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[actual-changeling]

Hi Alex, I saw your reply regarding sapiosexuality and ableism. I'm very curious. Could you please elaborate? If you are too busy, could you please link some sources so I can learn more? Thank you!

I mean, I don't really know what to tell you.

"Intelligence" as such isn't some sort of measurable characteristic a person has, it's an entirely subjective concept influenced by social and cultural values. IQ tests don't tell you anything except how well someone can do this specific kind of test. Anything related to academia falls under the same category, it tells you how well people can write standardized tests or study in a frankly horrible environment, but again, nothing else.

So attraction to - what? "Intelligence" by that person's own definition? Or to traits like pattern recognition? I'd argue that most people are attracted to others that have a similar mind, interests, favourite topics, etc. but that has zero to do with attraction to some sort of intelligence.

Historically, arguments about intelligence have been used to justify institutional violence and abuse against disabled people, especially intellectually disabled people, so turning it into some sort trait that makes someone more attractive only plays into that same rhetoric and contributes it to.

It's a lot easier and less loaded to say you're attracted to people you can have like-minded conversations with - which. again. most tend to be. Whatever you wanna call it, it's a common, usual preference people have not just when it comes to dating but also making friends etc.

Bottom line is, I recommend you think about what exactly a label like "sapiosexual" is supposed to accomplish or convey, because in my opinion it doesn't tell you shit and isn't a label that in any way falls under the queer umbrella.

[maximilliansblog]

every day i see someone complaining about some other person online and im SCREAMING in my head

JUST BLOCK THEM 😭😭

[yourgamemasterthewhiterabbit]

Both my parents actually suffer from HORRID emotional dysregulation and are prone to snapping and going into rages. My sister is the same way tbh. I am now realizing this is why they are constantly baffled by the question of whether or not I am mad at them.

I don't have external meltdowns.

I could. I don't let it happen.

I keep my rage on the inside and stay pretty quiet about it. It's just as strong as theirs [physically shaking nose bleed from high blood pressure kind of bad], but like as a kid I saw how terrifying it was to be around [dad breaking dishes, mom putting our lawn chairs into walls] and I just internalized that I wasn't going to wear that anger on the outside.

So my mother genuinely cannot tell if I am just being quiet or if I am silently hearing the dial-up noises of pure rage. This has lead her to both making strong and confident statements like "You are a pacifist who would never hurt a fly U.U" but also acting like I am secretly dangerous maybe... It's because she has never seen me snap.

She knows what her temper is like [throwing chairs through walls], she knows what my father's temper is like [pick up child and toss out door], and she can tell I am being tested, but she doesn't know what happens when I snap or where that breaking point is.

Her -perhaps unhinged- solution to this, my whole life, has been to do things that should obviously enrage me or shut me down completely, like ignoring important boundaries, repeatedly, punishing me for expressing emotions or needs at all, etc... And then to constantly ask me if I am angry with her when I get too quiet [right after near directly telling me to shut up].

It has occurred to me now, they have never once seen me lose my temper, so they literally just can't tell if I am angry at them. My sister is easy, my mother fights and screams with my sister constantly, my mother understands this. My mother doesn't have any grasp of feelings or boundaries that are not screamed at her [apparently, and I fear my sister is the same way]. Her and my sister are close despite constant fucking fighting because they understand each other.

They are trying to get me to engage the same way and it is not working. I realize now that this has been hard for them.

I was so successfully taught to suppress my emotions, by being punished for any outburst, that rage quiet looks the same as any other kind of quiet from the outside. To them anyway.

I did tell her. For the record. I used my words. I did tell her very calmly that my response to rage, in order to avoid doing the things that terrified me as a child, was to simply leave [the autistic urge to GTFO]. When a situation or person causes too much of the dial-up rage noise, I simply extract myself from that situation, up to and including never speaking to a person again. I explained this calmly. I explained it calmly 100 times and I explained that I explain myself calmly as my rage response 1-5 [also pretty much every other negative emotion tbh], and I told her that what came next was me simply opting out and fucking off. I told her this. I couldn't understand why she never took me seriously, or why she never fucking understood.

I couldn't understand what made her like this.

But it's the same problem I have with everyone else multiplied by a factor of 10.

If I am explaining myself calmly, they can't understand that it's actually serious or that I am actually upset. ESPECIALLY because they read me as "female" and women "aren't that rational" so if I am not screaming and crying about something, which I never do, people assume I can't be upset and it isn't serious.

And then after having my boundaries ignored too many times despite having calmly explained how and why it's a problem [shaking inside or not]... I leave. I leave and everyone gets upset like this is unexpected behaviour, even though I told them 50 times that is how I would respond if they kept doing *the thing.*

And for neurotypical people especially, they are expecting there to be a disconnect between what someone says they need or feel and what their actually boundaries and feelings are, and they expect the latter to be demonstrated with emotions. Telling them bluntly you do not function that way somehow never helps?

My mother isn't just looking for normal yelling or a few tears to know I am serious, whether or not I do those either [I don't], she's looking for an explosion to know there's a problem at all.

Fucked if I know how she proceeds through life this way in general or if this is just her expectation of her own kids???

And I couldn't get why my mother couldn't read my emotions and didn't seem to think I have any. It's because she's testing for the rage limit to see where my 'actual' limit is instead of taking my word for it. Never the fuck mind that she could simply *not* test at my boundaries instead of letting me have them. Separate issue.

I couldn't figure out what made her *like this*

She's expecting me to throw a giant meltdown violent tantrum at people when I have 'actually' had enough. Maybe she got away with those being like 5'4" in another time, but I am the size of the average man, I do not get to have giant screaming rages, whether or not people perceive me consciously as a woman, and least of all because a lot of people -at least unconsciously- read me as 'masculine' or at least always "they guy" of the situation compared to all other women and some men [bigger stronger and more rational, more able to just absorb the damage and let it go so the less rational screaming/crying one doesn't have to be dealt with]. Even if it was in me to be willing to terrify people [usually never], there are such limited instances where it wouldn't just blow back on me. Potentially very dangerously.

I am going to be the quiet calm one. You are going to have to let me use my words, bitch.

So she kept ignoring my boundaries until I had to cut her out of my life, and she probably doesn't understand and probably thinks it feels sudden -after 36 long years of bullshit- abrupt and unfair.

But I told her hundreds of times.

I probably should have just screamed at her.

[oh-meow-swirls]

was looking through old posts and i'm surprised to see that i seemingly didn't have any commentary on anything in 3 in chapter 7, 8 or 9, the posts related to 3's story go from "my first reaction when i saw yopple-bot was 'i love you. but also you are definitely the boss for this chapter-'" to "i have been in hell all day. hell being bada-bing tower." funny to me cuz those chapters are like, the best ones sdfkljsdfjfsdkjlfsdjkl-

[gremnda]

dont do this. Never do this. this was commented under my meme art of ”why do we have hands?” for pearl but Boy why are you tagging her. i feel like the person is trying to be funny but it comes of as weird and parasocial.

also isnt it common sense to not tag ccs in posts like ????? pearl does check the fanart tag, she probably saw it already, why are you trying to stir up conversation with her that probably will never come in my comments. what the fuck man

[daftysaph]

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[singsweetmelodies]

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[aroacedavestrider]

jump off a cliff

hi Roxy Trans Woman Anon. unfortunately i live in ohio and as such its flat as fuck here so if you really truly want me to do that then you gotta buy me a plane ticket to somewhere with mountains. if you dont have the cash then get to finding it girlboss !! that coin wont bag itself !!! xoxo

[playawner]

Here's a reminder because I've seen discourse regarding queer identities a lot lately, both here and in other apps.

I don't fuck with 3xcluz1onists (e, s, i) nor tr4nzm4dicalists (a, s, e). If you are that please block me. I do not tolerate them as I see it as a way to harass and infight other queer invididuals without getting called out; I've seen a LOT of them harassing, sending d3ath threaths, even DOXXING, which is something I do not accept no matter what.

Yeah, I may not get some labels, but I don't do that! You shouldn't too , you shouldn't go in your way and call people invalid or telling them to d1e what the fuck?

Focus your anger and confusion at the right places, at the amount of conservatives threatening the lives of many trans kids, at how some countries are now calling lgbtq+ rights a "terrorist group". Someone being demi or a masc/fem nonbinary isn't worse than that. If you think it is then there's something up with you

[taegularities]

that's what most unemployed, scared, possibly underage weirdos do, babe. hide behind an icon and roam the internet like bored trolls bc that's what you gotta be to rant on a cheap ass leaf juice blog. always been like that! but thank you, love. for as long as i can endure, i will, and i'm so thankful that you're here and so supportive.

also "most likely super miserable [...] since no one else wants to listen to their BS" HAD ME LMAOOOO 🥹 they're talking to themselves fr!! once again, thank you and i love you so much. please continue being kind bc that keeps the world turning 🤍

[obstinaterixatrix]

air was telling me about that ultimatum reality dating show thing & that’s crazy. I know it’s probably mostly the aromanticism but I can’t imagine clinging to someone when you’re at the point of making an ultimatum. I’d just leave.

[toytulini]

maybe one of these days ill go thru my linked pages and shit on here and like update them or whatever

[mars-ipan]

kinda bored. when will someone send me stupid anon hate so i can laugh

[syogren-heartofcrystal]

List 5 things that make you happy, then put this in the askbox for the last 10 people who reblogged something from you. learn to know your mutuals and followers.(ू•‧̫•ू⑅)♡

OKAY SO!

3D momentum platformers with a good trick system

Chocolate

Cats

Good news

My friends being happy =)

[despite-everything]

just blocked 28 transphobic blogs. feels like i just took out a fucking cockroach infestation

[fairfell]

May Whomstever-the-FUCK decided to make it so Internet Routers need a MyFuckin' App to set up the password and security settings step on randomly generated Lego pieces of various shapes and sizes and pain intensities for the rest of their fricken life.