#im aro <33< /div> Explore tagged Tumblr posts

[ahalliance]

mike saying he prefers pacmanduo to hideduo (in a ship sense) in the month of our lord December 2023 was not on my bingo card

[starry-draws]

HAPPY ACE WEEK DAY ONE

ford - gravity falls

[jorrated]

I'm so tired of sonamy being ship teased in stuff

[plushum-confessional]

I love my plushie boyfriend so much. I cuddle him and kiss him and I take him everywhere with me, I'm so happy I have him. I'm aro but he fills that space 🥺💖

<3

[raedas]

hey i was just wondering how you figured out you were aro?? no pressure if you’re uncomfortable sharing of course ! but i’m kind of questioning and i thought maybe hearing other people’s experiences might help. and also i was in a relationship for almost a year so that’s probably somewhat significant and additionally complicating ahaha <333

hey anon!! first and foremost good luck with figuring everything out <33 i know at least for me, questioning can be a long and hard and typically ongoing process, but we'll make it through :] i'm gonna stick the rest of my answer beneath the read more bc im getting the sense im gonna go on for a bit FGDHLKSFAJ

one of the biggest things for me that i think is necessary to preface everything is that i've never really had an "oh" moment like some people talk about. there's never been a moment where i saw a label or a flag and was 100% sure i fit into that box, its more like... years worth of questioning and then the internal meter in my head slowly ticking over. like, when i was figuring out i was queer, i maybe started questioning in like... fifth grade you could say? but it started as more of a "oh im definitely not but like What if" and then gradually began to tick more and more towards "oh i think i might not be cishet" to eventually when i hit the... idk, 80% or 90% certainty mark it was more of a "fuck it, im queer" feeling. there's always going to be that bit of doubt for me, i think, and coming to terms with being aro was very similar for me in that regards

another thing is i was ALSO in a relationship for almost a year, and that's during the time when i was coming to terms with being aro/arospec, which im sure you can imagine was an Experience. i do think being in a relationship was the best thing for me trying to figure out i was aro though, bc i definitely got that sense of Wrongness of trying to think of myself as existing in a romantic relationship. like, when i thought of myself as having a romantic partner, it always felt a bit like i was playing at a part and acting like i had romantic feelings more than i actually did. of course that came with.. a lot of me trying to ignore my own feelings and feeling guilty about it up until i broke up with my now ex (this is like the funniest inside joke ever to us now dw) so that's where i was coming from w/ my experiences

i also began to realize that like, whenever i try to imagine myself in a romantic relationship, its always in some ambiguous future like 10 or so years down the line, which completely distances myself from the idea. i have no idea what a romantic relationship with someone would look like for me, it was just this idea of "yeah, someday in an ambiguous future ill have a romantic relationship with someone and we'll cook together and hug each other and have fun" until i realized that i don't actually want a romantic relationship, and also that... none of those things that i actually envisioned are exclusive to a romantic relationship. in my life ive had a grand total of 2 crushes, both of which were/are queerplatonic but also like... if i imagine having an Actual relationship its just stressful to me and not even really appealing, despite the fact that i have a crush on them.

one of the most important things im coming to terms is that its okay if im wrong, its okay if however many years down the line i find out that im actually entirely allo and fall in love with someone. like i said i dont know if ill ever be 100% confident in my own labels especially with the whole issue of "how do you prove a negative". for now, though, calling myself aro is something that makes me happy and feels, most of the time, accurate. another really important thing i think is that aromanticism is entirely a spectrum. you could be aromantic or arospec in a billion different ways*, or you could be none of them, and thats okay too <333 good luck with everything anon i hope hearing about my experiences helped a bit :]

[sunoo-bby]

heyy i’m sorry ur not doing so well lately :(( wanna talk abt it ? i’m here if u need me !

but OMG I NEED A GUY LIKE UR BF BRO YOU GOT SO LUCKY 😭😭🫶🏻🫶🏻

aww its not ur fault :(( thank you ,, ill come around to you eventually !! i have my friends n bf to help me though everything ,, and men has been a help recently !! T_T .

ALSO LIKE AHCKDKOS I LOVE HIM SO MUCH DUDE <//3 . IDK HOW OMG .

[thalassous]

whaaat today is a holidayyy thats wild

[ ID: Two digital drawings in the format of traditional Valentine's Day cards.

In the left, Andrei Bolkonsky stands alert with his right hand in a fist near his neck. He looks bothered. The text beside him reads, "I'll be mildly inconvenienced by your death. My "tree-t. To: From:" The background is grey-blue.

On the right, Lise Bolkonskaya has her hands clasped together in front of her as she leans forward with a smile. Her text reads, "Be Mein(en), Valentine! To: From:" And her background is deep pink. END ID ]

[networkunsupported]

appropos of nothing (locking eyes with the dash rn) but

1. queerbaiting may be defined purely as the hinting at same-sex relationships in media, but 'gay' and 'queer' are not necessarily interchangeable- if a relationship between two people of the same gender includes at least one queer person, then it is not queerbaiting. because there is no baiting- that is just being queer.

yes, this goes for if at least one person in that relationship is aromantic or asexual or demi or transgender or any of the above. they are queer. there is no baiting. even if there is no same-sex relationship. it's queer. end of.

2. queerbaiting takes time and effort and is deliberate on the part of the writer. a story about two men being friends is not in any way queerbaiting by its own, and neither is a story with the potential to be about a gay relationship, or the undercurrent of possibility of a gay relationship being involved. you are reading that into the text, and the text is not obliged to conform.

3. two men- two homosexual, gay men, can be in close situations together, form friendships, travel alongside one another, possess each other's bodies- whatever, and still not fall in love. there's nothing saying they have to do that.

4. honestly, if i was the writers of these stories, i'd almost be insulted. you're telling me the world of this universe, the vast, expansive world, with all its lore and its development and plot and characters and whatnot-- you're telling me the only reason you, as a reader, kept going with this piece of work is because you thought two men might kiss? maybe it's just my sensibilities talking, but... come on now.

you can see the way these characters influence each other and the world and the events of the story- and you can read what you will into it, but accept that's what it is- a reading. that's what you're supposed to do with stories like this- adapt it, take what you want from it. but don't blame the original text- or, god forbid, the author, for not exactly following your own version of events.

i'll shut my ass up about all of this now but like... cmon.

[primeministerofantarctica]

im not backing down from shipping takamura but have you considered platonic takamura bc platonic love is just as strong as romantic love. takada is aro and has a squish on nishimura he just doesnt have the terminology and thinks its a crush bc thats what everyone else says.

[j-crow]

vro does NOT know 😭😭🙏🙏

[autism-corner]

most stressfull minute of MY LIFE.

[evilweasel]

"are you aro" bless you but I've never had a relationship because I suck actually

[nrc-asteryn-crew]

"Why not you? There's- there's no reason for you not to- have support from people when you need it most. So what if you're a 'stranger'? You're still a person, and- you're still you."

Kiyuu answered. It was just like her, to care for everyone, especially for those who seemed to not have anyone in their corner caring for them at all. She felt a small sense of obligation to them, yet a genuine will to see their smiles again, to be important to people.

"And now that you aren't such a stranger, even if I don't know a lot about you yet, I'd really like to! I really want to be your friend... Ah- is that too forward-?!"

She continued, trying yet still failing to really properly articulate everything she was thinking in the moment.

"'Why you?' I dunno. Just felt like it. Is that not a good enough reason?"

Yuuto scoffed. He stared for a moment, then just groaned quietly.

"I guess... I get it a 'lil too. Spent my whole life feelin' like that before here. Suspect you 'ave too. But heres the thing; we have a fresh start now. We're free. Do all the things you were too scared to do before. You've gotta really try to make things better for yourself. You have a chance now. Use it. Do it while you can."

He finally said. He shrugged, as if it was an obvious deduction, and in some ways, to him, it was. It came to him so naturally, he knew that here was where he belonged. Where he'd truly be alive. And even though he guessed Yuna was more aligned with Kiyuu's perspective in these circumstances, it was true for everyone, he was sure of it. And although he'd be a bit of a hypocrite to say the same thing directly addressing Kiyuu, he was sure she got the message anyway.

Meanwhile, Aros' attention was caught by the rose staff on Yuna's arm. It had lost some of its petals, having lost one more a moment ago. He wanted to know how it was connected to her overblot, to her phantom. If all of the petals were to fall, what would happen?

He refocused, and clear his throat, before responding.

"A life should never be lost to the succumbing to one's emotions, no matter who the victim, no matter how the death. I'll admit now, that this fact was only my reason to come. However, being here now, my reason I have stayed... Is simple really. I am not heartless. I am aware of your struggles, and it is within my capacity to help you. So why shouldn't I? Unfortunatly, this is not as common of a perspective as it should be, I personally think. You deserve to be treated like the person that you are. More importantly, you deserve to be heard. To be seen".

A notification flashes across phone screens everywhere throughout NRC. The radio podcast, NRTea has gone live once more!

"Hello, hello, dearest listeners! And welcome to another episode of NRTea, the hottest tea party on sages island! I'm your host, Chamomile-"

"and I am Earl Grey"

"And oh boy do we have a story for you today! Take it away, Earl!"

"...alright.

As of late, there have been brambles spiralling up and encasing parts of the Ramshackle dorm. The brambles themselves seem generally harmless, as do the roses that fall from them, but if you prick yourself on the thorns, it would be quite an unpleasant sensation, so I'd suggest exercising some extra caution when visiting for now."

"Yup, yup! If you've got a friend or two living in the dorm out there, go check on em and make sure they're doing okay!"

"I know I myself must check in on my dearest companions soon..."

"Well that's it for now! We've been your hosts, Chamomile-"

"And Earl Grey,"

"And this has been NRTea. Stay thirsty, dear listeners!"

The stream continues on for a bit before cutting off, though.

"Hey... James?"

"Yes?"

"Y'know how Yuna has been locking up lately and stuff? Says she's been super sick recently."

"Mhm... It's quite concerning, if I am being honest. I haven't seen her for a while..."

"...I wonder if Yuna is alright. I hope she doesn't get hurt with all those brambles."

"...Me too, Lewis. Me too."

(✨YUNA OVERBLOT STUFF YAHOO!!!

-✨mod, @night-raven-miscellany. Technically James and Lewis, too, but I haven't been adding them fhdjfj)

Kiyuu stared down at her phone with a frown as the podcast ended. She didn't say anything, prompting Aros to speak up from behind her.

"...Lucky you haven't been over there for a while, isn't it?"

He spoke, giving Kiyuu a faint smile, leaning in just a little closer while dabbing a makeup brush into the eyeshadow pallette in his hand, before applying it, making slightly quicker movements than previously, already being able to tell what Kiyuu was thinking.

They both knew the signs by now from even just a glance. With the context the podcast had accidentlly given... Something bad was about to happen. That much they could tell.

His expression morphed back into a frown as he watched how Kiyuu's face seemed to go through a cycle of conflicting emotions, confirming what he'd thought.

"...Yuuto's close by, though. And he definitely won't hesitate to head straight for Ramshackle once he suspects something's happening..."

There was more silence, only disturbed by the quiet sounds of rummaging through makeup and supplies from Aros. They'd been in the middle of testing out some makeup samples Aros had been sent for a promotion when they'd decided to tune into NRTea's podcast in the background.

"...Would you like me to quickly finish applying your makeup before we go?"

Aros offered, picking up an eyelash curler, and tilting Kiyuu's head up gently with his pointer finger.

"But-"

"Ah- Let me finish now. If you're worried about time, I'll change up our plan, do something quick, yet effective, instead. Don't stress out more than you need to. It won't do you any good."

"Mmh... Okay then. I'd- really like that. Thank you..."

Kiyuu conceeded softly, a silent exchange of gratitude from Kiyuu between them, Aros nodding in response, expression neutral as he continued.

"...Heh. I bet he's real excited right now. I worry a lot for him when he does this sort of thing, y'know. Just doing whatever he wants with no consideration to anyone else's feelings..."

Kiyuu mumbled, an underlying bitterness that she never quite felt wholeheartedly in her voice.

"That's just how he is. The only thing for us to do now is help them both out, hm?"

"Ah- right..! Yuna, I heard their name was, I think... I hope they're alright..."

"As do I."

Aro's commented as he stood, reaching instinctively for his hand mirror, handing it to Kiyuu as he hastily, yet still neatly, tidied up his supplies.

"Satisfactory?"

He asked, turning his head around to gauge Kiyuu's opinion.

"Yeah! More than, for sure."

Kiyuu agreed, handing back the mirror. She felt a little better now, the familiar feeling of her makeup calming her nerves ever so slightly.

After a few short moments she stood, hastily reaching to fix up her hair into a more practical fashion.

"Okay! Okay. Let's go! We shouldn't waste anymore time."

She announced, projecting bounds more confidence than she actually felt.

"Yes, let's. Perhaps we'll even arrive before anything too disastrous occurs on either party's end..."

Aros responded. Though somehow, they both doubted that much of a miricle would happen for them today...

[bloggingboutburgers]

heyo!! i just wanna say that ive seen a lot of ur aroace positivity lil comic strips recently (well recently bc i joined tumblr literally earlier this year)

im so thankful and happy that out here, across the world, united by this website, there are people who are genuinely welcoming and are proud to not need *romantic* love but still have genuine interactions with ppl without romance

i remember last year worrying that i would not be a 'normal' student if i was not in a romantic relationship, then end up in a relationship when all I really wanted was a platonic bond, then end it a few weeks later and spend months questioning if i was wrong for not wanting a rushed romance, or romance at all

this space, and especially this blog, taught me that being aroace is okay, that it still makes me a person, and that there are ppl out there like me, and it's a part of my development to discover that

in short, thank you <33

Thank YOU for reaching out and for all the positivity!^^

It... Definitely wasn't as easy and aroace-friendly around here or anywhere in the past, and it's still very much an uphill battle, considering how much systemic aphobia there is in a lot of fandom spaces sadly (whether people mean it or not, which in most cases they don't, but... yeah), but it's definitely better than it's ever been, I feel. And I didn't think it'd get to such a good point in my lifetime to begin with, so that's definitely things to be grateful for.^^

Either way, I'm really glad this can be helpful, and I'm glad you're feeling more confident in your identity, because hell yeah it's valid to be aro or ace, or both, and don't you let the systemic aphobia of the world around make you forget it èwé We're here and we're doing OK and it's pretty fucking great!

[rdotvel]

ALSO im back but AROMANTIC HERCULES MULLIGAN OH MY GOODNESS THIS HEADCANON GIVES ME LIFE </33

also replying to this so i dont clutter my inbox but adding onto aro herc

HE ISNT AROACE. he’s just aromantic.

i get a little peeved when someone just associates being aro as only ace like no you can be aro and not ace and vice versa so just to let yall know he’s only aromantic

[cheesuschristman]

Intro post!

So uhh hi there. You stumbled upon this place and welcome. Go make yourself comfortable, and enjoy whatever my brain comes up with. Or dont, up to you.

Name: NettZo / Z / Logan / Taiga / N

Age: Uh. I plead the 5th. Just know im a minor.

Sexuality: Bisexual Aro-spec

Pronouns: He/She/They/It + Any

Nationality: Indonesia (up side down poland)

Fandoms: Murder Drones, Mouthwashing, LGBallT

Fav characters: Tessa (<- i love her sm shes my child), Uzi, V, J, N (Murder Drones) | Anya, Curly (Mouthwashing)

Reposting (with credit and permission) allowed :)

Likes 👍: WWATT, art, Youtube, nachos

Sensitive ahh mf 😔😔

Insomniac 😍

May or may not have an ego problem- (that'll sort itself out later-)

Oh and pls dont send me chain mail, i dont hate them i just get nervous thx ^^

Socials:

@That1AuthorNett on Wattpad

@feravux_q on Roblox

@nettzo_wuz_here_33159 on Discord

@idek_why_im_here_actually_lol on Pinterest

------------------

Side Blogs:

@nett-is-feeling-angsty

@starsalot

@totally-indonesia-and-not-lying

@actually-captcha

@live-laugh-love-uzi

@cheesuschristmans-twin

------------------

Feel free to tag me, send asks, DM me (better if we have actually talked before)

------------------

Dni:

- Basic list (queerphobes, racists, anti furry, anti therian, etc)

- Transmed

- Radqueers

- Radfems

- Shipping wars mfs

- Rat haters /j

------------------

Strawpage:

https://holycowastrawpagestwin.straw.page

------------------

K baiii!! :33

OH AND TO MY PARENTS IF YOU SEE THIS UH NO YOU DIDNT

*memory eraser machine*