#i'm here for healing and learning

[slfcare]

every time you assume that others are thinking negatively of you or judging you behind your back, you are bullying yourself through them. at the end of the day, you don't know what thoughts are running through their heads unless they verbally express them to you. until then, every one of 'their' opinions about you is nothing more than your fear, and whatever assumption is born from your fear is yours to let go - not theirs to disprove.

[13thpythagoras]

you really think the russian service doesn't exist? or here you go

FSB

i mean sorry i deadpan deadnamed them didn't mean to trigger

I mean, sure?? But what is the thought process behind this move?

[b0nelessdoodles]

i keep thinking im gonna like actually finish these but that ain't happening so have some gay people

[uncanny-tranny]

So much love and recognition to the people who don't know how they feel about recovering. To the people whose scars are fading away, and there's a sinking feeling, despite knowing that it's a good thing. To the people who miss when they were "worse," when they felt "broken." To the people who mourn losing their coping mechanisms, even the ones that were destructive, scary, or unpleasant. To those who feel guilty they're healing because their past self wasn't ready.

Whatever it is, there is nothing wrong with any of those feelings. It's a natural reaction, something you don't have ultimate control over. There is nothing shameful about yourself, and I admire the strength it takes to recognize how you feel, even the parts that do feel like the "wrong" reaction to a Good Thing.

[stargirl230]

Happy lunar new year! 🐉

Couldn't make it home this year but i'm still determined to have a good time :')

(no reposts; reblogs appreciated)

[ryuki-draws]

I miss my son, Tails

[spiderfreedom]

Not a female separatist but I'm forever grateful to them for introducing the idea of just centring women in our lives. Focusing on women artists, scientists, writers, showrunners, businessowners... and where we don't see women in those positions, asking why, and what can we do to help. Focusing on female friends and female family. Building relations and community among women to help women. Spending your $$ money $$ on women. You don't need to be a full separatist to incorporate this into your life, and imagine what women could accomplish if we just decided to focus on uplifting women as a class.

[literaltrvsh]

i turn 30 next month and i honestly think this is gonna be the thing that changes my life for the better actually

[bleue-flora]

if a therapist came to the dsmp to treat the characthers they would need therapy after doing it probably

[context]

You and @piscespixiewastaken think alike it seems.

Indeed they would. In fact, this point actually pushed me to ask my sister-in-law, who is a therapist/counselor about it just out of curiosity. 

Here’s what I learned:

Despite what my counselor said, not all therapists were required in school to do counseling themselves to get certified. Some counselors have actually never even been to therapy themselves (not sure how I feel about that to be honest… not to deter people from going to therapy - please do if you are able) something my sister-in-law didn’t seem to be a big fan of.

When asked if she felt like she needed counseling after/because of a specific client she said that yes that can definitely be the case. She noted that empathy fatigue is often common after listening to people all day, which makes sense and that would be a common reason for some needed personal counseling. As expected, while she hasn’t had to deal with a lot of it, she did note that dealing with people with antisocial behavior disorders (ie narcissistic, histrionic… think sociopath disorders) can be especially taxing.

Given that the dsmp is a group of povs of the same story and events, I was curious on whether she often found herself taking sides when she does couples counseling. She said that there can be an initial bias at first when the base facts are presented to her, which is something she often has to check herself on, but that actually she finds that usually there is truth and wrongdoing on both sides and there is no true ‘bad guy.’ Though she did add that she has not dealt with any relationships involving more intense abuse especially relating to antisocial behavior disorders. In other words, the couples she sees likely came willingly and are sound enough in mind on both sides to want to fix the problems, if that makes sense.

So in other words, there are, much to my surprise, counselors who do not go (may not have gone) to therapy themselves, but that doesn’t make it healthy and considering the characters in the dsmp it would likely be recommended that this counselor also see someone. I will say though the implication that people in the dsmp are more problematic then real world people are is perhaps an underestimation of irl mental illness. Just because the dsmp members wear armor and carry around weapons doesn't make them more troublesome than people irl, though perhaps that is me viewing it from their world standards which I assume the therapist would be from. In either case, whether the therapist was from the realm of Minecraft world circumstances or more irl, I do imagine they being either inhumanly sane and not need a therapist of their own, or they get together with another therapist and perhaps drink over all the dsmp insanity. And whether they would be inclined to take sides I think is hard to say since there are definitely some characters who need a psych ward. Anyways… hope you enjoyed my info dump. :)

[satanfemme]

did u know the secret to mental health is developing an alter who matches ur freak and then getting kinda toxic and yaoiful about it in the headspace. this is real I think it's what they tell u to do in the dsm. u can believe me

[yuckydraws]

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Healing & Growth

(gif made by my friend @robanilla-arts is below - slight warning for flashing! Thanks again, Rob!)

[slfcare]

the thing is; this world needs you exactly as you are.

[parismystere]

i think this is the year i become an adult.

[utilitycaster]

Started up Veilguard like hmm I recall putting off a main quest but not what it was. It is, of course, The Cauldron.

[daybreakrising]

@apocryphis: Letting fingertips dance along their jawline. (moze to jiaoqiiu!)

There are some benefits to his new condition, he has found. Namely, that it takes little persuasion to coax a certain crow into doings things with him, for him, if he but asks. Of course, he would never abuse this power - but he does, perhaps, exploit it for ulterior motives sometimes.

This is one of those times: stretched lazily within steaming, fragrant water, limbs tangled with those of his partner, a firm, strong chest at his back. It doesn't matter that they both know he can easily bathe alone, that they have already adapted everything to suit his needs and his abilities. It is irrelevant that he doesn't need Moze to be there with him. He asked, and Moze did not deny him. And why did he ask? Well, asides from the obvious personal benefit, if Moze was here with him, then Moze was relaxing too.

Ulterior motive.

He's dozing - there are few comforts greater than sharing a soothing hot bath with someone he treasures - utterly at peace, his head pillowed gently upon a broad shoulder, face tucked snugly into Moze's neck. In his sleepy haze, he already knows the other will likely have to carry him to bed after this (and if he is not already asleep, the calming tail-brushing that will follow would certainly finish him off). Truly, he is in total bliss.

There is the lightest brush of fingertips across his skin, a familiar touch from hands he knows as well as his own. They may be rough to the touch, but there is nothing rough about the way they handle him. He melts beneath their tender gentleness, a foxian purr humming within his throat, ears twitching as his face buries deeper into the warmth of Moze's neck.

His breath hitches, very slightly, as those gentle fingers find the brutal scarring just beneath the line of his jaw, the skin there far more sensitive. An ugly scar, he thinks, though of course he has never seen it - tainted with ugly memories, but as much a part of him now as any other. He can hide it from the world beyond these walls, but he cannot hide it here. "Moze..." He tips his head, lifts a hand until it finds the familiar angle of a cheekbone.

He is content; he is warm and soft and loose-limbed, surrounded by the scent of home, nestled within the safety of strong, devoted arms. He is cared for, loved, and that is more than he could ever have asked for himself, more than he felt he ever deserved. So he does not think of fangs tearing the flesh beneath that gentle, wandering hand, but rather the softness of lips that have kissed it, and for the first time he stops thinking of it as ugly.

"Kiss me," he asks, knowing Moze will not deny him.