#its also about the community around you

[rathockey]

on my hands and knees begging my book club to mask

[jiraisupportgroup]

[theygender]

Just discovered the term les4les. Are we really trying to make biphobia cool again

[inclined--plane]

it's kind of like insanely isolating that literally every aspec or "ace & aro" space I've found has been in actuality, solely for aces. perhaps arospec aces or aroaces who entirely prioritize their asexuality could also find company there, but even as an aromantic person who is also asexual, they're really not intended for me. so I can only imagine how isolating it must be if you're aromantic and allosexual

[libraryspectre]

I'm realizing a lot of my favorite podcasts just boil down to "yay for exhaustive thoughful and responsible reporting"

[spacedlexi]

the way the ericson group were at the outbreak just a bunch of troubled kids who made various mistakes or committed crimes and were judged by a system that punished and abandoned them instead of giving them the support and love they needed, are then nearly a decade later put into a situation where now they must judge a troubled child for the mistakes and crimes hes committed against them. and 5 to 3 vote them out 😭

[midnightclover]

puts bocchi under ur pillow

What's that I see?

My, my. How did such a cute little thing get in here?

[july-19th-club]

forced myself to finish this book even though by the last hundred pages or so all i was doing was picking apart the post-catholicism of it all. bc i feel like it's important to read shit you don't gel with . just because. even though the whole way through i was like they HAVE to prove it's not real. they HAVE to. so not the point of any of it but i was desperate for them to Find The Body etc. and of course instead they have mystical time travel experiences and all that because that is the kind of book the actual star is but i was desperate for them to realize that the star you see is the actual star. and then it wasn't

[laegolas]

unironically i think more people super deep into online fandom need to get into a team sport.

not like, actually playing. but supporting someone in a sport and experiencing the utter loathing of the opposition side during a match. For a very specific period of time you can fucking hate the people playing up against your blorbos and its normal!! and your team is the greatest and can do no wrong!

but after the final whistle is blown, whether you win or lose, you see them all shaking hands. they respect each other as fellow athletes. just because they play for a different team, it doesn't mean they represent a different moral faction. and there's definitely something to be learned from this for those who are so online they forget that the words on a screen are attached to a real life person.

[clown-friend-gt]

idk if anyone has posted this specifically in the g/t community or not, but i feel like y'all need to know about 33:09-34:04 and 46:05 to the end of the video.

One of the them mentions getting shrunk by the magic school bus which prompts a conversation about the best food to be small in/around

And they're all comedians so part of it is just that they're all riffing off of each other, but they're also REALLY enjoying the discussion, so much so that their producer has to tell them to stop so they can end the video lmao

and towards the end one of them is like "oh, this is probably fetish content for somebody," and while that's probably true for some people, it's also cool to see somewhat normal people talking about some of the stuff people talk about here

[skunkes]

what they dont tell you about being incredibly introspective is that you'll think you're done making realizations and then you'll just make more realizations always all the time forever

[llitchilitchi]

sometimes I wish this site had a mute option

[fullscoreshenanigans]

hello :D i dont know if its just me but i m still curious about how we can find ray's actual birthday, Kaiu said it's possible yet i feel like no one managed to figure it out, i know it's not necessarily the most crucial part of the tpn universe but i always wonder abt itt

Hi! ^^

He did mention that in a WSJ interview (translation found here):

In that same interview, he also mentioned how no one correctly guessed what was in Ray's letter left out as bait for Krone, and then confirmed in chapter 181.3 that it was what a lot of people initially suspected. He's also given conflicting answers about who names the children and his feelings on Noremma (or Sugita has as his proxy), so I could see it as one of those "y'all, the WSJ grind had me running so ragged for almost four years that it caused me to have serious health issues, it can be whatever date in this timeframe that you want it to be" type of deals with how little consequence it has unless one's really big on astrology (or for some lighthearted antics play into some teasing if he's actually younger than Norman lol, but I don't think they messed around with the order the children were tattooed as another layer of deception).

@temporoom's calculations are the most in-depth dive into the Grace Field identification markers that I've seen (posted here, here, here, and corrected version here) putting it between January 31st and February 5th. I think to be safe, the farm staff wouldn't put the fake date in the same month he was actually born in to further push the thought from unconsciously rising up in Isabella's mind, so I'd probably put it in February, though my personal biggest takeaway from all this is that it was another thing Isabella and the farm system denied him and separated him from his siblings.

[darkdragon768]

[jugacolours]

[icewindandboringhorror]

"We can get through this by working together, reach out to your friends, community is all we have, a social network will be your security in the world, now is the time to lean on others!"

I do agree, and it's scientifically sound (pretty sure there is data about how people with better social networks live longer and etc) but also....augh..... what about the severe social issues, difficulty to leave the house, physical issues which lead to like zero socialization energy a majority of the time, etc. etc. Social support can be a replacement for structural support, but.. I guess I just wish it didn't have to be. Community is extremely difficult to build, even moreso if you're someone who has issues with social cues or group conversations or even just being around others in the first place. And blah, nuance, of course I'm just complaining or maybe being too negative or maybe misunderstanding, but, I hardly have the energy to brush my hair once every 2 months.. how am I supposed to maintain a wide social network and be active in a Community and Join Groups lol... sometimes it kind of feels like "er.. well if thats my only option then...... ruh roh". It's overwhelming