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"How Do I Stop Being Kin!?”: A Helpful Guide (Long Post)

so... yup. tumblr ate some of my archive, including one of my most important posts: a list of steps on how to distance yourself from the kin community. as there’s no way (that i know of) to get that post back... here’s this! 

how to use the guide: all complaints/problems that kin frequently send when they don’t want to be kin anymore? those are in large bold. each complaint has a list of steps on how to solve it; the steps (my responses) are just in the normal font. don’t see what you need? send an ask saying you want to see it in a part 2! 

“I don’t want to be kin with (x) anymore!” 

okay! this one centers mostly around keeping lists. and as i said to the most recent anon, the first step toward stopping is wanting to stop. 

1. get two separate sheets of paper (or start digital documents you can print later). on one, write “(Your Name) List”. on the other, write “(Kintype Name) List.” 

2. fill the YN List first. write down every one of your own traits that you can name. they can relate to appearance, gender, hobbies/interests, mental health, neurodiversity, hopes and aspirations, etc. these do not all have to be good things. try to have a 1/3, 1/3, 1/3 balance of good, bad, and neutral traits. (an example of a bad trait/habit is “nail biting”, because that’s harmful. not “brown hair”. if you don’t like your hair color put “brown hair” down as a neutral trait. it’s not bad, you just want a different color.) 

3. fill the KN (kintype name) list next. do not use “i”, “we”, “myself”, in this list becase it’s not about you. 

  • if it’s a fictional character, write down facts relating to the character’s creation. who’s the author/designer/creator? what year was the source released? what type of media is the source -- a fantasy book, a video game, a movie? emphasize that the character is fictional, not real (add ‘in this universe’ if you believe in the multiverse theory) and cannot be reincarnated. 

• if it’s an animal, write down all of its behaviors: does it eat meat? what sounds does it make? is it dangerous or not? now, if you believe in reincarnation, it’s way more plausible that animals can be reincarnated and their next lives can be as humans. emphasize that even if you were the animal in a past life, you are a human now -- it is not healthy to think you literally still are the animal and/or to behave like it. 

•  if it’s a part of nature, like a star or a tree, write down all the facts about it that you know and emphasize that it is not sentient, it doesn’t have a soul, and it cannot make choices or be reincarnated. 

keep the lists with you (as a physical copy/paper). 

4. tell yourself that it’s okay to like the character, animal, or thing, it’s okay to feel that it represents part of who you are. it’s okay to feel comforted by it when you’ve had a shitty day or you’re in a bad mood. feeling these things does not automatically make you kin. write these down on a small piece of paper and keep the paper with you. 

5. even though it is okay to like the character/animal/thing, slowly start avoiding content that includes it. if you are trying to stop being fictionkin, do not watch the source. stay away from fanfic, pictures, etc, that make you have strong emotions about it. 

6. if you ever are feeling guilty about something your kintype did (and this applies mostly to villain kin), you are projecting. whether you’re feeling guilty about your own mistakes without realizing, or you want the chance to fix something/apologize, you are projecting. if you are acting out what you really, really want the villain to do -- ie, you relate to them strongly but they’re not repentant and you want them to be... rp. start a roleplay blog, write a redemption au. look back at your lists again. 

• if it’s not a villain, but you’re feeling guilty about something bad your kintype did, still do a bit of rp and keep looking back at those lists! 

7. whenever you have “kinfeels” or “kin memories”, look at your YN and KN lists. read them to remind yourself that you are not the same person as the character, not the same being as the animal, and not something inanimate. 

8. try new things and (now i’m not saying this to be a bitch) go outside. i mean it. vitamin d is good for you. you don’t have to exercise, but if you are able to, go for it. visit the library, the park, a coffee shop, the mall, anywhere. test out new hobbies, like 

• writing fiction (could be about the character/animal/thing, if this is how you maintain a connection with it while not identifying as it) 

 • traditional drawing  

 • digital drawing 

 • sewing, knitting, or crochet 

• writing movie critiques/analyses 

• jewelry making 

• making non-kin-related selfcare 

• sports 

“I want to get out of the community, but I’m not ready to let go of my kintypes!” 

so you’re not ready? okay. this is still your first step. you will fuck yourself over badly if you push yourself to 100% stop being kin before you can function without it. this is true in situations like abusive households or trauma: if you pretend that you’re someone else who’s never had to deal with those things, you are using escapism to let off stress and unwind. 

1. change your blog theme. i know it sounds dumb and unrelated. however, having a visual change will make you more inclined to change other things -- and it will start to tell other people in the community that you are able to change. 

2. update your about, kin page, and byf. take things like “don’t follow if you don’t see me as (kintype)”, “no doubles”, and kin-related discourse out of those pages. anything that typically appears in kin cringe comps? take it out. (look through my blog for example of typical cringe comp material.) 

• don’t say “literally me”, “100% me”, “ID” about the kintypes you list. 

• instead of having separate sections for “primary”, “secondary”, “tertiary”, things like that... just say “kintypes” once and list them/insert their pictures. 

• do NOT link to others’ blogs saying “this person is my (canonmate name)!” or “i found my (important canonmate)! 

• whatever your stance on ace discourse... take that out of your pages. i have no idea why, but the kin community is fucking overrun with people thinking that aces/aros aren’t lgbtq+. removing this discourse from your blog will remove you from another common kin community behavior. (it’s totally okay to post ace/aro positivity, but don’t involve yourself in heavy discourse and don’t put “Aces/aros are/aren’t lgbtq!” on your about/kinpage/byf.) 

3. if you list kin friends or kin blogs on one of your pages, consider taking out the links and just describing the friends/blogs. this will distance your blog from the network of kin on here. 

4. instead of requesting “kintype selfcare/positivity” from those kin resource blogs: 

• reblog aesthetics that remind you of the kintypes, but is not labeled as “(kintype) aesthetic”. 

• make some aesthetics yourself based on the kintypes. if you’re tagging, then just use general tags (ie, “kin”, “otherkin”, or “fictionkin”), not specifically the character’s name or the type of animal you identify with. 

• write positive affirmations for yourself, such as “i got enough sleep so this will be a better day!” or “i didn’t lie in bed all day so i feel motivated!” or “i ate something healthy instead of junk food!” 

• if you’re writing affirmations specifically about a kintype, don’t refer to the kintype using “i” or “we”. instead, write “(character) tries their best to fix wrongdoings, so i will too!” or “(character) makes an effort to overcome anxiety, so i’m going to try harder too!” or “(animal) isn’t inherently bad/gross; it’s trying to survive like me!” 

• basically, when writing positivity/affirmations, pick a trait that the kintype has that you want to have too. don’t just say “i have this trait because i am (kintype)!” 

• sorry not sorry, but the overwhelming majority of the positivity on those blogs is useless. it might make you feel better for a couple minutes, but it’s superficial. even if the person running the blog genuinely wants people to feel better, they are still operating under the obligation to give positivity. 

it is not as genuine as it should be. the person doesn’t know who you are, and they might not know a lot about the kintype. the positivity from those blogs is generic, ie, “even if you’ve done some bad things, you’re not a bad person!” You need specifics, which only you can come up with -- because only you know yourself. when something is vague or general, we think deep down that it’s not true. (btw, that’s the same psychology behind the “sounds fake but okay” meme.)

5. if your mutuals get into kin drama, or if you see kin drama on your dash, stay out of it. it does not matter right now if these people are your best friends in the world, because once the drama dies down, your url is still all over those posts. even if the people who started the drama delete the posts, other people have everything saved. the things you said in anger or anxiety or whatever are still on tumblr. and tumblr has an extremely difficult time recognizing that what someone said three months ago doesn’t define what they say now. 

6. unfollow people who have ‘typical cringe comp material’ on their pages and/or people who frequently are involved in drama. 

• if they have “ask to unfollow” on their pages, unfollow anyway. if they harass you about it, block them (and maybe report for... violating community guidelines. or harassment). DON’T PUT THIS ON YOUR PAGES. EVER. FOLLOWING YOU IS NOT A CHORE. MAKING PEOPLE ASK PERMISSION TO UNFOLLOW YOU CAN CAUSE THEM HUGE AMOUNTS OF ANXIETY. IT’S SHITTY AND ENTITLED. DON’T DO IT. 

7. if you’re going to send hate to antis, i can’t stop you, but for fuck’s sake, do that on anon. (”what!?” you say as you read this post. “but don’t antis think anon hate is cowardly!?”) you just don’t want to be known as someone active enough in the community to send off-anon shit. 

8. if i have or another anti/cringe blog has screenshotted your post/page, ask for it to be removed. no promises that other blogs will remove your stuff, but here on kce and over at @only-on-tomblr, we will. having your content up on popular cringe blogs can definitely get you recognized among the community, and you don’t want that. 

“I don’t want to rely so hard on being kin -- I want kin to be a casual thing!” 

1. first off, follow the “i want to get out of the community” list. you don’t have to stop identifying as kin, you just need to distance yourself from that network of over the top, hardcore kin people.��

2. recognize that kin is your coping mechanism. it is okay to use escapism (that’s what kin is tbh) to cope. it is okay to step away from reality, unwind, then go back to reality after a few hours of doing kin stuff/rp. 

3. recognize that any coping mechanism is going to be harmful when you take it too far. when it goes too far, it becomes an obsession. (because i am sure someone’s going to say this, i’m not dragging special interests. those are not the same as coping mechanisms gone wrong and this post does not relate to special interests.) 

4. guess what? you don’t need just one coping mechanism. and because you’re not completely dropping the kintypes, you need to focus your kin-related energy into a creative outlet. what i mean by that is... write about them. draw pictures of them. do commissions, even for people who have the same kintype. not to mention, if you write about/draw them a lot, you are getting so much better at those skills. 

5. optional: it would also help to make lists of your traits and the kintypes’ traits, like in the first section of this post. 

6. as with the other sections, do not refer to the kintypes as “myself”/”i”. 

that’s about it 

Other things you can do 

• write a brief analysis of an episode, movie, chapter, etc in which the character/kintype appears. what does the person/being do and why? how do their actions result in the episode/chapter/game/movie ending? how do other characters react to it? and how is this different from what you would do, right now, if you were in the same situation? (obviously no one has to see it, so doesn’t matter if it sucks) 

• interact with people who have the same kintype so you can become more comfortable with “doubles” and thus be less intense about being kin 

• when you’re watching/reading/playing/listening to new media (’source’), and you begin to have “kinfeels” for someone, step back. put the book down. pause the show or podcast. remind yourself that this is fiction. even if the multiverse does exist, your kintype cannot cross between universes and ‘be’ you. you are most likely projecting onto the character or you are inspired to create a similar character/oc. 

• aaand.... here it comes... oh god. oh no. limit your time on tumblr. do not spend all day on this forsaken hellsite.  

Things to absolutely NOT do 

• post anything like “why did the author put me/kintype in a relationship with a girl!? i’m gay!” all that does is imply that you think you have some kind of ownership over someone else’s character. it makes you look like you want everything to go your way -- and not everything can. i am not saying that to be a jerk. 

• ask people to unfollow you. as i said before (now, i don’t have anxiety so this isn’t from firsthand experience), do you have any idea how much anxiety that causes people? and how shitty a thing it is to do? 

• harass someone over being a double 

• tell them to unfollow/stop interacting because they are a double 

• compare being kin to being trans or nonbinary. for fuck’s sake. there’s no such thing as a “kingender”.

                     - even if your kintype was female in ‘your source’, but wasn’t                                  female in canon... that does not mean you are trans and it does                            not mean the kintype is trans.    

                    - even if you are trans yourself, it has absolutely nothing to do with                        you identifying as kin. they are not related. you are a trans person                        who also happens to be kin.    

                   - things like “canidgender: a gender that feels tough and ready to                           defend, a gender that makes you feel alert, a gender that....” are not                     real. gender is not an emotion. besides, these descriptions have                            nothing to do with gender. 

  • say that you have dysphoria about your kintype. again, if you have dysphoria, it’s because you are transgender/nonbinary. you do not have “species dysphoria” about your astral ears. just because it’s listed on google with a definition does not mean it’s legit. 

• use ‘kin pronouns’ like glitch/glitchs/glitchself. ne/nes/neself. star/stars/starself. it/its. the very concept of kin pronouns suggests that gender is automatically tied to kin. it’s not. and you are not an object. 

• send people hate or get into discourse about headcanons involving your kintype 

• tag art as “me” or “kin” or “id”. even if the artist says it’s okay, avoiding this is another way to distance yourself from a harmful community. if you need/want to keep a tagging system, just tag it with the character’s name or the type of animal. 

• tell someone that they are “your (important canonmate). 

• especially do not tell someone that your characters dated and that you must begin a romantic relationship because of that! 

• insist that someone just has to remember something that you remember! here’s an appropriate exchange on this. 

              you: “do you remember when our kintypes had that huge fight, then                     made up and dated for a few months? we drifted apart and stopped                    dating.” 

              them: “no... i recall something different.” 

               you: “oh. well, that’s okay!” 

comments i just know i’m going to get (they’re useless. don’t post them and don’t send them to me) 

• you’re policing our identities! 

•you can’t dictate how we cope! 

• you can’t take away our fun! 

• how would you know how this stuff works? you’re not kin! 

• ableist! 

• go do something productive! 

• i don’t care. i’m doing these things anyway! 

-k 

[galacticare]

PtV shirt 

Sleeping with Sirens shirt

Cotton candy soap/wash

Opalite choker

Cookie dough slime 

Galaxy slime 

Moon keychain 

(@emo-king​)

[rjalker]

Free blocklist

About six or so of them are just random spambots and the rest are assorted TERFs, truscum, aphobes, and exclusionists in general.

batch blocker:

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[boyphonic-archive]

oh my god!!!! oh my fucking god . just block @/kincringeemporium for their url alone

[khateseverything]

new cringe blog; pls tell me this side of tumblr isn’t dead

yeah, hi, I’m K from @kincringeemporium and @modkhateseverything and have left those blogs. kce went to shit a few years back and i lost the login info for the other one, whoops

anyway, i post otherkin, fictionkin, factkin, and mogai cringe; looking for other assholes to interact with lmao 

[softly-starry]

I know i’m kin and all but the mods over on @kincringeemporium genuinely don’t seem like bad people. I don’t support cringe culture but most of the stuff on their blog is pretty tame and harmless. (I say most because I haven’t seen all of their posts and interactions).

When people talk about how awful they are, it honestly just seems like some people don’t know how to handle other people disagreeing with them.

Like, some people are going to think it’s weird or stupid to believe you are (or in my case were) a fictional character or whatever. That’s pretty obvious and you really shouldn’t be making posts about it on tumblr of all places if you can’t handle the backlash.

Some people need to be called out anyway. If you:

1) Use kins to excuse your actions

2) Steal other peoples work without permission or credit because “its me!”

3) Openly kin Hitler or something

4) Will attack and derail people for not believing in kin

5) Believe you have more rights to canon then the creator

Or anything similar that includes disrespecting or harrassing people, you sort of deserve the callout anyway.

I mostly support that blog and it’s pretty fun to look through. Keep doing what you’re doing.

[kcecringe-blog]

so you shit stains wanted proof

except you DO support bullying and harassment. you haven’t said shit to stop people from harassing me. you haven't made any posts defending me like the whole happstablook thing which BY THE WAY i was on tumblr for. 

and you do NOT remove posts OR crosstags. 

see? “uwu we do it bc kin baddddd” no you don't you do it because you’r assholes. you also support people not taking down posts or tags. 

it is to attack people. and people who struggle to stick up for themselves, its why we need kin or even mogai. so maybe stop attacking the one thing we have going for us. 

oh wow, psych minor, youre so smart and you know everything. fucking bitch. your psych classes don't make you an expert on other peoples lives. also, if you seriously are the kind of person who admits freely “hi i’m an asshole” maybe you’re the problem, not everybody else. and nobody cares that you have a new laptop, not everyone can affort one so maybe stop bragging. 

and oj? that little ~ after your prof dx just screams anti-self dx and mental illness elitist. 

and THIS? ths is disgusting. it’s ableist. it’s manipulative. it’s making fun of lists people make to ensure their blogs are genuinely safe. don’t. 

don’t. 

theres more comng 

@kincringeemporium be prepared 

also all you anons who whined about proof FUCK YOU. 

[deepbasementflower]

Fucking yikes???????? idk what to trigger tag this as but these vampire and demon kinnies are legit out here fantasizing about assaulting sleeping people in the middle of the night for their blood and calling it “romance” and “gay mlm suggestions”

@only-on-tomblr  @kincringeemporium  

[kincringeemporium]

making a survey about our blog!

khorra here. 

so! i had the idea to make a general kce survey. 

i’m curious as to what people think of the content we’ve been posting, the directions the blog is going, and the addition of new mods. and of course i want to know about the typical attitude/belief system/outlook of a typical kce follower. 

just want opinions, really. 

you can take the survey no matter who you are, kin or not (because a lot of kin do follow us). 

it’ll be up by like... 8 est (massachusetts/eastern us time)!

-k

[anti-kin-cringe]

Background: I noticed that the mods at @kincringeemporium are goddamn pathetic at arguing and turned their own post against them in an attempt to illustrate that (the original post is even added as the source of my post). When your own argument can be used against you by mixing up the subjects of it, your argument sucks and you need to reevaluate what you’re trying to argue for/against and why you’re doing so.

Mod OJ is either too young of mind, has a too low reading comprehension, or lacks all the sarcasm processing abilities necessary to be a mod. If you actually thought I was using that post as a serious argument against all antis and not to illustrate why your blog specifically is fucking idiotic, you’re really not fit for talking to the kind of audience your blog has.

- Mod Thistle

[yallarewild]

it's kincringeemporium and i don't usually send random asks to people who rb our posts but i just clicked your "byf" and... lmfao. you got me

!!!!! yo you’re the first person who noticed lmao it’s so immature of me, and like truly stupid but I had to. I love your blog btw!!

[shitpost-kin]

you forgot to mention how kincringeemporium isn’t even kin so their explanation of it to their therapist was nothing like what an actual kin person would describe it as, thus their therapist’s viewpoint is moot

yeah i did but thankfully some other beauuuutiful bloggers said it for me

[anti-otherkin-shit]

i love how when you look up "kin cringe" you don't pop up. i mean, i prefer kincringeemporium, only-on-tomblr, and happstanings anyway. guess tumblr knows that you're all dickbags!!

Wait y'all realize we aren't like 12 right? My bones are creakin, I work 40 some odd hours a week, I need 2 coffees and 2 cigarettes minimum to wake up in the morning. So I really don't understand why you think this little kid shit would bother either of us?-Edge

[shadowfae]

There is one thing I don't get, while I don't really believe in otherkin my self and asked you some question about it, for better understanding, I don't see why I would ever just write some one "Uh you're mental retarded" or make posts about it because... it has nothing to do with me? Like everyone can believe what they want. And if I would think that some kind of believes are a mental problem I would try to help and not MOCK them, like seriously? Have these people nothing better to do?

Honestly, anon? There is a term for what they do, these discoursers of all kinds who don’t have anything better to do.

Ace exclusionists. Antikin. Shippers. Actually, most antis of anything. 

The term has largely fallen out of use, but we used to call these shipping wars and starting shit just to start shit ‘fandom wank’. Discourse replaced the term, and I’m betting it’s because of this whole ‘woke points’ and how you have to agree with them otherwise you’re Bad and Abusive and Should Kill Yourself.

Except back then, we agreed and all knew that these arguments meant nothing, we were debating for fun and to jack off to being vicious to each other. Not so much now, but it’s why I still tag any and all queer discourse on my main as ‘fandom wank’ and why I don’t much take antis of any kind seriously unless they have something actually good to say.

(I did get an ask on my main asking me why I tagged ace discourse as ‘fandom wank’ because the queer community isn’t a fandom. They were correct, it was just my way of telling exclusionists they don’t mean shit and I know they’re just jacking off to making aspec folks miserable.)

It’s not so much that they have nothing better to do than it is that they find it funny. It’s generic playground bullying, that’s all. None of this “they’re just jealous” or “they don’t mean it”. No, they do mean it. They think reactions are funny. Well, they do until someone does what I did to that last guy: completely blow them out of the water with how stupid they really are.

That’s why I support blogs like anti-kin-cringe but not kincringeemporium or whatever that last one is. Because while KCE and other antis are wanking off to making fun of people, AKC is getting back at them by having actual facts, giving them a taste of their own medicine, and actually protecting people who don’t deserve to get hated on.

Existing should not be a reason for people to hate you. Being hateful is why people should hate you.

But yeah, I completely agree. Antis waste their time and then I have to waste my time proving them wrong because they don’t know how to use Google. I’d be amazed if I didn’t find it completely pathetic.

[youredoingkinwrong]

kincringeemporium That is all.

All right, I’ve looked through their blog for a little bit, and... 

Eh. A lot of what they’re dealing with are trolls, the popular Tumblr-specific otherkin/fictionkin culture which is... not the greatest, and people who genuinely don’t understand or know what it means to be otherkin.

They’re definitely not aphobes, which is awesome, but as for everything else... yes, there is still a lot of unhealthy behavior in Tumblr’s otherkin community. Hell, there’s unhealthy behavior in the forums offsite, too, though a different kind. But that does not make the belief system itself a bad thing. They seem to not understand that.

The people I’ve seen that send in asks of people (fictionkin or otherkin or otherwise) being afraid of their own community? That’s genuinely frightening. I thought we were growing away from that. The ID’ing outside your race drama? That’s been over and done with for years, anyone who thinks that’s “problematic” now clearly hasn’t gotten the common sense memo. 

I have some other problems with the other things they bring up, namely fiction vs. reality and the powers of fictional influence on real life people, but this is a kincourse blog, not a “fiction isn’t reality” blog. 

Long story short: definitely have their hearts in the right place. Doing a horrible, horrible job of showing it. 

And hey, if they search their tag and see this post: feel free to ask me any questions you may have regarding otherkin, fictionkin, or other aspects of alterhumanism. I will not get mad, I have this blog for education purposes and I’d be interested in seeing how your ideals might change if you talk to someone who is unashamedly otherkin and fictionkin, and who is willing to share their experiences. 

[kcecringe-blog]

New blog

I guess this is essentially a callout blog? yup. I’m someone who was targeted by the cringe blog kincringeemporium in the past and I don’t want them to keep targeting other people. 

I’m working myself up to tagging them in a post 

My name is Lelly, Aster, or Zinna, or my primary kintypes’ names 

I’m 15 please be aware of that