#if you have nothing nice to say

[twisting-echo]

I just found this comment on my Smiling Friends x Hazbin Hotel collage, and usually I just block and ignore it, but sometimes I let things get to me. I'm a person with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), and I can be overly sensitive sometimes, but this person was beyond rude.

This person is the perfect example of what Fandom Police are. Fandom Police often act as if they can repress or censor other fans in what they consume, create, and talk about.

This person didn't have to tell me what to do with my creative energy and enthusiasm. I think that's what triggered me the most, because my moodboards and collages are a positive and creative outlet for me; they also help me with stress, anxiety, and relaxation.

I'm sorry for the vent guys, but this person triggered me.

[beautifulbookishdisaster]

"I could say a lot of things, and most of them would be true, and all of them would be cruel, so I'm not going to do that right now."

Seanan McGuire, Mislaid in Parts Half-Known (Sumi)

[vinvantae]

Just passing through to say that I love and appreciate @silverstonesainz for everything she’s done for me 🖤

[virmire]

some people on nexusmods need to stfu honestly, Wyll is literally so handsome??????

[supercorpandbeyond]

Listen guys. Im just really trying to survive with my little cat. There is no need to get rude about it. Right now im trying to just get by, so if you have a problem with the pricing of them, then obviously, dont get them.

[grim-has-issues]

there are so many things i want to say about some VAs, but can’t because its too mean.

[blackfemm3]

fr 😒

there is so much discourse that boils down to "if someone doesn't want you to call them something, don't call them that" and it makes me feel insane that nobody can wrap their heads around this kindergarten-level shit

[storecee]

https://www.redbubble.com/i/long-sleeve-t-shirt/Say-Nothing-by-csbfashions/46142099.6I7YY

#storecee #tshirts #tshirtshop #nice #ifyouhavenothingnicetosay

[caseysbell]

If You have Nothing Nice to Say… https://medium.com/@caseysamuelbell/if-you-have-nothing-nice-to-say-a49a5ac9f069

[bookshelfdreams]

yk when you see someone share a finished handmade item that they clearly spent a lot of time and money on and it's just. The absolute tackiest thing you have seen in your life. And then you ask yourself why someone would waste all those resources on such an eyesore.

(no, of course you can't relate to that because you're a much nicer person than me)

In any case.

BEHOLD!

A wool coat!

The top fabric is handwoven and handspun, the whole thing is sewn by hand, too.

Leftovers. Barely anything, all things considered, which is very satisfying.

This thing took me well over 3 years to make, on and off. And now I'm done.

Thank you for your attention.

[viablemess]

SAY IT LOUDER it is cruel and selfish to expect everyone to be good at something or cater to your specific wishes from the beginning. What's "trash" to one person might be someone else's absolute favorite fanfic. Don't badmouth people who are providing entertainment for FREE. that's free labor, if you don't like it, just scroll along.

I think it's mean how some people talk about fics on AO3.

'Oh you gotta wade through literal trash to find the good stuff'.

Were you not a beginner once? Did you not write crack fic or self indulgent things for your own entertainment?

Maybe don't speak that way about your fellow fic writers? Just because some fics aren't as polished as others, or involve fetishes and tropes you don't enjoy, or are not the style you want your fics to be doesn't mean they're trash.

It's a horrible thing to say and beginners are going to be discouraged from writing knowing that their fics might be considered trash because they're just starting out.

[heartorbit]

find another role, carry on the show

[benevolenterrancy]

("Always. Continuously. With increasing apprehension, and decreasing hope. I will love you if I never see you again, and I will love you if I see you every Tuesday. I will love you as a corpse loves the beak of the vulture. I will love you no matter what happens to you, and no matter how I discover what happens to you, and no matter what happens to me as I discover this." -- paraphrased from The Beatrice Letters, Lemony Snicket)

[vaguely-concerned]

thinking about not only the specific people lucanis pulls in to represent the 'locks' in his psyche, but the storytelling that happens in the structure/order of them. the underlying ideas are presented something like:

the lucanis who went into the ossuary never came back out again; he died down there (the boy caterina raised is gone forever) -> you're putting yourself in danger doing this (by being close to me), you should leave because I can't bear it if you get hurt because of me -> it doesn't matter even if we do try this, it won't work anyway (again because of me) ('you know what he's like, you can open the door but he won't walk through it' :'( oofie doofie) -> what if the real secret is that there was never anything but the monster in here from the beginning. you should leave, there was never anything here worth saving in the first place. (implicitly: what if I deserved what happened, all along.)

it runs pretty cleanly from outward-oriented attachment anxiety ('caterina won't even want me back like this, she won't recognize me (the same way I no longer recognize myself)) and gradually deeper inwards until we reach self-image and self worth. or you know, the harrowing basic lack of it lol.

"careful -- they'll know we're not right," spite says in one of their first scenes... but clearly, some very deep part of lucanis has feared or suspected for much longer than that that there's something inherently not right at the core of him, way before any demon entered the picture. and the voice he gives those lines to is the person who should know him better than anyone in the world, who he has loved more than anyone in the world -- and who deliberately chose to hurt him so horrifically anyway. 'It's better if I'm just a monster and deserved what happened than it is to allow for the idea that the brother I love doesn't really exist and maybe never did'. it's better if he's fundamentally flawed in some way that needed fixing to help him survive, and that's why caterina chose to hurt him again and again -- out of love. (this one I think he might have a very sad wakeup call on one day if he ever ends up with the responsibility and care of a child of his own in some way and realizes just how alien the idea of ever intentionally hurting them for any reason is to him. oh buddy. also interesting that he keeps caterina as the outermost lock -- there IS a distance he keeps there that he hasn't with illario. he doesn't resent her 'anymore' he says, but he also keeps her carefully further away from his deepest self.)

as far as I could tell the only note in the mind prison that's fully hidden and needs to be uncovered is the sad painful helpless stupid little truth that even after all this, even knowing what happened... he still loves his brother. is there anything illario could ever do that would make lucanis completely stop loving him, do you think? sometimes the trouble with unconditional love is that it is, well. unconditional, even when some terms and conditions probably would have been in order haha.

that's the pattern you see there again and again; he would rather destroy and abandon and imprison himself at every turn than let go of love, even when it's just scraps, even when there's only ever enough of it to hurt him. it's only when rook shows up and as it were takes his hand and walks along with him that he can entertain the idea of changing the story of what walking out the door might mean in the end.

[wrtrgrl-spacewitch]

There’s also a huge difference between constructive criticism and “people having the right to tell you they don’t like something”.

Someone coming in to go “I don’t like this” as a comment doesn’t actually do anything. It’s not useful, it’s not informative. It’s completely, unhelpful subjective.

I don’t like this because of X is more helpful. For starters, it can help differentiate if the dislike purely a matter of individual taste (in which case, again, not helpful at all); or if it’s due to a structural/technical issue. Which could be helpful IF done constructively - and should only be offered if constructive criticism has been requested in the first place.

Hey, if you don’t have something nice to say about other people’s creations (gifsets, art, fic etc)

then

don’t say anything at all.

[secrescaryat]

// pentiment spoilers (implied ig but still there)

more of these because i was inspired