#i've been sharing what i get in a group chat with my mom and sister

[madegeeky]

BLOOD IT WILL TAKE BLOOD day 17: face mask with spatula/brush thing. (I just realized that I didn't take a pic to show it, but the bumpy end? On the other side actually has a short bristled silicone brush on it.)

I'm so not a face mask person (with one exception) and so I'm going to give this to my sister who loves them. Although the spatula looks like a weird addition, my sister assures me that it's really nice because a lot of these mud masks you have to mix up and this one includes a tool for that which she loves.

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

Am I (33, f) the asshole for bringing up a childhood story that made my cousin (36, f) uncomfortable in front of others?

Obviously based on the title alone, I'm an asshole, but I think I might be justified and would like a second opinion.... thanks!

So a little back story for context....I love my cousin. I truly do. We all grew up together so all of us are more like sisters than cousins. my cousin is beautiful, loud, and boisterous. She's loves to get attention and will try to get it anywhere she can. She posts on FB multiple times a day about her job, kids, or relationship. She's the golden child and she tries her hardest to live up to that reputation. She's the type of person who will get out of her car after a good song dancing and singing at the top of her lungs, especially if there are other people around to watch her, much to her kids dismay lol. She just knows how to have a good time and I honestly love that about her. I tend to be more reserved and relaxed, so I get a kick out of our differences.

But with that, she tends to be.... disingenuous... when someone steals the spot light from her, even when it's unintentional (which is the majority of the time, like they will just be sharing a story from work or something). She will act unbothered by it, but then her attitude will totally change. she will be fake nice and then bring up something that will make the person either embarrassed or want to retreat... then go right back to being content when the attention is back on her again. She does it so often, I kind of expect it to happen every time we hang out.

So here's the part where I may be the asshole... we're at a playzone for one of our other cousins kids' birthday and we're in a good handful sized group of adults chit chatting. A few people I've never met before but she knows them and we were all getting along just fine.

People tend to naturally be drawn to me because I try to be open and get along with most people, so I've been on the receiving end of my cousin's attitude a handful of times and this was one of those times lol. I'm typically not bothered by it because I'm a pretty confident person for the most part and I know my cousin well enough not to take it personally, but this time annoyed me because this is now the 5th time she's bringing this story up. It was like she didn't get the reaction out of me that she wanted the first 4 times, so now she really needed to land it this time. So I gave her a reaction....

A few minutes before I was sharing a story that the others were impressed by, I guess, but we moved on from it and I didn't think any more of it. Then while we were all talking, I believe I excused myself because I let out a small burp. So she goes, loudly so the group can hear, "do you remember when you were 6 and you were crying to your dad because your butt was itchy and you wanted him to scratch it? I don't know why, but your burp reminded me of that". So I'm like "ok? So?" Kids cry for stupid shit all the time and I was a stupid kid lmao. So I brushed it off but she decided to keep pushing it! And was like "yeah you were crying because you didn't want to scratch your ass and you sat there crying until it went away"

I was and still am unbothered by the story she brought up but I was more than a bit annoyed that she wouldnt let it go, so without much thinking I said "no I don't remember that as clearly as you do.... But I do remember my sister slapping the fuck out of you for saying something racist (we're half Asian) and out of pocket. Then you cried to your mama then she told your mom that you were lucky that all you got was a slap to the face... do you remember that?" She went ghost white, looked around the group and said "family is funny like that, huh?"

So am I the asshole for bringing up a story that made my cousin uncomfortable?

What are these acronyms?

[my-castles-crumbling]

Hi! it's r anon again.

So, the situation with my best friend M isn't any better. We had a conversation (by texting) about the whole thing but she didn't really want to hear what I had to say so I ended up saying that I didn't know what she expected of me, like I'm willing to talk about it but she wasn't and I still wanted to make things right between us you know ? Except she never answered to that message, and it was weeks ago. She only texted me very formally about rent etc (we're roomates but I'm at my mom's in my hometown for the summer so we haven't seen each other in like a month). On my birthday she only said "happy birthday btw" and that was so cold. I know it sounds silly but my birthday is actually quite important to me and that's all she said ? when she's supposed to be my best friend ? That hurt more than I could say. We have a group chat with my other best friend and she's been pretending like everything is fine, still sending messages etc, except she would only answer to my other friend's messages, never mine. Basically I haven't heard from her in weeks except those weird formal texts about money. She's been seeing some of our friends that I feel like are kind of taking her side ? I didn't kniw there were sides, but they didn't wish me my birthday so... Maybe I'm overthinking this idk. She even came to my hometown (it's hers too) and didn't even tell me .... I had to learn it from my sister who saw her... Idk maybe we could have use the occasion to talk ?

I feel like she doesn't really want to have anything to do with me. Whatever I've done I don't think I deserve to be treated like that. She isn't being a best friend, barely a friend ... I know I should message her but I can't bring myself to do it. I don't know what to say. What could possibly make her not any more mad at me, and make me not miserable. I've been losing sleep over this for weeks I don't know what to do. I probably will have to see her soon because I have to go back to the apartment at some point so it stresses me out like a lot. I have a lot of anxiety so it's not helping.

Thank you for what you're doing, I hope I'm not bothering you and that you're not feeling pressured to answer, have a great day <3

Hi hon! <3

So I think this is really the type of thing you need to talk in person about. It's a difficult conversation that has a lot of trauma in the history of it. Texting can be so misconstrued. Try to at least get her on the phone, but in person is better. Try your best to listen to her and understand while also gently sharing your feelings.

Like I said before it's so hard because I genuinely think nobody is in the wrong, here. M has a right to all of her feelings because of the trauma, but you also have a right to be friends with C. hopefully she is able to talk with you and you guys are able to share your feelings, because communication is really what's going to make this work. but if she's unable to communicate you might have to decide what your priorities are- and any decision is okay, here! Whatever you decide is best for you.

I'm sorry it's gotten to this point. Please know that I really don't think anyone has done anything wrong, it's just a lot of feelings, you know?

[freedomfireflies]

Is it ok if I ask some advice from you? I've been feeling that my lil sister is everyone's favorite since last year, even my parents, and I felt like I'm worthless.

There's tons of things that led up to this feeling, but the cherry on top was that my sister asked our parents for a motorcycle in January, and they bought it last week, mind you we already have one that's fully functional AND she's not even off age to ride a motorcycle. And I've been asking for a new violin for almost 2 years now, but they always say "later it's not an urgent matter".

Her grades last year was shit, she almost fail sophomore year, but they still bought her the motorcycle. Meanwhile I got accepted in our (me and my parents) dream college (one of the best college in my country), and what do I get? A speech about how to get a scholarship.

And another thing is, we have a mutual close friend group from our orchestra, but they have a group chat that I'm not in, even a friend that we mutually hate is in the group. We had this exact problem last year but with a different friend group, and it almost ended my relationship with her, long story short she said to my parents that the group is like a big sisters and brothers that she never had. SHE ALREADY HAVE A SISTER FOR GOD'S SAKE! Even though I already forgave her for that, the scar is still as fresh as it is when she first ripped it open.

I really don't know what to do, and who to talk to because I don't really have a friend to talk about things like this. I feel like I'm alone in this.

I'm really sorry I ranted in your account 😣😣

Hi babe!!

I don't actually have a younger sister so I'm not sure how good my advice could be, but I did ask a friend of mine who does and has said they felt the same way for their advice!!!

"The biggest thing I do is kinda keep to myself, yeah my mom and I are close in our own way but I kinda just keep to myself when it comes to stuff tbh, because no matter what I have myself and everyone else around me that is proud of me and that love me, and my parents do but it goes into that cliche of being the older sibling tbh it’s real, and we just keep pushing till we on our own."

Unfortunately, I know dynamics like this aren't uncommon. Sometimes, parents don't even realize they're doing it. Or they struggle with balancing more than one relationship, which of course isn't fair.

I'm so sorry you've had to go through this! I know one day once you're finally able to branch out on your own, you'll find the people that love you and support you the way you deserve!! And you'll be able to create your own family and share the respect you were always owed.

You are never, ever worthless!! The people that treasure you and value you will absolutely be in your life when you need them to be!! Family dynamics do not define your worth and who you are as a person, even though it feels as though they do!

Despite the pain and aggravation they can cause, they help mold us into who we want to be! We see the kind of relationship they've created and decide we don't want that for our own lives. And no, that doesn't make it hurt less now. But it is something that you can make watch for and see what you want to take from it and put in your own life, if that makes sense?

You have my heart, and I'm so sorry I can't do more to help. You can always rant to me, never be sorry about that!!! ♥️

And if anybody else has any advice, please feel free to add it or add to the vent!!! Family relationships are hard and you always have us!!

[trashlie]

I think a LOT about how the idea of being a parent terrifies me - how easy it would be to mess up someone's life because I have my own unresolved issues - but something I DO love is that role of being an older sister figure to people. Like, if I could drive (lmao) I'd totally be into big brothers and big sisters. When I was 25 I ended up in this chat group for a kpop concert lmao and the group ended up being mostly 15 year old girls lmao and it was the first time I was really aware of my age and how to be a good non creepy adult person in a teen-centric space. To this day I'm still friends with several of them (it's been like 9 years?! They are nearly the age I was when I met them OH MY GOD)

I love them a lot and watching them navigate adulthood and overcome their struggles and become these young women I'm so proud of 🥺 They still message me to talk about their struggles, their mental health, they cheered me on when I got my ADHD diagnosis and we talk about fear of medication and trialing them and idk idk it brings me a lot of joy I guess?

I love that kind of mentorship role, I love the role of older sister who has been there done that and has experience to share. I was (plsyfully) mom to one of them until she patched up her relationship with her real mom 🥺 Like idk parenthood scares me and I know it's not for me, but I get it. I understand what it means to people, and I'm glad I've been able to experience that sense of nurturing. I think that's the appeal of big brothers big sisters type programs? There's so many ways to be family to someone that don't involve birthing. Adoption and fostering for those who DO love that aspect of parenthood. But also just being able to be a trusted figure in someone's life, to help them navigate things that are overwhelming or scary.

I grew up in fandom spaces full of adults and until i was one myself, I never really comprehended what it meant or the kind of responsibility an adult has to someone sharing a space. I don't mean that we all must be responsible for children in our spaces (there's whole discourses on this and the lack of child friendly internet spaces) but rather, idk. In a world where you can't trust if people are creeps, I'm really glad I got to forge cool bonds with cool kids who grew up to be even cooler adults. I'm so proud of them, dammit

[wylde-attributions]

Kai & Anna pt 2

The truth was that Kai had seen Anna multiple times before their second conversation but had been much too shy to try and talk to her again. It wasn’t until two weeks of accidentally watching the girl live her life had passed that he managed to work up the courage to get her name no matter what and set out to find her. Admittedly, it could’ve gone better. He only learned it because someone called out to Anna, not because she told him. 

I feel bad. Now she actually has a reason to be mad at me too… Kai sighed and plopped down on his bed.

He shared the room with another boy, but they never really talked. No one talked much in the group home Kai lived in. Not unless you did something wrong or they needed something from you. He’d gotten used to it, though. Lots of time to think, lots of time to teach himself what he could from the school’s library when class didn’t feel like enough to fill a day.

Ever since his aunt died and he got put here, Kai had just been quietly passing time as best he could. He wished he had real friends, but no one seemed to care when he talked. Sure, he chatted with classmates, but once the bell rang, they were gone. He couldn’t help wanting to befriend the aloof girl he kept seeing. I wonder where Anna goes to school. Maybe she’ll be different. No, she will be. She is. Something about her is way different– why, though? Kai hummed to himself in thought before sitting up and grabbing his backpack.

“Hopefully she’s not too mad at me…” The boy sighed and pulled out his books and schoolwork, setting them on the small desk at the foot of his bed. I still hope I see her soon. With that, Kai shook his head as if to disperse his thoughts and sat, getting to work for the night.

Anna, truly, was pissed. She had managed to run into the same annoying little idiot twice in the same month, and now he knew both her name and somewhere she went nearly every day. Somewhere her sister was nearly every day.

At least he doesn’t know why, I guess. God damn it. This sucks. What do I even do about it? I can’t get in trouble right now. The girl sighed and rubbed her face as she started to make sandwiches for her sister and herself. I know that McClain kid is gonna try to pick a fight again soon enough; I need all my good graces for when that goes to shit. Anna closed the refrigerator door hard in frustration, immediately freezing at the loud noise. Shit– please stay asleep. I can’t baby you right now too, Mom.

After a few moments of silence passed, the blonde released a held breath and continued making dinner. Get it together. What does it even matter? The fuck is a twig like him gonna do anyway? He’s just annoying. I've dealt with worse, and I’ll do it again. He doesn’t matter. He’ll leave me alone soon enough, and I’ll get on with it. “Just me and Rosie. Like it should be.” Anna grumbled quietly as she finished her task and walked across the small apartment to the balcony where her little sister sat waiting. Rosie smiled up at her and started telling her all about her day for the second time as they ate together. Anna smiled and nodded along intently, trying to forget about the day she had herself.

Kai is, by all means, not a creep. Nor is he a stalker. What Kai is, however, is scared shitless of the beautiful girl who he can't help wanting to know more about. Now, Kai found himself quietly following behind Anna for a minute or two whenever he happened to see her. Just to see what kind of things she gets up to, and to try and eventually apologize to her. Turned out, his small frame seemed well suited to going unnoticed, so he'd been following for longer and longer, trying to work up some courage to start a conversation. Eventually, the tall, intimidating blonde stopped walking and turned around, looking directly at him.

“So when are you going to give up being a fucking weirdo and following me? What do you even want from me?” She scowled down at him. Kai squeaked, his face immediately flushing pink.

“I’m s-sorry, I wasn’t trying to! I just– I um..” Oh jeez, I’m so stupid– this was all so stupid.

“Spit it out, god. I played along or whatever for a while, but this is just fucking annoying!”

“I didn’t mean to! You um, you always got busy, and I didn’t want to bother you, s-so I was just waiting to–”

“Yeah, right, liar. Just cut it out. Otherwise, I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t be at fault for starting some shit if I was being stalked.” She huffed and turned to lean against a building, pulling out a cigarette and lighting it.

“...I’m really sorry. I’ve just been scared you’d be super mad at me for learning your name without you telling it to me.” The boy looked down slightly and fidgeted with the strings on his hoodie. “I- I’ve been trying to think of how to apologize. Can we start over? Maybe? My name’s Kai; it’s nice to meet you.”

Anna just rolled her eyes and looked away. “Yeah, Anna, whatever. Not that it makes much difference. That’s not even what I’m pissed about. Just stop trying to figure out my routine or whatever the fuck.”

Kai raised his hands defensively and shook his head, replying quickly. “Oh, I r-really haven’t been trying to follow you like that or anything! I just– I see you, and I’m impulsive, so I want to talk and try to think of what to say, but then you’re moving on before I get brave enough, so I have to follow you while I think, and usually I only realize how long it’s been because I look around and realize I don��t know where I am at all, and then I worry about being lost and–”

“Jesus Christ. You don’t need to talk like you’ve only got seconds to live, Kai.” Anna chuckled slightly and continued smoking. “The last person to see me pick up my sister was just an ass, alright? I don’t like people knowing where I go and what I do. Forget where we wound up last time, and I at least won’t skin you or somethin’.”

Kai couldn’t help but stare at the girl in quiet awe. She just laughed. She used my name, and she laughed! His cheeks were dusted with a soft pink as he snapped out his miniature daze. “I- I already did! I uh, I actually tried to remember the next day to see if I could find you and apologize then, but I couldn’t remember at all! I swear, Anna! I didn’t even know you had a sister! Ah– maybe I could forget that too if you need me to!”

The blonde girl simply stared at the smaller boy for a few moments before shaking her head, a barely noticeable smile on her lips. “Whatever, it’s fine. I’m not gonna make you give yourself brain damage or however the hell you’d willingly forget things. You’re already weird enough. I trust you.” She stayed quiet for a few beats more before her expression hardened again. “Don’t make me regret saying that. I don’t take that shit lightly.”

“Cross my heart and hope to die.” Kai crossed his finger over his chest and nodded with a smile. “I hope I never upset you again.”

“God, what are you, five? Just say you won’t or something.” She chuckled quietly again before sighing. “Anyway, do you even know where we are now, then? You followed me for a while.”

Oh jeez, do I? If I’m as lost as last time, I might be late again. He looked around at the street where the two stood, failing to recognize anything as a familiar landmark. “Ah, guess not… Shoot.” He couldn’t help but blush deeper in embarrassment and fidget with his sleeves as he thought about what to do. Maybe she knows a bus station with a map nearby; I’m sure I can figure it out before I get in too much trouble.

“Come on. Where do you live? You look like a lost dog or something.” Anna stood and stamped out the end of her cigarette. “Don’t want to see missing posters because you got hit by a fuckin car or some shit.”

“W-what? It’s okay! I’m sure I can figure it out; you don’t have to trouble yourself helping me–”

“Well, I am. I have nothing better to do anyway, so come on. I need to know where we’re going.” She started walking back in the direction they initially came from, shoving her hands in her jacket pockets.

Man, she looks so cool– and I knew she was nice. Kai smiled nervously and moved to walk beside the girl. “Thanks… At um, at Open Door, on 42nd street.” He smiled and looked over at her.

“Oh. Isn’t that one of those kid's group homes or somethin’? Sorry.”

“Yeah. Sorry for what?”

“I dunno.” She shrugged. “That you must not have parents, I guess? Although there are worse things. None of my business though. I’ll drop it.”

“N-no, it’s fine! Don’t worry about it. I don’t really care or anything. I never even knew my parents in the first place.” The boy shrugged and kept smiling as they walked. “I’ve lived there a few years now; it’s nothing new. I was with my aunt before, but she died.”

“...The place nice?”

“Sure. I mean, they do their best. Mostly it’s just kinda lonely.” Kai chuckled and scratched the back of his head. “Not to be a bummer or anything, sorry. It’s not bad, really. They can be strict, and lots of people come and go, but I can kinda do what I want at this point.”

“Cool.” Anna nodded in acknowledgment and asked no further questions as the pair continued through the town in comfortable silence. 

Kai figured he shouldn’t push his luck by asking too many questions of his own, so he was happy to simply spend the time with Anna peacefully until they made it to his home. Once they did, the two casually said goodbye, both secretly hoping to see each other again soon, one in denial of this fact.

[musicarenagh]

Jeremy Lloyd-Styles Gives Us The Perfect Gift Welcome to today's chat with Jeremy Lloyd-Styles, a Brooklyn-based indie rocker who's just dropped a sweet new album straight out of his home studio. He made it as a gift for his wife, celebrating a decade of marriage—a real touching gesture. Jeremy's tunes have this dreamy vibe, kinda like they're speaking to your soul. He's been soaking up inspiration from all over, from his days singing in church to jam sessions with family. Growing up, Jeremy got hooked on music from watching MTV and flipping through music mags. It all felt so cool, you know? And that noise from his first concert, it blew his mind—he wanted to make that kind of noise too. Nowadays, Jeremy's not just about music. He's into VFX and writing scripts, all while being a family guy. But it hasn't all been smooth sailing. He's faced his fair share of hurdles in the music biz, dealing with stuff like racism and sexism. But despite the challenges, Jeremy's staying true to himself. He's got big plans ahead, from writing more tunes to keeping his kid alive (which is always a priority!). So, grab a seat and join us as we dive into Jeremy Lloyd-Styles' world—his music, his struggles, and his hopes for the future. It's gonna be a real chat, no fancy stuff—just two folks shooting the breeze about life, music, and everything in between. Follow Jeremy Lloyd-Styles Twitter Soundcloud Listen to 2K80410 https://soundcloud.com/jlloydstyles/sets/2k80410?utm_source=clipboard&utm_campaign=wtshare&utm_medium=widget&utm_content=https%253A%252F%252Fsoundcloud.com%252Fjlloydstyles%252Fsets%252F2k80410 What is your stage name Jeremy Lloyd-Styles Is there a story behind your stage name? Just my government name Where do you find inspiration? Anywhere, really. Mostly from sounds outside. What was the role of music in the early years of your life? I mostly heard music at church or in the car with my mom. I was encouraged to sing solos, or join choirs in school. Are you from a musical or artistic family? My mom and her sisters would sing harmonies, old church hymns, etc around the piano at family gatherings. Who inspired you to be a part of the music industry? Probably watching MTV got me jazzed for making music. Seeing that and all of the music magazines made everything look so cool. How did you learn to sing/write/to play? I was encouraged to play guitar. My cousin, who I thought was the coolest person played drums. He would hype up music to me and that pushed me. Then a friend of mine started getting better at guitar than me and that just wouldn't do, so I started practicing, getting better and I loved writing songs. So basically my apparent childish need to be better than others spurred me on you get better. [caption id="attachment_54506" align="alignnone" width="842"] My cousin, who I thought was the coolest person played drums.[/caption] What was the first concert that you ever went to and who did you see perform? I saw the Winans (a gospel group from the 90s) play. The concert was so loud. I couldn't believe humans could make that much noise. That people were ok with how loud it was. I wanted to be that loud. How could you describe your music? I've written all kinds of music. Since I'm not trying to market myself or fit into anything particular I'm just allowing myself to make what feels good. This particular exercise I wanted to just make a straight forward 90s kind of rock thing. So the EP sounds like it does from my love of 90s rock. Describe your creative process. I hear the cacophony of noises around me and for some reason I pick up melodies. I'm really driven by rhythm and whatever particular vibrations means me feel pleased. What is your main inspiration? Not sure! Whatever music I'm listening to. What musician do you admire most and why? Maybe Daryl Palumbo and Justin Beck of the band Glassjaw. They just keep trucking. They don't care about timelines, they just want to make cool music. It was some interview with Daryl where he said just keep going.

Just keep playing and two things will happen, you'll get better and the people who started off with you and who aren't in it for that long haul will drop off. Did your style evolve since the beginning of your career? I've tried aping so many different styles. I think I've pretty much made peace with the fact with what I make will always be a bastardized version of what I'm trying to copy. And I'm ok with that. Who do you see as your main competitor? The only person I want to be better than now is me yesterday. What are your interests outside of music? I work in VFX. I love film, writing scripts, eating and drinking with friends and spending time with my wife and kid. If it wasn't a music career, what would you be doing? I'm doing it. I'm working in VFX and I guess would try and make some films. What is the biggest problem you have encountered in the journey of music? So many problems. But I'd say the racism, sexism, and age-ism. I could go on. https://soundcloud.com/jlloydstyles Why did you choose this as the title of this project? It's a gift for my wife and has a meaning to celebrate our 10 year anniversary. What are your plans for the coming months? To keep working on the musical I was commissioned to write, make a new EP, write more scripts and keep my kid alive! Do you have any artistic collaboration plans The one I am working on with my friend Jocelyn. That above mentioned musical. What message would you like to give to your fans? Be patient. Make what you like. If you like it, you are a demographic and someone out there will like it. It may be a lot of people or very few, but it doesn't mean it shouldn't be out there. Someone needs it, even if it's just you.

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

WIBTA if I asked my sister to stop bringing her girlfriend to our family video calls?

My family has had a group video call every week since my sister and I moved out of our parents' house. We're all busy with our own lives, but we are a tight knit group and having a chance to chat face to face every week is something we all care about a lot.

These calls typically include me (25F), my sister (21F), and our mom and dad. The calls are casual, and one or more of us is often doing chores or working on a craft project while we talk.

About a year ago, my sister (I'll call her C) started dating E (25F). They've had an on-and-off relationship as E struggles with an addiction and unsupportive parents (both C and E are trans), but they have remained friends throughout. Not sure if it's really relevant, but they are also both poly and dating other people. None of this is an issue for me or my parents, and we have a very supportive relationship (I'm also queer and NB-ish).

The problem is that since they started dating, E is almost always in the room with C while we have our family video calls.

At first, C would hide that E was there at all. We would be talking for 30 minutes and suddenly E was walking through the frame. My mom in particular was uncomfortable with this as we sometimes talk about private subjects and we like to dress like we would if we were all hanging out at home (like in pajamas or underwear). Mom asked C if she could at least announce to us if E was in the room, and C did it for a while but eventually stopped.

The interruptions escalated from there. Now, C will have full-on conversations with E while we are on the video call, as if we aren't there. I think this is rude and disrespectful of the time the rest of us set aside for talking to each other. I honestly wouldn't mind if E joined our family calls, if she actually participated in the group conversation (to be clear, I don't blame E for not participating). I think my parents are just happy to get time with C at all.

There have also been instances in the past where one of us thought C was alone and asked her about her relationship with E, which is always embarrassing and uncomfortable for everyone.

E is now at every family video call, always off camera. Today, we had been talking for an hour about my mom's cancer recovery, just the four of us, when E said something to C that I couldn't hear. C immediately started talking and laughing with E, unmuted (so I couldn't even talk to or hear my parents). This is happening more and more often.

Again, I know my sister isn't being intentionally rude. I also respect that she needs social time with her friends and partners, especially as a trans person. I also wonder if E enjoys listening to our family calls since she isn't close to her parents at all. But I miss when we could all share an hour of dedicated family time, and I think my parents have started censoring what they say because they know my sister's friends are in the room.

So WIBTA if I asked my sister to come to our weekly family video calls alone?

I'm also open to advice in the comments since I've never brought up something like this before. Usually if C and I have an issue we say something right away, but I have let this go on for almost a year hoping that she would realize how it's impacting us.

What are these acronyms?