#i’m kinda bi but also i don’t really care about labels much

[buddiebitch]

just wondering

[laikabu]

re: my thoughts on laios’s sexuality (long post ahead lol)

let me start this post with this. first, this contains a lot of references to the new adventurer’s bible world guide book released last february. i can read japanese, but i’m sure they’re translated somewhere. general spoiler warning in case. also… i am ESL, so sorry for any grammar errors

second, if you’re on the team that insists laios doesn’t care about humans enough to form relationships, either read the manga again or at the very least read this thread.

last, please don’t chime in with your acearo headcanons on this post. there’s already a majority of posts here that insist laios is acearo and that anything else is impossible. i don’t like it the same way i don’t like when someone declares they hc marcille as bisexual to a poster who reads her as lesbian. i already have enough people here who declare he’s ace on my own art. at least people on twitter of all places don’t do this sort of thing to me. nothing in this manga is canon, you can headcanon anything i won’t get mad if you hc him as bi or something. just. don’t be weird on my post.

okay. trust me, i love women, and i love the idea of making my favs women lovers but the idea of laios being gay really appeals to me because of his background. this isn’t fueled by yaoi since i don’t even ship the only m/m relationship i bring up here, i just think it adds a nice layer to his disconnect with his own humanity

i do think laios has a very abstract relationship with his sexuality for a multitude of reasons. he grew up in a very conservative backwater village. he has a hard time recognizing his own feelings towards others just as much as vice versa. i don’t really care for the “laios is a monsterfucker” agenda people are pushing but i do think he’d engage in sexual thoughts in his own weird way, i won’t deny his deviantart fetish shit

as an autistic person myself, i relate to how he’d prioritize his special interest over social interactions. after all, he was fixated on monster food so he’s distracted from dark thoughts. he’s not an actual glutton

he’s shy around women, but i don’t think it’s out of attraction. i just think it’s because he’s awkward and doesn’t want to be seen as a threat. there’s a couple of times when, out of armor, he deliberately tries to make himself look smaller and nonthreatening.

he didn’t show any interest towards ashivia (the hubby hunter girl marcille replaced) and just humored her because she wouldn’t leave him alone. his other party members thought he was giving her special treatment so he had to tell her he “doesnt want to give her special treatment anymore”(even though he never did), so she left

ashivia did her best to butter herself up to laios and he didn’t care, but laios thought shuro was his bestest friend in the whole world because he was too much of a pushover to reject him. ironically… what ashivia did to him parallels what he was doing to shuro

also… yeah sorry i keep bringing up that one comic of laios saying if he were falin he’d marry shuro and then begging him to take him back to his country, or that comic of laios wondering why he doesn’t like him(and then the first two questions he asks the magic mirror was what if he or shuro were women). i don’t even ship them! but it’s not a reach to assume that he likes men because of this, even if it’s kinda played like a joke(after all,a lot of people like chilshi even though their ‘shippy’ interaction was played as a joke)

of course, given the setting, i don’t think knows he’s gay, he wouldn’t have the vocabulary to label himself. i do want to dance around with the idea of him forcibly confronting his own sexuality after years of yaad pressuring him to produce heirs lol. laios might not be cishet but he’s a king so he rdgaf about that right now. i’m open to him having female consorts for political reasons, but i don’t think he’s into women, is all.

before anyone brings up his succubus… god forbid an author makes hetbait. a part of the plot twist was that not-marcille wasn’t the only succubus enticing laios, his other party members were copied too. she was the only one who approached him. also… succubi aren’t always inherently romantic. once it realized marcille didn’t work, it switched to appeal to his desire to be a monster.

[my-castles-crumbling]

Hey, so it seems that everyone is coming out to you so I though why not.

I’m not entirely sure if I’m Pansexual or Bi or something else entirely and honestly it’s kinda confusing (I’m female btw). I mean I don’t rly care abt gender but I find myself attracted to females ALOT more. So yeah idk. Maybe gender does make a difference. But then I don’t like the label Bisexual because it implies that you are attracted to males and females only and not people outside of that.

And also when it comes to coming out to people I kinda feel stuck. What do I say? All of my friends know (they’re also queer) but we never really came out to each other we all just kinda were like “hey! that girl looks good” and went along being gay af. But bc we all just knew abt each other we never really talked abt sexualities and stuff.

And on top of that I’m fairly sure my parents wouldn’t be supportive and no one I know irl can relate to that bc all of my friends parents are accepting.

I feel like I’m complaining over nothing. Im sorry 😫😫. But still love yah and hope you have a nice day 🫶

Hi! <3

I actually can relate to this first part SO much (as far as pan versus bi). When you say you don't care about gender, that sounds like pan to me. But then you say you have a preference, so is that still pan? I've wondered that for myself.

Here's what I have realized: Firstly, YOU are the person who decides who you are, so whatever label feels best (or none at all) is totally fine, even if it doesn't match someone else's definition. However, for me, I think it helped to think of sexual attraction as different than romantic attraction.

For example, perhaps you can find yourself sexually attracted to someone regardless of their gender. BUT, romantically, you prefer girls? To me, that would still be pan, but perhaps you are homoromantic (meaning you only enjoy romantic relationships with the same gender).

Or it could be that you could possibly see yourself both sexually attracted to someone regardless of gender and having a romantic relationship with someone regardless of gender- you just are more likely to want those things with girls. That's okay, too, and could still be considered pan! It's okay to have preferences!

To make this more simplistic, if we stick to a gender binary (which we shouldn't, obviously, but let's do it for a second for simplicity's sake)- a traditionally bisexual person is rarely attracted to boys and girls at a 50/50 split. Maybe they like girls 70 percent of the time and boys 30 percent of the time. That doesn't make them any less bisexual. So, the same holds true with pan. Maybe you mostly see yourself with girls, but also think boys are pretty cool, and nonbinary people are sometimes attractive, and agender people can sometimes be cute, etc, etc.

All of this to say, pick whatever label feels good to you (or none at all! I also frequently just say to people that I'm queer.)

As far as coming out, I think some people are under the impression that it has to be a big thing. It only has to be a big thing if you want it to be. It seems like your friends already know that you're not straight. If that's all you want to say, you don't owe them any more of an explanation or a label.

BUT if you want to come out, go ahead! Sounds like they'll be supportive, so remind yourself that they are safe for you and bring it up in a more intentional way. "Hey, I have a crush on this girl, what do you think?" or "Hey, so you know I'm not straight, right? It's cool that we all are so accepting of that stuff." I think you'll find your friends will be receptive, since they're not straight, either.

As far as your parents, that's trickier. It sounds like you still live with them, so coming out to possibly unaccepting people who have control over you can be sticky. If it were me, I would first do a bit of testing. Mention queerness in a hypothetical way or in a "I know someone who..." way. See how they react. If they react positively, you could start dropping hints. If they react negatively, consider the pros and cons to telling them. Is it worth it to come out because you would be sharing your authentic self? If yes, have a plan if things go poorly. Have a support system to talk to and to go to. If you find that it's not worth it, there's no shame in that, either.

But it's important to know you are NOT complaining over nothing. This is tough stuff and it's hard to navigate.

I'm here to talk if you need me! <3

[mushed-kid]

saw a tiktok and wanted to this myself, so…

my mighty med/lab rats/elite force lgbt+ headcanons

(including all the roles i wanted to add, not just the mains)

Kaz:

- Bisexual, very open and casual about it, (Often refers to himself as gay because it comes naturally and the difference isn’t that important to him)

- Cis guy, but he also doesn’t care that much (as in he would wear a skirt or dress, he just doesn’t)

- Doesn’t come out, he just lets people figure it out (“If you don’t know I’m gay yet, that’s on you”)

- Not afraid of getting into yelling matches or fights with homophobes for himself or his friends

Oliver:

- Trans ftm (come on, you guys also watched Oliver Hatches The Eggs, right? They were trying to send us a message!)

- His mom had refused to believe him at first, but when he didn’t stop claiming he was a boy no matter how many specialists and doctors she brought him to, she just accepted it

- She went full ‘you’re a boy’ mode, and he wasn’t allowed to do anything she considered slightly girly at all, (he was just glad she didn’t hate him, but now he’s very afraid of seeming feminine because he thinks people won’t see him as a guy anymore)

- Sits the Elite Force down to come out, but he works himself up about it and is so filled with nerves that he starts crying (the others panic thinking something is seriously wrong)

- Kaz is the only one that knew from before because they’re best friends

- Bonds with Chase about being trans

- Gay with comphet (because of his mother making him believe that was his only choice)

- Because of that, he hasn’t come out as gay (because he doesn’t know he’s gay yet), and sometimes he comes off as slightly homophobic (also due to the fact that he has very fragile masculinity and thinks guys can’t be feminine)

- The others get mad at him, but he doesn’t mean anything bad, his mom just kinda sucked (and it’s hard to shake some of the things she’s told him)

- Very afraid of homophobic and transphobic people, which is why he takes so long to come out to his friends

Skylar:

- Bisexual with a preference for women or lesbian with comphet

- I like her and Oliver so I hc her as ‘Doesn’t really care because it’s not a thing on Caldera’

- Cis girl

Alan:

- Cishet

- Idk what more to say about him

Gus:

- Gender fluid

- Pan maybe? I imagine him swinging every way because he really doesn’t care about gender

Horace:

- Cishet

- Supportive, but very confused about everything (he always uses the wrong labels when talking about someone)

Jordan:

- Cis

- Aromantic (She thinks it’s gross)

Stephanie:

- Cishet (Though she does kind off have a weird thing for Gus so I’m not so sure)

- Will hang out with gay people just because they’re gay so she can seem like a good person

Tecton & Megahertz:

- They’re gay and dating (I think this ship is kinda funny so… it’s canon)

- They’re both cis

Captain Atomic:

- Cishet

- Slightly homophobic

- Also very misogynistic

Chase:

- Trans ftm (the constant joking about his height and how girly he is in lab rats? A Sign.)

- Came out when he was very young, he always knew

- Raised in a basement so you’d think he didn’t know about transphobia for a very long time, but he did, (Mr.Davenport talked to him about it and he researched it thoroughly)

- Bisexual

- Tries to avoid homophobic and transphobic people, and just ignores them, but it doesn’t always work. Sometimes he’ll just take it because he doesn’t want to fight, and it makes the other worry about him a lot

- Other times, Spike comes out and he goes crazy on them, and people leave him alone for a while after that

Bree:

- Lesbian with comp het (she thought she was straight because that’s all she knew, and then she thought she was bi because she liked girls, but then she realized she didn’t like guys)

- Cis girl

- Will verbally kill a homophobe

Adam:

- Everyone assumes he’s straight, because he never came out as anything else (he just doesn’t really care about coming out at all)

- He mentions something about a guy he likes/dated back in high school and everyone is super shocked

- “I thought you guys knew”, - “We thought you were straight!?” - “I never said that either” - “fair enough”

- Cis guy

- He’s not transphobic, and only makes those jokes about chase because he genuinely forgets chase wasn’t born a boy. (Chase thinks that makes him his biggest supporter even if the jokes sting)

- Will beat up anyone that says or does anything mean to his siblings about it

Leo:

- Straight

- He/They (idk if that counts as non binary?)

- Would start fights with homophobes and then realize he’s fucked and needs help

- Got bullied for being gay even if he isn’t, definitely came home after being picked on and trying to hide his injuries from tasha (who notices and calls the school right away)

- Will still start fights with homophobes, now knowing that he can take them

Marcus:

- He’s an android so technically not cis, but he’s a guy (he fucking hates it/its pronouns because he’s not just a machine)

- Aromantic & Asexual (he’s very indifferent to both relationships and sex)

- Doesn’t really do relationships, but if he did, it would be more like his partner in crime (real crime not pranks)

- If he did get an evil sidekick of sorts, he’d probably be gay

- Will claim to have any gender of sexuality if it’ll help him out of anything, no matter how small

- Will also accuse anyone of being homophobic if it helps him in any way (Douglas hates both of these)

- Outing someone is the one thing that he doesn’t do (Douglas is so proud of that one)

- Will start a fight with anyone at any time, and realizes beating someone up for being homophobic won’t get him in trouble sends him on a mission to find every bully at school

- He claims it’s just because he won’t get in trouble, but Douglas knows that deep down he cares (because he does get in trouble at school, just not at home)

Donald:

- I want to say cishet, but trans ftm is calling my name from afar

- Straight and borderline homophobic (he supports the people he knows and cares about, but in itself he thinks homosexuality is wrong)

- Will use his kids sexualities to look even better in media, with no regards for what they feel about it (They hate it)

- Outs people, but also tells his kids he’s proud of them no matter what and supports them, so they’re not very sure what he really thinks

- He’s just weird about it

- Will pretend he didn’t hear the homophobic or transphobic comment toward his kids if it means avoiding a conflict

Tasha:

- Cishet

- Very supportive of everyone

- Calls out homophobes and tries to inform everyone she knows about how important it is to be an ally

- Starts a group with some other moms to show support (the others think it’s a bit much, but she’s just being nice so they let her)

Douglas:

- Bisexual, but evil about it

- Strictly dated other bad guys/villains that he worked with, so most of his relationships sucked and ended badly (see; Krane and Giselle)

- Trans ftm

- Has a lot of kids, but honestly doesn’t know who any of their dads are

- I want Adam, Bree, and Chase to have the same dad, but I also kinda wanna say Adam has a different one, and that Bree and Chase are twins

- Daniel has another dad again, and Douglas realized he couldn’t raise the kid alone, so he had him adopted to keep him safe

- Will piss off a transphobe and run away from the fight

Perry:

- She/They

- Will rip a homophobe to pieces without breaking a sweat (she also knows a guy, so getting rid of any evidence is easy)

…..

and that’s everyone i could think of!

[gordontheengineswifenirmal]

Lmfaooooo they really r delusional. They think of themself as a bloody CELEBRITY!!!! They can’t respect others, but r happy to show off sexually explicit images of other women for attention. Ignorant, immature cunt. lol u MIGHT respect us if u get a record label?! Really? So u can screech or rap like every other talentless numpty? A) u won’t respect us whether u have one or not b) our sexuality is swayed by your ignorance or blackmail. You’re hideous inside out and out, and your talents are limited at best.

Also, if u really think about it, this person is also kinda homophobic. They want you to go out and make kids via sex. For most gay and lesbian folks, unless they r forced into straight sex, it doesn’t work that way.

It’s clear this person has severe mental health issues. No one IN THEIR RIGHT MIND would want to bang that, even if they were into sex. That’s probably why they r so upset. Hahahaha (of course they will say they get lots of it as if we should b jealous.). There’s nothing special about them, and their attitude makes them even worse. Their attitude smells as bad as their unwashed, disease infested……

People like this make me even MORE sex repulsed. Thanks for the reverse psychology, u hideous CLOT. I’ve had sex. It’s something I don’t want. I’ve tried. I don’t wish to try again. It’s not because no one wants me, it’s because I don’t want anyone else. And I’m fine with that.

Since they love sex so much, maybe THEY should b forced to go without it for a long time. I bet this moron thinks we asexuals can force people not have sex, or that we want to. Smh. We just don’t want your desires pushed on US. If u want it, then whatever. Leave us out of it if we don’t want it. It’s that simple. That’s not weird. It’s only weird or feched up when u bring ur own ignorance into the mix.

I can’t tell if this person is supposed to be straight, bi, or lesbian/gay. They’re offensive all across the board, and NOT because of their sexuality, whatever it may be.

They should be forced to do something they don’t want to do n suffer, n then see how they feel. They probably still won’t care. I would not b surprised if they had bpd or a narcissistic personality disorder of some sort. There is a deep level of disturbance in the force there.

Extreme unhinged narcissistic posts here -

It’s a shame that allosexual people still feel the need to b aphobic. I’ve said it before, n I’ll say it again - everyone has a right to NOT do what they DON’T WANT TO DO, just as they have a right to do as they wish, as long as they r not hurting others. The whole ‘we should go have kids’ bit makes it even worse. I really hope some hacker took over this account. Otherwise, this is some deep level back woods close relative - fecker mentality. If this the actual person’s thinking, then maybe she should go suck trump’s dick n get back to us. She can put on a show for him since she likes sex and only fans so much. I wouldn’t be surprised if they were an only fans performer, desperate for acceptance, attention, and love. That’s what their profile portrays - and they’d rather hurt others who are innocent, rather than dealing with their own issues. Coward.

I’d rather do the steam engines, thank u lol. At least I know I won’t catch anything or get caught up in some stupidity. They’ll smell much better as well.

It doesn’t matter what ur gender or sexual identity- respect others. If u can’t do that, you don’t deserve respect.

People like this make me soooo glad I don’t have a uterus anymore. I would be sooooo disgusted to have brought such a vile, ugly person into the world.

Oh look, another aphobe 🙄

Imagine being so aphobic that you'd use a milestone post on your art blog to bitch about asexuals. What a weirdo.

[starbuck]

it’s finally cool out again!!

[audblogforfanfics]

MY STRANGER THINGS HEADCANONS!!!!1! LGBTQ+ version :>

Please note that these are MY OWN PERSONAL views, and it’s completely okay if you disagree with them! This turned out WAY longer than I expected, sorry!!

Steve Harrington is bisexual and you can fight me on this (please don’t). He doesn’t know until Robin, though

Eddie is gay as hell. Also I searched up the handkerchief back pocket code and uh.. hdksjd Eddie likes to get a bit spicy lmao

Nancy is bi, too! Also doesn’t know until both Robin and Eddie joined the trauma party (no she does not have a crush on Eddie, but he helped explain things to her)

Jonathan doesn’t label himself, but he doesn’t really care about what gender he’s attracted to! He’s really open to anyone-

Jonathan is also on the ace spectrum and you’ll probably fight me on this TwT

Argyle is pan and poly! He’s so cool, and is very supportive (also his gaydar is on POINT)

Robin is canonically a lesbian and I absolutely adore her, she’s amazing

WILL! We all know he’s gay, it’s canon and that’s beautiful, but I also think he’s on the aromantic spectrum, too! (yes it’s a spectrum, I’m aro/ace and in a relationship ^w^)

Mike is bisexual and has internal biphobia (he doesn’t know you can like both). I like to think he and Steve bond over this and Steve sees his younger self in Mike.

Also, speaking of Steve and Mike, I think Eddie would see his younger self in Will, to parallel. I love parallels

Lucas is a supportive ally and I will gladly fight on this! He’s a sweetheart, let him have nice things!! Like a super cool bi girlfriend!!!

Max is the super cool bi girlfriend!! I love her, and relate to her far too much. So I’m gonna say she doesn’t figure out she’s bi until she moves to Hawkins and has a mini crisis about it, doesn’t tell anyone, and then accepts herself within a month but still doesn’t tell anyone

El has no idea what the LGBTQ+ is until she goes to Chicago and meets Kali. She now knows about gay people! She doesn’t know anything else, tho- (doesn’t understand why ppl treat it like a bad thing) until she goes to California!! So much more information!!! She doesn’t know where she fits in all of it, but she’s super supportive and you know she’ll fight any haters

Dustin is straight, and an ally! A confused ally, but he’s got the spirit!! He has no gaydar, it’s truly unfortunate (but kinda funny, too)

Suzie!! Suzie is straight, but extremely supportive and helps Dustin (everyone) out when they need it- I like to think she learns it all from Eden!

Eden goes by she/they and is also panromantic! She’s also polyamorous and asexual. No I’m not projecting shut up

Murray doesn’t use labels, but he and Alexei are married. Soulmates. Lovers. They love each other so let them love each other.

Murray’s gaydar isn’t as good as Argyle’s, but it’s still pretty on point

Joyce is the most supportive mom ever and she will fight anyone who hurts one of her kids and she will win.

Hopper’s straight, and an eventual ally. He doesn’t support at first cause of how he was raised, but he doesn’t want to hurt the kids and Joyce. Joyce and Murray help him, along with El, Will, Jonathan, and even Suzie somehow!

Erica doesn’t really care for romance right now, nor does she want to claim anything yet. She’s still figuring herself out, even as headstrong as she is. She’s my favorite character, and so everyone is gonna support her of this

This is so long, so I’m gonna make a part two when I have more inspiration/ideas!

[myoclonus-aro]

hi I had some questions about being aro and I was wondering if u could help. it’s okay if u can’t!! no pressure.. what exactly makes someone aro? What exactly defines little to no attraction? How do alloromamtic people experience things vs aro? I’ve been using the aro label for a bit now (like months) and it’s made me happy and the community makes me happy but at the same time I’m not sure if it’s ok for me to use? I’m in a romantic relationship, love the concept of love and romance in books/shows, and yeah. all of my life I haven’t really felt anything for anyone or cared much about romance except one crush that.. when the person told me he likes me and simply asked for a hug I got scared/uncomfortable/GUILTY to reciprocate feelings and even hug him or say yes to dating him.. then that went away and a bit later this other guy asks me out and it took me a while to be like um yes sure we can date I guess…I’m still with him years later and it’s been weird bc everyone says it’s like we aren’t even dating since we never do any romantic actions, no kissing no holding hands no nothing… we don’t look like we’re together at all. I’ve always been scared and uncomfortable doing romantic actions like that.. but I’ve gotten better at it recently and sometimes want it like hugging and cuddles ? and I love fantasies of that stuff…but I can’t get myself to kiss or let people see much of us being “romantic”.. or even when we’re alone. I’ve also questioned if I really have romantic attraction to him or not many many times bc it’s confusing but like I guess so I mean I want to do things with him I don’t exactly do with other friends and smile when I see him ? .. I don’t feel many feelings all the time I guess.. and I never get fictional romantic crushes (I never understood how ppl could even get those) .. and when someone confessed their love for me the first time (even before the guy) I literally had the worst panic attack ever and accidentally rejected them the rudest way possible 😭… i see people talk about getting partners so many times and so quickly doing romantic actions and falling in love with people they meet/see for the first time/friends over time… it doesn’t happen to me ! I literally picked people out to have fake crushes on before bc I wanted to be like everyone else! I think of ppl who go on shows to fall in love or blind dates and I could never actually get a romantic connection to someone that simply. But since I have moments where I want love/cuddles/etc from my partner I feel kinda like a fake aro? what if I’m only this way bc of autism or anxiety or something idk. also while I do like being aro people assume I’m “unable to love” and “not as lgbt bc it’s so sad that I can’t experience lgbt love/not good enough” (I’m bi btw) and it makes me feel scared to tell people I’m aro :/

Hi! This is a very long ask, so I’ve done my best to split it into sections.

What exactly makes someone aro? What exactly defines little to no attraction? How do alloromamtic people experience things vs aro?

An aro person is someone who experiences little or no romantic attraction. As for what constitutes as such, this is harder to define because a) it’s an emotion, meaning b) it varies greatly from person to person and between different cultures and c) it’s an emotion I don't have. Ultimately, what one defines as “little or no attraction” is largely up to the individual. Personally, I know I experience no romantic attraction and, although I have little evidence for this apart from gut instinct, I am very confident in my identity so this seems correct for me. As for how alloromantic people experience things vs. aro people, that is a question I cannot answer because, well, I’m not alloromantic and frankly I have no idea.

I’ve been using the aro label for a bit now (like months) and it’s made me happy and the community makes me happy but at the same time I’m not sure if it’s ok for me to use?

Without even reading further I’m going to say that without question, it is ok for you to use the aromantic label. If aromanticism as a label and community makes you happy then you are always welcome to it. Under no circumstances would it not be ok to identify as aromantic.

I’m in a romantic relationship, love the concept of love and romance in books/shows, and yeah. all of my life I haven’t really felt anything for anyone or cared much about romance except one crush that.. when the person told me he likes me and simply asked for a hug I got scared/uncomfortable/GUILTY to reciprocate feelings and even hug him or say yes to dating him.

Many aros enjoy the concept of love and romance, many aros enjoy fictional romance, and many aros enter romantic relationships. It doesn’t make one less aro to do any of those things. Some aros also get crushes (re: little to no romantic attraction). That said, if someone telling you they like you causes feelings of unease, it could be possible that it wasn’t a crush at all; many aro people “choose” people to have crushes on or mistake crushes for something else, such as platonic attraction. I would also suggest looking into the terms romance repulsion and lithromantic.

Then that went away and a bit later this other guy asks me out and it took me a while to be like um yes sure we can date I guess…I’m still with him years later and it’s been weird bc everyone says it’s like we aren’t even dating since we never do any romantic actions, no kissing no holding hands no nothing… we don’t look like we’re together at all.

I don’t know you so I won’t speak for your relationship. That said, I also said “yeah sure we can date I guess” when I was asked out, and turned out to be aromantic the whole time.

I’ve always been scared and uncomfortable doing romantic actions like that.. but I’ve gotten better at it recently and sometimes want it like hugging and cuddles ? and I love fantasies of that stuff…but I can’t get myself to kiss or let people see much of us being “romantic”.. or even when we’re alone.

This sounds a lot like romance repulsion. Romance repulsion can fluctuate and vary; it is normal to be repulsed about some things (ie kissing) while fine with others (ie hugging).

I’ve also questioned if I really have romantic attraction to him or not many many times

My general understanding is that most alloromantic people don’t repeatedly question whether or not they’re actually experiencing romantic attraction. I too questioned as much when I was dating someone, and now consider it an early sign that I was aromantic all along.

And when someone confessed their love for me the first time (even before the guy) I literally had the worst panic attack ever and accidentally rejected them the rudest way possible 😭

This sounds like even more romance repulsion! I highly suggest looking into that if you get the chance.

i see people talk about getting partners so many times and so quickly doing romantic actions and falling in love with people they meet/see for the first time/friends over time… it doesn’t happen to me ! I literally picked people out to have fake crushes on before bc I wanted to be like everyone else!

I don’t have much to say about this one except that picking people to have cushies on is an incredibly common aromantic experience.

But since I have moments where I want love/cuddles/etc from my partner I feel kinda like a fake aro?

Again, many aros enjoy love/cuddles. Personally, I greatly enjoy receiving love from my friends and am favourable about several romantic actions. This does not make me a fake aro. Remember that you cannot accidentally fake anything, including aromanticism.

what if I’m only this way bc of autism or anxiety or something idk.

While it isn’t guaranteed that one’s aromanticism is linked to autism or neurodivergence, it is also incredibly common. The aromantic community welcomes those whose aromanticism is related to, effected by or even caused by their neurodivergence; being aro because of autism or anxiety would not make you any less aro.

also while I do like being aro people assume I’m “unable to love” and “not as lgbt bc it’s so sad that I can’t experience lgbt love/not good enough” (I’m bi btw) and it makes me feel scared to tell people I’m aro :/

Consider;

You are under no obligation to tell people you’re aro for any reason. Your aromanticism is about you and if it makes you happy, that’s more than enough

There is no such thing as “more lgbt” or “less lgbt”. Aromanticism is inherently queer, romantic love is not the only kind of love nor is it any greater than other forms of love, and aromantic people are lgbt enough full stop

There are many aro people who do not feel love! Feeling love is not a requirement to being a good or “good enough” person.

In Summary: I am no authority on you or your identity, but in my opinion, your experiences seem similar to that of a romance repulsed aromantic. Being aromantic is about you only, and it is ultimately up to you to decide whether or not you’re aro, what that means to you, whether you come out, and what you want out of relationships.

If you have any other questions, feel free to ask 💛

[sailordiavolo]

feelings on asexuality 💘

as a person who is a hopeless romantic and also on the asexual spectrum i find it hard to want to communicate with people that i am asexual (especially if i like them). mostly it’s a fear of rejection thing, and about feeling apprehensive towards possible preconceived notions on asexuality being imposed upon me. so it’s also a fear of being misunderstood.

in terms of dating, i almost never seek people out; meaning i don’t really go on dating apps or try to find anyone. i just let people fall into my life and see what happens.

what this also means is that when you meet people irl, you don’t really have a whole “what genre of lgbt are you” conversation right off the bat. people don’t really ask for pronouns most of the time. most people you meet irl also aren’t chronically online and you even get people who’ll go, “yeah i’m straight/bi/pan/gay” and not even know what those words really are.

the average person doesn’t take the time to educate themselves on matters of sexuality and gender identity unless it applies to them. so i guess, i would hate to tell someone that i’m asexual and for them to form an idea in their brain that then associates me with Sheldon Cooper. might die instantly if that happens

in all seriousness, i’ve done a lot of questioning & soul-searching on this subject. i’m at a really comfortable place with my sexual trauma to the point where it doesn’t control me, i’m okay with talking openly about it and i don’t get flashbacks anymore (i have ptsd & c-ptsd). suppose i’ve done a lot of therapy to get me to this point, and now i have a new perspective to offer.

i love things that i didn’t know were possible to love. physical touch, for example. a while ago i was dancing at a club & this random guy starts singing and dancing with me with his face pressed against my cheek. cutest thing ever. i actually have a newfound appreciation for men & the things they do. if you’re not afraid of them, your experience of them is completely different.

i like sex, but i find it hard to let go. i’ve never had sex for the sake of emotional bonding, so i don’t know what that’s like, and all the sex i’ve ever had has been transactional, full of hate or fear. and it was really caused by my huge fears around emotional intimacy, which is why my experiences tended to happen like that.

from my current standpoint, i’m not afraid of any of those things anymore, my experiences now are sure to be different. happier, emotionally connected, etc. even sounds fun and like something i could probably look forward to.

except that i still don’t really care that much. as it shockingly turns out: sexual trauma doesn’t actually cause asexuality. all that soul-searching to come back to a roundabout same conclusion, except i’ve gone from sex-negative to sex-positive, and i’m probably bordering more along the lines of grey ace or demisexual. something like that, although it’s actually not so important to me anymore to have the perfect label that describes my whole experience. it’s alright to think; hmm, yeah, good enough.

mechanically speaking, i don’t find people sexually attractive based on their looks or bodies. someone i initially thought was unattractive or uninteresting can become the most attractive, beautiful & sexy thing to me if they show me a bit of their personality. i think bodies are just a part of who someone is, and i find people attractive based on a more holistic look at who they are, and i think i’ve always been that way.

also: people who i do tend to be attracted to are people who are just like me. in fact, the more like me they are, the more attractive i find them. so i admit i’m very far up my own ass.

the fear of rejection i have around being openly asexual is kinda silly. i think i just don’t want people to know a label before they know me, you know?

when choosing media representation to affiliate me with, consider looking past obvious big bang theory choices and instead think about spongebob squarepants or jughead jones.

[stranger-nightmare]

maybe hot take and maybe ppl will disagree with me on this, but 🗿 well. so you know how most of the fandom headcanons Eddie as bi or pan? i like to see him as that too, but that he also doesn’t really have an specific “type”? like, he might me attracted to certain people, but he ends up being able to be attracted to anyone, no matter what they look like, because he likes their personality so much (like he’s demisexual or something, idk how to explain this lol). so i feel like he’d be attracted to women, men, non binary ppl, gender fluid ppl, whoever, and with any body type/style. you’re a cheerleader? cool. you’re alt? cool. you’re chubby? he loves your tummy rolls, your thick thighs, how soft you feel, even if you might not like any of this, because it’s you. you’re skinny? he loves your small breasts, how small you look all around, how easy it is to pick you up, even if you don’t like any of this, because it’s you. you’re an athlete, you work out and have big muscles? he loves your dedication to your body, how strong you look, how YOU can pick him up, even if you don’t like any of this, because it’s you. if you’re not mean to him and you don’t judge him like 90% of the town does, it’s already a huge step to get him to like you, and then he sees how you took time to get to know him, the real him, not “the freak”, the “cult leader” or whatever other stereotype people give him, and how you like him for him too. and then he’s so attracted to you, to your personality, your looks, everything, just because you got so close and you’re so good together, in his mind. maybe i’m just projecting because i relate so much to him and i’m the same in this sense 💀 but yeah. and i might be reading way too deep into this, but i see a lot of (not here, but everywhere that ppl talk about Eddie) “would he like x girls?” and i’ve let my insecurities get in the way of enjoying a character once because of my own insecurities (not being fit and all and ppl seeing him as only being attracted to “fit girls”). yeah, i feel like he would like you no matter what you look like. he’d love you just the way you are because why not 🤷‍♀️ again, hot take and maybe just projecting lol but yeah, thanks for reading my dissertation (i’m sorry, i could talk about soft Eddie for days 🤧)

I don’t think this is a hot take at all my darling, everyone is entitled to their own opinions / headcanons!

honestly this is kinda exactly how I see Eddie as well, I just don’t think he’s really into labels or anything, he just likes who he likes, he’s completely enamoured by who you are as a person more than anything else! what you look like is kinda secondary to him, he finds you sexy no matter what bc he just loves you so much! so yeah he’s not really too fussed about gender or aesthetic or anything like that

so whenever anyone asks me ‘would Eddie be into x type of people’ the answer, in my humble opinion, is always yes, yes he is!

someone with the opposite aesthetic to him? he’s in love! someone with a similar aesthetic to him? he’s in love! someone chubby / plus size? obsessed! someone skinny / average? obsessed! she/he/they, he doesn’t care! imo Eddie really is all about who you are first and foremost

however, again, this is just my opinion and everyone’s headcanons are valid! <33

- hope

[multiplefandomsblog]

your roommate hcs are so cute, can i request for naib, demi, tracy, andrew, kurt, patricia, and victor?

:0 holy crap yes! I’m so glad you enjoyed the roommate hcs!! Me and the other mods hope you enjoy these! Thank you for requesting :))

(i added melly because why not? lmao hope you don’t mind.)

Part 1!

Naib Subedar

This man deadass didn’t know you were living with him

Even when people told him about it, he wasn’t rlly paying attention and didn’t rlly care

Your stuff in his room? He thought it was his or someone just broke into his room and left it there

When he saw you on the toilet however, he just freaked out.

“Why the hell are you shitting in my room!?” “Your room? I’ve been living here for 2 months!”

Once he found out you lived with him, he made sure you knew what was his and what was yours

also, since he’s very protective of his things-- you being one of them-- he would totally get jealous if he caught you tallking to someone that wasn’t him.

he would probably give you the silent treatment and act like a pissy baby

He hates it when you touch his stuff

especially his photos, the photos were special to him because they were of him and his army friends.

You’d sometimes catch him looking at the photos with a longing in his eyes, it was highkey sad.

having you live with him meant lots and lots of training

he made sure you were always prepared for matches and that you don’t get downed early

when you got downed early however, He would scold you but he would still rescue you anyways because he’s soft

“You’re such an idiot, you’d better do better next time! Or else I’ll kick your ass.” 

one time he got cocky while kiting because you were watching him

he forgot to turn on his elbow pads and face palmed into the wall.

“...You saw nothing.” He turned around, a bit woozy from hitting his head on a wall. He flipped the hunter off before stumbling wooshing away

When you first get to know naib, he’d probably come off as intimidating and menacing

but once you get to know him--the real him--, you start to understand that even though he may be tough on you, its because he wants you to be the best

he has good intentions

During matches he’d let you handle yourself and made sure you didn’t rely on him too much

One time you needed to shower but you ran out of your shampoo so you used his.

When he questioned you, you simply responded “What? You don’t need it anyways, you’re bald!”

He didn’t rescue you the next round.

should’ve seen that coming

though he forgives you when you braid his luscious long existent hair for him

Kurt Frank

The amount of times you almost stepped on this man is astronomical.

he would constantly be in his tiny form because he would lose a lot of his things

his tiny form helped him find his things easily

Though when you first moved in with him, you had no idea what his ability was

so when you first saw a tiny version of your roommate you thought he was just a weird doll

until you heard him say a tiny, “Hey can you move your ginORMOUS foot? You’re stepping on my book.”

You fucking screeched and took off your shoe to try and kill him

“AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH”“AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH”

After he explained to you about his ability you calmed down a bit and spared this tiny man but only this time!

Frank loves books, he probably filled your shared rooms with stacks on stacks of books

You’d often see him tiny, waving at you while you’re decoding

Once you overhead Kurt arguing with First Officer over who was the rightful owner of some sort of treasure map

They fought for days,

kurt would constantly complain about it to you

turns out it was just a game on the back of a Cereal box.

sorry this is short like kurt

Tracy Reznik

Would be a little awkward at first, but the awkwardness slowly fades away when you both make bad jokes

she gives me childhood best friend vibes

Has her doll sitting in the corner of your shared room room, it’s lifeless eyes scare the living shit out of you in the dark you try not to make eye contact, afraid it’ll curse you or smth

if she was mad at you she would move the bot in a way that looked like it was flipping you off you off in your direction before you went to bed.

Always making little robot things that are super fun to play with

Loves sharing her things. Has no problem with it

you wanna wear her clothes? sure

you want to wear her underwear? evEN BETTER-

Pulling all nighters, trying to get her machines to work like how she wanted it to work.

Would live off of kraft Mac n cheese and junk food in the modern day

Pretty hyper, chugs pink monster energy drinks while pulling all nighters, also, in the modern day

would probably be a bruh girl

Her room is a mess, covered with blueprints and scrap metal

her room is practically a safety hazard

Sometimes she dresses her doll up a bit, putting wigs or her old clothes on it (which scares you half to death)

Once she made her doll dress up like her

and you almost went up to it to ask what it wanted for dinner.

Has a photo of her and her dad

You never wanted to bring it up, worried it might make her upset :(

Sometimes she’d feel really guilty about being downed in the first 30 seconds

please comfort her, she feels super bad

She always relies on you to rescue her

She gets really happy and thankful when you body block for her but she still gets a bit concerned when you do it randomly

���i wasn’t even kiting-” “Protecc the mecc.”

Demi Bourbon

Always out at the bar

Smells like alcohol constantly

tipsy 24/7

she’s never 100% sober

You have to hold her hair out of her face when she comes back to your shared room to hurl

Likes bringing back hard vodka or weird flavoured alcohols back for you guys to get wasted try together

Room is bit cluttered, but she doesn’t have much in her room since she’s always out in bars or matches

Usually latches onto you like a parasite when she’s drunk.

it gets a bit awkward when her face is a bit close to yours,

“Are we about to kiss right now-? BLeurghgrhgherrgh.”“...*audible sigh*”

You’d go to her expecting her to heal you like a normal person but no

instead she shoves dovlin down your throat

She likes to do your makeup, and always adds a matching beauty mark

unless you don’t wear makeup, then she’d ask you to do hers 

always loves how she looks afterwards

more than sometimes demi would get into bar fights, 

so you know she’s about to throw hands when she starts takes off her earrings-

10/10 would fight for you <3

She’s gives me cool wine aunt vibes

Probably a lesbian too (check out our Demi smut fic ;))

Or bi, idk

Just straightn’t

She’s really good at hyping you up, especially when you’re taking shots

“CHUG CHUG CHUG CHUG-”

Andrew Kreiss

Would be very shy at first, opens up a little when you get to know him

Totally a night owl, can’t sleep at night from all the guilt and “what if’”s

if you see this baby awake at night, hug him, he really needs it

You’ve never seen the other side of his face

How does he see with hair in his eyes?

He’s albino, which is super dope

Sometime you fear he’s thinking about burying you

You always see him thwacking Luca with his shovel

Barely talks

Room is moderate

He doesn’t want you to find out too much about him

He may seem bland, but he loves sweet food

You’d bake him cookies and other sweets

He’d act as if he’s not embarrassed and brush it off

“Are you blushing?”“No, I-I’m sunburnt.” “On your face?” “....I stare into the hot red sun sometimes because it eases me.”

to keep his lie going, every time he catches you staring at him he would fry his eye balls by staring into the sun until you left

partially the reason why he can’t see well

When he’s not looking, you stare at him while he’s eating the stuff you made because he looks so happy :’)

One time you found him down in the dumps so you made him a cup of coffee, and when you handed it to him you said-

“Depresso espresso?”

*sniff* ”..are you oka-” “IM NOT CRYING, YOU ARE”

he actually cried

it was such a nice gesture(?), that he started ugly crying

You’d ask him if he wanted hugs during matches when you see him get stressed

He’d be flushed and kinda confused

hug... him? why tho lmao

he’d definitely agree tho, to be fair, with some hesitation 

if y’all ever cuddled in bed, i feel like he’d be a little spoon

poor boy needs the comfort, he wouldn’t mind if you wanted to be little spoon tho

he just wants to be close to you

Victor Grantz

You love playing with his dog, Wick

Super nice and polite, but a little guarded

The type to be too afraid to call people out when they do something wrong but would totally trash them in his head

You write him little letters everyday and leave them on his bed to make him happy :))

He’d a be a little spoon

Wick would always join you guys while cuddling

Kisses would be soft and gentle

Usually sends you the first letter in matches

Loves to cuddle

He bb 🥰

You always get him a birthday present AND a Christmas present

You also get a gift for Wick

He loves giving you surprise hugs

Likes to read with you while cuddling

Literally a cinnamon roll

Once he was eating a cinnamon roll

And you whispered

“C a n n i b a l i s m .”

He was very confused

and kind of scared- were you going to eat him?

Patricia Dorval

Room always smells like herbs

She could literally smoke weed and you’d think it’s some magical healing herb

it magically makes you feel better

Always there to stun the hunter when you’re ballooned

The mature one

Her room is organized, with boxes labeling what herbs and magic stuff that are in them

You were cooking dinner for the day and you accidentally used one of her fancy herbs in your soup

She didn’t realize until she tried the soup

She wasn’t mad just disappointed

She lectured you on how you shouldn’t touch her stuff or use it for cooking

Gotta admit tho, the soup was pretty good

she acts like the mom everyone wishes they had

totally the type to be like, “dude we should think this through.” before doing something risky

and then five seconds later, “cowABUNGA MY DUDES”

one time she caught kreacher leaving the mens washroom without washing his hands

seeing as she was the mother of this manor, she had to protect her children from diseases

so she yeeted her monkey skull at kreachers head, cleanly knocking him out

and everybody cheered.

Melly Plinius

When you heard melly was going to be your roomie, you couldn’t have been more excited.

you finally had a victim for the many insect pick up lines!

So you decided to make some good first impressions by waiting for her in your room.

so when she arrived to your room and greeted you, you happily greeted her back, and slipped in the pick up line.

“Hello, my name is Melly. I believe I will be your ro-?”“Yeah nice to meet you too, say, what do bees make?”

She kinda thought you were a bit rude so much for first impressions

“...Erm, honey?” she replied hesitantly

“YES DEAR?” 

... okay maybe you weren’t thaaaat bad.

after that she kind of developed a teensy crush on you 

so it was hard living with you because of her crush, since she was constantly flustered 

you loved her reactions, she constantly got red.

it was funny watching her try to keep her cool and fail.

[girlfrommars28]

This is my take on all of the Total Drama characters sexualities

I’m going to do this in order, so we’re gonna start with our “beloved” host of the show

Chris is the embodiment of being gay and homophobic

Chef is hard to say, you don’t really know what’s up with him, but I’d say he’s gay as well

Beth is my chaotic pansexual child and I will protect her with my own life if I have to

DJ is just so gay, I love him so much, must protect at all cost

Gwen is our goth bisexual, she is a queen, I just really love her

Geoff is either the straight ally or the chaotic bisexual, I don’t really know

Lindsay is very hard to tell, because I feel like she is straight, but at the same time, she kinda gives me some bisexual vibes, but I don’t really know so I’ll go with straight

I see Heather as lesbian, she was just told that she is straight

Duncan is hard to tell as well; we would assume he’s straight, but something just gives me bisexual vibes, so maybe bisexual with a preference for women

Now, you would assume Tyler is straight, but he is just a chaotic bisexual, change my mind; he was just so... chaotic when he saw Alejandro 

Harold is straight in my opinion, I just don’t get any vibes from him, so yeah

Trent is either a straight ally or just a chaotic bisexual, who knows...

I like to think that Bridgette is pan, but she could also be just a really good ally, I don’t really know

Noah is our sarcastic gay pal, he’s probably ace as well and most likely in a realationship with Owen

Leshawna is our sassy lesbian momma; somebody’s giving you a hard time? no worries, she’s gonna take care of them

Sadie and Katie are lesbian girlfriends, try to change my mind

Ezekiel is aroace, I don’t have an explanation for that, he just is

Cody is either bi or gay, I can’t really tell

Eva is a lesbian asexual

Owen is our chaotic bisexual king, it’s basically canon by now

Courtney is another chaotic bisexual 

Justin is probably aroace, he’s just in love with himself

Izzy is yet another chaotic bisexual

Alejandro is just really bisexual

Sierra is our crazy chaotic bisexual with a preference for men maybe

Jo is a hardcore lesbian

Scott is ace and bi maybe

Zoey is our chaotic pansexual queen, must protect her at all cost

Mike is probably straight, but his alters on the other hand... Vito is a bisexual mess, Svetlana is a raging lesbian, Mal is aroace, Chester is just... Chester and Manitoba Smith... honestly I don’t really know

Lightning is so gay, I mean, just look at him, he’s our idiotic gay friend, he’s probably giving Jo fashion advice

Brick is yet another gay man, don’t ask me why, he just is

B is aroace, maybe

Dawn is just very hard to tell, I don’t think she gives a frick about gender and all that crap, so maybe pansexual, but I don’t think she likes to label herself, so yeah

Dakota is straight, but I don’t really know, so yeah...

Anne Maria is straight 

Staci is probably straight but Idk

Cameron is my aroace child, we have to protect him no matter what

Sam is giving me bisexual vibes

Scarlett is a raging lesbian

Topher is another gay, probably homophobic as well

Rodney is giving me bisexual vibes, Idk why, he just does so deal with it

Jasmine is either bi or an ally

Max is aroace

Amy is probably straight, or maybe aro, Idrk

Samey is a chaotic bisexual

Shawn is giving me chaotic bisexual vibes for some reason

Leonard is just... Leonard

Ella is a raging lesbian

Dave is probably bi

Beardo is aroace

Sky is either straight or bi, no in between

Sugar is painfully straight

[flying-elliska]

Casually queer is the best way to describe it. I think I’m pretty firmly in the ace spectrum right, but I also really don’t give a crap about labels for myself. I fully understand why others want or need it. But I’ve never felt the need to have one. I’m just doing me. Ppl have made me feel weird about that in the past but I think it comes down to me being an incredibly private person and like nobody needs to know. I made this joke to a person once when they asked why I was still wearing a mask (still I middle of pandemic and numbers were astronomical mind you but anyway lol) and I said nobody needs to know what I look like. And that’s kinda how I feel about the coming out label of it all. If you ask I might tell you but I also might leave it a mystery because why not 😂

Ahaha good for you anon, that seems like a healthy attitude in this time of massive privacy intrusion and oversharing. (and good that you're still wearing a mask!). It's just great to set boundaries and push back against the idea that we owe every little single thing about us to the gaze of others to judge/consume/put in boxes.

I mean yeah labels are important - they allow us to talk about our experiences and bond with people who share them. But we have to be careful that they don't end up being another form of constricting box. (That's also why "queer" is great, because it's so vague and very "fuck you I don't owe you details so you can judge how valid I am")

As a bi woman it has been very good to claim that label after decades of thinking it wasn't a real thing. But - like for a lot of lgbt+ people, there is still a lot of tension for me around the idea of coming out. I often feel awkward about it when I get to know other people, like ? When is the right time to tell, is it their business in the first place, when does it become awkward not telling them, am I hiding anything by not being explicit about it, what is the right context to do that anyway, how close do you need to be to people to tell them, what are the chances they're going to be weird about it, is it going to change the way they see me, etc etc. Esp when you're bi people are often going to assume you're gay or straight depending on who you date. You have to be prepared to correct people all the time, which is awkward. And that's annoying!!! I don't want that mental charge !

So that post to me kind of hints at that ideal mindset where I don't have to worry about that shit - just living my little bi life, not hiding on social media, casually talking about queer culture and politics, not having to be self conscious, talking about my crushes and past relationships like it was completely normal any way, etc. And so if people make assumptions, it's on them, they actually shouldn't assume people are straight ? I want it to be awkward for them. The normal actually should be to introduce always this ambiguity like a random person could be potentially be attracted to men, women, nb people, or nobody - using gender neutral terms as much as possible, etc. Not feeling apologetic for correcting people and very much acting like the mistake is on them. Like, that's not always possible, but it's the dream, and that's how i see being casually queer.

[levithestripper]

Congratulations on 200 followers! It’s very well deserved, and I wish you many even more impressive milestones to come! 👍✨

May I please have a romantic match from AoT? I’m anime-only, and I’m only about halfway through season 4, so no big spoilers please!

I’m Jes, she/her, and I’m bi with no real gender preference. I’m about 5’1” with wavy dark brown hair in a long undercut (hair on top comes to my mid-back, and it’s shaved around the sides), gray eyes, and freckles. I have a stud in my left nostril and three piercings in each ear, but I like my jewelry pretty simple. My style is feminine but also comfy and practical - no heels, all my dresses have pockets, etc. I enjoy weird lipstick, but otherwise I’m not really into makeup.

I’m an INTP-A, and overall I feel it fits fairly well. I like to socialize (especially with people I care about, or around a hobby I like), but I’m just as happy by myself, and I don’t really get “lonely.” I think my friends would describe me as confident, reliable, determined, adventurous, and funny, but a bit cold and self-centered at times. My general attitude toward strangers is mellow, approachable, and polite, but a little distant for sure. In a relationship I value trust, independence, and fun. I don’t like it when someone is jealous, clingy, or wants to act like my boss instead of my partner. I’m...a very horny gf, lol, but I’m not at all into PDA, or cuddling tbh. I like to play a little rough, but nothing that has the potential to actually hurt someone, and nothing seriously degrading or embarrassing. My favorite dates are ones where we can learn or try something new together. I like spicy foods, and I’m a vegetarian. My main love language is acts of service; I’m good at finding little ways every day of taking care of and supporting my partner, but I don’t really do big romantic gestures.

For hobbies, I like board games (especially co-op, I get too competitive otherwise), traveling, hiking, reading, and I’m a pretty decent cook.

Thanks so much, and congratulations again!

Hi! Thank you so much, it means a lot to me!

@pleasantdinosaurkingdom

I match you up with-

✩ ��Jean Kirstein! ✩

The first time he meets you, Jean is completely enamored with you. He loves how you have a lot of self confidence but aren’t loud and annoying about it like Eren is.

Like he’s died and gone to heaven, you’re just that pretty.

He flirts terribly, like it’s really bad honey I’m sorry.

After you both get to know one another better, it becomes a lot less awkward. You slowly became that best friend relationship that’s basically dating but without the labels.

He takes you out hiking or on walks in the park a lot. He’s a big nature nerd that can tell you everything and anything about the local wildlife and plants.

Jean loves to hold your hand, but always asks first since he knows that you’re not to fond of being lovey-dovey in public. His Mama didn’t raise no jerk!

He WILL playfight with you. NO he’s not responsible for whatever may happen after 👀

Jean lowkey thinks your vegetarianism is really fucking cool. He’ll pester you about why you wanted to give up meat, what it’s like eating so many plants, that kinda dumb stuff. You think it’s a bit annoying until you show up at his apartment one day and he’s cooked you an entirely vegetarian three course meal, including appetizers and dessert.

I’m not sure if D&D is a co-op game but if you’re into it he DEFINITELY into it too.

When you show off the pockets in your dress he’ll freak out.

He WILL kiss every single one of your damn freckles if you let him. He’ll also do connect the dots and make little constellations with them.

[bisluthq]

Hey! I'm fairly new here and I have a pretty uncommon take on Kaylor. But I just wanna start off by saying I try my best to be as supportive of LGBT people as possible and if they're both bisexual, then I would be 100% okay with that! I'm not trying to "defend their heterosexuality" or anything, I think that's really weird

Okay, so my personal theory is that Kaylor did happen, but that Taylor and Karlie are both straight. I know that might sound contradictory, but I say this based on my own personal experiences based on how I am with my best friend. I think Karlie and Taylor's relationship might have been similar in some ways to ours

Right, so I'm straight and I'm not into women in the gay kind of way (but it's completely cool that some girls are), and I have this roommate who's gorgeous. Really gorgeous, she's like a 10/10 "I would sell my kidney to look like you" kind of girl. She's very attractive, she has like tan skin and long legs and gorgeous brown hair and pretty eyes and nice lips and just like… she's just very good looking. I'm definitely jealous of her body, I won't even pretend I'm not 😪 I lowkey hate her because of it (jk)

We've been living together since not long before COVID started, and we're very good friends. There were three of us before, but our other roommate went back home to stay with her parents until in person classes are back on and we agreed to it and worked something out because she has really bad anxiety so we understood her reasoning for it

Anyway so it's just been us two and because we've been at home a lot during this time instead of out for most of the day like before, we've gotten to know each other a lot better and have become a lot closer. We were already friends from before, but now we're like super close besties, we've been hanging out a lot together and playing board games, watching movies, helping each other with essays, just having long conversations about anything and everything, etc

Like it's been so nice having a best friend that I can be this close to now because I haven't had a best friend since I was a kid

So my friend and I were having like a conversation last year about how hard it's been in quarantine not being able to go on dates and how we miss kissing people, and so we decided to just like, make out for fun you know. I mean, there's not really anything that's inherently romantic or sexual about making out, that's just society that says that. But tbh I think making out with your friends if you want to should be normalized, it's fun and it can even be emotional sometimes. It's not that different from hugging people

After a couple of weeks or so, I think we got bored of just making out with each other and decided to like, fully hook up. It started off because we were modelling lingerie for each other for banter and were pretending we were each other's runway judges and then I think we just decided to hook up with each other as like part of the whole "game". I can't remember who initiated it now, I think it might have been me as a joke lol

Like just in a platonic way for fun, as a kind of substitute until we can go back into society

And tbh I always expected hooking up with a woman to be like mediocre and boring and awkward, but although it was a bit hard to get the hang of at first and there was a learning curve, it's actually very enjoyable. Like I was very surprised actually at how hot it can be, I think I can maybe see why bisexual women and lesbians like doing it

Anyway we both liked it and we just carried on hooking up on the regular and it's been like 8 months now and tbh I just think it's very sweet and heartwarming, like it actually makes me feel a little emotional how we're close enough and care about each other enough that we can even help each other out with the physical intimacy side of things so that we don't get sexually frustrated while we're stuck in lockdown

I just think it's really cool and we even sleep in the same bed most of the time now because tbh what's the point in sleeping alone when you can sleep in the same bed as someone else? It's nicer, like you can cuddle and stuff

Anyway, I think that maybe Kaylor's relationship might have been similar. I think they're both straight but they became really close friends in a short space of time, and that their friendship was so intense that it became physical but in a platonic way

I think lesbians and bisexual women are amazing and I have so much respect for you guys for accepting yourselves in a society that tries to erase you, and I think there definitely needs to be more wlw representation on TV and in movies

But at the same time, I would also like there to be more close female friendships like the one that me and my friend have where you can just talk about everything together and do things that society usually reserves for romantic partners, but in a platonic way. Because female friendship is really important and beautiful, whether that's between straight women like me and my friend who I think is probably straight too, or between queer women because one thing I've learnt during my short time on this blog is how queer women can have very close platonic friendships with other queer women too

I think society just has overly strict ideas of "straight" and "gay". Like for some people, they would hear about two women sleeping together and think "Oh that's gay", but not necessarily because straight women can enjoy sleeping with other women too, like it's normal 🤷‍♀️

I think it's just a result of women being a lot more physically beautiful than men are, like straight women really got the short end of the stick tbh compared to straight men

I also think it's because women are so oversexualized in the media, and obviously straight girls see that too and so we sort of internalize that attraction to women because we're so used to seeing women being presented in a sexual way? Except it's not real attraction with us like how it is for queer girls

Like I'm very much "attracted" to my friend, she's genuinely stunning and just very hot tbh. But I still identify as straight because it's just a case of what I mentioned above, it's a "fake" attraction. And also because men are afraid to compliment other men because it's seen as "gay", but women can be fully confident in their sexuality and still recognize other women's beauty and sex appeal. You see it all the time in instagram comments, and I really love how we're all so supportive of each other like that

Like I can be fully confident in my sexuality and yet still say that some women like my friend are gorgeous as hell and also 100 times better looking than most men I've seen. I'm very much obsessed with some women's appearances but in a platonic way

And I just love the concept of "girl crushes" and I think that from a feminism viewpoint, it's beautiful that we're focusing on other girls and showing love towards other girls too, instead of just to men who, let's be real, don't even fully appreciate it half of the time

I am going to be sad when we all have to return to life as usual and my friend and I won't be able to spend as much time together anymore. I'm dreading it tbh, I don't want it to end yet. And it really sucks that the physical side of our friendship will probably have to stop too once our other roommate comes back because I think she'd definitely misunderstand the situation and think it's something different than it actually is if she ever saw us kissing or something. I really am going to miss it a lot though, I really like how things currently are and it's just really really nice and I don't want it to change :/

Btw I'm sorry if I sounded fetishistic or offensive with any of this, I just get a bit jealous sometimes that you guys get to date girls and we're just stuck with men. Honestly if it wasn't for all of the homophobia and the struggles that you all have to face and the fact that it would feel disrespectful to the LGBT community, I would probably really wish I could change my sexuality to be bisexual or gay instead because I just think women are better. Sometimes I really do wish I was into women in that way because dating girls just sounds so much more appealing to me (in a non fetishizing weird way) but unfortunately I'm stuck with dating men 🤦‍♀️ But I also know I'm lucky and privileged to be straight even though most men are mediocre and kinda gross and I don't mean to be disrespectful because I know you all have to face homophobia and other LGBT difficulties and it really sucks, people are awful. There's nothing wrong with women dating women or men dating men at all, society is just ugly and bigoted

Anyway, does anybody else have a similar sort of take on Kaylor where they think they could have both been straight and just had a very close friendship with a physical side to it? I think it would explain a lot. But like I said, this is just a theory of mine based on my own situation, and I'm also open to the idea that it was an actual relationship and that they're both into women for real, not just fake "into women" like I am.

Also pls feel free to call me out if I accidentally said anything offensive towards LGBT people, I tried my best but if I made a mistake anywhere pls let me know and I'll avoid it next time!

You’re not offensive. Please stop apologizing. And we’re gonna come back to the Kaylor stuff another time because... Honey. You and I need to have a conversation for a bit.

So firstly, I’m not trying to like “diagnose” you and at the end of the day it’s your choice what you want to call yourself but... tbh you might not be straight. Sexuality is fluid not static and exists on a spectrum not in absolutes. It’s not like it’s straight, 50/50 bi, gay and you’re born knowing and there’s no room for anything else. That’s not true. There’s a lot of room in between all of these and labels can change over time. We’re people, not cereal brands, and sometimes we don’t even KNOW the word for what we might be. I’m tagging a tag for you from when we asked people to share their label journeys for you to see. It’s not simple or easy and it’s not just because of external stuff - it’s because figuring this out internally is HARD. If you found yourself having such an intense friendship it became physical, repeatedly, you liked it a lot, you still sleep in the same bed and continue to share all your thoughts and you don’t want any of that to end... I’m not sure you’re Kinsey 0. And I think you might lowkey have a girlfriend dude. 

You can obviously prefer men but like... hun I reaaallly don’t think you’re completely straight.

Also: it’s okay to say “I see myself winding up with a man and this is a situationship for right now!” but that doesn’t make you straight because again, sexuality is a spectrum and you can manifest a particular kind of endgame while experiencing other things along the way.

But here’s where you really got me: “most men are mediocre and kinda gross” and “women being a lot more physically beautiful than men are, like straight women really got the short end of the stick tbh compared to straight men” because that’s the kind of thing I used to say in my Bi 1.0 era before I ID’d as a lesbian for a bit and before Harry Styles (KING 🥺) made me bi for real. Hun, no. Straight women like men. Tbh BI women like men. I genuinely, unironically, find Harry and Timmy and Matt Smith to be sexy beasts and I would do dirty things to the former two but maybe not the latter irl in 2021 but yes also him if I could be on that Spain trip with him and Karen where they got sloshed and which I think of often. These men are genuinely fucking beautiful to me in the same way Taylor is and Di Silvers is (okay she’s prettier than all of them but like same ~vibe) and like Megan Thee Stallion is and Indira Varma in everything but especially GOT and Gillian Anderson and Keira Knightley. Like those women are HOT to me and SO. ARE. THE. MEN. 

Straight women find SO MANY DUDES hot. So many. Starting from objectively pretty options I just cannot personally understand like Chris Evans all the way through to bitches who are outchea simping for wrestlers and Cole Sprouse. Do I understand? No. But like... that’s straight girl culture and ours is not to judge. 

If you’re struggling to find men hot then... you might be gay.

Also, I’m not sure what you mean by “fake attraction”. Like queer women - especially femme women which I assume you very much are - experience the same kinds of feelings straight girls do. We have women we want to be like and look like and find enviable (me and Oenone Forbat) and women we find aesthetically gorgeous (me and Anya Taylor Joy) and we have extremely close female friends who we can spend hours on end spilling our guts to - as you say female friendships are truly special - and without going into personal people that you don’t know, that’s me and Cam and Sim right? I literally talk to them for hours. Like those are not gay feelings. And yes we can chat about those kinds of feelings with straight girls and call them “girl crushes” and not immediately get “caught out” because they experience this exact shit too.

But here’s the thing. They never do and I don’t want in the cases above to fuck these women. It’s not sexual.

The moment I can actually imagine fucking the women in question that’s... gay. 

Like it’s not “fake attraction” it’s literally just gay. That’s how we desire women. We want to fuck them. Not all women. Not always. But sometimes we want to get under or on top of one and just really truly fucking make each other moan with pleasure.

I have no idea if Karlie or Taylor are into women. They could both literally be straight. I have no idea.

But I have a better idea about you.

Hun, you’re fucking your roommate/best friend and don’t want to stop.

You’re not “into women”.

You’re into this woman.

And possibly into women more generally.

So I know it’s weird to have to be the one to tell you this, and if you want to keep chatting via anon or in my DMs or if you want me to try collate resources for you from around the web but...

Like.

Dude.

You’re a whole ass part of the rainbow.

Welcome to the community you thought you weren’t a part of earlier today 🌈 ❤️

It’s nice here, sure there’s homophobia, but at least we get to fuck girls and man is it good.

[felix-honikker-kinnie]

hello charlotte - lgbtq+ headcanons (and also canon lgbtq+ characters)

#all art in this post is by etherane :) (note: literally every other headcanon is valid these are just mine <3) Charlotte Wiltshire

So, this is pretty widely accepted throughout the fandom - but I have to say she just seems transfem to me. There are even some possible hints that she might be transfem, and knowing etherane, I really wouldn’t be surprised.

First possible hint is young Charlotte. Not being feminine as a kid and then being very feminine later on obviously doesn’t mean you’re trans, I just thought it was something worth noting. In hc2, I believe there is a scene where Aiden encourages Charlotte to try being feminine, and you can see that she’s much more outwardly happy and expressive presenting as more feminine. Second possible hint is Seth. It was mentioned that male puppeteers are usually not assigned to female puppeteers, which could be a possible hint that she wasn’t biologically female.

Third possible hint was Charlotte’s haircut. Of course, any person would be upset if some people at school cut their hair, but some specific lines mentioned not wanting to let anyone see her and that a stranger stared back at her in the mirror - though that could have just been anxiety. All in all, none of these three things are for certain indicators that Charlotte is transfem, it’s just nice to have a little headcanon. And to be honest, the little hints aren’t even the main reason I think she’s trans, she just - Idk it just makes sense that she’d be trans and I just vibe with it. 

I think this one is also pretty agreed on, but she just gives panromantic vibes. I also get like, demiromantic vibes? And asexual vibes. I don’t have explanations for any of these, these headcanons just vibe with me. Felix Honikker

Next up, my fave, Felix. So my biggest headcanon is that he’s asexual because - well, ew, people, gross. And he just seems omniromantic to me. Again, can’t explain, the headcanon just vibes. And he just - Idk I feel like he’s transmasc and neutrios. Someone also mentioned that he seemed genderfluid and that headcanon is extremely valid. And someone mentioned him being aroace which, is also very extremely valid. Bennett

AAH. MY BABY BOY. THAT SMILE. SO MUCH SEROTONIN. I’M CRYING. I LOVE HIM SO MUCH. AAAAAAH.  Okay, so he also gives me trans vibes (transmasc vibes). Charlotte, Felix, and Bennett just - radiate trans to me and I vibe so fucking hard with that.  Also. Bennett is a disaster bi. He. Just. Radiates. Disaster bi. He also seems just...like he experiences sexual attraction but he doesn’t really want to do. Things. I believe the word for that is akoisexual? (Or lithsexual?) Correct me if I’m wrong. Idk.  (Okay I had to stop making this post because I was trying to find the word for it and I just - I just found a post that was really invalidating to ace/spec people and I just. I’m sad now. After this I’m going to reblog all the acespec/arospec positivity posts I can get my hands on.) Florence

Florence also radiates disaster bi. That’s. That’s pretty much it for her, that’s my only headcanon about her orientation/identity. However. I do have many OTHER headcanons but they would not be relevant to this post, so.

Seth

Seth is pansexual, demisexual, and pangender in my mind because. Again. I have no reason. Just v i b e s

Aiden

Hm...he seems like the kind of person who wouldn’t really care about labels and just let people call it whatever they wanted to as far as orientation. (Sorry that some of these are so short-)

Henry Huxley

Huxley is definitely polyamorous, ace and gay. No, I will not explain my reasoning. Because I have none.

Q84

Q84 is definitely aroace. And I highly doubt she gives a fuck about gender and I doubt she’d put a label on her gender.

DelChar

I think we can all agree that DelChar is a disaster lesbian. At the very least, she canonically wlw, so that’s always nice to see. I also think she’s transfem because this is an alternate version of Scarlotte Charlotte I believe, so I just feel like she’d be trans as well.

V19

She’s also a disaster lesbian. 

Scarlett Eyler

Scarlett, like flo and ben radiates bi. I’m thinking she’s either aromantic bisexual or biromantic asexual but I’m leaning more towards aro/bi.

Anri Warhol

Anri is canonically bi. I appreciate that, a lot. 

Vincent Wordsworth

He seems like either he’s gay or he’s queer as far as orientation, and either way, definitely asexual. And he’s nonbinary as well.

Charles Eyler

What’s that? A canon genderfluid character? AND a canon asexual character? Yep, Charles is canon genderfluid and ace and I just freak out every time I think about it because there’s so little rep for those two things that whenever I see it, I just get really happy. As far as romantic orientation I feel like polyromantic.

Vincent Fennell

I’d probably put him about the same as his counterpart in hc3. I just included him specifically because. He’s so fucking pretty. And I wanted to show a picture of him.

C

I know C is technically Charles in a Vincent vessel, but shhh, I see him as his own kind of character. Like Charles, he’s genderfluid and asexual - and I could see him as being demiromantic and panromantic.

Umbrella Man

I just. I just feel like he’s homosexual/aromantic. I just. Do. And I can’t imagine he’s cis, but I don’t think he really has a label for his gender, idk.

Frei

Frei is canon agender! Or at the very least, he described himself as genderless. I feel like he would be asexual and omniromantic, kinda like my headcanon for Felix.

Freya

I know that Freya and Frei are both the Oracle, but each form the Oracle takes just seems like a seperate form to me. I can’t put Freya, Frei, and that other Oracle that was in Scarlett’s head into the same category. Freya is also probably agender but takes a feminine form and identifies with being female while also being genderless. I feel like she’d identify as a lesbian? And also be like, ace? Sorry if this doesn’t make any sense jafioejrpaewrojofjo.

Scarlett’s Oracle 

They’re definitely agender and aroace.

Right, I almost forgot OSIRIS

Osiris seems aroace.

Okay, that’s uh. that’s pretty much it oof. Sorry if this post doesn’t make a lot of sense I just wanted to ramble. And all other headcanons are valid <3