#it's Feminine(tm)

[bigpeanutgoatee]

[bethanydelleman]

Sometimes you just don't communicate well online and what you said is taken very negatively. I would delete this but it was re-blogged too much and I don't want it to have zero context, so I'll edit instead. All the original text remains.

I love you Fanny Price (Mansfield Park) for wanting to look the best in your ballgown.

Explanation: Fanny really cares about looking good for a ball. This is never mocked, it's taken as a real and sympathetic concern. So often I feel like women are dismissed for even caring about their appearance.

I love you Elle Woods (Legally Blonde) for going to court in a pink dress.

Pink often is seen as girly and infantile. Also, I love that we actually see the effort that Elle puts into being pretty. She cares about it and it's an investment. What we seem to get now is instant make-up and fashion from characters who don't actually care about it. Like you have to look the best at all times but it should also be effortless.

I love you Beth Harmon (The Queen's Gambit) for using your winnings to buy nice clothes.

I thought they would throw Beth Harmon into the frump category (ie: A woman only has brain cells to be smart OR pretty, not both, think Amy from The Big Bang Theory). Also she's not shamed for spending her money on clothing and not more important stuff.

I love you Joan Harris (Mad Men) for showing a woman can be both sexy and very good at her job.

This one has probably been taken the worst. Joan's character is fascinating to me because she falls into a bunch of "sleep your way to the top" stereotypes but they subverted those expectations. She is sexy, she does use it or attempt to use it to her advantage (it mostly ends up hurting her), but she is also very smart and very good at her job. It makes me so angry that most characters, even Peggy at first, dismiss her as just trading on her looks. I loved how complex a character she was and that she wasn't just a "bimbo"

I wish there were more of you, instead of an endless trope of Strong Women TM acting and dressing like men.

Edit: This post was taken as an insult by people I did not intend to offend. I would be more than happy to see women of all types in media. What makes me sad is that it's still rare to see a woman enjoying being feminine without being portrayed as stupid.

[dark-nymph3t]

Am I a person or am I a bunch of Florence and the Machine lyrics glued together?

[fuck-you-showerthoughts]

ok wait so im partially confused, do you currently identify as transfem or will you be like a future transfem and will you ever fully genuinely identify as male or will it just be a step in your ftmtf journey?? this is a genuine question i dont want to come across as rude :))

That’s a good question! The ftmtf label is confusing bc it’s also used by detransitioners, who tend to take it as literally as possible one step at a time, but for me my gender and transition plans are pretty concrete! I’m already the gender I am (both dyke and fag and other things) so no, I wouldn’t be identifying as one single gender at any point, and I already identify as transfem because I’ve already started building the foundations of that (tf) ideal! :D

[alice-and-ethel]

saw an entire display of these at target today...OTMA-core?!?

[thormanick]

The real question is if Neuvillette = surname, does that mean that each and every Melusine is also Neuvillette?

[odetolovers]

living my best life in the whole wide world…

[lord-squiggletits]

Playing with gender in fanon is fun yes, but has anyone else noticed how much of it is less "gender is arbitrary and all forms of presentation can be interesting and beautiful" kind of gender play and more often a "I will assign every single trait as masculine or feminine and misgender characters based on whether I perceive them as masculine or feminine" kind of playing with gender that's nothing more than queer branded cis/heteronormativity

[rinofwater]

Guess who unlocked a new dysphoria trigger at work today (yay!)

[agonizedembrace]

my mind is full of coven rn

[skoulsons]

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[sol1loqu1st]

idk if it's dysphoria or just regular ol insecurity or if maybe i just have a more Autistic Face/Body Language than i realized but when i see pictures of myself smiling there's like a 90% chance i look at them and kind of flinch. i've never seen a picture of someone else smiling and thought they looked bad but i feel like i look like a huge dork in pictures when i'm just candidly happy and it makes me really sad that other people just sort of effortlessly look good in photos and no matter what i do i look like the Bullied Social Reject Who Gets Asked To Prom By A Popular Kid Who Wants To Come Off As Kind And Empathetic

[pensivetense]

You know sometimes I think it’s a shame I’m not a girl because I have really grown into my face and I’d be a very hot girl

[heavy-buddy]

can I still be a butch if I have medium length hair

[lucarioguy15]

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[celestial-scrapyard]

“I thought he was a [cis]girl because he looks like a gi” no nuh uh. Nope. You should reevaluate your binary perception of gender, aight. I don’t care how young you are, start thinkin about it now ok. Men don’t have to be masculine, women don’t have to be feminine, non-binary people don’t have to be androgynous.