#lesbian fetishization

[climbingupbestican]

“ I really have a problem with the duplicitous approach that couples have, to move under the radar in queer or progressive sexuality spaces," says Zoë—adding that she feels it "erases genuine girl-on-girl desire" by having "women kind of orbiting male desire, only existing to serve that male desire and the male gaze." MIC. DROP.” - Anonymous Reddit User

[ithappensoffstage]

I am genuinely so worried for all the young horny dykes going into adulthood thinking there's something "problematic" / "wrong" with them for being horny because fucking tiktok lesbians think any horny dyke content is "male gaze fetishistic"

[wigglybug]

hey there. if you see art of a guy with boobs being sexy, drawn by a trans artist (yes, ALSO a guy with boobs), and immediately accuse them of fetishization, maybe stop to consider what it is about a guy with boobs being sexy that makes you so uncomfortable. And also, what fetish means.

cause the discomfort youre experiencing is most certainly NOT because of any harmful depiction of transness, from which the trans community surely needs to be protected: youre uncomfortable seeing normal everyday transness (you are transphobic)

trans people exist and boy a lot of us sure do like to be sexy, many of us have boobs, lots of us are fat, and if you are made uncomfortable by any of that then you need to unpack some stuff about yourself. also look up the definition of fetish, idiot.

[shadowhaert]

people already complaining about love lies bleeding are about to piss me off. this is the closest representation we’ve had to butch4butch relationships in popular media and yall can’t just shut up and let butches have this for one second

[lgbtqtext]

[climbingupbestican]

🙄 I just had a convo with a woman who has a husband (who lets her date women but not men) who only wants to date single women. She said she only wants to date single women so she doesn’t feel jealous of their husbands. Is the obsession with harassing single bi women hoping they are ‘unicorns’ because of this? Are these couples less ‘threatened’ when another man doesn’t ‘own’ their pursuits? I remember when I had a HER I put in all caps in my bio that I was monogamous & just looking for a gf to love & cherish & had 0 interest in being in a open relationship of any kind but I was still constantly harassed with this kind of stuff.

[aman1taverna]

reddit has a few good qualities but god sometimes ....

LEAVE LESBIANS ALONE!!!

people really act like they don't know what homosexuality is anymore

[idolomantises]

I was gonna draw a comic about 2-3 women kissing but I randomly got hit with “oh no what if Twitter thinks I’m fetishizing lesbians” because despite being a lesbian myself, I get that thrown a lot at me.

And then I went “woman sexy. lesbians sexy. the people who complain can swallow glass”

[veraberetta]

damn you DunMeshi look what you did to me :/ 🥺

[farmerlesbian]

I'm glad there's starting to be conversation on this webbedsite about the fetishization and constant sexualization and sexual harassment of trans women and transfem nonbinary people.

the solution to transphobia (and transmisogyny particularly) making trans women out to be shameful, gross, disgusting, repulsive, inherently sexual, dehumanized, a fetish, and a joke is not to.... lean in to that!! yes of course, some people are into it. there will always be someone who is down to be objectified! sometimes objectification can be hot! sometimes being the object of someone's fetish can be fun! but that's not everyone, and one person being down shouldn't be taken as a go-ahead to make these statements and "jokes". it shouldn't be the default or assumed method of interaction. it should not be the only way you are capable of expressing yourself around trans women. it should not be the immediate and only answer you come up with to try to show that you're not a transphobe. and it absolutely should not be the response to transfems speaking up about transmisogyny.

it is unacceptable to respond to criticisms of (trans)misogyny by telling (trans) women to get over it and stop complaining and just have sex (with you). the path to unity, community, coalition-building is through genuine listening and concern, real care and respect and love, interrogating ones own biases and misconceptions and misjudgment, not through dismissal, disrespect, ill-placed attempts at humor, lateral aggression and punching down, fetishization, sexualization, and objectification. just, take a moment to think about the implications, self reflect, and consider whether the comments are adding to harmful stereotypes. consider whether the recipient is open to hearing it. consider why it's funny to you.

[ohposhers]

why is it that youre a lesbian but all you do is fetishize gay relationships based off of how you perceive floyd & riffs dynamic as well as how much you fetishize him

i almost didnt reply to this cause i think you're a loser but my buddy made this meme so i had to reply </3

Me when I'm genda fluid (chucky voice) and draw the canonic make up wearing pink troll in mascara and fishnets standing next to the scruffy drummer troll (its fetishization cause he's taller than floyd) if i give floyd a beard will you finally be happy

[totally-legit]

btw if you're gonna call yourself a "girls' girl" or whatever you have to support dykes, trans women, and butches. yes, even the ugly ones.

[sirpseudonymphoapish]

We need to stop sanitizing spaces that are meant to be weird. this goes out mostly to the queer community. the word queer literally means strange or unusual. we are SUPPOSED to be different. you do not have the right to claim that you are "queer" and then shit on the people in your own community because they're weird and different. sometimes people's labels overlap and dont make sense. sometimes people dress weird. sometimes people have weird interests. sometimes people have weird kinks. sometimes people have relationships that go against traditional standards (hence the whole idea of being queer in the first place.) sometimes people are ugly. sometimes people are old. sometimes people are just fucking weirdo freaks and thats the whole beauty of it!!!!! if you, as a gay person, have the audacity to make fun of the "cringe" gays, whether that be because they use xenogenders, they dress in bright colors, they like stupid things, they're furries or attracted to objects or whatever the fuck, they're simply having fun and being themselves and NOT HURTING ANYONE,,,,,,,, then you do not belong in queer spaces. because queer spaces are safe spaces. the people that faught for your right to be here today were sick freaks and that will continue on for every generation of queer people. if you want the right to let queerness exist, then you need to get over yourself and let ALL queerness exist. case closed.

anyway this was a very dumbed down version of a rant thats been stuck in my head for months now. enjoy

[bi-dykes]

“What do you mean there’s still so much biphobia in fan spaces? Bisexuals are like some of the most popular characters!”

Yeah, and they either get treated like this:

Or like this:

“Biphobia isn’t real” neither are your braincells

[skelespidey]

why do i as a trans man yearn to be in a lesbian relationship like bro you literally hate the fact that youre born a girl gtfo

[lockandkiki]

My mom just hypno cuddle fucked me so good that it stopped an anxiety spiral. Idk how or why she did that. All the bad things seem so far away right now.