#it's just shitty behaviour

[sentient-carrot]

People on Tumblr will just share blatant body shaming shit about dick size or whatever and be like "I am a feminist and care, I am just being funny making body shaming jokes, unlike when the men do it" like sweetie you're exactly the same as the incel men. You are the same, separated only by a position of privilege. Not gonna trust people that would do the exact same shit if the roles were turned, you're most definitely a shit trans and intersex ally if you act that way.

Like it shouldn't be needed to specify, but say trans man instead if you need a minority status to humanise people, and see if you still think the joke is funny, because it isn't and you shouldn't need a minority status to see why body shaming of anyone is bad.

[magpiedraws]

Jon he's really trying here cut him a break

(tumblr crunched the resolution of this comic a lot rip)

[queerautism]

I saw this really fucking funny terf tumblr post being talked about on twitter and it's just so good. Just making a huge list of women you fucking hate but in a feminist way :)

[hyacinthsdiamonds]

I'm sorry but James Vowles criticising how Red Bull has treated their drivers in the past, only to go and then treat Logan far worse while pulling the exact same shit Red Bull did, ie the exact behaviour he criticised and called them out for, is so freaking infuriating like the sheer hypocrisy -

[alowkeyclown]

sure i'll go with u to the haunted ruins wreathed in half memories from your traumatic childhood PLATONICALLY COMPLETELY AND TOTALLY PLATONICALLY OF COURSE IM SO CASUAL ALL OF THE TIME DON'T EVEN WORRY

[manderleyfire]

– What's keeping us apart ain't even real, your daddy, his religion, it's got nothing to do with us. – It's not just his, it's mine too. I've got the same spirit in me, why don't you see that?

Alice Englert and Walton Goggins in Them That Follow (2019), dir. Dan Madison Savage & Brittany Poulton

[bigdumbbambieyes]

[call-me-pup2]

On the train zooming! Might as well have wore a scuba suit with the weather though, going to go charity shop hunting for a cute waterproof trench coat so with me luck!

[uncanny-tranny]

I promise you can speak about and denounce undesirable behaviour without attributing it to some in-born, immutable, unchanging trait that you must "civilize" away.

In this specific instance that inspired this, you really don't need to attribute bad behaviour that's done by a man with unchanging character traits. This isn't even solely about men, because doing this affects everyone, men included.

"Men needed to be civilized out of behaving this way!" Who are you expecting to be doing the civilizing and why? This is just defending the idea that women are responsible for training up men - the millenia-old idea that a man's failings are actually a woman's fault, not his.

As a man, I am responsible for my actions. You don't need to dehumanize me in order to preserve your misogyny and your need to hate a group of men. Don't get me wrong, this rhetoric absolutely is not good for men to face. It especially targets men who have experiences with marginalized identities. If you're on my page, you know that this is something I deal with personally, have personal stakes in that affect my life daily. I just also think we really need to remember that this issue exists in a context where women and other folks will inevitably be punished as a direct result of these ideas as well.

I need to make that last part emphatically clear: even if this rhetoric (somehow) only hurt men, it would still be wrong. It would still be wrong! I want to - as a man - remind people (especially those who already have decided to dehumanize entire groups of people) that nobody is safe from being exempt from punishment due to this rhetoric.

[chappellrroan]

therapy is expensive but gossiping with your mom as best friends is free, fun and healthy

[transmascutena]

it kind of upsets me how unnecessarily mean some people are to utena. it's always "oh utena's prince complex is so toxic" as if it hasn't been instilled in her since childhood and is her only coping mechanism against spiralling into suicidality, and "oh utena's such a bad friend" for not knowing everything going on with people who are actively hiding stuff from her, and "haha utena's such an idiot" for not knowing things that have literally only been revealed to the audience and she would have no reason to suspect in the slightest. leave her alone you're being so cruel for no reason.

[winepresswrath]

what louis did to lestat and what louis did to armand are connected and that's important to the story but also. it is simply not the same. nothing louis did excuses armand's behaviour, that's not how anything works, but he did not "cross a line" or "poke at armand," he weaponized armand's history of abuse to belittle and demean him. nothing armand said to louis came close- the equivalent would have been "oooh, i'm such a stupid bitch that my husband can beat me half to death and i'll keep crawling back for more even when it endangers my daughter!" it's retraumatizing and deeply destabilizing to hear that shit from your partner. and in response armand should have been like "well this man sucks when he's high and he's high all the time, so i'm bouncing" but if he'd done that we wouldn't have a story, would we?

edit: i've come back to give armand credit for "claudia didn't love you like we did/do. ps. u used her to distract from your own hurt feelings" that shit does hit in a similar way. however "the ways someone hurt you have left you contemptible and weak. they scrawled 'dirty and annoying' all over your soul in red ink and it's never coming off" is just outstanding work. timeless

[charliespringverse]

i think it should be possible to scream without making any noise or disturbing anyone or inviting any questions . just sometimes . as a treat .

[llitchilitchi]

we always talk about how ask culture is dying and people reply with 'asks scary' but then proceed to reblog an ask game without sending an ask for the game, like it's right there, just a number or an emoji, people have anons on, at this point people just don't want to engage anymore

[lovelyrotter]

ppl in fandom will try to frame male character favouritism in fandom as if its a serious issue and hidden symptom of irl misogyny but im sittin here looking behind them at the 1 billion trans boys/transmascs who are either still questioning/closeted or even fully out and are just exploring their gender through fiction. what im trying to say is that its not that serious. i think everyone does this on some level, its why a lot of irl lesbians/sapphics, esp trans lesbians/sapphics, only ship f/f. but shipping isnt activism. you already have space. +1 m/m shipper doesn't mean another f/f shipper blinks out of existence. we are all playing with dolls in our separate corners

there is something to be said about how male characters on average are written with more care and attention than female characters, but in smth like homestuck???? where the girls and women literally drive the plot and have 90% of the action????? and have arguably way more compelling storylines and backstories?????? cmon now. cmon now. we're talking about the trans fandom(tm) here. i think we should stop for a second before we rev up to bash someone's ship preferences and think 'maybe they get euphoria out of this' and then move tf on. like just move on guys

[kimtaegis]

Seeing you complain about not getting engagement every time you post while getting so many notes per post makes you seem so ungrateful. Do the people who engage not matter enough to you? My god. Makes me want to not engage.

without those very precious people whose support I can always count on I wouldn’t post at all anymore, they mean the world to me and I keep telling them that and express my gratitude towards them. I keep reading nice tags and asks over and over because they genuinely give me so much motivation and happiness.

why would you send such a message hours after I deleted my complaints where I even reflected that my negative feelings about it are a problem that goes way beyond tumblr and that I don’t know how to let go of them? and your first impulse was to make me feel even worse about it? that’s incredibly insensitive and I don’t think I even want people like that engaging with my work so by all means, don’t.