#like i was just looking at the radfem tag just to see what was there

[skys-archive]

Actually insane how many transphobic people are on the trans website

[uter-us]

radfem question!!

i'm having a conversation with someone about female only spaces (this specifically pertains to bathrooms) and they said that the rule of having female-only bathrooms would "act more like an enforcement of femininity more than anything else."

I think their point is about butch lesbians and/or women who present "masculinely," and so because there is ofc no female identification at the door, and policy would likely just make it more acceptable for women and girls to report if there was a male in the bathroom (without having to determine if the male identifies as a woman), this could end up hurting "masculine"-presenting women (implying that they could be mistaken as male), and in turn just reinforce femininity. Thoughts? (mine are in tags)

[gizdathemxel]

i think the thing that bothers me most concerning radfem/terf thought is this weird bioessentialism that hangs around it — the idea that man/masculinity = always bad and women/femininity = always good, which is just so icky ??? like it’s a dehumanization of everyone regardless of where they fall on the gender spectrum, it kinda assumes that there is just one kind of man/masc or woman/fem (which under european standards, is NOT a very good thing), and also completely ignores how intersectional feminism and gender is.

like unfortunately some of the biggest misogynists are women. like let’s not forget that there are plenty of women who are willing to throw other women under the bus for male validation (think nlogs, and pick mes) or literally just bc they do not fw other women. let’s not forget that women in positions of power over other women (and even men!) can and will use that power (white feminists pushing aside feminists of color, the white tears phenomenon/violent rapist movie stereotypes/abled bodied women participating in eugenics against disabled women and men)

though not as much as I’ve seen men be complete creeps and weirdos, i have also seen a lot of dudes engage in feminist thought and try to challenge the patriarchy in their own lives.

I’ll be 100% clear and say that yes men are much more likely to commit acts of violence against women (or anyone perceived as such), but falling into that bioessentialist thought is literally so unhelpful. besides everything I’ve alr stated, it also just re-affirms the “validity” of patriarchy by dehumanizing everyone. like “ofc men are misogynistic evil sexist pigs bc they’re men; biologically they’re just like that” and “ofc women are perpetual perfect victims; they’re women, they can’t do or be anything else”. you see what I’m saying

like it is cathartic to be like i hate men or i wish the world was just full of women and stuff but its honestly kinda scary to that kind of thought be taken seriously in feminist spaces

tldr: bioessentialist (man naturally have these traits and women naturally have those traits) is bad; it completely ignores the other nuances alongside gender (race, class, ability) ,dehumanizes people to things they can’t control, and ignores serious issues committed by either gender (also ignores how transppl fit into that) and that’s the issue i have with terf/radfem thinking okay byeee

[11bountyhunters]

There's a difference between "all men are trash" and "all men are trash"

it's subtle but it's there.

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

Every so often I look up the radfem tag out of morbid curiosity and man. I know what to expect but every time I’m just in awe at the vitriolic stupidity I see.

Like I saw some post about someone refusing to go to weddings and congratulate ppl on pregnancies cuz of “it’s rooted in women’s oppression and patriarchy”

Like I had to just sit down for a minute to comprehend that single post

it's difficult to overstate how proudly miserable most of them seem to be

like there's a reason people joke about how every terf blog is just fifteen posts of virulent transphobia followed by "I wish I had friends why does no one like me 😢"

[humunanunga]

Plurality, endogenesis and sysmedicalism.

Yeah no, I'm not done yet. Please bear with me for a word of caution.

So before making this post in reaction to seeing tulpa "systems" DNI, endo/endo-supporters DNI and non-traumagenic systems/supporters DNI across three fandom tags so far, I asked the systems I know if this was as Transmed But For Systems as it looked to an outsider. That was when I learned endo-exclusionists are called sysmeds.

Now, if you've been on Tumblr in the 2020s, you likely already know what plurality is. If you don't, it refers to an internal experience of living as multiple people who may take turns fronting– and together with whomever would be designated the "host," they are called a system. It used to be widely called split personality or multiple personality disorder, but as it stands currently, I don't think psychiatry yet recognizes a distinction between headmates, such as in plurality, and alters, such as in dissociative identity disorder (DID). The two can coexist, but not everyone with DID is plural, and not every plural has DID.

Which brings us to traumagenesis and endogenesis. Traumagenic systems or headmates, as the term suggests, have been caused by traumatic events, either acute or chronic, as is commonly the case with DID. Endogenesis, on the other hand, is a broad term for other causes. Tulpamancy, the deliberate formation of a headmate, is one example, but traumagenic systems can include endogenic headmates and vice-versa, and endogenic systems or headmates may also be caused by, for just one example, the same neurological processes that cause delusions or hallucinations. Which is to say, they're not making it up or following a trend, but the causes for endogenic plurality are more varied, and thus may simply not yet be as well-researched or as widely understood as another common cause.

So, how do you know whether someone's system is endogenic or traumagenic? Well, what if the systems themselves don't know if they're endo? What if a system who identifies as endo doesn't know they're traumagenic? How far would you be willing to invade someone's privacy to try to tell apart an endogenic system from a traumagenic system?

Before I continue, I myself am not plural, not to my knowledge. What I am is close to multiple plurals, both locally and across group chats. So I consulted them for this post:

And now that we've hopefully cleared up some misconceptions, some presumptions maybe, I'll get to the point.

I have been on Tumblr since early 2012, late 2011. Years before I knew I was trans, I was here through the prevalence of transmedicalism, and the damage exclusionism did, keeping far more trans people in the closet than were protected from radfems, by repeating the same excuses transphobic doctors give to deny resources.

Bigots don't mistreat plurals for why you're plural, they mistreat you for being plural. Whether you've been mistreated for your plurality is not the fault of other plurals.

People of Tumblr, do not do that shit again with sysmedicalism. Do not reenact 2010s Tumblr. You would not be protecting anyone if you did this, you would be acting as someone else other plurals need protection from.

[apollosimps]

Hi, you. Do you ever find yourself doomscrolling through radfem tags? Do you scroll through Tiktok/IG Reels/YT shorts looking for bigoted comments? Do you ever open twitter.com…ever?

Hey. This isn’t good for you. Hell, my therapist even referred to it as a form of self harm.

You, an everyday queer person, are not going to find much anything you haven’t seen before. It’s gonna be the same idiots using the same long-debunked talking points they always have in order to discredit your lived experience and tell you that you’re delusional and degenerate. They want to dehumanize you and degrade you.

You aren’t going to convince people online, you, the everyday queer person. You may even know that yourself; but it’s addicting, isn’t it? The sense that you have control of the misinformation? This takedown’s gonna show everyone, they’ll finally see. If I tell this terf to fuck off, it’ll make me feel better…

Really, they won’t. More likely than not, internet users don’t listen to a faceless username. Deradicalization is powerful, but that best happens when it someone you know and not some random guy’s well-thought out rebuttal.

Hey. You—everyday queer person. Go take a rest. Put your phone down, just for five minutes. Take a walk if the weather’s nice; write a fic; draw your blorbos; eat a meal; text a supportive friend.

There’s people out here that are going to support you no matter what. TERF tumblr isn’t as big as you think it is and it’s going to get smaller. Bigotry will become far less socially acceptable. It’s going to be ok.

A better future isn’t inevitable, but when you take time to give your mind a rest, you’ll be here for it if we make it happen.

[xmimikyuusx]

Breaking my oath to not post myself, because I'm really feeling it lately. But it's frustrating how much of the anti-transmasculinity and anti-transandrophobia arguments hinge on this weird world of exclusivity.

I've been admiring lately how on the positive side of things, the transandrophobia discussion also brings to the table the discussion of other marginalized groups who are often dismissed or actively pushed out of the conversation because it doesn't fit the white cis feminism that people have been clinging to (and reinventing to include Trans women in the most surface level way). Bringing up the issues that cis MOC face, or disabled or intersex men and many others, we are not the pioneers of these conversations whatsoever but the discussion of the marginalization Trans men and mascs face is an open door to these other conversations. (I.e relating across identity lines, seeing other groups and acknowledging their suffering and looking for solidarity)

On the other side of this, denying transndrophobia or even the idea that a Trans man/masc can face marginalization, whether be it even from his masculinity or his transness, is a closed door. No one's suffering matters except their in group. If you're not a woman or woman aligned in some way, you simply cannot be important to the conversation, because you're the bad guy. You're the oppressor. You're too uninformed and stupid to understand what oppression REALLY looks like. You need to shut up, even if it's on your own post, your own blog, words out of your own mouth, because speaking about your experiences, when those experiences don't line up with women being the victim and men being the perpetrators, is just another sign of how evil you are.

Or iterations of this. It hurts me even worse when it comes from another Trans man /masc. I remember a post a while ago in the tag, from a Trans man retelling a story about how a Trans man in his community was brutally murdered, dismembered, and he attended his funeral. And in the same breath, he was telling us how even when this attrocity has happened, we just do not have it as bad as a woman would. We just would not understand.

It boggles my mind. How much worse does it have to be? What does worse look like after sky high rates of murder, sexual assault, abuse, and suicide? And why does it have to be this bad before it's recognized that there's a problem?

Community doesn't come from exclusions. It doesn't put Trans women's oppression in jeopardy if a Trans man is also struggling just as much. Comparing how much one group is struggling, in these abstract ways, to try and prove a point, to try and drive a stake between genders like it'll somehow matter in the end, is pathetic. It's not helpful. Unfortunately, it's some people's outdated, vitriolic version of feminism that is very difficult to distinguish from a terf or a radfem. This unhinged reactionary jump we get from any corner of the community to protect their status as the victim, that someone else's suffering somehow diminishes their own, it's disgusting.

I don't want to rant anymore, but I know the day when we move past this will be amazing. We deserve better than trying to destroy our own community from the inside out.

[trans-androgyne]

ty so so much for speaking about transandrophobia as much as you do. i never thought it was this bad. i just saw the poll asking whether it existed or not and other disgusting garbage. spent the day rummaging in the tag to learn and do research. (istg if i see the words "transandrophobia truther" one more time.).

i genuinely do not know how it came to be this bad nor will i never understand fellow trans people, in this case some (please note SOME. not all. i shouldn't have to say this but ik someones going to interpret this as me hating transfems when i do not. nor do i want to paint them in a bad light. all i am is deeply disappointed.) trans fems shitting on their siblings and brothers. hell, even me noticing that i have seen a lot of trans fems taking a part in this makes me feel like i'm transmysoginistic or trying to "divide" the community. so idk anymore.

i just personally think terfs have genuinely poisoned this community and people have been gobbling it up without issue and continue to do so. its sad.

we should be fighting for each other, not against. we shouldn't be divided by braindead terf ideology and values. please? i do not understand this hatred. at all. do you maybe have any idea how this all started or what caused it? because i literally cannot wrap my head around all this. and sorry for the rant.

I’ve been trying to find a tidy way to answer this and there just isn’t one. There are so many factors feeding into it. An extremely big one is the queer community’s fear and suspicion and disgust towards masculinity. Transmasculinity is no exception. Transmascs have always been treated poorly in different ways, but we were quiet about it. We were told we aren’t as oppressed as trans women and we just experience normal plain transphobia, so we shouldn’t feel like an authority on trans experiences. Even our own.

Transmascs have historically felt isolated from one another and the community. Now people have found community amongst themselves, talking about their issues, and finally speaking up. And it’s a threat to the status quo. It challenges deeply held beliefs about gendered oppression and makes feminism more complicated. And honestly, transandrophobic, bigoted people have a very strong motive to not acknowledge bigotry, it would cause great cognitive dissonance.

You’re right that the community and honestly popular feminism as a whole has been tainted by radfem ideas. I remember when I was younger, feminism was for everyone. Men were encouraged to get involved. Now people don’t even recognize that sexism negatively affects men or understand that gender isn’t only an intersection for everyone but men, even trans men. So many people don’t even know how to recognize TERF rhetoric so long as they don’t say they hate trans women. It makes it really difficult to have conversations about the patriarchy, and transmasculine people are suffering from it.

I encourage you to look into the concept of “power-jacketing” to understand how this hatred is maintained and functions. Sorry this got too long, I hope it was able to be helpful.

[max--phillips]

Hey, @staff @support @wip @engineering @changes @humans it’s me again. Do you have a second? I would like to draw your attention to something.

So, you know how when you start typing in a tag, it’ll list tags to choose from based on what you’re typing in? Y’know, you start typing “star” and the list will populate “Star Wars” and “Lego Star Wars” among a few other tags you can tap on to auto-complete what you’re typing if you want? Yeah, it’s about that function.

I assumed that these tags populated based on popularity or number of uses. But when I saw some weird shit populate that read more like a clickbait article headline than a tag an actual human being had used at some point, I did some experimenting.

To preface, the tags that I'm about to list here have never once been used on my blog, and are not suggestions from my history. They are purely on tumblr's side.

Did you know that if you type in simply “I need,” the following tags auto-populate?

“I need to lose so much weight,” “I need to lose this weight,” and “I need to ⭐️ve.” Yikes. Knowing this, out of curiosity, I typed in "I want" next. Guess what I found?

"I want to ⭐️ve," "i want to cvt," and "i want to be skinnier." Again, yikes.

But perhaps this is a bit too leading. What if I just type in "I w" instead?

It auto-populates with some repeats, PLUS some more concerning shit. we got "i want to ⭐️ve," "i wanna lose weight," "i will reach my ugw," "i wanna be skinnier," "i wanna be tiny," "i want to cvt," "i want to be skinnier," "i wanna be perfect," "i will lose weight," and "i wish i was weightless."

Let's try just "i n" too, for fun.

We get "i need to lose so much weight," "i need to lose this weight," "i need to ⭐️ve," and "i need to be weightless."

With this in mind, I typed in "ana" because I recognize all of this as stuff people struggling with anorexia have historically said on this platform. Once again, we have some concerning things auto-populate:

"ana meal," "ana bllog," "ana tricks," "tw ana diary," "ana trigger," and "ana rant."

Here's my question: how and why are these auto-populating? This kind of thing literally goes against your own community guidelines. Here's a screenshot from those community guidelines:

I highlighted the text that reads "Don't post content that actively promotes or glorifies self-harm. This includes content that urges or encourages others to: cut or injure themselves; embrace anorexia, bulimia, or other eating disorders;"

I realize that monitoring tags like this isn't going to be perfect, some things inevitably slip through the cracks. But this many tags? Someone somewhere is dropping the ball.

That also leads me to another point.

I, as with many other people on this website, the self-proclaimed "queerest place on the internet," occasionally tag posts with something to the tune of "terfs do not interact" because... well, being a terf is to be inherently transphobic and anti-queer. I noticed something peculiar recently while tagging a post as such.

I'm willing to bet real actual money that the tag "terfs dni" gets used significantly more than the tag "terfsafe," so... why does the auto-populated tag list look like this when you type in "terf?"

We get the auto-populated tags "terfblr," "terfsafe," and "terfism." But not a sign of "terfs dni" or "terfs don't touch." Why is that?

So, again out of pure curiosity, I typed in "rad."

"radblr," "radical feminists do interact," "radical feminist safe," "radqueer" (which isn't radfem related but also shouldn't be on that list), "radical feminism," and "radical feminist community" auto-populate. Considering radical feminism and being a terf are literally the same thing, this is further concerning.

For shits and giggles, I typed in "lgb" to see what I'd get.

Why on EARTH is "lgb drop the t" the second auto-populated tag?

Let's try just the word "gender."

"gender critical" is the second auto-populated tag. Another transphobic term.

I'm sure this has nothing to do with the fact trans women can't post entirely safe for work selfies on this website anymore without their post getting flagged as mature content, or the swath of trans women who have had their blogs entirely terminated for no reason recently.

Also, interestingly enough, in your community guidelines, under the hate speech guideline, you have written "Don't encourage violence or hatred. Don't post content for the purpose of promoting or inciting the hatred of, or dehumanizing, individuals or groups based on race, ethnic or national origin, religion, gender, gender identity, age, veteran status, sexual orientation, disability or disease." You may be interested to know that terfs and other transphobes do, in fact, encourage, promote, and incite hatred of, and dehumanize, individuals or groups based on gender and gender identity.

Perhaps what you have auto-populate for tags should reflect things that are popular and inclusive on this website, not... whatever this is. If this is truly the queerest place on the internet, and you want to continue to cultivate it as such, you should probably at least act like it.

Anyway, it'd be cool of you to address these things. Toodles.

[heterophobicdyke]

I’ve been seeing similar anon ask on this page so I wanted to chime in, but I generally don’t get why some radfem go after people for shaving and wearing make up more than they critic being in a heterosexual relationship.

Like yeah that stuff is pushed by the patriarchy too, but honestly someone who shaves for whatever reason but is celebrate / trying to lead a separatist life, seems like they’re doing a better job than the feminists who critique the beauty industry on their blogs till the cows come home, but still choose to partner with men. I don’t understand how someone can repeat the phrase “ feminism is a liberation movement “ but then turn around and have a husband / boyfriend. How are you “ liberating “ yourself here ? Women on here pass around that one joke line from the SCUM manifesto about men wading through shit if they think they’ll get sex at the end of it ( paraphrasing here I don’t remember the full line) but some how don’t put 2 and 2 together with their male partners and their tolerance of their feminist beliefs? It just seems like a mental block. Like it a justification they tell themselves. How can you make fun of “libfems” talking about the 4bt/6b4t ( is that the correct acronym?) movements and the supporting it when talking about their male partners in the same breath, when these radfems are doing the same thing ?how are you going to have a tag on your blog called “dump him” but not apply those standards to yourself ? Do you not see the irony ? If pick better men is bullshit, then surely you must understand that you are not better than the average woman and her ability to discern because you perceive your standards to be higher. Or does that only apply when conservatives are harassing“ libfems” with the phrase?

Why do you think it’s a running gag in media / even irl sometimes, that your average house wife was a bra burning feminist in the 70s but the dropped it as soon as they married? Hell even Dworking had all that shit going on with her life.It’s weird to me how there’s older women out there who still wear make up, shave etc, but got divorced and choose not to date / marry again and instead focus on their family / friends, who are doing a better job at this so called separatist thing than the self titled radfems here. My occasional shaved leg hair is a betrayal to the movement but your male partner isn’t ? Why is that ? Am I really the brainwashed one here ?

And look, I understand it just such being faced with the idea of living a life and never having a romantic partner, I’m a lesbian I’ve grappled with that since puberty. It’s not easy I won’t lie. And I understand why you’d choose that over the cause. Hell I would too. I think many of us would. I don’t fault anybody, but the point is, lesbian, bisexual, and heterosexual all have different things they’ll need to give up for the movement if they want to see progress. Neither is a better or worse sacrifice. It’s about rising to the needs of the movement, not bending it to fit your definition. And before it gets brought up, no this isn’t some ideological purity thing, see it more as a “ you told me you’re someone who feeds the poor but I don’t see you at any soup kitchens ever” thing. Like if have no problem with most libfems / older women who do this, and it’s because they don’t go around called themselves the better/ strong / more serious feminists,

I just don’t understand why we can’t talk about the elephant in the room. Some of you aren’t radfems and that’s okay. You don’t have to be , just dump the label. I’m not even a radfem either, I just have the common sense and decency to not use labels that don’t apply to me. It’s not bullying to expect you to follow through with the political beliefs of the label you’ve adopted. I’m just confused and fed up with the hypocrisy that plagues this space, and I don’t even go here half the time ! I can’t image what it’s like to just be here constantly... it must suck.

I’m actually hoping this ask gets a bit big, because I do want to hear the other sides . I genuinely am confused on how one could essentially double think themselves on a concept that’s pretty straight forward when it comes to women’s liberation.

But hey maybe that just me being one of those evil exclusionary lesbians I keep hearing so much about.

go off 👑

[velvetvexations]

that user that screenshotted a bunch of posts about transandrophobia just to try and pull a "yeah its cuz of these male socialized people" (ugh) makes me mad as fuck

what made it better was seeing the ops of the screenshotted posts calling them out in the reblogs. i can always appreciate seeing that, like yeah, a lot of this community does not like transmisogyny it makes me regain hp

anyway i hope they realize they were pulling just as much radfem shit as the transfems they were saying all that shit about.

upon further looking. that person who screwnshotted stuff is just a straight up terf/radfem like. jesus christ

Yeah, and it's notable that yall were still just as upset about it under the impression it was an AFAB trans person! Yall are hyper-vigilant about that shit. It's fantastic to see, I just wish it was recognized.

Also, lol:

A little while ago I saw another post by a TERF that tagged the most transandrophobic thing you can possibly imagine like "I've made friends with trans people and it's really opened my eyes to how they're not nearly as bad as I thought", like it was so bad I didn't even want to put it on anyone's dashes even tagged, but the contrast was hilarious in a cosmic sort of way.

[teddykaczynski]

the start of my peaking is really interesting to look back on. one of the first things was an instagram post talking about the nordic model from a radfem account and i shared it to my story cause i was like. damn true. then one of my stupid kinnie mutuals dmed me and was like “hey btw op of this is a terf/swerf” (cant remember which but my reactions the same either way) and i was like who the fuck cares. shes right? ive long had a problem with that because my first year of college i did a project on why porn is bad and one of the anonymous feedbacks i got from a classmate was one of my sources was started by mormons and thus that negates their research. fucking hell. i didnt remove it from my story i just. ignored her.

next time is kind of a haze. i was on radblr tags for like the first time in my life feeling like i was going to be shot at any moment i was so scared i barely remember anything i read except this one woman had the url uteri

for a while pre-peaking i called myself a radfem though i was operating under a very misguided definition of it. i didnt understand the actual definition. but i was watching a video from radical ramblings where she was like im tired of women saying theyre radfems while not being feminists at all like they dont read theory theyre still following patriarchal religions theyre not antinatalist and i realized she was describing me. so i read theory. i read pmpw and it was like. ohhhh my goddd.

next major thing was i was on tumblr and a meaningless text post had blown up and now she was getting “op is a terf”-ed. i went to her blog to see what the deal was and her about said like… im not a radfem im just a lesbian and i fucking hate penis so much i think penis is evil. she was so bold to me with the way she said penis was evil it was genuinely inspiring to me. i was like. well shes right im literally with her. next day i made this blog

i tried to look up uteri once i made my own blog also but i think she deactivated or changed urls or something? anyway i have uteri now. so

[euniexenoblade]

About 'transandrophobia' one of the trans men who is vocal about it, is nothorses who has been found to use source from terf, terf lingo, etc. Nothorses also admits to being a former 'changed' terf, but he still sources from terfs. Let's not forget his frequency at calling trans fems baeddels when they disagree with him, in addition to trans women and other trans people of color (including t mascs of color) radfems and terfs for disagreeing with him. There have been literal terfs in the transandrophobia tag and when you source back to what they are saying, it is always nothorses.

Now, as someone who is an older trans masc, I'm not just pissed at nothorses for the transmisogyny, but he is literally in a way, grooming young trans mascs to fall for a lot of extremely harmful, terfy rhetoric that is going to not just get them hurt but pit them against trans fems and other trans people. There are so many young trans mascs, minors who eat up the gender essentialist bs he says, and reinforce his harmful views on trans fem and literally, trans people who don't agree with him. It's sad, because I know that if i were younger and looking for a community I would've easily been manipulated by that.

The only good thing is that i'm seeing across multiple sites how quickly people just don't take him seriously. In various trans spaces, he is recognized as a terf, because he is. I only hate the hundreds of young trans mascs that are going to have to unlearn the transmisogyny he teaches them as well as unlearn the fear-mongering he and his group are spoonfeeding him about trans women.

I feel so strongly about this and I'm really happy people are talking about this more. He and his group have harassed so many trans people off of this site simply for standing up to them. Especially trans women. And no matter how many flips he does to make himself seem trans-inclusive it's clear he hates trans women and he has yet to unlearn his terf ideology.

Does no one find it strange that he admitted to being a terf, claims he's changed but continues to push anti trans fem ideologies in his group chats and posts?? like --

im just sorta posting this with no comment cuz idk what to say. I'm not really a fan of posting asks that straight up say people's urls, but this guy is an actual terf who preaches terf rhetoric and cites terfs in his writing. So I hope with more upfront discussion about it maybe we can help vulnerable groups get away from him and find an an actual trans community thats intent isnt building bigotry.

[marylily-my-beloved]

Little rant about radfems (I alr posted this but this time I’m posting with the non radfem tags bc I swear that killed me) Hey guys I have a really good question for you yeah? You keep talking about how ‘women shouldn’t fit into the mould society created and shouldn’t endorse wearing makeup and be able to decide not to’ right? So why do you get annoyed if they do? Do you get it. Like you keep talking about how your radical feminism is the best because it protects women from men and supports other women, but it really doesn’t. You’re also trying to put women in boxes and make them fit into your mould, which is so hypocritical. 

You attack women who aren’t white, you attack women who don’t look like ‘stereotypical women’ light and feminine and have no body hair, when in fact you’re saying that women shouldn’t shave or need to be feminine and wearing make up all the time because the patriarchy said they did. But you hate women who don’t. 

You guys are so hypocritical and also try to push stereotypes on women. ‘You can’t put on makeup’ ‘you can’t allow this one specific religion.’ It baffles me how you don’t understand that feminism is not just hating men and religion. I was 10 and understood more than you. 

I am an Arab Muslim girl, what have I done to you? Not me, what about Muslim girls who wear their hijabs, and by the way, in Islam you cannot force someone to wear a hijab. Sure yeah parents and people force people to wear hijabs, but that’s not how it’s supposed to be, I don’t remember the exact verse but I’m sure other people will back me up on this. 

Radical feminism is not a good thing, you’re just attacking other women for their choices just because their choices aren’t yours. Feminism is supposed to be so women can choose. They can choose to be a stay at home mom, they can choose to make their own business, they can choose. Radical feminism doesn’t allow women to make choices. 

So many people are anti-feminism because of you stupid radfems who think the world is all about your own choices. Essentially you are creating a new ‘patriarchy’ where women aren’t allowed to be stay at home moms, cannot pick their own religion, and cannot do what they enjoy. 

You think people who take religion to the extreme speak for everyone, then think that for Christianity, or any other religions. Because the only religion I see you guys attack is Islam. What about nuns who cover their bodies and their heads? What about Orthodox Jews? Exactly. Your problem is Muslims. 

[genderqueerdykes]

The detransition tag is full of radfems/transphobes, naturally, so I just wanted to say I'm so grateful seeing your posts in there. I cried reading them, and I haven't been able to cry so easily in years. I feel seen and accepted and, most importantly, loved and cared for by the community I still want to be a part of. (Still trans, just not feeling the binary)

hey i just wanted to know that you are the exact type of person we write those posts for, so i'm glad to hear that. i know it sucks ass to go into those tags, they're so full of hate, but i still want people to know that it's alright to walk that path. there ain't nothin wrong with it, i'm the same way- I detransitioned from bein a cis passing trans man to being a genderqueer bigender person who can't easily be clocked as one gender or another n i haven't looked back since

you're still trans, so am i, but for many of us the binary just ain't it. it's alright if you figured that out, i had to, too. i was forced into binary trans male transition, but even if you choose to transition a certain way and don't like it, it's your right to decide what to do next. you didn't fail or make a mistake, you just grew as a person n learned somethin about yerself. that's a good thing

take care of yourself out there, good luck in your journey, if ya need anythin else feel free to let us know -M