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one of the reasons it's really hard for a lot of intersex people when intersex topics are on the news cycle is because the public's reaction reveals how little anyone knows or cares about intersex people, including people who call themselves our allies. almost every time intersex topics are trending, the discourse surrounding them is filled with misinformation. people who only learned today what the word intersex means jump into conversations and act like an authority. endosex/dyadic/perisex people get tripped up over things that are basically intersex 101, with tons of endosex people incorrectly arguing about the definition of intersex, who "counts," DSD terminology, and so much more. i've seen multiple endosex people say today that they've been "warning intersex people" and that we should have known that transphobia would catch up with us eventually, which is an absolutely absurd thing to say given the fact that consistently over the past ten years, it has often been intersex people sounding the alarm on sex-testing policies and also the fact that many, many intersex people are also trans, and already are facing the impacts of transphobia. there is an absolute failure from the general public to take intersex identity seriously; people seem not even able to fathom that intersex people have a community, history, and our own political resources. instead, endosex people somehow seem to think they're helping by bringing up half-remembered information from their high school biology class which usually isn't even relevant at all.
and this frustrates me so fucking much. not because i want to deny the impacts of transphobic oppression--i'm a trans intersex person, trust me when i say i am intimately aware of transphobia. this frustrates me because there is no way we can achieve collective liberation if our "allies" fail to even engage with basic intersex topics and are seemingly unaware of the many forms of intersex oppression that we are already facing every fucking day. if you are not aware of compulsory dyadism, if you are not aware of interphobia, if you are not aware of the many different ways that intersex people are directly and often violently targeted--how the fuck do you think we're going to dismantle all of these systems of oppression?
if you were truly an intersex ally, you would already KNOW that this is not new, and would not be surprised--interphobia in sports has been going on for decades. you would know that we do have a community, an identity, a history--you would have already read/listened/watched to intersex resources that give you the background information you need for allyship. you would know that although there is a really distinct lack of resources and political education, that intersex people ARE developing a political understanding of ourselves and our oppression--Cripping Intersex by Celeste Orr and their framework of compulsory dyadism is one example of how we're theorizing our oppression. It's absolutely fucking wild to me how few people I've seen actually use words like "interphobia" "intersexism" "compulsory dyadism" or "intersex oppression"--endosex people are seemingly incapable of recognizing that there is already an entrenched system of oppression towards intersex people that violently reshapes our bodies, restricts our autonomy, and attempts to eradicate intersex through a variety of medical and legal means.
you cannot treat intersex people like an afterthought. not just because we're meaningful parts of your community and deserving of solidarity, but also because intersex oppression impacts everyone!!! especially trans community--trans people will not be free until intersex people are free, so much of transphobia is shaped by compulsory dyadism, the mythical sex binary, all these ideas of enforced "biological sex" that are just as fake as the gender binary.
it makes me absolutely fucking livid every time this shit happens because it becomes so abundantly clear to me how little the average endosex person knows about intersex issues and also how little the average endosex person cares about changing that. i don't know what to say to get you to care, to get you to change that, but we fucking need it to happen and i, personally, am tired of constantly being grateful when i meet an endosex person who knows the bare minimum. i think we have a right to expect better and to demand that if you're going to call yourself our ally, you actually fucking listen to us when we tell you what that means.
okay for endosex people to reblog.
#personal#intersex#actually intersex#actuallyintersex#interphobia#intersexism#compulsory dyadism#trans#lgbtqia#transphobia#also to be clear im not necessarily mad about people not knowing or using the term compulsory dyadism. bc that term in particular is newer.#and from a dense academic theory book. so that's something that i understand why ppl might not yet know. i just brought it up as an example#and my main point is less about which specific terms people are using. but more just that endosex people seem incapable of recognizing the#actual material instances of oppression that are already happening. and teh history of that. and the systems#set up to enable it#like idk i don't care if you don't know or use a term if you're otherwise aware and understand how the sex binary is fake and all the#discriminatory ways society then enforces this. and how it fucks intersex people over#you see what i'm saying?
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my absolute favourite genre of transphobic propaganda is when the caption is like “look at this poor, confused little girl who was forced to mutilate herself :(” and the picture is just the hottest man you’ve ever seen in your life with a full beard and a body that would make thor weak at the knees
#ramble#also like. everything else aside calling any ADULT a ‘poor young girl’ is yucky af#we’re not delicate little flowers who don’t know how to think. i’m an adult with medical autonomy and a working brain#calm down you’re deranged#i won’t get on my soapbox today but it’s just funny how they think they’re the grounded sane ones#also the double standard drives me insane#with trans men it’s ‘delicate abused woman’ and with trans women it’s ‘creepy predatory man’#it’s almost like transphobia is just rebranded misogyny and they don’t actually care about equal rights#who would’ve thought
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I’m begging people at this point to realize that hate towards intersex people isn’t just. Fucking misdirected transphobia. Please for fucks sake learn that intersexism is a thing and that while transphobia and intersexism often go hand in hand and are used to reenforce the other, intersexism is not collateral damage from transphobia. They don’t just hate us because of a perceived proximity to transness, they hate us because we’re intersex. And will go about acting on this hate as such
#my post about Kansas’s anti trans and intersex bill is getting more notes again#and so many people just seem like this is just a byproduct of transphobia#so many people just. Dont seem to understand that we’re explicitly being targeted too#I shouldn’t have to spell out to people#That actually they want us to not exist too#intersex#intersexism
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I think it's like. pretty important discursively to realize that "transandrophobia truther" does not describe any coherent sociopolitical framework and you can't write off anyone and everyone as "just radfems, not MRAs" OR "just MRAs, not radfems" because depending on the guy you'll really see examples of both. "I am ontologically incapable of harm due to being a female socialized female afab + trans men will never be seen as men ever by anyone so if you think about it I'm actually the real transmisogyny-affected" is obviously Terf Shit, as scholars say, but you really can't apply that to "everyone hates me for being on T and passing way better than you fags because the woke left hates masculinity too much." It depends the most on whether the guy in question is trying to suck up more to cis women ("butches and transmascs are sisters <3" type shit) or cis men (this like, "dudes rock stop being so mean to our boys let men be masculine I'm just a dude that heckin loves duderinos" type shit). While both types of people will unite under the increasingly vague terminology of "transandrophobia," you really can't conflate the beliefs of "guy who believes in 'sex-based oppression' and is constantly one bad day away from calling trans women Male Predators Who Wield The Oppressive Penis" and "guy who actually just believes misandry is real and that it affects cis men too like Actually."
#like as a guy who's BEEN in these trenches who's had these people on my ass for like. christ like years now?#i really don't think 'none of them are mras actually' fits bc jesus god believe me some of them Really Are#open mick night#lgbt#gender#transphobia cw#transmisogyny cw
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i like how these days a red url on shinigami eyes can either be a viciously hateful transphobe who wants all trans people forcibly detransitioned, dead, or both; orrr just a trans guy who thinks trans men face transphobia. very helpful! not at all frustrating!
#text#it USED TO be such a helpful tool. these days its like 50-50 on whether it's actually gonna show me a transphobe or not#crazy shit.#like it's helpful in the 50% of cases where its actually showing me a transphobe#but ive also seen like. rape/pregnancy threats towards trans men from green urls these days.#like what the fuck is going on#shinigami eyes#transphobia tw#transandrophobia
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Got invited to play at this ODR. It was cold asf like -12°c but it was fun. I had a great time until they posted pics in there group chat and some baby dick insecure asshole had to call me slurs. I guess dude is trash and hasn’t played in like 10 years. But needless to say I’m going to make it a point to show up to their next game. I promise you he’ll be picking up his teeth off the ice. I bet he’ll never call another trans person a slur. I’m going to make this bigot afraid again that’s for sure.
#hockey is for everyone#no room for bigotry in hockey#fuck bigots#fuck transphobes#transphobia#ice hockey#hockey#hockey girl#trans hockey player#trans#transgender#trans pride#transisbeautiful#mtf#transgirl#girlslikeus#mtf hrt#maletofemale#transformation#trans women#trans woman#trans women are beautiful#trans women are women#transexual#actually trans#this is what trans looks like#trans community#mtf trans#trans experience#trans is beautiful
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it is 2024 can we PLEASE stop w these kind of videos now. thanks
#tw homophobia#tw ableism#obviously this is an exaggeration but like. is it?#these videos attract the WEIRDEST combination of like actual right wing “i hate everyone who isn't 'normal' by my definition” ppl#and like. queer and nd people who crave validation from conservatives and want to prove “we're not like THOSE freaks”#the right hates everyone. it doesn't matter if your name is thomas and ur fully transitioned or ur name is ✨️arson✨️ ze/it/pup#if u dont fit their narrow idea of “normal” anything u say is immediately invalid#mental illness#nd#neurodivergent#cringe culture is dead#cringe culture#cringe#tiktok#ableism#queer#queer discourse#transgender#transphobia#anti exclusionist#leftist
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trump might actually ban being trans in public and all transition care, period. but please tell me how you’re just “concerned about fairness in women’s sports” or whatever
#us politics#politics#trans rights#transphobia#social issues#trans issues#lgbtq#it’s actually worse than the headline sounds because he also says he’s going to ‘investigate big pharma’#which 100% just sounds like a pretext to immediately conclude they’re Brainwashing You for Profit (tm) and ban all hormones
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terfs: How dare you use those extremely-rare barely even existent pathetic little disordered freaks as a cudgel for your idealogy!!!
tme/tma binarists: How dare you use those extremely-rare barely even existent intersex people as a cudgel for you ideology!!! (see, I'm not interphobic, i didn't call them disordered!!)
Me (an intersex person): So, hi, I don't actually view myself as cudge-
Both: SHUT UP AND STOP SELF-TOKENISING YOURSELF. I BET YOU'RE NOT EVEN INTERSEX!
Me: ...
#intersex#actually intersex#transandrophobia#transphobia#tme/tma#we can speak for ourselves thanks#we're NOT wholly invisible#yes#some people DO tokenise us.#but its usually kind of suspicious#when perisex people#accuse people advocating for us#as 'using us as a cudgel'#its almost like...#you don't really care about us#you just want to ignore our existence#guilt free#and make the people calling you out for that#the bad guys.
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god i need to write more fics that at least tangentially get into gender. because i know that timkon are t4t in every fic i write but it doesnt always come up. and god knows its just me peddling my little rowboat alone in the t4t timkon waters. 😭 i gotta... i gotta keep kontributing... the trans tim and nonbinary kon tags, they need me...
#rimi talks#deeply unfortunate that the trans tim tag is full of bat/cest ships and also transphobia.#what about people (me) who want tim to simply be a trans guy who's simply a freak and it's not bc he's trans it's just his nature#and then theres the nb kon tag. which like all kon tags is populated by people who havent actually read konmics. sad#at least it's better in there than the trans tim tag but still. low bar#BUT HES LITERALLY KONBINARY.#theres a whole saga in my mind about kon's gender journey inspiring tim to actually stop holding onto --#-- the kinda rigid boxes of gender labels and ideas about presentation that he holds himself to bc of his dad's influence#like tim at age 30 is much more comfortable being gnc than tim at age 16#tim at age 16 would see tim at age 30 lounging around in a skirt and legwarmers and feel so betrayed#tim at age 30 is just like im a dude no matter what i wear and im comfy and i stole my husbands skirt. cope#its about the growth they go through together. and making each other better. and also about transgenderisms. and#(and then i peek outside my bubble and remember that jesus god the trans tim tag is a nightmare!!!! AUGH!!!)#i gotta write more t4t timkon. its just me and my little rowboat against the world
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The "shut up and listen to transwomen" crowd when a transwoman has a take that doesn't reinforce and validate their own unexamined bigotry:
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#hmmm#seems like#transmisogny#to me#punkitt#transandrophobia#queer discourse#crazy that yall would rather tell a transwoman to kill herself#than sit for one single second with the uncomfortable feeling of realizing your own bigotry#transmisandry#transphobia#misogny#trans#transfem#transmasc#transmen#transwomen#y'all are fucking abusing this transwoman in the name of being against transmisogny#having a real#the call is coming from inside the house#moment#piss on the poor website#leave her the fuck alone#this is also not hyperbole at all#they're actually suicide baiting her#anti transmasculinity#queer masculinity#masculinity#misandry#transgender
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WARNING OP LOVES COCK THIS POST IS ABOUT COCK. ITS SO GOOD AND BEAUTIFUL ❤️ GOOD MORNING TO PENISES EVERYWHERE
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I spun more of what's on the distaff--im starting to get a feel for how to draft from this. Decided to pull of a sample to see how it turned out--its quite worsted ! I dunno why but I was completely expecting a woolen yarn from this. Makes sense though, the fibers are pretty aligned the whole time.
Still a problem with tons of lumps and bumps though. The prep is the issue--I willowed it first and it wouldn't draft for shit, so I layered it onto a blending board after that and now it's much better, but still very inconsistent. Next I'll try processing on hand cards first. I wonder how wool is supposed to be processed for a distaff--surely not how I'm doing it ?
#considering prefacing my posts this way now what do you guys think#might need some adjustment#i prefer avoiding the. oh ill just click on this complimentary tag on my post to see more fiber posts theyve reblogged :) and then its just#transphobia.#right so i like to avoid that as much as possible. already happens more than enough. will they stop maybe if i do this ?#this blog is for me more than anyone else so if it comes to actual dick pics at the top im fine with that#distaff#spinning#handspun yarn#supported spindle
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there is a kind of psychological mindfuck about being like fully 'passing' as a cis man in public essentially while being on your period and having bloating and cramps and not being able to tell anyone that's why you're like in pain and tired so you have to come up with other nonsense and hide any and all evidence from most people. like it's dysphoria for sure but its like not even that i feel physically 'wrong' having a period it's the social mindfuck of the whole thing + the alienation of it like feeling like i'm walking around with a gun in my pocket that no one can find out about but i can't leave it at home either and have to carry it everywhere and it's just like background static at this point
#i dont actually feel like physically dysphoric about menstruating i actually have panic attacks abt the thought of being sterilized lol#so if anything getting my period assuages that fear#but socially it is such an isolating 'secret'#and the culture is only getting worse with transphobia so i know its not going away anytime soon
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Can you talk about trans!Curly a little bit more? I'm curios if you have any headcanons and the like
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It's just such a thing in my mind because it adds a truthful sadness and differing aspect to mouthwashing.
If Curly was trans it adds the horror of the horribly selfish thought he could have easily been in Anya's situation. It could've been him but it wasn't and he so conflicted on the pit it put in his stomach that brings and the shameful relief it wasn't. In this scenario he is friends with Jimmy for a long time still. Jimmy likely knew him pretransition. Maybe he gave Curly weird looks then, maybe they never stopped after, maybe they seemed meaner. They are guys now, bros, both of them are. He doesn't really have to worry what those looks mean anymore, Jimmy just has that face with him sometimes. It's recontextualizing a lot of things for him that he was in denial about or too ashamed to admit. How naive he was being and how he let that get another person hurt.
Specifically with Anya, it's he knows the dread and fear she's feeling. He can understand it because he had to live with it for a good portion of his life, he knows it cause he still does, just in a slightly different way. It makes him think of all the times he's been alone with Jimmy, all the times he's been way more drunk off his ass and not remember the night, Jimmy was always with him the next day. Makes him think of the comments he would laugh off both because that's what guys do but because that part of being a girl says to laugh so Jimmy doesn't do something. It's the selfish realization that he was never safe and he's uncertain now too. Mad at himself for forgeting that feeling, espcially since for a long time he would've been considered the only woman on a crew (with all that implies) for a long time.
He should've taken those blinders off, step back into that position for just a moment and it's so much more painful that Anya likely came to him because he should've gotten it. Those thoughts don't leave his mind after the crash when he's in an even more vulnerable position than she was...
#this is less headcanons and more my thoughts of the intersectional horror this brings to mouthwashing which is also a thing it#already has but more directly in the mix vs just the class gender and positional struggle. like the idea he waited to confront Jimmy becaus#he could conceptualize the crime better because of experience with womanhood and also how it would've destroyed him in terms of being trans#like its weird to word as a comparison but thats kinda how empathy works as in an understanding and ability to project through aspects#like you found out your friend who has always had weird feelings about and relating to you is a rapist and got one of your other friend#pregnant and is now being openly hostile and aggressive towards you. You have only a few days to really think on all of this all the years#with him and how many oppurtunites he had that you blame yourself for giving him both in life and to do to you. You are starting to#realize that he may have done what he did to Anya because it was no longer viable with him or because of weird transphobia/homophobia#from Jimmy and god its so much and he should've know better and what did Jimmy do then - c r a s h#he is at such a small amount of mercy to Jimmy now and he can't protect Anya and it's terrifying because i know and you know that Jimmy is#giving him those weird looks again...#like it adds another layer of horror to things and while I don't think Jimmy would do anything to Curly it's heavily implied he targeted he#because of relatively more important position and getting Curly to have doubts about him as a power play and Curly knows Jimmy well enough#that him immediately exerting his authority and power would set him off after already having been mad about it and even when doing#damage control it still set him off. like its the horror of accidenlty siding with your oppresser and hurting other like you only to then b#stabbed in the back again by the person who took advantage of your nature like its so complext but my actual trans curly headcanons#are just a little bit happier like i imagine he was the first on the boys soccer team and a star player. maybe he and jimmy even picked ou#his first offical “boy” clothes and Jimmy picked most so he looked like the grungiest white boy but she was a boy so it didn't matter cause#it was with his friend who accepted him and I bet on the bed he looks back at all those moments and notices the little details that his#friend wasnt actually so happy but he can't be certain when he started looking so bitter or hes just imagining out of paranoia cause he jus#cant know and even if he could he wouldn't want to ask like god thinking about Anya and probably being a little glad if not heartbroken#that she did get out of it in the end like trans curly and anya destroy me even more its so upsetting like he didn't realize how much he go#you girl and waited to act like it was cowardice but then would she not realize what hes realizing? should that be a grace or more of a#condemnation in her mind like what are her thoughts? espically during the scene Jimmy hits Curly like she had to hear and what did she thin#they are tormented in a similar hells with the same demon and its fascinating#mouthwashing#mouthwashing game#anya mouthwashing#curly mouthwashing#jimmy mouthwashing
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jsyk user genderyomi reblogs from ppl identyfing as baeddel/“transman-hater” (w their words). safe to assume she is one.
i do appreciate well meaning calling me out on shit i've reposted and whatnot but that does not to my mind warrant any kind of unfollow/deleting posts what have you
i have been seeing traces of this new wave is 'transmisandry a real thing/is baeddelism real and if it is is it actually a bad thing or kinda based' flooding my dash lately and have very deliberately stayed away from engaging in any of it/weighing up on one side or another.
thankyou for engaging here though in a more polite way!
#my take: i love trans people so so much and if the dolls are pissed off at men maybe they have a right to be#but also yes (many) trans men experience a transphobia that takes a specific shape in how it targets trans men#but referring to that as transmisandry is at best misleading misnomer#because it might implies misandry is a thing or that the transphobia men face is proportional and equalivalent to transmisogyny#buuuut also i am not such a fan of arguing tight semantics like that in intracommunity stuff#partly cos how it kinda tries to assume everyone is highly literate in english?#but also i do not have the capacity to look up what baedellism actually argues rn#also hot take if someone's blog says shit like 'man-hater' it's gonna be like hyperbole or glib 60% of the time#and a fair reaction to their own experiences 39%
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you did go into cahoots with people who are trying to destroy the illegal business he is responsible for, babygirl
#*note i'm a dumbass he was talking about phi tyme not actual brother korn#4 minutes#4 minutes the series#mine#tbh personally i wouldn't block my siblings for something like that#i'd block maybe for transphobia or if they became swifties#not for not supporting my responsibility of holding a crime empire afloat
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