#like online irl whatever

[gregmarriage]

i always talk about being needy and touch starved and really wanting affection, when i’m on my period, when i’m literally just like that™️ all the time

they were talking about me

[potato-lord-but-not]

Hi! I know your bio says any pronouns, but are there any you like more than others?

Just wondering because I referred to you as 'he' while talking to my sister, and she said that it felt wrong for some reason. Not that she knew your pronouns either, we were just wondering.

he and they are equally good! and she is acceptable but yk there’s o t h e r options. And I guess if you want to use other neopronouns thats cool?? except maybe ‘it’ but other than that I’m chill.

Also idk why I find you and your sister debating about which pronouns to use for me SO funny 💀💀

[freakinator]

hm. my phrasing wasnt the best in answering this ngl but i hope yall get what i mean, i'll try to clarify regardless tho

regardless of if he's actually straight or not, its. very odd to me that red repeatedly... well for a lack of better term Queerbaits his audience (aka his "btw im bi... well half of it anyway... the straight half that is" schtick)

if he does have internalized homophobia then that sucks. if hes just a straight man that really really doesnt wanna be seen as gay but still keeps saying hes bi for some reason before deconfirming it then it sucks for a different reason

and the thing that really gets me is that most of the time whenever he pulls this kinda thing is its entirely unprompted, he just brings it up all on his own

and the thing is i think its okay to be uncomfortable with being shipped esp since swagdoons is almost unavoidable on lstwt but the way he goes about it expressing that sentiment is very strange to me like. idk what his sexuality is (and tbh i dont care to know, we're not friends and i dont need his personal info) but regardless i think whatever is going on here is something that he needs to work on on his own

[kokoasci]

every time i post i am reminded that some of my irls follow me on twt/instagram (not here afaik. thank goodness) sorry guys for being way too invested in a manga based on dead authors. i may be cringe but i am free

[wormchaser]

you are complaining about complaining too much while complaining about the fact that maybe people dont like you because you complain too much while complaining about being alone. just stop complaining and do something about it. talk to people. reach out. dont just wait for someone to come to you first.

i have tried reaching out to different people in the past year or so but it never works. i understand its my own fault for letting relationships decay because of my own insecurities and issues but that doesn't mean i can just will myself to think or believe different things about myself. it's a self fulfilling prophecy ; i think people don't like me so i don't reach out so people don't like me etc . i am sure you do not want to hear me list all the things i want to say in response so i will put them in the tags.

[loveguts]

i’m not a transandrophobia truther in the slightest don’t get me wrong, but i think some people on here really need to realize and comprehend the fact that cis women, way WAY more often than not, hold extremely significant social and political power over trans men the vast majority of the time in our day to day lives

[storiesoflilies]

it’s so much easier said than done to not let sly/passive aggressive comments get to you honestly.

like, please people like this are so beyond fucking aggravating. like what do you get out of this???

[bmpmp3]

i do wish i was better at communicating with people online and through technology. i wander into conversations and make new ones all the time irl with random people and its fun but im like hyping myself to type out a single response to a Post. and to say nothing of how difficult it is to get me to say something in a discord server

[foreverxdaydreaming]

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[mwagneto]

sorry i can't hang out rn the two men from that 4 year old show kissed and i literally cannot think about anything else. yeah gonna be all month

[seventh-district]

again and again i find myself lamenting that audio roleplay isn't taken more seriously by some people. like yeah, they often have a romantic element, and by nature they usually directly involve/address the listener- and i totally get that those things aren't to everyone's taste. no art or entertainment is universally appealing, and that's okay! but.. it still makes me a lil sad that the "cringe" reputation of asmr/audio rp precedes it. there's a whole lot of talent and creativity being poured into these audios by so many people that i feel goes unrecognized and/or disrespected simply due to the medium that the stories are being told through.

[coop-of-coffee]

[elftwink]

one thing i try to remind myself about this place when im getting annoyed at the dash is that MOST posts that go viral are written for a much smaller audience than they got, and are very often written in anger or upset. frequently i see posts that i think are overly aggressive and confrontational, have no chance of actually changing anyone's mind (and sometimes directly insult the reader by calling them stupid/lazy/immoral), lack contextualizing information, and/or catastrophize about the issue. i get irritated about these because my first thought is "why the fuck would you even post this when all it does is make you look bad and your position look unappealing" but like, most people are not posting in order to debate or justify their position. they're just venting, often assuming the people reading it will agree and validate their anger or upsetness— which is often why these posts get traction in the first place, since they also tend to be about topics you would rightfully get upset about.

relatedly, i (and maybe you too) have a tendency to assume that every post on tumblr that seems like the second half of a debate is a response to a different post on tumblr (the 'who is even saying that' response), but this is kind of unfair to the op since they could be responding to any number of things in their personal or professional lives, and are going to tumblr because it is a place where you can post whatever you think and be mostly assured nobody you know will see it. countless of my own posts are prompted by something irl but look to readers like just another tumblr discourse post. i think it's important that when you think 'who is even saying that' about a post to consider that the answer might be like, "op's shitty coworker" rather than "a large and vocal subsection of tumblr i have never heard of"

[zzoupz]

I saw that thing you reposted on twitter defending people who make sexual content of minor characters, did you not realise that's what it was about or was it on purpose? I don't care much I just personally am not comfortable following people like that and want to curate my online experience

I agree with the line "What people like in fiction does not reflect their morals" specifically. I'm also uncomfortable with that kind of stuff but I also don't think we should equate their morals or god forbid criminal record from just what they like in fiction and focus on. yknow. things people actually do in real life instead

[selfindulgentfandomstuff]

Also on a tangentially related note, regarding my last post. I need to have that gangly teenage boy build like my cis brothers. People only ever seem to take androgyny and gender nonconformity seriously when the person in question is skinny and already conventionally attractive to some degree. I am much better about accepting my body as it is than I used to be, truly, big progress has been made- but I can’t help but feel, sometimes, like I have to be smaller to start dressing ‘weird/cool’. Does this make any sense? Can anyone hear me??

[puphoods]

klike being a not very charismatic person + also being like neurotically unable to approach people just means i dont make friends unless other people like me enough but also that doesnt really happen. it sucks that i have like basically noone in my life and the people i DO have im just shit scared of losing Because i dont have anyone else which isnt fair. why do i have to be a loserrrrrr