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When you feel that others are lacking and failing ....first assess the skill, style, quality, results, mindset, support, professionalism and spirit with which you yourself play the game.
Rasheed Ogunlaru
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The exact opposite of being doomed by the narrative
I discovered this game while playing with a group of friends on Halloween, and I must say it was quiet immersive because we each wanted different things so we always had to argue together on what to do before the Voices would Took 3 days to complete a single run
#slay the princess#stp fanart#stp spoilers#stp princess#the long quiet#my art#artists on tumblr#i wanted to be friends with her so baaaddd but nooooo my friends wanted her dead aaaaarggh#and then when I got to choose how we should go about it we ended with the Prisoner#and we got chained up against the wall for the rest of eternity#and then noone trusted my judgement ever again after that#but I have zero regret i'm not stupid ofc we were going to get chained up#that's EXACTLY WHY i insisted on picking up the chains#the princess is chained and now we're chained#Relating to people : the art of bonding and making friends
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(this is basically the gist of his voicelines, right?)
#genshin impact#genshin impact memes#genshin memes#neuvillette#nahida#genshin spoilers#''morax's days are numbered mark my fucking words'' ''as soon as the narukami comes out of hiding its over for her'' ''idc how harmless he#claims to be - i will crush barbatos beneath me with divine and final judgement.'' ''hey um. its kinda fucked up what those people#did to kusanali? thats kinda fucked up 🥺''
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"I've been waiting for ages for somebody to unmask them."
This moment tends to elicit negative reactions in a first read through, and I've got some opinions about why where Kabru is coming from here actually makes a lot of logical sense. So I thought I'd elaborate on that.
I think people hear this and go, "He thinks they must be hiding something because they gave money to someone? What a cynic." Or "he dislikes them because they did charity?? What's wrong with this guy!". And obviously, a lot, a lot is wrong with him. But I think this makes more sense than it seems at first glance! What people evaluating this judgement miss is why Kabru is paying attention to Laios and co to begin with.
Kabru knows of the Touden siblings because (he's a little bit of a stalker-) he is keeping an eye on all the relevant parties in events developing on the island, in order to be able to guide them to his preferred outcome. This includes adventurers because they are the ones actually exploring the dungeon! He's well aware that something as minor as internal tensions between party members could be key to the historical events that are developing. (He would love the assassination of Archduke Franz Ferdinand.)
His desired outcome is that whatever the rewards are of breaking the dungeon's curse, whether that's kingship or the ancient elven secrets of dungeons, are claimed by:
A) a short lived person
B) Someone who will be a good, effective leader and/or use those secrets and the power they carry wisely, with foresight, and to establish a political bloc for short lived people.
The person he can best trust to do this is, of course, himself. But due to his PTSD regarding dungeons and monsters, he's not able to develop the necessary skills to conquer the dungeon. Once he realises this, he starts looking for someone else who he can support to that end.
But most of the adventurers don't have any intentions of conquering the dungeon, don't have the skills, or are unsuitable in other ways. In fact, it seems like some potentially suitable people are the Toudens. There are a lot of good rumours about them going around - they actually seem to have a very positive reputation! That's what Kabru means when he says "unmask".
So when Kabru is observing something like them giving money to an old comrade from their gold-peeling days, he doesn't consider it a problem because "they're giving money to this person who doesn't actually need it" or because they must have some dark secret if they act superficially nice. I think he actually understands this situation and what it implies about Laios (in particular) perfectly well.
Laios and Falin gave money to an old comrade who got injured and couldn't work. That person then healed up but kept taking their money. Then he used the money to start smuggling illicit goods to the island.
The key is that for Kabru, the problem here is the same as with the corpse retrievers - people using the dungeon's resources to fuel dangerous, selfish, or violent pursuits cause problems for the island, attract more criminals and people with motives other than breaking the curse, and increase the chances of the whole situation ending in tragedy.
Kabru is willing to work with the Shadow Lord of the island if it gets him to his goal - he isn't scrupulous - but the criminal element of the island increasing is something he sees as a major issue.
Also, when you're evaluating someone as a candidate for power, riches, secrets, potentially kingship - then being curious about how the money you give to people is going to be used is kind of a relevant trait!
Interpersonally, Kabru's actually very easygoing - I mean, Mickbell isn't exactly an upstanding guy, is he! But Kabru likes him and they get along well. These traits wouldn't be a problem at all in a friend, or a comrade, or someone Kabru was confident he could use. But he can't get a handle on Laios, and Laios is someone who has the potential to be a major player!
On Laios' end, this is the same as with the marriage seeker who joined their party. She kept asking for things and he gave them to her, because he tries to be nice to others. He even gives her money! It's the exact same thing.
That's fine, but it became a problem because he basically wasn't interested in her motives, didn't notice she was trying to manipulate him, and it also didn't occur to him that the other party members would notice or be affected. We can assume the situation with the gold peeler is the same. When Kabru says that "It's not that they're bad people, they just aren't interested in humans," he isn't wrong.
The extent to which this is true of Laios is linked to his autism imo, (because it isn't just disinterest - he genuinely isn't able to notice nonverbal cues that people are lying to him or have ulterior motives) but to a greater or lesser extent I think it's a very common trait. Most people aren't actually that interested in other people who aren't close to them. Kabru is the weird one here. It isn't an issue except as a leader - which is why we see an immediate comparison to the Island's Lord, because that's how Kabru is evaluating them.
And disinterest in/lack of ability with people to the extent Laios exhibits it, it does, actually, make him a worse leader... it's just that as we see in the story, people can help him out. The rest of the party tell him the marriage seeker is taking advantage of him so he tells her he can't give her special treatment anymore. They're pissed and it's a crisis point - he couldn't have recovered their trust without Marcille and Falin - but that's exactly the point. With Marcille and Falin, he was able to recover their trust.
And he has other good traits that make up for it, such as his intelligence, strategic knowledge, open-mindedness and sense of fairplay.
Kabru doesn't disqualify Laios as a candidate based on what he sees about him from afar, though - he still tries very hard to get close to him, obviously hoping that if he manages he can steer Laios to defeat the dungeon and make up for his lack of people-skills in the aftermath. (Which... he does eventually achieve that goal!) He completely fails until the events of the story, so... definitely I think "They just aren't interested in humans" could also partially be a stung reaction to Laios' complete disinterest in him.
Anyway, that's my read on what exactly Kabru's "issue" with Laios is. Obviously, once he does find out what Laios' true nature is like - about his love for monsters - he develops an entirely new set of fears about Laios' priorities. But since Laios kept that a secret until the start of the story, he has no idea of that yet.
Given all that, I think it's interesting that he says that he doesn't think that the Toudens are suitable to defeat the dungeon, and that he's hoping they'll turn out to be the thieves. As some of his few potential candidates, people who he thinks may play a big role in the island's future, you'd think he'd hope they would be good people!
I suppose it's better, in his eyes, because it means that he's involved in something "interesting". They haven't just had their stuff stolen by regular criminals (boring, puts them further away from his goal) - they've been caught up in the beginning stages of "a historic event". The desperate and dwindling group forgetting morals in their quest to retrieve their lost comrade probably appeals to his sense of melodrama. Because he also just... loves drama.
Despite it being "uglier than anything he was expecting", he still pursues Laios as the person he wants to conquer the dungeon pretty much as soon as it becomes clear that he won't be able to do it himself and they are out of time. That's because... well, to be fair, there aren't any other options. And he fits standard A: he's short-lived!
and Kabru still hopes he can fit standard B, too, and be persuaded to use the power he wins for good. No matter how many nightmares he has about Laios, or whether he thinks about killing him. He doubts him, but ultimately he puts his faith in him and seems happy after the manga's ending that he made the right decision.
#dungeon meshi#dungeon meshi manga spoilers#dungeon meshi meta#kabru of utaya#laios touden#labru#laios x kabru#dunmeshi#og post#kabru is such a big picture thinker. and he evaluates people more than he judges them imo#the hater jokes are funny but the people he judges most harshly arent laios and co. they're people like the island's lord.#but you don't see that as clearly because he isn't interested in the island's lord. he understands him. finds him contemptible but useful.#whereas laios lives in his brain rent free because he WANTS to understand him but doesnt quite.#even though he sees the elves as a major threat to his ultimate goals and dislikes the way they treat short lived races#he still understands and evaluates mithrun as an individual based on his own merits#he's one of the characters who is least judgemental in that sense because while he's always making judgements and evaluations#he's also constantly revising them whenever he gets more information#my beautiful machiavellian prince <3#it's genuinely a really laudable way of understanding others imo.#the only problem is that because he's driven towards his goals by his PTSD and survivors guilt#he pushes himself into situations (the dungeon and also interpersonally) that trigger him or even just upset him#without regard for what he authentically wants or his own wellbeing.
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that uhh that meme yueah
#alan becker#animator vs animation#ava#ava tdl#ava the dark lord#ava blue#ava red#sorry for the thought everyone i uuuuhh um#i have made a severe and continuous lapse in my judgement#and i dont expect to be forgiven#offtopic but i find it so funny how that apology is a tag people used before#lilacsart
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If there is only one thing I would want to tell all trans people, it is this:
Please make it. You are worth it to see a better future; we will make this world kind. You are so needed, you are so wanted. We will make this world somewhere worth our light. I hope you can be by my side forever, I hope we can bask in the beauty of this world. I love you, trans person reading this.
#trans#transgender#lgbt#lgbtq#ftm#mtf#nonbinary#i understand if it's hard to survive; there will never be judgement for you if it is hard#i just hope you can be here. i hope you can directly witness a better world#i love all of you trans people (platonically but still filled with love and care)#you are worth the effort it takes to make this world better
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interpret lover/hater however you wish, but this is about general attitude, not regarding a specific topic!
#really coming to the conclusion that i am not cut out to be a hater#i feel like every show i watch or music i listen to or whatever when other people are complaining#I'm just like well i think it's neat! :)#so anyway i'm like a 1#(having said that this is a judgement free zone lol)#polls
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they are so in love and disgusting and also sarcastic bitches. follow for more / prev comic / next comic
#i have BEEN the grossly affectionate couple in the friend group btw. maybe one more reason i love them#right off the bat after meeting they are holding hands and hugging and touching each others shoulders#xie lian even rubs hua cheng’s back to calm him down during the lang qianqiu/ qi rong scene#also#the fandom knows that xl is an essentially kind person but i’ve been paying attention to his dynamic w/ fxmq#they give each other so much shit lmao 😭#when xl is with people he knows well and trusts he is truly so judgemental and sarcastic.#it is so funny.#can you imagine being confronted by the most powerful people in the three realms and they destroy your self esteem with dry fucking wit#feeling so insane about them currently#tgcf#art#hualian#heaven official's blessing#tian guan ci fu#hua cheng#xie lian#feng xin#digital art#my art#mxtx#comic
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this year my challenge for everyone is to unlearn the association between love and morality. love is not something that is inherently morally good, and the absence of love is not something that is inherently bad. sex without love isn't morally bankrupt, it's just an action. people without love aren't less kind or less good, they're just people. when we can get past this false (and often unnoticed) dichotomy of good love/evil lovelessness then i think we are going to be able to take leaps and bounds in sex positivity, aro advocacy, certain discussions of mental health...
#and also. not the direct focus. but love doesn't make things good. you can be in love and do terrible terrible things.#people do bad things in the name of love and in despite of love all the time.#but!! imagine a world where people could exist as people and not be demonized.#sex positivity means being cool about All sex. reexamine your internal systems of moral judgement.#this goes for sex workers. for aroallo people. especially aroallo men. for aro people in general who might enjoy sex.#and frankly i think it can easily bleed into discussions about mental health disorders around 'not feeling' certain things#especially demonizing ppl who don't feel as much empathy. i think there's definitely a correlation between that and the emphasis on love.#our support needs to go out to Everybody and i think these things are all structured together in one way or another!!#it might not be immediately obvious but when i tell you it all leads back to amatonormativity..... little bit wild.... large bit wild....#anyway. horror movie psychopath 'oh he can't feel emotions or love' damn alright. well. let's take a closer look at that.#silly that there's an association between lack of love and Murdering. feel like that might affect some stuff.#love is just an emotion/a feeling it doesn't mean anything about you one way or another#same with empathy. you can feel it all you want but it doesn't inherently change the actions you choose to take#anyway. thesis statement. there is a socially constructed link between love and morality. unlearn that.#kiss kiss (<— lovelessly)#aromantic#aromanticism#arospec#talking#aroace#aspec#sex positivity
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Someone's Oughta Change
Jazz waited impatiently for Danny to finish preparing for the gala, they were invited as guest due to jazz being one of the most successful therapist at Arkham.
Jazz wore a simple mountain green off shouldered floor length silk gown, with her hair tied neatly into a bun making her look ethereal and calm, which was very different to what she was feeling currently: she was practically walking around the whole living room in nervousness and checking her dress in the mirror every second to see if she dirtied it.
"Danny! are you done?" Jazz shouted from the living room. as she tapped her right foot on the tile continuously.
Cue Danny entering the living room with the same outfit if the dress made Jazz looked Ethereal like a goddess, it made Danny look radiant that made all the stars above envious, they were practically the exact copy of each other if you ignore Danny's short black hair and Jazz's orange hip-length hair, and they're height difference.
The siblings stared, then looked at each other up and down for a good 2 minutes.
Silence
"Well someone's oughta change" Danny crossed his arms over his chest, while Jazz just chuckled her nervousness disappearing.
#dc x dp#dp x dc#dp x dc crossover#dpxdc#dc x dp crossover#dp x dc fanfic#dp x dc prompt#dpdc#danny is nonbinary#dpxdc fanart#danny did this to cheer up Jazz#he wore this to the gala#he didnt bother to change#every stucked up people staredat him in judgement#The wayne's meanwhile were amused
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#🐉#submitting this to the judgement of the people (tumblr) because i know some of you sickos will love this passage as much as i do#i am pretty swayed by cleave in twain but 'cleave' sounds a bit too clean for the action being described here is the thing#eiars#emeto mention#gore
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Appletun works as a Pokemon because someone at GameFreak asked the question "would people want to be friends with an apple pie?" and the answer is of course yes
#pokemon#pkmn#appletun#outdesign posts things#'would people want to be friends with X' is a good judgement for any pokemon tbh#'would people want to be friends with an egg' yes#'would people want to be friends with a haunted sword' oh HELL yes
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TRYING AGAIN WITH CLEARER WORDING. PLS READ BEFORE VOTING
*Meaning: When did you stop wearing a mask to a majority of your public activities? Wearing a mask when you feel sick or very rarely for specific events/reasons counts as “stopping”
[More Questions Here]
#poll#covid#covid 19#reblog for sample size#I could tag this post ‘environmental storytelling’ cause goddamn#if you reblogged the original please reblog this one#I just want my DATA#hey#excellent deminstration of the scientific process here#needing to correct for confusion on your participants end to get the results you want#can’t fix the tumblr sampling bias but apparently there’s anti-maskers here too#peoples life circumstance can vary so no judgement from me OP on when you stopped#unless you never masked. then I am judging you#like you didn’t even TRY?
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Can we collectively agree that infantilizing drivers in real life is weird?
These are grown men. They do not need to be “saved” or “rescued”. They are fully aware of their actions. And even if you think they are making a “mistake” (emphasis on the quotation marks because I really don’t think this aspect of their personal lives is for random strangers to judge), that “mistake” is theirs to make and any potential consequences are theirs to deal with.
They are actual living, breathing people just like all of us. I know sometimes the lines might blur on social media, but I think this is especially important to remember.
#not to mention how weird it is to call a clearly wanted baby a mistake just because you don’t like someone’s partner#we know basically nothing about these people or their relationships except for a carefully curated part they decide to share with the world#aka … not nearly enough to make judgements about extremely personal life decisions#f1#formula 1#formula one#max verstappen#mv1#mv33
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