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misty-missdee · 8 months ago

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Why. Is it. A stranger called me a good person today, and I feel weird and meloncholic about it?

#she seemed to mean it genuinely #and all i feel #is the shame #ougheh #its a good thing ill be back in therapy soon enough #obviously i have more work to do #back to your regularly schedule arts n stuff bai bai

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leresq · 2 months ago

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"gee I wonder how I will transfer this information reliably across long distances"

the trustworthy telecommunications dish:

#borzoi #cone of shame #nefarious anglerfish #the nefarious anglerfish

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rhinco · 6 months ago

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"scythes are impractical as a weapon" ok but does anything else have the Cunt. i think not

#went to jupiter got stupider #hall of shame #← had to mute bc its blowing up my notifs

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clickityweasel · 3 months ago

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had a real life "and everybody clapped" moment and im still reeling. spent the rest of the ride comparing butterfly pics with the old lady next to me trying to identify it

#this was a little while ago and im. why do these things happen to me #clickity autobio #autobio comic #comics #u will notice my bag disappears halfway thru this comic #this is bc i put it and my coat on the goddamn floor of the tube #so i could jump around like a ninny without smacking anyone in the face #hall of shame

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deansbisexualflannel · 11 days ago

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#kit rambles #supernatural #spn #destiel #destiel confession #spn 15x18 #despair #november 5th #feat emma #hall of shame #1k #20k #25k

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grungekitty-77 · 8 months ago

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Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

#guilt #shame #rant #soapbox

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catgirlcadaver · 8 months ago

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yeah Romeo and Juliet suuucks they should’ve both survived at the end and lived happily ever after instead. but of course the writer kills them both off for shock value.

#hall of shame

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bibleofficial · 2 months ago

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#stream #i’m a peace sign but if my hands r full smile & nod but if they’re being a dick or i’m jwalking it’s the scuttle of shame

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hiroshotreplica · 10 months ago

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idk if im actually bi or nit but i have an 8 am class tomorrow cant worry about that