#learning from elders

[grazelandfarm]

Growing up my grandma always sent us outside during the day to play. This was in the growing age of video games and cell phones, neither of which I really never took an interest in. You would wake up in the early morning around 8 am and change into “play clothes” and head out into the backyard- shoes were typically optional.

Our backyard was like Neverland. Trees and bushes to hide in and around, mulberry and plum trees to pick snacks off of during the day. Drinking from the garden hose was just what ya did because you weren’t going to be running in and out of the front door while grandma was trying to clean or working on canning vegetables from her garden.

Grandma’s garden was beautiful. Nestled up against the back side of the house I can remember seeing tulips, pansies, and my absolute favorite, her moon flowers. Large white flowers that only stayed open for the first few minutes of my time outside in the morning, but were the size of my head at night when they bloomed. While I don’t have any photos of Grandma’s garden, it lives safely in my memories and I think about it often.

That was just the flowers however, Grandma had tons of vegetables growing too. Tomatoes, peppers, onions, squash- you name it she grew it. Something small that I also remember was that no matter how many times she washed her hands, grandma’s fingernails always had garden dirt under them- which should be gross, but it was only because she really did spend all her time tending to her garden and her plant babies.

-Batts

**Photos are AI-Generated since photos of my childhood home/ garden and grandmother don't exist.

[fastlane-freedom]

The Timeless Wisdom of Grandparents: Lessons In Digital Age

In the modern, fast-paced world, where technology evolves at an unprecedented speed and societal norms are constantly shifting, there is a source of wisdom that remains steadfast and enduring: the wisdom of grandparents. Grandparents are the unsung heroes of our families, the bearers of invaluable knowledge and experience that can guide us through life’s complexities. Their timeless wisdom…

[wise-blue-cookies]

Dick, training baby robin: If a guy in white looks like a wannabe Batman shows up, you start throwing things at him and spray water in Bruce's face and tell him " Doomed yaoi is not the way to go"

Robin!Jason: Why would I need to do that ??

Dick , w/ a thousand yard stare: You don't wanna know...

[oncillabrigade]

Someday, Damian is going to outpace Tim height-wise. He'll be at least a couple inches taller, because Damian's parents are both tall(ish) while Tim has done everything in his power short of getting an Ed Elric-style arm to stunt his own growth.

Once that happens, Damian will uncover his greatest power of all, a power he had only dreamt of before now, a power possessed by Superboy himself. Because once Dami is even a centimeter over Tim's head, this will occur:

Tim: Nice try, [insert rogue name], but you've officially been busted by Red Robin and the boy wonder himself.

Damian: Why does your name come first?

Tim: I'm older.

Damian:

Damian: *opens mouth*

Damian: *draws the biggest breath of his life*

Damian: I'M TALLER!!!!!

Unfortunately for Damian, he is not Jon, and Tim is not ten, and therefore, Tim has a comeback.

Tim: Name a single culture where height is a basis for authority and we'll talk.

Damian is devastated. He lashes out. They have their biggest argument in years. It gets physical. It gets vicious.

And yes, the rogue does get away while they fight.

[absolutechaosss]

Oh my god I saw someone saying that Somerton is a good reason to not always listen to elder queers a take that is so insufferable. One. "Elder" queers were some of the first people to see something was up with Somerton and encourage more critical thinking. Two. He's what we're counting as an elder queer?? Him?? The Mario franchise is older than him let's calm down

[remembertheplunge]

My name is Lew Wentz.

I am a 69 year old gay criminal defense lawyer. I have been keeping journals for 47 years as of September 14, 2024.. I am writing a book based on the journals.

I came out as a gay man in 1984. I was married to a woman then. I left the marriage after telling her I was gay.

My younger sister, Zoe, who I was very close to, died rather suddenly of pancreatic cancer in May of 2023. She gave me permission to blog the last two weeks of her life. Those blogs run from May 1 to May 14, 2023.

I journaled my journey through the turbulent 1980's and 1990's. During that time, I was pretty vocal about being gay. I volunteered to help people with aids through their illness and death. And, I believe because of this, I was fired from my job as a deputy Public Defender in Modesto California. I also documented the 12 year relationship I had with my partner, Jim, who died in 2009.

I wrote pretty much daily about these events and many others. I never intended for the entries to be made public. But, I now think they should be, as they weave what I believe to be our common story of what it's been like to be out, human and gay in the past four decades.

And, as I journaled, I developed ideas and ways to journal and wrote about them in the journals. I discuss the impact journaling has had on me. And, the amazing revelation reviewing journal entries for the blog and book of just how incredible our lives have been. Memory fades. The journal details do not.

My hope is that , after reading the blogs, and maybe some day the book, you too will become addicted to journaling. Your life on paper will amaze you down the line.

My blog became one and one half years old on August 5, 2024.

[dirty-bosmer]

“You are a true daughter of Sithis. Everything you touch dies."

His Silencer just killed the entirety of the Black Hand and he doesn't know whether to be mad or 🥵 about it

[goldkirk]

hey this isn’t aimed at anyone in particular but I’m saying it for the record here: if I tell you no, please stop messaging me about fundraisers and mutual aid.

I get enough messages that it’s impossible for me to keep up without devoting at least half an hour each day, when I’m not even on tumblr that long most days. Me having a boundary about this isn’t a moral failing, it’s a lifeboat for me on my own blog.

In my personal life I’m already advocating and donating literally as much as I can spare. This is not me not caring, it’s just me not willing to interact with that on the one place I go online to not interact with irl news and world events for the most part.

I cannot be upset all the time. I cannot be upset everywhere. I cannot use all my emotional and mental energy fielding my own upset from ongoing events. My options are to hold boundaries about this or stop coming online at all.

I’m all for sharing information and signal boosting to reasonable extents, but the scale of it this year is so large and so enduring that it is literally not possible to for me to participate on every account I have. I’ve previously shared links to Gaza eSIM donations and a major hub of verified Go Fund Mes here and elsewhere online. We, the online humans, know how to look those things up ourselves by now. There are many, many people choosing to do advocacy work, and right now, I can’t be one of them.

If you’re extremely upset when I tell you I can’t share/donate right now about a Gaza family or personal fundraiser you ask me to share here, just unfollow and block me. That’s what those buttons are for. Protect your own emotions and energy and get me off your feed instead of staying upset and continuing to engage with online people or content that upsets you.

Please don’t send repeated angry messages based on manufactured purity politics and moral outrage into my messages and inbox when I exercise the right to run my own blog.

[pinnithin]

enver gortash fascinates me from the perspective of his relationship with the dark urge because like, as far as i know his alliance with them is one of the very few he didn’t actively despise. the guy was sold into slavery by his own parents (who tried to justify it by saying their child was a hateful monster and anyone would have done the same) and spent his formative years employed by a devil who gets off on gratuitous levels of suffering and manipulation. and then once he's escaped that and built himself up so he can never be used and enslaved again he meets this bhaalspawn who also had to adapt and survive a violent and manipulative environment for years by becoming the monsters who raised them.

gortash sees how the dark urge has risen to command armies and slaughter hundreds in the same way he outfoxed raphael and ruthlessly controls the people in his employ, and after earning and owning his reputation as a tyrant heres another person who might actually have like, a shared lived experience. not exactly a friend, because people like them can't afford to have friends, but someone who at least understands. and he willingly works with them on this plan to enslave the sword coast and agrees to share power with them.

and then orin lobotomizes them, puts a tadpole in their head, and leaves them for dead at moonrise.

like, can you imagine. youre working with the first person you see eye to eye with and prooooobably arent plotting to actively sabotage (or, at least would hesitate to do so) and the rug just gets yanked out from under them by their own sister, and now you're stuck with her because the plan still has to move along. and as the days go by a group of adventurers start to screw up your plot right when baldur's gate is within your grasp, and you learn that among them is your old almost-friend who you actually liked and respected - and they have no memory of you whatsoever. oh, and on top of that they're rolling with people you've actively fucked over and want to kick your ass.

did it hurt for him to learn this? did he ever think about how things could have been different? did he think, you were supposed to be my ally, my friend, someone who actually understands that becoming a monster is the only way to keep yourself safe and in control. we were going to rule together. and now you're ride or die with this squad of people you've only known for a few weeks at best, and you want me dead. you don't even remember me. you don't even remember yourself.

[halothanic]

some little fanarts for @wispstalk since his work "idle in their thrones" has absolutely captured me. i'll be so sad when i finish reading, it's been a daily treat for me for the past week or so. i love tanis so much lol, but i just had to draw coradri too!

my bestie @ieillorien got me into TES by osmosis last year and i just haven't been able to get oblivion (OR MARTIN) off my mind, especially their interpretation of it, along with their oc. it's been a true treat swapping gay star-crossed high fantasy love stories (whew, what a mouthful) and i'm so glad they pointed me in the direction of this work. i'm convinced having summits on this stuff is one of the finer things in life and i never take it for granted

[mothymoon]

He's coming back he's coming back he's gonna be playable

I'm not sure if that means he's alive or if he's just playable despite being dead. I'm gonna pretend he's alive.

[bywandandsword]

The amount of nonbinary people I've encountered that in some way relate their gender to deer is not insignificant, and I wonder why that is. Everyone always talks about nonbinary people and frogs but i think there's something here with the deer

[gay-jewish-bucky]

geeee those things are totally equally interchangeable, random tumblr user who thinks okay the wish for the death of twice as many jews as hitler killed who totally knows the real definition of zionism

[babygirldilf]

"COWARDS. COWARDS!!" I yell at the screen for the 64553635446th time at yet another pair of fictional guys who should just hold hands and kiss. They will never hold hands. They will never kiss. The series has been over for years now.

[aesfocus]

On the subject of needing to improve on my art; this has been in my drafts forever. You'll remember I had been making sticker sheets to mail to folks?

The printer I used at the time hated browns so I kept having to adjust the colors, but as with the FO4 sheet this is way too simple. I might redo this whole sheet at some stage tbqh.

[dreamyintersexouppy]

transmascs stop pretending that transfems are untrustworthy sources for transfeminism challenge impos- fuck i didn't even finish and you already complained about our terminology