#i wish there were other options

[mythicalcoolkid]

You don't wish your disability was worse or more visible, you wish your disability was taken seriously. Please stop confusing the two, I guarantee you would not get the support you need JUST by being more severe or more visible. Please listen to visibly disabled people when we tell you it isn't better on our side

[shannonsketches]

[virgothozul]

Ok. I have listened to the people. I have watched the thing. It is very wholesome.

Kazu comes home. He is hopeless and tipsy. And he swings between excited and wasted.

[kindaasrikal]

Did Lloyd take on a cleaning windows job after Nya died because he always wanted to watch his reflection to see how far he’s fallen and how much he wishes the green was that of the gi he now loathes to wear, whilst also accommodating his natural ninja paranoia of always being aware of his surroundings using the window to watch the reflection behind him, and also to continue contributing to the city in some way beneficially because its the one thing that gives him purpose and also makes him feel useful,

Or because he really likes watching the satisfying way the soap is cleaned off with those window wiper stick things.

[decepti-geek]

tbh an important part of my take on the 'don't be like Sentinel' question is that hours earlier D16 had very decidedly assumed leadership of the High Guard, after which any attempt at resolving his very understandable personal trauma via murder was also, on a wider affects-everyone/your-new-power-means-something scale, inherently going to count as a military coup.

yknow. the thing Sentinel did to assume power/hand it over to the quintessons in the first place

[shalom-iamcominghome]

I'm sure I've posted this advice before, and the semester has already started, but if you're worried about antisemetism on (university and college) campuses, please look into community college. I thought for the longest time that I would immediately transfer to a uni after graduation, but fortunately, things went completely sidewise and I had to apply to community college. It's a very underrated option, I think, especially if you're worried about potentially facing negative experiences for being jewish or associated with jews in general.

This is especially important to me because I grew up in a culture which venerated the Top Universities and almost saw community college as a charity option, one in which you only went to if you barely had a GED or if you're poor. At first, I felt ashamed of going to community college first. Once I actually grew up a bit and got classes under my belt, I really started enjoying my campus. It's been silent in terms of how people treat me when I am visibly jewish to them, plus the admin were almost too accommodating to my needs as a trans person. The only bad thing is that there is no jewish life club or hillel or anything akin to it - I might just be the only student who would be interested in that at all.

You need to be more discerning than Minerva University in terms of colleges you accept. Being accepted into college is a two-way road, and you as a student have more to lose than a college does. Framing it as a privilege for the student isn't helpful, especially if you're a jewish student. Community colleges are not immune to antisemitism, and I want that to be clear. I just think they tend to be way quieter and can be less antisemetic. From my own experiences, I am actually glad my initial plan did not work out at all.

[wonder-worker]

"[Elizabeth Woodville's] piety as queen seems to have been broadly conventional for a fifteenth-century royal, encompassing pilgrimages, membership of various fraternities, a particular devotion to her name saint, notable generosity to the Carthusians, and the foundation of a chantry at Westminster after her son was born there. ['On other occasions she supported planned religious foundations in London, […] made generous gifts to Eton College, and petitioned the pope to extend the circumstances in which indulgences could be acquired by observing the feast of the Visitation']. One possible indicator of a more personal, and more sophisticated, thread in her piety is a book of Hours of the Guardian Angel which Sutton and Visser-Fuchs have argued was commissioned for her, very possibly at her request."

-J.L. Laynesmith, "Elizabeth Woodville: The Knight's Widow", Later Plantagenet and Wars of the Roses Consorts: Power, Influence, Dynasty

[s0fter-sin]

wooimbouttamakeanameformyselfere

[jamandjazz]

Okay okay so for a brief period of time I lived in a two-bedroom apartment with one bathroom and eleven people in the house. Which means I know the pain of having to use the bathroom, knocking, waiting, desperately trying not to piss yourself (I was 8 and had a hard time knowing when I had to go so it was nothing or and I HAVE TO GO GO) then SOMEONE ELSE going in the second the leave. Which is definitely something that has happened to each member of the gang at LEAST once.

Dally almost killed the person that stole his damn turn.

[shewhoeatssand]

I want to befriend Kaneki and meet with him and email him forever

[icewindandboringhorror]

"We can get through this by working together, reach out to your friends, community is all we have, a social network will be your security in the world, now is the time to lean on others!"

I do agree, and it's scientifically sound (pretty sure there is data about how people with better social networks live longer and etc) but also....augh..... what about the severe social issues, difficulty to leave the house, physical issues which lead to like zero socialization energy a majority of the time, etc. etc. Social support can be a replacement for structural support, but.. I guess I just wish it didn't have to be. Community is extremely difficult to build, even moreso if you're someone who has issues with social cues or group conversations or even just being around others in the first place. And blah, nuance, of course I'm just complaining or maybe being too negative or maybe misunderstanding, but, I hardly have the energy to brush my hair once every 2 months.. how am I supposed to maintain a wide social network and be active in a Community and Join Groups lol... sometimes it kind of feels like "er.. well if thats my only option then...... ruh roh". It's overwhelming

[lichtecht]

@rosetintedgreyspaces tagged me in this picrew chain

[picrew]

(warning for blood and weapons, it’s generally a horror-themed picrew. mine just doesn’t reflect that a lot)

tagging

@cnka @is-this-taken-too-questionmark @chrisoels @capitaen @glandin @michameinmicha @pumpkinpadmes

no pressure to do it, and you can hop on if you want to :)

[eggsistential-basket]

thinking about the person i could have been if i tried a little harder to find my own way

[nevarran-hahren]

one thing that I really feel is missing in veilguard's character creation — two-tone and/or graying hair. I kind of imagined both my Rook and my Inquisitor having some gray, or I would've loved to give Rook like, half-and-half hair to go along with their spooky Mourn Watcher aesthetic (BG3 did a good job of really letting you customize hair color with highlights / graying)

plus this is not exactly cc related but I feel like just a little bit of gray would help alleviate *some* of the design issues *ahem* regarding several of the returning characters. some.

let! women! go! gray!

[briannysey]

can i ruin your monklike inner piece and request the 5e rant you had in those tags. i have my own qualms with it and i know many are tired of seeing it dunked on but i'm curious what you, specifically, focus on with it.

Okay so, there’s one minor complaint that I was gonna make about the way someone else approaches D&D. But you’ve asked and I am honorbound to answer.

My problem with 5e ultimately amounts to two big things:

I feel like there’s a huge disconnect between the mechanical heavy elements and the narrative elements of D&D’s system, and the way the mechanics are structure actually make bridging that gap more difficult.

The combat and gameplay options in general are boring.

To explain the disconnect, I think this largely comes down to the design direction. A lot of people talk about TTRPGs exist on a spectrum from crunch to fluff (or mechanics to narrative, or w/e), and that’s somewhat true and useful. But I think TTRPGs could have both heavy crunch and heavy narrative, but these systems need to exist in harmony if they’re both going to exist in the same game. I think this is actually something that some TTRPGs have done exceptionally well in recent years. There’s Blades in the Dark (and some of its descendant systems) ofc, but an exemplary one is Spire, and another one I rarely see mentioned but is similarly exemplary is Kult: Divinity Lost. These games largely tend more towards narrative than crunch but they’re games where mechanical choies (like ones made during level up) have huge impacts on the narrative in ways that feel appropriate and are also really fun. Leveling up in Spire as the firebrand revolutionary class can turn a character into a living embodiment of revolution! That’s so sick, and helps mechanical elements inform narrative choices, and narrative elements inform mechanical choices!

In D&D these choices feel very disconnected. Certainly your character might go up an attribute, or gain a fancy new combat power, but relatively rarely does it feel like a level up in D&D meaningfully impacts the narrative, or inform character choices. You see some actual play actors do this, or in some really experienced home games, but if it takes an expert at the game or TTRPG veteran to do it, then it’s probably not a well made system.

I think that the nature of these two problems exacerbates the other. Like if the gameplay and character options (mostly mechanical) are boring, then the ways that they support the narrative are boring.

Combat in most D&D editions, but especially 5e, can be an absurdly long experience. One minute of game time might take an hour of play in real life. Moving through turns can be exceptionally boring, especially if a mechanic like stuns, or poor mechanical choices limit a player’s already small agency on the battlefield. As a DM I often find myself reinventing half the game if I want to provide mechanical choices that I or my players feel are interesting or fun, and I largely don’t have that problem in many other systems.

My fixes for these situations are relatively simple, but have huge knock-on effects to the game. I like to give every level up or character feature a narrative power based on a mechanical one. Some existing D&D feats actually fit really well into this, like Observant! This one gives an Attribute point (Wisdom), a specific narrative skill (reading lips), and more clear mechanical benefit (+5 to passive Perception and Investigation scores). This one character option shows not only a growth in a character’s direct mechanical traits, it makes a character’s level up and option represent a real development on both narrative and power levels.

My other fix besides adding more of these would be to add more modular and interesting powers and options. 4e actually had some very fascinating choices where characters could build suites of powers that synergized (like turning the damage tag of all a wizard’s spells to one element that the character has other power ups for- like a wizard who makes most of their spells deal fire damage). Options like these for 5e, especially options earlier with more impactful level ups would go a long way towards making combat more fun, which would make that half the game far less of a slog.

[knifekris]

every day i struggle to make choices