#im a girl but im also not im nonbinary but im not non binary im a girl. im not a woman im nb but im not nb im a cis woman but im not a woma

[snortoborto]

I'm so over the victimhood complex of feminine cis women.

Gender diversity isn't a threat. Diversity in gender presentation isn't a threat.

Femininity is not equivalent to purity and innocence.

Femininity can still be harmful when enforced on people who don't want it. Women and feminine people can still do harm. Femininity can still be weaponized, especially white femininity.

[elder-charles]

THE QUIZ SAYS IM ARO AVE BUT I DONT FEEL ARO ACE???

[corujalesbica]

Okay, a few people have wished me a happy womens day today and like. I appreciate the sentiment, I do, but I'm not a woman. Yes, im afab, and the patriarchy does affect me, so i share lots of struggles with women. I am, however, not a woman. Please dont wish me a happy womens day just cause im not a man either. That being said, I hope every girl and every woman out there has a wonderful women's day. <3<3<3

[smileymoth]

being femme presenting non binary is so fucked up bc youll be fighting nail and tooth with YOURSELF that you are infact non binary and not just "girl who thinks shes nb"

[hhhhghhhh]

idk things have changed over the years but i've found it so isolating to be an increasingly feminine/gnc man(kinda) who wants a romantic relationship with a woman and just like loves girls a lot. like im not fooling myself into thinking im the most feminine person ever, i'm not but like. i'm beyond the realm of okayness with heterosexual norms to be sure. and there's nothing of myself to make up for the fact that i am seen as lacking. im the happiest i've ever been im the most comfortable with my appearance ever but im like so lonely all the time. what teh fuck.

[genderqueerdykes]

for some reason, im having a really hard time acceptimg that im nonbinary.

all my life ive acknowledged and loved nonbinary people, ive supported genderfuckery and defended people with weird genders through and through, but when it comes to myself, its hard. i think something in me internalized that one day ill have to “grow up” and choose, so that peopld will stop saying its a phase and take me seriously.

ive thought up and down about what kind of person I want to be so I could “settle” on them. feminine woman, or masculine man. even then, i kmow i dont have to choose between those— masculine woman, or feminine man? the problem is…. all of those sound appealing!!!! i want to be all four!!!!!

despite my efforts to deconstruct the binary in my mind (i honestly think a lot more people would be nonbinary if it werent for the suffocating weight of societal norms), i still feel the need to choose. there is no “androgyny hormone” i can take. its E or T and im scared of both.

i guess it co-insides a lot with my sexuality. i heavily suspect im pansexual but i go through moments where im like, “do i even like men?” “wait, i dont like girls” “no im a lesbian” “no im a gay guy” “goddamnit i dont want to be either, fuck this, im aroace” “oh wait nevermind i like guys again”. i dont really relate to most gay mens experiences but i dont know if i relate to lesbians either. im afab and gendernonconforming and because of that almost everyone thinks im a lesbia, but when i think about being in a lesbian relationship it doesnt feel right? like, i know i dont have to be a woman to be a lesbian or a man to be gay, maybe its the fact that i mostly only peer into cisfem lesbian and cismasc gay spaces…. but i dont know. neither feel appealing. im scared ill have to choose :(

you don't have to compromise or choose anything that isn't right for you! there is no one right way to be non binary. non binary people don't even have to take hormones if they don't want to. there's no reason you'd have to. and you don't have to choose any terms like lesbian, gay, etc. if you feel those don't apply to you, either. those can be seen as a binary and if you don't fit inside of that, you don't have to exist there. you can just be "queer", it's a catchall that can mean different things to different people :)

there's no right or wrong way to be non binary, you don't have to make any fast and hard decisions in order to be that gender. it also doesn't matter what other people perceive you as- closeted trans boys are perceived as women, and that doesn't make them that. same logic applies to you. maybe masculinity fits you for a while and then it does it. maybe you dress a certain way for a while and move on to another form of presentation. identity is not static, it molds to its owner with time and use.

it takes time for anyone to figure these kinds of identities out, so there is no rush and you're allowed to try a term and see if it fits, and if it doesn't, move on to another. there's no guide to being non binary, so we all navigate it differently. it takes time for the pieces to fall into place. feel free to ask any more questions you may have! good luck figuring things out

[barclaysangel]

Hi, I'm gifting you some messy screenshots of Alex Vincent holding a kitten on his live because I think you'll appreciate them

(Also, he mentioned that he didn't know if the kitten was a boy or a girl so he gave them, in his words, 'a non-binary name' which I thought was cute)

OMFG IM LOSIBG MY MIND ONG ONG ONG OMG ONG OMGGGGG!

ANDY WITH A KITTEN, THIS IS NOT A DRILL, AGHHHHHHHHHHH LUCY LOOK @streets-in-paradise

That’s so damn cute, love how he gave the kitten a nonbinary name, I’m curious as to what the name is and now I’m just imagining Andy with a kitten—

[hotboyfreighttrain]

what if km nonbinary WHAT IF I PIT A FTM STICKER ON MY ED JOURNAL AND NOW THE JOURNAL IS RUIND!!!!!!? I JUST SAW ANOTHER ED PAGE AND ALL THE WKMEN WERE SO BEAUTIFUL I WANT TO LOOK LIKE THAT WGAAAAT!!!! WHAT IF IM DJUST DOING IT TO REBEL NO IM NOTOTTTTT!!!! im not doing it to rebel because i am .iam a man and i always woll be from these past years forward and if tgat is the label then that is ghe label i do NOT FIT IN ANY BOXES ALL THE BOXES ARE NAMED MARLEY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I AM A BOY!!!!!!

but all ive placed my willingness to be a boy is from reading mlm fanfiction sonce i was 12... HARD GAY fanfiction . what if i just grew from that environment th

inking boys love is pure and beautiful it is but what if one day i decide to be an alien then what then what marker would i put on my lisence huh i cant just go out ajd say hey guys im nb now loooollllllll no i am he him .. i am he him and i woll die in this country as a hehim guy do you catch my drift lemel layo

i get so pisy at myself sometkmes i hate on women for NO REASON THATS SO BAD OF ME!!! its all internal of course . what if im trying to deny the little girl in side of me she cant come out.... every time i type a message in third person and mispell he to she i think its a sign from the unievrse saying what i am.... what if one day i dotn want to be a twink.... boy life seems so rigid

.... no i dont want to be some tiktok stereotypical trans man mockery page named frog kai ribbit fucking no i dont want to do any of that!!!!!!! maybe im non binary .. NO OOOO!!!!!!! I DONT WANT TO LOOK LOKE WHATS ON SOCIAL MEDIA yes i do actually because everyone there is so pretty how do they have all that money thats insane .. of course they have begrr jobs than me dont even get me started on that BOYFRIEND reels fhe i feel so insecure about it but now there is a rage in mt hrart that can only be relinquished with the blod of a steait white man with a couple hunneds....

boy life seems so rigid in my head but why does it appear that way to me i dont know maybe its because i live in a christian family yea gods always watching NO idgaf about god i dont care i think that whole relgiion is the downfall of human american society i stand on that rock sorrreyyyyy lolllll but i keep it to myself of course hahaa yes but anwuah i feel like being a boy yes mmasculinity in one neat box but fwmininty in a larger one i just see shit on social media with either big thifhsd women NO I DONT CARE FOR THAT!!!!!!! i gooooooddddfff no i know masuclinity isnt in a box but I CANT HELP TJINKING THAT WAY !!!!!!!! IM TRYING TO STOP and yes i have gotten quite into beinf more acceprivng than what i was in like ninth grade yes i am not perfect yes and living in the reddest most worst GEORGIA ITS FUCKING GEORGIA GEROGIA IS THE WORST STATE TO LIVE IN IF YOU WANT TO BE SLIVHTLY LEFT!!!!! I AM TIRED OF LIVING INT EHS SOUTH yeah hahahaa ohhh country accent YES I HAVE ONE BUT AT WHAT COST!!!!!!

I STILL HAVE INTERNALIZED HOMOPHOBIA IM TRYING TO GET RID OF I FEEL SO ASHAMED ADMITTING THAT

i canthellp feeling worried YES ITS WORRIED NOT HATE ITS JUST A CRINGING WORRY no please men please no ladies dknt kiss in this state please i dont want anyone lookign at you with hate please donntt its becayse these stupid principles they drilled into me. look at me fucking now they literally shamed me for being lgbt since sixth grade get on my fucking level why would you do that to me dad fuck you ughh i love you dad i hate your wife i wish i had really done what you said i was gonna do yeah you know what im fucking talking about you bitch noo no yeah go to the osych ward IT WAS BETTER THAN HOME

i am hidden in this cage uughhhhh heelpopp what if when ig et out i realize i just did it to find sanctuary with the people on my phone THE ONLY REASON I STARTED WANTING TO BE A BOY WAS BECAUSE I THOUGHT MIGUEL OHARA WAS SO PRETTY AND I WANTED TO BE THAT NOT JUST BECAUSE I WANTED TO BE A BOY yes i do want to be a boy but also i feel i am not fit to be 100 percent boy okay iam letting all my thoughts drain out right now so i can not pick them up later do you catch my drift do you catch it catch like the ballwtih the drift ohhhhhhh lolll yes maybe not one hundred percent boy yes but i dont want to yknow actually i think the reason i think this is because of all the we hate men and men do not interact shit on here

because i feel i am predatory following moots and the. posting shit . what. one day i am going to crash kut and do soemthing bad huh twhats gonna happen then NO im not gonna hurt anybody lolllll i dont do that i have self control i hurt myself not others trigger wanrning lollllllll no i do not want to associate with men in my gender identity no yes i actually do so fuck that but i feel bad when i see so many rape statistics i feel so bad i feel gross and sad when women do the whole women empowerment no i just want the attention on me the man not transgender man just me MEEEE JUST ME the man not transgender . i am nto trans im a cis man all along yeah???? no htrickes you but the things id do to be a southern magellan shorts southern row boy ohhh my god my mouth is salivATINGGGGG PLEAAAASEEEEE I NEED T SO BADDDD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

came to be a boy cause i liekd miguel ohara what the fuck kind of reason is that i mean no it makes sense in the end i always played the boyish role no its because i liked fucking gay fanficiton in a poser lmaooo no im not thats so dumb why am i gaslighting myself its only because i love sabotaging ymself into thinking things km not woaaattt.... go figure...... telling myself repwatedly i hated myself in sixth frade then got a diagnosis woahh yeahp depression isnt a joke lolk where it got you marley look where it got you marley look where it tgot you marley look where it got you marley look where it got you marley

[lesgay-loser]

welcome back to transandrophobia talks im your host az lesgayloser and today we're talking about slurs!!

cw: discussion of slurs & more in-depth transandrophobia than in my last posts below the cut

(note- i will likely be using exorsexism & transandrophobia semi interchangeably. exorsexism is also known as enbyphobia and is basically just bigotry directed at nonbinary people)

in this post i want to discuss "theyfab" specifically. i looked it up on urban dictionary and was immediately met with an insane amount of exorsexism. i'll include some quotes from different definitions i found on there below, but they mostly share a few characteristics. 1) their refusal to call the term a slur (this will be important later) and 2) their intense and obvious hatred of transmasc/neu people who do not perform their gender to perfect standards of androgyny/masculinity.

"A term used to mock girls who identify as non binary without changing their gender presentation at all. They tend to be incredibly vocal about how they are LGBT, and consider anyone who doesn't use they/them a transphobe, even if they are obviously a female." (june 2023)

"a non-dysphoric woman larping as nonbinary. the term is a combination of the pronoun they and the term AFAB, and is commonly used to make fun of & mock women who identify as NB without changing their female appearance, and call out anyone who doesn't use their pronouns. (august 2023)

it is glaringly obvious that these 2023 definitions are written by either transmedicalists or straight up transphobes. however, i did find one other definition which i think is noteworthy.

"A derogatory term for a non-binary person who uses the fact that they were assigned female at birth to talk over trans women, while positioning themself as being the “safe” and good kind of queer person" (august 2024)

you'll notice that in this one, the slur has shifted from being outright transphobic in its definition to being framed as a perfectly reasonable term for trans women to use, because the 'theyfab' is talking over them!

but you really have to wonder. what right do these women have to do that? why do they get to take a slur and make it magicially woke while continuing to perpetuate the transandrophobia behind it? there's an insane difference between a queer person reclaiming a slur for themself (eg me calling myself a dyke) and a queer person taking a slur, giving it a new, still insulting meaning, and hurling it at the people it was initially used against. why is it okay here?

this is getting pretty long so im gonna end it here but. more thoughts likely coming soon.

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[harukirai]

Queer history of Final Fantasy

I am replaying all the old final fantasies(mostly psp psone releases), first time with english localization and not the original jp.

Now i get it.

It all make sense now.

I couldn't understand the wave of "why shove the gays in our face" backlash of 16(even though, the non homophobic felt it was lacking since they didn't want to 'push it in yall face'). Like apperantly moat of the implication or straight up fruity moments in the old game was completely removed, or changed to the point of it being a 'silly thing'.

So lets clarify -

*Cecil(iv), your homeboy- an Non-binary (language is the best indication, but yeah i think it was a decision made for both female and male players to be able to relate to them, but yeah funny outcome non the less)

*Bartz(v)- outright bisexual, they didnt even hide it- next person on this list gonna make it make sense.

*faris(v)- an ftm transgender( at least in the original version, i know in some new iterations they scrapped the whole concept, but left it in in others?)- mainly speak about himself with (ore/boku- which is conventionally usally by male speakers), after finding out soem of the cast either use a female pronounce on him, but bartz constantly either avoid it or use male pronounce(or the nonbinary version which is usually reffered to kidz) but yeah, bartz was crushing on faris where he thought he was a cis male and unlike the other guy didnt shy away.

Lets jump a bit to 8-

Irvine(viii)- even though considered very handsome to the point he could get with any girl hed want, was even flirted with by selphie i think i need to remember, but he usually brush it off.

If anything he is either asexual, or gay(its very subtle, but its what called queer coding, and well see that allot from now on cause japan caught up to westerns norm on media)

Quina Quen (ix)- literally, a nonbinary- but i think they kept it in eng as well cause they are not human, but like black mages they have no sex, but unlike black mages they are 'genderless' and dont care for human norms.

Kuja(ix)- either gay/intersex/both.

Look at him.

Seriously that character confused a whole generation sexuality.

Like sephiroth, but unlike sephiroth he also have effeminate mannerisms, and until it was revealed by text it wasnt so obvious.sephiroth in jp have a confusing language because he himself is possed by jenova, so evem though i love this headcanon, sephiroth isnt trans actually.

Auron(x)- ahh yes, your favourite broody guy and probably where im gonna get tons of hate.

Auron is very subtle, but once you notice it its hard to deny.

I think Auron is gay, unlike jecht or braska- he did not have kids, denied arranged marriage, and followed jecht to dream zanarken just to save jecht only son- it was pretty obvious that auron loved jecht. He also loved braska but not as much, and it shows- that for auron it was more than friendship. You can see it with his attitude towards yuna vs tidus- with yuna he is nicer, politer. Liem you act when you babysit your friends /cousins child.

But to tidus, he is a full father figure.In their journey together they grow, and i think if he wasnt the boy of the man he loved he wouldn't treat tidus as his own. With all the scoldinngs in mind.

Paine(X-2)- qlmost forgot her, but yeah she's pretty gay for riku

I dont remember much though because if the mission structure of the game.

Larsa(xii) - ohh i see you boy, i see u. He is sus as hell. He is a kid so its pretty innocent(and relatable to us queer kidz)

Its pretty obvios that he is crushing on basch, innocently though. I know some ppl who shipped him with penelo, but canonically by spinoffs at least she and vann are an item.

Also they made sure it was obvious cause japan have this thing that a young character is crushing on a teacher,mentor , older characters in general(aka cc sakura- her friend crushing on a teacher, syaoran & sakura crushing on yukito, also happens in tons of pop culture media at that time, so im not surprised, but im happy this time its one sided, THANK GOD)

But yeah if you reached the ending its pretty obvious.

Fang & vanille(xiii)- the first lesbians couple! Terra(VI) was supposed to be the first but they were afraid it will make her less marketable so they scrapped her gf. They made them clear, but at the same time they tried to make sure pple wont be fetishizing them(they tried, at least).

I want to explain their story more but i think ill mess it up since i tend to mix up 13's lacie, falcie and all that jazz.

So ill just say that basically there are 2 world in 13, pulse and cacoon. Pulse is basically earth and cacoon is the moon. There is a god for each world called a falcie.

Few of them but ine for each major ones. Our main gand from cacoon, branded by a falcie to be slaves(lacie) vanille and fang are from pulse, and slaves of pulse lacie, so basically they are with the task of creating Ragnarok which is like the end of time and but limw they dont know cause the gods in this game is like 'yeah imma give you a mission but wont tell you beside weird non undersandable feaver dream and you need to figure out and fast or youll become this universe version of zombie, and if you do complete it you become a ceystal living forever but like, sleeping beauty style. So lose lose situation.

The focus of them both is different from the gang, caus the falcie of cacoon is evil so he gove them focus destroying cocoon while if fang& vannile mannaged to ruin that falcie and bring ragnarok theyll become a crystal, and they used it to save coccon from falling and crushing killing all the people in it, basically became a pillar in eternal sleep when they hheld each other.

But they are saved in later game only to... Lightning return which we wont talk about cause i hate timers.

I love the story of xiii, big part of it is vanille & fang, i havent played in english yet, but i will say, their story is one of the more meaningful on this list, very well developed and i will do it disservice if id try to explain it in few sentences - so do yourself a favour and play or watch the playthrough.

Ignis& gladio(xv)- here is when localization ruimed it. I know cause i palyed on jp dub with eng sub and heard the differences live- first of all gladio and ignis are completely different in jp, as individuals and as a pair- they were supposed to be the first dion& terrence moment, but it got scrapped and they went the vannile& fang route, only that bec they are men, the localization team missed the mark.

Gladio got pissed at noctis in the train because of ignis.

In jp its clear their bond is beyond friends, and not mention the fact that their AI is always stuck together, and that gladio isnt a womenizer in jp at all, and there is no fiancee/girlfriend.

In jp he said suggested there is someone he wants to be with but bec of the state of the world and them both being constantly in the battlefront he couldnt ask.

(and ignis clear his throat when everyone is like oh great, very subtle but it was leading to that)

Every stop of the train or erea post blindness gladio was with ignis not leaving him .

Also tabata san also said that they are more than friends. So there's that too.

But its no secret 15 localization is tereible, the massacared prompto, he is so cringy in english, in jp yeah he is funny but like he says more stuff then random pop colture references, he breaks the 4th wall occasionally but not on the same level of the localization. Also, jp noctis is a little shit because he can and will, in localization he is more relatable while ignos and gladio are kimda mean. In jp its the other way around and up until chap 13 (when he is alone) noctis is a bratt. He has some moments when he is nicer, but when struggle shows he is a bratt about it- and its done purposely since he is a spoiled pronce who never done anything alone in his life.

Thats why in chap 13 he has a change of heart, because he was alone and learned to appriciate his friends when he was stuck alone in the dark with no weapons and i think it was a good call storytelling wise, but yeah the english localzation ruined it and made the whole chapter pointless .

Those are the implied/canon gays of final fantasy up to 15(we got a kiss so its obvious).

The series has always been kinda Fruity and i know some of yall will be like, 'but there's no proof'. Well, japanese speakers(who arent homophobic at least) will agree with me that we tend in media that is not specified like BL or GL to make things subtle. So what in the west is called 'queer coding' is very common in japanese media and it comes in way more shape and forms.usually implied with a desper conncetion relationship or linguistics.its funny cause in the 80's and very early 90's gay pple wasnt hidden in jp pop culture (no kisses or anything but it was straight out told to the viewer/player)

And only later 90's there was a trend of removing us completely from the media, but around that time a specific genre was created so it wasn't out completely.(like yaoi/yuri as erotic mangas existed aince the 80's but usually only love stories or main gay characters were mixed in with the straight media, kimda like what netflix does today, but around 96, 97 the shounen ai and shoujo ai genres rose in popularity(mainly cause of clamp) and things got seperated. In games- because it became a bigger deal in the west square took caution with how clear they gonna make stiff not to piss of the christians after the backlash of Pokemon (idk how it was really but through japanese media and news it seemed at the times that the american patents were pissed so game companies started sensoring their games from all things might piss off christians/monotheistics ).

*also i dont live in japan but i am mixed so i grew in a jp speaking house and family from there always sent games on holidays and birthdays+nhk was always running in the backround to check on the motherland😂

[askanonbinary]

Hi, so I think I might be non binary, but im really confused. When I was younger, I sort of had this image for myself, I wanted to be a woman, with a man, and have kids, but now that I think about it, it never really felt right, I think I just wanted to fit in with society, I didn't really like anyone and barely even knew what gender was back then, and didn't know being queer was a thing. I mean i still dont properly tbh. Also what the heck even is gender, because, I mean, I don't feel right being a girl or a guy, and I know i feel more comfortable being a girl (I am afab) but at the same time being a girl doesn't feel right either. Like almost I prefer presenting as more stereotypically masculine but I prefer more feminine terms, like pretty etc, but my gender feels neutral. Is that valid? I mean i still prefer to be more girlish, so am i just faking it? Or maybe i dont prefer to be considered as a girl but ive just always been seen as one and i live in a cis and heteronormative society, and im only trying to be female so i fit in? I mean, i don't even know why I feel more gender neutral, considering I don't really even understand what classifies you as a certain gender. Also i don't like guys I don't think, I think I just used to think I liked them because I identify with them more, but then my first 'girl crush' turns out to be genderfluid/non binary, but I still like them, so how does that actually work. Like I don't really get how some genders don't feel attractive to me but others do? How do I not like men but like basically anyone else? And how do I even go about being queer, or figuring stuff out, or just maybe even acting more comfortably with my gender, im so confused? Im sorry if that sounds weird, I'm only recently discovering I'm queer, and don't really know how to go about it, plus my family aren't very understanding and I dont have many queer people around me that I can ask for advice, all the other queer people I know are only starting to figure it out too, I have no idea what or who I am yet, is that valid?

; well firstly I'd like to say you're going to feel confused for a while, because this is a new and confusing process. Often when someone grows up in a world with desires and expecations set by others ( get married, have kids, etc like you mentioned ) plus the additional how you should be / act ( be cis, be straight, etc, ), it's really confusing to then realize you don't fit into these very restricting boxes. And so genuinely, don't feel bad for being confused and for being complicated. Those are probably the most " normal " ( as in, common ) things you could be really. Difference is the most common thing there is, so don't stress that you don't fit into one or two neat little boxes ! No one really does do they

; secondly, how you feel about your gender vs how you like being referred to & expressing yourself are all three separate things, sometimes they're similar sometimes not. But if you feel neutral, but prefer feminine terms while also wish to present masculinely, then that's okay ! You're okay to be that and to feel that, totally okay. ( also side note: what " classifies " you as a certain gender is whether or not you want to be classified as that gender, simply speaking. You want to be nonbianry ? You're nonbinary. Want to be a girl ? You're a girl. Want to be a mix of both or three or four ? Then you're that ! And everyone is going to be nonbinary, etc, a little differently. There's similarities and common experiences but it's your identity, so it's going to be specific to you !! )

; thirdly, when realizing you're nonbinary ( and / or when beginning to question your gender at all ) often orientation comes after, and vice versa. ( I know that the moment I found out liking people other than men was an option, I wondered if being a man was an option too and then it simply took off from there and now I'm where I am today: just as confused as I was before much more confident that even if I don't always have the right label, I'm comfortable being me in whatever phase " me " is that day or even that minute, and if that changes then it changes ! ) So if you right now don't feel attraction to men, you don't feel attraction to men ! And I get it, knowing " why " or " how " you like one gender but not the other is confusing, especially with how diverse gender is in the first place. But just, trust that you know what you want, and stick to that while navigating all these terms and experiences !! You'll get through the initial panic, don't worry.

; and fourthly, it's not weird or anything: this is literally the place to ask questions about these sorts of things, and if anyone is going to understand your experiences even just a little it's going to be the people who went through / are going through them too. So no worries about that !! And if the people you're asking questions from answer back with a question themselves, you can find the answers together.

; and lastly: you're valid, your identity is so valid and it has been forever. No matter how confusing or complicated or different it is, it's valid. Even if you never 100% find a label / labels that describe you fully, you're still valid ! And your identity sure as heck is real, I mean it's your identity and it's right there. Seems real and valid enough to me no ?

; good luck figuring out your identity and everything else, and I wish you luck on being confused !! :]

- Mod Xela

[your-queer-dad]

(just a heads up, i copy pasted this ask that i sent on anon on another blog,cause i wanted another opinion and im a lazy sod and i can't be bothered to type it out again)

Can you give me some advice as I'm questioning my gender yet again.

So basically, I'm an AFAB teenager, and up until about 8 I went with girl [and was very feminine], then 8 til around a year or two ago, I didn't really care cause it just didn't matter to me. Then I identified as demigirl, then genderfluid, and now nonbinary, and I was just considering starting to use he/they pronouns when I started to get stressed about gender. I feel dysphoria sometimes, and I was so upset when I got my period and stuff, though I don't know if that was just not wanting to grow up. I don' understand women, or why you'd want to be one, but occasionally I feel more fem, but I don't want to be a girl. If I could have been born a boy I would've, and if I ever think into the future, I'm only happy if I think of being a man. Sometimes i don't feel dysphoric saying 'I am a woman' and sometimes [usually] that feels so wrong and stresses me out. IDK,I'll probably just stick to being non-binary, but I also want to be a man, and I wish that I'd been born one. Also,i've been quite depressed lately, and I've hated myself since I was 11, however, because I only started questioning my gender a year or two later,it can't really be connected to that, can it?

Lately, ive been getting euphoria from the thought of having a beard, and im considering starting to use he they pronouns, but i just wish that gender didn't exist, or that i could just be a man, and have never been a girl. Sometimes i get scared that that's just misongny tho.

So yeh dad, cheers for the help,hope you're doing good, and thank you for taking the time to do this.👍

Hey kiddo! Thank you so much for reaching out. I get what you mean and honestly gender can be such a hard and complicated thing, especially because everyone has different perspectives and feelings around it, it's something so personal to you and can be really hard to figure out.

Honestly, kiddo- the rules are made up. You don't have to be completely one thing or fit into a box. You can be feminine without being a girl, or masculine without being a boy- or neither- or both! There isn't a right way or wrong way to do things, it's just your way.

To me, at least from what you've said, it sounds like youre more comfortable being masculine?

It isn't a rush or a race- I've been out for years and even I have days where I question my gender. But, whatever it is, it's yours and that's amazing.

- dad x

[ballsalsda]

It annoys me when people talk about genderqueer and gnc mascs having "masc privilege" because. Look at me. I have an ambiguous voice and I dont dress like a certain gender. I don't have much body hair and I have long hair. People have to ask me if im a boy or a girl. Im treated different because im a "boy" who likes other boys. I try to be male but I cant seem to do it right. If I even try to say I'm non binary or dare I say my real gender, people will call me chronically online or keep treating me like a boy. Just because I'm amab and have a connection to masculinity, do you really think that I have masc privilege?

Even ignoring how genderqueers are treated by cishets, we're demonized by the queer community. We're told we're "less queer". We're forced into a binary of "man" and "non-man", or "binary" or "nonbinary. There are "female and nonbinary" spaces that will kick out masculine non binary people, or even female/non binary people who are also men.

No matter how masculine I try to be, it's always going to be queer masculinity. Genderqueerness will force us out of male privilege even if we're men or masc.

[narrativelysignificantturtleduck]

yknow in regards to trans hcs, im surprised not more people hc sokka as trans. obviously there are more than a lot of the other characters, but when someone asked me if i had any trans hcs once, I thought abt it and the conclusion I came to was Sokka

i feel like i've seen a fair amount of people headcanon him as nonbinary, which falls under the trans umbrella depending on how you define things. that's where i'm at with him. sokka puts a lot of pressure on himself to live up to a warrior-masculine ideal, and his arc is about realizing his strengths outside of that - creativity versatility intelligence, as piandao put it. and while that could just be an arc about learning to embrace a different kind of masculinity, it's an arc that includes a scene of him dressing in drag and looking down at himself in awe, as well as the scene i put at the beginning of my queer sokka compilation. (the tags on that vid were mostly "omg he's bisexual" which isn't wrong but i threw that in as a nod to him being nonbinary.) i don't think he's transfem - i think most of his issues with masculinity are about the narrow ideal of it - but i do think he'd be comfortable playing around with different gender expressions and wouldn't mind being gendered differently in the kyoshi warrior uniform.

being the scientific guy (gender neutral) that he is, i imagine at some point post canon he's like "well when you analyze gender it really doesn't make any sense! like if women aren't better at sewing and men aren't better at war and it's just some anatomy what's the point? plus anatomy isn't even that binary! gender is ridiculous!" he's baffled when other people agree with him but also affirm that they identify with a gender. objectively speaking, gender is stupid? why would you do that?

(to be honest sokka, i don't know. because that is very much my view of gender and yet when i questioned my identity i still came to the conclusion that i'm a cis woman. my gender is "girl, but on purpose this time".)

i've also seen transmasc sokka, where his struggles with masculinity are because he feels he needs to prove it extra hard. that's a pretty interesting take but not the one i feel personally. he more strikes me as someone who's rigidly stuck in what he thinks he was born to be. he idolizes his father as the warrior ideal he's supposed to live up to, not realizing he can have a sense of self outside that legacy. i think an important step in sokka's gender journey would be realizing his dad is not some hyper-manly warrior. according to bato's stories, hakoda's a fun goofy guy who loves coming up with pranks and riding animals (very aang-like, tbh). like i've said, the vibe i get from him is dad who builds legos and tinkers around with shit in his garage. not gender non-conforming, exactly, but definitely not hypermasculine. also i think hakoda's bisexual.

basically, i'm right with you. i definitely think sokka's got some gender shit going on

[ryuichirou]

Replies

A big one about ships, a couple of follow-ups, a couple of random twst-related ones (there is one about yandere!Ortho)!

Anonymous asked:

i also notice that uhh, you ship f/f and m/m but not f/m? (I mean ofc twst has Three Women Total but ive heard of women in series you've liked before), does f/m feel weird to you? do you just happen to not ship any of it?? i mean im not judging or anything, i only like m/m LOL.

also on this topic, since ive been meaning to ask,. you only call katsu your partner, not anything gendered, so does that mean they're nonbinary?? (i assume katsu reads stuff on your blog/you read stuff together so KATSU PLEASE PLEASE INFLUENCE YOUR PARTNER TO DRAW MORE FISH NEOOWWWWWW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!)

Hi Anon!

We do have some het ships, but they really are rare. We talked about it at some point, here are the posts: 1, 2. Katsu was kind enough to find them… But it was ages ago (3 years ago, in fact), so I’ll talk about it again!

It isn’t weird for us to ship f/m; and if the dynamic is our “type”, we’ll very likely to gravitate towards the said ship. A good example of one of our favourite het ships is Eren and Annie from SnK. They have a lot of features and elements of our favourite m/m and f/f ships: one is passionate, determined, stubborn and a bit dumb (due to being blinded by his own determination), the other one is quiet, snarky, a kind of depressed and looks unapproachable, but actually has a soft spot for the first one.

And the girl doesn’t always have to be the “passive” one, because a lot of our favourite het ships could be described as “a bossy woman/a pushover guy that complains a lot”. Like Jordan Sullivan/Perry Cox from the tv series “Scrubs”.  So the guy bitches about how much of a Satan she is and how miserable she makes him, and he clearly knows just how villainous she could be, and yet for some reason the moment she stops torturing him with her attention, he is suddenly lost and confused. Basically, it’s either this, or the previous dynamic for the most part lol

If the ship is fun to play around with, we’ll ship it, even if it’s f/m. We don’t have anything against it in general. But we do have a bias towards f/f and m/m ships that is partially caused by the fact that our favourite dynamics are more likely to exist within those. And of course because the same sex ships are less likely to get canonized and therefore reduced to “happily ever after” in canon… which is something that we absolutely hate :(

And to answer your second question: Katsu isn’t non-binary; it’s just that the pronounces that we use are all over the place. It’s mostly due to the fact we use masculine form when talking to each other (and a lot of our friends) in Russian, mostly out of habit: a lot of people of our generation did (or still do) that either for the sake of sounding more neutral or because they used to roleplay male characters. I’m simplifying it a lot though; it’s kind of one hell of a can of worms that works differently for different people lol This is why you can really use any pronoun when talking about us, it doesn’t really matter that much. Katsu called me a “he” in one of the Nebula replies a couple of weeks ago lol and likes it more in general.

But technically Katsu and I are each other’s girlfriends. We can’t get married, so this status is permanent, but it doesn’t sound that serious, I guess.

And worry not, Katsu has heard your prayers… the other day we were actually shocked to learn that it’s been quite a while since we’ve posted anything fish-related, wow yikes! Gotta fix that!

Anonymous asked:

Hi, a little late but about the twst girls post... I still think about Jamil's vulva... her pink flesh stick out so shyly... that's the outcome of her hard work as Kalim's servant! haha 😵‍💫🤭🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷

Anooon! Thank you so much <3 I love talking about the twst girls very much, so I am very happy that you still think about it. I put my entire heart into Jamil’s…. yep. That part that Kalim looks at every time they take a bath together. And do other things.

We do have an ask about all the girlies’ private parts, and I am in the process of writing it. I really hope to finish it soon, and you just motivated me even more 💪😔💕

Anonymous asked:

The tapis rouge event isn't even over yet and I'm already wondering who they're going to choose if they decide to make an extra ssr card like silk Vil and applepom Jamil. Based on the group they have in this event, Floyd seems to be the most likely candidate. Maybe Ace and Jamil are feeling generous! I could also see Azul getting his hands on an extra outfit and just handing it to the tweels going "you guys can figure it out" and letting them decide. If I had to choose anyone, I would like for Azul to give it to Idia, just to see him uncomfortable in fancy clothes (also the fact that it's a gift from Azul... The ultimate betrayal!!!). Who would you choose?

Oh good question!!

I would love to see either Floyd or Jade, they would look great, especially Floyd, considering the fact that he is also quite a stylish guy lol I can also picture Azul just giving them an extra outfit so the tweels could fight for it. But even in that scenario Jade is going to let Floyd have it, I think….

However, for some reason if feel like they’re going to pick someone from a different dorm. So Idia actually would be a great pick. I feel like it’s been a while since he had Non-Birthday SSR cards..? I might be biased because I really love the guy and would LOVE to see him suffer while wearing high fashion. The more I think about it, the more I want this to actually happen wow lol

Anonymous asked:

sometimes I forget if I put myself anonymously. anyways, opinions on yandere Ortho? stuff like Ortho possibly messing with idias brain or TW:body modification

possibly changing his brothers body so they can be together forever? like replacing his limbs with robotic ones that type of stuff

You’re good, Anon; and if you suddenly realize that you wanted to send something via Anon, just tell us and we won’t post your username!

We talked about yandere Ortho quite a lot, here are some of the posts on this topic: 1, 2.

But actually! I believe we never really talked about things that you’ve mentioned, which is a shame, because this is such a hot idea. Saying goodbye to Idia sounds like something that Ortho would never want to happen, so he really might start modifying Idia’s body while he is still young. One day Idia is just going to wake up with his legs cut off, because Ortho suddenly decided that it’s time to start. Why didn’t he talk about it with Idia first? Well, it’s better to ask for forgiveness than ask for permission, right? Hehe~

Anonymous asked:

Re: Eric and the teachers meeting

Maybe during parent-teacher meetings? 👀

Could be! But this is too brief of a meeting I think… well, doesn’t matter, if we ever get the urge to ship Eric with anyone, we’ll find a way. 👀

Anonymous asked:

wait a minute. if those previous anons do take over jade and idias spot wont they end up together???

OH SHOOT YOU’RE RIGHT.

Damn. I hope those two Anons have fun. Jade will sit there and watch. And force Idia to also watch.