#it just depends

[ouremperorssmugsmile]

Here's baby Zhuzhi-lang to make you feel better!! <3

Inspired by this fic, it's beautiful and adorable.

He's so cute my heart-

[lobotomy-lady]

If you look up ABA therapy on here the majority of it will be people calling it abuse. I really hate to be that guy but it's hard for me to take these claims super seriously because 90% of their reasons for being traumatized by it are things like "they made me make eye contact and sit still and it was uncomfortable" or "they made me feel like there was something wrong with me and infantilized me". I have no doubt people use it in abusive ways, but I'm just not sure these reasons they're listing are. Even the very worst things they list (such as being infantilized) are just the therapists being assholes, not abusive.

those people really sound like whiny babies lmao like as a person who was abused as a child, saying "a therapist tried to use positive reinforcement to get me to behave in a more appropriate manner" is child abuse is just fucking ridiculous. it's always kids whose parents bent over backwards to help them who are the first to complain. SO many autistic kids are actually abused for being autistic!! I'm talking kids being beaten by their caregivers, locked in rooms alone & neglected, screamed at & called horrible things, etc...but sure you were abused bc you were uncomfortable for a few minutes while in therapy. god it's ridiculous. it reminds me of that trans substitute teacher who got fired for her weird social media presence & then said she was the victim of a hate crime. like sorry but what happened to you isn't even in the same universe as someone being physically assaulted for being gay lol

[not-poignant]

T/F game: you hate surprise gifts (good or bad, doesn't matter)

True-ish!

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Depends on the gift, depends on the giver, but this is largely true. It doesn't ruin a birthday or an event for me to know that a present is coming, and if it's a big present that people have invested a lot of time or money into, I'd rather know in advance how much I'm going to have to mask through the gratitude.

I'm very bad at keeping surprises too. I'm that person who will just pop and tell someone what I got them in advance, lmao.

I do like certain kinds of surprise presents but they need to come from particular people in particular ways lmao. Like, Glen who I live with, if he comes home with my favourite chocolates of all time, I will be truly delighted. Esp because I only get to have them like twice a year. If a good friend of mine just randomly buys me a game on Steam (we do this for each other intermittently), I'm very happy. I know it doesn't come with expectation and I don't have to mask in person.

One of the biggest reasons I skipped the family christmas last year was because I was so overwhelmed and depressed I knew I wouldn't be able to mask any kind of gratitude through it and had a very flat affect and monotonous tone, and I felt so bad at the idea that people would think I was ungrateful or hated it, that I just...didn't go to something that is one of the most special things I do with my family all year (to the point that I cancelled my birthday which is on the 17th of Dec to preserve energy for christmas).

So surprises can be rough on a masking level.

If a friend comes over and is like 'we're doing something new today!' they're not going to stay a friend very long x.x

[sin-cxde]

How do you want to frag? Would you prefer to top or bottom? Rough and fast or soft and gentle?

"That depends on my mood. I can do either. In all ways."

[caffeinated-rat-bastard]

why you never use aroace flag in your avatar?

I don't like colors

[heather-chandlers-weirder-cousin]

Learning what some people consider age gaps is so fascinating

[rosescries]

Hello! I have been wondering for a while but when you make Mc do you base them off yourself or do you think of them as a whole other character?

A bit of both really. Sometimes they're whole characters on their own (like in Lady In Black and Nightmares Never End), sometimes they're just me wearing a mask (There's Still Magic, and it's spin offs, and The Writer), and most of the time it's a melting pot of the two.

I like taking little bits and pieces a lot, sometimes I just think of what I might do in a situation and go from there. I think a lot of writers do this honestly.

[scripted-downfall]

After a lifetime of hunting, Dean should probably be used to things going very, very wrong just when they all seem to be going very, very right. (Admittedly, things *don't* seem to be going very, very right --- not with all the who-knows-what going on with Cas, or Sam taking on the Trials --- but the point stands: he should still be used to things going wrong.) He's not used to it though --- very much doesn't accept it, in fact --- so, when Sam starts acting odd and Cas pays another steep price for helping them, holding things together seems well-nigh impossible.

He should probably *also* be used to reality shifting around him, to having to update his priors with change after change until their lives are well past unrecognizable, but his worst fears being realized around him is something he's not ready for, no matter how temporary it might be.

This was written in character without much alteration; as a result, can be read as either Destiel or gen. Will be two chapters. The focus is not romantic; it's far more of a brotherly story. I'd love to hear what you think about it, but no pressure.

[zoomzooml]

"Desperation, I guess..." i mean, there is the whole energy shortage. when times are tough, and the enemy is trying to kill you anyway, you might as well get a meal out of them, if they don't do the same first. i could also see a more benign and nonlethal version, where someone who has energon to spare, gives a starving friend a sip or two.

Well, yes.

Ok, so energon as liquid continues to exist on Cybertron, but in small quantities and without active circulation stagnated in some places. It's no longer arriving, only diminishing. Before the war, energon was stored, as a "just in case". So the situation is very bad, energy shortage is very happening but it is still possible to get this energon.

Voluntary cannibalism, so to speak, does occur, but to make it safe for the donor they can't give away too much. So it is a last-minute solution just to keep the companion alive, and maybe they will get something else to eat.

However, eating the enemy, another Transformer, still receives slanted looks by comparing this behavior to the pre-war era among other things. Especially by those inclined to philosophize or followers of certain religions (about which I plan to post); it just so happened that these are usually 'formers with a good position. Yet it becomes normalized in the sense that it is only done to survive.

However, all of this can vary depending on the culture/customs/permissions of the group or division.

Plus Transformers are quite social creatures. So if there are suspicions that someone, say, enjoys cannibalism too much or has poor self-control and might attack companions to feed on them, they may be placed under unofficial surveillance. If they do something stupid, they may be rejected or banished, which almost always means death. Then, however, there is a risk that they will give the group to the enemy for a meal for example (if they're lucky), so it's quite dangerous. They are much more likely to be judged by the leader or group, which usually results in a execution sentence with the possibility of improvement (when times will be better we will kill you unless you work off the damage and/or prove that you are not a threat to us), because not only are there deficiencies in energon but also in people. Sometimes it's just an execution. Because as biting an enemy or eating someone's severed arm is fair game, most remember that they are just as edible.

[windwheeler-aster]

For the ask game: BROWN HAIR, maybe hazel eyes?? Not blue for sure. Very approachable looking. A really nice voice, like it’s soft and calming. You also sound like you have a really nice laugh.

anon i love your confidence but i regret to inform you that i have grey/blue eyes </3

i've been told i have a nice energy (kinda like sunshine (<- irl friend said that))

lowkey forget what my voice sounds like💀💀💀 (but i've been told it's calming)

ALSO THE LAUGH THING GHGHGHGH THANK YOUUU THATS VERY SWEET

[nymphoutofwater]

And why? Cultural norms? Personal schedule? “Cause I’m always late to everything”?

Bonus points: Region and/or ethnicity?

[not-poignant]

18, about being afraid of spiders! Because you live in Australia :3

18: Are you scared of spiders?

It depends on the spider!

If it's very venomous (redback for example) and it's inside, I tend to get the heebie jeebies because it's not only dangerous to me, but the cats. They get killed, as do similar kind of spiders like white-tails.

But other spiders I love, like golden orb weavers, which I'll move around the garden if they're getting in the way. I think jumping spiders are adorable. I think black house spiders deserve respect and are kind of cool.

Not all spiders are created equal on the fear stakes basically.

Though I'll always be scared of a huntsman even though they're actually not that bad. It's the way they look and move, it just awakens something atavistic in my brain.

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From the horrible questions meme!

[chloesimaginationthings]

“Cassidy, stop doing the FNAF golden Freddy pose”

[sunnibits]

just out of curiosity bc some people I know with glasses can just go a few hours or a day without them and be chill but I need them on all the time or I’ll go crazy