#ironically they are right

[catmaid-san]

The Story of a Fat or a Nerd

It is sad how many stories or movies about "fat girl or fat boy finding happiness" Are filled with the ending for the said fat boy/girl becoming thin and turn into a pretty maiden or a handsome lad.

... As if when they aren't thin and look handsome or pretty, they wouldn't find happiness or find love.

Look, being fat due to uncontrollable consumptions on junk foods and due to being lazy to even just walk around campus or neighborhood is not good, and should be fixed. You have to eat a better diet, and you have to exercise even just walking around the house a little, not for appearance, but for your health.

But some people are also fat due to genes, stress, post childbirth, etc. It is sometime are inevitable cases. And the journey of losing weight is not a matter of one day or two days. In reality it could even be years. So, during those years when you haven't lost your weight and still being fat, are you not worthy of happiness in that case, when the standard of achieving happiness is put on the time when you finally being thin and slim?

I think stories about fatties finding happiness should have been more focused on the journey of how they perceived themselves, finding their value within themselves, being confident and accept who they are, finding their passion and meeting truly sincere people who don't judge others by appearance---rather than telling how they spent a month or so fervently running/jogging or dieting in extreme to lose weight and "finally being accepted" By the society and finally meeting a loved one after losing the weight.

Those kind of mainstream stories or movies about the change of a fatty are just straight up telling "unless you are slim and thin you won't be happy".

This is just sad. Those won't make the people with extra weight gain their confidence but just trampling on their self-worth instead.

It is similar to how stories about a nerd glow up. As if when you aren't dressed fashionably, as if when you wore glasses instead of lenses, as if when you just have a normal haircut instead of fashionably styled---you won't get happiness unless you get a glow up.

But the thing is, you can just have a presentable clothes on the right occasion (don't wear jersey on formal occasions bitches), properly comb or tie your hair, ironed your shirt (getting your clothes all wrinkled will affect first impression, human naturally love tidy things instead of messy ones), wash your face and body (get that dirt and body odor away, even if you aren't good looking at least you won't make people uncomfortable by being near you) , and most importantly, has your confidence---you don't need to glow up to find happiness, it is okay to live like an average normal people. You can still function perfectly in society without having to glow up. The most important thing is to present yourself properly and have your confidence.

Sadly, movies and literature are also filled with how this one nerd glow up by wearing trendy clothes, cast away their glasses, get a stylish hairdo, and put on a pretty make up---for this nerd to finally be noticed and accepted by the society.

Not all people have a good senses of fashion to continuously wear fashionable clothes. Just let these people wear something basic as long as they match with the occasions.

Not all people like wearing all kinds of accessories or putting on complicated fashion sets. Just let these people wear classic suit and pants/skirt.

Not all people have the time or patient putting on complete make up with the eyelashes, shadows and the likes. Just let these people wear sunscreen and light make up to protect their skin.

What a nerd in reality need the most is never a glow up. They need a chance to find confidence to accept themselves. And the hopes to meet sincere people who aren't being a dick by trolling and bullying others when they have nothing to do. This is what they need, and should have been the focus in movies or literature to encourage them.

This is also what I, and other people who aren't fat or nerdy, need. So that we, the masses, will realize that fat or nerd people are just normal people in the end, each with their own value and goodness.

We don't have to wait for them to lose their weight or get a glow up for us to change our view and change the way we treat them!

That should be the target, the goal of every fatty or nerdy journey to change-movies or stories...

[ladygrinninghole]

obsessed with star trek repeatedly writing themselves into a corner by creating alien races that are supposed to be The Bad Guys when that explicitly conflicts with their previously established notion that no group of people is inherently good or evil.

first it was the klingons—they’re originally supposed to be this cruel, bloodthirsty, war-obsessed people—and then tng comes along and it’s like wait no maybe war and violence is a part of their culture and actually ties back to ancient traditions and philosophies so we have to be woke about it.

hey these are the ferengi and they’re supposed to represent everything we hate about capitalist society; they’re greedy, scheming, profit-obsessed, and they look like ugly little trolls to emphasize how much we fucking HATE capitalism. oh wait fuck here comes deep space nine and we have to recognize that they’re PEOPLE. okok what if the pursuit of profit is actually part of their culture and ties back to ancient traditions and philosophies. so we have to be woke about it.

this is the borg, they’re a hivemind race of cyborgs who have no sense of individuality and their only motivation is assimilating people into their society. they want to assimilate humanity and we are completely defenseless against them because their technology is eons ahead of our own and they’re incapable of being reasoned with. oh sweet we have a borg prisoner this is the perfect opportunity to commit genocide against them. fuck actually we can’t commit genocide we’re woke and communists and in space.

hey these are the cardassians, they’re part of a cruel and vicious empire which is supposed to be a representation of fascism and authoritarian regimes, they’re a cold, bloodthirsty people with no sense of empathy or compassion, their society literally references 1984 on multiple occasions, and they’re known for the insanely cruel and inhumane methods of torture they use against their prisoners of war. we hate the cardassians…….. except, here’s a cardassian kid who grew up on bajor, and……. fuck. he’s a person. now we actually have to consider his humanity. and being racist is actually……. bad.

this is the jem’hadar, they’re genetically engineered soldiers who have no sense of individuality and only live to defend the state. they’re all born addicted to a synthetic drug that’s manufactured by the state and administered by their masters—this is how they’re kept subservient. they’re ruthless and powerful and they’re incapable of being reasoned with because their only motivation is violence and killing. so we should kill them all, right? FUCK….. what if they’re actually people. goddamnit. now we have to consider their humanity.

hey these are the romulans. hey these are the founders. the list goes on. i just find it really interesting

[poqu]

still dreaming of that night

[yaoisquidbob]

serious gaming

[watcher0033]

Y’all, the Archive admins are made up of VOLUNTEERS. And they have been working for 12-13 HOURS STRAIGHT.

I better not hear any complaints when donation period comes around. OR ELSE.

cosplay by @woahchriswoah on Twitter

EDIT: How do we show appreciation to the volunteers? For me reading these deep dives on OTW issues u guys apparently it's been said multiple times that one of their objective statements is to have paid staff for ao3 and there's a surplus of donations they haven't used up or the other community solutions that needs to address. For those more financially literate feel free to analyze, snipe me or add to the discussion etc. linked here by deepa. They’re cool and these yearly analysis they did aint no joke.

But Seriously what can we do for these volunteers? The probable burn out from this entire fiasco would be no joke. @ao3org

[laccakes]

when you guys walk on a sidewalk, bakugou never and i mean neverrr lets you walk on the side closest to the road. he'll have his large hand on the small of your back as he guides you to the side away from roaring cars.

anddd he does the leaning his head down to hear you thing when you guys are in a loud environment. he'll have his hands buried in his pockets leaning his ear near your lips. if he still can't hear you for whatever reason, he'll place his hand on the small of your back to bring you closer to him. "say it again, baby."

[talizorah]

favorite dragon age companion - BORING

tell me your LEAST FAVORITE dragon age companion

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

This wine tastes like pigs blood!

[First] Prev <–-> Next

[too-many-lavellans]

Kadan 🥺? Please 🥺✨?

(please don’t tag/comment with your inquisitor, thanks)

[aprill-99]

*After the Gauntlet.*

Amber: “You can’t do that!”

Violet: “Not to worry, I have a permit.”

Dain: “This just says ‘I can do what I want-’”

Xaden: “-And she can. 10/10. 5 Stars.”

[gayfandomblog]

anyone else obsessed with the fact that korrasami went canon before gay marriage was federally legalized in the US and was the first gay couple in any western cartoon

[behindheterochromiaeyes]

introverts be like

[wardenss]

i was getting ready to take some scs of dorian in this scene but iron bull had other plans 😭

[vaguely-concerned]

literally never am I getting over the unexpected and acknowledged throughline in this game that 'part of the reason lucanis is so good at what he does is, surprisingly, that he has a frankly remarkable capacity for empathy'. his instinct for it is so strong that it even kicks in looking at actual demons he's been culturally conditioned to think of as mindless monsters and lets him realize that they are just as innocent in the middle of this horror as every other prisoner, which is what helps him survive in there and reach an understanding (and even a warmth beneath it all!) with spite, when spite was at his most terrified and confused and needed him. it makes him an incredibly kind and devoted friend, and a terrifying enemy. shorn of most of the compassion that goes along with it in his private life, he uses it in his professional one as one more knife to kill with as easily as he does in SO gently and softly helping to untangle lace harding's people pleasing problems with her. so long as the three categories of people -- family, enemies, targets -- stay distinct and separate in his head, this seems to be working out swimmingly for him! (well. that's probably what he'd tell you at least lol it's certainly helped him survive and do his job I'll give him that.) the MOMENT the lines start to blur, he is fucked. this dude was compartmentalized to hell and back long before the ossuary.

(he shares the 'incredible insight into people and human nature -- as long as I don't have to interpersonally engage with and adapt to it on the spot. b/c then you'll see the biggest mess you could ever imagine' trait with merrill. which does make quite a bit of sense in that they're written by the same person and also in my estimation a not entirely dissimilar shade of autistic lol. also yet another tick on the 'lucanis - iron bull parallels' tally haha. 'ben-hassrath, kid. we can use anything.' what if your circumstances and upbringing forced you to turn some of the kindest fundamental instincts inside you into tools for violence and you only got to keep guarded scraps of it for yourself. what if you're so fucking scared it'll break bad inside you some day and turn you into a monster and you'll end up hurting the people you love. saddest freeze slash dissociative trauma response handshake meme duo To Me)

[queerlyoddly]

tony: it’s dark in here

peter: don’t worry mr. stark i got this

peter: *stomps his feet*

peter: *skechers light up*

[mightytato]

tumblr probably ate the quality. aNYWAY- here i am, inspired by the iron might suit. but i just drew it as if it were his regular hero suit.