#it is just life

[void-thegod]

Double reblog bc

Had this recent exp with guys at work where everyone was talking about having kids

And people ask me if I have any

And it's like ???

Whether they know I'm a trans man or not. It's an educated guess they do

Gay men, lesbians, anyone can have kids

But

I give them the answer I always give

It's not for me. My mom struggled by herself to raise us. I had a shit experience growing up. I don't want to put someone else through that.

But mostly: the idea of having kids is basically unappealing to me in every way.

I wouldn't personally get pregnant. I know some trans men don't care. I do.

The idea grossed me out before I knew I was trans. I was aware of it when I was a kid. I knew that other vagina holders felt that way, too. Cis, gay, whatever.

Everyone can feel disgusted about any aspect of their body for any reason regardless.

In some instances and not others.

So like. For a lot of reasons I consider myself blessed to have been born transgender.

If I were a cis man I can imagine I would've had kids. Same if I was a cis woman.

But as a trans man? No. As an autistic man? No. As a brown man? No. No no no.

The world is too fucked up.

And they agree with me on that.

Other conversations too. Just. Completely unaware that there are people who exist who want nothing to do with normative lifestyle.

For valid reasons that have nothing to do with gender or sex or race or anything.

Just. Not interested. Not in my constitution.

And then this is viewed as bad. Like something is wrong with me for saying what I think and how I feel. I'm trauma dumping or being weird

My siblings in divinity:

Yall out here having kids with people you don't know who you call whores. Having multiple jobs to keep up with this capitalist nonsense. Engaging with people you don't know and still feeling lonely/unfulfilled

I'm pretty sure I winning by being a loser at this point.

Having a traumatic childhood means you cannot talk even objectively about your basic foundational experiences without it being "venting", even if you're not actually venting. You just straight up have a huge chunk of your life you can't talk about, full stop, without it being trauma dumping.

And it not being socially acceptable to talk about your own childhood is super alienating. Sometimes people want to know why, and any answer you can give them is going to be off putting.

It's to the point I get irritated when something I said is framed as venting when I'm literally just talking about my life experiences, doing my best to keep emotion out of it.

[maudiemoods]

If life is a never ending loop of dirty dishes and laundry then that means life is a never ending loop of home cooked meals and comfy clean clothes

[void-drifter]

it’s cheaper to buy vegetables here

[beaft]

do genuinely find it fascinating how indeed.com is like the biggest job-hunting website out there and yet manages to be profoundly useless in every possible way

[butchfalin]

the funniest meltdown ive ever had was in college when i got so overstimulated that i could Not speak, including over text. one of my friends was trying to talk me through it but i was solely using emojis because they were easier than trying to come up with words so he started using primarily emojis as well just to make things feel balanced. this was not the Most effective strategy... until. he tried to ask me "you okay?" but the way he chose to do that was by sending "👉🏼👌🏼❓" and i was so shocked by suddenly being asked if i was dtf that i was like WHAT???? WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY TO ME?????????? and thus was verbal again

[beguilingcorpse]

i am glad queer representation has drastically improved in my lifetime. because now i can say that i dislike a gay book and not feel like i’m invalidating stonewall

[kn1ght-l1ght]

Posting this iconic piece of media that I just NEVER found online isolated except in an archived reddit thread

[micewithknives]

I let myself rest and now I'm daydreaming about academia and academic research and writing again

[daughterofchaosstuff]

done healing my inner child. next up is my inner teen. her highness demands a sword.

[onekisstotakewithme]

having online friends who are busy is just like. I LOVE YOU. I miss you. YOU GOT THIS. I'm giving you space to work. I LOVE YOU.

[mambodork]

New season dropped,, ive only watched scar and joel's pov so far and i couldnt rest until i drew somethinf ,,, dont have everybody's design down quite yet but we r going somewhere *smiles*

[cork-run]

the names of certain mob-involved trans women have been changed

[wasabi-gumdrop]

local ladies man’s signature move totally useless against autistic monster enthusiast. more on Kabru’s fumble era at 6

[baristabomb]

...weird amount of dunmeshi fans have been saying being a caretaker in a relationship is the worst thing ever..marcille must want to killl everyone soo bad because doing things for people suuuucks sooo muchh

it's an act of love, not just a job i promise. we all want someone who's willing to take care of us in some way, just like how senshi shows care for others by cooking for them :'|

[sadclowncentral]

when i got my medical certificate i very confidently answered the question "what do you do if a person becomes unconscious?" with "remove from the room immediately" only to be met with puzzled silence by the instructor and that's when i learned that the deeply ingrained nautical fear and grim reality of seamen and their rescuers asphyxiating in enclosed spaces due to build up of toxic gas or especially lack of oxygen does not translate to land.

[catmask]

when u go to write a mentally ill person in ur story you are presented two options. the first option is to write your mental illness realistically as you actually experience it with all the ups and downs and people who are like you will resonate with it and feel seen. except every person who reads instagram infographics on mental health that uses the phrase narcicisst for anyone who does anything that crosses them and unironically call themself a dark empath will call you scary and tell you that youre demonizing mentally ill people

the second option is to lie and write inspiration porn for those people to get hard to