#i'm bi so this is untrue

[the-fairy-king-by-nightingale]

listening to bennie and the jets and had a revelation

I'm basically Elton John, except he likes men <3 (i'm afab)

[that-stone-butch]

Just saw a post where you said you saw the term "bi lesbian" as troublesome, and I'm just wondering why?

lesbians are not bisexual, we are lesbians. bisexuals and lesbians share a community and a lot of experiences, but we are by definition distinct sexualities. the term 'bi lesbian' as it has been explained to me describes, in varying cases, either a bisexual or a lesbian. but with an added word that is appended for a variety of reasons, all of which are troublesome:

def. 1. a bi lesbian is a lesbian who is also attracted to trans/nonbinary people (regular lesbianism is already a trans/nonbinary inclusive sexuality)

def. 2. a bi lesbian is a lesbian who is also attracted to men (that is not what a lesbian is, that is antithetical to the term lesbian and the notion that 'lesbian' includes attraction to men is...deeply shitty)

def. 3. a bi lesbian is a bisexual who prefers to date women (that's just a bisexual with an additional preference. lesbianism is NOT a preference)

the idea that you would have to append lesbianism to make it inclusive of trans/nonbinary people implies that lesbianism itself was inherently exclusive of trans/nonbinary people, which is untrue and lesbophobic

the idea that lesbians are attracted to men is untrue and lesbophobic

the idea that bi wlw should need to staple lesbianism onto bisexuality to legitimate or further clarify bisexual wlw relationships or attraction implies bi wlw as an identity is inherently less wlw than lesbians, which is untrue and biphobic

anyone who wants to supply me with a different definition of 'bi lesbian' is welcome to do so, but so far i have only heard the above three and i find them uhhh a bit lacking. this is what informs my stance

[louisjude]

I feel like atp even if there were plans to make bvddie canon theyre gone now. if tim minear is even half as petty as I am he would see that reaction and go u know what fuck you u actually don't get what you want now cause ur acting so goddamn entitled. like when tarlos fans got mad about the deleted scenes instead of appreciating them being released and his reaction was to say "okay fine then I just won't release deleted scenes anymore" (like I'm sure it was mostly a marketing decision but part of me thinks they intentionally released a scene about bucktommy just to prove a point.) idk man it's just really upsetting as a bi man to see the absolutely vile shit bvddie stans are saying and even tho I love the ship I now never want it to go canon cause they've fuckin ruined it

hey anon, at first let me agree with the fact that i do in fact also love bvddie a lot and i still love reading fics for them, the edits of them are fantastic and the fanart is S tier. it’s a great pairing with a lot of potential there IF the writers decided to ever go there but…

huge answer below

yeah, i agree. i honestly think before tommy was introduced again in 7x03 and the kiss in 7x04 that in my brain, bvddie was the most logical endgame for buck until it wasn’t.

i came into the show shipping bvddie much like a lot of new fans to the show but instead of hopping onto the tommy anti express hate train i found myself falling in love with buck and tommy together. at first i was still on board with bvddie still being endgame but as each episode aired after 7x04 i became faced with the reality of the situation (at least the way i see it) that bvddie might always be fanon and that’s ok because fandom keeps ships alive whether they’re canon or not. some of the biggest ships EVER are non-canon (i mean, cmon spirk? one of the OG MM ships?) so it didn’t really deter me from enjoying bvddie to this day. what HAS deterred me from interacting with bvddie content is toxic bvddies. i don’t like using the lil nicknames, idc if other ppl do, whatever, but i prefer just referring to certain kinds as just toxic plain and simple.

toxic shippers have made it difficult for anyone who multiships to interact with bvddie content. while there are incredibly nice & welcoming bvddie endgamers out there, it doesn’t overshadow the hateful ones in my online experience at least. i’ve blocked so many ppl over this ship discourse, which ive never had to do with any other fandom before the extent i have with 911. everyday i still find new ppl to block, you go under almost any comment section on the 911 insta and its filled with nasty comments abt tommy and only caring abt whether bvddie will be canon in s8. people projecting their hatred of tommy/lou onto the cast/crew of the show when it’s be said and proven time and time again that it’s quite the opposite. now im certain there’s bad apples in the bucktommy side as well, but from what ive seen online so far it is not nearly to the caliber of the bvddie side. ive blocked maybe a handful of bucktommy’s for being hateful towards eddie or being toxic overall, but ive probably blocked over 100+ toxic bvddies. i can only imagine it’d be worse if i was active on 911 twt which i’m not (thank god) but i have ventured into the tags before on there and let me tell you, it’s fucking horrifying how gross ppl are over there. twt is a cesspool for fandom anyways tho, the fucking asshole of fandom, it’s a septic tank really.

now im my own opinion which could be completely untrue of course, but just basing my thoughts on what i’ve seen online and interviews and such, tim seems to be really happy about bucktommy and idk how ppl believe otherwise. tim has expressed he loves LFJ and wanted him back on the show. tim showed up on set for the kiss scene. tim posting an entire youtube vibe abt bucktommy being soulmates that touches on the invisible string theory and explains how they accidentally found buck’s perfect match. tim sharing the deleted tommy scene is also huge but im waiting to see if he releases more (because i remember seen somewhere that he said there’d be more?) and if he does then great but it’s also still pretty telling to me after the whole karaoke fiasco.

oliver has said nothing but praises towards buck’s queer storyline. he quite literally said if you dont like it then watch something else. despite ppl saying he’s never interacted with bucktommy content online, that’s a lie because he has liked fanart of them.

aisha, kenneth & tracie have all expressed how they like tommy/lou and love working with him.

jlh said she loved bvddie before but is excited to see where buck and tommy go and then on an insta live said she doesn’t think bvddie is happening and was bombarded by toxic fans to the point of ending the live early.

ppl think it’s all some ruse to make it seem like bvddie is never happening so when it does happen it’s a “surprise” ……..

the nasty hate comments are doing nothing but exposing these types of ppl for who they are and that honestly to them, 911 is just the bvddie show to them. the people who run these social media accs for 911 are looking at these comments and cringing, they aren’t running to tim and abc being like “we must give these crazies what they want!” they’re mostly likely being ignored or honestly, as you said, being looked at and just reinforcing their decision to most likely make tommy buck’s endgame so as long as his schedule is open for filming.

what gets me the most about the hate these types of shippers spew online is how they aren’t embarrassed because they are so sooo convinced they will be right one day and therefore their insane, nasty behavior online will be justified. oliver stark literally left twt because of fans like this, people act like he was joking around, that he was shooting the shit probably because “he’s british and british people just have that kind of humor” which yes to a certain extent but let me just add these posts to set an example to why if oliver were still on twt he absolutely would not be happy with the way toxic bvddies are acting right now.

oliver (and ryan&other cast too) being positive abt bvddie never meant it was going to be canon of become canon one day. they do not decide these things, whether they believe it should or not. a lot of bvddie shippers come from previous fandoms where queerbaiting was there, where they were made fun of by actors of their ships, by the creators of the show! so i understand the frustration but oliver is not queerbaiting and buck is not a queerbait character when he quite literally is now confirmed bisexual and in a relationship with a man.

he’s just not the “correct” queer to these people. despite headcanons (hell even i hc eddie as queer!!) eddie so far, in canon, is not queer. by the end s7 he is still shown to not be over shannon and ruins his relationship with his son over this. ryan has stated in interviews he sees eddie as heterosexual, possibly pushing this because of the influx of ship discourse, and he’s glad to see a vulnerable and deep friendship that buck and eddie can have as a straight man and a queer man and how important he thinks it is.

every single thing that points to bvddie never going canon is like they’re being shot point blank in the chest. i get it, your ship not becoming canon sucks, but again, that is what fandom is for! shipping has never been about how canon smth is, there is 20k fics out there for bvddie and they aren’t canon. they can turn that into 40k, 100k, 1M if they really wanted to! instead they use their time and energy posting death threats, wishing death upon a gay character, bullying ppl online for enjoying a ship.

meanwhile from what ive seen bucktommys are rolling with goofy ass spy tommy theories created by antis and making jokes for our own fun.

so yes, i agree overall. they truly don’t deserve what they think they do. we didn’t whine and scream for a deleted scene. they did. we got ours without even expecting it and are having fun.

maybe if they behaved better i wouldn’t be so petty abt it. it’s a shame because of how much potential it has, unfortunately it is just not going that way atm. and even if it does one day, it is not because they paraded online with hate, it is because that’s the story tim and the others wanted to write and abc approved it.

🫳🎤

[eon-become-instant]

It's honestly annoying, all the ppl trying to write full length analyses on the RWRB movie as if it were some high calibre queer drama instead of a fucking light hearted romcom.

"It's unrealistic! It's cheesy! It looks low budget! It wasn't raunchy enough!" ohmygod please just stop.

I saw a post earlier from someone saying it was too 'sanitised' and that queer people don't want movies like this that are just like the millions of straight romcoms out there, but to me, that's such a braindead take because? Isn't this what we've wanted since forever? A level of equality in the film industry where we can have the same variety of movies centred around queer romance as those centred around straight relationships?

As a bi girlie, I want them all. The serious movies, the silly movies, the dramatic heart wrenching ones, and the ones that are so sweet and fluffy I end up with a toothache. I just want more of ALL of them!

If romcoms aren't for you, that's FINE. You do not NEED to like this film. But you can say that without disparaging it to the point where you come off sounding like some wanna-be high-brow film critic asshole who thinks movies like this aren't worth being made because they fucking ARE worth it. Some of us WANT something sappy and sweet every once in a while! Don't you fucking dare try to speak for the entire queer community by telling those large production companies that nobody wants movies like this because that is just plain untrue!

Now to be clear, I'm not talking about the people who aren't happy with the movie as an adaptation - however you feel about that, you're valid cause I know this book meant a hell of a lot to many people, and it sucks that so much of it had to be stripped away. Personally that aspect of it didn't bother me much cause I went into it knowing 2 hours was never gonna be enough to include all of those side characters.

Anyway, that's my rant. Let people enjoy the fluffy warm and cuddly comfort movie please and thank you ❤️

[lilliaace]

Lightbulb moment for me

I think part of what infuriates me about the whole "bi les aren't dykes" discourse I see 24/7 on this damn app is that it absolutely is the same train of thought of

"ASEXUALS CANT HAVE SEX OR MASTURBATE" and

"AROMANTICS CAN'T HAVE BFS/GFS"

which is so ungodly untrue.

The human experience is hella complicated and trying to force life into bullshit artificial barriers and binaries helps no one and only harms people.

As a 30 year old atypical lesbian (asexual lesbian pansensual) I'm fucking over it. I'm over so many young queers (esp 25 and younger) blindly vomit out hateful radfem rhetoric, the toxicity that is gold star lesbian bullshit, and transgender hating people rhetoric because they aren't hitting the pause button and critically think about stuff. They aren't looking at what past lesbians have written in about their also complex identities (so many modern young LGBTQ people I swear would stroke out seeing many lesbians in the 80s proudly call themselves a "fagdyke" or "boydyke")

[snakehatepage]

okay read those AND THEN HEAR ME OUT 😭 because this is quite possibly the coldest and most nasty take ever

pride has always had a level of allyship, and you're taking that away. You're not mentioning cishet women. you're not mentioning bi guys taking their cishet girlfriend with them. You're not talking about Dad's and Grandpas and brothers and nephews and ect. you're talking about bi women's boyfriends.

"they're not family" are you high? do you do drugs? are they rotting your brain? just because they're not married doesn't mean theyre not family. I considered all of my last partners my family, or at least an extension of my family.

while I have next to no preference for any man who isn't a celebrity, I would still invite my hypothetical boyfriend to pride, since my queerness is such a fundamental part of my life, as are my partners, and I feel like that's true for so many other sapphic people.

you talk about how it's lesbiphobic to want cishet men in lesbian spaces, they aren't exclusively lesbian or sapphic spaces!! pride has always been to celebrate our selves, and has been and always will be for anyone who cares!

if a bi girl was bringing her boyfriend into a lesbian bar, I'd understand your gripe, but as far as I'm aware this is about pride.

I've seen such a disgusting spike in ALL bigotry as of recent, but especially transphobia and biphobia. That is not to say there isn't also an upsetting about if lesbiphobic, but a girl bringing a boyfriend will not end your life, it won't bethe end of the world, and at the end of the day all it comes from is internalized misogyny and biphobia.

and the anon was right! talk about how much hate there is within our own community, not bringing down other queer people because they chose the 'oppressors class', which, while not entirely untrue, is total bullshit.

part of community is standing with one another, and I'm so sick of seeing so many problems within what's supposed to be a sibblinghood. Stop tearing each other down and start talking about the real problems.

anyways I blocked her tag out bc I don't want to start shit so

[sunnywalnut]

I fully believe that the only thing that stopped me from identifying as trans when I was younger was the fact of my autistic black and white thinking.

Well yeah. That guy is trans. And I think he's super cool. But I couldn't be trans despite the fact that I feel more like myself with him because he embodies everything I wish I could be but stop myself from being.

Oh no I absolutely could not be transgender at all! I didn't know I was a dude since I was three like all these other people who were taught the concept of gender and the fact that gay people exist from a young age and I only learned lesbians existed after I was ten years old.

Of course that person is transgender. The whole reason I changed the name on the sticky note set on their desk was because they're my friend and I'm an ally. Totally not because I want somebody to do the same for me.

Nah bro. I don't think my obsession with gender neutral names and wanting to change my name to Alex because it was the only gn name I knew at the time had any transgender reasons for it. I'm just super attached to the idea of accidentally being mistaken for a boy. Even if it's just by name.

The reason I specifically searched for books with male protagonists my age when I was younger was totally because of super straight reasons and not because I identified with them more than any of the female leads, despite being extremely similar to a lot of them.

Oh totally I'm not jealous of my brother who's only one year older than me, therefore I get to see him embody all these manly traits like getting a cool low voice and be taught things that I wish I could learn but I wasn't explicitly invited so I stay where I was.

What do you mean it's not normal to treasure the blue Finding Nemo basketball cap that I sneered at on Christmas Day for "looking too boyish" and wearing it inside the house while I crawled up on my grandfather's lap so he could read to me.

Of course my best friend of over seven years is my sister! Despite the fact that I feel completely uncomfortable when she claims that I am hers. Not because we're not family. Because something is wrong with the word "sister" and I can't tell what.

I mean shit. The only reason I realized that I could've been queer was bc somebody told me that if I(a "straight girl") liked a trans guy, then I would be pansexual.

Untrue, obviously, since trans guys are still guys, and my little 13yo brain thought the same way, but the fact that somebody said it so casually just opened the floodgates of "what ifs" for me.

And you know what?

The year after that, I came out publicly as bi. Then ace. Then two years after that gender fluid. Then in the same year, transmasc. Then lesbian a couple months later. Then transmasc but not lesbian after a couple weeks because my partner was also genderfluid. And now? Transmasc/trans man and bi, specifically for the girls and gnc folks.

Had that person not told me I was pansexual, I'm pretty sure I would've just gone around being indifferent to my romantic partners thinking that friendship was the romance all along this entire time.

Six entire years. And I was autistic the whole time.

It was always about being a good person for the "other" people who needed me until I realized I could be the other people as well.

The whole reason I didn't "show signs" of being transgender during my childhood?

Same reason I didn't show signs of being autistic.

I was mirroring people. I was mirroring what I thought was needed of me. Ignoring my interests or things I was curious about. Because I knew what was expected of me. That part of it was explained thoroughly, at the very least. The gender part of it all. And by God, I was going to do a good job at it.

And yeah. I was happy when I found dresses that were pretty.

Not because I was the one wearing them.

But because it meant that my mom thought I was doing such a good job at Gender that I deserved a skirt. In order to show it off to everyone.

Same reason I allowed my hair to be done. Little jewels to be twisted into my long locks that I grew myself and refused to cut. Because this was what I was good at. Everyone, even if they didn't like me, they liked my long, feminine hair. They liked my frilly, feminine dresses. And my shiny, feminine jewelry.

And well... I liked being liked. I liked being admired.

Because nobody noticed me any other way.

Unless it was for my art.

I was good at art.

I'm still good at art.

My "feminine" art.

I no longer get joy from long hair and frilly dresses and shiny jewelry.

But I still get joy from art.

Even if it isn't feminine.

Even if it isn't shown to anyone.

Because it is mine.

It is me.

It is the one thing that I grew up seeing that everyone could do. Regardless of skill. Everyone was thrown in a class together. Everyone crowded around the girl who drew anime in class. Everyone knew of the famous men like Van Gogh. Everyone was able to do art. Everyone was able to be creative. To get messy. To work with their hands.

And everyone meant that there was space for me, too.

There were finally shades of gray.

And I clutch them dearly to my heart, right next to the rainbows of devotion I painted on the inside walls of my ribcage.

Each palette I've created is a labor of love, used to picture the world in each wonderful shade of admiration.

And that is still the one thing that I have found that try as they might, they cannot sort into sexes.

So I keep my shades of gray. I keep my rainbows and my flags. And I paint them with all the colors I like. Because art showed me a way to be free. And I refuse to live my life in a cage. Regardless of who's hands made it.

I just know that it won't be mine.

[scarlet--wiccan]

Re: queer shit in Agatha: how is it really (in your opinion, if it’s not too soon to say)? I saw Aubrey Plaza say it was going to be the queerest mcu project, and well. I don’t think anything has even come close to runaways, which still managed to fumble incredibly when it came to xavin. I think the mainline stuff is pretty pointedly un-queer. I still can’t wrap my head around making Phyla (and America) children, NTM both times someone said a thor movie would be knock your socks off gay only to be incredibly overwhelming at absolute best

Not that it would in anyway negate the hideous racism and antisemitism, but it would be just a little vindicating if it also ended up being homophobic and/or queerbait-y after listening to certain people insist they have to support it bc there’s no other media in the history of the world centering on queer witches (/s)

By definition, it's not queer baiting. There are definitely gay people and gay relationships in the show. Locke's character is gay and has a boyfriend, who will appear in an upcoming episode, and although it's not explicitly confirmed yet, it genuinely does seem that Agatha has romantic history with Plaza's character, Rio.

And not for nothing, but there are at least three gay/bi actors on the cast, and out of the six main characters, four of them are gay or bisexual in the source material. The whole bit about this being the "gayest Marvel project"* does feel kinda cringey and I know it's hard not to be cynical, but from a purely numbers perspective, I don't think it's untrue. I can't speak to the quality or context of that representation yet, but I think that's more of a writing problem than anything else--we're already halfway through the series, and I feel like I barely know anything about the characters or their backstories besides, randomly, Alice, who has the least amount of material in comics.

To be honest, I don't think that the show is going to go out of its way to explore, like, queer narratives or experiences. I think the intention was to simply have a lot of characters who happen to be gay, and I do think that's something Shaeffer, et al have been pretty clear about. However, it's obvious that they're trying to capitalize off of the buzz that this generates, and it is really hard to not feel cynical about that when Disney/Marvel have done this so many times in such a tokenizing fashion.

For the record, I know people like to draw parallels between the history and persecution of "witches" and LGBT people, but I find it disingenuous, or at least, not historically truthful. People get too caught up in the modern fantasies and feminist narratives about witchcraft-- which are rewarding in their own right-- to engage with the actual history of that word. In the process, I think they do a disservice to the real women and people of marginalized genders/orientations who may or may not have stewarded those practices, or been affected by that persecution-- which I'll remind you, typically had more to do with colonialism and abuse of power than actual faith or magic.

Those narratives are absolutely reflected in Marvel comics, and in fact, Agatha herself typifies this convention. But I think what's happening on the show is so flattened and reductive, that there's little room for nuance and interpolation. And it's a real shame, because when you have a cast of characters with preternaturally long lives, there is an opportunity to look at other time periods, and really breathe life into what it was like to be a marginalized woman at various points in history. But based on what we saw in Wanda/Vision-- the reductive display of colonial New England + rampant anti-Blackness, antisemitism, and anti-Romani racism-- I just don't have high hopes.

To me, that's what really chafes about the cast and crew's attempt to spin this "witches are queer" narrative. But I don't feel that I'm being baited on the literal presence of gay people, and there's no reason for anybody to have any illusions about that.

*in the quote you cited, Plaza and the interviewer do not use the word 'queer,' they use the word 'gay.' In this context, I don't really think it's that deep, but I wanted to take a moment to say that those words and identities are not interchangeable, and I think it's best practice to quote people accurately, especially when they're expressing gender or sexual identity.

[porcelainmortal]

WIP Wednesday/Last Line Challenge

Thank you to everyone that has tagged me this week for SSS, LLC and WIPW--

@onthewaytosomewhere @bitbybitwrites @iboatedhere @caterpills @firenati0n

@wordsofhoneydew @sparklepocalypse @getmehighonmagic @thesleepyskipper @littlemisskittentoes

I was MIA on Sunday (and truthfully have been spiraling pretty badly about my writing all week but I'm trying to pull myself out of it). I'm currently working on Handyman!Alex part four...

“I’m not much of a Halloween person,” Henry says awkwardly. “Henry. Seriously? You’re gay.” Alex arches an eyebrow at him. “So?” “So,” Alex says, drawing the word out. “This is New York City. Halloween is like Gay Christmas here, it’s amazing.” “How would you know? You weren’t even out last year.” “Harsh. But not untrue,” Alex replies, pointing his finger. “However, I may have gone to a gay bar on Halloween with Nora and June before they moved to Boston, and it was a good fucking time.” “So you mean to tell me,” Henry says, pausing to sip his drink. “That you went to a gay bar, where you must have been hit on by loads of good-looking men, had a ‘great time,’ and still thought you were straight?” “No, that night actually triggered my first big bi panic. I danced with a bunch of different people, but this one girl just took off when we were grinding and when this hot guy came in and took her place, I just… let him. I got hard; hence, the panic. It was still a pretty good night,” Alex finishes, taking another huge bite.  “You’re unbelievable,” Henry tells him, shaking his head and biting back a smile. “Tell me about it,” Alex winks.

Tagging @cha-melodius @cricketnationrise @anincompletelist @theprinceandagcd @priincebutt and an open tag for anyone that wants it!

[pagodazz]

VINVAN HCS!! that NO ONE ASKED FOR!!!

@freezingmcxn

THESE TWO ARE ABSOLUTELY MY EVERYTHING. like. Absolutely top two favorite characters. I know I talk about Vinnie and HABIT quite a bit but I assure you, I love Evan and Vinnie more.

These two are so perfect for each other and they fit so well, like a puzzle piece clicking together.

They're always gonna be together and there for each other in every single universe. in every single life. It's always gonna be them two. They'll always be the last two to remain.

Their souls are just intertwined together, and they'll always find each other.

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While Vinnie was locked up in the apartment, Evan showed up, and he stayed there for a little while. Vinnie says that Evan stayed on the couch, but I know that is absolutely UNTRUE.

I think Vinnie let Evan inside, instantly checking him over for any wounds, more panicked than excited to see his friend. It would only be when Evan grabs his hands and makes him stop, that'd he finally remember to be relieved that it's Evan he's touching.

Evan would pull him into his arms, hugging him tighter than he EVER has before, pushing his face into his neck, breathing him in. Vinnie is the only thing he has left, the only real thing Evan has and he's so fucking thankful for that. Normally he wouldn't cry, but he's just so happy to see that vinnie is okay.

Vinnie would take a minute to hug back, his mind running too slow for it's own good. But once he had his arms around Evan he's squeezing him in his arms like a snake constricting it's prey.

They'd stand there for way too long, but once they pulled apart Evan would point to Vinnies septum piercing, and Vinnie would get embarrassed, because he knows he seems like the last person to get one, if you didn't know him right.

But Evan would just smile at him and tell him it looks good, that he looks good.

Evan would end up taking a hot shower, and probably end up having to wear some of Vinnie's clothes, and Vinnie would make them both dinner with whatever he had left.

Neither of them would bring up anything of the things they've gone through. It's not that they aren't AWARE. it's just that they both know this is going to be the only time they get to pretend that they have normal lives again.

Then after awhile, Vinnie would catch Evan up on everything, and then Vinnie would offer up the bed and Evan would shake his head and say he'd rather not be alone anymore, and Vinnie couldn't agree more. they would lay in bed holding each other, nothing any more than that happening, and Evan would have his head against Vinnie's chest, counting every beat until he falls asleep, meanwhile Vinnie has his hand in Evans hair, thinking about all his secrets that Evan doesn't know.

He could never tell Evan about the things he's done, he doesn't want Evan to stop loving him, he can't risk that. Evan is all he's ever needed.

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Evan is cis(??? honestly his gender is. not binary but it's not exactly. non binary. HES SO WEIRD.) and bisexual.

Vinnie is FTM and gay/maybe also bi... (I get sad about him and Lexi sometimes) (also YES I'm projecting. I'm ALLOWED)

I think that Evan is alot more open and proud of himself than Vinnie is, he's not like obnoxious over his sexuality of course, but he isn't afraid of it.

Vinnie however gets really in his head over it, Probably having alot to do with his religious trauma (every iteration of Vinnie has it), He'll probably wonder if he's "man" enough, but Evan is always very quick to remind him just how "man" he thinks he Vinnie is.

I think that Evan would give Vinnie his T-shots and he would tell Vinnie to stop being a baby about it and Vinnie would just be gripping onto Evans arm until his knuckles turn white. Evan doesn't mind at all, if anything gives him the perfect opportunity to flex his arms so Vinnie can feel his muscles.

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they YEARN for each other. they are a SLOW BURN GUYS!!!!!

It's only when they're left with just each other that they're forced to deal with their feelings for each other.

and I don't even think that they would talk about their feelings, they'd probably get really frustrated with each other, probably over Evan having yet another suicidal plan, and then Vinnie would just grab Evan and kiss him and the dam holding back their years of forgotten love would just immediately break. they wouldn't even have to say I love you, because this was already enough.

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Evan is Vinnie's muse, he's always filming him and making sure he's the center of attention. Even through Vinnie's eyes Evan is this great hero, even when it's not Evan anymore, and it's HABIT. Vinnie still adores that vessel. Vinnie can play pretend.

Vinnie is Evans all. his everything. his only. his life. especially after he loses everything else. He NEEDS Vinnie, Vinnie has always been there, Vinnie has never lied, Vinnie never lead him astray (even tho that's all Vinnie did), Vinnie always took care of Evan, and Evan wants to do the same.

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IM!!! NOT NORMAL!! OVER THEMMMM.

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What are some Sexuality headcanons you have for danganronpa

Ohhhh I have so much to say you have no idea

I'll go with my DRV3 post-game headcanons because that's generally what I think about!

Shuichi: Disaster bi. I recently had the thought that he'd actually be awesome as nonbinary, but I feel like he's the type to realize that in his mid 30s or something

Kaito: Bigger disaster bi than Shuichi somehow. I like to think that, while he's iffy/confused about gay people, he accepts trans people without a thought (he's just like "oh you're actually a guy/girl! okay") and just demands that they "act like their gender" bahaha

Ryoma: I know this is a controversial thing to say but. Straight. cis/het. But he's like the biggest and nicest ally ever because well his entire friend group is very queer

Rantaro: I don't see this enough!!!! Aro/ace Rantaro!!! His love hotel is literally him being a tutor with no romantic or sexual undertones!!!! His character concept is probably "playboy with no interest in romance"!! But yeah aro/ace, romance and sex-repulsed

Gonta: Probably pan, but fairly heteronormative. I feel like he gets married in middle age because he's really not searching for a relationship for most of his life and more busy enjoying his hobbies!

Kokichi: Obviously very gay! I generally have him as a trans guy who, due to some shenanigans that happened in his childhood, thought he was a cis guy (until puberty hit and he had to figure out why he was freaking bleeding). Ironically, I like to call him "the cissest of cis guys" haha

Korekiyo: Ace! Not looking for a romantic relationship but I like to think he has a strong platonic partnership with Tenko

Keebo: Aro/ace, romance-positive and sex-neutral. He doesn't experience romantic or sexual attraction but is totally open to a romantic relationship. Intersex and he/him nonbinary, but he generally keeps it to himself and only tells people he trusts

Kirumi: Gay gay lesbian gay. She loves GL (Girl's love genre) but keeps it a secret

Himiko: Aromantic and bisexual! She tends more towards girls than guys

Maki: PSA Maki is gay and was straightwashed when they put her in Danganronpa 53. I mean, Tsumugi really said "I made you fall in love with a guy for plot!" I like to think Maki gets out of DRV3 and her first thought is "why was I straight" (for legal reasons this is a joke and bi Maki believers are based but. gay maki)

Tenko: Bi Tenko bi Tenko I KNOW people insist she's a lesbian (and you people are based) buuut I think even in Danganronpa Tenko is bi. People don't choose who they're attracted to, so her being raised to hate men doesn't mean she can't be attracted to them! Okay that's my ted talk about bi tenko

Tsumugi: Her orientation is none of your business (is what she will say, but I will expose her as the bisexual she is)

Angie: Pan! Kinda heteronormative but she learns not to be

Miu: Pan. I think she would meet someone on the internet that she clicks super well with and then they fly out to meet each other and get married

Kaede: Lesbian! So lesbian. I will insist forever that she isn't actually interested in Shuichi and is just super awkward around him because she doesn't want to lead him on when she's gay

That's it for V3! I don't have as many for the other games, mostly since I'm not as interested in or familiar with them (I like to joke that V3 has the gayest cast and everyone in DR2 is straight (obviously untrue, the irrefutable evidence: Nagito)), but here's a few I like:

Chiaki: Trans girl! She's also straight bahaha

Hiyoko: I used to think she'd be the type to act homophobic "as a joke" but then I realized she's super gay. She'd probably still act homophobic though

Nagito: Bi, for the sole reason of: I think he should date Chiaki

Akane: Seems ace!

Mahiru: I think she's straight, but she's a total lesbian magnet

Hajime: Bi (duh). Cursed to be maidenless

Chihiro: Nonbinary, he/they in conversation but always they/them in writing

Junko: This lady is very heterosexual and cisgender

Mukuro: Bi

Makoto: Bi

I also like to joke that all the girls in DR1 are straight and all the boys in DR1 are gay because everyone is in love with Makoto (obviously false because there are some very gay girls and not so gay dudes)

[gaybananabread]

Hiii!!! Would you mind writing a fic with lee reader and ler todoroki? Probably the reader is best friend with uraraka and midoriya. Since uraraka knows that the reader have a crush on todoroki, and midoriya know that the reader is super tickles. Both of them decided to create a situation where todoroki tickles the reader lol And the reader was like "ofc this is uraraka's and midoriya's doing!", and both of the reader bestie were just laughing from behind seeing the reader got wrecked by his biggest crush P.S. the reader can be male/gender neutral (up to you), and please no foot/palm tickles, thank you so much!!

This is my first time writing a reader insertttt I hope this doesn't suck. This is waaay later than i wanted to get this out (T~T). Sorry for the delay, Enjoy!

Lee: Gender Neutral Reader

Ler: Todoroki

Summary: You have a massive crush on Todoroki. Your friends Midoriya and Uraraka have the perfect idea for you two to bond. Unbeknownst to you, it's a little sillier than you ever could have imagined.

Warnings: none! This is a tickle fic, so if you don't like that, scroll away!

To say you liked Todoroki is an understatement. You were crazy for the guy. His stoic attitude, his gentle smiles, his soft laugh. Every interaction sent a flurry of butterflies loose in your belly. Your friends knew this well.

Midoriya and Uraraka were your closest friends. Every time you would sneakily glance at Todoroki, or volunteer to spar with him, they would gossip to eachother like grade schoolers. They knew one thing: they had to set you two up. And they had the perfect idea.

Thanks to a random dorm argument, Midoriya and Iida found out you were ticklish. A few pokes to the side during their bickering had led to a tickle fight, in which you lost. Badly.

As for Uraraka, she had been taking note of both Todoroki's and your favorite things. Like movies, drinks, foods, anything she could compare. Turns out you guys had decently similar tastes.

With this knowledge, they got together and finished planning the lovely interaction, with a twist. One that was sure to get you two together.

Over the next week, Midoriya subtly dropped hints about your ticklishness to Todoroki. He mentioned the tickle fight during a hang out, in which you had badly lost. The bi-quirked teen seemed mildly interested, storing the information for later. The broccoli boy also made sure to poke your sides a few times around Todoroki, making you yelp and huff each time.

Uraraka mentioned some of your similarities to Todoroki when she got the chance, a food or movie you both enjoyed. She then would hint that you've been a bit down lately, which wasn't entirely untrue. You had been moping about being single lately. She just played it up.

They kept you in the dark about it all, not wanting to scare you off of the idea before it was ready. You had your suspicions, but not enough to actually look into it.

Finally, the time came. They had told everyone to stay out of the main dorm area for a few hours, promising ice cream in return. It was a bit expensive, but worth it for you two.

Uraraka had you seated on one of the couches, staring off into space. Midoriya had told Todoroki to check on you, maybe cheer you up in the process. With the two of you in a room, alone, everything was coming together. They were watching from the sidelines, of course. They wouldn't miss this for the world.

Todoroki came up to you, trying his best to be subtle. "Hey (y/n), how are you?"

You snap your head up, hearing him speak. Your voice is a bit shaky from surprise. You hadn't expected him. "Oh, um, I'm fine. Why do you ask?"

He takes your surprise for uneasiness, sitting down beside you. He smiles softly, trying to seem open. "Just checking in. You've been a bit down lately."

His smile sends a small swarm of butterflies fluttering in your chest. Your eyes widen as he sits by you, the closeness a bit shocking. He normally kept his distance. "I-I mean, I guess I have been. It's nothing to worry about though."

Tapping his fingers, Todo tried to think of something to say. He wasn't the best with emotions, and he could tell you were hiding something. He cares about you, he just doesn't show it. "That's good to hear. Just, uh, talk to me if you need anything."

He smiled and poked your side, trying to be friendly. He was a bit surprised at the noise he got in return. An idea formed in his head, inspired by Midoriya's actions over the past few days.

Leaning a bit closer, Todoroki slowly inches a hand towards your side. "You know (y/n), laughter can sometimes be the best medicine. It can help cheer you up."

You catch onto his plan just a moment too late. "Todoroki, wa-AGH!"

Todoroki squeezes at your side, a small and mischievous smile on his face. To your dismay, your cheeks quickly redden, turning a lovely cherry red. Butterflies explode in your stomach, coupled by the tingling feeling of the tickling.

He sees all of this, a small chuckle escaping him. You look kind of cute like this. He brings his other hand to your stomach, scribbling across the sensitive skin. Nearby, two teens high-five while snickering.

Your giggling gives way to laughter as he scribbles, pokes and squeezes your sensitive midsection. You slowly connect the dots, Midoriya's poking, Uraraka's misplaced concern. They are so dead when this is over...

He doesn't know how to feel when you start to laugh. A million thoughts race through his head, his heart a melting-pot of emotions. All he knew what that he loved your laugh, and never wanted it to stop. A very small, light pink tint comes to his cheeks as he gets closer, trying and succeeding to box you in on the couch. You're trapped.

His hand starts to explore your torso, poking and pinching every ticklish inch of it. His smile widens at every surprised squeak and snort, his blush deepening just a smidge. He couldn't explain it. Seeing you smile and laugh just made him happy.

You see his reaction and your stomach explodes in butterflies, your heart rate doubling. It would be cute if he wasn't busy killing you.

He uses one hand to gather yours, pinning your arms over your head. It was a bit more forward than he was used to, but he did it with a small smile. You could swear that your heart was about to explode.

A smirk forms on his lips, happy and smug. Todoroki's confidence with you is growing, his playful side finally coming out. He slowly walks one hand up to your armpit, making sure to tease the skin along the way with a small scribble or scratch.

When he does reach the sensitive spot, he chuckles before digging in, making sure to be fast and rough. His timidness from the beginning of the interaction is long gone, leaving only giddy smiles and forward actions.

You, on the other hand, were about ready to lose your shit. The intense buzzing in your armpit trickles down to your ribs, your entire left side practically on fire (hehe) with the feeling. The hand still poking and prodding at your stomach was just adding insult to injury.

"You have a cute laugh. You should let me hear it more often." Todoroki's voice is surprisingly teasing, a hint of flirtiness edging in. He's having fun.

The firey blush on your face seems down to your neck, the butterflies attacking your stomach. This man... you don't know if you'll survive this interaction. How are you ever gonna be around him again without thinking of this?

This continued for a few minutes, you laughing your heart out while Todoroki turns your brain to mush. Your laughter has a bit of a raspy edge to it, and Todo knows it's time to stop. He slows his hands down, slowly ceasing the tickling. Releasing your arms, he sits back and looks you over.

You're still giggling like a dork, trying to regain both your breath and composure. Your face is bright red, tears of mirth shining in the corners of your eyes. He would be a liar if he said you didn't look adorable. He does worry when you don't say anything, thinking he crossed a line.

"Are you alright (y/n)? I didn't mean to overdo it, did I go too far?" He sounds guilty and apologetic. This was some of the most emotion you've ever heard him express.

You prop yourself up on your elbows, forcing yourself to look him in the eyes. You comfort him before the bubbly feeling in your chest chokes you up. "Hey, you're fine. That was just... intense, is all."

He softly smiles as you reassure him, loving the blush on your cheeks and the happy smile that you're trying to hide. A familiar feeling settles in his chest, but he finally puts a name to it. He had known you felt different to him, but only then did he realize why. He... likes you. A lot.

Biting his lip, he leans in closer to you. Before you have the chance to stutter and get flustered, he presses his lips against yours. Your eyes go wide before relaxing, closing as you smile into the kiss. It's soft and sweet, telling you everything he was thinking.

He pulls away after a second, way too early in your eyes, an apology already forming on his lips. You don't let him say a word, crashing your lips into his. This time, the kiss is excited and passionate, conveying that you had felt this way for a long while. He returns it, cupping the back of your head. The two of you wouldn't be leaving that couch for a while.

Meanwhile, Uraraka and Midoriya are giggling like schoolgirls, high-fiving as they watch their plan finally come together.

Needless to say, Todoroki and you get together. Your best friends obviously take all their deserved credit for hooking you two up, never letting you live down how it happened. It's worth it, however, to be with him. It always will be.

[punkitt-is-here]

Honestly ppl need to learn that discoursing about how a group describes their gender and/or sexuality won't make those labels stop being what fits that group best, it'll just make them feel unwelcome in queer spaces.

Also, 1000% seconding that ask about how blurred lines between gender also means that lines between sexuality can get blurry. I'm a lesbian, but I'm not a woman. I'm butch, and that feels far more representative of my gender than "woman" ever has. If I had to choose a gender label, it would be nonbinary, or maybe transmasc. There are people who think that me being masculine and nonbinary means that I can't be a lesbian, which is untrue. I walk in the footsteps of countless butches before me, and I cherish that connection. I wouldn't WANT to use a different, more specific label than I already do, because lesbian is the word I love. It has room for me, and a history I feel connected to. I would never try to rip it away from someone else. If a bi lesbian wants to call themselves that, then it is fully their right to do so. I can not define them anymore than they can define me. I am not the arbiter of others' identities.

Really encourage everyone bothered by labels like "bi lesbian" to learn about the rich history of lesbianism, and the queer community in general. The lines between sexualities and genders have never truly been as distinct as some people want to think. Relish in the freedom this provides, and remember that your fellow queer people are not the reason cishet people will mistreat you. Do not turn your anger against them. It will only hurt them, and do nothing to help you. We do not fight for only the "respectable" queers, all of us deserve to be respected and free to be ourselves.

Love yourself, love your fellow queer people, and remember that the human experience is complex and difficult to describe with language, so give people grace if their labels seem contradictory or at odds. They know things about themselves that you do not, and that is ok.

Anyways sorry about the rant. I just love being a lesbian and how lesbianism is so rich and varied, it makes me feel so safe.

Also your art is great, Big McIntosh Trans Rights. 🐎🏳️‍🌈

dont have anything to say except thank you for sharing, this was really good to read!!! <3

[emwhyarentyouwriting]

Reading Up on Bisexual Issues:

Bisexual Erasure

As for other forms of discrimination, there is also an issue of "bi erasure" happening even within the LGBTQIA+ community. I highly recommend reading Kenji Yoshino's findings in "The epistemic contract of bisexual erasure". But, the highlights include the idea that 'monosexual' people (gay and straight people) either implicitly or explicitly, more or less team up to make the bisexuality of an individual just gO AwaY because of the attitude that as soon as they date the opposite sex, they are portrayed as straight, and as soon as they date the same sex, they are portrayed by society as gay and only gay—both of these assumptions are untrue. ✨If someone is bisexual, they are bisexual.✨ THAT MEANS THEY LIKE THE GENDERS (PLURAL) NOT JUST ONE AT A TIME. And, for the love of god, a bisexual woman/femme dating a man/masc (vice versa) does not make them straight... It's not that hard to understand, I promise. And, I'm sure they know exactly who they are because the human identity is (usually) thought to be stable, even with additional fluctuations if they present themselves. Yes, people can act within social contexts, but normally human identity (such as sexuality, gender, values, etc.) can be pretty stable.

Economic Disadvantages

Recently, I learned most funding doesn't actually go to helping out bisexual folks, 25.9 percent of bi men and 29.4 percent of bi women experience poverty aged 18-44 (slightly more than the gays), with additional factors for neurodivergence, disability, ethnic background, race and more, because the reality of discrimination is common sense. So if you can, please support specifically bisexual causes (as well as the rest of the community because it's also not a monolith). They deserve the same opportunity of a decent living just as the rest of us do.

Bisexual Men Being Completely Invisible and Bisexual Women Being Seen as hypersexual

Bisexual men in most accounts don't seem to really "come out" much at all. When women do so, they are immediately demonized as 'wanting to take all the genders' (???) and that's somehow a threat to other people attracted to the genders???? It makes no sense, I don't know. Speaking for cis people (because there's so little data elsewhere), they aren't generally taken serious in any capacity and called "confused" or, the classic "why can't you just pick one and stick to it?" (I don't know, what if I asked you why you didn't pick a certain partner yourself? Then it would be rude, oh no.) But even still, most bisexuals are considered "whoreish" and oversexualized when the bisexual themselves do not even wish to be sexualized at all (remember that asexual biromantics exist). Meanwhile when someone says "I'm bisexual" they're like "yeah okay" and never acknowledge or respect it again, like it's invisible. Because to most people, it is, because they don't want to think about it for some reason (probably cultural/social bias).

TL DR:

People are sucky to bisexuals, be nice and respect the fact they like both genders, respect is not that hard.

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SOURCES:

https://www.jstor.org/stable/26579818?seq=10

[rossithepixie]

Tell me about you and Dazai, please~

I admittedly haven't completely fleshed out all my lore in bsd yet (like i'm not entirely sure when i first meet him since i haven't gotten to read or watch his entire past arch since it's a separate manga and it's not all posted on the site i use) and i ended up putting this under a readmore because it got way more wordy than expected. It's practically the outline for a fic because i'm apparently more doomed when it comes to him than i realized

but that said i think both of us work for the agency and that's likely how we meet. I don't ever truly dislike him i more struggle to get him and somtimes think he takes his teasing too far early on. I'm unfortunately nearly as bad as kunikida when it comes to falling for dazai's white lies if it's not a subject i have a lot of knowledge in. However after a moment of getting to think about it i often stop and look at him dead on and go "you're lying aren't you" Which usually gets me a smile and a "Aww you got me~"

I take a while to realize his flirting is genuine. After all he's a bit of a flirt naturally and it's normally directed toward woman (though i do fully believe he's bi) and itend to write it off as him teasing or just being playful. All the while though i'm still slowly fostering a crush on him which results in me oscillating between being hot and cold toward him. Which has more to do with me than him because i feel dumb for letting my crush get the better of me with someone who won't ever actually love me. So i go between showing him more care and softness than i do others to being entirely professional.

At first for him I'm a bit of a puzzle and he really does love a good puzzle. He wants to find a way through my walls it just takes him a while to realize that the key is letting down his own.

Watching us dance circles around eachother drives some of our coworkers nuts because after sometime it becomes apparent to anyone who sees us everyday that there is SOMETHING there, there's also somthing keeping us from taking a final step. In the end it's likely an argument that makes it all click. It starts because i'm having a shit day emotionally and I snap at him to stop flirting with me and toying with my emotions since there's no way he'd actually want anything with someone like me. Which is of course untrue for him and his flirting has been genuine and he's irritated by both my view of myself and my assumptions about his feelings.

it does all work out eventually.

oh and kunikida is of course the last one at the office to find out.

[liefdesleven]

reading gods worst article on tma (Narrating the (Queer) Gothic in the Podcast The Magnus Archives, Maria Juko) and its so bad that its funny. btw this got published in a book (Rethinking Gothic Transgressions of Gender and Sexuality, edited by sarah faber and kerstin-anja münderlein, 2024) and I can only assume the editors didn't listen to tma themselves because good lord what are these takes. come with me as I read this mess

strong start when it claims the entities seek to torture and destroy humanity. patently untrue. we know they have some sentience, but the focus on humanity does a disservice to gerry explicitly saying "you think people are so special its only our fear that counts?". also "destroy". how are you going to get fear if the entirety of humanity is destroyed. we know what the entities wanted (or at least what the web wanted) it is explicitly stated in mag 200. it says so right there so explicitly that I find it impressive if Juko missed it.

calls the beholding the antagonist? if you want to call Any fear the antagonist id go for the web, but even then, antagonist is not the role id ascribe to a lovecraftian entity

"with the podcast’s final season set in a world dominated by the Eye that Jon et al. ultimately overcome to save the world" / "The world comes to depend on [jonmartins] relationship, with the two of them becoming queer heroes." save the world??? heroes?

4. stupidly funny implications. interesting citation for georgie but that's not important right now. the point is the fight against evil and the reading alleging tma says being queer will get you Heroic Powers. Juko's forgetting about the queer characters that get Evil Powers (all of them. all of the powers are evil. that's the point.) did the archivist utilize ace and bi power when he became the lynchpin of the apocalypse and tortured strangers

5. "As a case in point, inclusivity starts at the level of casting: female police officer Basira Hussain is voiced by Frank Voss, who uses they/them pronouns." very true but idk. frank voss and jonny sims are just pals, ill allow Some implications from this but the author is using it to imply more intentional focus on inclusivity then I think jonny was doing

6. "First, the podcast’s main character, the asexual biromantic Jon, is bestowed with supernatural powers, challenging not just heterosexual but all sexual norms of society." BESTOWED? stop using the word bestowed here oh my God. he is not a superhero!! did Juko listen to the entirety of tma without any moral grayness happening here??? also ?? jons bestowed supernatural powers are in no way related to his asexuality & biromanticism??

7. christ. this isnt a bad tma take but it is reminding me why I wanted to quit my literature analysis bachelor

8. did jon utilize ace and bi power when he betrayed martin. did martin utilize gay power when he stabbed jon. jesus christ what do you mean humanity's salvation. the apocalypse isnt fixed at the end by the power of love.

9. i guess? if you felt like it? tma really isn't a queer narrative in my option but I guess?? you could read it like that. if you wanted to. I'm unsure if you should though because these people are deeply unwell

10. "And particularly in the first seasons, Jon and his colleagues often fail to control the evil entities, losing for example colleague Tim at the end of the second season, which leads to a rift between some of the Institute’s members" yeah because truly they were thriving before that. they were the bestest of friends before tim died. they all held hands and danced in circles

11. unsure how much longer i can take this. this isn't the X-Men

12. "[Jon] could be defined as an asexual biromantic who uses his love for Martin as a form of power to save the world." no he couldn't. next

13. "With this in mind, Jon’s exploration of the Archives becomes a metaphor for accepting his (a)sexuality." HUH. NO IT ISNT? jons asexuality isn't relevant narratively At All. go home.

14. for the love of god can anyone hear me. its so dark in here. were the beholding and jonah magnus asexuality allies when they helped jon become an avatar. the sentence after this calls jon the hero of the narrative again btw. patently untrue

15. "Only by accepting his power can Jon save the world." jon didn't save the world.

Juko discusses melanie & georgie but her takes on them are pretty normal and decent in my opinion. if anyone wants a pdf of this horror let me know & ill send it. I'm so annoyed I'm considering writing an email about this. btw it called jonmartin "enemies to lovers" trope and also said their relationship "starts heteronormative and changes to a more equal footing, whilst retaining heteronormative elements". about the gay couple.

to conclude: I don't know which podcast juko listened to about a heroic narrative about queer love that saves the world, but its not the magnus archives. did you know that the eye is an asexuality ally?