#let alone a queer woman

[ghostbusterscantcatchme]

men when their show has a lesbian subplot where one charachter sacrifices everything for the person she loves and is slightly hypocritical:

[invisible-pink-toast]

“The woman dies.

She dies to provide a plot twist. She dies to develop the narrative. She dies for cathartic effect. She dies because no one could think of what else to do with her. Dies because there weren’t any better story ideas around. Dies because her death was the very best idea that anyone could come up with.

‘I’ve got it! Let’s kill her off!’

‘Yes! Her death will solve everything!’

‘Okay! Let’s hit the pub!’

And so, the woman dies. The woman dies so the man can be sad about it. The woman dies so the man can suffer. She dies to give him a destiny. Dies so he can fall to the dark side. Dies so he can lament her death. As he stands there, brimming with grief, brimming with life, the woman lies there in silence. The woman dies for him. We watch it happen. We read about it happening. We come to know it well.”

- The Woman Dies by Aoko Matsuda (translated by Polly Barton)

[ratatatastic]

lmaoooo maffhew wanting the knot immediately and having to wait for sasha to catch up with that is so deeply funny like. this omega is not subtle and you’re not a stupid alpha babe! can only imagine what benny has to say to maffhew about it once he catches on and stops banging his head against a wall

idiots to lovers is always great but especially when its two people who would be hitched with 10 kids by now if they stopped being dumb for a single second like its that easy and yet...

to me they very much fall around the same time (infatuation at first scent if you will) just that sasha takes some time to get there not because he's dumb (okay he's a little dumb) but in the sense that its like "this person is very interested in me, i can see and recognise that but theres so much cognitive dissonance in my brain right now between knowing that intrinsically and finding that hard to believe so i unintentionally play dumb because obviously i'm reading too much into things it cant be me they're interested in haha that'd crazy but they're being awfully touchy and flirty with me wow"

but also it takes two to tango and we have to acknowledge that and this is when i would love to bring up the ways in which this man decides is the best way to go about that because he is a catholic school girlie... there's so much hilarity to be had here especially because his flirting is very uh how you say... a little ass backwards if you will especially considering dynamics

"I make it a point to keep the door closed when we're alone in a room together! That's basically a clear invitation that I'm down to fuck!!! Im basically asking to be ragdolled on his knot!!!"

and Benny just pinches the bridge of his nose like "I don't know how to explain to you in a way you'll understand that not everyone went to Catholic school."

But saying that Sasha does side-eye the door knob heavily when Maffhew goes over to close it the first time and he starts sweating like he just got dragged into a game of 7 Minutes in Heaven he did not sign up for and he's 13 again and oh god he got paired with a really cute girl, and he hasn't even had his first real kiss yet and-

And then absolutely nothing happens because Maffhew is just waiting with a polite expectant smile (because his work here is done, he did the heavy lifting know it's Sasha's turn) and this is when Sasha's dynamic classes training kicks in and he basically scolds himself for even assuming in the first place because this is clearly a show of trust (correct) not an invitation for extra circular activities (incorrect buzzer noise) and it basically becomes "This Omega really trusts me, I'm honoured especially as Pack Leader that I'm able to be so accepted into such a private space with the inherent knowledge that I will not encroach their boundaries whatsoever because consent is verbal, this is not in any way an invitation to take advantage of them this is deep platonic trust I will guard with my life :]"

and if you listen closely you can hear the lovely sounds of Maffhew bashing his head into a wall about how much of a gentleman Sasha is but also COME ONNNNNN... you know... once Maffhew realises what's happening which (looks at my watch) is not due for another few months really

Battle of wills: unstoppable force (maffhews catholic school understanding of dynamic interactions) vs immovable object (overseas alpha cotillion classes)

And if you think it's an Oh! An overseas dynamic thing! It's not. The Euros are watching the horrible car crash in front of them and doing absolutely nothing about it because it's none of their business, but they will stare at it... maybe judge it a bit but definitely are observing from the tall grass.

and I'm also not saying that luosty lundy forsy and bobby have a current running bet of how long it'll take for maffhew to break sasha in but i'm also not not saying that... luosty goaded lundy in the midst of a gossip session ("It has to be 3 months, right?) forsy happened to be around so lundy turned to him for advice ("7 months.") and maybeeee bobby overheard from all the way over from his stall and puts in his two cents for what it's worth ("6. Captain nice but not that nice. Very impatient." "So 3!" "No. Impatience makes him double the time, and wait longer. 6 months.") (lundy finally settles on a good 5 months because he's indecisive)

And Sasha does eventually pick up everything maffhew is throwing down... eventually... and when he does it becomes more so I want to court this omega the way they deserve I will take this slow and romance them sweetly :) *smash cut to maffhew caterwauling like a cat in heat*

but also once again its not like maffhew is helping sasha in any way this is idiot4idiot and benny would like to enjoy the car crash with the euros but unfortunately that's his soulmate, thats his bestie, his littermate from birth who has been weaned on the same teat as they climbed over each other to get to it, the first girl you kissed in your childhood bedroom because somehow you started play fighting on the bed because she was like i could totally pin you down easy and then she does and you always noticed how beautiful she was but shes even more gorgeous when she's pinning your wrists to your hannnah montana duvet you promised yourself youd changed out before she came over but you forget and well she teased you about it and you cant help but giggle about how perfect this all is and it seems that the natural conclusion to this is to taste the strawberry lipgloss of her lips because whats a kiss between besties huh its tacky and sticky and it tastes like summer and just other apt metaphors to put here about the inherent -isms of their relationship that i nearly cant put to words properly other than girls having fun (they are fucking)

and well anyways benny is watching and he has a lot of things to say about how its been proceeding so far

"You should really use your words."

"I am!"

"Right because smelling like a fucking perfume shop in the middle of October is using your words."

"This usually works with most Alphas okay!"

"Sasha isn't most Alphas."

"Tell me about it." Matthew grouses before he peeks over to Sam, looking up from beneath his eyelashes—the exact way he knows both endears him to Sam but also absolutely miffs him all the same, "Worked on you, didn't it?"

"Oh, is that what we're doing right now? We're calling getting a lapful of a preening O in preheat in the middle of a roadie a normal way to go about these things."

"It worked didn't it?" Matthew reiterates.

"It would work better if you use—"

"Okay! Alright!! I get it!!!" He does not.

like benny here is unfortunately an active listening participant in the going ons of the fuckery if not because hes involved by proxy because of maffhew because who else will hold his hair back as he calls him a dumb bitch you know

[uchuujinu]

[vaguehotels]

had the most braindead repetitive conversation/argument with my parents. buzz cuts are too masculine but if you dye a design on it it become effeminate which is bad because then you look weak and if youre weak then society falls apart (all societies ever that have fallen apart for any reason are actually because of feminine men) and we start sacrificing babies. and also all mental illness is invented because only 4 people had anxiety in the 90s and covid was made up so that we would all become gay and trans and then the government can control us better and be joe biden's little sex slaves. and also i need to keep my hair long because my father finds it attractive. what

[noxexistant]

thinking about. aro oscar. being told by his & morris’ parents and wiesel and everybody else his whole life that he’s going to have to stop coddling his brother someday, he’s going to have to leave his brother entirely, because he’s going to have to marry.

find a woman and marry her, start his own family - like his real family of morris wouldn’t or doesn’t count anymore. and oscar is as confused as he is angry, because why the hell would he ever leave morris at all, but particularly to go…find a girl. marry her, live with her, be with her until one of them dies. have kids. he doesn’t want that. does anyone want that? is he supposed to want that?

he can’t conceptualise the type of relationship that seems to be expected of him - expected of everyone. seeing glimpses of it confuses him, in passers-by on the streets or the newsies at work or in characters in books, and he doesn’t even have his own parents to reflect on as a familiar example because they never loved each other either. but he’ll ignore it just like he ignores every other expectation and bit of normalcy him and morris can’t fit into, another bit of the outside world that doesn’t seem to have room for them. they have each other, just them - that’s all they’ve ever needed.

but then morris starts getting crushes on guys as he gets older. his gaze lingers on them, and he starts smiling all shy when they look his way when he never used to smile at anyone but oscar, and oscar’s even more confused, but he also feels betrayed. because he thought it was him and morris both that were wrong, like it always is and always has been, but maybe it is just him. something missing from him that morris got to keep.

not that it matters, he knows, with some strange mix of bitterness and gratitude. they’ll both have to stay like this anyway - just the two of them together. because, even if he wanted to, morris could never be with a boy the way they’re both supposed to be with girls. he couldn’t marry one, couldn’t even try and flirt with one the way most guys flirt with girls. he don’t seem to like girls either, just like oscar don’t, so it doesn’t matter. they’ll stick with each other. maybe not both wrong in the same way this time, but still both wrong, like they always are.

oscar keeps telling himself that, as morris’ gaze keeps sticking to guys as they pass, the newsies as they chatter and laugh, men at their stalls and shops, his eyes alight with longing and heartache and loneliness like oscar can’t soothe. can’t even feel himself. so he tells morris to stop it instead - he can’t be like that, they can’t be like that. it’s no use staring at what he can’t have, just like oscar used to tell him when he’d be staring in the windows of fancy candy makers and toy shops. he keeps pulling morris away from men who try to talk to him, and watches him like a hawk when he’s interacting with the newsies around his age.

they’ll be alone together.

[steevejr]

i dont wnt to touch that post about how queer media gets scrutinized far more than het media because on one hand that is true but on the other hand....... queer media SHOULD be scrutinized a degree more /IF/ its marketed as QUEER, DIVERSE media for QUEERS while simultaneously absolutely refusing to even BREATHE in the direction of transgender and lesbian women.

[mielicy]

the US government is militarizing residential and public/community areas as we speak bro wth are we doing

[eclipsecrowned]

going into a character's tag finding people thinking they're being allies when really they're being aphobes. weeps.

[linda-rose]

god every time I think too much about this my brain wants to explode a little, but going into teaching as a nonbinary/genderqueer person is really going to be something huh

[demadogs]

applying to a job rn but yeaterday i was gathering clips for a gifset and i keep checking everything a thousand times bc im terrified im gonna accidentally send them a clip of mike wheeler

[ionkent]

claudia de pointe du lac im so sorry i wasnt your mother

[frumdyke]

genuinely forgot that there are people who see cishet as the default which like yeah i guess is setting myself up for disappointment but its never a fun thing to hear from a rebbetzen innit. i mean maybe it means ive mostly surrounded myself with good people ?? or at least people who know that there may be a faggot among them ?? lmao

[pixelizedprince]

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[gaogaigoatgrrl]

i hope that in the wake of predstrogen/predesterone's back-to-back deletion we don't forget about the ongoing building wave of seemingly organic transmisogyny from the userbase leading up to it, some of which may or may not have been the result of terf psyops but all of which certainly wouldn't have been possible without the eager participation of a significant proportion of users, including but probably not limited to:

the entire concept of transandrophobia (if this offends you, think long and hard about why you want so badly for it to be real)

the ongoing backlash against the terms tme and tma (if they offend you, think long and hard about why they might have practical value to trans women and people with similar social positionality)

the ongoing trend of trans women's blogs getting flagged on the flimsiest of pretenses and generally receiving far more scrutiny for "adult content" than anyone else's

the seeming unironic revival of "baeddel" as a slur for outspoken trans women, on the basis of a long-dead clique that, ironically enough, self-applied the long-dead (and tbf, etymologically questionable) slur from the middle ages to reclaim it

the entire "trans women should be fucking trans men instead of complaining about transmisogyny" genre of post

the backlash when tgirls finally started calling out the aforementioned bullshit

the copypasted anons sent to several trans women (many of whom were lesbians) sexually harassing them and threatening corrective rape for calling out the aforementioned bullshit

the backlash when tgirls called the aforementioned bullshit sexual harassment

the expansion of flexible queer label use (which to be clear, i am generally all for) to include "afab trans women", muddying the waters and making transmisogyny harder to articulate

the backlash when tgirls started calling out the aforementioned bullshit

the aita incident in which a trans woman described a cis woman claiming to be a trans woman in a group chat and giving other trans women terrible medical advice based on no actual qualifications or experience, and got a huge backlash for warning them about the aforementioned bullshit despite the stakes of, you know, following terrible medical advice

everything from the sixth point onward happened within the past... week? two weeks? my sense of time is a bit fuzzy. who knows what the rest of this week has in store?

people on this website are so incredibly hostile to trans women even being able to name our own oppression, let alone resist it in any concrete way. and i know it's not just this website. don't you get tired of the crab bucket bullshit? holy fucking shit.

like, i've been lucky, i've overwhelmingly managed to dodge it (probably on account of frankly being a pretty boring and inconsistent poster). this time last year, i was actually bored that i didn't have anons in my inbox to argue with. but i've seen it happen to so many other women now, it's absurd. even if it never hits you personally, you can never shake the awareness that it's happening to so many of the cool girls on here, people you like and whose posts you laugh at and who you look up to. they just kinda seem to drop like flies over time. don't you get tired?

[homunculus-argument]

Songs by the band Leevi and the Leavings, in no specific order:

Man getting drunk alone makes an unwelcome midnight phone call to a woman he hasn't seen for years/decades. She still doesn't want him.

I have purchased a new pair of fancy fashionable trousers and now everyone can see how fashionable I am.

Country boy fell in love with a city girl, and rides to the city to try to find her. People are laughing at his horse.

This sweet, adorable little baby girl looks remarkably like the man living in the apartment downstairs but let's ignore that for now.

No time for romance, look at how many cool home appliances we have now.

1980s rural LGBT youth who has no words for who and what they are, and is only painfully aware of their own ambiguous, undefined queerness, can no longer stand the oppressive, small-minded judgement of their hometown and must leave it all behind.

I am drunk on Christmas.

Everyone in this office wants me carnally.

Big muscle mommy does whatever she wants with me.

A couple buys the house of their dreams, only to discover that the house is rotting and there are no jobs around, and their dream life is devoured in the grinding jaws of poverty.

I am going back to North Karelia, to drink beer in sweatpants while watching the sun rise.

This dude keeps crashing his car because he wants to be a rally driver.

Overcome by hopelessness of their financial situation, a married couple decides to commit double-suicide and take their kids with them.

I am a normal man who wears normal pants.

I regret not telling that spectacularly fat woman how badly I wanted to fuck her.