#it's related enough

[terresdebrume]

You might have answered this before, like this may be a known thing on your blog, but are you out as trans at work,and if not, do they think you're a cis guy, or a cis woman? I am really interested in your personal posts about your students and the various cultural shit at play, and the ones you've tried to support in various ways regarding queer issues and super conservative traditional families. and also about your desire to have a baby, which presumably work would know about. So I was just wondering if you were Mr Matt at work, or not? I am looking to travel and I have no idea of the level of acceptance by employers in Asian countries. Obviously feel free to ignore this if it isn't something you want to disclose but I've been wondering for a while.

Hey :D

I don't mind the question at all :D

I am out at work kind of by necessity because I haven't changed my legal name yet nor started any kind of medical transition... So like, practically speaking, in terms of visual, more people read me as a soft butch woman than a guy, and I regularly correct students who accidentally misgender me for various reasons x)

But I am Mr. Matt and the students don't know any other name for me, and my colleagues probably don't clock my deadname too much when it's left on internal documents so I'm more or less 'eh' about it xD

In terms of practicality, it's important to keep in mind that I am a white foreigner who makes almost 8 times the median salary every month, which affords me a LOT of leeway! Also the existence of trans people doesn't seem to have penetrated the Cambodian collective consciousness the way it has the European or American mind, so a lot of people haven't had the opportunity to form a lot of prejudice.

Because of that, I feel like for a lot of people they just see me as doing my weird foreigner thing and largely ignore it xD I also rely a decent bit on being a low maintenance trans guy: I pick my battles about the way people gender me and generally feel okay just like. Ignoring a lot of instances. I don't know that things would go as well, professionally, if I were to demand changes more forcefully.

Another thing worth noting re: Cambodia is that as far as I know there isn't really any legal framework to protect me against discrimination. Part of the reason why I stay in my school despite some shit that makes me angry is that I'm reasonably sure things will go fine overall, bc I've proven I was a good employee and we've had no scandal about me (well, apart from that one kid who was taken out of my class for discriminatory reasons)

Like, for the baby thing, I'm not too worried about *getting* the pregnancy leave or about not getting my job back when I'm done (although I'm aware that if they chose to do that I won't have any recourse) but more about things like "but how are we going to tell the parents about that???"

(Which ftr my preference goes to matter of fact honesty)

All that said: my school is also more culturally and ethnically diverse than most other schools for various reasons, which also influences the way I'm perceived in a major way. Most of my friends are also teachers and queer, and things have been fine for them overall, but they're also all cis so idk how it would play out if they were trans

As for traveling, well. I always do recommend at least looking up if your particular brand of queer is illegal where you want to go (it's not illegal in Cambodia), because you want to know where things stand before you land for sure! But at the same time, transphobia and queerphobia exist everywhere, it's not like there's a place where we can go where no asshole will find you, it's more a matter of like. Do you feel safe in your environment and can you be happy there—and a LOT of that is going to be a very case by case thing, I think

Also my personal philosophy on that is that if I stop going to places where there's transphobia I can't go to my parents' houses anymore so, you know. I stay flexible xD

ETA: Another thing I should add is that I'm 173cm and currently weight 96kg. I tower over and am significantly heavier than most of the Asian men I meet, and that also is its own layer of safety! And I mean, there are moments where I don't feel fully safe here, but it's mostly a gender neutral feeling (ie: drive by robbery is common here and sometimes I don't feel safe from it, but I don't feel like my gender identity plays into that)

But like, from a specific queer standpoint, the only time I felt unsafe as a trans guy, was that time I went to a friend's going away lunch and somebody's +1 (an expat) said he'd go full on mass shooter if a drag queen were to enter his nephew's school and was met with resounding silence from the other expats there, including my friends

[spookydetective]

i made a promise to myself that i wouldn't go back and edit frames once i put them in the capcut project. but god it gets more and more tempting to break said promise looking back at some of these older frames

[just-a-random-bakugo-stan]

“Eww don’t ship them ! They’re just friends/ they hate each other/ they barely have any interaction/they never even met/they’re not from the same series !”

Pussy. Back in my days, we shipped Elsa and Jack Frost to hell and back because they were both ice themed.

[mothsshoes]

oops!

+ extra

[mercutio-the-velaryon]

Mel and Viktor being drawn to each other but repelling each other at the same time... Ughhh you know I critique the fuck out of the writing sometimes but someone COOKED HERE

[zondearts]

practice painting

[forgettable-au]

END OF CHAPTER ONE

FORGETTABLE-AU (Page 65-72)

* Time to put this puzzle together.

[BEGINNING] [PREVIOUS] [CONTINUE]

[idontmindifuforgetme]

I love Tumblr because nothing matters here truly. There are no influencers. Having followers doesn’t mean anything. It’s just a site where people post their sporadic thoughts and rb pretty pictures. Anyone who thinks any of this matters is woefully missing the point

[verflares]

would you like to live deliciously?

[is-this-even-relatable]

DC PROMPT #2:

When Captain Marvel gets hit in a fight that was a little too magical in origins for everyone’s comfort, he turns back into Billy Batson, scrawny homeless kid (actually a teen now, thank you very much), a clear difference from his healthy, strong adult form.

Billy knows that he is fine, he just needs to rest a bit and he’ll be back to being Cap. He is freaking out for a second about getting his cover blown. That is, until-

the rest of the Justice League, who on the other hand do NOT know that he is fine-

think that one of their founding and most senior members, their heavy hitter magical expert dude, is suddenly de-aged due to an attack of unknown origins.

Billy just decides to go along with it.

———

Billy, dragging himself out of the rubble of a building: “Aw shit.”

Wonder Woman, flying over after tying up the bad guy of the day: “Oh Zeus! Captain Marvel, are you still yourself? Do you feel alright?”

Billy: “Uh—”

Flash, dashing over: “What’s going on, what was that bright light— HOLY SHIT IS THAT CAP?!?”

Billy: “Ye—”

Batman from the Watchtower: “Wonder Woman, please report.”

WW: “It seems that Captain Marvel was hit by some sort of magical attack.”

Billy: “Well—”

Batman: “Is he compromised?”

Flash: “BATS HE’S A CHILD?!”

WW, sighing: “Yes, as Flash put it, he has been turned into a child.”

Batman:

Batman: “Bring him back to the watchtower and we’ll see if we can fix this.

Billy: “Shit, aiight I guess”

[cheshirecat-syndrome]

Your call

[spacerockband]

Legend tells of the carp that leapt over the Dragon Gate at the crest of a river and became a stand up comedian.

[moonsnqil]

extremely embarrassing that andrew had a crush on neil

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

i am thinking how much poorer, how much less colorful the world would be if art was only made by "professionals." if all the music, all the stories, all the sketches & paintings & craftwork of the world was created only by the small category of people able to make a decent living from their art. imagine if the only people allowed to create were the experts & the renowned & those aspiring to the top. what a grey world that would be. how much joy would be bleached away! i love you people who create for the sake of creating, i love you artists who do art for tiny audiences, i love you people who make things even just for one person, even just for themselves, even if no one's watching, thank you thank you thank you for decorating the world in which we all exist

[booasaur]

Renegade Nell (2024) - 1x06

[merlins-strawberriesandroses]

POV you’ve informed the Queen and the Court’s Sorcerer of something and they very clearly know something that they’re not letting on