#lily on the vents

[lily-on-the-fence]

Had a lovely time with my dad these past few days and, inevitably, one talk about JK Rowling, because as a trans person I am both knowledgeable and responsible for the "terrible attacks she's suffered online."

According to my dad, JKR is:

Really smart ("Diagon Ally", so witty!!!)

Not smart enough to realise her writing has real world parallels (According to my dad, lifelong avid reader, fiction is never used to comment or draw parallels with the real world)

A really good writer

Often misunderstood

Allowed to be frustrated at people who attack her (unlike the people she attacks)

Allowed to express that frustration (unlike the people she hurt)

A victim (unlike the people she vilifies)

Justified for being fattist (my dad has been overweight almost all his life)

Honestly the list goes on. At one point i read out loud the "fat man penis" quote from her Robert Galbraith book and my dad was like "that doesn't sound like very good writing, are you sure it's not made up??" At which point I was happy to produce the photo of the page I was reading from.

[severussnapemylove]

Sometimes I wonder if JKR even realises she wrote Snape as a victim of sexual assault. Because he unambiguously is, and she writes him as traumatised by the incident. So it seems mad to suggest that she might not have thought through the implications of her own writing, but if she did get it, I am baffled by how sympathetic she remains to James. Harry is never really made to confront how vile his actions were, because he looks for comfort from Remus and Sirius rather than telling Hermione who would react in horror and disgust, and he gets to skip over it completely in The Prince’s Tale. JKR clearly considers James a hero, and has confirmed that in interviews. She’s even more sympathetic to Lily, who is portrayed as an absolute paragon of goodness, morality and virtue, despite her being attracted enough to James *after* he publicly commits sexual assault on a less privileged kid to marry him! What a malfunctioning moral compass. JKR also has no sympathy at all for Tom Riddle Sr, who is a victim of rape, and his rapist Merope Gaunt, who is herself strongly implied to be a victim of incestual abuse, is condemned by Dumbledore and the narrative not for what she did to Tom but for not being as courageous as nice, pretty, middle class Lily Evans because Merope committed the crime of…dying in childbirth. The only conclusions I can draw from this is that JKR is the sort of ´feminist’ who doesn’t believe men can be the victims of sexual crimes, and that deep down she thinks being a member of the underclass who can’t drag themselves out of it alone is indicative of moral failure.

This! All of this!

I don't think she puts it together at all. She's incredibly tone deaf about a lot of the abuse she puts these characters through. And with the blasé attitude she has about male victims of SA in the books definitely goes along her brand of toxic radical "feminism". It looks like she just doesn't recognise the severity of what happens to these characters. On top of Severus's attack and Tom Riddle Sr, remember that Ron was roofied with love spell that was intended for Harry, and Moaning Myrtle is incredible predatory towards the boys. Sadly, this attitude carries over from the author to a chunk of the fandom too. I've seen so much dismissiveness of the assaults against the male characters, especially Severus. And it's even more disappointing when I see people who have experienced abuse saying that what Severus endured "didn't count" as abuse. Had someone today on another platform having an absolute meltdown at me, saying that what happened in SWM wasn't sa, and that he wasn't traumatised from his abuse and if his anger was caused by trauma then why wasn't Harry the same. Seriously, you can't tell another person that what they experienced wasn't "bad enough to be abuse", that's a very warped mentality. Survivors are supposed to support each other, not belittle each other's trauma. Also, what book did they read that they think Harry doesn't have issues from the life he endured? He has different issues than Severus, yes, because he had different life experiences and everyone's reactions to trauma are different.

"Merope Riddle chose death in spite of a son who needed her, but do not judge her too harshly, Harry. She was greatly weakened by long suffering and she never had your mother's courage."

WTF is this!!!??? This is just plain victim blaming. "Your mothers' courage"? Lily had supportive, loving parents, was loved by her peers, admired by her teachers, had a very comfortable, secure life. Merope was physically and mentally abused for her whole life. They really criticized the poverty stricken, abuse victim for not being as "strong" as the Mary Sue of the Wizarding World??? Toxic as hell. Personally, as someone who has dealt with self-harm, mental illness and generational trauma in my family, this attitude of "they weren't strong enough" is nauseating and infuriating.

There really is a disturbing trend of extreme poverty equalling a dead-end life with no hope. Which is again an extremally toxic and judgmental attitude and a very dangerous message to put in a book aimed to children. The attitude towards abuse, poverty and indecent assault of men is beyond problematic, not only in the books but in far too many members of the fandom.

I could rant more but this will go on for pages.

[unknownjesterr]

im so done with tumblr

[thedepressedjuggalette]

You never looked at the evidence if you really believe all they have is cropped screenshots. Your rhetoric about unrelated events in the past has nothing to do with your disgusting attitude towards people genuinely hurt and abused by that monster. It's clear all you've done is do exactly what Lily says to do and refuse to look at what her victims post. They are her VICTIMS. THE SAME VICTIMS YOU CALLED PREDATORS BECAUSE YOU DON'T WANT TO CLICK A FEW LINKS AND READ THROUGH POSTS THAT SPOONFEED YOU EVERYTHING SHE DOES.

Really love how you ignored the fact that I said and I quote "I've watched plenty of videos going into the abuse allegations" and I've even name dropped Ethel (aka Essence of Thought) as an example.

I really loved that. It's adorable. Learn to fucking read.

Also I am a victim of Pedophilia and fyi my abuser actually is a free man because the courts said there was a "lack of evidence". Thanks for reminding of that, asshole.

But let me give you a simple thought experiment that I KNOW you're not going to answer or are going to find a way to weasel your way out of answering:

Lily Orchard stated that her parents were extremely abusive, her sister even stated this in her own blogs and in her interview with Essence of Thought. Her sister's Tumblr Bio even has her bragging about how she was their parent's favorite -- not Lily.

So let me ask you, if Lily's sister was the golden child and Lily was the scapegoat... WHY DIDNT HER SISTER OPEN HER FUCKING MOUTH?

Lily even stated that IF she was such an abusive disgusting asshole her parents would've MURDERED HER. Point blank. PERIOD.

IF Lily's sister was such a favorite, such a golden child, their parents would've killed Lily a long ass time ago.

Now let's look at recent events.

It's been confirmed by Lily and KP herself that KP tried to get Lily and her sister into a call together....

IF Lily was SUCH AN ABUSIVE ASSHOLE...WHO THE FUCK THINKS ITS A GOOD IDEA TO PUT AN ABUSER AND THEIR VICTIM IN THE SAME CALL LET ALONE THE SAME ROOM WITH EACH OTHER NO MATTER WHO THE FUCK THE THIRD PARTY IS????

That shit is NEVER a good idea. But what makes this shit even more sus to me is the fact that KP got UPSET when LILY FUCKING ORCHARD was the one to say "No!" LEAVE THE CALL when this idea was brought up. KP stated this.

Do you want to know what this says to me. This says that Lily wasn't the abuser in this situation.

Lily was having a trauma response.

But Lily's sister was the one open to the idea of getting into a call with her supposed abuser... WHAT THE FUCK???

As a victim of pedophilia I can honestly say to you that if someone tried to get me in a call with my bio father - my abuser - I'd run so fucking far I'd change my name and move to the other side of the fucking planet if I had to.

My own mother tried to get me to interact with my cousins, aunts, and uncles from my bio-fathers side of the family and the answer has always been "No!" every single fucking time.

Why?

Because I don't want to be anywhere near the IDEA of my abuser let alone anywhere near him.

It makes me sick. So tell me why the fuck is it that Lily's supposed victim, Lily's sister adopts Lily's name, actively reached out to one of her friends and even reached out to her on Deviant Art to INTERACT with Lily?

Everything that the sister does doesn't scream "this a victim of an abuser."

It screams "THIS IS A POWER PLAY FROM AN ABUSER!"

So let's look at what this entire situation says to me.

Lily Orchard didn't want to be forced by KP to join a call with one of her supposed "victims" and is her sister who has been BRAGGING about being their parents golden child and could've gotten her murdered at any time said sister felt like it. Lily said "No!" and left the call.

Predators LOVE to have power over their victims. They LOVE having info on their victims and former victims. It's like crack to them. It always has been. So IF Lily was a predator... Why is it that she's been avoiding her sister? Her supposed former victim...

My abuser used the fact that I was just a naive 7 year old against me all the time. That my mom would never believe me. And he was damn near right until he broke up with my mom in another one of their heated arguments and after a month of him being gone I spilt my guts and my mom kept asking me "Are you sure?" until she finally faced reality and realized that he was in fact a predator.

Can't wait to see how you'll ignore all of this shit and all of these questions in the next ask which I'm 99% sure is going to be you twisting yourself into knots to not answer them and bitch about whatever perceived slite you find in this.

Also before I forget I'm mature enough to see that Lily was obviously annoyed and saw plenty of people whining about her about anime and just took it out in that ask and thus I didn't take it personally. I don't have to take every insult someone gives me personally.

I didn't call her supposed victims predators. You just did though LOL. Way to out yourself there bud.

What I've been doing is pointing out that the shit being thrown at Lily is the EXACT same things that have been thrown and accused at LGBTQIA+ people for years, especially in the current Political Climate. Marjorie Taylor Green and JK Rowling have been throwing pedophilia and grooming allegations at the Trans Community for YEARS.

And what makes this shit all the more suspicious to me is that A LOT of Lily's haters dead name her and misgender her so often it's expected of them and when Lily's sister first came on scene, and this was pointed out by Essence of Thought herself, she misgendered and deadnamed Lily until she realized that Ethel was going to continue to correct her so she had to use Lily's name and gender.

It's no secret that the majority of Lily's haters are transphobes so it's not hard to expect that they'd use the very talking points transphobes have been throwing at the trans community for YEARS.

[adisplanet]

Regulus should have known.

He should have fucking known. 

It was dumb, really. Of course it was. Thinking it would work out, thinking it was anything besides a joke. Of course James fucking Fleamont Potter wouldn’t want him. Of course he would choose Lily. 

He should have known. 

There wasn’t anything wrong with Lily that he could be mad at. He’d tried, so incredibly hard, to find a flaw. To find something she wasn’t good at, an area in which she was less than satisfactory, something at which Regulus could do better than her; and he failed miserably.

He couldn’t be mad, because she was perfect and smart and everything Regulus wasn’t. She was nice. She was the kind of girl someone like James would want. He was dumb for even believing he had a chance in the first place. 

But there had been something. There had been something, in his tone, when they spoke. When it was just the two of them in the astronomy tower. Maybe James would deny it (not that Regulus would ever bring it up again anyways) but there had been something. He knew it.

Maybe once, James had loved him too.

[scarletspider-lily]

the isolation of still being in christian spaces (without a choice) and knowing you do not believe is... insane, honestly, something i wish more people knew about. because its not just being in church that feels isolating, it extends to the outside world.

anyone you talk to in your church obviously doesnt understand you. you constantly need to police your words around them to avoid saying something "sinful" or anything that can be read as liberal in any way. the mask must stay on at all times, and then when you're away from that space, you need to slowly adjust and become yourself again, somehow.

and in secular spaces, people just dont get it. which isnt always their fault! its just hard to explain to people who mean well, why "ill pray for you" sets you off and makes your heart race and makes you shudder. "why dont you love your family?? not even your sibling? damn." you see a coworker wearing a shirt with a bible verse on it, and run through several calculations in your head, none of them ending up anywhere because you distance yourself from said coworker, even though you know you should be talking to them before coming to conclusions. "hey, please stop talking about (criticizing) religion, its a bit of a controversial topic here. hope all that church stuff gets better soon though!" your friends do not understand what you are venting about, though they try their hardest.

you try so hard to find people who have left religions and/or cults in the real world. all you seem to be finding are people who are still in them, or people who have never come close to having an experience you have.

not to mention this all becomes approximately 100 times worse if you're queer.

[the-hollow-knights-darkness]

Figured yall could use this

[jenniferchecksbitch]

[fauxunraveling]

｡･:*:･ﾟ★,｡･:*:･ﾟ☆

[jennifercheckwannabeme]

[lily-on-the-fence]

I was telling my dad about a mini-thesis project i have to do for uni and how i chose to do it about LGBT history in Japan.

His first comment was "that sounds hard, why don't you do it about guitars instead?"

This is a master's degree project, it's expected to be at a certain level of complexity.

His second comment was "well I'm not sure your teacher would be interested and that might affect your grade!"

How revealing. Thank you for telling me you don't give a shit about lgbt rights. This is for my Politics and Cultural Relations class. I think my teacher will find it relevant enough.

"well you just seem so obsessed with the abcdhykq+ stuff or whatever it's called, not everything has to be about that you know??"

aaaaaAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHH

[severussnapemylove]

I just…my brain hurts… I made a comment on a post about how Lily isn’t shown actively defending Severus until it’s too late, i.e. SWM. And someone came back with “just because it’s not said in the book, doesn’t mean it didn’t happen”.

????????

What are we supposed to go off then, if not the books? A great many things could fly under that explanation. Fact is, everything I see tells me that Lily was not a good friend to Severus. A true best friend would be after bullies with a baseball bat. Not trying to justify the bullies behaviour and coming out with the attitude of “you should be grateful one of the bullies draws the line at murder”.

[dietdxlly]

tonight, I am mourning. I cry for the girl I am today, I cry for the pain it took to get me here, and I cry for the pain that is yet to come.

tonight my heart aches, and this time i'll let it. rip my heart out if you must, if it would finally fucking satisfy you.

why do you feel the need to destroy me? bit by bit, limb by limb, I lose a little bit of me every time, and tonight you took my heart.

[that-one-kiddo-in-the-back]

Keep BPD out of your fucking mouth. I know you don't have it, so don't talk about it like you do, even if it's just nothing more than that text.

[cinderpaw11]

Beautiful women named excessive heat warning keep messaging me

[yourlocalbadgerscales]

Jily shippers will claim that Jegulus shippers and Regulus sympathizers are “heartless”, “fascists” and “murderer lovers” etc. Let me tell you this. I’ve never murdered in my life and I’m not planning on doing it. What I want the most in life is a world with no hate, just love. I have a heart too big for my body. Don’t you DARE come at me and tell me I’m heartless, all whilst sending me death threats. Out of the two of us, you’re the more heartless one here.

Isn’t that odd?

You come at me and tell me to go die for loving and finding comfort in a character and his ship.

I answer you with love, patience and respect, and tell you to be well and be safe.

We are not the same.