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#GET AWAY FROM ME FREAK I AM NOT DEBATING CHRSTIANITY WITH A GUY WHO HAS 5 DIFFERENT RED FLAGS#also i hope he dies irl
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we talk a lot about how current kids, teenagers, and parents never learned internet safety in this age of social media, but i think we also gotta be honest with ourselves that most of us, adults on the internet who participate in fandom, never really learned how to engage with young people without setting them up for disaster.
might be weird to say it like this, but it's important to leave people how you met them or better. like hiking or going to a nature reserve. if you are regularly talking to people on the internet, especially teenagers, you need to consider whether your behavior with them is how another, shittier person would take advantage of them, because you have no real way of protecting them if that happens. like if you're going into discords and saying 'hey i'm mom! let me help you with your homework and irl issues. also please feel free to vent to me if you have any mental health issues or problems at home" you have to understand that the next person who says that to them may be leaving out the end of their plan; "that would make you easier to abuse."
sometimes you have to say "you seem fun and have a lot of great ideas but you are also 15, so if you wanna talk fandom, here are the boundaries we're going to follow, because these are the boundaries other adults should be following with you." or just refuse to talk to kids.
you decide what your responsibility, is but what you can't do is build an illegal fire pit on the hiking trail, if you catch my drift.
#the last post i reblogged reminded me of my longstanding vendetta against fandom parents#and while i've held this opinion for years i think i can finally verbalize it in a way that makes sense?#dont get people used to red flags!!!! do not be the reason someone things red flags are normal!!!#this is not to say you can never be friends intergenerationally. just that like...#a lot of friendships i was in as a kid were like lightening. fast and strong and over quickly#and what i learned was that it was fine to progress to very personal details quickly.#dont be lightening. be a hiker. keep a reasonable speed and dont be afraid to say 'you're walking very quickly on an unknown path. slow dow#also just. to be clear. i dont think this is a personal failing i see this as a consequence of all of US having INSANE relationships too#like many of us are still struggling to figure out boundaries with IRL people after that.#and trying to do right by the young people we see in the same shoes now is a daunting and confusing task with which we can only do our best
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"If villain bad,why sexy?"Because you are not immune to propaganda.And also think beauty only exists within cis and/or white standards
#it's such a common irl abuser/fash tatic-'oh but i'm so hot of course i'm a good guy you can trust despite all my red flags you can fix me!'#and y'all for it irl too but we won't talk too much about that#anti luke castellan#antilukercy#pjo gods slander#anti percy x gods#anti kylo ren#anti reylo#lotor deserved worse#antilotura#anti endeavour#anti hawks#anti bakugou#antidabihawks#anti orochimaru#anti madara#antimultisaku#belos slander#bill cypher slander#antibillford#antibilldip#anti zutara#< not a zuko anti but it's very relevant#anti joker#anti slade wilson#antibatjokes#antisladick#💌#pastel punk tag#summerposting
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Y'all are getting way too comfortable celebrating peoples deaths and I don't mean specifically the whole debacle that just happened , I mean that tumblr has such a bloodlust if like idk Chris Pratt died everyone would be cheering like he was Hitler incarnate, like ,,, you do realize this is mentally unwell behavior???? and is also affecting how people treat fellow users they find annoying to just wish them death, when did death become something we want for people? that's literally evil
#there are so many red flags#i would legit feel unsafe if someone irl acted the way so many here do#stop it get some help#queued because its an abysmal hour rn
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Was the curse of hatred actually a real thing? or did danzo just demonize the uchiha;s anger? idk, being murderously angry or just angry in general is a reasonable and human response to oppression and genocide.
The "Curse of Hatred" Analysis
An interesting question. The Curse of Hatred looks dumb at first glance but there are also many misconceptions surrounding it.
Since it is such a hot mess to begin with, I will try to focus mostly on the in-universe canon and lore rather than making it even more complicated by bringing in too much real-world logic and criticizing Kishimoto.
There's a bunch of rambling in the tags though.
Kishimoto's Intentions
Whenever we talk about the "Curse of Hatred" the fandom will usually apply terms such as "racism", "bigotry" and "pseudoscience" - particularly in reference to Tobirama.
Again, I don't want to bring too much irl logic into this but I feel like we need to make a clear distinction between intention and interpretation over here. "[insert character] was a racist" and "the Uchiha were justified" is a valid interpretation of the story. But at the same time, I doubt that this was ever intended by Kishimoto.
I have talked about this at length in another post of mine, in which I analyzed Kishimoto's most likely intent and how exactly this information is relevant to us with a look at authorial intent in fiction. But the TL;DR version is that Japan is not exactly very sensitized to themes of racism and the "Curse of Hatred" is never framed as racist propaganda but exposition only. The lore also lines up with Kishimoto's personal views on how grudges are responsible for war (instead of corruption or racism) and the Uchiha's curse might be a metaphor for that.
In other words, the Curse of Hatred is real in canon. Even if it's a massive red flag and deserves to be criticized.
What Is The "Curse of Hatred" Even?
I have to admit, it's been a while since the last time I watched Naruto from start to finish, so I had to use the sources listed by the wiki rather than relying on my own findings and I might be biased. Because of that, I'd prefer everybody to regard my findings as headcanon or interpretation (especially further toward the end) rather than undisputed fact.
As far as I remember, the exact wording "Curse of Hatred" is only ever used by Obito. While not using the same wording, the curse is also referenced by Itachi, Hagoromo, and Tobirama who each have their own understanding of it. Unfortunately, we have no idea where exactly this wording or concept originated and we have no idea what exactly causes the Curse of Hatred that Obito refers to.
Hiruzen, Koharu, Homura, and even Danzo, while potentially influenced by Tobirama's teachings, do not reference the Curse of Hatred at all, at least not in relation to the Uchiha Clan itself.
Now here's the first one of my findings: The Curse of Hatred is supposed to be some sort of involuntary biological or cultural inclination causing Uchihas to become consumed by hatred but it is also something voluntary - a Nindo. While the former could be considered a "curse" in the traditional sense, the latter is definitely not.
For the Nindo, it is supposed to be some sort of antithesis to the Will of Fire. Because of that, it is not limited to the Uchiha but, according to Tobirama and Obito, closely associated. As explained later on in this post, most Uchihas do not follow this Nindo.
Core aspects of the Curse of Hatred as a Nindo:
Valuing a precious few above the many
Directing your hatred at those who took away your precious few
Growing stronger from those feelings of hatred (for the Uchiha, reflected in the form of the Sharingan)
A Biological Inclination?
Now back to Tobirama's theory, due to the narrative framing, we will assume his words to be truthful for the sake of this analysis. However, I will provide links to other people's posts delving into the fantasy racism discussion.
Tobirama is racist and his theories cannot be trusted.
Tobirama is not racist and there is validity to his theories.
I myself do not completely agree with either of these, but they might be interesting reads for you. If you do not agree with either of them, please keep it to yourself and do not bother the original creators.
Tobirama's theory goes as follows:
The Uchiha feel love and hate more strongly than other individuals
The strength of the Sharingan and the Uchihas' hatred are correlated
In a fit of hatred, odds are an Uchiha will commit evil
It is nowhere mentioned that the Uchiha are more likely to feel hate - only that their hatred is worse than the average person's and puts them at risk of being swayed by hateful ideologies.
A Cultural Inclination?
Aside from Tobirama's theory, multiple characters comment on the historical origin behind the Curse of Hatred.
We are talking, of course, about Indra. Obito explains that Indra's values and his hatred (particularly what later became the Nindo of the Curse of Hatred) were passed down to his descendants - the Uchiha clan. Tobirama's exposition implies the same thing.
Tobirama states that there "used to be a thought that [...] the basis of the Uchiha clan's strength was the power of their jutsu". It is very similar to Hagorormo's description of his son.
If this is correct, that would mean that the importance placed on powerful jutsu by the Uchiha Clan does inadvertently promote hatred due to the close correlation between hatred and the Sharingan.
But then again, in the story, it is shown that many Uchiha were not particularly fond of perpetuating hate and it is also implied that to avoid hatred, they sealed their emotions away. My interpretation is that they recognized the pain that hate could cause and then took steps to avoid it.
The Reincarnation Cycle
Sticking with Indra, another explanation that is frequently brought up is Indra's and Ashura's reincarnation cycle, which has also been described as curse-like or haunting and neverending. A fate seemingly set in stone.
There is not much more to say, other than that this theory suggests that Indra's reincarnates are just naturally inclined towards lusting for power.
The True Origin
Now, here's another thing that's constantly being overlooked. Aside from Obito's exposition in chapter 462 on the Curse of Hatred Nindo, Tobirama's exposition in chapter 619 on the Uchiha's tendency to follow said Nindo, and even Hagoromo's exposition on the reincarnation cycle in chapter 670, we get a vital piece of exposition in chapter 681.
Ladies, gentlemen, and anything in between. May I introduce to you...
...the real Curse of Hatred.
Or at the very least what I believe is the real reason why the "Curse of Hatred" exists in the world of Naruto.
From the very beginning, Zetsu approached Indra to take advantage of his hatred and turn it into a tool for his own purposes. He then did that again and again. He focused on the Uchiha in particular - Either because of the previously mentioned reasons (i.e. the Uchiha / incarnates have a tendency to become obsessed with hatred and power) or because the Uchiha were otherwise easy to take advantage of / manipulate (through Hagoromo's stone tablet that was left in the Uchihas' possession, an ill reputation thanks to Indra's / their ancestors' actions, etc).
In order to achieve his goal (awakening a Rinnegan), he had to somehow combine both Indra's and Ashura's power. It is implied that for this purpose, he instigated, perpetuated, and escalated wars and conflicts between Senju and Uchiha by pitting their reincarnates against each other. But unlike the wars he caused, Zetsu went unnoticed by the history books. Basically, he kept haunting the clans like a curse.
And without a doubt, had Zetsu never been there, 99% of the Uchihas' problems would not exist - regardless of what ideals, genes, or history the Uchiha hold. Indra's declaration of war, centuries of conflict, Madara's defection, Obito losing Rin, the Kyubi attack, the Uchiha massacre, Sasuke's defection, the 4th Great Shinobi War. All of these were directly caused by Zetsu or set off by a resulting chain reaction.
You could even think this further. Assuming the Uchiha clan really came across as "cursed", perhaps Tobirama's, Obito's, Hagoromo's and everybody else's explanations were just desperate attempts to make sense of anything. They didn't know that Zetsu was pulling the strings, so perhaps they tried to explain the Uchiha Clan's history in some other way. One that made sense without that missing variable.
What is actually going on here is, of course, uncertain. There are basically no definitive explanations on the matter and right now it looks like all of the above could be true and at the same time none.
#ask#naruto discussion#naruto ask#anon#naruto#analysis#curse of hatred#not going over the 'it's just racism' theory because that one has no support in the story#i have actually thought about this topic for some time haha#this was the perfect prompt i needed to post this#the curse of hatred lore makes sense in-universe but from an irl perspective it is raising some major red flags that cannot be denied#also feel free to add something in case you are more knowledgable on the topic than i am#ie race theory or whatever it is called#'race theory' CAN make sense in a fictional universe though#like 'vampires are naturally unempathetic towards humans' because they cannot relate to the lives of humans due to themselves being immorta#but as soon as you try to apply it to our world as an analogy it immediately crumbles#i'd also like to add that i am probably viewing tobirama through rose-tinted glasses as i am reading tobirama-centric fanfic#where he is characterized as a very interesting and also kind-hearted character#notably “Like a Pebble (Thrown In the River)”#and “In The Dancing Of Fire In The Curve Of Old Bones”#also adding that sasuke's hatred towards the village and shinobi system is entirely justified#but his actions are not#the genocide on the uchiha cannot be justified and the perpetrators deserved to be punished and the system was in dire need of change#but jfc solving genocide with ANOTHER genocide is not the answer
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aro culture is hating the "ill make you fall in love" trope (especially when the character who's being said this never felt romantic attraction for anyone so far)
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#Anonymous#aro culture is#aro#aromantic#actually aro#actually aromantic#ask#mod phoenix#genuinely makes me feel physically ill#but that's probably the trauma response from that happening to us irl in multiple occassions#and always in a 'oh that's not even a red *flag* that's a red knife to the throat' vibe
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i need to fucking scramble engineer grrrrr i need to throw him around the room by his arms and chew him like a dog toy i need- i NEED to fukhing like grrgaggaaarrraggahararagafa i need to rip his fingers off and ggghhhaaragagahararagha I NEED TO CHEW THIS MAN I NEED TO CUT OFF HIS ARMS AND LEGS AND REDUCE HIM TO NUGGET FORM AND GIVE HIM A LITTLE LOVING KITH ON THE FOREHEAD AGGARAGAGAGHHRREGHEGGGGRRRRRRGHGGAGAAGRRRRHHAAARAGAHA I NEED TO DEMOLISH HIMMMMMMM
#team fortress 2#tf2#tf2 engineer#yes#yes im fine#i love my blorbo#hes safe dont worry#no he's not#im going insane#why do i act like this when i love a character too much#WHY DO I NEED TO BE SO AGGRESSIVE!?#if i ever get a partner irl they are going to suffer the price of my red flags#I NEED TO KILL HIM
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If you are invited to speak on a panel about trans rights or trans issues and you look around and there are no trans men in the room, you shouldn't do that panel, or you should start asking a lot of questions. Don't accept a bullshit "no trans men wanted to be here" answer. Trans men want to be part of their own community. They're actively kept out and swept under the rug and you have the power to say "Where are our brothers?"
#every irl panel I go to about trans rights is all trans women#I know trans men who are activists and no they don't get invited#“they didn't want to do it” is either a lie#or a big ass red flag#trans#trans rights#trans men#transphobia
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I am truly haunted by someone saying on a (long since abandoned) book podcast that the love interest not liking dogs in romance novels is rarer than pseudo-incest in romance novels
#and then expressing that she's much more uncomfortable with the former because 'men hating dogs is just such a red flag irl' ?????#1. very revelatory and interesting as someone who likes/has an academic interest in genre fiction#2. what are we doing#books#save
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t shirt for firefighter gideon
#image id in alt text#i also found a sticker that says 'firefighting saved me from being a pornstar' but that one felt a bit gauche#like if i saw someone displaying that sticker IRL it would be such a red flag#yet this is indeed a real product that is sold!#not at the same store as this t shirt tho#anyways.#the locked tomb#the hottest july#nonasbirthday
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oh my godddd why is trying to find a hookup in the midwest as a queer person SO difficult 😭 i swipe and get "looking for the beast to my beauty 🤪" or "looking for a 3rd for me and my boyfriend!!" or just the most basic white bitch ever that you aren't sure is even queer
#OR THE#“i love harry pottrr and marvel!!”#i CANNOT hang out with adult harry potter/marvel fans irl#just marvel is fine but qhen somebody likes both??? red flag to me lol
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Didn’t get to watch the Sign until late but, Phaya has not met a single one of Tharn’s boundaries and not gone “is anyone going to immediately cross that?”
#Phaya is fun but if you meet someone like him irl RUN#Man is the biggest walking red flag I’ve seen in all of 2023#not including the current year cause we’re only 6 days in#I’m LOVING the sign btw#this isn’t me shitting on it#just an observation#this man is running around with a red flag the size of a house#the sign#the sign the series#BL Drama#Thai BL
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I know it is likely the result of yet more story writers just not knowing anything about modern archaeology. but every time Jack Drake or even Bruce Wayne keep an artifact in their own possession that legally and ethically they should not get to keep (especially without paying mind to how well it’s stored), and nobody in the comic says anything about it, I go a little more nuts.
Jack Drake canonically being an “amateur archaeologist,” emphasis on amateur because he really just dug up an ancient artifact in Asia then took it home as a gift to his fiancé. And then he kept another artifact in a dirty storage closet. You can tell he is a rich businessman with a hobby interest in archaeology rather than anything else.
#so glad tim fixated on Batman & Robin instead of Indiana Jones like his father clearly did 🙏#as an anthropology major I have a personal grudge against that scene where Jack gives Dana the Rheleesian amulet he just excavated <3#he is literally a looter. he’s looting#tim drake#jack drake#batfam#heroesriseandfall#rheleasia is a fictional country so theoretically it could have lax regulations about this but irl this is a major red flag#and there’s still international + american standards to complicate it
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"your partner/bf/gf being friends w men/women is a red flag" is something i truly cant believe exists in real life. like i want to believe it is a product of an online vacuum but also sadly i know its not but also. why tf is this kind of thinking on the rise. also stop saying red flag
#deep dive into the algorithm by letting it just suggest whatever to you and discover what is deemed normal these days#ppl saying red flag irl in french gives me hives
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When you find a green flag but now you're the red flag with low self esteem 👍
#not mine#i would not recommend dating this one irl friend of mine#but someone had a crush on her#and shes surprised#tbh me too cause she rarely talks to people#but okay lets see how this goes?!?#crushes#red flag#green flag#relationships#desiblr#desi#chaotic academia#humor#memes
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there's this really funny thing cishet women used to do to me when i was a bi man where, upon learning I'm bi, suddenly pull out their phone to start looking up all their favorite men to see how i feel about them.
and like. I'm bi. i have all the choices in the world and there's all these beautiful queers with cool genders and ways of expressing themselves, and even some cishet ppl who are really just having fun with themselves - and you choose to show me the most boring chiselled men in suits??
by the time we hit somewhere from the 6th to 10th man feelings get HURT before I'm finally asked “well who do YOU think is cute!!?” and I blow their mind with my choices every time because i have good taste.
I'm sorry.. I don't know how to tell you you're picking from the bottom of the barrel here.. have you seen queer people?? the average woman??
#they lose their minds (good) over how beautiful queer men can be but.. won't date one#obv I'm being v general in my wording but I'm just thinking about like 2 or 3 specific people I've talked with irl#the last time was this girl trying to find a distraction on her dating app and she'd keep showing me dudes and I'd keep going#(´-﹏-`;) ... as long as u like him ..#i ghosted her over it actually 🧍♀️ she needed help getting the ball rolling so i helped her out a bit#and the dude she was talking with is so... he's an ex boot boy.. makes being street his whole personality but he's not black#and then she's over here wooed by him like a baby looking at some jangley keys.. girl.. we r not the same kind of person..#we're not even Close 😹 lotta red flags w that one though i was kinda scared to let her get any closer to me but that's a whole other rant
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