#it’s me hi I’m the problem

[bereft-of-frogs]

you know you’re the problem when you’re googling the references in House of Leaves and get disappointed when they’re fake

[thetevinterspy]

Lessons from Years in the Dragon Age Fandom: How I Learned to Be Less of an Asshole.

I graduated high school in 1999. It wasn’t until my junior or senior year that we had a computer at home, and I still vividly remember skipping class to sneak into the school library and log into Yahoo! Chat rooms. Since then, I’ve been a part of countless online communities and fandoms, each shaping my experience in some way.

One community that’s had a lasting impact is the Dragon Age fandom. I’ve been involved, in one way or another, since 2010. I especially remember the lead-up to Inquisition. I was active on the BSN boards, arguing with anyone who dared to disagree with me. I participated in the drama, spoke my mind with little restraint, and fought hard to have the “winning” opinion. Looking back, I realize I was part of the problem.

Now, with years of life experience and the added perspective of parenting, my desire to argue with strangers on the internet has waned. My approach to fandom has changed—hopefully for the better. Here are a few things I’ve learned along the way:

1. Just because I believe it, doesn’t make it true.

Passionate opinions are fine, but they don’t equal fact. Fandoms thrive on different interpretations, and that’s okay.

2. EA, BioWare, and the Dragon Age team don’t owe me anything.

Not closure, not specific storylines—nothing. They’re making their game, not mine.

3. Developers are real people who deserve respect.

Behind every game is a team of people working hard. It’s easy to forget that in the heat of an online debate.

4. The developers want us to love Veilguard just as much as we do.

Nobody sets out to make a bad game. The team is putting their all into it, and they don’t want to disappoint us.

5. The block button is your friend.

It took me way too long to embrace this. If someone’s being toxic, just block them. There’s no need to engage. Block. Rinse. Repeat.

6. Nobody, except for you, cares about your Warden.

Your personal Dragon Age experience is just that—personal. You don’t need to argue with others about how their playthroughs should go.

7. Follow creators from diverse backgrounds.

Seek out voices from people of color, people with disabilities, and the LGBTQIA+ community. You’ll learn more, and the fandom will be richer for it.

8. Sending threats makes you part of the problem.

If you’re sending threats to developers, content creators, or anyone else because of a storyline or character you didn’t like, you’re hurting the very thing you claim to love.

9. Harassing marginalized groups is never okay.

This should go without saying, but if you’re harassing anyone—whether they’re a person of color, LGBTQIA+, or anyone else—you’re not just part of the problem, you are the problem.

10. Self-awareness is key.

Over the years, I’ve learned that sometimes I am the problem. Taking a step back and reflecting on my own behavior in fandom spaces has helped me grow, and it’s something I think everyone could benefit from. Recognizing when to listen and when to step back is a crucial part of being a positive member of any community.

Over the years, I’ve come to understand that fandom is about celebrating what we love—not tearing each other, or the creators, down. These lessons didn’t come overnight, but they’ve made me a better community member. And one day, I hope they’ll make me an even better community manager. I’ve long had a goal of working as a community manager for a fandom that I’m passionate about, helping to foster positive, inclusive spaces where people can share their love for the stories and worlds that bring us together.

Until then, I’ll keep learning, keep engaging, and most importantly—keep blocking, and stay positive! Only 21 days left!!

xoxox,

Jess

[royaltea000]

[jttw swk oc children] tried out giving them some new clothes but I dunno bout this one… 🤔

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[chloesimaginationthings]

I think this might be my favorite drawing of Game Michael yet, you can only see half of his face but it conveys so much emotion and manages to just be very funny.

Michael literally ON THE BRINK OF losing his mind,,,

[nightlocked-in]

“peeta is bisexual” you guys are losing the vision. peeta isn’t even straight. katniss INVENTED sexuality for him. whatever katniss identifies as, he’s like “yeah, i’ll take that one” no questions asked

[bookburners]

If Bruce had the option to get his parents back but one of his kids would die he’d choose his kids every time.

But what if one of his kids had the option to get their parents back but Bruce would die?

[valentimmy]

Hey, man. Can we see some of the doodles you have done, so far?

this is all I got ….

[mochindayo]

🧧新年快乐🧧！

!!!Qiuniu and Guilin!!!

MY DAY ISNT OVER SO ITS STILL LNY AND NOW IM POSTING IT YAY - today was just coloring it, drawing was done over the weekend for the most part :’)

Other art obligations required attention first~ and also y’know, my 8-4/9-5 😔 (just writing my silly little code that I don’t actually know how to write on my own or test on my own yet because I don’t know how all of our microservices work …yet… I swear I’m learning, it just takes me awhile to process and learn)

​oH also the last panel!!!! Guilin is short compared to Qiuniu. He has to stand on a chair to be tall enough to reach like that hahahaha. Qiuniu is 7ft. Guilin is 5’6ft.

But anyways, Happy Lunar New Years Everyone~

새해 복 많이 받으십시오~

新年快乐～

[everwalldigan]

It is actually HILARIOUS to me how different Dick and Jason’s coping mechanisms are😭 like I’m reading battle for the cowl and the sheer polarising reactions to Bruce’s death are giving me whiplash.

Dick, just lost his second father figure, youngest brother almost got killed by his crazed brother, his third brother going out dressed like 80s Batman, Gotham city falling apart at the seams, literally burning to the ground: this is fine

Jason: IM GONNA FUCKING KILL ALL OF YOU

[plo-koons-favorite-padawan]

Star Wars + Poetry, pt. 1

Poem is “Encounter,” written and translated by Czesław Miłosz, full text under cut along with ref pics

Encounter

We were riding through frozen fields in a wagon at dawn.

A red wing rose in the darkness.

And suddenly a hare ran across the road.

One of us pointed to it with his hand.

That was long ago. Today, neither of them is alive,

Not the hare, nor the man who made the gesture

O my love, where are they, where are they going

The flash of a hand, streak of movement, rustle of pebbles.

I ask not out of sorrow, but in wonder.

Wilno, 1936

Tem and Tatooine refs

[shepscapades]

Why does Ren have 4 ears? Are they all real or is one set fake?

Hehe I’ve gotten this question a lot actually! They’re all real— I like to think hybridization isn’t always a clean balance of traits, so Ren just unfortunately ended up with two sets of ears— his Dog ears being much more receptive to sound, naturally— and sometimes when the extra intake of sound is too overwhelming, I imagine he wears earplugs in his human ears to help adjust :> it’s a bit weird, but idk! i like to make designs funky and nonconventional! I liked the idea that Ren had hearing struggles due to wonky hybridization and just kept the concept :>

[fumifooms]

What if we were both magic prodigies and it otherized us in different ways and we devoted ourselves to protecting a family member who has general other goals & priorities. What if we both did self-sacrifical devotion in opposite ways.

What if we were dark mirrors of each other and where I've grown overcontrolling you've grown complacent. What if, bought as a servant into a pretty loving home, ownership and control is what love looks like to me, and to you neglected and lonely growing up, love is gratefully taking any scraps of it you’re lent.

By belonging to someone, even if she comes back injured or fails at finding Delgal, she feels like she belongs and is cherished, by owning someone he feels safe in them not leaving him.

She’s what’s tethering him do you see… And he’s the only thing giving her direction and purpose in her state. She needs a compass and he needs a support.

They’re both so out of it 😭 It’s the weirdly intense and unearned mutual trust and reliance on each other?? They’re each other’s weird little comfort codependent teddy bear. Or at least they were headed towards that before SHE DIED THEN HE DIED THEN THEY BOTH FORGOT ABOUT EACH OTHER AND NEVER MET EVER AGAIN. Though she’s also the guard attack hound keeping him safe… And vice versa he heals her and can rewrite her very being with just one wave of his hand. They’re both so so mentally and physically vulnerable both but they cling onto each other. They can’t perceive things accurately but despite it all someway somehow they stumble into something closer to resembling companionship just before they both die. Falin is just that kind and Thistle is just that lonely. Overworked.

We both haven’t lived for ourselves in a very long time, haven’t we.

They both have a similar devotion to the people they love but again the difference is that Thistle starts overtsepping while Falin is self-effacing. The other difference between them is that people care about Falin <3 People have given up on Thistle long ago, and he has given people reasons to, while people refuse to give up on Falin. Yaad has a mini arc about it dw about it it’s ok he’s not all alone in the end 😭😭 He reached out for Marcille’s hand but they already all wanted to help him, they just had to be given the chance to, Yaad just had to be given the chance to, it’s okay I’m okay

Hey what if we learned to get in touch with our own identity and the world around us and living in the present again through being in the worst codependent situationship ever.

Falin and Thistle sitting in a tree, sucking on flowers together because they’re h-u-n-g-r-y 💕💕💕

I bet he’s only ever thought of flowers as useless ornaments. Weak weeds. But she shows him they’re tasty and useful and good and pretty in their own right too and deserve existing without proving their worth and waaa <33 Thistles…... Did you know thistles taste sweet if you remove the thorns and eat them?

"Even as a chimera, her kind nature remains" you can’t suppress her in the way that matters. You can’t soothe him in the way that matters. It’s doomed. You’re doomed. It’s all doomed. Save me.

[theloveinc]

I do think it pisses people off how … good… your relationship with Togame is

[theswedishpajas]

Based on my favorite gif lately

[scliffe]

Kuroshitsuji AU where the Phantomhive massacre never happened; Ciel did grow up to be a priest in the Phantomhive territory just as his twin brother wanted, and he kept having to exorcise demons from the body of a man named Sebastian.

Sebastian is a very attractive man—and a very successful toy store owner too; just like Ciel’s childhood dream, isn’t that such a coincidence? He’s very kind to Ciel—probably out of gratefulness for helping him—and Ciel quickly finds himself falling in love and sharing a special connection with the man, it’s just a shame that Sebastian seems to keep getting possessed by demons way too often than people normally do, doesn’t he? It’s like he just gets repossessed by demons as an excuse to keep seeing the little priest.

[lunar-years]

This is not a genuine interview where he shares his genuine thoughts. His job is controlled by a network that profits at least 50% from Republicans, and who are receiving a sitting president at their biggest game. If you think they haven't controlled talk over DT because of how it affects the sport then you aren't living in reality. He can't just say what he wants, he's not a random person ln tumblr. There's a reason even Taylor mainly ignored him in her endorsement of Harris, it's just bot worth it and it doesn't pluck him out of the white house.

If you think there wasn’t a better way for Travis to answer that question that wouldn’t have involved saying it was both “awesome” and an “honor” as well as spouting that America is the best country in the world, I’m sorry but you are the one not living in reality. As just one example of a better response, this is how Jalen Hurts, QB of the Eagles, answered a very similar question:

But maybe it’s only in the Chiefs contract that they’ve got to praise the presidency! 🤪 lmao.