in a few minutes, and she still wanted to check in with me after the fact to make sure we were good.
This person has never once made me feel anxious or uncared for because even though it's rare that we argue, anytime we have, it's clear that we'd both rather move through the strife and preserve our friendship above all else, so our egos are easy to identify and neutralize in the face of conflict.
#personal#ilu gorl i hope you don't mind me posting thisssss#it's such a stark contrast to the kind of conflict i got used to in the last couple of years#where the other party refused to listen or be curious or put aside their ego#they just dug their heels into feeling hurt & that mattered more to them than preserving the relationship#i know i played my part too but when someone who truly cares about me is on the other end of the conflict#we will overcome it easily i'm not defective and people-repellent i just need to interface with the right ppl for me#who don't trigger the ever-loving shit out of me 24/7#she's been ride or die for like 8 years now and she means a lot to me!!#my brain needs examples of people who will engage in conflict in good faith so that we can end said conflict quickly#instead of dragging it tf out!#who want to help me feel safe in my interactions w/ them and surprise! i do!!#i am starting to realize my ex just loved the drama lol i need to stay away from people like that#emotional maturity is so refreshing to engage with!!!! Fuck that shit is good.
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the way my grandma tries to shove her irrational fears on me and then guilt-trips me when i don't indulge her
#no grandma your tv won't explode if you turn it on during a storm#yes ''well if i die then it's your fault'' sure whatever this doesn't matter because you won't die from turning on a fucking tv#i'm out here using a computer that's using far more electricity than your tv#without using your tv YOUR home is using up tons of electricity either way. you have a fridge a heating system a stove a router a microwave#we live near a building equipped with a lightning rod Specifically In Place so you & i can be safe during storms#every single time you have ever had a fear of something blowing up in your face killing you instantly. well.#i can't say it ever happened considering i'm still talking to you right now#i will not play along and pretend to be scared with you. i'm not. you shouldn't be. turn your tv on.#you're calling me specifically because you want to know if it's safe to use your tv right now#i'm telling you Yes It Is. did you ever intend to listen to me or were you just looking for validation ?#did you only call so i could tell you your tv's a ticking bomb just waiting for you to hit the on button to zap you into a pile of dust ?#why call me to ask if you only want confirmation of what you already believe and won't accept any statement that denies it ?#you're not gonna die from using a fucking television. nobody ever has.#like... ugh of Course she's allowed to be scared plenty of people are scared of stormy weather#but why does she expect me to tell her GEE YES GRANGRANS THE TV'S GONNA 9/11 YOU IF YOU EVEN LOOK AT THE REMOTE AAAAAA#no. i'm telling you it's safe. i've told you it's safe multiple times. if you don't trust me idk what to tell you lol#ITS NOT EVEN THAT STORMY IT'S LIKE DRIZZLING OUTSIDE THATS ALL
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