#like he was telling me about his past gfs just to like be transparent and the way he said something

[oflgtfol]

like i still dont know if i feel anything romantic for him but like i guess at this point it’s not really platonic either since like we’re kissing and holding hands but like. idk. i guess i just dont know what romantic feelings… feel like? in my mind it’s still just hanging out just like, different 😭😭😭 like i know everyone always says ur partner should be ur friend first but like. we’re literally just hanging out. like it doesn’t feel any deeper or anything like that, it just feels. different. bc we are doing different things with different expectations. so even though i mean like well i have a. God i cant even say the word rn. even though im dating someone now i still feel incredibly aromantic about it. and luckily he knows and he took it well and he knew it from the get go so it’s fine but i also can’t help but feel like ahhh i’m aromantic though

[alarrytale]

Also didn’t the Sun say that hay*or was a 'promance' as they've named pr relationships, just last week?///

That was a purely speculative article. If we believe everything we read in the Sun then Larry has never been real.

But Geri just went to a few events with Duncan. They weren't papped kissing on yachts like Harry and Kendall/Olivia. Duncan didn't say they lived together for 7 years or that he wanted to marry her, like Louis did with Eleanor. Duncan also has a daughter with a past gf. Larry are much more likely to go the Philip Schofield route and come out aa gay but not explain any previous relationships at all. Philip was married for 30 years with two kids.

Hi, anon(s)!

No, not everything the Sun writes is true, it's a tabloid with an agenda. But it's very interesting that they posted it in the first place, that's a new development. The gp who reads the sun will now maybe look into it. A seed is planted with the gp. It won't be as shocking to the gp if it turns out true. I also don't need the Sun to tell me that hayl*r was pr or that larry is real, because i already know that as fact.

Second anon, you might be right. If they've been involved in relationships that's been double bearding they risk outing the other part if they come clean. NDAs can also stop them from revealing too much. I still think they will say whatever they can, be as truthful and transparent as possible. They won't lie and say they're bi for example. I also think that none of this will come as a shock to anyone. There are ways to go about it to make their fans and the gp get used to the idea before they come out.

[destinyc1020]

Twitter having breakdowns because “Tom deserves better” because z hid him away like she was ashamed of him then broke his heart and flaunted her new relationship in his face 🤭 like Tom has clearly moved past that so why can’t they?? Some of these folks complain about Tom being babied then act like this. If they’re gonna throw a tantrum everytime they’re just hanging out then they need to brace themselves because my gut is telling me this isn’t the end

I hope you all have a comfortable chair lol. 😅

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You know what? At this point antis and certain "fans" just need to give it up. 🙄 Right now it's pretty obvious that Tom and Z both like each other. Whether it's just friends or more, the point is, they love and care about each other, and definitely want the best for each other. So some fans need to just hang it up! TZ are gonna do what they want to do, and fans should respect that, regardless of WHAT happens.

Also, if you consider yourself a true "fan", wouldn't you want your fave to be happy? They are both DECENT PEOPLE, so idk why fans would be upset at this pairing.

Also, SOME fans need to remember that they are only basing their opinions of their previous relationship on like 5% of the information. Whereas THEY (Tom&Z) have like 98% of the information. Tom knows the type of gf Zendaya was behind closed doors. Fans don't. To even assume that you as a fan know better than them is just really crazy imo lol. 😅 I could see if they both (or either one of them) had bad track records, or a shady past, had cheated on each other (or on previous bfs and gfs), or you saw them being dismissive towards each other in public or smthg, by that's literally NOT the case.

Plus, HOW was Zendaya "flaunting" her relationship with JE exactly? Even the pics in Greece were taken by FANS. And the NYC pics were like 5 months AFTER that. And even then she was begging fans to take the pictures down! So how is that flaunting? Did she even do a birthday post for him this year? No! Did she even post him on IG to go "official"? No! Was she blabbing to the media and talking about her "boyfriend Jacob Elordi"? No! So how was she "flaunting" her relationship w/him exactly? 🥴🤷🏾‍♀️ She didn't even put out a statement that they broke up! (Even though that's been clearly obvious since early August)

Also, I've said this before and I'll say it again: If they (Tomdaya) were indeed starting to fight a lot since late 2018 (as Audrey's tea suggests), and distance and time were an issue, and they couldn't agree on how "transparent" they wanted to be to the public about their relationship, then I feel like they really did need to break up! Sometimes you need some time and distance from a situation (or a person) so that it helps you see things more clearly and with a different outlook.

Also, keep in mind that Tom never said he was against them being private. Even he's said in his own words that "I'm a very private person". I just think he wanted them to lessen the extra-ness of them hiding the relationship so much. She wasn't really hiding HIM, she was hiding the relationship. In reality, she actually posted him quite a LOT during the years they were together. Of course, we'll never get anything like that in her future relationships again lol (she never really did that even when she was dating JE tbh), but it was nice while it lasted in the Tomdaya rlshp years ago.

I swear, some fans really need to let NYC go. That was back in February. We are now NOVEMBER. In fact, we're about to be in DECEMBER (almost a year). It's time to let that stuff go. 🥴 It's pretty clear both Tom and Z have moved on from that, and I think the fans need to as well.

Sorry for the dissertation, but some so-called "fans" really are doing the most. They would all just be so much happier if they just went with the flow.

[gg-astrology]

Can you tell us 10 things about you? and about ur friends irl? How u met them/ how long u know them/ what u like to do with them? This is gonna sound nosy but how's ur love life hdjsks LISTEN YOU'RE LIKE MY DREAM BEST FRIEND AND I WANT TO KNOW EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU AND ACT LIKE WE'RE TOTES HOMIES OKAY IM A VIRGO SUN PISCES MOON smh a girl is cURIOUS AND (platonically) IN LOVE WITH YOU ���❤❤❤❤

Hey there!! 💕💓❤️ Oh wow!!!! 💕💓❤️💕💓❤️ Don’t worry this is fine!! I’m actually -- like, really happy and giddily flustered you’d want to get to know me!? 💕💓❤️ I’m really flattered and really grateful/touched aaaaaaa only virgo/pisces deserve rights, my current wife is also a virgo/pisces this is obviously some kind of synastry destiny (jk *wink wonk?*)!! 💕💓❤️thank you for caring about me!!! 💕💓❤️💕💓❤️💕💓❤️💕💓❤️

Yeah sure!! 💕💓❤️I can tell you more things about me!! 💕💓❤️

Disclaimer? I think it’s good for the audience to know where I’m coming from and who I am? I just think transparency/knowing who you’re talking to is important because knowing who I am, can also help you and me see where my flaws are and where I may be coming from! 💕💓❤️ Or what I provide, but where I might miss my mark somewhere, y know? 💕💓❤️ Not to say you have to judge me, I just don’t see the point in not just being who I am and saying yeah I can see where I took the L there. It’s just-- better? for future endeavors as well? So here we are? 

More about me? In sections?

10 things about me? 

I’ll start with this since it’s the shortest!

This may come off as totally random but I do better in colder climate than hotter ones -- even though I currently live in a tropical island 

I used to live in the US!

I actually have a designated place where I go to sit, open up my laptop and answer asks from tumblr. I sit outside my little patio and stare out at my garden, and then answer qs from here!

This means I’m always subjected to the Wild Life coming at me unexpectedly sometimes, but my cat also visits me at my table! So it balances out! 

My favourite drink is milk but I like plant-based ones, or rice milk? Or the lactose free ones! They’re delicious! 

Cherries are my favourite snacks but I usually get them once every 3 months -- so the result is I don’t tend to snack often. This is by design of me trying to Not Snack + using my pickiness to weaponize against myself and my eating habits.

To unwind I watch cat/animal videos on youtube before I go to sleep - it’s not very effective because I have to keep my eyes open to see, plus I always end up making cooing noises at the screen -- so I’m not sure when if it’s actually making me sleepy or not. But it’s working so far so I’m continuing to do it.

I have very specific knowledge of certain things in very acute details + link/resources of further studies on the topic, but otherwise I have 0.5 braincells most of the time, just a lot of Forbidden Knowledge.

I have a folder of cursed memes and that’s all you need to know about my sense of humour I think? 

Love life?

I am currently single! 💕💓❤️ Gf application is always open! 💕💓❤️ However, I’d like everyone of you to know I’m a 95 liner and I will not accept applications from those born after 98′ 💕💓❤️

Although I’m bi + had ex-bf before... I am (as of right now) on the fence about men personally in my personal life (disclaimer) because I’ve got a week of quarantine, thus I haven’t been doing the do and can think clearly for once. I am contemplating. Men. And the necessity in life. Y know? 

Although my love life is free!! I am not excused from the occasional panic of having a crush (annually). I’m lucky enough to go through it just once every year, but every time it happens I am an absolutely clown + always in turmoil. It’s what happens when you’re a sag venus who can’t control your p***y brain. Luckily, my crush just have to insult me or make me explain things from my past and then I’d be too traumatize to crush on them again. It’s quite effective, and works out best for all of us! 💕💓❤️

I’ll refrain from talking about my ex because I know I have a habit of recounting the good and being mushy. Even if we ended it on rocky terms. So! I’ll save everyone from that. 💕���❤️    

Friends (expanded, clarifications?) 

The ones I mention on the blog are usually 

taurus/taurus, 

cancer/cancer, 

leo/libra, 

leo/cap (x2), 

virgo/sag, 

libra/aries (x2), 

scorpio/sag, 

scorpio/cap, 

sag/taurus, 

pisces/scorpio, 

pisces/aqua,  

Oof that’s alot.. This might be better to outline in a timeline format... so leo/libra, scorpio/sag, libra/aries and partially virgo/sag are whom I grew up for the majority of my childhood-teenage life! 💕💓❤️ 

They obviously made a very big impact on me! 💕💓❤️ They’re with me through thick/thin, leo/libra (sag rising) is the extrovert of the bunch. He’s one of my best friends, close guy friend, most of the time I too find him a little exasperating because he’s.. well its his problem so nevermind, but he’s also very endearing! 💕💓❤️ If it wasn’t for him-- well, there’s also another leo I thought was very endearing in a little brother kind of way. So leos to me have a very positive influence in my life, they’re very cute especially when they ask for your attention. I think they are like puppies/kitties when they are needy, and their blatant way of just being themselves always makes me feel refreshed + I  admire them for it. In the end, I’m totally heart-eyes endeared for Leos! 💕💓❤️

Scorpio/sag is also my best friend! 💕💓❤️ She’s a taurus rising, and she’s so sweet, kind, chatty and very open/friendly to people! 💕💓❤️ Her, my cousin (who’s also a scorpio but a scorpio/pisces), and quite a few of my other best friends who are scorpios - actually made me realize they’re not like what they’re usually describe as. Maybe that’s just me? But I think they’re very sweet and comforting to be around, not to mention they’re quite supportive and willing to listen when you’re having a tough time with something!! 💕💓❤️The pillar of support and one of the few rare people I don’t mind interacting with (actually crave interacting with them) because of just how chill they are, I wish more people recognize that in a scorpio! 💕💓❤️

Libra/Aries is one of my longest childhood friend, probably from birth! 💕💓❤️ He’s a supportive big brother type figure. But he can be very silly and he doesn’t hold himself so seriously most of the time! 💕💓❤️ Whilst he’s very understanding and quite nosy with others, he tries to be subtle/sleek but he isn’t! I think he’s very endearing when he wants to be, and he deserves someone who loves him lots as well 💕💓❤️ We reunited for the first time in 6 years the other day? And I think we both ended up crying a little and holding hands because we miss each other alot! 💕💓❤️ It was very nice, I think he’s much more emotional (just suppressed) than what people realize! 💕💓❤️ He’s very caring though - like willing to talk you through your problems and make sure you’re taken care of, back on your feet, but also willing to smile scarily at people who’ve hurt you and actually take them to court/yell at them for you. I think its very sweet! 💕💓❤️

Virgo/Sag is someone I hung out with for a short period of time, but kept in contact with periodically throughout my life because we ended up going through similar majors/path in life! 💕💓❤️ She’s someone who’s very caring, wants to take care of you, when she’s endeared by you she makes sure to dote on you often! 💕💓❤️ Actually, she’s born a day after Namjoon I think? But that’s not the point, the thing is - she’s my virgo/sag and when she’s not by my virgo/sag she’s super cool and I can see that many of our friend respects her/think she’s very mature + she’s the Shit! 💕💓❤️ I really admire her too and I think she’s super cool, but more than that, I love how caring and tender she is. She’s the best 💕💓❤️

These are the people I grew up with, and then I went to college and met/lived with Scorpio/Cap + Pisces/Scorpio+Aqua. 

Scorpio/Cap and I actually hit it off since the first day? We were in orientation, and we’re both talkative I guess! But in similar ways. He appreciates my bluntness/sense of humour and I like that he’s sarcastic and the only one engaging enough to be around/paying attention to what’s happening. We went to a house party together and then had 1 class together the semester. After that, me and him decided we’d live together off campus (along with our other friend who fell through, I think he’s a Leo?) - whilst we lived together we share majors in the same division, on holidays or at night after class, we’d grab dinner together + walk there, or we’d eat at home and binge watch a marathon he’d pick together. 💕💓❤️ It’s really fun! 💕💓❤️ 

Both of us like cooking, so he’d make dishes/drinks and I’d do that and we’d coerced each other to hang out in the living space together. Basically, we’re there to force each other to socialize/hang out with people and also encourage each other. It’s very fun! But we also had moments where we’d buy each other dinner/go to art galleries/exhibit together. There’s more serious too of course, like talking about our problems or worrying about stuff. But I think I found someone who looks out for me/I can look out for him, be confidants for each other and not be embarrassed with each other. Besides this, he also found my p0rn collection and suddenly mentioned it when we’re on campus so now I can never unfriend him because he has blackmail material on me. I’m forced to be his friends forever now. 

Pisces/Cap and Pisces/Aqua are my roommates after Scorpio/Cap - actually, Pisces/cap invited me to live with them when I was finding a place, it was very fortunate! 💕💓❤️ We’re all close friends because we live in the same hall during first year, plus me and Pisces/cap (and a Gemini friend) would get drunk + go to parties together so!! This is very convenient! 💕💓❤️

Actually.. Pisces/cap, me and Gemini friend.. I went with Gemini friend to buy his apartment with him (along with his friends, I’m good friends with them too) and Pisces/cap went with him to buy furnitures lmao! 💕💓❤️ And then me and Pisces/cap moved in together, although I didn’t room with them. I roomed with Pisces/Aqua whom till this date is my favourite roommate I’ve ever lived with! 💕💓❤️

It’s a little messy with Pisces/Cap but not in a? bad way? at all? Like we’re close friends who still talk often, but they did confess once over the holidays, and I turned them down (that was when I was about to move in) - we did make out along with pisces/aqua but like.. that’s... I guess that’s normal for college y know? We did a couple projects together for their class, like a comic about me and gemini friend, poems, photography, I drew them something. And I think they did have something with Gemini friend as well but! Gemini friend moved away on the last year so it never went anywhere there. 

But these are all good memories we had together and it’s not like-- bad at all, I don’t ever think badly at them for it because it was honest to them/for them, it was their emotions and tenderness from the heart? I can’t ever look down on anyone for that or judge them for being true to themselves, I actually think they’re very brave to be able to heal themselves and process things especially involving emotions like that. I also think these are all precious and honest memories, being friends with them definitely helped me grow my EQ by so much. Without them, I’d be very close-minded today! 💕💓❤️ 

Pisces/aqua is my roommate for a long time, and I love them to bits too! 💕💓❤️ They have two cats, both I love so so much and would sacrifice getting up for very often! 💕💓❤️ More than that, Pisces/aqua is so smart and able to pick things up immediately! It’s honestly very admirable, how they pierce things together. Whether it’s tarot or astrology, they’re the one who got me into this actually? 💕💓❤️ It was their interest before it became mine through proxy or maybe osmosis lmao, but they’re quite judgey and sometimes have a ? idk, superiority complex/elitist attitude towards stuff sometimes? So I never really talked about it much with them because it can get really frustrating sometimes 💕💓❤️ I do love them lots though, I can be ignorant of a lot of things and really slow on the uptake, but they’re very nice and kind and patient with me - honestly they’re as patient as a saint sometimes with me. And I’m really really thankful to them for it! 💕💓❤️ They’re getting married this year to a Scorpio! 💕💓❤️

Taurus/taurus and Cancer/cancer are my college best friends. Actually we hang out outside of class too! 💕💓❤️ I celebrated cancer/cancer’s birthday with them and their friends/roommates and it’s really fun. Heres why it’s -- like, momentous. It’s because my college classmates are more like colleagues or co-workers, so we don’t usually have that kind of camaraderie outside of first year. Plus, we’re all kind of working or busy with our private life outside of class - so it’s hard to reconvene that with who you know in classrooms. 

They like their private life separated from the college one, which is what I prefer as well. I really adore them though, since we have a major that usually makes us get little to no sleep and have to stay at school at night-till morning most nights (for programs on the computer or printing facilities, rip) -- they’re the one who would either stay up with me, working together at the same table and we can ask each other for fresh eyes on our work. Or they’d motivate me to go home and not be stupid to stay at school. Or they’d drive me home so they know I get back safely/on time. It’s just -- I adore them so much they’re very very good! 💕💓❤️

Taurus/Taurus is also a college best friend whom I befriended later on in the years, they’re really sweet! 💕💓❤️ We have more of a friendship where we spend time outside together, walking in the city trying out a new cake store or just going back to their place to play games or talk about what else we have going on in our lives. They’re really busy!! Since they’re involved in church activities, they travel to another town an hour away every sunday - their dedication to their work, school and church (AND spending time with their fiance’s family + fiance) is amazing! 💕💓❤️ They also got me my first job at the firm they’re working in, in our last years - I made sure they’re not too tired and get their work done on time so they don’t rush their finished project. Or give better advice if the teacher is making them fume. I really like them lots too, we had alot of fun together AND they’re a foodie! 💕💓❤️

There’s another Libra/Aries whom I knew from college, while I was still living with Scorpio/Cap - I was in another town/not the same town as the Pisces back then. But Libra/Aries was close and she’d come by often! We’d travel the city together, lay on the lawn, go to parks together or exhibit. They’re very proactive and we spend a lot of time talking about work and projects, personal interests, when we watch movies together - we’d spend time sitting in cafes after watching them to talk for hours/until closing about the movie ( ‘we have alot to unpack’) -- they’re a lot of fun to talk to because they’re just as intense about stuff! 💕💓❤️ And their interest is genuine, give good hugs, a little too loud for our cats but she means well! 💕💓❤️ 

This is brief recount of everyone, mostly focusing on activities we did together but knowing them as people obviously made a big impression on me! 💕💓❤️ 

Leo/Caps are people I met since I finished college/working now, they’re my two admins on the blog actually! 💕💓❤️So internet friends, but I really click with and they’re soothing + fun to be around when I’m home/anywhere! 💕💓❤️ 

Sag/Taurus is also another internet friend, I’ve known her for a year now? But man, every conversation is an adventure and she’s so fun to be around! 💕💓❤️ Also very sweet and an extremely kind person, in a fire sign kind of way. Which means a lot of gawking from me and very loud laughs. But yes! 💕💓❤️ Very good people! 💕💓❤️

I do have friends from work... but well we’re not close enough for me to actually consider them good friends/talk about them personally? They’re nice! But I have yet to form a more positive opinion about them - it’s positive and negative, so I’ll see who survives and come through as a person I’d like to hang out with outside of work. 💕💓❤️

To Virgo/Pisces anon: 

Here’s my best friend application do I make the cut please reply 💕💓❤️

[szopenhauer]

If money was no object, would you change your wardrobe? I would add to my wardrobe more than change

How do you/did you get to school? walk, then by bus

Have you ever been in trouble for something you honestly didn’t do? yep

Is the idea of having a secret admirer creepy or romantic? creepy

What was the last song you sung out loud? https://youtu.be/wycjnCCgUes

Were you excited to learn to drive, or scared? worried that I’ll waste my money

When was the last time you felt incredibly tired? today

In your opinion, who doesn’t deserve to be famous? many people

Was it hard for you to get up this morning? not really

When was the last time you colored with crayons or colored pencils? few months ago

Do you feel comfortable talking about your disorders, if you have them? depends

Where did you go on your last field trip? not sure which was last

Do you think you make a good first impression? no

Do other people’s first impressions stick with you? might

Have you ever had to give up on someone? sure

Would you rather break up with someone, or them break up with you? them break up with me (not my decision) but usually it’s the other way around

Do you think it’s okay to like a cover more than an original? umm...

Are you calm in emergency situations? depends

Who are you most attached to? my dad

What do you depend on other people for? money mostly :(

What goes through your mind when someone breaks up with you? depends

Do you match your shoes with your outfit? sometimes, it’s not that I have enough shoes to do that lol

Do you feel more comfortable with a male or female doctor/nurse? female 

What was the last thing you bragged about? not sure what was last

What’s the ugliest thing on your wall? umm...

Who’s your favorite philosopher? Schopenhauer because of all the memes

Do you think Freud was out of his mind? well I prefer Jung

Einstein? he was cool

Who’s your favorite painter/artist? I like many 

What day is it? Friday

Are you wearing anything blue?  nah

Do you know anyone named Graham? just bread :P

Are you sitting next to anyone? not currently

Do you dislike the last person you Facebook messaged? nope

Who’s the quietest of all your friends? K. always was 

Are you home alone right now? If so, where are the people you live with? my mom’s home, my dad is at work

Are you a chocoholic? noooo

Is there a song that reminds you of the person you love/like? Do you listen to that song often? one of them is t.a.t.u. - All the things she said

Do you listen to music while you fill out surveys? sometimes

In the past week, what song have you listened to the most often? not sure

While playing video games, do you prefer being first or second player? second 

How many people do you depend on? not many

How many people do you think depend on you? they could live without me

What is the worst color combination? brown and black?

Have you ever injured yourself walking around in the dark? yeah

What’s so scary about clowns, anyway? nothing to me and it’s annoying that they’re part of so many horrors

When was the last time you acted like someone you’re not? sigh...

How many hats do you own/wear? shitload

Do you ever receive comments on your weight? ppl are jealous of my weight so basically my illness :(

Is there anything that you do just to make other people happy? of course

What was the last thing that you wrote down [with a pen/pencil]? not sure what was last

Has anyone told you that you have a nice smile? my gf only

Are you uncomfortable with being photographed? yup

Do you like playing tic-tac-toe? I always win What about hangman? I played it couple of times Are you dangerously in love with someone? woah 

Are you cute or sexy? cute Is English your 1st language? it’s not Did you ever perform in front of your entire school? elementary - more than once Did your older sibling ever tell you freaky stories that you believed? one time she told me that school was flooded and there were fish and frogs and then I said that to my mom and she called me a liar and got mad even tho I explained to her it was my sister’s idea :(  Are you single and proud? you can be single and proud as well as be happy in a relationship too, I am in one now  Are you more happy when you’re with people or alone? 90% of time alone What do you think about guys shaving their legs? that’s their life Do you wear lipstick? nah Name something you lost or gave away that can never be replaced. I don’t wanna talk about it

What music album would be used for a movie about your life? soundtrack to my life would have to be a mix of songs from different bands/vocalists

Who was your first crush and what made them special? she was just adorable with her clumsiness and her perfect body and that face and voice and she was just a pretty cool friend to me and I wanted to take care of her so badly, she was the very first girl I ever had a crush on irl if not in general but she was hetero and she changed a lot (not in a good way in my opinion) Write about your first kiss. Was it everything you wished or hoped it would be? I... I never imagined my first kiss before it happened?...

Write about something you now know that you wish you knew earlier in life. How could this knowledge have helped you? blergh

Name one thing you feel brings out the good in people. there’s no such thing, it’s all about the person  If you invented a device that could fix one problem you are facing right now, would you use it? What problem would you like to solve? absolutely, my health issues Name something you found; what was it and where did you find it? I’ve found shitload of stuff but one thing was the most odd and that’s a taxidermy ferret shawl someone left on a bus stop - at first we thought with dad it must be alive but we came closer and realized someone lost their piece of cloth and we took it  Describe the longest amount of time you have ever been away from home. almost a month, I was in hospital Name a celebrity or famous person you wish would take you out on a date. - Have you ever seen a ghost? it seems, it was not just white but a little bluish, no legs and weird face - shaped like in a clay, mostly transparent, slightly glowing, it was in open doors of my room, I woke up with a weird feeling that someone’s watching me and I got really scared so I hidden under a blanket and didn’t look there again until morning, I was trying to convince myself it’s just a shirt that was hanged in the hall but mom said there wasn’t anything like that there at night, now I wish I could see that again hoping I would try to do something more brave about it, I kinda worry I was rude towards them whoever it was 

*btw my grandma said that after death some chemicals leave the body and fly like a fog through the cemetery if casket and grave aren’t blocking it too much Describe your note-taking style and habits. everywhere and usually not in line, can be even upside down, just random, different size, clue words etc. Do you believe that we are all here for a reason? What might the reason be? suffering to deserve heaven? Have you ever done something just to feel the danger, or to feel alive? I hurt myself today To see if I still feel I focus on the pain The only thing that's real What are all your thoughts on god? overthinking... What did you learn today?  for example - that explaining things to people make me realize more than just thinking about something What 5 traits do people first notice when they meet you for the first time? ask them Have you ever carved your name or initials into a tree or stone? poor tree :( In what ways have you traveled? car, bus, train, bike, even a little bit by ship What historical events happened the year you were born? nothing interesting

Do you watch really old tv shows or movies from the 1970’s or earlier? sure

What would you do if you saw a complete stranger dealing drugs in public? nothing If you don’t have to be up by a certain time, do you like to sleep in as late as possible? no longer than 11 am What are you wearing at the moment? Is it for any particular reason? pajama because it’s past midnight and I should be asleep but I have to finally finish this survey then dry my hair and drink some water first Are either one of your parents retired?  my mom is and my dad will be soon Do you buy a lot of DVD’s, or do you tend to just watch everything online for free? watch online, I have no money for buying movies that I’ll watch less than 3 times Does everyone in your household own their own computer? nope

Are you a good gift giver? I try my best and been told that I am despite not being rich 

Do you know what XOXO stands for? hugs and kisses

What’s the first person who comes to your mind when you hear the word blue? me

Have you seen any of the Harry Potter movies? first ones

Do you like your significate others siblings? I don’t know her brother

Have you ever recieved a singing birthday card? omg I loved those and I wish I got one :(

Do you remember who your kindergarten/pre-school teacher was? I liked her so much I’ve been sending her cards on holidays years after

Were you ever a girl scout or a boy scout? never

Do you own anything made of lace? hmm...

How many people do you share a name with? I don’t know anyone with my name

Imagine your dream home, does it have a fence around it? if it’s not an apartment then of course it does, highest possible and thick as I don’t want to see or be seen by my neighbors

Do you own any yellow shoes? yep

Can you type fast? very

In school were you bullied? I was

Are you sarcastic? yeah

Do you read the newspaper? nah

If you died today where do you think you’d go? hell :(

Have you ever been to therapy? few times, didn’t help

Do you use online dating? did

Did you miss alot of school? I was sick often

What was the last thing you got falsely accused of? not sure what was last

What was the last thing you ordered online? shirt, I’m waiting for the package now

Have you ever been kicked out of a store? no :o

Do you feel like you accomplished anything today? hmm...

What is/was your favorite teen magazine? trzynastka or however this shit was called

Would other people describe you as creative? I guess

What color are your slippers? grey and white

Are you haunted by memories of stupid things you’ve said and done? constantly

Did you like high school or college better? didn’t go to college

Who was your favorite Olsen twin? I didn’t have a favorite 

Do you ever listen to Celtic music? used to, with John

Do you know a lot of rich and spoiled and selfish people? had classmates like this and neighbors too

Do you enjoy mornings? rarely, not really

Have you ever feared going to jail or thought about what it would be like? thought

Did you know that the zodiac signs (the regular ones) are Greek? ok

Have you ever learned about Greek mythology in school? didn’t like it

Do you stay up late? as you can see

what do you hear right now? nothing

what is one thing in your life you feel truly guilty for? personal

have you ever been slapped in the face? I’ve been slapped without any reason, I was bullied

how about punched? hit with a ball only and my head was hit with a bottle too once

have you ever come up with a memorable quote yourself? I’ve been quoted 

what do you think about masturbation? personal

What color did you first ever dye your hair?: either red or black

What’s the color of the bath towel you use most often?: green

Ever eaten a piece of dog or cat food out of curiosity?: ewww, nooo

Can you name one song by Prince?: Purple rain for example

Would you rather paint or make pottery?: paint

Are you currently taking this survey before or after 9pm?: after, I started over 5 hours ago...

Is the sun shining bright outside right now?: it’s the middle of the night!

Would you rather watch a horror movie or a romantic comedy?: romantic comedy ^^”

[jawnjendes]

but i like what you’re doing to me | shawn mendes

university au/ shawn x goth gf

an: if ur just here for smutty smut and no plot, ur welks. if u want more, blease consider reading n rebloobing this whole series 

masterlist | series playlist

Once the ball was rolling, my nerves went away. I excitedly crawled onto the bed, Shawn coming in after me. We both sat on our knees (although sitting like that made my thighs ache from earlier today), Shawn quickly getting his hands all over me. Seriously, all he did was move his hands up and down my torso, across my breasts, down to my ass and back. His eyes were wide with arousal, following where he touched.

“I can't believe you did this,” he said softly. “Can't believe how sexy you look.” His hands moved up my ribcage again and landed on my breasts. He looked me in the eyes again, that sweet and tender boy gone. “Can't believe you're mine.”

He was always quite chatty in these situations. I never knew what to say, and I certainly did not have the heart to tell him to shut the hell up and dick me down already. Besides, outside the bedroom, Shawn found it difficult to be outwardly loving to me considering that I did not like compliments or praise. This was probably the only time he could show verbal affection.

I helped him get his shirt off before pulling him in for a hot kiss. I sucked his bottom lip into my mouth, knowing that it really got him going. I ran my fingers up and down his chest and abs, because that got me going. How the hell did he want me when I wasn't in some slutty little outfit? How was I able to resist pouncing on him in public? How could I resist sucking hickeys on his neck, collarbones and shoulders?

He placed his hands on my waist and lowered me onto my back, our noses touching, breathing heavy. “How do you wanna do this, honey?”

My head was spinning in the most wonderful way. I sighed deeply in an attempt to catch my breath, only for it to get taken again as Shawn traced his finger over my nipple, which was quite visible through this transparent material. My body twitched, and a soft moan came out of me. I grabbed his wrist, digging my nails into his skin to show just how good it made me feel.

“Tell me how you want it,” Shawn said, his voice deliciously low. His nose grazed my cheek just before his lips attached themselves to my neck, kissing and sucking sensually. Then he moved down to my breasts and teased my nipples some more, being as gentle as possible.

At the moment, I wanted every position. I wanted him to bend me over every surface in this apartment. I wanted my legs on his shoulders as he relentlessly pounded into me. I wanted him to pin me up against the wall and use me like I was some cheap sex doll. God, I just wanted to be treated like a dirty little whore.

But Shawn was just so sweet and gentle. Even when we were doing a quickie in the car, he was always holding my hand or telling me to look him in the eyes. It was quite different than what I've experienced in the past. His heart was practically having sex with my heart.

“Do whatever you want to me,” I groaned. “Take me however you want.”

Something of a growl erupted from his throat as he got on top of me. He swiftly hitched my legs onto his hips and slowly started grinding into my crotch. Our noses touched and our lips brushed against each other. Shawn kissed the corner of my mouth, then my jaw, and he moved down my body altogether. He ran his lips across my hip bones, teeth grazing the hem of my panties. Then, he took a single finger and ran it up the crotch of the pink lace.

Soon enough, Shawn was pulling off the measly piece of fabric and putting his pretty mouth to work. His tongue went over every crevice, and he did not hold back. The wet, obscene noises of his mouth doing unspeakable things drove me absolutely wild.

I moaned louder than I ever have before and gripped the bedsheets when the tip of his tongue repeatedly ran over that one sweet spot. My back arched as I heaved quick breaths, and my hips were moving against his mouth. “Fuck.”

Shawn pulled off with a wet kiss. “Fuck, I love eating your-”

“Don't stop!” I squealed, grabbing the back of his head and bringing his mouth back to where it belongs.

He smiled against me before continuing. He flattened his tongue against my most sensitive area and inserted two fingers to make it that much better. He groaned against me, almost like he was encouraging me to the finish line. He even took the liberty of whispering, “Come on, come on…” and making sure his lips were brushing against me.

And then I was calling his name as my first orgasm of the night hit me like a train.

“That's it, give it to me…” He groaned as he vigorously pumped his fingers for a few more seconds before pulling them out.

I shut my eyes and breathed heavily, coming down from the high. My limbs went limp and melted into the mattress.

Shawn moved and lied on his side, looking down at me. He delicately brushed strands of my hair away from my forehead and planted a soft kiss in that very spot. Then he took my hand and kissed my knuckles. I turned into his body, craving affection, and I curled into his chest and tangled my legs with his.

“Take a breather,” he told me, “because we're not done yet.”

It was true. We hadn't even gotten to his needs yet, but I couldn't fight off a power nap. Shawn was just too comfy to not sleep on. Or with.

When I woke (with a mild start), he told me that I knocked out for a grand total of fifteen minutes. Then he proceeded to make out with me. It really wasn't hard to get in the mood again. He was just that good.

He grabbed my thigh and hooked my leg around his waist again. He just wanted me to be as close as possible. Close wasn't close enough for him. His mouth was all over my neck and my tits, while I snaked my hand down between us to touch him where he needed me. He let out a deep grunt against my skin, and his hips moved into my hand.

“Mm, baby…”

His tall figure sat up to pull off his sweatpants, which gave me a good look at the dick print in his briefs. I smiled and bit my lip, looking up at him. Then, I shifted so I was bent down on all fours, reached over, and pulled down the front of his briefs. I didn't think twice about taking him into my mouth.

Shawn let out a soft breath, holding up my hair in his big hands. That soft breath led to a soft moan, which led to a louder moan when I properly deepthroated him. He tightened his grip on my hair, and one hand roamed my back. He bunched up my nightgown, his nails barely scraping my skin.

“You're so good at taking my dick,” he groaned. “Should use, mmm, I should use your mouth more often.”

Yes, use me. Fuck my mouth until I can't speak.

I pulled back with a loud pop and looked up at Shawn, running my tongue over his tip. His eyes were heavy, and his mouth was slack. He stroked my cheek and cupped my chin, which he then grabbed to bring me back up to his level. I didn't even resist, I just let him pull me wherever he pleased.

“You're so fucking beautiful,” he told me, brushing our noses together. “You know how much I love you?”

My chest got all sorts of warm and fuzzy, but my brain and vagina were screaming for things to get a move on. I needed him now.

“Show me,” I replied, softly pecking his lips before lying down on the mattress. I spread my legs open, looking at him helplessly. “Please… show me.”

He didn't need telling twice. Shawn pulled off his underwear and settled himself between my legs, propping himself up on his elbows. Slowly, he slid himself inside me, not taking his eyes away from my face. I shut my eyes and dug my nails into his back, groaning through my clenched teeth. It couldn't get any better than this.

“Look at me,” he said between huffs of breath. “Look at me, honey…”

A stiff noise escaped my throat, but I did what he said. Shawn's face was contorted with pleasure, his eyebrows were scrunching together, the muscles in his neck were flexed. Sweat was forming around his hairline and his chest. His pretty brown eyes were filled with something I never saw in anyone else. He really meant all the words he was saying, and it brought back that fuzzy feeling in my chest.

“God, you're so beautiful,” he whispered. “You don't even know what you do to me. You don't even know how much I love you. Fuck, baby…”

“Shawn,” I breathed out. Enough of the sweet talk. “Fuck me harder.”

The corners of his mouth went up, and his hands went down to grab my ass. He let out low grunts as he pounded his hips with more vigor. “You like it like this?”

“Harder,” I growled against his mouth, my nails scratching up his back. I let out a guttural moan when he did what I said.

Then, I brought my hand down between us and rubbed as quickly as I could. That was something I haven't done before, and Shawn was certainly happy to see that. His head tilted down to look at where our bodies connected and he properly moaned at the sight. Like, a proper porn-worthy moan.

“Oohh… I'm gonna give you a big fucking load, baby…”

“You gonna come for me?” I asked in a challenging tone. “Gonna make a huge mess all over me?”

Shawn's face contorted a little more, his back arching as he got closer and closer to his end. His thrusting was staggering a lot just as his moans got louder and more needy. Finally, he pulled out and spilled all over my lower abdomen and my arm. He soaked through my nightie, which looked a lot hotter than it felt. He grabbed himself and squeezed everything out, his eyes shut tight and his mouth in that perfect little O. He's never looked more mind blowingly attractive.

When he finished, Shawn took two fingers and helped me get to where I needed. He joined our free hands and laced our fingers together. He mumbled more sweet nothings until I was yelling and writhing once again. I called out his name and squeezed his hand in mine, practically hurdling myself into heaven.

Shawn was just as short on breath as I was. As soon as we were both satisfied, he plopped down on the space next to me. I lied still on the bed after that orgasm, waiting for the clarity to kick in. After a few minutes, I was only put off by the fact that I was not in my signature color. I sat up and carefully took off the nightgown and left it on the floor. Then I lied back again and faced Shawn, who had watched me get naked.

“Sorry I ruined your pretty little outfit,” he said, his voice slurred.

“Meh, it's pink,” I told him, “I was never going to wear it again anyway.”

He chuckled. “Oh no. I need to see you in pink more often. It's a good look on you.”

“That's the orgasm talking.”

“And what about it?”

We both laughed, and then Shawn turned his body towards me. His eyes were tired but content, and he was smiling wide. Oh, he boutta do it…

“I love you so much.”

He had to do it to me.

Shawn reached over and stroked my sexed up hair. Even with my silence, his smile didn't falter. He was too kind and too empathetic. He didn't really understand my issues with affection, but he still let me figure things out without pressuring me about it. He told me a while back that he would say the words enough for the both of us.

“I know,” I replied softly.

[luna-flow]

If you hate cheesy and sappy stuffs, please scroll past this!

💖Here’s a short post of my love story and bf appreciation post because he deserves my shout out hehe I’m just feeling a lot of love today tbh-💖

Last year when I was at a really dark place in my life, I prayed and prayed. Soon after, I crossed paths with this man, the love of my life. We actually crossed paths 10 years ago when we actually attended the same school but we didn’t know each other back then, we led very different lives afterwards only to be reunited again in the far future when both of us were lost and had little faith in our love and marriage life.

It’s funny how he frequents my neighbourhood as his close friend lives just at the next block next to mine, we talked about the same places we usually studied at before we knew each other so we probably crossed paths multiple times but just that we didn’t know how we’re going to be each other’s life partners in the future. It’s just funny how the universe works. We came into each other’s lives at the right time and now we’ve never been happier.

I’m honestly not kidding when I say that I feel that he’s my ideal partner to me. Our personalities are really compatible to a great extent. Both of us are only seeking for a life-long relationship. No fwbs or flings or ‘just try’ but purely a serious relationship. Our intentions and goals were clear from the beginning. My personality tend to be masculine and his tend to be feminine and we always get teased about it. His mom always tease him that how is he gonna find a gf with such a feminine personality while people always say that I’m ‘too alpha’ for many males(well they didn’t know that I’m bi so jokes on them). I actually very much prefer my male partner to have a feminine-leaning personality which I thought is rare but he just dropped in front of me like a blessing so yay.

In my country it’s also considered ‘gay’ for males to take care of themselves especially in terms of skincare, hair and fashion but personally I think people with self-care and grooming hygiene are such HUGE pluses and charming points for me because I really love having a partner whom groom themselves well because I do. Again, it’s a rare trait in males here but here he is, having a more extensive skincare than me, taking more time to do his hair and deciding on his outfits than me haha. I’m usually the one waiting for him to finish prepping before our dates. Even with his feminine personality, he knows when to take the lead and he is really reliable :’)

My leo moon makes me very self aware and unapologetically picky of what I want and think I deserve so I would never settle for a partner just for the sake of having a partner and be in a relationship. I rather stay single af tbh. People around me kept telling me that I’m too picky and should lower my standards but I’m too stubborn (scorpio habits oops) to do so. Especially when it’s pertaining to my happiness but guess what? I got exactly what I want. I’m in a healthily functioning relationship with the partner of my dreams. There are still sooo many things I wanna praise about him tbh. Like how he’s cool with my sexuality and mental illness, totally cool with my spirituality and all my weird stuffs. He’s really supportive with everything I do. He has so many wonderful points that I don’t think he realises since he kept saying he has a self-esteem issue (which he has been struggling with sigh) but he’s really such a kind and sweet person, a literal soft mochi ugh 😫💕

Of course our relationship isn’t a bed of roses, we had our quarrels and conflicts but we usually resolve it within a day. Yes he has (me too) flaws but honestly they’re nothing bad enough for me to feel suffocated and think that this is a toxic relationship. We apologize whenever we’re in the wrong, we keep things transparent and we communicate. We point out each other’s flaws and we’re not afraid to voice out when one of us hurts the other so that we can make a conscious effort to change and improve.

I honestly thought that being in a healthy relationship is so difficult and rare but he proved me otherwise. My love life had been really sad and dried up for 23 years (he’s my first partner) and FINALLY it bloomed. It bloomed real nicely ✨

Never settle down for less y’all. Know what you deserve while treating your partner with respect. Keep visualizing and be sure of what kind of relationship and partner that you want. You’ll get it. The universe will eventually send the right person to you.

[alexisexeses]

The ex’s ex

So I’ve been wanting to start this blog since I last broke up with my current ex about 1.8 years ago (lol) but since I was busy trying to make the relationship work again, I stepped away from this project. This is a very important project as well, since I feel girls need things to relate to, they need experiences outside their own, so that hopefully they don’t make the same effed up mistakes others before them have made. I’m 28 years old, I’ve been married, divorced, single, in a relationship... I’ve cheated, been cheated on, been with married men outside of my knowledge and also as a homewrecker (yes, I am ashamed, but I wanted to be transparent), Anyway, needless to say, I feel like I have a lot of advice to give to those women who have not had as much experience as I, or perhaps have had similar experiences... My first recommendation, per the above written, is that if you have tried it once and it failed... DO NOT TRY IT AGAIN, it will just be a temporary gratification for him and a waste of your time and energy for you! As women, we tend to have stronger attachments to things/people that show us attention, that make us feel pretty, that make us feel loved. I mean, we’re coming from a society that has long been telling us that we are not good enough, that there is better looking people out there, girls who have bigger boobs, asses, wallets, brains, muscles... prettier faces, better personalities, better jobs, better bodies, better lifestyles... you name it.  So coming from this, naturally and scientifically (hormones and what not) we tend to be more caring and we tend to latch on more (science... motherly traits) to eye candy who show interest in us, even if it is not healthy. I’ll sum up the above relationship quickly and will at another point write more details on it... But basically, I got with him after I broke up with my husband of 4 years, and partner of 7 years.  I’d like to deny that he was a rebound, but to be honest, he probably was. I worked with him and he was sweet, he had an amazing smile and I felt like i could talk to him for hours about everything. One day he made me some CD’s ( we both love music) and he wrote his number in one of them. I ignored the number because I was in a relationship, however, when my husband and I broke up, I decided to call the number. Shortly after, we dated, I fell in love, I knew he was a player, but I was hoping he had changed, we tried it out, had fun and then he left me. Later on, I found out he cheated on me multiple times. 8 months go by... I’m single, getting over this dumb boy and then decide I am ready to booty call him (he is amazing in bed!) and so it is.. We do the deed, he falls in love with me, promises to be faithful and be the best man for me and says that his greatest regret was cheating on me. Fast forward 1.5 years later and I am single again, after having found out that yes.. you guessed it... HE CHEATED AGAIN!!! And it got worse... Upon finding this out, I tried to make it work, but my trust had been shattered and I was being snoopy and found a video of him getting a blow job in our house, on our couch!!! And... that’s another story for another day, but you see... TOXIC, not worth it!

DON’T DO IT!!!

So now.. About the ex’s ex.. During the 8 months my ex and I were not dating, he had a lot of experiences. It was my first time in my adult life being single, so.. I had experiences of my own (more than I am proud of, but his were double the amount.) ANYWAY, when we got back together, he asked me why I was still single and i told him about some of my crazy dating stories, and he told me the amount of people he had slept with when we were apart and mentioned that he tried dating a girl, but not really a relationship since it was short and they never got past the dating stages.. and so I thought, eww on the number of people he slept with, [although a higher amount than mine, mine was still pretty eww to me (and to him) as well] and okay on him not being in a relationship there after. BUT, I do not judge, and I know that people have the power to change if they want and I know that I am not perfect and that my past should not define me, so I gave him the same courtesy..

GOLDEN RULE: TREAT OTHERS AS YOU WOULD LIKE TO BE TREATED ( I live by this!) Anyway, I’ve been single for about 1.6 months now... (lol) and I’ve been trying to start up my instagram following so that I can make extra money for school and rent... So I’ve been putting in work and adding people left and right and one day, I get a message from a girl, she tells me not to message her back but to text her, and so she sends me her number..

I text this girl only because she has a familiar area code and her IG profile indicates she is a real human being, and so she proceeds to ask if I am her ex’s gf/ex gf.... And so far... That’s where I’ll leave the story. I will let ya’ll know what comes of this later. I know it’s probably not wise to speak to this woman, but I am curious, because clearly... and it is becoming more clear that I did not know the man that I was with, and for all the time we spent together and all the love I had... this man is more of a stranger than I thought, and as a Sociology major.. I’m curious to see what she says and to discover more about him in order to analyze why he is is the way he is..

TBC...

[tobe-sogolden]

You hit the nail on the head with your last tags - the people cry over his sad lyrics about being alone and the exact same ones who hate his GF. I’ve seen so many people say this new album will be Fine Line 2.0 and I’m like 🤔 They want another sad, depressing album about quarantine but the man spent the last year telling us how happy he was every night on tour. Even these newest promo interviews he did for AIW, you can tell how happy and relaxed he is. He’s obviously in a great place in his life, both personally and professionally, and I for one want the songs on HH to reflect that. I have no idea why so many of his fans aren’t embracing that?

The weird theories that they are pushing about this being a quarantine album that was written prior to October 2020 are so transparent. They want to insist this whole album was written and recorded prior to meeting her when that has already been disproven (from Harrys own lips!) yet they still say it and try to get it to be fact. Then they deny that AIW has any reference to her when Harry said it was the last song written on the album and he literally finished the album in August/September 2021 right before tour started. You know, almost a full year into dating Olivia. I even saw someone say yesterday they actually think AIW is about Camille 🤨 weird theories about the 2 kids line being about Kid Harpoons family, his own parents divorce and so many other completely ridiculous ideas.

Obviously all his music is open to interpretation but I’ve never seen a fandom push so hard against a super innocuous line in a song. I don’t even think the song is “about” her anyway - the song to me is about where he’s been in the past and how he’s changed in the last 2 years and he’s ready to be open and comfortable with where he is now in all aspects of his life. I really hope these people are embarrassed when the whole album comes out and there’s more very specific music about his relationship on it. It’s what they deserve after 15 months of temper tantrums.

Literally are you in my brain bc this is everything I've been thinking for weeks!!! The desperation to cling to the narrative that the whole thing was done before they met is honestly sad 😭 and, like you said, has been disproven by his own words. It's just bizarre to me that the thought of him potentially writing about being in love/being happy is such an affront to people who claim to care about his well being. Like it doesn't add up 😭 and yeah the various reaches to explain away the "two kids" line is just nonsensical. All sorts of weird theories instead of acknowledging what I think is fairly obvious. And, same as you, I don't think the song is "about" her, but that line is a pretty specific reference and seeing people ignore/rewrite reality to get around it is so 🥴

[lolaruberto96]

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How To Make Your Ex Gf Jealous And Want You Back

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Astro Coffee Shop AU

Astro drabble inspired by @alternateastro ’s coffee shop au 

Um hi 

So you are this struggling college freshman 

It’s just your first year but you already learned that caffeine is your friend

And that’s probably the main reason you got excited when you heard a new coffee shop opened on the way to the bus stop you usually board from to college

The coffee shop is really cute and has a welcoming feel to it

Also it opens as early as 6am so it’s perfect for grabbing a cup of cappuccino while waiting for your bus that takes off at seven

A tall decent young man that is around your age is always there, a warm smile on his face as he serves you, probably his only customer at that early time since the shop isn’t that popular yet nor is in a remarkable place 

Cha Eunwoo, his name tag says

Eunwoo is quite friendly for a barista whose shift starts at six in the morning and even bothers to start small conversations with you as you sip on your cappuccino by the counter

About two weeks in and you’re addicted to their coffee

You didn’t know if it was just you, or that it had some really special taste to it 

There was just something about it that you couldn’t get enough of, and most importantly, couldn’t go on your day without

Waking up at five thirty, getting ready, leaving your house and passing by the ‘Dream Store’ to have a cup of coffee and a small chat with an ever so energetic Eunwoo became a part of your routine

Until you ‘accidentally’ wake up late one day 

Maybe your alarm went off by itself, maybe it really rang and you turned it off and went back to sleep, maybe you didn’t even set it in the first place, what mattered the most is that it was a quarter past six and you were still in your pjs

You jump off your bed and quickly wash your face before grabbing the first combination of clothing that looked reasonable.

Smashing a bit of makeup on your face, you decided there was no time for more than a natural look for today, 

a bb cushion, brown eyeliner pencil, transparent mascara and and a warm orange gradient lip was the best you could achieve 

Throwing on your hood over your ‘whatever’ looking hair you grabbed your bag and sprinted your way out

You glanced at your hand watch to check if you had atleast a few spare minutes to order a coffee for take out but then you stopped at your tracks 

Because it was freaking 5:40 in the freaking morning aka an hour early 

The Dream store wasnt even opened yet and you felt like an idiot because your shitty clock was probably running out of battery and was showing the wrong time 

Groaning you glanced again at the cafe to see that the roller shutter of the front door was half rolled up

And that meant that atleast someone was inside

Looking around you one more time you figured out there was no other safe place for a lonely nineteen year old girl to stay in while waiting 

So you just decided to sneak inside and just hope it was Eunwoo getting ready to open the shop

You weren’t really that close to him but you just thought he wouldn’t be that freaked out if he saw you at such an hour 

Entering the shop you quietly muttered a “hello” as you heard faint sounds coming from the staff area 

“Eunwoo shi are you here” you dumbly murmured then figured out it was better to just take a seat and wait for whoever was there to appear

But you kind of accidentally doze off over the table because you woke up in such a hurry that you were feeling a bit drowsy by that time

Rocky takes off his sailor moon apron and hangs it after finishing with decorating the pastries and cleaning the kitchen

He leaves the kitchen and checks the café since he heard some sounds coming from there 

“Eunwoo hyung you’re here earl–”

He sees you sleeping on one of the tables and sort of just-

–For a second but not enough for you to wake up then purses his lips, not knowing what to do

Rocky always disappears so early in the morning after he’s done with his work so he doesn’t get to interact with any customers, and even when he comes in the afternoon to test out new recipes with Bin, he doesn’t leave the kitchen. 

So he gets so frustrated seeing you there bc um help what am I supposed to do with this creature it looks like a human

Luckily Eunwoo comes in just at the right time and is rather confused as of why rocky is still there 

Also why is he standing still like a statue 

“Good morning minhyuk, what are you still doi–”

Eunwoo looks at the same direction as rocky and takes a step back in surprise

But he soon recognizes your sleeping figure and is way more confused now but decides to wake you up anyway

You slowly open your eyes and find none other than the most beautiful angel you’ve ever seen in front of your eyes that you can’t help but yelp bc are you already dead and is this heaven 

You blink for a few seconds and look around the place then at Eunwoo and the other guy 

“…w-welcome to Dream sh-shop !!!!” Rocky says in a super nervous tone that his voice cracks as he tries to sound the brightest he could “is that how you do it” he whispers to Eunwoo bc he honestly had no idea how things went outside the kitchen

Then Eunwoo kindly introduces you to Rocky to break the awkward atmosphere

And hey Rocky is quite cute and hyper 

And that’s how you start meeting the boys one by one 

And you just have to embarrass yourself each time 

Like that other time you were soooo sleepy that you were walking with your eyes closed

Maybe bc you had so much work and didn’t get enough sleep 

But that didn’t really matter bc you knew the way too well that you could manage 

You instinctively make a turn to the left to enter the coffee shop

But then you just bump into the glass door like an idiot

Bc it’s usually always open

Truth is Bin came earlier than usual that day 

And usually whenever he comes he always closes the door

Since he claims it’s way too cold in the morning

And Eunwoo is like uhh ok nvm 

And since Bin always comes later you never really saw the door closed 

Being still as sleepy as heck you groan as you lazily push the door open with literally your whole body, pouting since it was too early for embarrassing yourself yet here you are

You enter the shop to see an ever so amused Bin holding his laugh 

“Welcome” he says quietly and you awkwardly smile with half closed eyes 

And wth wth wth why are all the ppl working here so cute 

And that other time you got dismissed early in the afternoon so you decided to pass by 

And you go up to the counter only to be faced by like a giant five year old 

And you’re like “uhh excuse me where’s the one in charge here?”

And Sanha just blinks for a second before blurting “it’s me!” 

And you’re like “but you look so young ??????”

And Sanha just smiles cutely then takes your order

And from that day you always stop by whenever you have time in the afternoon

Bc Sanha is just too adorable and his smile gives you so much energy to go on with your day

And that OTHER time the Dream Store was having that spring cleaning thing and there was actually a notice on the front door but you’re too reckless to realize that and just legit barge in to JinJin dancing with a broom to Plz don’t be sad by Highlight while singing with a really, really High pitched voice

And you never felt this attacked honestly

JinJin is caught off guard and immediately restrains himself 

“My apologies. How can I help you? I’m Park Jinwoo, the Dream Store manager”

And you’re like ????? Okay ????

AND THAT OTHER TIME you were with this senior of yours in art school 

He’s reaaaally kind and cheerful and you’re actually good friends

So one day he invites for coffee in what he claimed to be his store

And you’re shook af on the way bc uhh isn’t this the way to Dream Store?

You two enter and everyone, legit every single member of the staff (aka astro) stops wtv they’re doing and 

“Y/N iS MJ hYunG’s gF ????!!!!?!!!”

And you’re like um wat 

And this is how you get to know all of them

And you never felt happier tbh 

Bc they are all so lovely 

Also bc you get to prank them 

You figured pranks were a thing after getting to know them all 

Sometimes you drop by to do your assignments there

Bc your house is too boring

And as an art student you need a lot of inspiration

Also bc MJ is there and is always ready to help you with studies

Other times you help them with serving bc the shop is getting more popular by the time bc of the quality of the food and the hostility of the staff

Also you’re prolly the only one Rocky allows to touch the pastries

He lets your help him with the decorations and even keeps your suggestions of new desserts in mind

JinJin seeks your and MJ’s help before making any changes in the store’s decor or theme 

You secretly help JinJin to become faster with the drinks 

And ofc you help with advertising the store 

Like you legit tell everyone you meet about it 

You’re basically just really happy you got to meet these cuties bc your life would 794261% be hella boring without them

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Lair review for Lallie on FR! :D Under the cut!

I always start with the first dragon in people’s lair, and yours is so lovely!!! A pure gen 2 imp with lovely matching colors and that perfect looking opal? What a perfect looking dragon to put at the front of your lair!! And hoooo that accent match on the opal?? I don’t have any imps, let alone any imps with opal, and that accent matches his opal so nicely that I almost thought that there was waaaaay more opal on his wings that there actually is haha, it’s just a lovely effect. I love the crimson silks on him, plus that lil different fillet! I saw someone else do that the other day and made a comment about “why don’t people do it more?” and I’m asking that even more with his lovely layering- It’s sucha  look (tm) The bits of pink from the twilight sylvan stuff also match his accent so nicely- this guy’s outfit is just so coherent and i adore it ahhh. His bio has some mystery acronyms in it, but I also see that he welcomes people to your clan in his quote box- if he your clan leader? What a great and fancy leader!!

Next is Felurian!! I can’t resist fancy pastely skydancers ahhhh. She’s so stunning... that orca iridescent is to die for. Gloom butterfly is so pretty too! becuase of her accent at a glance she seems kinda pastelly but her colors are much darker, huh? Are you ever planning on giving her a tert? all of her colors look so nice together, I bet she’d rock lace or something. Oh, and I see that you gened her up yourself in her bio! Dang, what a spoiled girl, given two gem genes from before having bar and daub. Her colors look great with those genes though, I’m guessing she was a long term project? She was well worth the gems and the wait though, she’s just stunning. I also love that spassow accent too, and it gives her a lovely splash of color on her mainly monochromatic scheme. I love the silk layering, too- the night sky with the gossamer under it matches orca so well it’s almost unbelievable! The slight hints of white are just. perfect. She looks like some kind of stunning mage, or something :0 Especially with those big antlers, they make her look almost otherworldly!! And gorgeous, can’t forget gorgeous.

Mythal next!! More night sky silks ahhhh. She’s so pretty too gosh, I love these fancy ladies of yours! Midnight/Mist/Iris is a fantastic pastel space colorscheme, one that would look right at home in my lair haha. I love the combo of the night sky silks and the black tulip flowerfall, they look really good together!! But most of all, hooo that accent!! It matches her colors so nicely, and more importantly, it gives her so many lore possibilites! I see that she has a wishlist in her bio, and no lore, but that accent makes her also seem like an otherworldly witch or demon. She and your lovely Skydancer above would make a lovely pair, with their similare apparel and color schemes- are they dating? that’d be cute hehe, dark otherworldly witch gfs. I can’t help but wonder what she’s holding, too? I know it’s just part of the accent but ahh the lore possibilities are delectable and temping. Also, that ice sprite is a great looking fam- but not as great as she looks!

Mihael is up next!! I’m weak for lovely purples, what can I say? xp And dangggg I know people sometimes throw around the word “ethereal” but like... this is the deinition of Ethereal right here. You could tell me this handsome boy is an Angel or heck, even a God and I wouldn’t even bat an eye! Oh man, I remember seeing that accent drop- it’s so lovely, and if I had any male wildclaws I would have bought a copy in a heartbeat. But this accent looks like it could have been made for him- that washed out pastel purple of platinum matches the dusty colors of the accent so well, but it doesn’t overshadow it, either- the accent really pops on top of the platinum. He’s a beautiful XXY, and I love the cream runes on him... so soft. He’s got lovely apparel, too. Those pieces of Silver Sylvan stuff is so nice on him, and The desert Dynasty stuff always looks good with platinum- and with his accent. The dove is a lovely touch, and I like how it’s branch kind of bleeds into the Tickled Hyacinth, that looks great. I also love the gossamer silk pieces- they’re not over powering, and just transparent enough to let you see through part of the silk to still see that lovely accent and make him even more matchy- he’s perfect!

Next up is another lovely Wildclaw, Fenharel! Now that’s what I call a good plant boy. The gently irishim greens look lovely- I don’t even usually like Crocodile or Fern, I thought his secondary was Seafoam when I was looking at his mini picture haha. He is just ROCKING that fest accent, it matches his Maize runes so nicely, and brings out this feeling of a flowery fairy prince, or a spirit who lives in a lake of lillies, or something like that. He’s got some apparel that matches Mihael, but it works in such a different way on him, and I love it! The Dove and the few pieces of gossamer silks remind me more of nature and faries than the angels and heavens they suggested on Michael. I saw in his bio that you gened him up, as well- you’ve put a lot of money into this lovely lair, huh? It seems well worth it though, every dragon is just so elegant and lovely, some of them are similare, but there’s also a ton of variety! I also love the familiar match he has, it adds to his princely aura to me, the very fancy perfectly color matched vustal just seems royal, you know? What a love pair they are!

Next up i took a look at another wildclaw rocking another lovely, flowery fest accent- Shae! Her accent reminds me of his a lot, and the two’s aesthetics compliment each other really well haha. And I see we have more gossamer silks, so I’m guessing it’s an apparel staple of yours? A very good choice, if I do say so my self. They’re so elegant and versatile! Plus, they’re perfect for this gal, since they match the pieces of white in her accent so nicely. She’s also rocking that silver sylvan wing lattice, and Those lovely tail rings! I love the mix-and-match fillet again too, it works well with the colors of her accent. And ahh that accent matches her so perfectly~ The wing and tail gradient fade into the colors of her wings and body seemlessly, and the whites and greens stand out on her nicely! That lets you bring in other colors of apparel really well too, especially with all the whites and silvers. She’s a work of art~

Next up is Lyllyth! this is just a small thing but you really have lovely sounding and lovely looking names in your lair, I really like them! They’re all very coherent and are just. really nice. it’s not usually something I notcied when I’m doing a review but I just really dig it, is all! Anyways, Lyllyth is yet another beautiful Dark cool color with lovely pastel purple, and it’s so good!! It’s a look I’m really fond of, but that I don’t feel like I see a lot of. Another night sky silks+black tulip flowerfall combo, and I love it just as much this time! They look so good together, and they look so good on her! She’s more purple than the other night sky silk wearing dragons I’ve looked at in your lair who have been darker blue, and I really love how her purpleness makes the silks appear more purple themselves, too. I also love her accent- and it’s another spassow haha, no surprises there. Spassow makes the loviest (and most expensive) pastel accents, huh? And wow, you’ve got so many night sky silks, adn jsut gem apparel in general in your lair! I can’t help but be a bit healous and a lot impressed!! And ahh she’s so impressive too haha

Next up is Arcurion! Man, the colors iridescent brings into the mulberry on him match his sanguine secondary really nicely! Not to mention the color match on his accent- another perfect use of a fest accent here in your lair, what else would I expect after the other ones? The deep reds and purples are great, and then I love the bits of gilded gold it brings in too! This guy is almost like the embodiment of crimson silks, huh? All gorgeous dark reds and deep purples with the great hint of gold! I bet he’d rock some crimson silks haha. His current apparel is jsut great too, though! I love the dusky rose stuff on him, not only does it match him well, but it also gives him an even more gilded look- especially the lovely gloves and stockings. So fancy! He’s got those great cobwebs, too, very spirit-ey, and I love the sword and scars! A very regal warrior. Ohhh and he has some lore, too!! Super nice! ^^ Ohhh so he’s made himself some powerful spiritual enemies, huh? That’s dangerous, man. I like the explanation for (I’m assuming) exalted hatchlings in the clan? Either way, I hope he’s able to clean up this mess he caused soon. Is that who gave him the scars, the Unnamed ones? He needs that sword to protect himself. I love the sword choice, it looks great! 

Next, flopsy caught my eye!! A very handsome XYY! You’ve got soooo many lovely doubles, wow! He’s a super cute pastel warrior of a level 25 :D The steampunk sets don’t get a lot of love, but he’s wearing a full set of the gold steampunk stuff and I think he’s really rocking it! It makes him look like a crazy inventor of a level 25, or just a very eclectic warrior. Either way, I think it looks good with his primary (especially the lovely wings!) and contrasts his double rose nicely. I’m not usually huge on okapi, but I think it’s in nice places to make it clear that he’s a lovely double without being too covered up by all his apparel. especially the faux stockings the okapi gives him on his fat little coatl legs, and the nice neck part! You can’t really see them through his protective goggles, but I also really like the fac that he’s got those lovely matching arcane eyes! A great looking boy~

I can spot storm glimmer, my favorite look, from a mile away, so Neptune caught my eye once I spotted his lovely, shining horns! Is he a water rep (with wind eyes, lol) or just a lovely watery boy? Either way, he’s very handsome! I love the aforementioned storm glimmer, and the navy butterfly is quite lovely too~ Plus the lighter Aqua iridescent (which partially matches his eyes, almost?)  all look really nice together, and are really reminiscent of the twice-dyed mantle he’s rocking, I feel like? He’s got similar light and dark blues too it, and he looks great in it! I also love the deepsea bulb- now THATS an apparel that doesn’t get a lot of love if I ever saw one. Makes him seem like a deepsea dweller though, who’s surrounded himself in a camoflague of fish with only his bulb to guide him as he goes hunting with that big fancy spear of his- it’s quite a look, and I bet he’d rock some flatfins too ahah... so expensive, I know the feel. Is he a fisherman or aquatic hunter? That’d be super cool- or maybe someone who hunts with maren? Or hunts maren... the possibilities are endless!

Next up is Lyre!~ She’s covered in such lovely blues ahh. Another lovely double!! And she’s decked out in even more white apparel- the gossamer silks and the dove make their repeat appearances I see :p I love the mantle and wings on her, though! She looks so lovely in them, and all of these big sweeping white apparel work really well for her peacekeeper lore~ I love her matching eyes, too! And speaking of lore, her lore is really nice! I love the familiar being her traveling companion, companion tie-ins to lore are always so great! She’s a nomad in lore who settles down for shortish periods of time- is she a traveling dragon? I’ve never done one or had one, but they always seem so cool ahh, a ton of fun! I love her art, too, especially that crisp looking second headshot- it’s lovely! She looks serene, and it really emphasizes the lovely colors iridescent brings out in a sky primary on skydancers, the super soft purple is jsut to die for. And so is she!!

Last but certainly not least is another very fancy skydancer- Aveline!! Oh man, orca crystal is the nicest cry/face by a long shot, and she wears it so nicely!! She’s yet another lovely double, and the platinum spines match her orca colors so well! Orca cherub is also like... to die for, and I love the contrast in its swirly swooping patterns. Her arcane eyes stand out ever so slightly on her face, and since it’s the only real color she has on her, they’re very piercing, it looks just lovely! The pristine stuff is just perfect on her, accentuating the lovely whites in Orca and making her look oh so elegant! Plus, the Fairy vibe that the silver sylvan stuff gives her makes her into a super magical, super gorgeous musician.  What kind of music does she play? Magical music, or just for entertainment? Either way, I bet she does a great job!! 

that’s it!! thank you so much for ordering a review from me, you’ve got a gorgeous lair!! I wrote a ton but all your dragons were jsut so nice adn clearly had so much thought and effort put into coordinating them :0c

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NCAA Hockey 101: Will Butcher's Hobey candidacy and the shortcomings of college stats

PROVIDENCE, RI – DECEMBER 30: Will Butcher #4 of the Denver Pioneers skates against the Providence College Friars during NCAA hockey at the Schneider Arena on December 30, 2016 in Providence, Rhode Island. The game ended in a 2-2 tie. (Photo by Richard T Gagnon/Getty Images)

Spoiler alert: There’s basically no way Denver defenseman Will Butcher wins the Hobey Baker award on Friday.

But it’s not his fault.

Butcher has arguably been the best defenseman in college hockey over the past two seasons, compiling 68 points in 80 games (and counting) during that time as his Denver Pioneers went to two straight Frozen Fours. For any defenseman to end his career with more than 100 points is impressive enough, but for Butcher to also be perhaps one of the nation’s premier shutdown guys over that time speaks to his overall quality.

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So why won’t he win the Hobey? The argument for him in this hockey world that focuses increasingly on Tangibles is that his contributions are Not Tangible. That’s a bit different from saying they’re Intangible, but the shortcomings of college hockey stat-keeping will likely prevent defensemen from winning the Hobey any time soon unless they go on a Brent Burns/Erik Karlsson run where they post well over a point a game.

Look at the point totals for the guys in the Hobey Hat Tricks the last few years. Lots of numbers starting with “sixty-” or “seventy-” or even “eighty-” makes it hard to argue that a defenseman whose point total starts with a “thirty-” should really be in serious conversation for the award.

The highest-scoring defenseman of the year this season was Adam Fox, who posted 1.15 points per game. The year before that, Ethan Prow had 1.03. Mike Reilly and Joey LaLeggia both had 1.08 in 2014-15. The year before, Steve Weinstein’s 1.03 led the nation. And in 2012-13, George Hughes had 0.97 to pace all blueliners nationally. It’s hard to keep up that kind of high-end production (for blue liners) and say it should be in the same category as guys who have an extra 0.75 points per game above and beyond that.

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Butcher is the first defenseman to even make the Hobey Hat Trick since 2009, when Matt Gilroy won the award. That season, Gilroy only scored 0.82 points per game, a number that was weirdly just 13th among defensemen. In reality, Gilroy got more of a lifetime achievement award because he made a big fuss about sticking around to play his senior year — when he was about 24 years old, and he did it for a transparent reason: to get a UFA contract unburdened by rookie maximums — and anchored arguably the best D corps in recent college hockey history (every guy in their top six went on to play at least a handful of games in the NHL).

And before Gilroy, Denver’s Matt Carle and Minnesota’s Jordan Leopold (who both won the Hobey in 2006 and 2002, respectively) were the only other finalists from the blue line since 1995. Even as recently as 2009, hockey was, uh, viewed very differently than it is now, but you can see how difficult it is to get any defenseman even seriously considered.

Where this is an institutional failing of college hockey is pretty simple: There is no real way to track every single player’s 5-on-5 impact in terms of shots or attempts — all we have in terms of on-ice plus-minus is goals for and against. In addition, the vast majority of teams don’t make time on ice stats available, and plenty of coaches get cagey if you even ask about that sort of thing.

You can say things like, “Will Butcher obviously plays a ton of minutes against top competition,” and citing the eye test when it comes to things like getting the puck up the ice, limiting scoring chances, taking over games, and so on. But it’s not quantifiable in any real way. If you’re not a person like me whose job is to know this stuff and whose interest is deep enough that they’ll really dig into this, there would be only one way to know Butcher’s on-ice GF% at both 5-on-5 and in all situations, and that would be clicking on every box score and counting yourself. And hoping you didn’t make a mistake.

The best we can do, then, is look at scoring by game state and see how much of a difference-maker a certain player is. For instance, using College Hockey Inc.’s indispensable (but still not sufficient) stats engine, you can find out that only 16 of Butcher’s total points were scored at “full strength.” But even then you have to keep in mind that for some inexplicable reason, the stats system used across college hockey considers 6-on-5 and 5-on-6 situations as “full strength,” which it very much is not. So then you can throw out another three empty-net points Butcher collected.

If you go to College Hockey News, you can get a little deeper into things, and find out Butcher attempted 132 shots at 5-on-5 this season, and 225 overall. You can find out how many he got on net, how many were blocked, and so on. It’s helpful but it’s not as helpful as it could be.

Part of the problem is that college hockey teams simply can’t be like the NHL and have a small army of people whose sole job is to track plus-minus for every shot attempt in every situation all game long, for every game of the season. It’s just impossible.

So you get stuck saying things like, “Is Will Butcher the best defenseman in the country? I mean, probably, but I can’t be sure.” And it’s too bad because maybe, all things being equal, he’s not only the best defenseman in the country, but the best overall player in the country. That we’ve had just four defensemen considered one of the top two or three players in the country in 22 years tells you plenty about how hard it is to evaluate defensemen, but even now with all the strides we’ve made in evaluating the game, the college level lags seriously behind.

It’s a detriment to Butcher, who’s amazing and has been for a few years. It’s been a detriment to literally dozens of electrifying defensemen before him. It’ll continue to be a detriment to plenty of them who come after, unless the people behind the stats infrastructure in college hockey decide to change a few things.

And if they do, the good news is that the way games are tracked hasn’t been altered in a very long time. As such, a change to how today’s stats are kept and published will make all previous stats both more accurate and more telling.

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It’s too bad about Butcher, though. He’s certainly the best player on what has been the best team in the country for the vast majority of the season, but his big mistake in all this was to be a defenseman.

That’s not the best way to win the Hobey, Will! Come on!

A somewhat arbitrary ranking of teams which are pretty good in my opinion only (and just for right now but maybe for a little longer too?)

1. Harvard (idle) 2. Minnesota-Duluth (idle) 3. Denver (idle) 4. Notre Dame (idle) 5. UMass Lowell (idle) 6. Boston University (idle) 7. Penn State (idle) 8. Air Force (idle) 9. Minnesota (idle) 10. North Dakota (idle)

Ryan Lambert is a Puck Daddy columnist and occasionally covers the NCAA for College Hockey News. His email is here and his Twitter is here.

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